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spacebabe9849

Joined: 7/10/2008

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What grabs your attention? What makes you stop reading Posted: 9/20/2008 9:24:17 PM
The eyes grab my attention...then the smile....then his style.....What makes me stop reading is his location.

spacebabe9849

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Sending A Guy Flowers Posted: 9/20/2008 9:08:44 PM
Send flowers to a guy???.... What's this world coming to?

spacebabe9849

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Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER Posted: 9/11/2008 5:34:03 PM
wrong?...heck no.....this is a dating site....isn't it? If you don't go on a date how will you ever know? At best, we can try to eliminate the ones that aren't compatible with our lifestyles by reading profiles. After that, we e-mail and talk on the phone; to meet (or date), would be the only way to know if there is chemistry. Good luck ...

spacebabe9849

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Men and their Age Issue? Posted: 9/7/2008 1:40:10 PM
MEN and AGE......Here I go again. My oldest daughter at 29, and being married twice before to men her age, with no children being born in either marriage. She was told she wouldn't be able to have children. My daughter was always very mature for her age. She met a man 69 years old and fell head over heels in love with him. He's not your typical 69 yr. old man....she has a hard time keeping up with him. They are now married and have a beautiful son, my grandson. I have always believed in dating within the same age group. After seeing how fabulous their marriage is, I'm begining to believe age is just a number........

spacebabe9849

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Dating - A Game At Our Age?? Posted: 9/7/2008 11:41:19 AM
Well, I for one love playing the dating game......to me it is fun and exciting. It's the game of love, winning your love is the challenge, keeping your love is the goal. Winner takes all. To me life is one big game, play or sit in your corner and take what comes your way. Reminds me of one of my favorite songs by Lee Ann Womack...I Hope you Dance. Count me in..... .....

spacebabe9849

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Define Love at this stage Posted: 9/6/2008 8:18:13 PM
I think it's an attitude that turns into a feeling.....Love has not changed at all. I am still looking to" fall in love" the same as I was looking to "fall in love" back in my younger years....

spacebabe9849

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Msg: 105 (view)

Do people really have time to date?? Posted: 9/6/2008 12:35:45 PM
Dear Anne, Thank you so very much for the birthday sentiments. xxxxx.....

spacebabe9849

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What do you expect in a new relationship? Posted: 9/6/2008 12:16:50 PM
My situations and I have changed concerning what I EXPECT from a relationship. I don't like the word EXPECT, it sounds too demanding! I like to think more on the lines of SELECTing the right mate. If we are careful in SELECTing the right mate to begin with, our chances of having a good relationship are very high. One who CAN fullfill my EXPECTations. When I was younger...... wanting to settle down and have children...I wanted a man who not only had a good job; but, a man whom I felt would be a good father. I believed those qualifications and loving me, would make the rest fall in place. Now that my children are raised and on thier own; I find myself back out there looking for a mate. The only costant is....... for him to have similar interests and lifestyle. I don't EXPECT him to have alot of time for me; but, also, I wouldn't choose a mate who didn't. That's why I view the men who are retired. I feel it is SO important to SELECT wisely. POF is a great site; it gives us all the tools we need in our SELECTing process.....

spacebabe9849

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Msg: 102 (view)

Do people really have time to date?? Posted: 9/5/2008 10:59:37 PM
Well, angelbrighteyes......He called.....he's accepted my invite now I'm a nervous wreck. ....

spacebabe9849

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Is courting dead? Posted: 9/5/2008 9:10:07 PM
I fully agree, maeflower. The man that courts his woman will be a happy man.....

spacebabe9849

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Is courting dead? Posted: 9/5/2008 8:22:47 PM
My late husband was like that.....he was very romantic...He would call me from the office and ask me out to dinner. He always held my hand and walked on the outside. He was a great lover, protector,father, and provider. He courted me all through our marriage. They are hard to come by, but they are out there....

