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 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 154 (view)
 
Men in this age group and money
Posted: 1/25/2015 6:57:03 PM

As for getting your milk for free ,aren't we a little past this type of thinking ? Sunshinegirl ,you got told


Are you kidding ??? getting a free milk 1900-------2015 fukking with no legal string attach, it is a rampant common practice that the victims are children , baby mamas are fighting for child support.. Baby papas are having a ball, they are like Rooster that they can mate any chicks and lay Eggs for omellete hehheheh

Can't blame people who wants to become a Lawyer for it is a secured career.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 201 (view)
 
Paying for a date
Posted: 1/25/2015 6:23:30 PM
south_ city we are on the same page. But this day and age dating is sexual, I was confirming my dinner date to a transvestite neighbor He/she told me not to say dates , that is fukking, OMG in front of friends! okay appointment then.
whenever someone ask me if I have a boyfriend my answer is always I have no boyfriend but I am dating,
A young girl told me that she understand what I mean ,going dinners,dancing movies, picnic ect. that is the OLD time Dating means sex ,imagine, I was so open to people that I am big time slut, LMAO .. Now I change my lingo I say MEET &" this guy I am talking with.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 128 (view)
 
Why do so many men end up with unkind women
Posted: 1/25/2015 5:56:15 PM
Calguy14
I just a emailed a forumite who met her husband here on the POF
they are bf & gf for a while and finally married.
what I notice about her messages is she doesn't do personal insults to a man. or woman

I say please all the time ,do you think I am weak ?
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 126 (view)
 
Why do so many men end up with unkind women
Posted: 1/25/2015 4:15:02 PM
My post on #123 is sarcasm
please reread it again, there is no such dead brain man that is in a normal relationship, as you know .
I take that back , people with special needs goes with relationship with their own kind for I know
one nice a couple who work at a Thrift store that I use to volunteer.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 125 (view)
 
Why do so many men end up with unkind women
Posted: 1/25/2015 3:54:00 PM
calguy14, Reread the message Number 1, my take on that is no women would treat a man like that , even a bipolar or whatever in public on what the OP posted , the give away is > is she that close to the man with his girlfriend or wife to hear them vividly at the theater , and restaurant this is a good one, they were issued 2 menu she snatch the menu from his hand ? . This is a made up story........... She is hurling a negative messages on
women at this dating forum. As a woman I read what she up too . I read 4 times her post to absorbed what she means and what is her point. I am not blaming any men or any women ,I am sticking to her message what she is implying.
In answer to your post.
Life is not fair, whether family, finances, partners ,through our journey in life we encounter these problems ,it make us strong and learned what is the best for us, experienced is a great teacher, this teacher or you may call God teaching us to use our mind to live in peace and a happy life. We can remove the blockage of negativity in our life if we want too.

Saying PLEASE is not a weakness, it means you have CLASS, Jesus said in the bible the humblest person among you people is the highest in person.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 123 (view)
 
Why do so many men end up with unkind women
Posted: 1/25/2015 2:24:27 PM
^^^^
Yeah right if I am a busy body minding other couple's business instead of my own life, I will join deet 's club. that those men who end with unkind women are dead brain who injoyed being treated in an abuse relationship Duh...
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 144 (view)
 
Men in this age group and money
Posted: 1/25/2015 2:01:28 PM
How can a woman check a man how much he can put on the table , if they are not on that BARA BOOM BARA BANG level ? Yes I said that a whore is after a man's money and a true grit woman is after the character of a man. well if a woman is looking for sex ,she doesn't need money and a good character of a man Being slut can get a lots of actions ,I hope she has a good job , OBGYN is pricey, for the treatment of HIV,sypilis, ect.ect.
Hey if you have guts to interrogate your dates financial status more power to you.
They have a fancy name now GOLDDIGERS,.,,,, Way back 1920ish "free milk from Daisy the laughing Cow.. sure means no legal responsibility, it works for both genders.

What I have posted is reality and the argument is close on you.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 198 (view)
 
Paying for a date
Posted: 1/25/2015 1:24:15 PM
Msg.# 1:


What is the general consensus about paying on dates ? Does it have to do with who made the date? Is it considered less chivalrous if the woman pays?
Ladies, are you offended when a guy asks you to go "Dutch" ? Guys, are you ever embarrassed if a woman pays for the whole date ?


