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tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 144 (view)

Did you really give it your all? Posted: 8/16/2009 2:51:46 PM
I'm sure both sides of any couple has their own version of what went right, what went wrong but I know I gave it my all . Could my "all" be given in a better context? perhaps ... but As in any relationship there were plenty of ups and downs ... nothing and no one is perfect. "I did my best, but i guess it wasn't good enough cause here we are, back where we were before". James Ingram

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 186 (view)

...A Sexual Relationship WITHOUT Emotional Attachments... Posted: 8/16/2009 12:11:34 PM
I agree Ahappygal. I can't imagine being in this situation Ever. But, to each their own.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 39 (view)

How do we Unlearn behavior? Posted: 8/16/2009 12:09:28 PM
Bluesman; I agree with this portion of your post "Old but true. Behavior mod requires practicing the new behavior knowing full well it's not going to feel normal/comfortable...etc..Why would you expect it to? It's new for you. It's like learning a new dance step. You feel awkward at first but after really practicing it and giving in to it, it will soon become YOUR NEW normal...comfortable...etc. But it won't happen over night any more than your emotional issues were created over night." there is a saying ... if you continue down the same path, you end up at the same destination... not sure at the moment who said it.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 187 (view)

What's one thing you loved/love/miss about your ex? Posted: 8/16/2009 12:02:51 PM
his smile, his voice, his kindness, his touch, and of course the great things about our relationship since we have been apart a long time ... it's easy to forget the other stuff that tore us apart, not because Ive forgotten, but because I don't allow the bad thoughts to creep up so much.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 170 (view)

Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX? Posted: 7/7/2009 10:40:03 AM
When it was on track, it was wonderful … when it got off track … which it did often… it was emotionally painful. The other good thing … for me, there is no bitterness, nor hate … just acceptance.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 78 (view)

Using a phone during sex? Is this really bad? Posted: 7/6/2009 2:37:41 PM
gonesailing .... Your post is exactly what I was thinking after I read the OP's remark.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 117 (view)

How far would you travel for a love affair? Posted: 7/6/2009 2:33:24 PM
I did the LDR thing for a year, then moved 12oo miles to make the relationship work. Sigh ... the relationship crumbled, but i wouldnt trade the experience. However, I doubt I'd travel more than a few hours away next time around.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 805 (view)

Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 7/6/2009 2:13:56 PM
Juli5680 . I agree with your statement " When I am in a relationship I look beyond how much money he makes, I look to see how resposible is he". I'm not looking for a sugar daddy, just a man that is responsibile, cause I have no desire to be a sugar momma.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser Posted: 6/16/2009 12:00:42 PM
packageddealx3 Thank you . Well said, and to that note I again thank everyone for taking the time to post their opinion. I value the wisdom of those who have shared it, and respect the opinions of others. With that, I leave the remainder of the thread/post to those who wish to vent, post an opinion, or blindly sling mud.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser Posted: 6/16/2009 10:42:52 AM
[Well I guess I missed the "pat the OP on the back for doing the same thing in an indirect way" class! Gosh rock man ... did you miss the reading comprehension class too? I have not repeatedly said in each post that he was a loser, nor have I called him names or talked trash about him. so, while I dont agree with anything you said, nor is it appreciated , I respect your right to an opinion.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 22 (view)

Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser Posted: 6/16/2009 8:46:40 AM
[Let it go. He is what he is because he never learned to take responsibility for his actions. Not accepting accountability means he can't see his mistakes or correct his conduct. As a consequence he'll never improve as a person. Don't follow his lead.] unfortunetly you are correct. This is one of the reasons the relationship didn't work. Just two different people with different values. Thank you for your input

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 20 (view)

Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser Posted: 6/16/2009 8:37:42 AM
[So his/hers are all lies and yours is the truth, is that what we're supposed to understand/believe? Usually two sides to everything.] No, lonesomerick, that's not my stand on this at all. There are always two sides to everything, I agree. I'm a big girl. I didn't get to be the wonderful age of 55 without a few faults . So, If this person simply pointed out faults, I wouldn't have felt kicked. As for sending him the letter I typed and didn't post. nah... he knows the truth, this is a pattern with him, let him enjoy his pitty party. Thanks for your input

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 19 (view)

Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser Posted: 6/16/2009 8:30:28 AM
Thank you all for taking the time, to offer your input and validation that I did the right thing by not posting. I do feel better after venting via writing and hitting the delete button. Although only in my mind it was like saying it all to his face, then slamming the door. Poof Done. I have nothing to prove and walk away with my head held high.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

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Breaking up and reading POF comments from the loser Posted: 6/16/2009 6:57:11 AM
I'm not sure if this has been discussed before but; Have you ever broken up with a loser, only to come on POF and read a post where he (or she) is professing to be the victim in the relationship? WOW. It was like a kick in the stomach for me, and made me so mad to read the lies that, I spent an hour composing my own post to tell all his dirty little secrets and expose him for the liar he is. In the end, I deleted instead of posting. Not sure why.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 34 (view)

She is marrying someone with whom she has a comfortable, friendly connection. Posted: 3/6/2009 12:45:45 PM
ankkka... Well said.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

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Please Critique my profile Posted: 3/6/2009 12:34:51 PM
I looked at your profile . can't add anything that hasn't been said. Good luck

