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heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

A question on approaching women Posted: 6/7/2009 1:14:08 AM
Mr Provocative - OMG, that bad advice. LoL. heh heh. If I apologize for that it only makes the situation worse, because she's probably trying to forget about it, and I'm bringing it up again. No. I'm just going to act normal and just conduct my business as usual. That is, if I go back. I might go somewhere else, for at least a couple of months, then I'll come back when it's already in the past.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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A question on approaching women Posted: 6/7/2009 12:47:07 AM
Now I feel like a jackass. Why did I tell her that I thought she was pretty. I should have just let it go. Oh well, the damage is done.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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A question on approaching women Posted: 6/7/2009 12:44:52 AM
The weird thing is she knows I go on saturdays, because that's when I attend voice class and she used to be there on saturdays. Recently, she had changed to thursday, and after the incident, I stopped going on thursdays for 2 weeks straight. So I was rather bewildered when she happened to be there this saturday. I never stare at a woman's cleavage. I'm not a perv like that. I respect all women. I treat women the way I want people to treat my sister. You're right about the work thing, I didn't realize until it was too late. But all I said was I thought she was pretty. But you're right it could be awkward for her. If she continues working on saturdays, I might have to rethink whether I should keep going to this dance studio.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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A question on approaching women Posted: 6/7/2009 12:12:21 AM
peachez_03 thanks for the advice. I appreciate it. What you say does make sense. I'm going to have to practice talking to girls, before I can even attempt asking a girl out. It's true, I've been told before that complimenting a girl too much is a bad thing, especially if she's beautiful. Thanks everyone for all the input you've given me. I really do appreciate it all.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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A question on approaching women Posted: 6/6/2009 11:51:42 PM
Yeah, I think I messed up already and came out kind of awkward in a situation. There's this girl who works at the dance studio I go to. I've been saying hi to her every week I see her. 2 weeks ago, right before I left, I went up to her, and said, "I'll see you next week, and by the way, you know you're pretty right, you are." She said thank you and I left. It was kind of awkward. So I decided not to show up on the day she works. Well, I went today to the dance studio, and I was stunned, when I found her there. I was just kind of serious and payed for the class and left, trying hard to keep my composure and not show her my nerves. But yeah, I was stunned, cause she usually doesn't work on Saturdays. They had switched her to a different day.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 14 (view)

Would you share a man? Part 2 Posted: 6/6/2009 11:04:25 PM
I believe in monogamy, a profound love between a man and a woman that there is no need to share that love with anyone else.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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What makes a woman put you on her favorites? Posted: 6/6/2009 10:57:30 PM
quit the bragging bodypro8. j/k... Umm... I guess if you have insightful stuff to say and a good profile you might get listed as a favorite.

heyyyeveryone

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A question on approaching women Posted: 6/6/2009 10:02:28 PM
nocatchyname, that was great advice. I take hip hop dance classes at least twice a week, but when it comes to asking a girl to dance, that's the hard part. But yeah, just gotta get used to it. Thanks for the input.

heyyyeveryone

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A question on approaching women Posted: 6/6/2009 9:59:16 PM
thanx for the advice...i was talkin' in real life though...not this website.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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A question on approaching women Posted: 6/6/2009 9:42:35 PM
I know I'm going to regret asking this question because I think a lot of people are going to make fun, but here goes. Ok, I'm 26 and I've been single my whole life. How do I approach girls and how do I get them to like me?

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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Men=superior Posted: 6/6/2009 9:19:50 PM
You're an idiot! Your remark, ironically enough, made the point that there's a lot of stupid guys out there. Just fyi, but all women are smarter than you. Also, women are beautiful, caring, generous, and intelligent.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 34 (view)

Change in the name of love! Posted: 6/6/2009 7:11:09 PM
After that day, I deleted her phone number from my cell and have never called her again. She called once and I ignored her message. And she was just supposed to be a friend. But people are weird, they get bent out of shape over nothing.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

Change in the name of love! Posted: 6/6/2009 7:09:25 PM
OP, that guy is a jerk and way wrong! I had a similar situation w/ a woman, except we were "just" friends! I emailed her and said I was going to call her so to not ignore my phone call like she likes to do. But it was just a joke. When I called and she didn't answer, I hung up. She called right away, and gave me attitude and said I should have left a message. So I understand your situation. That's just dumb.

heyyyeveryone

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Msg: 69 (view)

