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 Author Thread: Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 476 (view)
 
Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 11/22/2009 9:53:39 PM
Hey HPotters i bet money you ate the jizz out of a childless womans pvssy becaus she didnt wash up betwen you and her last fck.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 475 (view)
 
Why don't men date single mothers...the answer
Posted: 11/22/2009 9:49:04 PM

I am all for leasing... buying is not an option though....
You and me both, why buy the pig when you can get the sausage free?
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Mandatory DNA tests at birth?
Posted: 11/22/2009 9:46:19 PM
Try sleeping with men who have a higher opinion of you, then your children wont get denied. Obviously the guy thinks you're trash, why make 2 kids with him?
I dont think that paternity fraud is sooo widespread that everybody is going to be automatically tested at birth. But it should be an option for those who are sleeping with trashy people. Just get the swabs in the delivery room or post partum ward, not hard to do, for those that need such a thing.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 65 (view)
 
A different angle - Social Assistance Programs
Posted: 11/22/2009 9:42:41 PM
The welfare mama's are going to be the experts on assistance why argue with them.

OP, if ntheir not married why would they count his income? They are not a family unit they are playing house.
If she is frauding the government, report it.
If the guy wants to be a provider for her and the child, so what?
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 473 (view)
 
An unofficial look at CS payment amounts.
Posted: 11/22/2009 9:38:35 PM
60 bucks thats like 2 packs of diapers lmao my bra cost more than that.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 296 (view)
 
Back to the topic...? :-)
Posted: 11/20/2009 6:00:35 AM

are you mad?


You just now figured this out? BTW i am Sourness today Sweetness is my alter-ego.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 294 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/20/2009 5:35:00 AM

Now is condoning atheism a bad thing? Come on, are you serious? You're asking us if telling your child to use her brain, telling her to have the courage to not believe in what doesn't make any sense, is a bad thing?

Wow, the pressure from your entourage must be quite extreme to make you wonder about something like that. I'm sorry to hear that you live in a place with no freedoms. You should move to my country, here people are free to think what they will!

I agree using her brain is a good thing. I myself am not an atheist and do a lot of religious rituals on a daily basis, but i think this is good, her using her own brain.

I do live in a place with freedoms. My grandfather fought front lines for my freedoms, i am a proud American. I do not want to move anywhere else. Im sure annoying people exist in Canada as well.

Now on to toilet paper rolls, some say it should hang on top, some say it should hang from the bottom, but i have multiple brand of toilet paper rolls, given to me by different men, and i hang them either way. Dont judge me for it; your toilet paper donor aint around either so you aint nobody 2 talk about it.
A lot of men are wary to get involved withme because of the costsof toilet paper maintenance, it takes a REAL MAN!!!
All you pansies that wont date a woman with Tp, and bvtches that think you something special cuz your TP is all one brand, kiss my rear, kthxbai.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 441 (view)
 
An unofficial look at CS payment amounts.
Posted: 11/20/2009 5:24:15 AM
Child support sounds so confusing, why not save reciepts when one buys stuff for their kids then go half on it?
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Althetic Child, wants to be in soccor, but shared visitation makes that impossible, suggestions?
Posted: 11/20/2009 5:21:34 AM
This really sucks and there doesnt seem to be an easy solution.
It is so sad that 2 adults can not work together for their child. Makes me want to cry.

Ok so why not cough up the extra 100 bucks a month for the karate?
100 bucks for something so valuable, im sure you can come up with it. Use the child support, or ask for charity from a church or something if its that much of a put-out,but yoiu should get it for her.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 134 (view)
 
Religion and sex in dating
Posted: 11/18/2009 6:33:31 AM
Wow Margo, I would give up penis before i gave up my ciggies, Cheeseburgars, and ink.
If i had to narrow my vices, yeah the dvcks gonna go.

To us witches, sexuality is seen as beautiful, essential, a representation of fertility and life even if not doing it for procreation, and part of the life force, and nothing at all to be shameful of. Not that we do iot with anybody or everybody, but it is, in our religion, a good thing not an evil thing or shameful thing.
Of course one should protect against std's and unwanted pregnancies.
But i will still take my cigs and cheeseburgars.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Explaining to a Child why a parent is absent
Posted: 11/18/2009 6:17:19 AM
Taking accountability for actions is a good value to pass on to children.
Perhaps consider encouraging your child to think of marriage as a pre-requisite for child-bearing.

If you are wishing for a car to fall on your babysdaddy, you do need help. Thats extremely unhelathy and sickminded.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Explaining to a Child why a parent is absent
Posted: 11/18/2009 5:42:34 AM

The point of my post of a car falling on him, would be that its easier to explain to a child that a parent has passed on then it is when a parent is still alive and doing very well and just decides to not see his child.


NO . IT. IS. NOT.
Evil thinking!!!
Dont even think like that!!!
When a parent passes there is tremendous anger and grief.
I have been through the lowest depth of hell comforting children that lost a father.
Wishing someone dead, you need therapy.
My daughters bio-dad did the skedaddle when i was pregnant with her.
I told her the truth, i made a poor choice in men, and getting pregnant from a man i wasnt married to.
She understood that, and was OK with that answer.
But when i got married later on and her stepfather died, she has been through anguish and turmoil. Death is not an easy way out. Get some help.


Get over it, tell the kid he chose not to be a parent and dont make a thang out of it.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 262 (view)
 
Homosexual Rights and Marriage Continued.....
Posted: 11/18/2009 5:02:33 AM
I dont think this thread is controversial or diverse enough, we have not even had a good ole Republican vs. Democrat, or pro-life vs. Pro-Choice, or which way the toilet paper roll should hang yet!!! Step it up folks!!!