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

Do you know what exactly what you want from life now? Posted: 3/6/2009 8:54:12 AM
My goal is to live my best life , love my family and friends, Extend a helping had where I can, and enjoy each day as it's offered.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

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Clueless over-45 men (and some women) Posted: 3/6/2009 8:41:49 AM
Loneliness, low self esteem, ED or high Ego make people of all ages do things without thinking I guess.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 92 (view)

Are real naked women just bad porn? Posted: 3/6/2009 8:02:43 AM
Very well said mizz. As with your first post (page 1) "A man that considers Porn to be the benchmark for rating his partners wouldn't have the capacity to keep me interested, let alone get me naked. It's not that hard to determine which men have an unhealthy association with porn....they are hardly known for their Subtlety. ~mizz

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 37 (view)

What's so Wrong with Being Jaded? Posted: 1/15/2009 8:16:48 AM
bodypro8 It’s nice to see your bitterness has subsided. I have to say I’d be somewhat bitter if my ex treated me that way. I think “bitter” ... just like the sentence if you forgive you must forget, is different for each person. I felt bitter for a while that cancer took my husband, I forgive but I won’t forget that terrible pain in losing the love of my life. I forgave the guy in my last relationship that simply could not be what I needed, but I wont forget the hurt it caused and I’ll be more careful in the future with who I allow in my daily life. Does that make me bitter or jaded ? I don't think so. Lessons are learned from painful experiences As long as your bitterness was directed toward the pain, and not life and people in general you’ll do fine . Just my nickels worth Kat

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

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I just don't think I have what it takes. Posted: 11/9/2008 8:32:26 AM
I think everyone has a moment or two in time where they feel the exact same way. I know I have. I'm not photogenic at all, so my picture sure doesnt say who I am or what I'm like. But if you came here only to find someone to date you probably will be disappointed more often than not. the old adage ... when you stop looking, you find what your looking for might apply. Heck who knows, I'm no authority. I'm here on POF to meet friends, chat with people . I know ... attend meet and greets to get out of the house and recently started posting on forums to put myself out there after years. ok... so my rambling simply was to say DONT beat yourself up. There is a Jack for every Jill and vs versa ... you just haven't come across that special person yet. Best of luck to you gone

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 17 (view)

men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking Posted: 11/9/2008 6:51:51 AM
A good open sex life along with open communication is what keeps people connected.

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

men disapproving of toys as addition in lovemaking Posted: 11/9/2008 6:44:04 AM
kittenhere Wow, what a dilemma and disappointment for you. Ive never understood why men feel so threatened about adding toys that hold no threat at all. But mention adding another female and they jump for joy and anticipation. That said; if he is into any kind of bedroom play, blind fold him and tie his wrist to the bed post , then use one of your toys on him … allow him to experience how good the stimulation from the toy feels. Might take more than once, and a lot of patience on your part, but in time I think he will come to understand the toy doesn’t replace him or you, it just enhances the experience. Also … find informative books on the subject of extended orgasms (most require toys) and replace his books in the bathroom with them. Just my 2cents worth

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 27 (view)

going on a cruise Posted: 11/6/2008 1:38:53 PM
Hi barbara I agree. Where else can you get entertainment, a clean room, great food, transportation and such great fun all under one roof !! I love to cruise. I've gone on several and would go on more if a ship would offer single rates. Have a great time on your upcoming cruise !! Kat

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 214 (view)

What made you smile today? Posted: 11/6/2008 7:35:37 AM
an email from a dear friend saying her test came back clear ... no cancer

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

No one likes to meet at the zoo? Posted: 11/6/2008 7:31:32 AM
Magickissss, I took your question seriously, I enjoy the Zoo that houses animals, I adore museums and the talent contained within, but at the moment, after reading some of the responses Its hard to formulate a serious post. Life really is a Zoo

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 947 (view)

New to POF. Posted: 11/6/2008 7:14:51 AM
Not brand new to POF, just finally fishing. (-; and planning to attend my first POF event this weekend. single cruiser gal ... if you could post cruise information as a new thread , it would be GREAT. I love to cruise ... have been on many, but can't ever find one for single people that doesn't require double cost on everything. Maybe you could Host/co ordinate a POF single cruise ? I'd be glad to help Kat

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

NorthPort/PortCharlotte/FtMyers After Party Pics Posted: 10/26/2008 8:51:56 AM
fairiedreamer, add me to the list of peope who didnt make it , but wish I had. Dang it !! Kat

tigressrose

Joined: 7/12/2008

Msg: 35 (view)

Single Women, no kids at home, and dogs.......... Posted: 10/26/2008 8:46:31 AM
I too have had dogs in the family since childhood. Often an "empty nester" has a pet thats been in the family for years. I love my english bully like a child ... she thinks she is one at times I swear I don't have issues with going out socially or working, however finding an apartment that allows dogs over 20 pounds ! WHAT a hassle. And Yep, if I wasn't enjoying your company I might use the excuse my dog needs to be taken out, is sick etc. otherwise ... she is good on her own . I use to have someone in my life that adored her as much as me, now that I don't if I go out of town I'll board her, or hire a student to house/dog sit. Sooo... hug a doggie it's good exercise and it makes your heart sing.

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