To the OP - I wonder... which is more important to you - a man you like who can make you laugh and feel special... or his bank account?

Unless hes got a genuine disability, or has been looking after kids/been a carer etc, then 11 years out of work shows "Not enough effort" in my opinion.

Nobody is unemployable.

Convictions become "spent" under rehabilitation of offenders act for precisely that reason. You can go to college on various schemes for the unemployed to gain qualifications and you can also do assertiveness/confidence/CV/interview skills courses for free in most areas via the job centre.

Not to mention volunteering/charity work to build a reference and skills/experience.

Someone who is jobseeking should be able to fill most of the day mon-fri with meaningful job searching, retraining or voluntary work with EASE!!!.

In this guys defense (I mean it's only fair as he's not here to defend himself)....

Maybe he is able to work, but just needs a confidence boost or a push in the right direction.

I would imagine anyone who uses the phrase "unemployed, at the moment" instead of "£8k pa for nothing, sweet!" is someone who isn't too proud of the situation they've found themselves in.

It is possible to be very intelligent and able bodied and still have a legit reason to claim.

As far as I'm aware there isn't a time limit on the length of time you can claim benifits... I know of people who have never worked a day in there life, one who is in his 30s and takes great pride in being a lay about, lives at home with his mum, smoking and drinking his dole money away.... and one couple I know of claim over £500 a week all there kids have grown up and left home....., once again never having worked.... but know every little angle to get more money out of the social....

"At the moment" is a well used phrase by people who really mean "never gonna happen!".

. Not only to you & I , but I imagine to most other people. So what exactly is the point in asking and starting this thread ? Why not just ask the man directly ? There may be a good reason . Or is that a bit too straightforward .

I know several decent, wonderful males who are crap fathers, but excellent role models for their offspring.

Equally, I know several decent, wonderful women who are crap mothers, but who are excellent role models for their offspring.

Off Topic, but as a fellow Witch, I am ashamed of your attitude. What happened to following the philosophy of "Do as you will so long as you harm none"? By your words, you are harming a considerable number of people, myself included! You are not only dishonouring The Craft, but you are also dishonouring the Spirits. May they smile upon you and those of your heart - because my word you seem like you need it! .

MUCH better than when he was a pup, and would stalk me from his secret hiding places, and try to kamikaze me with a leap-attack onto my back! .

As with humans, all animals have their own little quirks and traits. You don't say how old your dog is, what breed, or when she chooses to poke you...

yes, that is how they get the milk from their mother. so it is, i am sure, like sucking your thumb-a comfort method .

rolls eyes, how very sad, pin on your poppy that was probably made in china by some poor child in some kind of sweat shop factory and follow the rest of the sheep bbbaaaahhhhhh! .

I am nervous, scared of saying the wrong thing. .

i used to have a mate that was known as "21 cents"

a cuppa coffee cost 21 cents; if she accepted a cuppa then they knew they were set up for the night. .

especially when time is limited, she would like to see you, and spend some of her limited time in your company or on the phone. What a compliment she is paying you .

I don't recall seeing government officials selling poppies. Usually it's some old bloke who's seen horrors that i could never imagine.

I'll happily wear one of his poppies..

you really think these men lost their lives for our protection .

I'm really not in a position to opine upon whether or not The Guardian lies. But that article certainly does not say "Those boys are born and trained to be ghurkas (sic) as soon as they can walk ............"
Your final line is irrelevant. .

Are you sure it's not Jack Daniels? .

It is not a modern phenomena either and I am sure the resident herbalist on these forums, i.e. Technopunk could back me up here by telling us a little history of ancient ways of bringing on abortions through ingesting certain herbs. .

Just food for thought, how many spaniards did they offend with the character MANUEL? .

I don't do granny bashing .........sadly,but at least i can back up what i'm saying .

This is why we have forums,as we all have our own opinions but some people can't accept others opinions.Well i am very opinionated as will carry on being such........

What I was trying to say is when I was married I could go out without a fear of leaving my child with a stranger or bothering friends, .

his dinner would be cooked, he would have his bed time story and felt secure. And I could come home at the times I am pleased. .

WOMEN, with BIG BOOBIES, FIGHTING !!!

Oh it is so hard to watch .

If you insist your boobs are bigger than mine then cool.Anything to make the old gal happy.

Grow up,you're so boring .

My style of writing may disguise the fact that I speak like a wurzel. Where as I may wax with ponderous flatulence when to the written word I recourse, tis much a thynge more base in me when I give voice, and that which is heard is of a plain speaking man who soundeth as a humble peasant..

Anyway,sticks and stones....and your age i thought you'd rise above it
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Seeing as everything i say you have to find fault with Orzula .

34F isnt the same size as 38G .

You shouldn't need to show lots of clevage Alma, and I hope you don't. Though I would enjoy looking, it would lower you in my estimation..

I doubt you have ever had boobs this size so until you do you have absolutely no idea .

Strapless dresses don't have straps but they do have a front on and do cover my chest but do show cleavage.T.

i don't really have choice when it comes to my boobs poking eyes out...

My dresses are mostly strapless,

Will men man up and take a stand?.