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blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 171 (view)

How people age differently Posted: 11/27/2009 7:02:24 PM
I buy meat, fruits and vegetables all completely unprocessed foods. Salt I only used sea salt which most the time I don't use it. One year ago my joints started hurting. Even through I had eaten pretty healthy it had gotten to the point I couldn't walk and thought I had crippling arthritis. It turned out to be a glutton allergy. I also can't eat any processed foods.....I now drink tons of water, no milk either rice milk or soy milk. Actually rice milk is better for you body. Exercise is wonderful for making you strong and looking great. Stretching is great. As we age we begin to stiffen up and stretching helps us remain more limber. I have started doing yoga which helps with numberous things....mentally, physically and spiritually it is a daily process this keeps me fit. I no longer try to remain younger than I am...just being the best I can for the age I am.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 165 (view)

How people age differently Posted: 11/27/2009 5:37:12 PM
Actually tomorrow night is my high school reunion..... But back to the aging thing. I have seen myself and family age before my eyes. But taking care of yourself is taking care of yourself. Somethings have to do with genetic and some has to do with the food we put in our mouth to nurture our bodies.....everything has hormones and preservatives. The facts about meat is scary unless you ask every meat cutter where they get their meat you don't know what's in it. Eating fresh fruit, vegetables and proteins that are preservative free is a basic start.....you will start feeling better in just days....and yes this stuff ages you. Exercising even causal walking and taking a few extra steps a day makes you not only look better but feel more relaxed, more aware of your body and you carry yourself stronger. Mental health is also important. A balanced happy life is the key to feeling and looking younger. Most people now days eat fast food and it takes a toll not only on your health but your looks....baby steps can sure make you feel and look better.........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 103 (view)

Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/27/2009 1:31:47 PM
I love in my life. I lost my only child in the not so distant past and I realize now that I am affection starved. Maybe because he was such a hugger or maybe because of grief or whatever, but this person and I have both changed so much. I understand this. I understand grief. I lost not a child but a Husband. At first I was so wound up in my grief I couldn't stand the thought of someone touching me. I was afraid of losing all control of myself. The pain was so incredible that I couldn't share that with anyone for fear of losing some control that I thought I had. But I have learned that touch for me is so important. That hugging and just touching to feel someone that is close to you. Male or female. I am a pretty tough person. I had hidden my feelings for so long. Today I let others know how I feel. I think I feel affection starved and need constant touch with family these days. My family laughs because I have become a toucher. I tell them how much I love them. I make sure and touch them a lot. I also do this to friends. Male and female and have never had them interrupt it sexually. Because it isn't. With someone I am dating once I get over the first awkward few dates I touch their sleeve, hands and hold hands....if they don't touch back I back off. I lean in whenever I am talking to them to talk to them and make one to one eye contact. If they are lacking in those area's I let it go . I am a very shy person but because I have lost so much to gain something wonderful I am pretty danged aggressive about this. I want someone able to be open and loving and affectionate. And if I want it I have to become willing to be this way to have everything I want. I will never live with someone that is afraid to show their affectionate side.......And yes sex is a wonder side effect.......

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 193 (view)

What's the upside to being over 50 and single Posted: 11/27/2009 1:50:20 AM
This morning is Black Friday.......and I am spending a whole bunch of money without discussing it with anyone....yeah me.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 158 (view)

