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trailgirl

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Eye Contact From Women Posted: 8/15/2009 1:31:11 AM
to me, your pics look like you graduated the "Mystery Method" course

trailgirl

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Why us patience a significant factor? Posted: 8/2/2009 3:41:24 PM
because attraction isn't 100% physical - so I want to get to know him and ask relevant questions to see if there's a point in meeting. I could drool over his picture but have completely opposite communication styles. I'm not on here for free meals or drinks, so only meet if there's actual potential on both sides.

trailgirl

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Women who request respect. Posted: 7/21/2009 12:06:24 AM
Khyrene said it very succinctly, OP. You rush to judge women by appearance (don't judge a book...) Some of your most conservatively dressed women done leather and whips at night.

trailgirl

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100:1 Posted: 7/15/2009 3:00:31 AM
That's so funny.... Its unfortunate...because I would bet there are lots of girls that come on here just for the attention...and the 1 in 6.87 billion chance that Brad Pitt sends them a message :P For me what came to mind was "I would bet there are lots of" guys "that come on here just for the attention...and the 1 in 6.87 billion chance that" Angelina Jolie "sends them a message"

trailgirl

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As man reflects on his life Posted: 7/15/2009 2:32:40 AM
I got a kick out of this joke and thought I'd share it... Older Women Are So Reasonable. AFTER BEING MARRIED FOR 40 YEARS, I TOOK A CAREFUL LOOK AT MY WIFE ONE DAY AND SAID, '40 YEARS AGO WE HAD A CHEAP APARTMENT, A CHEAP CAR, SLEPT ON A SOFA BED AND WATCHED A 10-INCH BLACK AND WHITE TV, BUT I GOT TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT WITH A HOT 20-YEAR-OLD GIRL". NOW I HAVE A$1,500,000.00 HOME, A $45,000.00 CAR, NICE BIG BED AND PLASMA SCREEN TV, BUT I'M SLEEPING WITH A 60-YEAR-OLD WOMAN. IT SEEMS TO ME THAT YOU'RE NOT HOLDING UP YOUR SIDE OF THINGS.' MY WIFE IS A VERY REASONABLE WOMAN. SHE TOLD ME TO GO OUT AND FIND A HOT 20-YEAR-OLD GIRL AND SHE WOULD MAKE SURE THAT I WOULD ONCE AGAIN BE LIVING IN A CHEAP APARTMENT, DRIVING A CHEAP CAR, SLEEPING ON A SOFA BED AND WATCHING A 10-INCH BLACK AND WHITE TV. AREN'T OLDER WOMEN GREAT? THEY REALLY KNOW HOW TO SOLVE YOUR MID-LIFE CRISIS.

trailgirl

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At what age is it creepy if a man is sleeping with his daughter? Posted: 7/13/2009 9:43:13 AM
I just re-read the OP-er's two posts about the situation and feel the need to change my opinoin slightly. I now read it that she sleeps in his bed 7 of 7 nights. While that's still not creepy, it's more a boundaries issue this man is having difficulty with, and perhaps using his daughter to fill the empty spot in his bed after he's experienced 2 divorces (if I read that right, the kids have different moms). I agree that the man needs to get his daughter her own bed, but since I'm not a child psychologist, I'd leave it up to a professional how to go about weaning her off the current situation.

trailgirl

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At what age is it creepy if a man is sleeping with his daughter? Posted: 7/13/2009 9:15:22 AM
AS I'm reading this thread I started to get really sad for this little girl, but not for the reason some of you true sickos think. I used to love to crawl in bed and/or cuddle w/ my dad on a weekend morning. Sometimes it was both parents and sometimes only my dad. Sometimes our entire family would be in the bed together. I come from a non-divorced household and I was never molested in any way, by anyone, growing up. We're affectionate within our family and there was and there is nothing psycho, pedophilic, creepy or improper about it. And perhaps a re-read of the orig. post is worthwhile. My read was completely opposite of the poster SleepingBeauty's above. The dad isn't denying his daughter a bed - she said she didn't want one. I've read that divorce for a child that age is much harder than for children a few years older and younger. My guess is the daughter, now only seeing her father on weekends, is feeling a bit insecure with her life and fractured family and feels the need for extra reassurance and physical contact. Newborn babies die without human touch. It's not a need we outgrow. how creepy - pedophiles and their "in denial" suppports are out and about in this thread. look how upset they get, crying that "the system" will ruin their families. anyone with half a brain and any common sense and decency realizes that a father to deny his 9 yr old daughter her own bed is a psycho pedophile. anyone who supports it is most likely one too. geez you people are transparent.