spacebabe9849

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Do people really have time to date?? Posted: 9/5/2008 12:17:42 PM
Thanks, Phoebe......I'm sorry I didn't go into more detail, maybe you would have a different reaction to my dilemna. I already know this man, he knows me. He knows my family and my children, we lived in the same town for years. My late husband and I worked hard for him when he was running for office. We know all the same people, it's not like he is a complete stranger, although it has been at least 15 years since I last saw him because we moved out of town. He was married then, and so was I. I found him on yahoo personals...wanting to meet someone. I was sooo suprised to see him on there. I made the first contact....just really wanted to say HI.....HOW HAVE YOU BEEN?.....Since then we have talked and e-mailed for almost a month. we are both widowed. He thinks I have him on a pedestool and doesn't want to fall off. He says he doesn't want me to be disappointed. I have invited him down to my house in the country...it was the Labor Day week-end..he said he didn't want to fight the traffic and that we should wait till I get moved and settled in. It's out of character for me to pursue a man......but I have climed out of my comfort zone for this man because he has all the qualities I'm looking for. For him to keep putting off meeting me I am beging to think he's really not that interested. .....so if he doesn't except my last invite, I'm moving on.....too many in the sea .......

spacebabe9849

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Do people really have time to date?? Posted: 9/5/2008 9:37:03 AM
I have been talking to a man for sometime now; he seems to be a great match for me. I'm in the middle of a move and he thinks it's best to meet after the move......... and I get settled in. That could take a month or so ..I am begining to feel he is dragging his feet. Even though I am spending everyday packing.......I would drop everything and get together with him for a first meet. My birthday is Monday....my daughter is having a little party for me....I'm going to invite him.....if he gives me another excuse...I'm moving on... .......

spacebabe9849

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Sensuality in your 50's..... Posted: 9/4/2008 11:55:58 AM
Speaking for myself, I'm very sensual, and the man that is lucky enough to get my attention, is in for a real treat. I prefer to meet men who are retired and have grown children (on their own). I am retired, and am looking for a man who is not bogged down by time scheduales. I haven't forgotten how to start a fire, but I am more choosy now , as to where to light it and with whom. I know I can compete with the younger crowd,but choose not to. Sounds to me like this guy is not giving us older, wiser women, a chance. Most of us are cautious and like to take our time in choosing our partner; but, once we decide....look out....we can set the world on fire!!!!!! ....

spacebabe9849

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Widow/Widower-Wearing the wedding ring? Posted: 9/2/2008 8:48:57 PM
hmmm........I already posted....ops ......

spacebabe9849

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Widow/Widower-Wearing the wedding ring? Posted: 9/2/2008 8:37:46 PM
I wore mine up untill a month ago. It was such a beautiful ring. My youngest daughter got engaged....I offerd them my ring......she was so pleased. Mine was gold and she wanted white gold, so he took it back to the jeweler had the ring set in white gold. I was glad my to see the ring and the love it stood for will live on......

spacebabe9849

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Is sex as important to you as it once was? Posted: 9/2/2008 10:06:52 AM
^^^^^takes all kinds

spacebabe9849

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Is sex as important to you as it once was? Posted: 9/2/2008 9:53:02 AM
I'm a very sexual woman. Sex is important to me. I know from my personal experience and being married to a man that had a bad stroke; I chose to stay by his side. I was satisfied enough to snuggle up with him and hold his hand. This taught me that love is more important than sex. I would love to once again have a healthy sex life. I also realize at our age, there are many attractive, interesting men that may not be able to perform as they once did. If he has the will, I'm sure we will find the way to satisfy each other sexually and emotionally.....

spacebabe9849

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Is red hot romance possible after 50? Posted: 9/2/2008 8:34:38 AM
They say "seasoned" wood burns the best. We used to use that term in realestate, a "seasoned" realtor. So by using that anology.....I'm a "seasoned" woman and my flames can burn HOT when I find that "seasoned" man that sparks my fire. Like they say.....LIGHT MY FIRE ,baby ....