Waits for banned camp.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
adjuvented or non-adjuvented
Posted: 11/18/2009 4:30:44 AM
Are you aware that these diseases we think have "died out" are thriving and alive and well in many countries, and with immigration can be brought right to your kid?
It has just come to light that in my sons pre-school the child of a Haitian immigrant has diptheria, and infected another child.
If we all stopped vaccinating,m these diseases we think are "long gone" will make a grand come-back.
Dont know ab0ut anyone else but i value my kids life.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 375 (view)
 
An unofficial look at CS payment amounts.
Posted: 11/17/2009 5:32:44 AM
What if the fathers decide to be full time students also, and not produce an income? Then how does bread and bacon get on the table?
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 193 (view)
 
What is sexy about FAT???
Posted: 11/17/2009 5:16:45 AM
A lot of men find bigger women sexy. I know tons of them.
When a radio co-worker of mine premiered fergies "Big girls dont cry", every time he played it he would add "but if big girls Do cry, come cry on my shoulder"!!!
It is a myth that all men only want bone thin women.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Genital piercings (good,bad,curious) what do you think?
Posted: 11/17/2009 5:08:31 AM
I had mine done years ago, and it didnt hurt a bit getting it done, it did make me more sensitive. i have had many piercings, tongue, eyebrow, nostril, septum, labret, industrial, monroe, and helix, and the pvssy piercing and the eyebrow were the only ones that didbnt hurt a bit.
It came out when my husband dived down rather enthusiastically and chipped a tooth.
Wouldnt a penis piercing rip up a womans insides having sex?
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 428 (view)
 
vaccines=autism?????
Posted: 11/17/2009 4:43:01 AM
2 kids in my sons school were just found to have diptheria.

Oh yes, this is a disease "of the past" now isnt it?

Parents dont make the choice not to vaccinate your kids based on the premise that nobody gets these diseases anymore, some immigrants kids just brought it right to my kids school, thanks to Linda i am understanding the dangers of thimerosal, but still think good and hard about wheather you want the chance of your kids catching a disease that could kill them or debilitate their health and abilities.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 230 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/17/2009 4:35:54 AM
Since we have taken a political turn, here is a good C and P on Liberalism:


This lawyer, himself recipient of an Honorary Degree, is obviously opinionated, but to say what he does, in a commencement address a couple of weeks ago, in front of a class of Texas A & M graduates, and especially the faculty, is amazing. I would have loved to have been there just to see the faculty reaction.

Commencement Address (Texas A&M). Date: Thu, 24 Jan 2008 0432 +0000 This should be considered must-reading for every adult in North America. It is extremely rare that anyone speaks the truth like this at any College or High School Commencement Address.

Neal Boortz is a Texan, a lawyer, a Texas AGGIE (Texas A&M), and now a nationally syndicated talk show host from Atlanta. His commencement address to the graduates of this year's A&M class is far different from what either the students or the faculty expected. His views are thought provoking:

"I am honored by the invitation to address you on this august occasion. It's about time. Be warned, however, that I am not here to impress you; you'll have enough smoke blown up your bloomers today. And you can bet your tassels I'm not here to impress the faculty and administration. You may not like much of what I have to say, and that's fine. You will remember it though. Especially after about 10 years out there in the real world. This, it goes without saying, does not apply to those of you who will seek your careers and your fortunes as government employees.

This gowned gaggle behind me is your faculty. You've heard the old saying that those who can - do. Those who can't - teach. That sounds deliciously insensitive. But there is often raw truth in insensitivity, just as you often find feel-good falsehoods and lies in compassion. Say good-bye to your faculty because now you are getting ready to go out there and do. These folks behind me are going to stay right here and teach.

By the way, just because you are leaving this place with a diploma doesn't mean the learning is over. When an FAA flight examiner handed me my private pilot's license many years ago, he said, 'Here, this is your ticket to learn.' The same can be said for your diploma. Believe me, the learning has just begun.

Now, I realize that most of you consider yourselves Liberals. In fact, you are probably very proud of your liberal views. You care so much. You feel so much. You want to help so much. After all you're a compassionate and caring person, aren't you now? Well, isn't that just so extraordinarily special. Now, at this age, is as good a time as any to be a liberal; as good a time as any to know absolutely everything. You have plenty of time, starting tomorrow, for the truth to set in.

Over the next few years, as you begin to feel the cold breath of reality down your neck, things are going to start changing pretty fast... including your own assessment of just how much you really know.

So here are the first assignments for your initial class in reality: Pay attention to the news, read newspapers, and listen to the words and phrases that proud Liberals use to promote their causes. Then, compare the words of the left to the words and phrases you hear from those evil, heartless, greedy conservatives. >From the Left you will hear "I feel." From the Right you will hear "I think." >From the Liberals you will hear references to groups -- The Blacks, the Poor, The Rich, The Disadvantaged, The Less Fortunate. From the Right you will hear references to individuals. On the Left you hear talk of group rights; on the Right, individual rights.

That about sums it up, really: Liberals feel. Liberals care. They are pack animals whose identity is tied up in group dynamics. Conservatives think -- and, setting aside the theocracy crowd, their identity is centered on the individual.

Liberals feel that their favored groups have enforceable rights to the property and services of productive individuals. Conservatives, I among them I might add, think that individuals have the right to protect their lives and their property from the plunder of the masses.