trailgirl

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Venus vs. Mars Posted: 7/13/2009 8:46:02 AM
PEOPLE - This post is in the H-U-M-O-R forum THIS OP IS A JOKE. AS IN WHY-DID-THE-CHICKEN-CROSS-THE-ROAD? Seriously, it was a chain e-mail that I got and thought funny enough to share with PoF forumites Yeesh, some people will debate ANYTHING o_O In fact, I think I laughed at the concerned responses almost as hard as when I originally read the joke . . . . [walking away scratching head now, never to return to this thread]

trailgirl

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Venus vs. Mars Posted: 7/13/2009 6:09:27 AM
desert hottie - erm, it's a joke, not real life. You know, humor is where you poke fun at generalities and truism....

trailgirl

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How soon is too soon for a 2nd message? Posted: 7/13/2009 6:07:47 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^ Agreed Wait at least 24-48 hours before you contact her again, especially since you said your was a fairly long message. She's probably still digesting

trailgirl

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Sending a Rose, good or bad? Posted: 7/13/2009 6:05:19 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^ what she said. It's a goofy thing, so it only has value if I've been on a date or two with him before he sends it.

trailgirl

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Prenuptial Agreement before marriage Posted: 7/13/2009 2:25:58 AM
Another thing to consider if you both have children... something both my financial planner and an attorney friend told me is that a pre-nup in CA isn't as much about who gets what in a divorce, but more that in death, it helps prevent your children from fighting and prevent hard feelings among them. Something to consider...

trailgirl

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Everyone Wants a Cougar Posted: 7/11/2009 5:41:58 AM
P~S- I think you're jumping to conclusions on that one. I'm sure I'm not the only lady that falls under this reason: My age filters are open because from time to time I'm active in the forums and have a few forum friends. They fall outside of the age range I'm open to dating, but my profile gives more specifics on what I am and am not looking for in a man so that usually takes care of it. This site isn't just for dating, as evidenced by the varied options under "looking for" I'm wondering to myself why all these women NOT interested in men half their age are leaving their mail settings open so they can be contacted by them, maybe they enjoy the attention?

trailgirl

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Venus vs. Mars Posted: 7/11/2009 12:02:56 AM
This man never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. He also never figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing, nor figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart. FOR EXAMPLE: One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, 'I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me.' I said, 'WHAT??!! What was that?!' So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear... 'You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.' She responded to my puzzled look by saying, 'Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?' Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep. The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits. She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said, 'Lets get a pair for each outfit.' We went on to the jewellery department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... She was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play tennis. I think I threw her for a loop when I said, 'That's fine, honey.' She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said, 'I think this is all Dear, let's go to the cashier.' I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, 'No honey, I don't feel like it.' Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled, 'WHAT?' I then said, 'Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.' And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, 'Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?' Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either....but at least that **** knows I'm smarter than her

trailgirl

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would you forgive your boyfriend if he lied Posted: 7/10/2009 1:05:02 AM
From your own admission in your post, this wasn't the first thing you lied about to her. Whether the other things were little or big, you've given her reason to believe you wouldn't be trustworthy enough to start a family with. There could also be deeper issues with your relationship - namely, why did you feel you needed to lie to her about the drinking and the fight? I'm sure if you really think about that, you might find either you two aren't compatible in the long run, or you have some things with yourself to work out before marrying and starting a family Just my two cents.