spacebabe9849

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Why it's great being in a relationship Posted: 9/1/2008 5:13:34 PM
I'll do the cooking ..he can do the dishes...I'll do the laundry...he can cut the grass....I'll clean the house.....he can clean the cars....I'll go to the grocery store .......he can carry them in.......I'll feed the plants....he can feed the dogs ....I'll rub his back.....he can rub my feet.....We'll pay the bills....We'll go for a walk....We'll cuddle up and enjoy a movie.....We'll go to visit friends....We'll go to church....We'll go to the kids house for Sunday dinner......We'll go to bed and make love all night long.....only to get up the next day and do it all over again .....Sounds great to me

spacebabe9849

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Is red hot romance possible after 50? Posted: 9/1/2008 4:18:13 PM
you betcha it is...HOT HOT HOT .......

spacebabe9849

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Why do some men act interested, then pull back? Posted: 8/31/2008 3:20:16 PM
I haven't even dated this guy yet, but I'm hoping to. I met him on another site, I recognized him. He's from my home town and knew my husband. I haven't seen him for years. My husband and I supported him and helped him in an election. He still looks very attractive. I made the first contact......I was so happy to see him, I sent him a message. He is also a widower, lost his wife about 4 years ago, after being married for over 40 years. He didn't respond, so I sent him another message with my phone # and ask him to give me a call sometime. Almost a week later my phone rings....IT'S HIM lol We talked for 3 hours straight...we know alot of the same people; and, have pretty much the same political views . Didn't hear back till about a week later.... my phone rings ...IT'S HIM AGAIN. We talk for another 3 hours.lol....He gives me his e-mail address, we start e-mailing......all of the sudden, I don't hear from him for another week. He is everything I'm looking for and it's driving me crazy not knowing if he is interested in me. I invite him to my home in the country and he declines. He says it's because he doesn't want to fight the holiday traffic. I'm only an hour away, and moving within 5 minutes of where he lives in a couple of weeks. So, I write him and tell him my gf and I are going to be back in the area, and, plan to go to this popular place to eat and listen to the band (hint-hint). What does he write me back????......Have a great time, I'll call you soon..... men....

spacebabe9849

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Emotions vs mind Posted: 8/31/2008 1:37:12 PM
I have learned alot in the short time , I have been on these dating sites. POF forums have helped me to decipher what I'm looking for, and, what I am not looking for in a man. If I acted on just my emotions alone, I could end up getting involved with a man that shows the slightest interest; even , if my mind was telling me he was totally wrong for me. So, as desperate as I feel the need to have a man love me, I'll let my brain make the final choice.

spacebabe9849

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drama burnout Posted: 8/31/2008 12:52:36 PM
Well, I for one think we all have to deal with different life situations.......its how we deal with them. I try to use reason and good judgement and keep all things in perspective. I keep calm before the storm; and, long after it passes. Why get in a up roar.....just complicates things.

spacebabe9849

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Kids Approval Posted: 8/31/2008 11:00:31 AM
My oldest daughter was the one who told me I should join this site; after, I told her I had joined yahoo personals. My children are very excited about me having someone special in my life. This seems to be the main topic of our conversations lately. The man in my life will join my family and I his, (if he has children). They know I have always tried to make the right choices in life; and, have enough confidence in me to continue doing the same.

spacebabe9849

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Can you have both style and substance in a relationship? Posted: 8/31/2008 9:27:32 AM
To me your style is an expression of yourself. Some choose not to express themselves, which tells me they don't have much substance. For instance, your lifestlyle tells me alot about what choices you have made while living on planet earth. Substandard, means, below standard. Substsantial is having substance: real, true, strong, solid, ample, and wealthy. So to me, they go hand in hand as "the total package". I believe whether, it be in a person, or, in a realashionship. Just my thoughts for whatever they are worth.