Hotness does not overcome dull, boring or shallowness Posted: 6/6/2009 6:55:33 PM
That was cruel, dude. You're kind of a jerk. You brought up the whole Cognitive Psychology for irony in the situation and then made your point more when she didn't know what it meant, like everyone knows what Cognitive Psychology is. You're one of those annoying smart-ass types that thinks he knows everything but no one gives him the time of day.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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WTB consistent women Posted: 6/6/2009 6:25:10 PM
Wow...I'll say one thing, dude, you are by far the most articulate and eloquent person I've found on a dating site when posting on the forums. Seriously, how long did it take you revise everything you wrote before posting it up? I'm not being sarcastic. I'm actually amazed. Did you write everything in a Word document then copy and paste it? I think you even included a quote in your post to back up your opinions like you would an essay.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 6/6/2009 6:14:24 PM
To J_in_SD, yes I would prefer uglier women on POF. The tend to lower their standards for men. The better looking the women, the higher her standards. So yes, in all truth, it's better to have uglier women on POF...lol....but seriously, yes.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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Women post pics in sexy sleepwear? Posted: 6/6/2009 5:58:25 PM
I don't see a problem w/ it. She likes the attention. It also means that she's not ashamed of her body and has the courage to show it off. Yes, I would consider a woman like this for a serious relationship as long as there's more to her than this. I'm not going to judge a woman by what she chooses to wear and what pictures she chooses to take. Anyone who does so is actually shallow in some ways.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 1583 (view)

can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers? Posted: 6/6/2009 5:48:28 PM
Umm...that's a hard one. I've been around pot smokers, and they can be annoying at times and boring when they sit there w/ that gazed stupid look. Plus there's the legality issue. Do I really want to get into trouble just because I was around a stupid pot-head? I don't smoke pot, so I don't want to deal w/ that nonsense. I do hate the hypocrisy, though, when you see alcoholics talking about how pot is bad and how smoking cigarettes is bad. Alcohol is bad too. That's why I tend to stay away from bars. I don't drink alcohol, but I don't mind the people that drink in moderation. The issue is when they go overboard. Alcohol is a drug too, it just so happens to be legal.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 150 (view)

Should she have paid for her share of meal ? Posted: 6/6/2009 5:43:52 PM
I'm just kidding by the way. It was just something I imagined the OP doing. LOL.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 149 (view)

Should she have paid for her share of meal ? Posted: 6/6/2009 5:42:54 PM
You know what would have been funny... if you looked at your wallet, then looked back at her, and been like, "You know what, you get this one, and I'll get the next one." Then you make your grand exit out of the restaurant.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 354 (view)

How many people have actually went on a date using this site? Posted: 6/6/2009 4:54:24 PM
I haven't gone a single date yet. But I guess we'll see as time goes by...

heyyyeveryone

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Msg: 1265 (view)

Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 6/6/2009 4:52:43 PM
No, I'm an ***hole! J/k... I'm a good and loving man. And I'm sure I'm not the only one.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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Conversation Length Before Asking For the Meetup Posted: 6/6/2009 4:51:22 PM
As soon as possible...unless you're here to be penpals. I'm not sure how many people would have the patience to continue this email and messaging nonsense if you're here to actually meet people in real life.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 34 (view)

Would you be disturbed by dating someone whose ex was VERY good looking? Posted: 6/6/2009 4:33:20 PM
NO, I wouldn't care how "hot" her stupid ex-boyfriend might have been. The only issue would be if she wasn't over him. If she started mentioning him a lot in every conversation, then there would be a problem. Otherwise, I wouldn't even bring it up.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 172 (view)

How do you make yourself be attracted to the unattractive? Posted: 6/6/2009 4:27:58 PM
Hmmm...OP, since you're really picky, you're going to have look for the guys you like yourself and message them. I looked at your profile to see if there was any reason why you're not getting the guys you like to respond to you, but I was too lazy to read it. Your profile is way too long for me to read. Anyways, hope you find what you're looking for. If not, don't rely on a website to find the guy you like. Go into the real world. But like I said, you're obviously picky, so you might have to initiate contact w/ the guys you do like, otherwise you might be waiting for the right guy to find you and it may never happen.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 414 (view)

Does ignoring a guy really get his attention? Posted: 6/6/2009 4:03:34 PM
No! If a guy ignored you, would it get your attention? Come on. The worst thing a person can do to you is ignore you. If someone ignores me, I'll think she's a **** and as far as I'm concern no longer exists in my view.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 321 (view)