trailgirl

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What constitutes a creapy guy? Posted: 7/7/2009 1:21:37 PM
I think you mean creepy; yes? Here's a few. On PoF: -he calls you baby, honey, princess, etc. before you've met -you've only exchanged emails, and he asks what you're doing later when you tell him you're busy then simply shows up -as you get to know him, you learn more and more of his profile is fiction -keeps adding you to his favorites when you keep taking him off but never sends a message for 1st meets: -he invites you to his house -his hands all over you - forced intimacy In the real world: -follows you around all night but never introduces himself, only stares -listens to our girl conversations then comments uninvited -never smiles -calls but never leaves a message

trailgirl

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Need guys point of view to figure this one out Posted: 7/7/2009 2:09:44 AM
I don't have experience with this sort of man, so I may be way off base, but one thought came to mind is that you remind him off a time in his life when he was in a bad way. he may also see you as having been enabling during that bad time. Maybe his wife doesn't allow any of the things that you put up with for 7 years so he feels he has a better chance of straightening out his life with her, but he feels guilty for all he put you through. Either way, wise choice says to move on and find a healthy, mature man to complete your family.

trailgirl

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A woman's vision Posted: 7/7/2009 1:33:04 AM
There's plenty of women like that. But they most likely don't look like a Barbie or Maxim girl. You just have to look deeper to discover those qualities. This goes for men and women.

trailgirl

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Do women actually review a profile? Posted: 7/6/2009 1:16:48 AM
^^^^^ see answer #2 - I think that's the most likely scenario. They've probably looked, but you wouldn't be able to tell. Some people think that if someone 's looked at their profile, they must be interested (even when they haven't written or favorited them), so many turn the "visibility" off so they don't have to write so many thank you but no thank you responses.

trailgirl

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The Tumour Story... Posted: 7/6/2009 12:45:20 AM
yeah yeah same old stories. It's annoyingly uninspired. Landra- that's so uncalled for. Why be rude to a lady that's had a bad experience and came to the forums to get some feedback and perhaps personal connection with others who may have experienced the same thing? and I hate that word. "Should". There's a lot of things people theoretically "should" and "shouldn't do". But who are you, or anyone else, other than the person making that choice, to decide for them? If he wants to go on a dating site while he's got a girlfriend at home, then he's going to do it, and 'buyer beware'. That's how it goes. IDOC- I strongly disagree. she is exactly the person to be making that choice, since he's posted a profile advertising himself as single when he clearly is not. The choice 100% should have been hers to agree to meet him, knowing his life situation in advance, not before a 2nd date and only because his GF discovered what he was doing. Dating shouldn't be buyer beware if you have even an ounce of integrity. Hmmm, kinda wondering what info you're hiding... OP- I'm sorry you had to waste time with a seeming selfish moron. Yep, even though he's "graciously" staying with his tumor-GF while she faces medical issues, seems he thinks his needs trump whatever lady he's talking to. One positive way to see the situation: If something like this had happened to me, I'd be glad to have learned the true situation sooner rather than later though

trailgirl

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Left me sitting at the table, until the waitress said, he left.. Posted: 7/6/2009 12:37:40 AM
Sounds like he was a little coward. I'd say more than a little. And also quite immature for his age too. Nobody deserves to be treated that way, no matter how they've behaved (not saying OP did anything wrong). Just that whatever he was thinking or feeling, he could have at least said thank you for taking the time to meet but I'll respectfully continue my search. OP, I'm so sorry you met a bad apple, but at least you can be glad his character shone brightly from the start.

trailgirl

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Advice: On Paragliding With Previous Fling Posted: 7/3/2009 2:26:54 AM
Too much commitment? Wow - I thought I'd heard it all from the commitmentphobes, but this one takes the cake. Exactly how would visiting a woman in another country to go paragliding even border on commitment? From your and her history, me thinks she simply wants you to visit, do something exciting which you also enjoy, and and rock her weekend, nothing more, nothing less. But then you went and said you could see spending more time with her...so what's that all about - if it's on your terms it's okay but if she does the inviting it's an issue?