spacebabe9849

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Apparently those Nigerian scammers are using Yahoo messenger now... Posted: 8/30/2008 9:04:59 PM
I hate to admit this...a fella in Nigeria contacted me through yahoo personals. He had a picture and said he had a home in the states and was there working as an engineer. His english and his tying were perfect. This went on for almost a month. He sucked me right in with how god had sent me to him, how lonely he had been before he met me. My gf from St Louis came to visit me, I shared with her that I had met this great guy on yahoo. She was very concerned and told me about this scam going on.......I started questioning him asking why he didn't have any more pics , he gave me one excuse after another. By the way..his picture was very nice looking. looked about the age he said he was (59). He wanted me to get off of yahoo personals and not speak to any other man. He said he took his off as soon as he met me.......I told him that I had just payed $89 to join and that I hadn't know him long enough for him to have such feelings for me. Anyway...I took him off my yahoo messenger........He had a lady, named Peggy , from Tenn. call me out of the blue, and tell me she knew him and her husband used to work with him. She said he was crying and very upset that I wouldn't write to him. The next day he had a dozen roses sent to me. I didn't know what to think, so my gf said let's re-add him (she wanted to prove to me he was a scammer). I did, and it wasn't long before he was asking me for money. When I go back and re-read our conversations, the way he expressed his feeling for me, were not the way most american men express their love to women (even if they love them). I can't believe I fell for his story. I saw how desperate I was to hear those loving words he was so good at expressing......... sheesh.......

spacebabe9849

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Andropause... The Male Menopause... Posted: 8/30/2008 4:42:15 PM
I hesitate, because i'm not that knowledgable on medical stuff. I can tell you that my husband was a heavy drinker and that interfered in our sex life. In his mind he wanted sex but his body didn't. There is nothing worse than having sex with a drunk. Then he was diagnosed with diebetis, quit drinking, but he would give himself shots( ouch) to get an erection. I don't know if any of you ladies have delt with that, but it was like he had a dil do strapped on. I like to think I'm the one that is causing the erection not the injection. Ha! Ha! He would be rolling in his grave if he knew I was divulging secrets from our bedroom. ssshhhh

spacebabe9849

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the ex, and the ex and again the ex Posted: 8/30/2008 4:12:08 PM
I understand it will be hard to break it off after 4 months if everything else is great between the two of you.....but, it will be HARDER to break it off as more time is invested. I, myself was divorced and married a divorcee. We joined families together and rarely spoke of each others ex. He didn't even want me to go after mine for child support because he didn't want him to interfere. So, I know it can work, but he has to want it too.

spacebabe9849

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Freedom and Meaning After 45... Posted: 8/30/2008 3:32:20 PM
Sure you can Silken Fire...but the first 20 will get you thinking ....

spacebabe9849

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Not a romance...just romantic dreaming. Posted: 8/30/2008 2:53:01 PM
First you have to want it......next you have to picture it.....then, and only then, can you OWN it....this has been true for me...try it.....

spacebabe9849

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Is courting dead? Posted: 8/30/2008 2:14:57 PM
Geesh....angel....if some man on here hasn't taken notice of you.....I have no hope .....

spacebabe9849

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Freedom and Meaning After 45... Posted: 8/30/2008 1:57:06 PM
Freedom for me came after 55. I am making alot of changes in my life, since the passing of my husband and therefore the end of a 24 year marriage. First big change is moving back to the city, close to my daughters and my one and only grandson. Even though they were only an hour away, I haven't got to see them as often as I would like. My bills are all paid with extra spending cash, money is invested for emergencies. I have never felt freeer. I have delt with breast cancer, that is a worry, but I feel great and am not going to let that stop me from living the rest of my life at it's fullesst. I read Debbie Macomer's "Twenty Wishes", and decided to make my own. It has been fun coming up with twenty wishes, I have all of my family and friends making lists too. Some things on my list are, to find that "someone special", join a church, learn how to do the two step, visit my son in Hawaii, get a massage once a month, have all my family pictures put on discs and the list goes on...lol..... Life is good and getting better everyday. ........

spacebabe9849

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Is courting dead? Posted: 8/30/2008 12:42:50 PM
I once again agree, ismenel. This guy seems to have an attidude, not my type either. I'd have to throw him back to the sharks.

spacebabe9849

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How do men feel about women with silver hair? Posted: 8/30/2008 12:38:27 PM
KK, You are such a great looking lady for your age. I would think any man in your life would love and cherish you just the way you are. You give me hope.

