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 Author Thread: Cinco de Mayo- Part 2!
 skikitty
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Cinco de Mayo- Part 2!
Posted: 5/5/2009 10:01:15 PM
Well, for some reason this forum won't let me post a follow up to the Cinco de Mayo debacle. Here is my response to all of your helpful posts:

Wow-wee! You all have been enormously helpful. I wish I could have checked the forum while at work today...

Yes, this would have been the very first time I met him in person.

In the end, I agreed with most of you and decided to cancel the date. I know myself around tequila...it's my only weakness, I promise. :) He seemed a little hurt. He said he was willing to change his plans, perhaps go out for mexican instead. I told him that he really sounded like he wanted to party--so he should do that!

We will meet on Friday night instead. But, my feelings have shifted about him. It's weird.

I celebrated by working late and having two fish tacos from Del Taco!
 skikitty
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Car or place?
Posted: 5/4/2009 10:05:21 PM
Flashy cars are a turn off for me. Bike commuting or taking the bus is a turn on. :) Of course, I'm in Denver, land of the sexy bike commuters...

Real estate wins...shows that a man is fiscally intelligent..better investment!
 skikitty
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
First date-- Cinco de Mayo?
Posted: 5/4/2009 10:00:02 PM
Help~~?

I'm a 37 yr old professional who met an older gentlemen (46) on another dating site recently. We set up our first date to be a walk in the park followed by coffee for tomorrow night. Which happens to also be Cinco de Mayo...but neither of us realized this fact last week when we set the date up!

So, we are chatting on the phone tonight, and he suggests that we change our plans...he wants to go out for Cinco de Mayo. He tells me one of his friends are having a wild party, or he might be interested in going out for *tequila* in local bar. He asks if I am into wild parties for a first date. I responded that I was flexbile, but then I asked him if we would have time to talk and get to know each other if he was hanging out with his friends. I'm thinking to myself that fine tequila is my weakness...but there is no way in hell I'm doing shots on a first date...been there, done that. Tequila makes me wild! But the thought of Cinco de Mayo is tempting.... and so is the tequila! I told him that I wasn't comfortable drinking tequila with him just yet. He just responded that he really wanted to go out for Cinco de Mayo.

So... now I'm thinking I should call him and tell him that we should delay our first date and that he should go to his friends party...? Something doesn't feel right and I'm wondering what to do.

 skikitty
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 1636 (view)
 
so, why are you still single?
Posted: 4/25/2009 8:28:16 PM
Why am I single?

Good question, I don't want to be. I guess it's because I'm seeking a deep intimate relationship with someone, and you just can't force that. At 37 with no kids, I've come to except that I may not find my partner before it's too late to have kids. But, I won't be in a relationship unless it is right.

I have a pattern of breaking it off with men that "aren't into me". They don't seem genuinely interested in me, don't ask me questions about my life. So I move on. This is my pattern, and lately I'm wondering if I need to re-evaluate this.
 skikitty
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 403 (view)
 
Over 30 -- What is your biggest turn on
Posted: 4/25/2009 8:16:43 PM
Physical: Trimmed mountain man beard and tall
Mental: a thoughtful reader who like to talk about books!
Emotional: transparent and open
Spiritual: open to different ways for different people
Interests: Mountain sports and skiing!
 skikitty
Joined: 7/6/2008
Msg: 60 (view)
 
The rules of a first date
Posted: 4/25/2009 7:53:50 PM

On a first date, DON'T "plant one" on her Hollywood style - especially open mouthed - unless you are 200% certain she's looking for it. And especially DON'T grab her coat and pull her aggressively towards you. EEK!


Really? Wow, the best kisses of my life have been on a first date.
Half of these rules don't apply if you are hot for the guy...yes, I want him to kiss me, grab me, take me home. Yes, I want him to call the next day.

About the money, the best thing to do is to go for coffee or an active date. A walk, hike or bike ride. Then the money becomes a non-issue.

Are people doing full dinners and movies these days?

About being yourself. Yes, it's important to be myself...but first impressions are everything. So, I'm sure to be the best "myself" I can be. I don't think there is anything wrong with trying to impress your date! And, honestly, if they weren't trying to impress me, I would be concerned and think they were self-involved. Sometimes being yourself IS trying to impress your date.
 
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