How people age differently Posted: 11/27/2009 1:45:19 AM
I am going to a high school reunion tonight. We are going to pat each other on the back and tell each other how we haven't aged one little bit since the 70's. They are going to be looking at me saying old fart she hasn't done well.....I might just be thinking the same thing. But in all reality each one of us is aging at this very second. I think at this age we worry to much about it. We are quick to point out those who don't age well. We are quick to be a youth appointed society. Now saying this yes I take care of myself and exercise and eat right. But aging has gotten to the point that were ashamed of our age. Not me I am happy about my age. It was hard work getting here and the wrinkles I have I have earned. I will continue to take care of myself and eating right and trying not to smoke.....because I want to last longer to see Grandchildren to meet someone I love and to live my life. At this high school thing tonight instead of focusing on how much my counter parts have aged.....I am going to enjoy it.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 472 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/26/2009 7:17:17 PM
The sad thing is I fit the older part.....sexy? How sexy is a pair of old blue jeans and a blue jean shirt? That is what I am comfortable in along with a beat up pair of old boots.......I live in them. So I fit the old to a T....the sexy I may have to work on.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 100 (view)

Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/26/2009 7:14:59 PM
Haven't seen anyone I would want to give/get affection with in a while, but that smile....................yum! Yeah for you.....what a very nice surprise.....I would have liked to seen the look on your face.......

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 543 (view)

Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/26/2009 6:59:53 PM
There are those who just feel entitled. Shame on them. But we learn quickly that those types of people are worth dinner just to get rid of them. The most exotic vacation I have been on in years....was Silver Dollar City. I am putting money into repairs of my house....helping my Daughter with college classes and dental bills. But I never ever take advantage of anyone. Even through some have a distaste for independent people I am one of them. I don't use anyone to help fix my house. I have had offers. But that isn't fair because we aren't a couple or really even friends. I take care of myself. I also put money back each week for entertainment. Which means if I like someone and they take me out to dinner I always call and take them out. I won't let a man pay for my dinner if we aren't clicking. It isn't fair and I am not using someone that way. Today's economy has changed. I don't expect to be wined and dined. I like the cheap movies....I would much rather be outdoors then stuck in some ole stuffy place where I am just not getting why people are there in the first place. I like tons of things that don't cost much including the most important conversation. I was raised by a Mother that was mortified if we let men pay for everything. She raised us to value others and value isn't money.....But there are two extremes. Those who expect something and those who just really want a great dinner and great conversation.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 476 (view)

What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/26/2009 6:26:11 AM
I have learned it is none of my business what other's think. I am only in control of what I think and that is important. I can not change what others think. Which is feelings. Feelings aren't fact. But I do note their behavior and attitudes. Even through I am****ring over these words me? I look to see how she feels about my feelings...I want to make her happy, secure....and i would expect the same. Because someone in your life should mesh. If we spend all our time trying to please or have someone please us it gets a mess. We keep trying to find ways to please them. Our self esteem becomes contingent of what others think and feel. A partner shouldn't be the forethought of ourselves....they shouldn't be a extension they should be someone that fits. If I keep the focus on myself my behaviors and my attitude in a relationship it should be easy work. We should accent each other not lose one's personality during the process. Our differences should be celebrated. I have met people that become a mimic in relationships and their thoughts and feelings are parallel with their partner. I want someone who is unique and not afraid to hide it. To be theirselves and to be honest with me. To be able to respect that my opinions and idea' even through different than theirs is still respected and they don't feel judged. I don' t always have to be right I would rather be happy.....

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 474 (view)

What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/26/2009 5:53:14 AM
Kind of funny that both men and women think everyone looks for younger, richer and better looking. Whenever in reality most of us are just looking for Mr. or Miss nice, decent looking and hard working people.......That is what we get thinking for other's.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 532 (view)

Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/26/2009 4:27:23 AM
Being wise in today's economy is different than being a cheapskate I have never wooed anyone because I have a lot of money.....I don't. But being so cheap that you stiffed the waitress because she didn't hand you a bill is another thing. Or taking back stuff you have owned for three years is in my book cheap. I always receipted whenever I am dating. A lot of people have children in college or home. I never expect pretty little presents it makes me feel uncomfrontable. Something from the heart is much better.....in other wards I perfer home made and that includes from my family. I shop on sale....but saying that I have nice clothes and don't spend much. I like a great bargain.....including my two leather jackets that if I had not bought them on sale would have costs over $450.00 a piece.....I got them for $50.00 a piece.....I waited until the very last minute after they had clearance them. The one thing that I have found with people that flaunt their wealth is that they are having to make up for something that is lacking in their lives. And someone that is so cheap is also saying something about theirselves. Especially if they are taking it to the extremes. I thought that is what we were talking about? Someone that is extreme with their money to the point of it driving you away? I feel if someone is so cheap that its extreme that it is going to be that way with their feelings. I don't expect to be wined and dined and expensive little gifts but I don't expect them to save the foil either. I am on a tight budget being self employed but I pay my bills and make sure to take my turn whenever I date someone. I think that dating someone special is a dual responsibility. If I like someone then I am going to be a partner in that relationship not someone that can't hold up their end of it. I am pretty plain and simple. The things that truly impress me come from the heart....words, actions, character and heart........ For myself whenever I talk about someone being a cheapskate it is being extreme. Not someone that is on a budget and struggling like I am.............

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 118 (view)

Young At Heart ??? Posted: 11/25/2009 1:05:10 PM
As soon as I read I look younger than I am.....I am gone gone. I am my age. I feel right whenever I am with people my age. I am not battling my age. In fact dang happy to be my age. The wrinkles are hard earned. I have worked hard and played a lot and to be this age at this very moment makes me happy. I don't have to pretend to be younger, cuter, sexier than my younger counter parts....I rejoice whenever I truly see people my age that look younger and think hooray for them. As for myself I am not delusional. Whenever I study the mirror or have my daughter come over it reminds me of the fact that I am blessed to be her Mother. My long term friends remind me that I am blessed to have such great friends. It also reminds me that my Husband died way before his time. And that time has helped heal me. So being a bit older has its perks it also has its reminders of hard times. And I hopefully will age with dignity and grace.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

Listening to our children at our age Posted: 11/24/2009 4:06:38 PM
My Daughter has only gotten to met one. She didn't like him and told me he was ugly. At 23 yrs. old with all her wisdom...I stopped introducing them to her. I am a grown up that can figure it out a lot quicker than she can. But whenever the time comes to introduce her I will. But it will be a serious relationship whenever I do. Even my in laws have tried to talk to me about dating and who I should pick. I have never talked to them about it and I am not starting right now. They are going to visit and asked me to bring a date and they will take us to dinner..that is even weirder than my kid.........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 63 (view)

ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 5:26:12 AM
I know a few men that have had problems with this but they had medical problems. Again if they are just now experiencing these problems they need to have a medical check up. I had a close friend that had problems and had a massive heart attack a couple of weeks ago. It makes me cringe whenever this issue is brought up. It usually turns into gender bashing. Instead of this being a discussion about this very personal and private problem that men experience it becomes gender bashing. Not only does this affect self esteem it also means these gentlemen have health issues. Women also have problem with sex and again it becomes gender bashing us against them issue. These issues are on such a personal level that we aren't going to hear from men or women about how they feel and what they have done to help theirselves. Because showing our true selves in these forums can bring on a attack. Which has nothing to do with character it has to do with gender.........Ouch

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 83 (view)

Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/24/2009 3:39:54 AM
And it's the emotional connection that makes the sex even better[/qote] I agree with this. Emotional. And for myself that also transcends into affection. It is the foreplay of all great relationships. The beginning. The smile, making eye contact, turning your body towards the other person to let them know their interested. Listening. Nodding their head in agreement. Touching your arm. That is the beginning. I am affectionate with my friends. But getting to know someone you show affection in different ways whenever you are getting to know them. And this also lets them know you interested.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 332 (view)

Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/23/2009 4:18:00 AM
! I will have to suck it up and try to walk like it doesn't itch like crazy down there for however long until it grows back I guess. Wax.......and keep it up with Nair....and use moisturizer and that helps stop the itching. Good luck.....sorry but you tickled me Smiles