I took up lessons of Etiquette, on dating when I was a teenager, in the Philippines if a man invited you he takes care for the tab, then the a girl invited him for dinner in her house with her family cooking his favorite dish ,giving him a gift of cakes to take home ect.ect.. When I become a widow and dates I offered to share, those men I dated, they tells me, that in this COUNTRY IF YOU ARE INVITED IT IS RUDE TO OFFER TO PAY! Those men never heard of POF forums. I never experienced a date tells me to go dutch, but I go dutch with myFe/ male friends. No I will not be offended if a man initiates the dates, and ask me to pay my own, I'll be happy to pay + tips for my own meal. I met a guy from POF, first date he used a coupon and I feel so embarrassed because I know the cashier. Casino jobs is you know almost every one. So I always pay by handing him the money descreetly, I don't think he is embarrass ,he even takes leftovers. what I learned is a poor man can not share his life with you for he have nothing to share , he disregard social ethics, what he have in mind is to survive ... 3 meals for a man is a cheap lessons ,no I am not a stupid fool, I am just kind to him to respect him as a human being even he is half a man..
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 134 (view)
 
Men in this age group and money
Posted: 1/25/2015 11:04:23 AM
Msg.# 114

I love your dry sarcasm. Please let me invite you and buy you a drink, the limit is 4 bottles of Budwiesers you take care of the tips and your taxi fare on going home for drunkenness .... for I am on this men age group with not very much money to spare. Even I am a woman.

(With straight face )
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 124 (view)
 
Men in this age group and money
Posted: 1/25/2015 10:12:16 AM

disagree_ there's a 3rd type. Smart, acts like a lady and thinks like a man. Wants a good man who has something to the table -nothing whorish about that. Men have a criteria ,why shouldn't a woman.

Hey Blonde, do you already check the man's wallet first thing, if he can bring something on the table ????
Letting them have BARA BOOM BARA BANG, they don't even put a little thing on the table., they reason why pay a free milk, and what you let them have is a gift and you enjoyed it too. NOPE I don't think like a man , I think like a person with a lot of common sense. That's just me.
Blonde what ever your definition of a good man is up to you..
Note:
And I believed that both of us are not below in the lowest poverty level. that we go out with pennyless men. have you not think of that?
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 120 (view)
 
Why do so many men end up with unkind women
Posted: 1/25/2015 9:32:36 AM
Msg.# 1 :

Hey,hey, sister it is a tough competition among us women here . And Plenty of fish is not fibbing , that there's a million fish (men ) here. Plenty of fish Dating Site is not responsible if these fish ( men) wont bite your BAIT.

We wimmen are marketing our self here , may the best woman win...... Yout sales pitchs sucks , do you think by hurling some cow dungs on other women here makes you desirable ?
why do so many men end up with unkind women.


*You play dirty*, oh forgive me.My bad, let me be nice, you gave me the impression that you follow that man with a girlfriend or wife to the movie theater, restaurant , following closely and you listen to their conversation ?? Or making this up? A poor penny book writer won't even use your imaginative materials.. Or her books will end up in a dumpster.

OH MY GOD!!! You'll hit below the belt for DESPERATION.

Vannili
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 96 (view)
 
Are you attracted to 'Crazy'?
Posted: 1/25/2015 6:33:28 AM

^^^^ that's a bit rude.,,,,,,,


I respect your opinion ,about my strong words, but some see it in different view that my strong words are like a bitter medicine that will knock a person into a consciousness..


Please don't write them off so easily as defects.

Please don't tell me ,not to be my own person, I run my mind with out beating around the bushes and I target the issue bull'seye. Is that a crime ???


Maybe just not date worthy.


Now basilik123 ,your are definitely TALKING.

Vannili
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 115 (view)
 
Men in this age group and money
Posted: 1/25/2015 5:43:28 AM
Msg.#1:


OR women don't really get involved with him because he doesn't have much spare money.


There are two kinds of woman that lives in this world , one is a whore who see a man for his money and one is woman who see the goodness of the man to share her life and grow up with him.

