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gossp

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P.O.F. party in Indy Posted: 6/25/2006 4:42:05 PM
What the hell, let's just do it.

gossp

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pof meeting!!!!!!!! Posted: 6/23/2006 4:36:22 PM
How about a dive bar? Everyone under 40 we could assume was with us... those over 40... will have to be outgoing. I've recently been turned on to the doorman street saloon?.......

gossp

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q for single dads mostly but others welcome Posted: 6/20/2006 8:55:26 PM
Well look if it makes the guy uncomfortable for you to feed your son and u have to run to the bathroom to do it well may show that he is not all that supportive with your side of parenting I'm going to have to go with this train of thought and say... just feed your child as naturally as you would in your own home... if he does seem uncomfortable.. ditch him. .... oh my, Pat has returned to the forums... it's a sad sad life.

gossp

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pof meeting!!!!!!!! Posted: 6/20/2006 8:45:57 PM
I think they just had a little Indy get together. I'm working in Indy now and am all about finding a hint of a social life down there. Should anyone be up for a gathering, I'm in!

gossp

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Would you allow the non-custodial parent to claim your child as a dependent? Posted: 2/9/2006 4:19:38 AM
he doesn't even pay his support on time as we had arranged privately in order to keep from having to go to court. And no one took the time to jump all over this why? Go to court, get support set, have them resolve the tax issue at the same time. Why on earth would you want to enter into a private contract, rather than a court enforced contract, with a person you discribe as "very irresponsible with money and a habitual liar to boot"???? WTF My ex and I were ordered to swap year to year. I claimed for 04, the girlfriend split in 05 but since she doesn't have a real job yet the courts told me to take it again (offset the cs cost is actually what was said to me)... in fact, if my ex does not land a good job early in 06, I'll insist that I get it again. I stopped saving money when the cs kicked in(it's half my take home pay), I'm really looking forward to having some in the bank... it's been a while. My ex can claim that she has our child more days of the year, but she can't in good faith claim it as a burdon in any way... cause she'd have me there in the courtroom offering to relieve her of it. Some people fight for money, some people fight for time.

gossp

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Is it wrong for a single mom to refuse to date single dads?? Posted: 2/9/2006 12:32:10 AM
Anything wrong with not wanting to date single dads... nothing wrong with it at all. I've met a few single moms that just don't want the added responsibility (I'll not argue that they had enough) or to deal with trying to schedule time with someone whose life is as hectic as their own.... but.... I won't date a guy with kids for fear that I couldn't love his as much as I love my own Oka', the reason might be kindof out there. The love isn't just for the kids... it's the only thing that feels as good to give as it does to get. You have plenty of it, we all do. I've found dating single moms to be quite a pain... in as much as it's hard to find time to get together.... but as for another kid/adult/person to love... bring them and their mother over! I'm ready. And now this little issue: Thta is a pretty ridiculous attitude. Why would you love someone else's kid at all? Your not the mother. Just because you date a guy, or even marry him, obligates you to be a decent person to his child, not to love the child. Actually... why love another persons kid... because they are kids, because they are easy to love, because if you treat them decently they are going to love you and nothing hurts more than unreturned love, because a lot of single parents are never going to fall all the way until they see their kids falling with them, in the case of this thread: because they are a part of a person you love, ... anyone have more reasons? Ah, this little visit to the old stomping grounds has been fun.

gossp

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Hi peoples Posted: 1/7/2006 5:40:26 AM
what do guys think about woman with children. I thinnk they are just as fickle as women without them. Kids are, I believe, not at all a deturrant to a good guy. You have a responsibility to your children to be a bit more selective in the guys you date... but really, I think the important thing here is that this topic has been beaten to death.. enjoy the forums.

gossp

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Looking To Talk With pregnant or brand new moms Posted: 1/4/2006 9:30:06 PM
"I ate a baby" Oka', ignoring that... I think the really creepy part of this thread is the number of people that responded that they did in fact fall into the categoy of new or soon to be new mom. Firstly, there is the thread itself... pretty creepy.... then there are the countless post raising red flags about it.... yet they just post away... "pick me, pick me, eat my child" ugh.

