Open Relationships chat & forums.

online dating service

REGISTER | MAIL/PROFILE | HELP | NOW ONLINE | SEARCH | RATING | FORUMS | SUCCESS STORIES

Posted In Forum:

Home

login

Show ALL Forums

Author

Thread: Open Relationships

Joined: 7/4/2008

Msg: 9 (view)

Open Relationships Posted: 6/29/2009 7:54:52 PM
If she wants an open relationship, and you don't - and it really sounds that way - walk away. Because she's all I will, I won't, I can, I can't - don't walk, run. Girl's bad news. Do yourself a favour and don't go about leaving in a slipshod manner. I'd cut ties insomuch as you can. It'll hurt worse for a little while, but long term, you'll be looking at a lot less pain for both of you. Sadly, mutual friends make for ties that can't be cut readily, if at all. Don't speak to her if you can avoid it. If she calls you, try to make it short. If you can stomach being the bad guy for both your sakes, be an *hole to make her less likely to call again. Just don't be surprised if mutual friends treat you like an *hole for acting like one. Definitely not wrong for getting out. You shouldn't have accepted an open relationship if it wasn't what you wanted, and you probably shouldn't have said that "[you] couldn't ask her to just see [you]." Mixed your signals there. Try not to mix them again, stick to your guns, and stay gone.

Joined: 7/4/2008

Msg: 47 (view)

Why is our ability to cook/clean so important to men? Posted: 6/29/2009 6:39:02 PM
I'm a fantastic cook, and I generally enjoy cooking. You want to shuffle that off to me, good, but I want to trade over this "laundry" chore, or the "dirty dishes" chore. If I'm paying half the bills - or more - I generally expect my portion of the chores to reflect the effort in the monetary support area. Sadly, my ex didn't see it that way, so I ended up not only paying most of the bills, but doing the laundry, cleaning everything, cooking all the meals, keeping the car running, mowing the massive lawn, taking care of her chihuahua, and doing everything else under the sun that counted as housework or yardwork. At the point I'm doing that, woman better be taking me out somewhere nice once in while, payin' my bills, putting a RING on this FINGER. But really, she just cheated on me, so I looked about, realized I was pretty much going it solo anyway, then left and got a basset hound. The lack of sex is irritating at times, but as far as emotional support and being snuggly is concerned, the puppy trumps my ex. Even drools less in her sleep. Net gain.

Joined: 7/4/2008

Msg: 50 (view)

Sexting Posted: 6/29/2009 6:04:37 PM
Eh, biggest issue I see is, well, it's NOT private, if you're using a cell phone. It's floating through the air, and all anyone needs to do is reach out and grab it. Even if you do have the ability to make a rational decision about the target of your message, you've also got to rely on absolutely everyone doing what they should be doing. It's not like we have people doing wardrives past schools to pick up free wifi anyway... oh, wait.

Joined: 7/4/2008

Msg: 29 (view)

To settle or not to settle? Posted: 6/29/2009 5:38:53 PM
Personally, I'm inclined to think that the actual question of settling comes from a rather silly notion where people are quantifiable to the point of one being better for you than another. If you choose not to settle, you keep looking, and believe me that you will not ever find someone without a flaw. If you choose to settle, you will eventually bump into someone that seems to be "better" than the person you have now. That just invites a whole host of problems that I really don't think I need to elaborate on. You either decide to make it work or you decide it's too tough. Relationships aren't all bliss and sandwiches, they're full of irritation, aggravation, and pain, and you'll spend what at times seems to be a ludicrous amount of effort just getting through one day... then other times, you realize it's all worth it. Unless you're prepared to dig the badness with a shovel, you're not going to be happy in any relationship for long. As Abraham Lincoln put it, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Show ALL Forums