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beholder123

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When is it okay to start having adult sleepovers? Posted: 8/24/2009 10:30:16 PM
2 MONTHS????? Uhhhhh THAT'S all the time you are going to give it until he stays the night??? That is your decision hunny but I have a 5 yr old and I can tell you this....there is NO WAY IN HELL I would have ANY man even meet my son until I knew they were serious and I was aswell....You dont even know if he is serious!!!! Are you freakin kidding me???? This is CLEARLY about YOUR needs and nothing else.....

beholder123

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MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children.... Posted: 8/12/2009 12:12:59 AM
P.S........... Try to take some time to GROW up....Your children will appreciate it...and as much as you think I am being a ****....I am not...I am being HONEST...Something YOU should consider being with yourself...

beholder123

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MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children.... Posted: 8/11/2009 11:51:00 PM
ACTUALLY sweetheart Maybe YOU should take a look at what forum YOU are posting in.....There IS a section for 'ask a man' you know....APPARENTLY you missed that...along with the grammar bus.... You are CLEARLY not being honest about your situation ...it's hilarious to see you try to defend it.

beholder123

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MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children.... Posted: 8/10/2009 1:26:33 PM
Hey Arc, move closer to your child......that would help....

beholder123

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MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children.... Posted: 8/10/2009 11:01:06 AM
Jennifer, I will admit I was harsh but it's because it hit a sore spot.......I have a hard enough time raising ONE child with a great job and a house- I OWN- and two cars- I OWN-..........And to let you know.....I havent been with ANYONE in 3.5 yrs because I CANNOT imagine sacrificing my time with my son...THAT being said...MY ex is GREAT and has my son part time, we are very loving parents to our child.....which left me wondering, if you have your children -THREE OF THEM- and you have time to work, take care of a home AND DATE.....Either YOU are lying about your situation or there is actually more time in the day on whatever the planet you are living on ... Sorry dear but you dont make any sense. Like it or hate it, I am just being honest... Sorry if I offended you, YOU asked....

beholder123

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Should I let my sons father visit him? Hear my story..... Posted: 8/6/2009 12:06:20 AM
YESSSSSSSSSSS.....You should 'let' your ex see his father, wtf... How much better are YOU if you go out with 'other men' when your son is with your ex.... your ex went to WAR........What do YOU think you could do to help the situation instead of worrying about yourself. YOU need to work together and figure this out.....Just because you are the mother does NOT give you the right to withhold visitation. You need a lawyer to work through this with you but based on your lack of knowledge my guess is you would be surprised in court anyway......How bout you just work out child support issues through the court and BE A MOTHER before you worry about your OWN love life huuh....

beholder123

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My 5 yr old stills falls asleep in my bed. Posted: 8/5/2009 11:39:13 PM
REALLY....That is good to know...THANK YOU...My ex means well but thinks it will come up and he will be made fun of.....

beholder123

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MEN HELP ME PLEASE!! I'm 23 with 3 small children.... Posted: 8/5/2009 11:36:12 PM
You have THREE kids and you are on a dating site at 23....hummmmm gimme a freakin break....the girl that posted before me was RIGHT ON the money......DONT worry about any men and just worry about your children... You think JUST because you are a single mother that allows you to screw around and look for men to be with and raise your children.....HAHAHAHAHA.... Oh, I have an idea, how bout YOU get your stuff together for YOUR children and make a life for THEM and stop worrying about YOUR needs...

beholder123

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My 5 yr old stills falls asleep in my bed. Posted: 8/5/2009 11:25:43 PM
I am a single Mother who is no longer with my sons father. HOWEVER, I am very lucky to have a great relationship with my son and his Father. Here is the problem...At my house my son STILL sleeps with me.....At his Father's house he falls asleep in his Fathers bed and when he is sleeping, his Dad then puts him into his bed, in his own room...... OK...Here is the problem.....my son starts kindergarden and my ex is SUPER worried that our son will be made fun of and that I should have him in his own bed now.....Well, I have been trying SO hard but my son wants me to do the same that his Father does and I am not sure that is the correct way to go about it either. Ant suggestions would be very much welcomed.....

beholder123

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Like nails on a chalkboard Posted: 6/25/2009 11:06:53 PM
I am going through something similar, could it be that you aren't following through with your list of chores......I have noticed with my own that I would 'give in' and either do it myself or help him.....BUT I have since learned that CONSISTENCE is what makes HIM do what is expected. I simply just won't budge on my rules and he has come to just accept that. If he argues the fact I just say....'fine, thats YOUR decision not to do that but the consequences are....ie, no t.v. no play, whatever..... GOOD LUCK............We ALL need it...