In college you developed a group mentality, but if you look closely at your diplomas you will see that they have your individual names on them. Not the name of your school mascot, or of your fraternity or sorority, but your name. Your group identity is going away. Your recognition and appreciation of your individual identity starts now.

If, by the time you reach the age of 30, you do not consider yourself to be a conservative, rush right back here as quickly as you can and apply for a faculty position. These people will welcome you with open arms. They will welcome you, that is, so long as you haven't developed an individual identity. Once again you will have to be willing to sign on to the group mentality you embraced during the past four years.

Something is going to happen soon that is going to really open your eyes. You're going to actually get a full time job!

You're also going to get a lifelong work partner. This partner isn't going to help you do your job. This partner is just going to sit back and wait for payday. This partner doesn't want to share in your effort, but in your earnings.

Your new lifelong partner is actually an agent; an agent representing a strange and diverse group of people; an agent for every teenager with an illegitimate child; an agent for a research scientist who wanted to make some cash answering the age-old question of why monkeys grind their teeth. An agent for some poor demented hippie who considers herself to be a meaningful and talented artist, but who just can't manage to sell any of her artwork on the open market.

Your new partner is an agent for every person with limited, if any, job skills, but who wanted a job at City Hall. An agent or tin-horn dictators in fancy military uniforms grasping for American foreign aid. An agent for multi-million- dollar companies who want someone else to pay for their overseas advertising. An agent for everybody who wants to use the unimaginable power of this agent's for their personal enrichment and benefit.

That agent is our wonderful, caring, compassionate, oppressive government. Believe me, you will be awed by the unimaginable power this agent has. Power that you do not have. A power that no individual has, or will have. This agent has the legal power to use force, deadly force to accomplish its goals.

You have no choice here. Your new friend is just going to walk up to you, introduce itself rather gruffly, hand you a few forms to fill out, and move right on in. Say hello to your own personal one ton gorilla. It will sleep anywhere it wants to.

Now, let me tell you, this agent is not cheap. As you become successful it will seize about 40% of everything you earn. And no, I'm sorry, there just isn't any way you can fire this agent of plunder, and you can't decrease its share of your income. That power rests with him, not you.

So, here I am saying negative things to you about government. Well, be clear on this: It is not wrong to distrust government. It is not wrong to fear government. In certain cases it is not even wrong to despise government for government is inherently evil. Yes ... a necessary evil, but dangerous nonetheless ... somewhat like a drug. Just as a drug that in the proper dosage can save your life, an overdose of government can be fatal.

Now let's address a few things that have been crammed into your minds at this university. There are some ideas you need to expunge as soon as possible. These ideas may work well in academic environment, but they fail miserably out there in the real world.


First is that favorite buzz word of the media and academia: Diversity! You have been taught that the real value of any group of people - be it a social group, an employee group, a management group, whatever - is based on diversity. This is a favored liberal ideal because diversity is based not on an individual's abilities or character, but on a person's identity and status as a member of a group. Yes, it's that liberal group identity thing again.

Within the great diversity movement group identification - be it racial, gender based, or some other minority status - means more than the individual's integrity, character or other qualifications.

Brace yourself. You are about to move from this academic atmosphere where diversity rules, to a workplace and a culture where individual achievement and excellence actually count. No matter what your professors have taught you over the last four years, you are about to learn that diversity is absolutely no replacement for excellence, ability, and individual hard work. From this day on every single time you hear the word "diversity" you can rest assured that there is someone close by who is determined to rob you of every vestige of individuality you possess.

We also need to address this thing you seem to have about "rights." We have witnessed an obscene explosion of so-called "rights" in the last few decades, usually emanating from college campuses.

You know the mantra: You have the right to a job. The right to a place to live. The right to a living wage. The right to health care. The right to an education. You probably even have your own pet right - the right to a Beemer for instance, or the right to have someone else provide for that child you plan on downloading in a year or so.

Forget it. Forget those rights! I'll tell you what your rights are! You have a right to live free, and to the results of 60% -75% of your labor. I'll also tell you have no right to any portion of the life or labor of another.

You may, for instance, think that you have a right to health care. After all, Hillary said so, didn't she? But you cannot receive healthcare unless some doctor or health practitioner surrenders some of his time - his life - to you. He may be willing to do this for compensation, but that's his choice. You have no "right" to his time or property. You have no right to his or any other person's life or to any portion thereof.

You may also think you have some "right" to a job; a job with a living wage, whatever that is. Do you mean to tell me that you have a right to force your services on another person, and then the right to demand that this person compensate you with their money? Sorry, forget it. I am sure you would scream if some urban outdoorsmen (that would be "homeless person" for those of you who don't want to give these less fortunate people a romantic and adventurous title) came to you and demanded his job and your money.

The people who have been telling you about all the rights you have are simply exercising one of theirs - the right to be imbeciles. Their being imbeciles didn't cost anyone else either property or time. It's their right, and they exercise it brilliantly.

By the way, did you catch my use of the phrase "less fortunate" a bit ago when I was talking about the urban outdoorsmen? That phrase is a favorite of the Left. Think about it, and you'll understand why.

To imply that one person is homeless, destitute, dirty, drunk, spaced out on drugs, unemployable, and generally miserable because he is "less fortunate" is to imply that a successful person - one with a job, a home and a future - is in that position because he or she was "fortunate." The dictionary says that fortunate means "having derived good from an unexpected place." There is nothing unexpected about deriving good from hard work. There is also nothing unexpected about deriving misery from choosing drugs, alcohol, and the street.

