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Should I tell her? Posted: 5/18/2012 7:41:30 PM
By the way, I can take him. Why did you even make that statement? Does it really matter??? Explain to me now how this is wussy? In your original post you asked what we think. Landra told you what she thought. She doesn't need to explain anything to you. What she said was a completely valid statement... at least in her opinion...... and her opinion is hilarious... at least in my opinion. LMAO. As far as your situation goes, since you insist that you are not trying to be hurtful or cruel.... I think you should take the high road ... keep your thoughts to yourself and move out. Then yes, just like you said, she will have all the chance in the world to judge him for herself.

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Started to fall hard for this guy until the truth came out! Posted: 5/9/2012 2:32:27 PM
[I had to go back and look at my profile to make sure I didn't have something in there that said " married men only",lol. ] I am glad to see you kept your sense of humor about it... it is a sign that in time you will be fine. However, the first time he stood you up should have been enough. You don't treat people you care about like that. You DESERVE better than that. Remember that as you move on. You are not alone, more people than not.... find themselves in a star crossed love situation at some point during their lives. All you should do now is move on... sooner rather than later. Take care of yourself.

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No country for old men? Posted: 5/7/2012 7:44:31 PM
My advice is to quit rambling. When you do that it is hard for the rest of us to pay attention. Seriously, you don't have to be at a bar or online to meet women. They are all over the place. Restaurants, grocery stores, or even go take a class or join a group. As far as on line goes come up with something unique when introducing yourself such as top 10 reasons to date me, etc, etc. "You" niqueness will get their attention.

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women who love married guys Posted: 5/7/2012 2:28:34 PM
["Not really that interesting. A lot of people create new profiles from time to time. I've been on the site on and off for four years, but my join date is only 12 months ago. I can't even remember why I created a new profile last year." ] No a lot of people do not create new profiles from time to time. For most people it is called edit profile or even hide/unhide profile. If you have remained constantly single for 4 or even 6 years the only reason I can think of to delete a profile and create a new one..... is because you are trying to deceive and/or trick people.

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women who love married guys Posted: 5/6/2012 6:35:14 AM
You say you have been on here six years but your profile states you joined in February. Interesting point, eh? Also you state you have your children every night until 8:00pm and every other weekend but have plenty of time to date when your children aren't around. What planet do you live on where that is plenty of time? In your profile you state you smoke so why do you give a rats ass if someone lights up? As if you can't tell... I just checked out your profile and I'll tell you it by far exudes the most negativity I have ever seen in a profile. IMO the reason you are probably getting people who exude negativity and lie is because you do. As far as being narrow minded and ignorant.... you said it.... so if you are aware of the problem maybe you can fix it. I too have also been called every name in the book ... and when I am called every name in the book I just tell them that I am not just a member.... I am the President. LMAO.

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Did someone make a mountain out of a mole hill? Posted: 5/4/2012 8:28:33 PM
What is it with rhetorical questions? Go with your gut. Oh and one more thing..... IMO sending anyone pictures in various stage of undress is classless and even taking the picture is cause for concern that the wrong person may see it. WTF? (another rhetorical question).

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Lust, Passion and Love Posted: 5/3/2012 7:18:10 PM
Is this a rhetorical question??? lmao.

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Is it true, in your experience, that after the first six months or year the honeymoon is over? Posted: 5/2/2012 7:40:19 PM
Always? No. Only if the two parties involved let it come to an end. Generally speaking though... once it is over... there is no going back.

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The over analytical 30 something? Posted: 5/1/2012 6:47:50 PM
Shouldn't any major choice in life be accompanied by a jaded risk-benefit analysis? lmao.

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men who can fix anything(your thoughts) Posted: 4/29/2012 7:44:02 AM
There isn't such a thing as a man who can fix everything. You can't fix crazy or stupid. However, I would like a man who knew how to fix both. Then I wouldn't have do deal with either.... ever again. lmao.

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Is it a red flag for a 30+ woman to have a large age range in seeking a partner? Posted: 4/27/2012 5:13:23 PM
He sounds to me like someone who over analyzes things and those type of people are generally a pain in the .....

