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Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Is it a turnoff when... Posted: 9/8/2009 9:50:43 PM
It's not a turn off its nice know there are some men who do not drink.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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single father of 4 Posted: 9/4/2009 1:18:03 AM
You shouldn't forget" or give up" you just HAVE to make some "you time" maybe plan a day where the kids go to an grandparents for the whole night on a weekend, and you plan something special for you and someone your intrested in. (It's easier said than done i realize that, but sometimes you just HAVE make time for yourself so you can relax)

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 8/4/2009 11:09:25 PM
your really cute NY is a ways from LA but nice profile/pics anyways dude. good luck on here.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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little help Posted: 8/4/2009 11:02:00 PM
hey dark" i know this off topic, but you should put pic of you made by photoshot or how ever you titled it, as your main picture its awsome lookin. But i would take dark's advice if i was the orginal poster of this thread.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Anything i can do? Posted: 8/4/2009 10:53:52 PM
Hi Bethro" If i was you i would put your profile like this. Hey everyone. I am easy going laid back type of woman i have one child i like to listen to music drive and just have fun,i love adventure,if you would like to know more about me drop me a line. (Most people tend to lash out about how this is, an dating site and how were not looking to date someone for our kids but for OURSELFS hehe.) Hope you have good luck on this site hun.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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little help Posted: 8/4/2009 10:47:59 PM
I would put the pic of you where it shows your eyes up close, you have beautiful eyes.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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First email he asking about my kids Posted: 8/4/2009 10:38:17 PM
Maybe he was wondering if they was still in baby stage or in stage where they can do stuff for themselfs wich gets me to, my second point he most likely was wondering in his mind if you two would ever get some time to yalls self. Wich is probally why he asked how old was your kids, i always ask that question but i wouldn't take it as a red flag just yet deb if i was you, talk to him some more but be careful aswell ya know.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Why do men have children before they are married? Posted: 7/16/2009 8:49:30 PM
No idea maybe men don't want to become married, but men arent the only ones who have kids before they are married women do it too more so than men.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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At what age is it creepy if a man is sleeping with his daughter? Posted: 7/10/2009 12:09:35 AM
No red flag fourm gal" i'll tell you this my cousins slept in the bed with their father when he was home and not having work from time they was little-13yrs old, that stuff is normal around my neck of the woods, why don't you just come out and ask him, why does his 9yr old daughter still sleep in the bed w/him. If he trusts you and knows your heart is in right place, than he wont over react.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Can someone give me some insight? Posted: 7/9/2009 11:55:44 PM
Describe what you like to go out and do talk about your hobbies your passion what makes you different from other guys, what kind of woman are you intrested in and talk about YOU more.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Get out your red pens... Posted: 7/7/2009 8:45:00 PM
your profile looks great and your pics are awsome looking, keep trying dont give up you'll find your fish.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Are you angry that IMs are not available now? Posted: 7/7/2009 12:38:54 PM
no big deal like someone else said theres other ways to talk someone (one on one) so yeah.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Some Feedback on my Profile Posted: 7/7/2009 12:37:05 PM
take out one of the "hey my name is nate" you don't need both in there. gl.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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May I get your reaction to my profile, please? Posted: 7/6/2009 8:49:59 PM
Hey, I've always heard that if your only looking for friends you shouldn't feel out the first date section. Write more about yourself and who you would like to meet IF your looking for more, than friends.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Some Feedback on my Profile Posted: 7/6/2009 8:31:19 PM
You should word your profile like this. My name is Nate, I like reading a lot my favourite authors would include Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Kurt Vonnegut and Michael Chabon. I enjoy walks, music. I play guitar some of my favorite bands would be, Dream Theater, Phish, Lamb of God, Pink Floyd and lots more. I'm VERY particular about what I like to read, watch, and listen to. One of my passions are cooking. I would like to write as a career. I'm a pretty introverted person altho, I relax a lot once I become comfortable. I'm a good listner and always willing to help, someone out so if you liked what you read drop me a line. (IF I WAS YOU I'D TAKE THE BELOW STATEMENT OUT) If you want to say hello, feel free to send me a message. Hope this helps you out a little bit, do not ever put "thanks for taking the time, to view my page"