gossp

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Is it me or am I...... Posted: 1/2/2006 8:10:39 PM
well, my ex got a head start on me.

gossp

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So it's official now Posted: 1/2/2006 8:26:01 AM
Tough break guy. I had a double arm break and finger removal several years back playing in Red River Gorge. It's amazing how something we love so much can hurt us every time we stop paying attention to her.... damned rocks. I miss them. I assure you, you will find more active things to do than model airplanes. The doc's always give you these horrer storys like you will never get to be a man again. I was playing guitar four monthes out! I've even done some gym climbing... no real rock yet. You will be back, just keep on keepin on.

gossp

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Looking To Talk With pregnant or brand new moms Posted: 1/1/2006 8:20:34 PM
Nun.... Very "Modest Proposal" on your part.

gossp

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Looking To Talk With pregnant or brand new moms Posted: 12/31/2005 11:44:37 PM
I have a suspision that this might be a thread more about.. um... yeah... where is nun when you need someone to lecture on self promotion threads? Maybee someone likes breastmilk... Happy New Year!

gossp

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Kids As INtentional Break-up Devices Posted: 12/31/2005 11:41:26 PM
my 'requirements' and standards are much higher than they would be without her (my girl). I'd settle for myself, but won't settle for my girl's sake - she deserves the best. Exactly! I had a guy who I really liked and then he tells me that he can't continue the relationship because he would rather have a woman who doesn't have kids I have so had this problem. I don't use my child as an excuse for anything.... but a lot of the women I meet do.... oh well, they weren't worth it anyway. Happy New Year friends.

gossp

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new years sucks Posted: 12/31/2005 11:33:35 PM
Enough of the new years pitty threads. Happy New years to all of you. I'm just smiling thinking about all the great pictures of my daughter with 06 scribbled on the back of them. I didn't have anyone to kiss for new years.... but my kid will get one in a couple days when "my turn" comes around.

gossp

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Rant... Christmas isnt looking good! Posted: 12/25/2005 6:41:54 PM
M, I hope everything came out allright by the end of the day. Merry Christmas my friend. I hope that you never forget to leave the door open = Priceless.

gossp

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Battle of witts with a two year old.... I lost bad. Posted: 12/25/2005 8:08:46 AM
M- Abby and I are very good with comprimise... she had just gotten all the middle ground she was going to get that day... as I said in the post, she was in rare form. Chrysler- That is the most funny thing I've ever heard! Poor old Cinderella. lol C- From what I hear of your kids, the best wittisisms are yet to be posted, I can't wait. Merry Christmas to all.... My daughter is back with her mother as of 9 this morning... so I'm off to spoil my niece.

gossp

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Battle of witts with a two year old.... I lost bad. Posted: 12/24/2005 4:18:22 PM
Just a fun little bit of Holiday cheer to share with my friends: My daughter has been in rare form all day, throwing a heavy ammount of attitude and whining around, which is very much so not in her nature. In the middle of a particularly pointless argument about whether or not it was ok to bring her blanket to the table for dinner my father was holding Abigail as she flailed and screamed. I made her look me in the eye and said something stupid to the point of: "before I'm gone you will tell me many times that I am not the boss of you.... and you will be wrong."...... She looks me right in the eye and says: "Mommy is the BOSS" I really thought I'd get to be smarter than her for a few more years. Merry Christmas all.

gossp

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Where is that man? Posted: 12/22/2005 5:50:22 PM
I think you have just demonstrated the value of a really bad thread.... it is found in the merit of the random that are actually discussed on occasion.