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Is he worth waiting for? Posted: 4/27/2012 5:05:46 PM
He is NOT worth waiting for. NO ONE IS. Life is short, enjoy it. IF he calls you later in life and you are still single ... then you can try.

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Full time worker and part time student a turnoff??? Posted: 4/25/2012 5:59:48 PM
Did the same thing myself, however, I did have kids. I sincerely hope that I will never be done wanting to better myself. You should want the same thing for yourself and look for people who get that about you.

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Where am I going wrong..? Posted: 4/25/2012 5:53:33 PM
You are not wrong; they are. Accept that ... then move on.

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love is/not Posted: 4/4/2008 5:24:57 PM
Kyn is awesome. I don't want to be with the Hobo either. I like bigdogs take on things that love is a state of being, however, it can be more than just people. My cat of the last 13 years just passed away and I have to say that I am more heartbroken than I was when my ex and I split. Really though, not kidding. Feelings to some extent are a matter of choice, so is perspective. Whether to feel it or not is the choice we are making. However, in my estimation is the thought of loss in not knowing an animal or a person. It is the sense of loss experienced when they are no longer part of your life on a routine basis. Whether the love was healthy or unhealthy is another matter. Sometimes, one finds dislike and not love.... Love is and is not a lot of things. Your thoughts , will create your reality.... what is love to you? I am glad your friend is extremely happy but for me to just love anyone I find is out of the question. I want to know that the person I am sharing life with is honorable, responsible, dependable, truthful, blah, blah, blah. There are some imperfections I cannot or maybe just will not tolerate. I am sure with her mind set she would find love again if not for her husband and good for her. It is how it should be. I do not believe people were meant to be alone. In my world, commitment still exists at least on parental and professional planes.

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Give up? Posted: 4/4/2008 3:26:49 PM
I gave up at day one. He was an alcoholic and abusive... verbally and physically. As for you, it will always be about the money to him and I would venture to say it is probably because he has to give you some of his. So until your children are grown and he doesn't have to give you money it will be this way. If you are in mediation, then ask for a 3rd party to be designated to specifically run interference for you. I insisted to the mediator and I had a clause stipulated as such in my divorce. Unless it was an emergency, he had to go through his mother. He was not allowed to contact me directly. Maybe that is what you need.

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Grade 3 students plot to kill teacher Posted: 4/2/2008 7:02:37 PM
The nature of this world scares me. It honestly brings tears to my eyes on an almost daily basis. The news makes me cry. There are so many factors.... which contribute to the heinousness of the crime. The crimes which are so heinous do seem to be happening more frequently but part of this equation is the growth of the population making it seem more frequent. My first notion is to state that I am with Kimber and I don't think I would want to live that long either but I don't know... if the world were a better place I may. Now this situation is messed up and as Birdie said, I do have to ask, who would inspire such hatred? I would also like to know why and I believe this area of thought does need further investigation but my immediate concern would be and maybe I am way off base here but the organizer of this whole plot. The other children do need to be dealt with in some manner but the child who organized this event needs immediate psychological help.

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he cheats then says its my fault.... Posted: 3/23/2008 9:09:20 AM
IMO, I think Digichic hit the nail on the head. Control .... with an over inflated sense of self ego on his part, and not enough self confidence on her part. Also, I never did get the phrase, "you pushed all the wrong buttons". I always countered that with, "you acted in an inappropriate way. Instead of apologizing for their actions, they defend the actions with the "wrong button" statement. Kind of redundant and with this attitude nothing will ever be resolved. Walk away, as it is less frustrating. Who cares? In the words of Digichic, "Indifference in the opposite". So what you should do is, ask yourself, why would you step up your game, or give him a couple of months, when you deserve better than that? What kind of statement about self worth are you making if you were to even to even contemplate any of these actions. Actually, why would you waste another minute thinking about him? If you really want to cut off all communication, First and foremost, when he tries to talk to you, interrupt him and tell him you really don't have anything to say. Next, begin the process of looking for another job. Last, try to remember you deserve much better than him. None of it may be fair, but it is the way it is. Move on with it.