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Need some help!!!! Posted: 7/6/2009 11:31:40 AM
You should write your profile out like you was talking to an woman and she is asking question's about you, but do not give all your information out on your profile save a little for ther conversation.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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need to know what the problem is Posted: 6/24/2009 11:26:32 PM
try putting the picture of you with the black shirt as your default pic, just be yourself don't try be someone other than who you are and you should have no problem.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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The Scientist-COLDPLAY Posted: 6/24/2009 11:23:46 PM
Song really holds meaning to me. Now that it’s all said and done I can’t believe you were the one To build me up and tear me down Like an old abandoned house What you said when you left Just left me cold and out of breath I felt as if I was in way to deep Guess I let you get the best of meeee (Chorus) Well I never saw it coming I should have started running A long, long time agooo! And I never thought I’d doubt you I’m better off without you More than you, more than you know I’m slowly getting closure I guess it’s really over I’m finally gettin’ better Now I’m picking up the pieces From spending all of these years Putting my heart back together ‘Cause the day I thought I’d never get through I got over you!!! (End Chorus) You took a hammer to these walls Dragged the memories down the hall Packed your bags and walked away There was nothing I could say, And when you slammed the front door shut A lot of other’s opened up So did my eyes so I could see That you never were the best for meee (Chorus) Well I never saw it coming I should have started running A long, long time agooo! And I never thought I’d doubt you I’m better off without you More than you, more than you know I’m slowly getting closure I guess it’s really over I’m finally getting’ better Now I’m picking up the pieces From spending all of these years Putting my heart back together ‘Cause the day I thought I’d never get through I got over you!!! (End Chorus) I never saw it coming I should have started running A long, long time agooo And I never thought I’d doubt you I’m better off without you And I never saw it coming I should have started running I’m finally getting better Now I’m picking up the pieces From spending all of these years Putting my heart back together And I got over you!!! And I got over you!!! And I got over you!!! The day I thought I’d never get through I got over you…

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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why cant we have the thing that we want the most Posted: 6/12/2009 11:44:41 PM
Intresting "matt" i wonder the same thing but then again, whatever your situration may be...It's not just the girl/guys fault its OUR fault aswell because we do not realize how lucky we are to have him/her until we screw up and they never give us another chance.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Why do women get mad/offended? Posted: 5/29/2009 7:24:58 PM
No clue why SOME women do that "spell" but i don't see why we couldn't call/text the guy if he hasn't called text us first, shouldn't be so complicated and hard.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Need some help!!!! Posted: 5/27/2009 10:59:24 PM
your profile looks fine to me your pics are awsome looking, not sure why you haven't had any luck on the site but hang in there.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Is it wrong? Posted: 5/3/2009 10:26:50 PM
That should be the man's choice rather he decides to take over the "father role" of your child but i think you should find someone for what YOU want in the person, and take it slow don't let your child meet "him" until you know for sure that you/him will become serious. Best of luck.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Introduce Yourself Here Posted: 2/25/2009 12:23:13 PM
Need some help from la people...How in the world do you know what "fish personality" you are?...Anyone feel like helping me out with mines, message me thanks...Good luck la people!