trailgirl

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opinions needed plans broken Posted: 7/1/2009 10:09:36 PM
I agree with Silent Steel. Unless we'd been talking for a long time and had a fantastic first date, I'd rather spend my holiday with family and friends instead of with a 2nd date and his friends who I don't know. Some things do get planned out in advance with my friends, and the 4th is one of them. Think of it this way: would you rather she didn't have any friends and clung onto your life and friends immediately after a first date? You could ask to see her Sunday, or sometime next week (which you probably should have suggested in your last call with her to show her you're interested). She didn't say she never wanted to see you again, simply not available on the 4th.

trailgirl

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On line Dating makes me sick Posted: 7/1/2009 10:51:44 AM
I'm sorry that you felt you met someone you could be really interested in and it didn't pan out, but really, 8 more texts after he said he wasn't interested only confirmed to him you're too needy and obsessive for his comfort level. Relationships aren't instantaneous. You should know that at your age.

trailgirl

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LYING ABOUT AGE ON DATING PROFILE! Posted: 7/1/2009 10:41:28 AM
^^^^^^^^^ of course that's fine if the only women he's contacting also have "friends" listed as what they're searching for. If not, then his deception falls through the strainer. What if the person he's contacted is younger and feels 49 is the upper limits of an age she's comfortable with? He's now wasted both their time when she meets him and can see he's obviously not 49.

trailgirl

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Am I old fashion???? Posted: 7/1/2009 12:30:23 AM
It seems rather normal to have sex on the second date. It's happened that way for 25+ years, so I don't see it as being a recent phenomenon. Abelian: I must have missed that memo. I love anything goes sex in a committed relationship (no, that doesn't mean marriage at that point), but on the 2nd date? Guess that's fine if that's what drives your relationships, but some of us are looking for more. Now, your profile, I believe, states looking for an intimate encounter, so of course you'll be looking for that intimacy pretty quickly. But I don't think that's what the OP had listed in hers before it went "poof"

trailgirl

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Justifying Cheating? Posted: 7/1/2009 12:03:06 AM
I wonder if the man spent far too much time nurturing his career and far too little time nurturing his marriage. Simply put, Happy women want to please and be pleased. Of course it's easier to have an affair (a fresh emotional start) then face the results of what you've produced in your current marriage and work to repair the damage. But marriage isn't easy and taking the easy route lacks integrity and honor, IMO.

trailgirl

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Poll Posted: 6/30/2009 11:53:58 PM
really depends on the man and the amount of facial hair. sorry, but it's a flawed poll.

trailgirl

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Would a Female Out There Please Explain This? Posted: 6/29/2009 11:54:58 PM
I see that on many men's profiles. It's usually preceded with something along the lines of "I hate talking about myself so..."

trailgirl

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have you told a guy when you met him Posted: 6/29/2009 11:52:39 PM
I've said that only once, but the man was a good 3 inches shorter than his profile stated, and he first said to me, "You're taller than I expected" What was I to say to that but, "Really? You're shorter than I expected." Said, of course, with a genuine smile.

trailgirl

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What should i do? Posted: 6/29/2009 11:47:29 PM
How do you know she's even aware the picture's still there? It could have been part of a joke email or something. Heck, it could be her best friend's boyfriend's parts (not that that would be too cool, but you never know) Did you ask her who the body part belongs to and then listen to her response and watch how she behaves when she responds, or are you jumpig to a conclusion?

trailgirl

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Am I ugly or something? Posted: 6/29/2009 11:43:11 PM
The red flag for me would be your posting of pictures 3 to 20+ years old. Why post pictures older than a year or two? Are you stuck in the past? Do you think you still look the same? Were those your glory days? I have photo albums from decades past, but I don't scan the pics and put them in my profile to say, hey, look how hot I used to be! Not saying that's what you're doing, but am saying it's what I'd feel I'd be projecting if I put up pictures from the 90's

trailgirl

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a blast from the past!...any similar experiences? Posted: 6/29/2009 12:56:47 AM
so she wanted to learn (albeit in a poor way) if you've come to terms with your anger management issues, and you accused her of having sex for $5? Sounds like you've exchanged chairs for verbal barbs.