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/23/2009 3:30:38 AM
I am not a touchy-feely person . But after this I have decided to be more out going and try a bit harder with people. I can see whenever I focus on my own behavior that I haven't reached out and make contact with people and have been stand offish. Even through with my close knit friends I can be more open I am going to extend this to others. Maybe not hug them but be more open to them. I do smile and listen but I think touching them on the arm or even nodding my head in understanding and to become more patient. I am wanting a affectionate relationship with others. This doesn't mean I am going to extend myself to every strange man I meet. But I need someone that is affectionate and isn't afraid to show it. My friend has some problems. Yes he does care for me as Much as He is Able. I know the difference. But he can't for some reason show affection or receive it. This has nothing to do with me. I really don't want this forum to be about him and I. But about affection. I have learned a lot from many people. And it has given me great insight to myself. I believe water seeks its own level. And right now at this moment we are both on the same level. So I am focusing on myself and how I extend myself to others. Not how he extends his self. Like I said he is a great person with great qualities. This is about me.......and understanding and putting the focus on myself is teaching me something.......Thanks I am enjoying this.......

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 37 (view)

Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/22/2009 4:36:11 PM
Affection is different at different times. A friend of mine is a nurse. She gives older people massages and rubs their feet. She hugs them they crave human affection and those that receive it heal faster. I have a friend that is going through breast cancer I hug her everytime I see her. She means a lot to me and I want her to know it. My little dog that I loved so much would lay beside me and beg for me to rub him. He would jump into my arms for a rub. Even through I am talking about male and female affection I can find it by smiling at others on a daily basis. Affection can take many different forms. Intimacy is something special reserved for those I care about . I don't crave that affection from everyone. But on a daily basis I give and receive affection. I still want the other. I still believe in things stronger than me that I have no control over. But it has to be with someone that will give and receive back....I see it as fear.....fear driven to keep everyone out.....and that is lonely. I understand others are reserved but last night taught me fear keeps those away from me...I plan on being more affectionate and not hesitate to show those I love.......maybe not in a sexual way.....

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/22/2009 2:58:37 PM
[What is life devoid of all that? What is sex without affection? Said with poetry.....Honestly I wanted to cry whenever my friend said what he said not for me but for him. Think about what what is being missed out on? But I know better than try to show someone just how beautiful affection which is the basis for love can be........its a shame for people to miss out on that basic human need.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 20 (view)

Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/22/2009 2:43:06 PM
I had been on the fence about our relationship. It was not a full blown relationship. . He is a very very nice person with a lot of great things going on for him. But something wasn't right. I admire his good qualities and I am not here to bash him. He is not on this dating sight. This isn't really about him and I. What it is about is I have talked to several males and females that desire no affection or intimacy unless it is sexual and sometimes they don't desire that either. I know whenever they were younger they weren't that way. I was raised by a family that wasn't affectionate. I'd say I missed it, but honestly I'd have had to know it as a child and lose it to miss it. Instead I am just someone who has a lower threshold. I enjoy affection in the moment when with someone, but I don't crave it or miss it or seek it out when it isn't. This is a answer. But these people desire nothing not even a little. This I can understand and digest. But none? Ouch

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 10 (view)

Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/22/2009 1:56:43 PM
I have had several women that tell me they also no longer desire affection. I don't want to become one of them that can take it or leave it. With the right partner I need that human touch....and desire goes along with it. My friend is a wonderful man. Honest to a T. I had been on the fence about this relationship and wasn't totally sure about it until last night. I have tons of desires for the right person....I can be pretty silly with someone that I am crazy about. But I wonder about those that have dealt with these kinds of issues. The kids today hug whenever they see each other. They are open and loving and accepting of one another. I love seeing that. More affectionate than my friends whenever I was growing up. I am taking a clue from our younger generation and following in their foot steps..........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Sex is sex and we no longer need to give or receive affection? What has happened to our age group? Posted: 11/22/2009 1:20:56 PM
This is not a gender related question. I have met men and women that no longer desire affection nor do they give affection. Sex is a different story but the affection that we showed whenever we were younger is gone. What happened to it? I had been seeing someone for awhile. We were on the subject affection. He told me he doesn't desire affection. He doesn't mind giving me some affection but that closeness to another human being mystifies him. And he doesn't desire to touch, caress or hold another of the opposite sex very often. And he doesn't need that holding, caressing, or touching. I have heard this from others my age. Women and men. Remember this isn't a gender issue. For my friend I was at odds over him a couple of weeks ago. I desire to hold, touch and to feel another human being and sex is part of that. To me this act of sex without it is just sex. No passion, no caring, giving nothing of myself to another human being. I want someone to feel as much passion about me as I do about them. I want them to be the only one that I can see amongst the crowd....I want to be able to lock on to their eyes and know they are just for me a look can also be full of passion. He says he cares. But I didn't say a word because I already knew the answer to his question but needed the right words to tell him how I felt. I can't have a relationship lacking affection. That burning desire. So human being and friends. How does affection work or tell me how it doesn't work for you? And what part does sex and affection play into for you. And if you use to have it in the younger years and lost it why?

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 8 (view)

Finances and expenses - responsibility and commitment Posted: 11/21/2009 10:40:45 AM
I would think they would wait until the children were out of the home. Simple. Why upset the children they will leave soon enough....love will last until the last child is out. The children didn't ask for it so why cause a rift towards the end of their time at home? After my Husband died I waited to date until my Daughter moved out. I decided why bring someone in whenever she had so little time at home left? We had a great time. I made this decision based on what was best for her.....sometimes we need to put our children first....it is the best for them and whenever it come to my child I wanted the best and wisest decision for her....not for me. They don't love whom you love nor do they want their home life unsettled. If it is true love wait until the children are out on their own.....simple.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 397 (view)

Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/21/2009 10:33:11 AM
can i complain about fat middle aged women who still have their hot babe attitudes even if their hot babe days have long since passed or perhaps never existed in the first place... Then don't take out fat middle aged women. And yes men do this also. But instead of generalizing toward women why can't this be non gender related? And be considered a human defect? who judge men by the size of their wallets but complain when men judge them by the size of their tour bus rear ends... Again men and women do this again not a gender issue. Most men and women I know are more than willing to pay their half....myself included. If I am meeting someone the first time I always pay my half. It is fair and feels right to me. If they ask me out on a date and they pay the next time I pay. I am a fair and honest person. I take advantage of no one. I could careless about how much someone has in their wallet.....I only care about what I make and how I pay my bills. I take a lot of pride in being self sufficient and so do most the people I know. If it is someone I am dating I do notice certain things about them which is their character...and someone that is a tight wad is just that. They split everything down the middle or leave it to you to pay. They take things back after having it for years.....they are always trying to get one over on another person.....but again this isn't gender related or even a gender issue. It is a character defect.......not gender defect. If you are finding this a fact in your life.......water seeks its own level....and you are tying yourself with people for some reason.....find out why and it will stop. And again people that have this problem I will not make it my problem. I let them go.......

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 153 (view)

Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER Posted: 11/21/2009 3:04:28 AM
Dating is hard figuring the ins and outs and the best way to go about it. I have met a few people that I have remained friends with for a long time....never crossing over into anything else. It wasn't that that weren't nice attractive men it was because they were but chemistry wasn't there. I am totally upfront with anyone that I date or meet. As soon as I know they know but saying that I still do things with them. Not the sex thing but we meet for dinner, concerts, a whole slew of things. They call and ask I call and ask....right now this very moment I am dating more than one person. I am open about it. For myself it takes awhile to get to know someone. I am not sleeping with multiple partners I am dating. But as soon as I know and it doesn't take more than a few dates I also tell them or they tell me. I figure if I am on this dating sight meeting people so are they. It takes time getting to know someone. And something that looks so great at the very get go takes time to find out if they really are as great as I think they are. Sometimes my picker is way off. And I am glad that I am taking my time getting to know people. If I could know they are the one from the get go....I wouldn't date anyone else. But you can't and it takes time to get to know people for myself gone are the days of jumping without looking and not just anyone will do. I am not trying to fill empty space but to fill that space with someone that no one else will do.......