spacebabe9849

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Is courting dead? Posted: 8/30/2008 12:29:37 PM
I'm with you on that,ismenel.

spacebabe9849

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Is courting dead? Posted: 8/30/2008 12:24:17 PM
I sure hope not. This is all new to me, been awhile since I have been out there on the dating scene, so I really don't know. Time will tell...... Ill keep you posted.

spacebabe9849

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Never married geniuses Posted: 8/30/2008 12:00:49 PM
read up, iluv.....God can do miracles...he created you and me, you think he cannot create a measly stone and lift it? And I only went to bible school. .......

spacebabe9849

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How do men feel about women with silver hair? Posted: 8/30/2008 9:16:01 AM
I'd agree with you, jenba......I don't care for men that dye their hair or wear a toupee , but generally speaking, men are more visual, and women are more emotional.

spacebabe9849

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Intellectual Attraction Posted: 8/30/2008 8:56:59 AM
well pete, I don't know you, so I would have to take the 5th on that.

spacebabe9849

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Intellectual Attraction Posted: 8/30/2008 8:34:29 AM
A smart man can sweep me off my feet.......wisdom is soooooo attractive........the ability to learn and understand....yep, a smart man can win my heart. I'd go for the man with the brains before a man that claims he is the gift to women anyday (if you know what I mean) Ha! Ha!

spacebabe9849

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Giving out my phone #? Posted: 8/29/2008 2:46:09 PM
Thank you so much, sapphireeys.....I didn't know that.

spacebabe9849

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Is sex as important to you as it once was? Posted: 8/29/2008 2:20:24 PM
To me sex is an expression of love. Whether or not a man is impotent or not doesn't matter to me. If I love him and he loves me, I'm happy to hold hands and cuddle,as long as there is an expression of love. To tell you the truth, I never was with a man for just the sex, it was always for the love we shared together.

spacebabe9849

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High level of energy over 50. Posted: 8/29/2008 9:04:09 AM
My energy level goes up when I'm getting ready to meet someone for the first time, anticipating meeting the "One" for me. Goes down when I realize they aren't right for me. SOooooooooooo.........back to the drawing board.

spacebabe9849

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You've been THIS long without sex, why is it still a solid requirement? Posted: 8/29/2008 8:38:00 AM
I miss having sex. Sex is as important to having a healthy relationship as water is to a rose; can be a drop or a gallon, depending on how dry it is. lol

spacebabe9849

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Use it or lose it, + informative Posted: 8/28/2008 7:28:15 AM
I hate losing things, that's why I'm searching for it. ... .......

spacebabe9849

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sexless marriage Posted: 8/28/2008 7:17:15 AM
After my husband had a bad stroke in 2002, he couldn't have sex. I took care of him till he passed away last year. I remained faithful. I had a sexless marriage for five years. It's just something you get used to. I can tell you now, that I am MORE than ready to get back in the saddle again

spacebabe9849

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Are your kids smarter than you are? Posted: 8/28/2008 6:59:18 AM
I think my children are very smart, I have taught them well. So I would have to say they are AS smart as I am.

spacebabe9849

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Giving out my phone #? Posted: 8/28/2008 6:47:06 AM
I don't mind giving my # if it is someone I'm interested in. After e-mailing, it seems to be the next step in getting to know someone. I don't like to call men either, unless we have a date, and I was in a wreck or had a flat tire. Other than that........if he doesn't call me, we don't talk.

spacebabe9849

Joined: 7/10/2008

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Pre-Nuptial Agreement? Posted: 8/27/2008 9:31:16 PM
I wouldn't need one.......because I will NEVER marry again. I did sign one when I married though. He had alot before I married him, I had nothing other than two beautiful children from a previous marriage. I loved him and wanted to marry him so I didn't think twice about signing a pre-nup. After I had his baby and years of marriage, he changed everything, he has since passed away and left me in good shape financially. When I die I will leave it to our children, not another man.

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