I am not speaking for other women , Me I don't want anyone noseyying if I have spare money or not, as long as I am not
bothering any one for money or freebies. And I am not inquisitive about a man's financial status, if a man invited me to an expensive restaurant , and his fund is limited then he is a fool , that would apply to me too.
If a man can only afford to treat me at McDonald hamburger ,I'll appreciate it, for I don't gauge a man how thick is his wallet , I gauge him through his character..
I hope you are satisfied with my honest answer.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 94 (view)
 
Are you attracted to 'Crazy'?
Posted: 1/25/2015 4:59:15 AM
Msg: # 1:

Thanks for asking this question, as we all know there is no limitation on asking questions under the sun or under the moonlight .
No I am not attracted to Crazy Persons for we have nothing in common, they can't survive in the world and can't normally interact with others for they have defective mind.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 370 (view)
 
How to answer 'how many men have you slept with?' question?
Posted: 1/23/2015 10:21:25 AM
m_church

LOL, If I meet a man like you who thinks women are like vehicles and ask how many milage I run, in a flirty way batting my mascared eyelasses I will tell him the truth.
That I am an old vintage Dodge , I am well cared, chassis are checked, once a year my lover rides and parade me and park me at Victorian Avenue Sparks NV to be admired by on lookers That is on Hot August Night.

Yes, I am La Di Da I looked down on those retired Taxi Cabs in the Junk Yard.

Vannili
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 368 (view)
 
How to answer 'how many men have you slept with?' question?
Posted: 1/23/2015 6:35:17 AM
[quote ] How to answer " how many men have you slept with ? question ?

These words that comes out from the mouth of this guy sum up he is a big time uneducated . what he got in his mind is one track fukking ,fukking fukking. Sex is part of our adult life, but we don't talk about it ,we do it in private .
If it is me, I would say NONE .. if he won't stop ,I will tell him I will respect you if you watch
a porn secretly, instead of picking me, what my past is none of your business
I told that to co worker woman who wants to know about my sex life...
My advice take it or leave it, Never ,never divulge the number of men you have sex with in your past, your bank account ,social security... And don't be interested about your date sex escapades ect.ect.
Your private life is none of any one business ,present or past.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 193 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/23/2015 5:36:23 AM

@bluemoon
You 're allowed to be born again virgin at any time.


calguy 14 I heard that from another guy to be" born virgin again,"
Well, generally men are too cheap to buy me a cup of coffee at Starbuck
so buying a fake man made hymen is too pricey to be broken one time
so the best option I come up is to Cross My Legs , You bet I am not born again but I am a virgin Again.

Vannili
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 192 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/23/2015 5:17:05 AM

Some people can ride a motorbike, some people can sew a wedding dress, some people cant cook very well
and some wouldn't be able to change a flat tire. OK, there would be a fairly strong pattern of gender specificity about
it. but really its just a vapid "toilet seat or toilet up seat down" /" all men area stupid , all woman are impractical"type of nonsence discussions.


Right, what people strong and weak ability to do things is not a topic of intelligent discussion. but the subject is > Men who Never Learned to Cook, the issue is The OP is getting tired doing it by herself cooking for these men. I am one of the forumites that don't believe a normal person can not cook for that is necessity in life , he may not be a creative or international gourmet cook. but if you like I would say he surely knows how to prepare his food. I don't know the OP personally but reading her words, it dawned on me that she is set to do things her way in the kitchen that these men are uncomfortable or afraid to rile her ,a 62 yrs old asking her how to cut a limon ??? Give me a break..........
The name of the OP's game is MY WAY ( or you don't know how to cook) or THE HIGH WAY. these men are not psychic to know her mind, so hitting the High Way is a very good option. They sit comfortable watching football or reading and waiting > BABE, DINNER IS SERVED !!!!!!! Heheheheheheh
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 186 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/22/2015 5:07:33 PM
^^^^^^^^^^^ sunshine gal
I am awed I never heard a smart woman in my life ,, who isn't buying some BS sandwiches.

If he is an Arab, I believe that his wife won't let him use the washing machine because it is not
a Machine gun.
I met a JIM not your Jim Miss Hiker, Ohh, every one thinks I am a lucky girl he is tall dark and handsome
and drive a sexy red sport car he work in a Car Lot. First time he comes to my house,told me ,he is poor poor guy no body takes care of him,"please will you rob my back " , I said hey! get out I don.t
want you dying in my kitchen, my match maker ( girlfriend ) asked who is wrong you or Jim ? I said it is I, I don't like men.LOL.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 171 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/22/2015 1:36:01 PM
demitar Life is not just money and fukking, there are more to it than that. It sadden me to know that you pay for everything and got scammed.
My philosophy is what you sowed is what you reap.
How can you expect a woman comes to adore you if you are combatant and think of them in nasty view ?
I don't know you ,but I want you to have a happy life, (as a human being to another human being ) do you think it is wiser if you change your type ? Go for a man, it is not a crime to be a GAY. just my 2 cents.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 169 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/22/2015 12:58:41 PM
Message #156.