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 388 (view)

Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 11/20/2009 6:45:35 PM
I had went out with one....we went to dinner, I didn't eat but had a drink and whenever we left about half way home he told me he didn't pay. I called and put the meal on my credit card and told him he owed me the money.......he told me he would pay half for it. I told him I didn't eat and he would pay for all of it and that is including the tip. I asked him whenever he paid for it why he would do such a nasty thing. His answer was she didn't give me a ticket........but during this time he returned a phone he had for three years and numberous things that had given me prior insight into his character. I learned my lesson. I don't mind sharing costs or paying or reciprocating if I can't afford to go out......and the relationship didn't last after the dinner he didn't pay for. I finally figured out this isn't my problem but his.....nor will I make it mine........ Y

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

Secrets Posted: 11/20/2009 4:26:10 AM
Sharing to much to soon.....is emotionally throwing up. You get to hear all the dirt in one cup of coffee. I perfer to wait. A little at a time. If someone tells me every single thing at once then I know they have told everyone else also. During my marriage I kept my secrets. They weren't bad secrets but they were kept from my Husband. Somethings he didn't need to know about. Sometimes my thoughts and feelings about my marriage weren't so nice. But sometimes I tend to see things the wrong way. So I kept them to myself and they lined out well most of the time. No I don't share everything like I said my thoughts and feelings aren't the truth nor are they fact. And I wait it out to see if I am right instead of jumping and dragging another person into my crazy unsettled mind. As for others that tell every little secret at once....well its really no secret. They are telling their same story to anyone who will listen. The other secrets most will come up a little at a time. And really if you think about it the one's that share every single little horrible secret. They are doing me a favor. I hope I am now atoned........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 109 (view)

aging moustache Posted: 11/19/2009 6:13:29 PM
I love a well trimmed moustache.......I like the Foo Man Chou look.......not sure if that is spelled right but your getting my drift......but if its well groomed and I like it precisely cut. It looks great and makes me.....to run my hands through it and tug on it just a bit..

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 100 (view)

aging moustache Posted: 11/19/2009 10:56:58 AM
I think you should dye it jet black.....and your hair and eyebrows also.....I am telling you that you will even look better than ever.....and it will make 20yrs fall off your face...Please send a picture of the new improved you........ Why would you care what other's think? If you like it keep it. If you are feeling yucky than cut it off......and then dye your hair black....but please send pictures........I need something to lighten my day....

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 66 (view)

How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ???? Posted: 11/19/2009 10:36:10 AM
I vote that we vote for more votes.... Now this thread....I vote that she votes him out of her life.........and I hope she did. Like I said I hate it whenever the OP doesn't give us the ending of the story. But being on a dating sight and posting this is the story itself...........Thanks for voting.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Commitment, a unique or generalized pledge? Posted: 11/19/2009 5:01:14 AM
First of all Happy Days for a new unique thread..... Today I have done a 100% turn about. I would hope that whenenver I find that someone that I can let him be his self....I no longer need to tell anyone the right way to live....I don't need to do every single thing they do, I can let them have their own idea's and values without being judgmental and harassing if their views differ from mine. I want to live with passion, honesty, and integrity. I can let another person have a bad day without personalizing it .... I am seeking balance. And passion for life and all life's beings....No more tit for tat....no more getting even or showing my displeasure in humorous hurtful ways..Today I can stand on my own two feet. Being married and being immature whenever I was younger is something I still cringe about. Today I have my eyes wide open. Not everyone has to like me all the time.....and that is okay and that is including people you love. Today the more I learn the less I know. I guess the proof will be whenever I have that one relationship that I am looking for........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