gossp

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Jealousy - but its the LITTLE green-eyed monster... Posted: 12/22/2005 9:09:55 AM
C- I'm not going to get into my thoughts on therapist and kids, as I know the rest of the world and I are not going to agree much. What you are going through with his daughter is going to happen.... just wait, there might be a moment in the future when your kids do it to him. When you posted about asking the kids if it was oka' for the two of you to be a couple I thought it was the cutest thing in the world..... and at the same time it's none of their business. Why give the kids the idea that it is? The advice i can give: Treat the children of the person you are seeing with the utmost respect, even more than you need to show the one you date. This, I know is not anywhere near being an issue with you. Allow any problems the child may have with the relationship to be handled by their parents and their parents alone. The person dating the parent is the absolute last person that is going to bring about improvement. If she's against the relationship, she already sees an invasion... anything you do has the potential to further those feelings. The simple fact is, I doubt very much that she has a problem with you... she has a problem with her father/ her fathers relationship with her mother. She loves daddy (can't be mad at him)... likes you (not mad at you) and does not know how to process the hurt that comes along with daddy moving on again (catch the moving on again.... does she see you as temporary?). Kids see patters that are not really there. And the bottom line according to Pat.... If she has not been told already, she might need to be told in no uncertain terms that it's not her decision who daddy spends his time with. Let the flaming begin!

gossp

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Can some one please tell me?? Posted: 12/20/2005 8:32:39 PM
^^^^ went through hell just so that I could see her and be part of her life Who would have thought hell was so worth going through? being "trapped"... not so bad as you make it out with your kids.

gossp

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Can some one please tell me?? Posted: 12/20/2005 4:16:46 AM
Firstly..... single mom's .... good..... single mom looking to procreate right away.... not good for this guy. If I met a woman I liked who happend to have children, I'd be all about a relationship that combined the two familes.... but lets face it..... starting a life together is going to be a chore. Establishing a role in her childrens life; be it fatherly, as a friend, as a trusted advisor, as that guy with mommy that he/she doesn't hate.... it's going to be a lot of work. For the kid and me. Abigail and whoever I might enter into a relationship with are going to go through the same thing in efforts to create a bond. I failed myself, my daughter, and my daughters mother once before by having a child before making a happy home with just her mother and I..... I'm not going to do it again if I can at all help it. Do I want another kid, sure.... now that my little girl is a child, not a baby..... I kindof miss having a baby around..... but I'm in no hurry, none at all. As for women trying to trap men with babies.... some, very few I think, have been doing it forever.... and they are not going to stop. In a more subversive way, I think such a trap has been done by men much more often than women.... this is kindof being headed off at the pass by governments taking a more active role in making sure that dads not in the picture still pay for part of the frame. Which they should. Just my thoughts, for whatever they are worth.

gossp

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Bad Mommys and me... (This thread is nothing but me complaining about life) Posted: 12/18/2005 6:55:11 PM
I wish I had the ability to catch it quicker than I do. Oh, and Chryslergirl, I added a couple pics to my profile just for you.... I am so a chrysler boy.

gossp

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Bad Mommys and me... (This thread is nothing but me complaining about life) Posted: 12/18/2005 6:34:47 PM
Hey all, I'll not bother with the background on me, as most of you have gotten it all anyways, I'll just jump straight into my rant.. I do not look for single mom's exclusivly, but I will admit that finding someone that knows understands the most important aspects of my life is appealing...... I have an unnatural ability to attract and be attracted to very bad mothers. Mean, neglectful, uncaring people. How do I learn to spot this ahead of time? I don't like getting invested emotionally or otherwise just to find that there is no way in hell I'll ever allow this person to meet my child. It was a bad night. Love you all, rant ended. Patrick Be strong, teach them well and make them stronger. Someone's going to have to take care of us when we're old.

gossp

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How many Friends with Benefits can you have going at one time? Posted: 12/14/2005 11:26:34 PM
Well kids, I think the really important thing about this thread is that we all need to remember. Relationships come and go...... but herpes last forever. And of course having sex doesn't give you cooties.... but wanting to have multiple ongoing sexual relationships at the same time.... that's a hell of a recipie for a drip your plumber can't fix.

gossp

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New Relationships - lead with your heart or your head? Posted: 12/14/2005 11:19:27 PM
^^^ That's funny, it's almost as if someone thinks people might believe him if he disagrees with C..... silly boy. J - It was nice talking to you briefly.... and btw, you'll likely come to discover that I have an often irrational and always impractical problem with blindly supporting and defending those I've come to care about.

