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2EquallyYoked

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Msg: 43 (view)

Do you feel you Do More in a relationship - Or does your SO do more for you? Posted: 11/21/2009 12:12:09 PM
It would be like giving a gift to someone or volunteering to do work for charity strictly to get praise for the gift or good works, rather than doing those things with the true intent of selflessness. That fad went out in America some years ago. We are now living in the land of the free and "the ME". The latest generation has been way too spoilt and likely will be our demise . Sad really when someone's life is not worth much more than an Ipod.

2equallyyoked

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Are all expectations relationship killers? Posted: 11/13/2009 6:58:50 PM
Your posts really do sound like it's "all about you" even though you say it's not. JMO.

2equallyyoked

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Do relationships go in a straight line anymore? Posted: 11/13/2009 3:43:52 PM
Most relationships now go in circles.....as their swirling their way down the commode.

2equallyyoked

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Are disproportionate age ranges requirements a red flag? Posted: 11/13/2009 3:37:18 PM
Why should people care or criticize what other people want. Whether it be age, size, color...whatever? Just find people that have the same beliefs as you and stop worrying about what other people do. It's really their cross to bear whether they may be limiting their pool of dating choices, or not. Can't control what other people want. You can only control what/who want.

2equallyyoked

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Are all expectations relationship killers? Posted: 11/13/2009 3:11:24 PM
Feelings of unmet expectations = not compatible. Find someone you match better with.

2equallyyoked

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What do you make of this? Is this BPD? Posted: 11/9/2009 11:03:31 AM
Sounds to me like he already has shown no desire to make any changes for you, yet somehow you think he's going to. I'm sure he may have some good qualities, but you obviously don't like the bad ones very much, and they are not likely to get better (most likely worse). I'd be spending my energy on something more fruitful.

2equallyyoked

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Our 15 year long relationship ends and he meets someone on here and starts a family in 9 MONTHS! Posted: 11/4/2009 8:12:53 PM
sounds like he was comfortable with your relationship but was too lazy to get out of what he really didn't want. but did so when forced. i'd say if you're not talking marriage in a relationship after a few years it's not likely gonna happen.

2equallyyoked

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why only date good looking prima donna's? Posted: 10/30/2009 8:05:42 PM
Wow... this thread is really, really old. If I was to guess, the OP was probably complaining cause the only men that were responding to her were also 5 ft , 250+ pounds and not the pretty boys. LOL. Seek your reasonable equal and they are much easier to catch and hang onto long-term.

2equallyyoked

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Is Online dating ruining it for the real world of dating? Posted: 10/24/2009 5:36:20 PM
I found most people online to be flaky, extremely picky, and not very serious about really getting to know anyone. I also found IRL I'm able to attract better quality of women since they are seeing my personality firsthand and not judging me on something as silly as the penmanship or quality of my written profile or email.

2equallyyoked

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Guys, how long can you do this?? Posted: 10/18/2009 6:08:13 PM
There are men that associate sex with love. It comes with sexual maturity. For some it never happens. But those types are just in life for their own gain.

2equallyyoked

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Single men with no kids Posted: 9/21/2009 8:00:06 PM
Sorry to say, but stereotyping is exactly what you're doing. Every man's situation is going to be different. And you'll truly never know why a man has never been married or does not have kids until you get to know him and find out. Maybe he had to take care of a sick parent for years before dating. Maybe he can't have kids cause his boys don't work. There could be a plethora of reasons. I've learned it's best to never judge anyone's situation till you know them better and then make that call.

2equallyyoked

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What's the reward for Chivalry? Posted: 9/5/2009 7:59:16 PM
It's not true chivalry if you're looking for a reward.

2equallyyoked

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Serial monogamist vs. never been in a relationship. Posted: 9/5/2009 5:32:59 PM
Procrastinate - Sounds like your lack of success was possibly because you were chasing women out of your league in the looks dept.

2equallyyoked

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Age and Children Posted: 9/1/2009 5:21:54 PM
^^^ yes, but when you're older you're more likely to be able to afford the help....:)

2equallyyoked

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Age and Children Posted: 9/1/2009 4:21:38 PM
In the past, most women didn't work so it kinda made more sense to have children at a younger age. Nowadays, since both men and women have a need to establish their careers first, it just make sense to choose to have them later in life. I believe it also gives a much more stable environment for children. They are less likely to be impacted by the poor, naive choices of immaturity.

2equallyyoked

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Serial monogomist vs never been in a relationship. Posted: 9/1/2009 3:31:44 PM
I believe you should never judge a person until you truly know their circumstance. You may be missing out on some wonderful people by judging from a distance.

2equallyyoked

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When is it ok to call? Posted: 8/25/2009 4:52:31 PM
I agree, there are no rules in dating. So what, are you going to be arrested by the dating police if you don't follow these so called rules. Like brad said above, just be yourself and do what you want. If what you do scares the guy off... so what? guess it just wasn't meant to be or he wasn't interested. at least then you can be spending your time finding someone who is.