If the Liberal Left can create the common perception that success and failure are simple matters of "fortune" or "luck," then it is easy to promote and justify their various income redistribution schemes. After all, we are just evening out the odds a little bit. This "success equals luck" idea the liberals like to push is seen everywhere. Former Democratic presidential candidate Richard Gephardt refers to high-achievers as "people who have won life's lottery." He wants you to believe they are making the big bucks because they are lucky. It's not luck, my friends. It's choice. One of the greatest lessons I ever learned was in a book by Og Mandino, entitled "The Greatest Secret in the World." The lesson? Very simple: "Use wisely your power of choice."

That bum sitting on a heating grate, smelling like a wharf rat? He's there by choice. He is there because of the sum total of the choices he has made in his life. This truism is absolutely the hardest thing for some people to accept, especially those who consider themselves to be victims of something or other - victims o f discrimination, bad luck, the system, capitalism, whatever. After all, nobody really wants to accept the blame for his or her position in life. Not when it is so much easier to point and say, "Look! He did this to me!" than it is to look into a mirror and say, "You S. O. B.! You did this to me!"

The key to accepting responsibility for your life is to accept the fact that your choices, every one of them, are leading you inexorably to either success or failure, however you define those terms.

Some of the choices are obvious: Whether or not to stay in school Whether or not to get pregnant. Whether or not to hit the bottle. Whether or not to keep this job you hate until you get another better-paying job. Whether or not to save some of your money, or saddle yourself with huge payments for that new car.

Some of the choices are seemingly insignificant: Whom to go to the movies with. Whose car to ride home in. Whether to watch the tube tonight, or read a book on investing. But, and you can be sure of this, each choice counts. Each choice is a building block - some large, some small. But each one is a part of the structure of your life. If you make the right choices, or if you make more right choices than wrong ones, something absolutely terrible may happen to you. Something unthinkable. You, my friend, could become one of the hated, the evil, the ugly, the feared, the filthy, the successful, the rich.

The rich basically serve two purposes in this country. First, they provide the investments, the investment capital, and the brains for the formation of new businesses. Businesses that hire people. Businesses that send millions of paychecks home each week to the un-rich.

Second, the rich are a wonderful object of ridicule, distrust, and hatred. Few things are more valuable to a politician than the envy most Americans feel for the evil rich.

Envy is a powerful emotion. Even more powerful than the emotional minefield that surrounded Bill Clinton when he reviewed his last batch of White House interns. Politicians use envy to get votes and power. And they keep that power by promising the envious that the envied will be punished: "The rich will pay their fair share of taxes if I have anything to do with it. The truth is that the top 10% of income earners in this country pays almost 50% of all income taxes collected. I shudder to think what these job producers would be paying if our tax system were any more "fair."

You have heard, no doubt, that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. Interestingly enough, our government's own numbers show that many of the poor actually get richer, and that quite a few of the rich actually get poorer. But for the rich who do actually get richer, and the poor who remain poor ... there's an explanation -- a reason. The rich, you see, keep doing the things that make them rich; while the poor keep doing the things that make them poor.

Speaking of the poor, during your adult life you are going to hear an endless string of politicians bemoaning the plight of the poor So, you need to know that under our government's definition of "poor" you can have a $5 million net worth, a $300,000 home and a new $90,000 Mercedes, all completely paid for. You can also have a maid, cook, and valet, and a million in your checking account, and you can still be officially defined by our government as "living in poverty." Now there's something you haven't seen on the evening news.

How does the government pull this one off? Very simple, really. To determine whether or not some poor soul is "living in poverty," the government measures one thing -- just one thing. Income. It doesn't matter one bit how much you have, how much you own, how many cars you drive or how big they are, whether or not your pool is heated, whether you winter in Aspen and spend the summers in the Bahamas , or how much is in your savings account. It only matters how much income you claim in that particular year. This means that if you take a one-year leave of absence from your high-paying job and decide to live off the money in your savings and checking accounts while you write the next great American novel, the government says you are 'living in poverty."

This isn't exactly what you had in mind when you heard these gloomy statistics, is it? Do you need more convincing? Try this. The government's own statistics show that people who are said to be "living in poverty" spend more than $1.50 for each dollar of income they claim. Something is a bit fishy here. Just remember all this the next time Charles Gibson tells you about some hideous new poverty statistics.

Why has the government concocted this phony poverty scam? Because the government needs an excuse to grow and to expand its social welfare programs, which translates into an expansion of its power. If the government can convince you, in all your compassion, that the number of "poor" is increasing, it will have all the excuse it needs to sway an electorate suffering from the advanced stages of Obsessive-Compulsive Compassion Disorder.

I'm about to be stoned by the faculty here. They've already changed their minds about that honorary degree I was going to get. That's OK, though. I still have my PhD. in Insensitivity from the Neal Boortz Institute for Insensitivity Training. I learned that, in short, sensitivity sucks. It's a trap. Think about it - the truth knows no sensitivity. Life can be insensitive. Wallow too much in sensitivity and you'll be unable to deal with life, or the truth So, get over it.

Now, before the dean has me shackled and hauled off, I have a few random thoughts.

* You need to register to vote, unless you are on welfare. If you are living off the efforts of others, please do us the favor of sitting down and shutting up until you are on your own again.

* When you do vote, your votes for the House and the Senate are more important than your vote for president. The House controls the purse strings, so concentrate your awareness there.

* Liars cannot be trusted, even when the liar is the president of the country. If someone can't deal honestly with you, send them packing.