gossp

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New Relationships - lead with your heart or your head? Posted: 12/14/2005 6:20:11 PM
C - Putting your jewelers card in his pocket..... Some things shouldn't be asked for.

gossp

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How many Friends with Benefits can you have going at one time? Posted: 12/14/2005 3:52:32 PM
I'm all about the friends with benefits..... but I think having more than one defeats the reason for doing it. I've been of the oppinion that sleeping with a friend that you otherwise do not desire a romantic relationship with was because you both want to have sex (duh), but want to be safe and not just sleep around with a ton of people. If you are sleeping with many of your friends... you are not being safe... and when one of them gives you a bug.... your going to give it to the others.... icky.

gossp

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A Mother's Most Embarassing Moment.. Posted: 12/14/2005 9:01:55 AM
hahahaha... Can I get a copy of the tape? I think it would be fun as hell to watch. When working with younger boys through the Boy Scouts, situations like this came up more often than i like. I usually approached it from an angle of: Fightning is never right and no one ever wins a fight... everyone involved is a looser.... that said, support the defense of others and let him know that sometimes we have to do things we know are wrong to prevent greater injustices. And when you are done with that.... give him a high five from me too.

gossp

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New Relationships - lead with your heart or your head? Posted: 12/13/2005 7:55:55 PM
He was asking if I would get any wrath if I hurt him... Nope

gossp

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New Relationships - lead with your heart or your head? Posted: 12/13/2005 5:23:46 AM
C- Just a few things I want to throw in here. To start with: "an exclusive dating arrangement to facilitate the advancement of the relationship to the potential of marriage" -- That is classic, I like him already. "J - Hurt her and I'll kick your @ss..." -- I am very much so in agreement here. Does this guy realize that if he ever wrongs you there are people in every state of the union and a couple other countries that will beat him on sight? I am personally covering the whole midwest reagion. Cohabitation... um, myself I really don't think I'm going to do that again until I'm married. But that's just me. I would for sure put the breaks on the idea for a good long while, but with your school year schedule in place.... you've got time on your own plan anyways. And Finally: C, you deserve the best, this guy better be able to pull it off.

gossp

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Do women really want a nice, romantic and good man? Posted: 12/13/2005 4:56:08 AM
^^^^^tiny bit wicked, with a slice of mystery, nice, romantic, and good.

gossp

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When does it become too late for the date phone call? Posted: 12/12/2005 9:53:43 PM
"he asks you if you'd like to go out on Saturday, at 8PM" A day and a time..... does a guy really need to call to make sure it was important enough for you to remember. If I made plans with someone only four days in advance and then less than an hour before... when I gave a curtious call to say I'm on my way.... they ditched me.... I'd be rather put off.

gossp

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Do women really want a nice, romantic and good man? Posted: 12/12/2005 9:41:50 PM
maybe a tiny bit wicked though ;) with a slice of mystery ;) I think they look for that.... and hope they find "nice, romantic, and good" along the way. How would one look for nice, romantic, and good anyways?.... every guy here claims to be those things.... some of us have to be dishonest, or just have lousy self concepts. PS: to my friends on here, lets keep the comments as to where I stand to a minimum.... I don't want you to run out and ruin all my chances.

gossp

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Who should pay child support? Posted: 12/9/2005 8:29:51 PM
I hear you... but if you go back and look, I'll just about bet the one person you got into it with... wasn't whinning. I don't think she ever really does.

gossp

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Deadbeats... Posted: 12/9/2005 8:27:52 PM
"Jerry Jerry Jerry"

gossp

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Who should pay child support? Posted: 12/9/2005 8:24:16 PM
As hard as it is to be nasty to a brother in the love of Gibson guitars.... you're talking shit about one of the most grounded and exceptional people I've had the pleasure to become acquainted with. I'm sure she couldn't care less about anything but offering her child a good life.... you seem to care about your soap box as much as anything.