2equallyyoked

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Frozen during first phone conversation Posted: 8/25/2009 4:37:05 PM
Sound like you both experienced a bit of "phone fright". No biggie. When it happens, you can use it to your benefit by just laughing about it and using it as the start of your conversation. Like saying: "Isn't it silly when people have nothing to say they start talking about the weather. So how's your weather...lol?" Laughter is always a good ice-breaker. The key to good conversation is listening. That's why God gave us two ears and one mouth. Listening for key nouns in what people say. So, for instance, the key word from the previous sentence was "weather". You can then ask questions like: "So what kind weather do you like, hot or cold?" or "What is your favorite season?". If he says hot or summer, you can then ask something like: "So where is your favorite warm place to go on vacation?"...you get the idea. Also asking open ended questions where it hard to give just a yes or no response. I usually find first conversations to best be focused on simple things about them, like: where they're from, their job, their family, pets, ect. Then asking what kind of things they enjoy doing with their time off and what kind of foods they like. Gives some good ideas of where to maybe go for a first meetup. I would also try to keep the phone conversation short so you also have something to talk about when you actually meetup. I find it's better to meet in person as soon as possible, as it's too difficult to pickup a person's true personality over the phone.

2equallyyoked

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Decoding the Female Language Posted: 8/17/2009 6:47:04 PM
^^^ However, I did find a few potential nice, quality engagement rings so far.

2equallyyoked

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Decoding the Female Language Posted: 8/17/2009 6:41:40 PM
I've been through about 1000 boxes of Cracker Jack's, but I've yet to find that elusive secret woman decoder ring. Guess I'll have to munch start on munch the next 1000 boxes. burp

2equallyyoked

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Is technology contributing to the rise of singles? Posted: 8/10/2009 4:30:18 PM
It's not the technology itself that's the problem, but how we use it. You need a balance between technology and real face-to-face socialization. If you go to Starbuck's on a Fri night and go sit at a table with your laptop and your Ipod in your ears and call it socializing with other people, there's a problem.

2equallyyoked

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how long would you wait Posted: 8/10/2009 4:18:19 PM
I guess it would depend on what was said in the conversation that provoked her to hang up. Was something said that you knew would push one of her hot buttons? Or was she just throwing a childish tantrum because she was not getting her way in the conversation? If I felt I may have said something to set them off I'd call them back. But if they were just continuing to be childish every time we had a conversation I'd have reconsider their friendship. That's not very friendly behavior towards me so I'd have to think they don't value my friendship much.

2EquallyYoked

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Attraction on here...pics first or profile? Posted: 8/9/2009 7:25:07 PM
I agree with Lambro. The thumbnail pics are way too small to initially go on. I have to click on the profile to really see the pics (maybe I have bad eyes). And since I'm there anyway I will usually read their profile...unless it's a 4 page novel. :)

2equallyyoked

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Wish me luck..... Posted: 8/9/2009 2:20:00 PM
Why do you allow this guy to get under your skin after only one date? Who cares? You just learned he was not the one for you. Better than getting dumped much later.

2equallyyoked

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Do women cook anymore?? Posted: 8/6/2009 7:12:35 PM
Wow...seems this thread has been OVERCOOKED to a burning crisp with all the high-octane flames thrown in it. LOL.

2equallyyoked

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In a relationship, Hanging out with Opposite sex friends makes SO feel uncomfortable Posted: 7/31/2009 6:46:56 PM
All in all, it comes down to people with different views. Neither is right or wrong. You're best off just dating and getting into relationships with those that have similar views as you to keep things peaceful.

2equallyyoked

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For a Laugh- What movie would you base your life on as of now? Posted: 7/31/2009 5:05:59 PM
The 40yr Old Virgin.

2equallyyoked

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Why do men keep stating, I want a woman who knows what she wants? Posted: 7/31/2009 4:53:45 PM
I think most (men or women) that write that they "want someone that knows what they want" in their profiles is because they had been burned from their past relationships with wishy-washy, indecisive parthers that come into the relationship not knowing, or not COMMUNICATING, what they wanted. They are the types that think their partner should be a 'mind reader' and then get all bent out of shape when they didn't figure it out. I think it boils down what these types are wanting is just someone who can COMMUNICATE what they want in a relationship and not string people along. I also think there are a couple of types of "wants" people come up with. "Life Experience Wants" - those that are determined from previous life experiences, i.e., wants learned from past relationships and/or life. And two, "Dream Wants" - ones that they THINK they want but never have ever experienced. They think they want them, but sometimes after they experience them, they realize they didn't really want them after all. Those are the killers.

2equallyyoked

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Partner to share which bills? Posted: 7/27/2009 4:23:12 PM
Pretty simple. I think you should pay what any other 'roomate' living in her household would have to.