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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HEATHERS POETRY Posted: 2/6/2009 10:23:53 PM
One of my recently written poems, i hope everyone enjoys it. ~Untitled~ No matter how hard i try i can never forget about you or forget the feelings i have deep inside of my heart for you, i thought i was over you but then seeing you and being around you brought out the deepest feelings i have for you that was burried inside of my heart. I can't deny what i feel for you even if i wanted to i could never deny how i truly feel about you, you make me the happiest i have ever been. When i am around you nobody else matters when i am around you and in your arms i feel so safe, like i can lay my life in the palm of your hands and know everything will be fine in the end. I care about you so much that there is no words to describe how exactally i feel towards you and how happy you truly make me feel, i can try hiding the feeling and covering it up and pretending i do not care about you and that i only care about you as a friend but deep inside i know it's all a lie. You mean more to me than my life does and there is nothing i wouldn't do for you or go through for you i only hope that i can make you, as happy as you make me and that someday we can see it all working out for us the way we want it to be. Love is such an strong and powerful word and gets abused/overused alot but when i say i love you it's not being abused/overused it is comming straight, from my heart and soul and i know telling you how i truly feel all at once may ruin things but i can't lie and say i have never felt anything for you. There are not enough words to describe how i truly feel about you i know i wind up getting hurt in the long run and maybe even, wish i had tooken my friends advice but this is something i feel beyond my heart for you and i don't know how to say it to you so i'll do my best at expressing what you mean to me and how much i care about you. I know telling a person all of how you feel about them will sometimes make them want to run and hide or even a little nervis or scared but i could not hold things from you i had to say what i truly feel and how much you mean to me and i love you in a way i have never loved anyone before, but i am willing to wait for you because i know your more than worth the wait in the end. Dedicated To: Someone Special. 2-6-09 9:14PM Written By: H.F. 2-6-09 9:14PM

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Are you strong enough to bleed ... and love Posted: 2/6/2009 10:21:17 PM
Yall all have very nice poems i hope dont mind, if i share one aswell. ~Untitled~ By: H.R.F. No matter how hard i try i can never forget about you or forget the feelings i have deep inside of my heart for you, i thought i was over you but then seeing you and being around you brought out the deepest feelings i have for you that was burried inside of my heart. I can't deny what i feel for you even if i wanted to i could never deny how i truly feel about you, you make me the happiest i have ever been. When i am around you nobody else matters when i am around you and in your arms i feel so safe, like i can lay my life in the palm of your hands and know everything will be fine in the end. I care about you so much that there is no words to describe how exactally i feel towards you and how happy you truly make me feel, i can try hiding the feeling and covering it up and pretending i do not care about you and that i only care about you as a friend but deep inside i know it's all a lie. You mean more to me than my life does and there is nothing i wouldn't do for you or go through for you i only hope that i can make you, as happy as you make me and that someday we can see it all working out for us the way we want it to be. Love is such an strong and powerful word and gets abused/overused alot but when i say i love you it's not being abused/overused it is comming straight, from my heart and soul and i know telling you how i truly feel all at once may ruin things but i can't lie and say i have never felt anything for you. There are not enough words to describe how i truly feel about you i know i wind up getting hurt in the long run and maybe even, wish i had tooken my friends advice but this is something i feel beyond my heart for you and i don't know how to say it to you so i'll do my best at expressing what you mean to me and how much i care about you. I know telling a person all of how you feel about them will sometimes make them want to run and hide or even a little nervis or scared but i could not hold things from you i had to say what i truly feel and how much you mean to me and i love you in a way i have never loved anyone before, but i am willing to wait for you because i know your more than worth the wait in the end.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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HEATHERS POETRY Posted: 2/2/2009 11:11:29 PM
I dont know if anyone else really posts on my thread but i'd like share this, i found it on another site....AUTHOR UNKNOWN! He met her at a party. She was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he was so normal, nobody paid attention to him. At the end of the party, he invited her to have coffee with him, she was surprised but due to being polite, she promised. They sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, and she thought to herself, "Please, let me go home..." Suddenly he asked the waiter, "Would you please give me some salt? I'd like to put it in my coffee." Everybody stared at him, so strange! His face turned red but still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously, "Why you have this hobby?" He replied, "When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea, I liked playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there." While saying that tears filled his eyes. She was deeply touched. That's his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has responsibility of home... Then she also started to speak, spoke about her faraway hometown, her childhood, her family. That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their story. They continued to date. She found that actually he was a man who meets all her demands; he had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good person but she almost missed him! Thanks to his salty coffee! Then the story was just like every beautiful love story, the princess married to the prince, and then they were living the happy life... And, every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, as she knew that's the way he liked it. After 40 years, he passed away, left her a letter which said, "My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life's lie. This was the only lie I said to you --- the salty coffee. Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything... Now I'm dying, I afraid of nothing so I tell you the truth, I don't like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste... But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again." Her tears made the letter totally wet. One day, someone asked her, "What's the taste of salty coffee?" She replied, "It's sweet." ~~~~~~~~~~ Love is not to forget but to forgive, not to see but understand, not to hear but to listen, not to let go but HOLD ON...