* Don't bow to the temptation to use the government as an instrument of plunder. If it is wrong for you to take money from someone else who earned it -- to take their money by force for your own needs -- then it is certainly just as wrong for you to demand that the government step forward and do this dirty work for you.

* Don't look in other people's pockets. You have no business there. What they earn is theirs. What you earn is yours Keep it that way. Nobody owes you anything, except to respect your privacy and your rights, and leave you the hell alone.

* Speaking of earning, the revered 40-hour workweek is for losers. Forty hours should be considered the minimum, not the maximum. You don't see highly successful people clocking out of the office every afternoon at five. The losers are the ones caught up in that afternoon rush hour. The winners drive home in the dark.

* Free speech is meant to protect unpopular speech. Popular speech, by definition, needs no protection.

* Finally (and aren't you glad to hear that word), as Og Mandino wrote,

"1. Proclaim your rarity. Each of you is a rare and unique human being.

2. Use wisely your power of choice.

3. Go the extra mile .. drive home in the dark.

Oh, and put off buying a television set as long as you can. Now, if you have any idea at all what's good for you, you will get the hell out of here and never come back.

Class dismissed"
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
single mom's pressured into lesbian sex
Posted: 11/16/2009 12:07:39 AM
Yes sure, lesbians all hang out in front of maternity wards, Toy's R us, the Kmart kids dept., preschools, playgrounds, and family restaurants that serve kids meals, to get a piece of "mommy ass".

Ok seriously, yes i have been hit on by women, both pre and post motherhood.
I dont thinki my maternal status has anything to do with it, they just found me luscious

Just say you dig men and end the convo, easy enough!!!
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Are the cards stacked against me?
Posted: 11/15/2009 11:22:53 PM
Didnt read profiles.So the gym part and the loser men part goes out to Svetlana then.

But still, OP should get a life.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
I saw my ex's new woman/I don't know what I feel
Posted: 11/15/2009 10:38:11 PM
You should feel superior as you stand there and smugly and calmly watch her lose her shit. She must feel inferior as well to act like that.
Obviously you got something goin on if she feels threatend by you.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Are the cards stacked against me?
Posted: 11/15/2009 9:38:23 PM
Yes the cards are stacked against you. You're ex is your sole source of supporting yourself, which means you are still tied to and dependant on him.
Plus you sound shallow and angry.

And what is with knocking the girl in a bikini, Matariki?
I thought the plain chicks knocking the hot chicks went out of style in jr high?
If i had a body like her, i dont, but if i did, i would wear a bikini too.

OP, the gym can only fix certain things. Just because one spends all their time buffing their muscles doesnt meant they are trhe epitome of beauty. You knock big men,m but you look big too. My community is filled with russian immigrants most of the women i could fit into my handbag.

Try getting a job and letting go of your ex's apron strings.


I HAVE MET WAY TO MANY : fat, obese, unemployed, living with mommy and daddy, still married, narcissist, unfit, living with roomates and needy drama kings. Get recent pictures. Stop lying to people. Stop presenting yourself as someone you are not.

Well what attracts those men to you?
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 158 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/15/2009 9:19:26 PM
I am not offended because i live that life OP, as i do not, i am offended because you are living in a glass house and throwing stones.
If you are aware of legitimate abuse/neglect going on, report it. Duh. That simple.
Otherwise what do you care how many kids and daddies anybody else has?
Wheres YOUR baby daddy? Why isnt HE around?
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 165 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/14/2009 2:06:13 AM
I would never ever ever never turn my back on my kids for being gay/lesbian.
Of course i dont aspire for them to be, but if they are, it doesnt change that it is my beloved child. I would invite their partner over for Sunday dinner even.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 43 (view)
 
Well you chose them
Posted: 11/14/2009 2:04:06 AM
Well, we did choose our partners, both the bad ones and good ones.
I have never ranted and raved about my daughters bio-father, simply because i did choose him, at that juncture in my life, to be romantic with and have a baby with.
I did see things i ignored. I did make a mistake getting pregnant so young, and with that particular man.
Kvetching about him wont change that. Whats done is done. I did what i did, i took my lot in life, and chose to go forward building positive energy for myself and child, and now at the ripe old age of 29 i absolutely know what i want in a man, and do not settle for an iota less than what i feeol i deserve and what is right for me.
We do choose. Sometimes good sometimes bad.
Dont dwell in the past, make way for a better future.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 147 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/13/2009 10:18:53 PM

But hey, whatever floats some chics' boats. If you want 6 kids by 6 different losers and the higher risk for STD's that come along with it, be my guest.
So is 6 the maic number here?

So 1 0r 2 or 3 kids with losers is all fine and dandy but 6 is the magic number where the woman is a lean mean baby making machine of a loser whore. Ok, got it.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 138 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/12/2009 12:24:21 AM
I will share my bread and water with you Kat.
Heathens gotta look out for each other.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Tips and Tricks of the Trade
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:30:12 PM
Order takeout or go to a family restaurant, dinner solved. House in chaos, get a friend to pitch in and get it done. Nobody does anything until some order is established. Overhwhelmed with the kids, beg Grandma to intervene for a few hours.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 111 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:27:40 PM
I think Lavey is awesome.
I liked his stance on "loving everybody, and why you shouldnt".
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 135 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:24:01 PM
Harsh but true Soul lady, and i do love you. The chica wasnt wanted by her baby-daddy so feels a need to lash out.
Good thing for "fixing" (what are we dogs here).
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 16 (view)
 
A gift idea for a woman who gives a birth to your child...
Posted: 11/11/2009 9:21:59 PM
How lovely!!!
Jewlry would be nice, roses, and if you can think of anything else special to give her.
My husband got me a gold necklace that said "mom", decorated the house with roises when i got home from the hospital, and then got me a soccer-mom minivan because i couldnt fit an extra kid in my 2 seater.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 142 (view)
 
A Plugged up Toilet, so she packed up and left?! Should I let it go?
Posted: 11/10/2009 6:02:46 AM
If you do let her back, contact childrens services and tell them that they need to place your kids in foster care immediately. If you let her run your home you dont love your kids, plain and simple.