beholder123

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Men who cum in mouth without warning Posted: 6/16/2009 11:09:17 AM
Yeah...I call BULLSHYT

beholder123

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Men who cum in mouth without warning Posted: 6/12/2009 7:36:00 PM
EXACTLY........ So he didnt get ROCK hard His legs DIDNT tense up His breathing didnt get short He didnt grab tight to anything near him ie; sheets or your hair..... Gimme a break sweetie...

beholder123

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Men who cum in mouth without warning Posted: 6/12/2009 7:10:16 PM
FIRST of all, if you 'knew' what you are doing than you SHOULD have been able to tell he was going to cum......It doesnt take moaning or talking to figure it out, it takes FEELING........

beholder123

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Mothers paying child support, am I missing something? Posted: 12/1/2008 6:06:38 PM
sorry montgomery you should have taken mom to court....what you are saying is misleading ...... if you have your kids...then good for you..that is awesome....this DOES NOT mean the mother doesnt pay child support.... MY father got custody of me in the 80's.......it isnt impossimple...rare..yes...but you have proved yourself and does not mean you are not owed financial help by the mother. The only time I can see the Mother not being invloved financially, is if she NEVER sees them. Are you saying she NEVER sees them.....If so, I CAN understand the no child support thing because she is forfeiting ALL rights... Dont misslead this man....

beholder123

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My brothers girlfriend Posted: 12/1/2008 3:42:07 PM
Sweetie.....I SO get where you are coming from, but seriously......let him ride this out....he has got to learn for himself. AS MUCH AS YOU HATE IT. email me privately if you want...i cant totally relate.

beholder123

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Has anyone else experienced this dating online? Posted: 12/1/2008 3:12:25 PM
touchdown............ thanks...i needed that laugh....

beholder123

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So, this guy DIDN'T want to give me his number.....and it was blocked.. Posted: 12/1/2008 2:27:45 PM
arp, there is a difference between 'informed decision' and paranoid......I dont agree here, I dont think spending the evening with a man and questioning him later is an 'informed decision'....but hey, thats just me.

beholder123

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My brothers girlfriend Posted: 12/1/2008 2:04:28 PM
why do people think this is a pity thread.......jeeeeez....

beholder123

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My brothers girlfriend Posted: 12/1/2008 2:03:27 PM
I know EXACTLY how you feel..... SO....here is my honest advice. My brother is dating this girl who cheated on him...I could NOT wrap my head around it. I hated her...wanted to kick her lil ass.....in the end...all I ended up doing was make my brother hate ME. The sooner you realize that you cannot do anything about it , the better. I had to ask myself one VERY important question. Was this **** worth me losing my relationship with my brother....well, no it it wasnt. The truth is...WE wouldnt be with a guy who cheated on us....so we EXPECT that our bro's would feel the same. Not so. Really, it isnt even our business. The important thing is that we are THERE for them. Try to eat your pride and just be a good sister. If it turns out that they make it, and live happily ever after, then GREAT. If they break up, he isnt going to want to hear I told you so....he is just going to want his sister to be there. Take the high road babe, TRUST me, its less bumpy

beholder123

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Mothers paying child support, am I missing something? Posted: 12/1/2008 1:43:48 PM
TOTAL DOUBLE STANDARD....... You need to take her to court ASAP ......I am a single mother and if my son was living with his father , YOU CAN BET YOUR ASS I'D BE PAYING CHILD SUPPORT. Where are her flippin morals...

beholder123

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So, this guy DIDN'T want to give me his number.....and it was blocked.. Posted: 12/1/2008 1:39:47 PM
Hey there, I just am so confused over all this drama over a guy you JUST met.....in reading your emails...it well, made ME nuts. I could not imagine just meeting someone and getting SO involved with all the questioning and over analyzing. My advice.... TAKE MORE TIME getting to know someone before spending the evening with them ....then when you see the red flags, you can just walk away. THIS kind of behavior is not healthy for you or your kids. Best of luck though hun.

beholder123

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Met a user on here that is HIV+ Posted: 12/1/2008 1:30:52 PM
amy32223 I think she made an excellent point......this woman got herself tested...GOOD for her...not everyone does. This day and age EVERYONE should get tested and everyone should be careful.

beholder123

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Met a user on here that is HIV+ Posted: 12/1/2008 1:26:22 PM
I just think she should tell people before she does ANYTHING......That, to me , includes kissing. OF COURSE you cant get HIV from kissing but come on...it freaks people out....BOTTOM LINE. JUST because SHE knows the risks and limitations, does not mean everyone does or should and I would have freaked out too. She is not a dishonest person though, she is probably just well aware of what her limits are and wasnt sure on how to deal will telling you.