trailgirl

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Emailing Photos Posted: 6/29/2009 12:54:49 AM
my experience with online dating has been that those that don't post a picture are more often than not unavailable in the traditional sense, meaning they're currently already in some sort of relationship. Of course you'll hear lots of "reasons" why they can't have a picture up, but my response is always that if you can't post a picture, for whatever reason, then internet dating isn't for you, end of story.

trailgirl

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POF Lessons Posted: 6/29/2009 12:23:13 AM
the #of women who date short men>#of men who date fat women although it's not me on either count, I wholeheartedly agree with that statement. It's easy to prove simply looking around at who you see pairing up with who in real life. Most men don't see themself as short or as overweight as reality might dictate.

trailgirl

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Exs Posted: 6/28/2009 9:36:57 PM
wow, first thought that came to mind is I'm sure glad I'm not 20-something anymore. Way more drama than divorce and kids sometimes.

trailgirl

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sorry if this subject has been beat to death Posted: 6/28/2009 9:31:18 PM
Yes, there are women that really like those activities and actually participate in them, with or without a man. But as to your why, I'd have to say it's the same reason people lie about their age - they don't really care if they're what you're looking for as long as you give them a chance to write/call/date them because of course once you get to know them it won't matter that they were misleading (yeesh)

trailgirl

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What would it take to ask an adult child to move out? Posted: 6/27/2009 12:15:17 AM
If all else fails, wander around the place naked. That'll inspire them to move out.

trailgirl

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What would it take to ask an adult child to move out? Posted: 6/27/2009 12:09:19 AM
My parents offered, and we knew about in advance, our options upon graduating high school: 1. Attend school full-time and live at home rent free 2. Pay market rent to them and a split of the maid (both parents were working full time at that point) 3. Get a place of our own and pay rent to another landlord. Consequently, we all have either college degrees or sufficient job skills, and manage our money quite well. I left when I was 20 and working full-time and attending school part time, then returned home at 23 to enroll in school full time to complete my education. I think it's very important, if you wish to teach your children how to manage their money and be self-reliant, to let them be self-reliant and experience life and what it costs to live without mommy and daddy's support. We were welcomed home at any time for a free meal, and we could do our laundry there (if we brought our own detergent), but we knew our parents weren't our servants and maids ;) I really respected my parents for helping me become a responsible adult. What I find difficult is meeting single dads with grown children that still give them an allowance when they don't go to school, don't work, etc. I know these men think they're helping their children, but I really think they're harming them in the long run.

trailgirl

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Do you hold back in forums to improve your profile? Posted: 6/26/2009 11:59:21 PM
I think in the grand scheme of things, forum posts appearing on one's profile is a good thing. If someone reads something I've written and is very much turned off by my opinion on a certain topic, doesn't that save me time in the long run? What I've found though is more often it's only after a man has exchanged a few messages and perhaps a phone call or a 1st meet, then they actually look at my entire profile and see the forum posts. So far I've only received positive feedback from those men. But then, I do refrain from posting at a certain time of the month when my "filter" may not be working so nicely (and I note that other posters prolly should do the same thing lest they come across as raving angry people). And I also often withhold my opinion on some subjects (because of past experiences in attracting the wrong sort of attention; i.e., very specific questions in sex & dating). There's just some things I don't think every Tom, D!ck & Harry needs to know about me Farceur - should I stay indoors or strap myself down for the massive earth movement? LOL

trailgirl

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Is it fair for me to be using this site? Posted: 6/25/2009 3:49:27 AM
Landra's got it nailed here - nobody wants someone "broken" and in need of "fixing" Get yourself emotionally whole before you bring another into your life emotionally, IMO.

trailgirl

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The appeal of the unambitious/unemployed type? Posted: 6/25/2009 2:48:42 AM
personally, no appeal whatsoever for me. But good thing the world is made up of many people with varying tastes, right?

trailgirl

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Is it so wrong? Posted: 6/24/2009 2:33:16 PM
If that's what's important to you, it's not wrong. What's wrong is people trying to tell others what should be important to them. We're allowed our preferences. Honesty is one of my top ones, so the lying about the job and car would be one of three reasons I'd lose interest.