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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untitled poem - first of many from the mind of higgzy Posted: 2/2/2009 10:33:48 PM
That is an awsome poem man it was wonderful to read.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Why me??? Posted: 2/1/2009 11:31:13 PM
You should have spaced the sentences out....Nobody can ever fail at life looks arent always everything you know some people like an man who is not always down on themself, an man who takes the good N the bad with life and makes what he has do with.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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What's wrong with my profile? Posted: 1/30/2009 10:52:29 PM
PUT ONLY THE BELOW I am not one for the bars, but would like someone to hang out with. I really enjoy photography and am looking seriously in to going back to school for it. On days off I love to put the top down and see where I end up. Found a lot of cool places that would be fun to share. I am just looking for friends, at this point, but you never know. Seems things always happen when you're least expecting it. Let's talk.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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How amazing is my profile? Posted: 1/30/2009 12:14:49 AM
"cat" You need make a thread we can NOT take over someone else's thread.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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How amazing is my profile? Posted: 1/30/2009 12:13:42 AM
Would love to have kids someday and do the whole family thing.. but more than that I'm looking for a best friend and partner in crime to spend life with doing all the things we dream to do. That is eyecatching if i lived same area as you i'd say, we should meet up just wanted say my thought on that seriously. And not just because the kids thing

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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How amazing is my profile? Posted: 1/30/2009 12:02:07 AM
flyer" Maybe you could put i would like to meet someone and hopefully it works out for the long run, somebody who is intrested in having a family because i always saw myself as a family type of man.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Needing a review Posted: 1/29/2009 11:54:37 PM
Take off the "mexico" picture, because if you have "white out" somebodys face, than why should it even be added?...No harm intended.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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New Pics+New Words=New Review Plz Posted: 1/29/2009 11:50:57 PM
Take out the "Thanks for stoping by" as someone mention to me, thanking people for viewing your profile may make you come off as despert or show that nobody shows intrest in you. Other than that i like your profile, i'd also think about putting your picture, where your prop up as your main picture. Good Luck.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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How amazing is my profile? Posted: 1/29/2009 11:47:01 PM
I like the pic of you in that hat, put that as your main photo. Heather

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Profile review please! Posted: 1/28/2009 10:26:58 PM
Try putting your picture of you in the blue, shirt as your MAIN photo.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Whats wrong? Posted: 1/28/2009 10:25:13 PM
U filled out the dating "part" why not leave that blank, since you said your just looking for a friend...