beholder123

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Has anyone else experienced this dating online? Posted: 12/1/2008 1:18:48 PM
i am assuming you had different pics......otherwise the person has alzheimers...or a drinking problem

beholder123

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Do you know Circe? Posted: 11/23/2008 3:50:20 PM
For those of you who visted ' would you date a cop' forum.....you would have noticed "circe"......I am only posting this because I know she had many fans on this site..... I was recently made aware of her circumstance. She almost passed away, if not for her father, and fellow police officers.......she was found (thank god) and was in a coma for 11 days. She is now recovering........if you knew her, please give your well wishes here or to her directly... Thank you:)

beholder123

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 11/23/2008 1:46:00 PM
I am putting this for people who have conversed with "circe". I was recently informed that she fell deathly ill and was in a coma for 11 days. She has since been in recovery and is getting better. For those of you who want to send her well wishes I suggest doing it here or to her directly. I am sure she will appreciate it. God Bless, "Beholder" I love you circe and glad you are still with us hun......

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/20/2008 4:22:15 PM
abitmuch^^^^^^^^^ thanks hun

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/20/2008 3:08:45 PM
Thanks to the serious posters:)....as for the offer to help me with my sex life.....uh no thanks...but I am flattered Ya I feel a whole lot better reading all your responses. Its good to know I am not alone out there. I think it is just good to know that sometimes.....again...thanks a million.

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/17/2008 9:48:36 AM
COOLDUDE......... Hey, its no biggie for me to admit it is one of those , dont know what you got til its gone..things. I know its for a reason, but it was because of me. big gal 01..... And I suppose I do feel loyalty to him still.....I cant figure out why but it is what it is. My heart is still there and I suppose that wont change until one or both of us moves on.

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/15/2008 3:42:29 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ There is a lot of truth to that and I thank you for the message. I know... I fear a lot of things about moving on.....however, the most important person to me is my son and that is why it is easy to say I will just dedicate my life to him.

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/15/2008 2:42:12 PM
JUS_ICKLE_ME......... fyi I tried to contact you but I think I cant message you because of my gender? you have to take the "gender preference" off your profile to talk to me I think.... Note to everyone actually.....dont limit genders because sometimes you can make wonderful friends online....just my two-cents....

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/15/2008 2:11:25 PM
You all are just so wonderful! I dont know why I expected to get "slammed" in this thread but I must say I am so happy for all the responses and it has helped me SO MUCH! Thanks to you all!!!!

beholder123

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 11/12/2008 6:31:58 PM
R.I.P. this forum should be taken out back and shot......LOL!!!!!! Goodnight and GOD BLESS..............

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/12/2008 6:26:49 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are right, I DONT need to explain myself! Thanks!

beholder123

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 11/12/2008 4:21:23 PM
I would like to take it upon myself to put this post to rest.... May we all just know peace despite our differences. May we all embrace our differences and not judge eachother for the differences we have May we live happy and healthy lives.... In uncertain times, I think we can all agree upon one thing..... Peace...

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/12/2008 1:41:03 PM
Ombrerose2.......... I came hear in the beginnig because I was trying to move on......I dated and have since learned I am not ready, or havent met the person I am meant to be with I guess. I canceled my "membership" but came back because I missed the forums. I am not here for dating as my profiles says. Thanks to everyone for your advice and kind words. I guess I just felt like the "odd one out" but this makes me feel better. Thanks to you all truly...

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/8/2008 4:17:48 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^ agreed.......

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/8/2008 3:29:46 PM
OMG thanks windchick.......

beholder123

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Am I the only one? Posted: 11/8/2008 2:24:48 PM
I havent had sex since my ex. I guess it is because I cannot imagine another man being better or "worthy" of him....I dont know. Its been 3 yrs. NO , there is nothing wrong with me or with my sexuality....I just had the best of the best and now I am a single Mother and I have just dedicated my life to my son. I know what people are thinking.......That I dont know any better or that I COULD have better...well I know what I had and I just find myself wanting nothing else! I get hit on but I just dont care about that. I just find myself sacrificing my love life for my son and I just want to know if anyone else feels the same.....and if so? Why? Am I just a freak?

beholder123

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Why do dating parents do this? Posted: 10/19/2008 11:11:03 PM
Thanks to both Lynsteph and arizonadeb for your replies.......I guess that it where I am coming from. BOTH of you hit the nail on the head for me. If people think I am bitter or sad then so be it but all I am saying is I AM A PRODUCT OF DATING PARENTS.......one of which did it the "wrong way" and one of which did it the "right way" (well, as right as you can, I guess) and no matter what it STILL hurt and I still see it today, wether it be friends dating or family.....the hurt is there. I just think its better to not date. OR.....if you are going to date....DONT INVOLVE THE CHILDREN!!!!!! They are not the decision makers! And if you, as a parent cannot decide wether your potential significant other is permanent partner material than you have NO business being in the dating world to begin with!!!!!!