By allowing her to treat your kids that way, you have basically allowed someone to abuse your kids. Aint no pvssy made of gold, not that you were getting any anyways.

Let her fund her own ass-wiping.

And wtf is wrong with her that she can not get her own place?

She didnt love you Or your kids, couldnt even be human enough to be KIND to your kid.

Someone told me kid not to take a shit in thew oilet in my own house, i woulda pushed their head in a toilet.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 75 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:43:21 AM
Your childrens father dont even see or support your kids according to you, and didnt even love you enough to be faithful to you, you must be smokin some good shit to think you are all pious and mighty.
Why do dumb bvtches breed with the same loser repeatedly thinking he will change his mind about them because they keep popping out his kids?
You got 2 kids from the same dude and he still doesnt want you, but think you are morally superior because you let the same loser knock you up n0t once but twice. Guess he figured the ole baby mama is good for a lay when he runs out of younger prettier girls to cavort with?
I see you got jokes.


Now go to work and pay your taxes im running low on pot and got more babies 2 make.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/10/2009 5:29:53 AM

1 Corinthians 13 (New International Version)

Love
1If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.


Yes nothing says love like rape and violence packaged up in a book made to keep the masses "in check".
And all the people killed in the name of God, they were killed for faith hope and love, yes?
I would much rather my girl be an atheist than a nutjob who kills people for not believeing her way.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:41:51 PM
I dont mind paying taxes for the children of these women, someone has to make sure the kids are fed. A child should not be denied food shelter and the basic necessities of life because the mother makes bad life choices.
Sounds like you live in a real ghetto, p[erhaps you sould move to a higher class area.
And while you are judging mothers for having different fathers, you might just be being laughed at because you popped out 2 kids from the same guy who didnt love you.
Did you think if you kept procreating with him he would be forced to stay faithful to you because you popped out a couple kids from him? How did that work for you?
Did you have kids to try and "keep your man"? Now youre getting older, saddled with 2 kids from a man who only used you for a fvck, and you are alone with nothing but bitterness to keep you warm at night?(Btw if a man dont want your ass having a kid won change that). oh am i passing judgement, making unfair assumptions?
After having my first child, i loved motherhood and wanted more kids, and as a single woman, for myelf and my childs sake i held out for a man that wanted to be with me, loved me, and was more than willing to make me his wife and mother of his child. i know, what a tart i am.
Sorry bout that (big grin).
If the women are doing harmful things to tehir kids call childrens services.
Think you got a little gardening to do before you start telling others how to landscape.

BTW, keep up on your STD and AIDS tests, kids might not be the only thing you picked up from the person you chose to reproduce with, and you were not enough to keep him home with you.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 380 (view)
 
vaccines=autism?????
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:31:24 AM
Well i am pro-vaccination but i think Linda is onto something, i am glad to have learned from her, we do need mercury and other poisons out of our babies vaccines.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/8/2009 6:29:47 AM
^^^Yet another judgement.
Guarantee I pay way more in taxes than most.
That is, when i am not busy being a 2 baby-daddy jezebel, morally inferior to the w9manb who is so much moire enlightnedn than the rest, as she got polayed by the sdame loser TWICE amd diodnt have the sense to seek out a higher quality man for procre4ation.
I owned my bad choices and rectified them.
I have also made better choices than most, and enjoy the results and success of my choices.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 80 (view)
 
Christmas is coming - how do you deal with Santa and your ex?
Posted: 11/7/2009 10:33:34 PM
Will the children be happy when they get these presents?
If so, thats all that matters.
By nickel and diming with your ex, you are denigrating the very meaning of the holiday season.
Gifts are not the only reason for holidays.

To simplify things, you buy your gifts, he buys his.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 159 (view)
 
Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:48:38 PM
There are variables to consider.
How long has she been sober?
Has she recovered or is she in the process of recovery where relapse is still probable?
Some former users can be very beautiful and spiritually deep souls, having overcome the addictions in their life.
Proceed with a LOT of caution.
If she shows any signs at all of being unstable or relapsing, toss the fish back.

I used drugs in my youth, I have 11 years sober. I have a younger sister who has been lost to drugs. nowadays i probably wouldnt even recognize a rock or a line if one dropped on my head from the sky. I do not associate with drug users, have zero chance of going back to it, and drugs just simply have no place in my life.

So she might be worth of a chance.

On the flip side, i can tell you from my experience as a former user that people who use are very selfish, sketchy, volatile, bizarre, unpredictable, and self absorbed. They usually hang out with other junkies. They dont care who they hurt as long as they get their high.
I blew off college classes that my family was paying good money for. I broke promises to my beloved grandfather. I lie and hurt him. I sold my grandmothers antique silverware set and engagement ring that she had left me on her passing, that could been a lovely family heirloom for my children.
I started fights, and got so blacked out i wouldnt remember how my nose had been broken when i came out of my stupor.
I would pick a fight with anyone who looked at me funny.



if she is fully recovered and is a nice person who had left that crapola in the past, sure.
But if she has not yet put it all behind, RUN LIKE A MOTHERFVCKER.


good Luck.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Multiple children by multiple partners
Posted: 11/7/2009 7:02:49 PM
My kids have different bio-fathers, so i guess i fall in the "trashy hoe" category.