Unfortunately, men do not like to be around masculine woman, sorry, sad but true.


demidar You may want to change your strategy to these masculine women, be a social skill gentleman, with a bonus of romancing her if she is your type, instead of checking around her place what you can fix ,while ogling her ASS, A poor shot.
Note:
I am not making this up.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 167 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/22/2015 12:27:21 PM
You got a point dragonbits, there are matters that needs a professional jobs to be done. If I were a man I won't
underestimate the mentality of a woman, she knows what is professional job to be done in her car, house ect..


EXACTLY!!! These days, ANYBODY can be an expert!!!lol


Honestly, I won't buy that literally, like I am not buying that a man can't cook and cut a lemon. for that is a basic human needs, to eat..If I were that man I will ask the OP how she wants the limon cut slice thin or thick quartered or just halve ,ect.. I politically assume he learned something in his schooling. or a bartender put a cut limon in his drinks.

When my husband was alive ,he never dirty his hands ,he hired people to do things for his car/house/yard I thought that is a normal living,and I grew up in that kind of pattern. when he passed away , I don't even know how to put air/gauge in my tires, I pay $10.00 every time I need air in my tires, When I become poor I finally learned to asked a woman ,she looks like she think I am stupid, I don't blame her, but I got miffed when a mechanic yelled at me that I put too much air, I yelled back at him >how can you measure air ? He taught me to read the car book, and buy a tool gauge and how to use it. Excuse me ! I maybe a stupid woman ,but I am not his Stupid Wife.

The moral of my story is > never say Never Learned.
DON"T RELAY ON MEN TO PICK UP THE PIECES OF YOUR IGNORANCE AND WEAKNESS.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 147 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/22/2015 4:44:29 AM
I love you Dee4166 You are my HERO !!!
Depending on a man with our basic needs is not going to work.
Being a Lady with self respect and Dignity weight more than a wench,
who trade in tumble on the hay..
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/22/2015 4:32:02 AM

Come on, Vannili, that's harsh. If you use that logic then,since you grew up with a bathroom,you should know how to repair a leaking sink and fix a toilet that doesn't flush.

I apologize for being harsh, The story of my life is >>>>> I grew up ingrained in me that women don't do a man's work. when I become a widow I have to work 2 jobs + sideline, employ a expensive handyman to do " a man's work around my house. Girlfriends advice me to get a boyfriend to do these things for free, it turns me off I can not stomach it.Some guys offer to do things for me , and I tell them no thank you I have a plumber or a handyman. They think I am a feminist * If only they focus on me we might up to second level. When the economy went down ,I can't afford a handyman, I learned that American women do masculine things. To make a story short I learned to paint, fixed door, hammer nails fixed fence, prevent leaking sink and toilet, sawed some tree branches , mixed cement to patch concrete in my yard, check my car ect.. I cried a lot before I learned those masculine jobs, I learned these things wearing a mini skirt. black pantyhose ,pumps shoes standing in whatever section number depending what my project is asking a customer advice. Men are helpful if their attention is peak. uh.
Now I only hire a man if the work need some strength for I am not physically strong.

This forumite said he cooks for a date to GET LAID that is a cheap shot. Opps sorry I am harsh.
If a person wants a good relationship he sell his self that he is a great person with intelligence.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 136 (view)
 
Men Who Never Learned to Cook
Posted: 1/21/2015 6:35:59 PM
I think a man is pulling my legs if he tells me he doesn't know how to cook, he grow up in a house with a kitchen, I bet he observed his mom cooking. If a person can read he knows how to cook.
Your husband and those guys you dated are sneaky, LOL ! How do you slice a lemon ?

I grew up with servants , but when I came to U S A, I cook or I go hungry.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Is revenge sweet justice? Or is it petty?
Posted: 1/21/2015 6:12:15 PM
Drama Princess ? Stay away from those chicks it drag you down and it is a waste of time and energy to listen to them or read their text.