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Review this guy's profile please. High rejection rate.. Posted: 1/28/2009 10:20:46 PM
Hey strike" First off why don't you put your last photo, as your MAIN picture. Change your headline to "You'll never find what you want if, you're not looking for it" (Profile Part) I WOULD ADD ALL THIS. I would like to state that i am not the type of man that plays games or cheats on the woman, because i feel that is wasting the other person time aswell as mine. I am an honest man wanting to fill my life with the right woman, a woman who allows both of us to advance ourself potential in the future. I am an communication major and i mostly study relationships of all kinds, i enjoy being knowledgeable about what i study. I need a woman who is a strong comunicator aswell with chacteristics to match mine. Loyalty, A Big Heart, A Sense Of Humor, Realistic, Perecptions, etc. One of my turn offs in a woman is big egos biases and a woman who, has a bad attitude. I sometimes can be sarcastic a wise guy cheesy sometimes, and i love to test people's limits and i'm also dorky but in good way. I am laid back i like staying in more than going out after a long day, but both are fine. I am open minded about stuff to do, i like to chill with my friends and be lazy sometimes. I like music, tv, movies, and Wii. Other times i like going out, adventures into philly or nyc. Going to sporting events concerts and comedy clubs. First Date (Sense you said you want to try bookstore.coffee shop). Going to a bookstore or a coffee shop, and getting to know one another through conversation.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Could Someone give me some input please? Posted: 1/28/2009 10:19:58 PM
Take this part OFF "What's the problem?".......That makes you seem like NOBODY emails you or even shows intrest, so maybe look around and choose an headline from soneone's profile but use your OWN words.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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What's the difference.......................... Posted: 1/28/2009 9:19:57 PM
That was awsome...i have one for you. How To Impress A Woman! 1 Compliment her, 2 Respect her, 3 Honor her, 4 Cuddle her, 5 Kiss her, 6 Caress her, 7 Love her, 8 Stroke her, 9 Tease her, 10 Comfort her, 11 Protect her, 12 Hug her, 13 Hold her, 14 Spend money on her, 15 Wine and dine her, 16 Buy things for her, 17 Listen to her, 18 Care for her, 19 Stand by her, 20 Support her, 21 Hold her, 22 Go to the ends of the earth for her. How To Impress A Man! 1 Show up naked, and bring beer!

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Profile review request Posted: 1/28/2009 7:56:32 PM
Put your "kickball" picture as your main picture.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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It's Alright but I know It Can be Better, What you think? Posted: 1/27/2009 10:56:24 PM
Something people have always told me...do NOT put this "Hey, thanks for checking me out! I hope you like what you see and read." So take that part out ONLY that part.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Made a few changes to the profile, give me your opinion! Posted: 1/27/2009 10:53:18 PM
quard" Try putting the picture of you in the white, shirt as your FIRST picture. Just be yourself pick something funny but eye catching as your headline, by you not putting what you don't like in a girl shows that your NOT "Judgemental"

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Please help me here Posted: 1/27/2009 9:43:47 PM
That was more blunt than anyone could ever have put it, i agree he should have been a bit senstive about it but it was blunt and to the point...I'll try give you some opinions on your profile....GL

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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young single moms Posted: 1/27/2009 5:00:43 PM
Forgive me i couldnt find the author of that poem i mosted for the single moms, and i forgot to put "Author Unknown" but that was not my poem but i figured it would, be an warm reading for us single moms.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Rate my profile please :p Posted: 1/26/2009 11:27:01 PM
You should describe a little more what type of woman you are intrested in and what type of woman that catches your eye, not trying sound rude hope that helps a tad.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Back to fishing, how's my bait? Posted: 1/26/2009 11:24:22 PM
I don't think you should put this "we'll chat and see how closely I match up to your ideal man. And if you already know that I'm a great catch, throw out the line and lure, see if you can snag me.:" That makes you sound like your wanting an RELATIONSHIP instead of dating.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Back to fishing, how's my bait? Posted: 1/26/2009 10:38:28 PM
Hey Jake don't make it sound like your talking to yourself or like someone else is describeing YOU. Put in your OWN words what you are like, how your personality is what your turn ons and turn offs are, what you look for in an person. Your likes and dislikes, your fav type of music, what you enjoy doing.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Your opinions please Posted: 1/26/2009 10:35:19 PM
You should upload a picture, other than that comming from another woman to you....Your profile seems alright.

Heather_La_1

Joined: 6/25/2008

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Review my profile please :) Posted: 1/26/2009 9:03:47 PM
Hows it going for you now?

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