2equallyyoked

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If he says he's into you, why does he still look at other profiles? Posted: 7/27/2009 3:44:09 PM
I'm guessing maybe he felt that he was lucky enough to find you, he's thinking maybe he'll be even luckier to find someone even better. The whole "never happy enough with what you have" mentality that so prevalent in our society today.

2equallyyoked

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Leagues do not exist Posted: 7/27/2009 3:32:19 PM
Leagues are pretty much the same as "social classes". And yes they certainly do exist. Not that there aren't exceptions to any rule, but for the most part people prefer to associate with people in the same, or higher, social class as themselves.

2equallyyoked

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Question for all the older dudes Posted: 7/18/2009 4:21:00 PM
I don't know as I would date anyone that much younger in the first place. More than 10 yrs diff would just be too weird. -/+5yrs is best.

2equallyyoked

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Older Guy Posted: 7/17/2009 7:31:47 PM
Just because the age difference isn't illegal doesn't make it immoral and a bit disgusting . This man is just taking advantage of this young girl. And she's to immature and naive to know any better. Plus, the fact he's married. Wrong, just plain wrong...IMHO.

2equallyyoked

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Both insist on paying for a towed car Posted: 7/15/2009 3:05:05 PM
Going to have to agree that she should pay for her mistake. It would be one thing if she was not warned by you. She needs to own and learn from her mistakes.

2equallyyoked

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Have 50's era men become obsolete? Posted: 7/15/2009 2:22:33 PM
The rules of dating and courtship were more concrete back in the 50's so men and women knew how to handle themselves. Nowadays the rules seem to change with the wind daily so nobody has a clue how to conduct themselves anymore.

2equallyyoked

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Mind Boggling Posted: 7/15/2009 2:13:10 PM
most likely he found someone else he thought to be better.

2EquallyYoked

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I have had an intimate relationship with a married man. will he come back? Posted: 7/15/2009 11:55:33 AM
You know how the ole' saying goes - you reap what you sow.

2EquallyYoked

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Emotionally Unavailable = Scared Posted: 7/15/2009 10:04:06 AM
^^^Hmm... just cause you experienced one bad apple...doesn't make them all rotten.

2equallyyoked

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Settling for somebody your own age? Posted: 7/8/2009 5:39:48 PM
I believe the larger the age gap the odds go up for it not working out long-term. But to each their own. My personal preference is to stay closer to my own age.

2equallyyoked

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Why do we women do this to ourselves? Posted: 7/7/2009 5:24:44 PM
I guess the fear you won't be able to find someone else. It's human nature to take the path of least resistance.

2equallyyoked

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How to get threads not to show up on profile? Posted: 7/7/2009 4:41:17 PM
trying to figure out this silly quote stuff

2EquallyYoked

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When are you most happiest? Posted: 7/6/2009 11:12:55 AM
When I'm asleep...LOL.

2EquallyYoked

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are some girls too caught up in looking for the perfect man? Posted: 7/6/2009 10:59:54 AM
A person's imperfections is what makes them memorable and interesting, complete perfection can be quite boring.

2equallyyoked

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Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time? Posted: 7/1/2009 7:30:33 PM
Absolutely possible. But it's called self-control and morals to only choose only one to be with. If we acted on every thought and impulse going on in our heads life wouldn't be very pretty.

2equallyyoked

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Too Busy With Work and Kids To Date.... Posted: 7/1/2009 7:15:55 PM
Everything anyone does in life is a choice. I believe anyone can have a balance with kids, jobs and dating IF they CHOOSE to do so. It's probably healthier to allow yourself a balance and not get too stressed or focused on any one part of your life.

2EquallyYoked

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Decent guys: are they all either taken or gay? Posted: 6/28/2009 1:32:23 PM
Most decent men run from women that stereotypically put ALL men down. It voices that she has issues and that she will never be happy no matter what.

2equallyyoked

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Define what a Good Woman is please. Posted: 6/22/2009 5:11:14 PM
I believe the following are good characteristics of a person - man or woman. Moral Intelligent Gracious Gentle Kind Loving Encouraging Selfless Compassionate Passionate Humble Honest Loyal Reliable Forgiving Patient Exhibits Self-Control Independent Prudent Nurturing

2equallyyoked

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If a person's not interested in me, it's their loss! Really? Posted: 6/21/2009 6:33:25 PM
I agree... you can't lose what you don't really want in the first place, now can you?

2equallyyoked

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Missed Something in Translation of Manglish? Posted: 6/21/2009 6:27:27 PM
Blame his parents. Probably never taught him any manners.

2equallyyoked

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Hitting a dry spell? Posted: 6/20/2009 4:11:38 PM
Guys your age are going to be a bit flaky. Most don't really want to settle down in a relationship and probably don't take on-line dating too seriously. So, I'd say to just go out and have fun with your girlfriends and meet men in real life.

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