Don't worry princess just need a time out.


Yeah, right a long time out LOL
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 514 (view)
 
Women that wear too much makeup at our age....
Posted: 12/20/2014 11:07:04 PM
Msg.#1;

fishon!!!, I say you are more prettier than those women who spend money on makeups and consumed their time in the mirror if you mind your own business and get a life, perhaps focus on observing some nice scenery, flowers, paintings ,reading good books to enhance your out look in life.


<div class="quote"> I am a woman of 51 and I don't wear makeup makes me pretending to be someone,,,,,I look at women my age who scares the shit out of me, do we know how stupid we look ??
Women who use makeups/facelift/ect.. Thinks your opinion is a Big Jokes.
LIVE & LET LIVE !!
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 35 (view)
 
my guy still has his POF account
Posted: 12/15/2014 7:05:19 AM
Msg. #1:

You still have your account here too.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 259 (view)
 
The Coffee Date
Posted: 12/12/2014 10:08:51 AM

Why aren't women flocking after short, bald guys with huge bellies ?


Obviously, he ain't got Money Talking.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 68 (view)
 
women don't appreciate Approach Anxiety?
Posted: 12/12/2014 6:09:46 AM
Msg. #1:

I don't think there is such thing as Men Approach Anxiety , if a man doesn't enterested on a woman, he is like a horse
that you can lead him to a water trough but you can't make him drink if he doesn't want to drink.
As a woman , I don't appreciate weakness even on me what more of a man ?

I would like to share my experienced ,me and friend were in a bar and we shared a table with this pretty aggressive woman , to make a story short , she said to us don't be timid, you can get any man you want >> she a called young good looking guy pulled a polite conversation then exit and so the rest of men did the same. Then she told us about her 3 divorces ,and the boyfriend is trying to kill her ect . ect. she was very drunk ..The moral of my story is a man is a man but a woman is a woman.. I guessed a man can take a million rejections but not a woman.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 145 (view)
 
The Coffee Date
Posted: 12/10/2014 3:10:00 PM
Msg. #1 :

My priority on meeting a stranger is to know him and get acquainted with him, Pressing my luck that" he might be the one " or could develop into just a friendship.
I do not rely my dining out with him for I can afford to treat myself to a lovely Dinner in a 4 * restaurant, if he just want to meet me in starbuck I would consider that is a decent move. than if he ask me to meet in a corner of street and I have to bring my own thermos of coffee and donuts to share with him..


<div class="quote"> How Do You Feel About Coffee Dates ??

I personally don't like them. Well if the guy invited you for coffee , tell him that you are paying for dinner and drinks for you don't like coffee meet, it is that simple..

[quote I Kinda Feel Like Someone is Kicking The Tires ,In A Used Car Lot.

I sure don't understand your statement about feelings on coffee dates. but if you ask me I feel with my hands.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 198 (view)
 
If you don't even LIKE women/ men, then why come on to a dating site?
Posted: 12/9/2014 8:02:34 PM

If you don't Like women/men, then why come on to a dating site ?



That's right , I don't like men/women including myself, why I am here on the dating site ?

So I can antagonize these people who can't have a date , that they turn into POF Forums Police Wannabe

Get it ?

Vannili
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 150 (view)
 
If you don't even LIKE women/ men, then why come on to a dating site?
Posted: 12/6/2014 12:53:29 PM

^^ Not barbarian ? lol well, that's a first "chuckles. and thank you
And sweetie, I'd be dead by suicide or in the asylum if I weren't doing fine
in this complicated world.


Hey ! Now we are talking the TALK, good comment.. I am happy to lose on this game of argument > your Checkmate on me !!! I sure do expect that answers from you .Good job.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 144 (view)
 
If you don't even LIKE women/ men, then why come on to a dating site?
Posted: 12/6/2014 12:04:12 PM
charmin ,I think you are okay, you are not corny and mushy and you are not Barbarian,
you'll do fine in this complicated world. just my humble opinion.