gossp

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Deadbeats... Posted: 12/9/2005 8:15:35 PM
And one more POV: I'm sure my ex would say I'm a deadbeat. I pay a huge ammount of child support (I am the largest part of her income), help her out on top of that constantly, spend all the time I can possibly get with my daughter, own my own home, have a great career and a small business on the side.... but I didn't marry her, and she likes bit**ing... so I'm a deadbeat to anyone she talks to.

gossp

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Deadbeats... Posted: 12/9/2005 7:57:09 PM
Just another POV... I know many people that bit constanly about their "deadbeat" ex's.... but it's not the ex's. Some people are just more prone to biting. If you know any of these people personally, think back to when they were with the person... they were biting about them then.... and they bit about their kids, their families, their jobs.... We all make mistakes, we all begin relationships of some kind that we regret a part of.... but you just became th eperson that is biting about people biting.

gossp

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Who should pay child support? Posted: 12/9/2005 7:05:53 PM
Melissanicole.... "insert general quality"..... priceless. I actually saw one the other day that went something like: "women like tall guys, I'm tall, why can't I get a date?" The big problem is..... other tall guys just started agreeing with him... no one pointed out that it was the bigest waste of 1's and 0's ever.

gossp

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I can't believe I'm becoming my.... Posted: 12/9/2005 7:00:37 PM
My daughter spends a lot of time in the playpen.... in my garage.... in fact, it's the same playpen my father put in his garage for me when I was a kid. And sometimes... we do grease warpaint. I am my father, and it scares the hell out of me.

gossp

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Who should pay child support? Posted: 12/9/2005 6:43:36 PM
Wow, I love a good thread evenly split between the sane and the insane. Having a stepfather pay support is absurd. I can see one possible exception to this... did the stepfather legally adopt?... in such a case, he's signed on to the obligation, as well as the rights. This also brings up a question of what is the biological fathers role? Now husband to mom, but not dad... as another man is paying support and having visitation as the father figure.... I say we move this discussion to the appropriate venue.... "jerry jerry jerry"

gossp

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Dutch treat anyone? Still? Really? Posted: 12/6/2005 6:43:14 PM
So... if the history of dating started with guys buying for galls.... and now galls are paying their own way.... will the progression continue? I could use some free dinners.

gossp

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the X wants to move away Posted: 12/4/2005 8:27:09 AM
I'm in the exact same boat... only looking at a two hour drive to get my daughter.... This is not going to make it easy to transfer her through the week. Women, concieve children in a certain place, give birth to them in that place, and then stay with them there for the first few years of their lives...... what right do you have to take them away from their father who is still in that place? She's trying to move me from having my daughter a lot through the week and the usual every other weekends.... to just the weekends... and taking a ton of travel time out of that. A move that comes with a court battle.

gossp

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what are the first thing ladies notice about there date when they meet Posted: 12/4/2005 8:11:13 AM
Ah, so it's not an attraction thing.... it's a not trusting the guy you are on the date with thing. Classy.

gossp

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what are the first thing ladies notice about there date when they meet Posted: 12/4/2005 8:07:54 AM
I'm really wondering about the hands thing. What's that all about?

gossp

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Should There Be A Single Parents Dating Service? Posted: 11/30/2005 9:13:32 AM
They exist, they are common in fact..... they are no better. I've at least met people and gone out from acquaintances on non single parent sites.... the single parent site I tried... expensive and never gotten an email from anyone that wasn't a scammer and not had any emails replied to.

gossp

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whats the strangest think that made you think of sex? Posted: 11/27/2005 10:15:28 PM
Well, there was once this thread that asked: "whats the strangest think (moron) that made you think of sex?"... and I'll admit, it kindof made me regret that I'm traveling on business and far away from my lady friend.

gossp

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How long do you wait? Posted: 11/23/2005 8:18:28 PM
Wow, someone really doesn't think that's funny.

gossp

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How long do you wait? Posted: 11/23/2005 8:08:05 PM
Because I thought it would be funny?

gossp

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How long do you wait? Posted: 11/23/2005 8:06:49 PM
How do you know they are the one of your dreams before you hop in the sack?

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