Why do people do it? My two are same father oldest is 11 yrs old and my 6 month old.
So how is having kids by the same guy that didnt love you enough to be faithful to you any morally different?



I know of one woman where I used to live, on kid number 7 father number 7 does not know who the fathers of the kids are either. But it seems this happens a lot, multiple children in a family where each has a different father, how do you explain to the kids?

You have different fathers. Not that hard.



Why would someone knowing the person has this many kids with different fathers go ahead and even have sex with the person knowing this? Aren't especisally the men afraid of being on the hook for a child they may not want? Like Duh, if you can't tell what they are like with 7 kids all different men, then there is something wrong.

why would a guy want a woman who would reproduce with the same loser over and over?



I feel its not fair to the kids at all. If my mother or father for that matter had kids all over the place, I think I would lose respect for them.

perhaps your kids may not end up respecting you for sleeping with the same man who did not love you enough to stay commited to you and procreating with him not once but twice.



Why did i do it?
Because i was an irresponsible teen and got pregnant from a man who didnt want kids, and didnt protect myself.
I later fell in love and got married and had a planned wanted child with my spouse. I had this brilliant mindflash that if i wanted more kids i should do it with someone who loved me and wanted me to bear his children, not repeatadly pop out kids from a guy who didnt want me or want a family.

But are women that have 2 or 3 or 4 kids by the same lose any better?
I see women both in real life and here on pof lament how they have 2 3 4 5 or 6 kids with g man who is unemployed, was a cheater, abusive, etc, sorry they look just as retarded or maybe even more so than the woman who complains of loser ex's, but yet she still let him blow his jizz in her.

Your ex sounds like a real winner, you have talked bad about him on the forum, so if you picked that guy to get up in your uterus are you really in a lofty position to judge another mother for her choices?
Darling your house is made of glass...........so put them stones down. You dont give 2 craps about the kids welfare, you just want to judge other women, to make yourself feel better about your own choice in a man perhaps.
You are dismissed.


Clean your own backyard before you go pointing out the weeds in others yards, chica.


I feel its not fair to the kids at all. If my mother or father for that matter had kids all over the place, I think I would lose respect for them.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:13:01 PM
Thanks for the replies. I have had my cell phone turned off for like 2 days so it wouldnt rong off the hook. Lint, i have read the Satanic bible as well some
time ago and yes it is better than what these people are wanting our kids to read.

Lorelie, yes the teacher was out of place, it is not a private religious school so not sure why she felt compelled o call me and ask if i was "aware" that my daughter was an atheist.
My family is haraguing me, (not that they are exemplerery catholics), my jewish mother in law is afraid for her soul, and her bio-father is one of those AA born again christians, (yes they are building a relationship, but i think being absent from my first month of pregancy up to she ws 10 years old counts as being a wee tiny bit estranged), oh my husbands sister got word from mother in law no she is reciting scriptures on my voicemail.
what are they so afraid of? Losing a sheep from the pack? Why do others CARE to begin with? More room in "heaven" for them.
got my marshmallows
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 274 (view)
 
An unofficial look at CS payment amounts.
Posted: 11/7/2009 3:03:22 AM
Val, why? 24 hours would have been too much time spent on that dude.. Was his dvck made of gold?
See ladies, if we dont hook up with losers, we wont have to worry about child support or lack thereof when we bear children.
And on the flipside, men, if you rubber up, or commit to any kids you choose to have, you wont have "the evil women" asking you to (gasp) help support your own offspring.

a lil off topic: Bout 2 weeks ago a young man ahead of me in line at Walgreens was buying condoms, as i was a lil tipsy (it was fantasy fest) i wished him a very nice night with a wink and smile, he laughed and said "gotta be safe, lady, gotta be safe".
And this young man was probably 18 or 19, maybe 20.
What got me though, was the cashier asked for his ID to purchase the rubbers. What in the heck for? Would she (or walgreens rather) rather have a unwanted pregnancy, have this young man saddled with child support, and potentially a fatherless child?
He was doing the right thing, buying rubbers, much props to him, even if he was under 18 he has the right to have access to birth control.
rather than just carelessly casting his seed and letting the fate f his fatherhood fall in the hands of some evillllllllllll women who might have had the audacity ti want him to support that cast seed. Ugh i gotta write walgreens about that it made me hot under the collar.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Baby loves every food I've given him!!
Posted: 11/7/2009 2:23:49 AM
Do you have Albertsons in your area?
I used to get loads of Gerber pureed spinach jars there, when i was a career mom and dint have time for making our own baby food.
Kids definately have preferences. Some are picky some are not, but try to feed a kid something they dont like is futile, and it will end up spat right back at ya.
My son loathes of fish and seafood and will projectile spit it across the room if it goes into his mouth. Hope he gets used to it, we live on a tropical island and if a big storm hits us and were outta electricity we will have to live off fish lobster and shrimp, caught by our own hands.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:40:48 PM
Great perspective ladies.
Though i admit i taught her the word atheist, and told her to proudly use the word with no shame if she doesnt believe.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Sex...Hurts?
Posted: 11/6/2009 7:35:56 PM
If he is pounding your cervix of course sex will hurt.
But does he know it hurts?
You will need to instruct him on how to make love to you without causing you pain.
I im super aroused i can take it deep, but if im not near climax i cant.
I have had 2 kids vaginally, i would think i would be able to handle deeper thrusting, but it still hurts if the baby-condo gets tapped too roughly.
Try getting on top where you can control the penetration.
Or have him lay on top of you and you verbally direct him on how you want him to do it, telling him when to be slow and when its ok to go harder.
Are you doing it from the back? sometimes that position hurts.
Doing it doggy i have tought my ovaries and eggs were gonna come flying out my mouth and land across the room.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Condoning Atheism.
Posted: 11/6/2009 6:51:09 PM
Some Jehovahs Witnesses recently left a copy of bible stories for children on my doorstep.
So i thought okkkk, i guess thats nice of them, spirituality is good for children, even though i have recently took initiation into the Dianic tradition and left Abrahamic religion behind, and normally do not care for the door to door religion salespeople.