^^^ Supporting the haters"
very kind of you Vannili


Thank you, supporting the haters ? why not as long they are happy doing it . and as long as it doesn't affect me that is important.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 140 (view)
 
If you don't even LIKE women/ men, then why come on to a dating site?
Posted: 12/6/2014 11:43:24 AM
You are welcome dee, MEH< in my way of thinking, it is useless to fight people here at the forums , insulting them for their opinions ,because they will not divorce me and I get nothing no Alimony or child support. Nooo I am not trying to be funny!


So I would rather go by the mottos of LIVE AND LET LIVE.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 137 (view)
 
If you don't even LIKE women/ men, then why come on to a dating site?
Posted: 12/6/2014 11:16:52 AM
Good Argument and Bashing Dee4I66:

The reason is I am better of finding a mate here checking their profiles fake or real ,at least I have a lead, and when the dating did not lift up the ground ,I don't to have answers my friends of WHY ? Oh WHY ??? For they thought the person they are matching with me is a God gift for me. Duh. I don't really care very much people meddling and talking about my private life.

I learned and love this forums and befriend some of the regular forumites , for me it is a cheap way to go to a C octail party with out makeup and dress up, and expensive wine. ( hey panties and bra , cream sladderd on face plus coffee is okay you can't beat that ) I learned from some post asking advice ,and some giving their opinions, if you like, I would say different thoughts/insights inter actions.

I thought I am very learned and wise but I find out ,I don't know anything, and I don't want to be that fool Wolf who can not reach the grapes in the high vine and decided that the grapes is sour and rotten. Wolfie I respect your decision.
I am giving a hugs and air kisses to those people who doesn't favor your criteria dee4166, with out them I die of boredom. I love you people, muwaah. that is a kiss if you guys don't know.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 77 (view)
 
How to build a relationship with a widower?
Posted: 12/6/2014 8:51:19 AM
I Can be a good friend of a Widower, I am a good listener, and not a bad cook to share food.
But he can not touch me sexually ,he doesn't own me. and he is not my priority.
If he is ready to move on, he be the one to build a relationship with me . That is just me.

If someone would say I am dead wrong, my question is what is it to you ?????????
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
How to build a relationship with a widower?
Posted: 12/6/2014 8:31:03 AM
Petula, I understand what you are saying because it comes from your feelings and how you perceive life through your experienced and observation. Some pompouse contributors in this forum have the guts to tell you that you are deadly Wrong,flat ,WRONG ? Perhaps these people only see the color of black and white and not aware that there are a hundred of different colors of species in this earth, so with people too, but different characters.
Yes some wo/men, with a good marriage have a hard time to fall out of love from their deseased spouses. I guessed for the reason that their togetherness is so strong, so to speak thru thick and thin, for richer or poorer , tested by the years. A male friend told me he loves his late wife ( married for 32 years ),and meeting someone because he is lonely, I bet he really need someone alive to help do things for him, I don't know about the romantic love part. A lovely widower truck driver married for 38 years move too fast on me he wants me to relocate to his state not to share his life and his house, he doesn't want to disrupt his life style ,his late wife things in the house and his garage work shop and he is contented with his adult children families my role to him is dinning out partner. I don't think I am that desperate to sale my house ect.ect. bad deal.
There is truth on what you said. personally FOR ME it is a good logic.
Thank you ,
Vannili
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 101 (view)
 
The one thing you must have
Posted: 12/4/2014 4:01:12 AM
Msg.# 1 :

I would go for someone who is comfortable in life and he adores and cherish me.


Someone may choose "rich" but then they are taking a chance of not getting other things they like ,such as
athleticism or great personality.


No Comment, hehehehe.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 45 (view)
 
Dating a Divorcee
Posted: 12/3/2014 7:55:11 PM

Wait until the really big comparison, if it happens.


Giggles !!!!!!
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 58 (view)
 
How to build a relationship with a widower?
Posted: 12/3/2014 11:13:14 AM
Post # 1 ask for advice, she got my answer. thanks but no thanks I am not interested of #46. And your argument.

That will be it.
Vannili
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 56 (view)
 
How to build a relationship with a widower?
Posted: 12/3/2014 9:50:28 AM
So sorry, that I poke a raw wound and my opinion is not for you.
<div class="quote"> ^^^ You are wrong,,,,,,,,[/quote ] save your judgement. for youself. for it is not doing any good to me.


Of course we have memories of the past, how does it grab you if your present man will tell You that is not the way my late wife cook omelet or the conversation is just one track , my late wife is this or that..If you are happy with it nobody can argue that PERIOD.