How much do we tolerated before calling it quits ???? Posted: 11/19/2009 4:01:16 AM
Yep this one is a bit old.......and the OP never wrote to tell us the end of her story. I hate that.........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 182 (view)

Did you think life would be like this at 50? Posted: 11/18/2009 7:04:20 PM
[Maybe I will go to the mall, but dress sexy...naw it's too damn chilly out there[/qjote] Yes it is hard to be sexy in sweats, sweat shirt and sweat jacket and coat.......and a added 20lbs of clothes does make my figure look amazing.......and yes that little funny hat to keep my head warm is sure turning heads.......It makes me want to go home and turn on the heating blanket....since there is no warm body that smells good...I go to bed in sweats and sweat shirt....hard to feel sexy whenever your freezing.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 80 (view)

Nose & Ear Hair Posted: 11/18/2009 4:50:56 PM
Today I went to the store.....Wax, Nair, razors, special shaving cream just for women, special moisturizer just for my legs.....some special stuff so my legs stay soft, lotion for the legs so they stay firm.....two different kinds of shampoo, two different hair conditioners....one for body, bounce and shine.....and a special body moisturizer to leave on after the shower and then rinse off.....I now am invested in hair what did I ever do before all this stuff? And next week.....a very special wax that costs about 75 bucks.......so hair being hair.....I want it some places to be soft and bouncy and shiny and other places never to be seen again....think what I could do with all this money that I spend on hair.....I would be much richer but not very well groomed and would be like the poor lady that everyone makes fun of.......

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 347 (view)

Let's get naked Posted: 11/18/2009 3:23:19 AM
I am 53 and will show my body! Were waiting..........show us........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 103 (view)

Men over 45 who dye their hair Posted: 11/18/2009 3:16:55 AM
I had went out with someone and we decided to eat outside and I looked at him and realized he had dyed his hair jet black....and it looked horrible. I have dated men that streak their hair....I like it. I also like grey..and some men with long hair...unless its dirty looking or so thin that it looks crappy. But bald is beautiful.....I love a shaved head. Heck there isn't much I don't like about men and their hair.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 313 (view)

Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/17/2009 5:41:35 PM
I like a man with a hairy chest........I like running my hands down it....and laying my head on it.......it is so masculine......and I feel so utterly feminine.......

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 77 (view)

Second (or Third or. . . ) Time Around Posted: 11/17/2009 5:37:22 PM
I have learned a lot reading your stories.... It seems most are happy and even with bad marriages they taken responsibility for their part and learned.......I love everyone's human side being candid and honest...........and wish that I could box everyone up on the fourms and bring you home....Thanks

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 58 (view)

How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/17/2009 4:22:43 AM
I don't want to be the older, unattractive one in the relationship. Ditto.......I would hate it if they asked if I was his Mother...or crap his Grandmother.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 179 (view)

Did you think life would be like this at 50? Posted: 11/16/2009 5:20:46 AM
I am thrilled that its better. Being so wise at 18 yr old I thought that if I lived to 50 yr old I would be so old I wouldn't want to live that long.......my how things change. I want to live much longer. Its better than I could have ever imagined. I am more relaxed. Way more fun. A lot less hang ups.....and I can pay my bills. I dance whenever I want to....I smile more than I ever have..........Yeah Me.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

Tolerance with age? Posted: 11/12/2009 5:05:22 AM
Drugs and alcohol. By this age it is no longer cute if they are hard core drinkers. Their behavior and attitude irritate me. I have lost to many to it. So anything other than a light drinker...that means every once in awhile.....if they do drugs any of them I am not having anything to do with them. I am not sitting nor watching someone drink theirselves to death. Been there done that.........lesson learned. And a painful lesson it is........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 267 (view)

Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/12/2009 4:47:10 AM
Now that we know each other's imitate details.....Where do we go from here?