beholder123

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 10/19/2008 10:19:43 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ YA THINK?

beholder123

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 10/19/2008 7:41:51 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ WOW........ Ahhhhh yes...I do love a good laugh. You need---------------------->

beholder123

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Why do dating parents do this? Posted: 10/18/2008 4:47:22 PM
hi there flcntrygirl80...... I respect your opinion BUT I am not bitter. I just put my son before me. I remember my parents dating and/or "trying" to keep it on the DL but seriously? I remember it all and nomatter what...I ALWAYS knew. Call me bitter or what have you but I think I am just being smart about it all. Children want their Mother to be there for them. They dont understand why there is a new person there and it really baffles my mind that people want to "see" how the potential man/woman will "get along" with their child before you go any farther? wth? So, what this says to me is that, YOU as the parent cannot realize or decide this on your own?! HUH? WHY ON EARTH get the child involved before YOU ( as the parent) KNOW FOR SURE that you indeed are ready to walk down the isle? That excuse ALWAYS cracks me up.......Like a child meeting your "future partner" is going to be the ONE reason you didnt pursue your relationship? HA! Hey.....whatever lets you sleep at night....go for it. I , for one, will sleep well tonight knowing I am putting my child first. No excuses, no drama.

beholder123

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 10/7/2008 3:03:07 PM
hey Firegurl! yeah, I am just laughing because I really dont get why this thread is still here! Too freakin funny! I am in awe at this point, ya know? miss you! where the heck is my girl circe? or damon?????????? helloooooooo? (tap, tap) Is this thing on?????

beholder123

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 10/7/2008 2:11:32 PM
"Depends on how good looking she is, and what kind of porn she likes. " HAHAHAHAHAAH!!!!!!!!!! uhhhh huh?! too funny...

beholder123

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Why do dating parents do this? Posted: 10/7/2008 2:02:55 PM
Thanks for all your replies.....been very interesting to know whta people have thought about this topic, both good and bad. I just dont know what route to take so I will just let life take its course. As I mentioned in a previous post, fate has our lives planned out for us already, If I am meant to meet someone it will happen no matter what. Until that happens, I happy just being a Mommy

beholder123

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Still missing him....just a little Posted: 10/2/2008 11:27:45 PM
hi julie, i remember you and i remember i posted originally but i dont remember what i said. i vaguely remember this being a short romance? i guess I just wanted to say.......WHO CARES?! hang on! before I get "hate mail".........I mean this as whole heartedly as I can........WHO CARES.......... Ya know........I have learned one thing (for sure) on this planet and it is this.....EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON...... Take it how you please but I believe that fate has a plan for us all....good and bad. I have been through SO much pain in my life and all I can do is move on.....learn....GROW....... THAT, is what life is all about! I just truly hope you move on , chin up and know that no matter what....life already has a plan for you...so....enjoy the ride!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

beholder123

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Starting to get turned off with shaved women Posted: 10/2/2008 9:59:46 PM
LMFAO, dAMON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HERE HERE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AGREE 100%!!!!!!!!!! I cannot imagine awoman with a muff nowadays!!!! ewwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

beholder123

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Toys, kinkiness, and being faithful Posted: 10/2/2008 9:30:04 PM
OP, I know exactly what you mean.......I never understood it either until I really got the answer from my now ex. It really wasnt so much about me using the toy as much as it was WHEN. A man (to my understanding) doesnt really care that you have a toy.....its more about the TIMING. Have you used it prior to or just after seeing him?....THIS is when a man will feel as though he has some "competition"...when YOU use "it" when you COULD have had HIM. ( understandable right?) I will put it like this........ How would you feel if you were just about to see your man and he got himself off.....EVEN THOUGH you would have been happy to oblige? OR what if you had JUST left your man and he decided to get off to porn intstead of you when you were there? This is the same kind of hurt.....I truly never knew why it would hurt a man until I asked.....makes perfect sense I believe. Women ( IMHO) want it both ways.....we want our men to want us but also for our men to know we like our toys.......HOWEVER......GOD FORBID a man enjoys a little porn now again........sorry ladies....just some food for thought...ok?

beholder123

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would guys date a female cop? Posted: 10/2/2008 8:06:27 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ ROCK ON BUMBLE BEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THATS HOT!!!!!!!

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