I EMPHAZISE that I respond for message ---Msg:#1 not bluemoon24 7

Good or Bad Memories become a baggage if we keep dumping it with others .
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 54 (view)
 
How to build a relationship with a widower?
Posted: 12/3/2014 9:02:36 AM
Msg. #1:

I don't think I want to build a relationship with your widower, he is not yet detach of his late wife, he just want to relive
his past relationship with his DEAD WIFE with you. Well, me I don't want to waste my precious time on earth as his listening board I had better things to do, to mingle with others and enjoy their bonding with me whether female friends or dates.
I have that faith that there is a man out there who wants me as the love of his life . and we will trek this journey in life holding hands together until we reach the end.

I don't think he is ready to move on yet.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 78 (view)
 
How much do you want to know?
Posted: 12/3/2014 8:22:10 AM
^^^ I agree completely vannili
To the OP trekker . Your profile says your children are over 18... If I was a woman I would be asking questions.



Thanks calguy 14,
Ask questions ??????? They are smarter than you think. No one will admit what is bad for them even they are caught red handed. The name of the game is using our common sense. and the gave away is >>>> Too good to be true and by their questions ,you learned , what people are up to.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 76 (view)
 
How much do you want to know?
Posted: 12/3/2014 7:40:41 AM
But history has a habit of repeating itself...that's why you can get some idea of what will do in the future
from what they have done in the past.


People changed from lesson of experienced, we become matured and have wisdom to go by. Habit doesn't repeat itself
it is the person who is repeating it. And those people who wants to know your past relationship have a very shallow mind, if you like I would say insecured, they want to know your weakest point and they will use it as a weapon to you,
because what you told them is stuck in their mind and they base as a pattern of your character, but it is not so.
Your past love life is closed, and you are starting a new life with this new person and I bet you become a new person to her too. Talking of Football, Baseball, or any kind of Sport ,Travels, Arts, Hobbies ,ect. is more stimulating Conversations, than talking about each other past relationship, it gets old and boring, don't you agree?

A person who cross your bounderies of decency and if you are a blabber mouth it won't work a harmony relationship. No love will come out of it.
Of course there is an exception like if he is a woman abuser, a criminal, a con artist , in other words unsuitable person , you will know by his character, for he will only tell you what you want to hear.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 72 (view)
 
How much do you want to know?
Posted: 12/2/2014 9:59:16 PM
Msg.#1:

It is unethical to be nosey on somebody's past love life. My late husband was so nosey about my past love life I told him that I burned the bridges I crossed, and he is still adamant to know . I told him that I respect the men that if I have nothing nice to say . I would rather shut up . And it really hurt me to bring the past which I buried it to the back of my mind, moving on and starting a new fresh life with a new one , without a messy mind baggage.
I am not stereotyping that Americans are insensitive, but majority can talk things that are very private that is delicate to share. I am an Asian, and I am discreet on some personal matter. And I don't want to know the detail of my lover past love life which has nothing to do with me or with his present.
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 242 (view)
 
wants to date but nothing serious.
Posted: 12/2/2014 9:03:13 PM

Every woman says she wants a guy to make her laugh , so " nothing serious " should be a good thing .Right ?


Correct, specially if you are tickled on intimate places, did anybody heard that dying in laughing is a serious matter ?
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 27 (view)
 
What do you like about your self?
Posted: 11/3/2014 7:20:29 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^

Not too bad, you earned that, crotchety, ba$tard Azzhole because of artheritis, rumatism, high blood pressure, high colesterol.forgive me, I forgot the term about something wrong with your penis and balls...

cooldog don't forget to get a rocking chair to sit and watch the sunset. And don't forget to put this post in to a frame ,so you can read it every day while rocking your chair.. So you can remember how we met.

Vannili
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 84 (view)
 
Men... what should we be looking for in men?
Posted: 11/3/2014 6:35:05 AM
^^^^^^^^^^
Did somebody tells you, you are not just a pretty face on the forums, you also have a good head.

VANNILI
 Vannili
Joined: 7/8/2008
Msg: 24 (view)
 
What do you like about your self?
Posted: 11/3/2014 6:31:02 AM
^^^^^^^^^^

Now that is what I call a real person, who knows where he is going.
 
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