trailgirl

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Change of location, 2nd email ok? Posted: 6/23/2009 11:05:14 PM
I think it would be fine to send them a new message, but wait until after you've moved to that city and also put near the top of your profile that you've recently moved to XX town. When I had distance filters on my profile, I had men that would actually change their location simply so they could send me a message. Then oddly enough, a week or so later they mysteriously moved. I say this because these women might be wary you've changed your location simply to seem more attractive to them.

trailgirl

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Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 6/23/2009 10:21:11 PM
GoodmanGreg; (Sorry to disagree with you regarding the smugginess of some women. Some women do love to flaunt it. Bottom line is they are kidding themselves) I think you might be misinterpreting women's meaning when they say this. They're not saying it to be smug or brag or anything along those lines in this thread. And they're probably not kidding themselves either. The women are saying it to explain the forum thread question: "Why do so few women seek only sex?" What they're saying is they don't have to seek it very often, because it seems it's so often seeking them. This goes across the board from unattractive to attractive women. If a woman projects herself as someone open to "only sex" she becomes the carrot dangled in front of the a$$ - er, donkey - hehe

trailgirl

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Why do so few women seek only sex?? Posted: 6/23/2009 9:58:05 PM
sex as an expression of my feelings for a man has always been in season....sex for recreation is...yawn....unfulfilling for me by comparison. This pretty much says it all for me as well. And it's not smug to say sex is something fairly easy for most any woman to get. Sex for recreation does seek me out (especially on a dating site). But sex as an expression of my feelings for a man is much harder to find. There was a period of time following my divorce where the recreation aspect was all I was interested in, but I've moved beyond that now. Sort of like comparing vanilla ice cream to an ice cream sundae, it's just not enough for my more mature palate now. meh, nothing else I can say about that.

trailgirl

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What is considered thin, average, athletic and a few extra pounds....come on ladies... Posted: 6/22/2009 2:21:36 PM
I think the body type options are purposely set to be vague. And most people outside of the thin range, from my experience, don't seem to have an accurate assessment of their current body shape. But thin on a man and thin on a woman have very different social connotations it seems. I recently read this on someone's profile with regards to a few extra pounds: "If your friend asked to borrow a few dollars, would it be 20 or 100?" (paraphrased) As we age our bodies put on and lose weight differently than when in our 20's. So the same weight at different ages result in very different body shapes. I could put "a few extra pounds" on my profile because I weigh about 15 more than my ideal. Now, my ideal is the weight I was before pregnancy. But after pregnancy and when I was working out with a trainer, although I never returned to my pre-pregnancy weight scale-wise, my friends started telling me to stop dieting because I was looking too thin. I choose athletic though because I am very athletic and have an athletic body. My opinion is "a few extra pounds" is not the same as obese though. Obese is defined as more than 20% above your ideal weight, and morbid obesity is 50-100% over. While many factors affect that from bone size, muscle mass, age and your sex, ideal body weight is what's ideal for your height. 5-5 and 120 is by no means overweight or even a few extra pounds, if they participate in any athletic activities (or even the gym).

trailgirl

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former flame advice Posted: 6/22/2009 2:01:37 PM
um, no, let him be. He's saying more probably that he wasn't a single man when he met you and now he's paying the consequences of his signif. other discovering he was flirting with you. Unless there's more to the story than you told us. Your story doesn't say he did anything to you other than disappear.

trailgirl

Joined: 7/1/2008

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One for the ladies. Would you get mad if??? Posted: 6/22/2009 8:20:20 AM
Maybe she was using sex as a bargaining chip so withholding to punish you for something, (poor decision) but didn't figure you'd take matters into your own hands. Sounds like you both need to communicate a bit more and see what the problem really is.

trailgirl

Joined: 7/1/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

women and messaging Posted: 6/21/2009 10:24:01 PM
I'm with Strawberry - if a man is too timid to message me, he most likely doesn't possess the level of confidence I'm attracted to. But please, OP, do a thread search of "favorites". There's quite a wealth of information on this topic which I'd just be repeating were I to expound upon the many reasons someone adds another to their favorites.

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