So i handed my daughter the book, and told her why not read it out loud to her little brother, so they can both enjoy it.
Silly me, i thought thew book would be filled with sweet little things like "Jesus loves the children of the word" and stuff like that.
So my daughter approached me warily, book in hand, and said that the book is scary and she doesnt like it and that it will make Charles cry, she looked like she wanted to cry herself.

So i went through the book, it was filed with SO CALLED CHILDRENS STORIES of rape, murder, violence, torture, snakes, jealousy, bigotry, hatred, and sending out a big ole message that anyone who doesnt believe in one rigid way is "BAD" and thus deserves whatever atrocities they get.
So i told he her book is just a fiction book, and a very bad evil book at that.
She asked me seriously "I thought God loved people", i was like yeah i thought so to,
She asked "do we HAVE to believe in him"?
So i told her of course not.
She says will i go to hell?
I told her an atheist doesnt believe in hell thus thats a moot point.
She asked if she can be an atheist, i told her of course she can.
She seems happy with this.
My child is not A SHEEP. A leader, not a follower. Couldnt be MORE proud. If next week she wants to be a Buddhist, Jew, Wiccan, or Taoist, or go back to Catholicism, thats fine also. Long as nobody is sacrificing animals or hurting others, do as ye will.

Oh boy im getting a backlash though.
Is condoing atheism really all that awful?
I wolud prefer her to take a more spiritual path, but i amnot her and she is not me, thus i give my loving permission for her to believe in whe wants to.

I have tried to discuss this with family and close friends, but ended up bombarded by everyone from my mother in law from from the teacher to her estranged bio-father on how im poisioning her by telling her it is ok tio be an atheist.


IMO, the bible stories she has been exposed to are far more poisionious.
Yeah every kid loves a good tale of rape and murder before bed.
Sweet dreams honey!!!!!
Why not just pass out porn and the Satanic bible while at it/ couldnt be any WORSE than what the Christian soldiers have passed out.

Does anyone else think the bible is a disgusting book not for for children whatsoever?
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 353 (view)
 
vaccines=autism?????
Posted: 11/4/2009 12:49:43 AM
Linda, despite our differing opinions on vaccines causing autism, i admire your devotion to your little son. I wish you and him many blessings and to walk a path of love and blessings.
I know you love him with all your soul and being, and again i dont mean to come off as un-empathetic to what you and what he has gone through, give the darling boy a hug for me.
 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 376 (view)
 
satan again?
Posted: 11/3/2009 9:22:36 PM

My mother had given us a Bible when my son was born. I don't usually use it because it is one of those huge 'Family Bibles". In it I found several pages of 'things to say to a person who says...', when you are trying to bring someone to the truth..
In other words, a handy pocket reference guide on how to proselytise, which is very offensive and presumptious and just a plain asinine thing to do, and which gives Abrahamic religions a bad rap. And just whose "truth" is it?
I am happy to have found it and have found it very useful when confronted with this subject.
The subject of "is being Wiccan a sin? Yes, please do come save me.


Particularly those who believe their deeds are enough. They don't understand that faith is the ticket. Not deeds. Not need. Also when they believe that if they have a good heart it doesn't matter what they worship. A fatal error.

According to whom? Where did you get this information on what the ticket is?
Are you a prophet? Did you die, go find out what the ticket is, and come back to life to enlighten us? Or did you just hear it that book full of violence rape murder, tales of hotmscary places and such, that has been used an excuse for hatred bigotry and killing of witches/iother religions that dont believe "your way"???
So I can go kill people, commit a bunch of sins, but long as i believe in the hot scary place and the dude that nailed himself to a cross 'its all good"? Yes?


So is being Wiccan a sin? And why so darling?


 sweetnessinlove
Joined: 6/26/2008
Msg: 46 (view)
 
I need some help and advice, please.......
Posted: 11/3/2009 7:13:09 PM
Pick your self esteem up and believe that you are worthy of a good man.
Staying with dudes like this.......unemplyed for 10 years,leaves you for another woman, treats you like garbage, oh hell no sistah make like Aretha Franklin and demand some R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Cant change the past i know, but dont make this future mistake.
You dont have to be model thing, drop dead gorgeous, Harvard/Yale graduate to attract a quality man. Confidence, love.

Im fat, have a fvcked up broken nose, stutter, have a pregnancy stretched tummy, have some epic mood swings, im far from perfection, but when i tell myself i am fabulous and deserve niothing less than the best, i get the best! if you think you are the ultimate queen bee, even if you're far from the standard of beauty, men are on it likes bees to honey, GOOD men too.

Start saying affirmations, get some new lipstick, buy some sexy lingerie, take a martial arts classw, pursue a hobby that you love, pamper yourself a bit each day,develop that confience and you wotn ever be stuck with another loser
 
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