Has anyone NEVER had a ONE NIGHT STAND? Posted: 6/5/2009 11:46:20 PM
No, I don't believe in them. I need to be in a relationship w/ someone.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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is a man that's taken more attractive than a man thats single? Posted: 6/5/2009 11:39:29 PM
Wow, is this for real? Maybe I'll start telling women that I'm seeing someone and see what happens...LoL. Some people are suggesting that guys are the same way. This is not true w/ me. If I find out a girl is seeing someone, I will not consider her for a potential relationship or even flirt w/ her.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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A Misdirected Email Posted: 6/5/2009 11:34:14 PM
I don't know what type of email was sent so I can't give you a good honest opinion on that. However, guys do speak differently to each other than to women and it depends on what type of guy it is. Everyone does it, not just guys. Women talk to each other differently, too. I know. They're brothers so it might just be how they talk. But maybe, he said something very wrong and derogatory, but I can't say because I don't know what was in that email. You have to make that decision for yourself. Ask someone you trust, like your brother if you have one.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

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I need a man's opinion Posted: 6/5/2009 11:13:33 PM
The guy probably doesn't know what he wants. You've been dating for a month but he tells you that it's not a committed relationship. Sorry, but I don't think this guy really cares to be in a real relationship any time soon. You should just leave him and move on.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Flatliners Posted: 6/5/2009 11:06:06 PM
It's difficult communicating online. It's easier to talk in person. Some people are probably communicating w/ you online so they can establish a "real" date in the "real" world, so they can get to know you in the real world. Unless you've met someone in person, you'll never know them. I don't care how many hours every day you communicate online. The person is still a stranger until you meet in person for the first real date. Anyone who thinks otherwise is disillusioned and will sooner or later find this out when they finally establish a real date in the real world, only to be a little "shocked" and surprised by the outcome.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

What are some good dating sites? Posted: 6/5/2009 10:58:30 PM
eharmony sucks. I had their free registration and was not allowed to email or do much of anything. I couldn't see anyone's pictures because I had to be a paying member. Eharmony as some kind of algorithm where they setup potential matches and if you like something about the profile the paying member can start a connection. But they were all rejecting me and some stated because I had no pictures even though I had about 8 posted.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 162 (view)

what do men consider overweight? Posted: 6/5/2009 10:31:11 PM
OP, just so you're clear, you look great! You're not overweight and look beautiful in your picture. For me, I usually wouldn't date someone that weighs a lot more than me. I weigh 160 lbs. If the girls weighs slightly more than me, but I like her personality and knows how to hold herself, I'll go out w/ her.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 43 (view)

Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 6/5/2009 10:18:19 PM
I know, there's so many beautiful women on POF. It's kind of a weird phenomenon, isn't it? I think I'm more intimidated messaging someone on this website than on meeting a girl in real life. LoL... seriously, though.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 74 (view)

why do a$$ holes always get the good girls? Posted: 6/4/2009 6:34:28 PM
Look else where for women. I wouldn't waste my time w/ a girl like that. Any girl that prefers an ***hole has issues.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

Plastic surgery turn off or don't care? Posted: 6/4/2009 6:09:59 PM
No plastic surgery.

heyyyeveryone

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Msg: 30 (view)

My bf and i want to try out a threesome. should we? Posted: 6/4/2009 5:48:14 PM
Wow...you guys are supposedly in a committed relationship and you want to bring another person into it? I guess there's a lot of kinky people here. Um...I would say no, but that's just me. If I were in a relationship w/ a girl and she mentioned a threesome I would leave her right then and there. That's just too much for me.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 223 (view)

No sex before marriage Posted: 6/4/2009 5:43:43 PM
I want to wait until marriage, but that's just me. Blame it on 12 years of Catholic school.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 111 (view)

Favorite physical quality of the opposite sex. Posted: 6/4/2009 5:41:13 PM
breasts, eyes, freckles

heyyyeveryone

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Msg: 32 (view)

men's habits.... Posted: 6/4/2009 5:38:23 PM
Hmm...Actually, if it was up to me, I would prefer to see her naked all the time, but that's just me. The less clothes the better.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 82 (view)

Shocked! how can someone be so demoralising! Posted: 6/4/2009 5:22:45 PM
Correction: There's shallow people everywhere.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 81 (view)

Shocked! how can someone be so demoralising! Posted: 6/4/2009 5:22:05 PM
That guy was dumb and shallow. Just move on. Let it go, not every guy is that shallow. There's shallow people everyone. It's not just guys. Many women are just as shallow, especially on a website such as this.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 233 (view)

Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men? Posted: 6/1/2009 3:17:56 PM
That being said, I think it's fine if a woman thinks other women are beautiful. But it seems strange when she has sexual fantasies about other woman. But what do I know. I'm a guy.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 232 (view)

Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men? Posted: 6/1/2009 3:10:48 PM
All I know is that I think women are beautiful.

heyyyeveryone

Joined: 7/7/2008

Msg: 157 (view)

ok boys which do u prefer boobs or butts? Posted: 6/1/2009 2:47:52 PM
I'm not going to lie. I do like a woman's breast and it is the first thing I notice.

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