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 34 (view)

I'm a 58 year old guy with young kids (Where is the POF/AARP/K-8 Forum?) Where do I fish? Posted: 11/11/2009 7:57:59 PM
Well actually the biggest strike you have against you is your not divorced. And if I was looking for companionship I wouldn't touch anything that had to do with my children. I think that is out of respect for your children.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 216 (view)

Widow/Widower-Wearing the wedding ring? Posted: 11/11/2009 4:02:33 PM
I took mine off the day after the funeral and have never put it on again. It symbolized my marriage and since he was gone so was the ring the marriage was over. I loved him it has taken me a long time to be able to move on.......

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 20 (view)

Serendipity? Posted: 11/10/2009 5:07:38 AM
I dated Mr. Wonderful from the time I was 16 yr old to the time I was 23 yr old.... And all those years....whenenver anything was bad in my life I would think "What if I was with Mr. Wonderful........how wonderful my life would be." Fast forward to last year.......we reconnected lucky lucky me. And Mr. Wonderful was just like he was whenever he was younger.....he stayed about 23 yr old in attitude and mentally.....some how I got old. It was a hoot. He was loud....and obnoxious. He was opinionated. He hadn't read a book since high school and he had the poor poor me thing going on...he was a big fat tight wad....that stiffed a establishment after dinner because they didn't present the bill.....I made him pay that bill and threw a stomping screaming fit. He didn't grow up in fact he was the very same as he was whenever I met him....but I had changed a whole whole bunch. And whnever a EX calls me I am polite. He is a Ex for a reason just as I am a EX for a reason. I will never feel the need to relive the past.......lesson learned.........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 150 (view)

sugar mommy? Posted: 11/9/2009 7:50:32 PM
Web cam.....that doesn't sound like fun.....have to go back to being one..... And a computer that runs a vibrator? Yeah me I can do that while being on web cam. Not really, but how funny that sex has taken on a whole new dimension of many things I have never thought of..... I thought I was being daring by trying lap dancing......guess I am still way behind the times.........crap .......now I not only have to figure out how to date now I have to figure out how to have sex.....guess no one does it the old fashion way anymore.....the new sex is look but don't touch.....some how I am missing part of this element its the human touch I crave........

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 146 (view)

sugar mommy? Posted: 11/9/2009 4:10:00 PM
I am still trying to figure out what E sex is......... Is that like really great sex and I am missing out on it? Well I have been missing out for awhile.....still never figured the cyber sex thing either.....how can you type and have cyber sex at the same time? Or phone sex.......I don't get that either, while your having a great time the phone drops....or its some 85 yr old man talking dirty to you. Still curious about E sex.....might want to try some of that........probably more fun than the lack of sex that I am having right now....have you ever gone so long that your going blind........I think its happening to me.....

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 145 (view)

sugar mommy? Posted: 11/9/2009 4:02:42 PM
I guess I can't be a Sugar Mommy....because I am not very sweet....dang my bad luck.

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 30 (view)

Just wondering about this..... Posted: 11/9/2009 3:00:49 PM
I don't know about you but whenever mine was a teenager.....I wanted to tell everyone that I didn't have kids....nor did I know her. But she kept calling me MOM....guess as you age they have to speak louder....and I asked a lady next to me.....who is that grouchy teenager yelling at I am glad mine doesn't behave that way.....

blueyesrsmiling

Joined: 6/25/2008

Msg: 208 (view)

Shaving or trimming your privates at our age? Posted: 11/8/2009 7:41:23 PM
I think this has went from graphic to porn........and the visual of someone stabbing theirselves is leaving me gagging and laughing.....And thinking WT.......F Going to bed so I can dream of someone's private parts shrinking up as he stabs it a few times.....another one with a mouth full of hair saying can you feel me now? Am I dreaming or is this some kind of horrible nightmare........?

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