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Rejected after the first date? Posted: 3/22/2008 8:32:54 PM
A spark means everything. Essentially it mean the difference between a fire and no fire. I can't believe we are still having this conversation as IMO the OP was very obviously just looking for attention..... It has been well past a week and profile still found. As I said earlier... it does not take a week to leave POF. It is like the boy crying wolf.

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Rejected after the first date? Posted: 3/14/2008 6:58:22 PM
It is an instant physical attraction spark. It wasn't there for them. At least they were honest with you about it. My question is: does departing from POF really take a week?

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at a all tme low Posted: 3/14/2008 6:16:52 PM
Can we rename the post to "all about the skanks"? I somehow think it would be more fitting. Abortion should not be used as a form of birth control.

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No zzzzz's for me. Posted: 3/13/2008 7:59:27 PM
Enjoy it and cuddle, hold them close. They will grow up all to soon. This is one of those, be careful what you ask for.

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Plentyoffish Voice Mail and SMS Messaging System. Posted: 3/13/2008 3:44:48 PM
I think the voice mail thing is kind of creepy.

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Has anyone ever been falsely accused of something, Posted: 3/12/2008 8:09:52 PM
Yes, I have been falsely accused of something, have also gotten away with quite a bit. I suspect you have too, are you writing threads about that? Stating how unfair it was that you put something over on someone. No, so quit wasting your time fuming about it and move on, meaning completely. In my opinion, the person who falsely accused you needs to go, it doesn't sound like a mentally healthy or stable relationship.

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Ego and Relationships Posted: 3/11/2008 6:17:04 PM
Sure an ego comes into play in a relationship. A big role the ego plays for me... my problem is I get into a relationship and then I think I deserve better.

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Dealing with the Ex and the Kids Posted: 7/8/2007 1:16:43 PM
The sad reality is, you cannot fix their broken relationship. You are no longer part of the equation concerning their relationship with their father. Unfortunately, as far her college education goes, it is her financial obligation to bear. If you can help her, great, if you cannot explain to her why you cannot. The only thing you can do for her, is go to a University and speak to a student financial advisor about what to do and what she does qualify for. As far as the respect is concerned, maybe the children need to explain to him in front of a counselor that they cannot respect someone who talks to them like they are dogs and the LAW says he is obligated to financially support them. Then maybe they need to tell a judge why they would rather not see him. I spent two years when I was 19 refusing to talk to my mother because she could be verbally abusive. I also told her why I wasn't speaking to her. Two years later she apologized and she is not verbally abusive anymore. She is actually a very supportive mother!

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She says she wants space Posted: 7/8/2007 11:52:25 AM
What a lame reason to join a dating web site. That she even suggested it and you did it, let alone her having a profile, speaks volumes. I hope you find the friends you are seeking. You don't need other people's opinion in deciding whether or not to put up with her crap. I really don't think you want to be treated like that, so why tolerate it? Take care of yourself and until next time... May all of your moments be good ones.

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She says she wants space Posted: 7/8/2007 11:34:14 AM
My question is... did you create your profile, so you could cyber stalk her? I mean you both seem to be playing games, which is not healthy for any relationship. Find a fair settlement concerning the house now, then cut your losses and move on.

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Is it possible to love and commit to another, yet live apart. Posted: 7/7/2007 4:38:30 PM
It is possible. I have had it. It does happen all of the time. A sense of fairness never reared its ugly head. It was very nice, and I can tell you probably the healthiest relationship I ever had. After a few years, it still felt like new and was going strong. It only ended because he said something completely ignorant and unforgivable about one of my children. However, the key in this is both parties being fine with the arrangement.

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The nitty-gritty! Posted: 6/8/2007 5:12:01 PM
I sleep in the middle of the bed, and my lunch is provided by my employer for free now, although they are discussing making us pay for the cost of goods. I personally think those things shouldn't matter. I do know what you mean though, my ex-husband used to spit and put trash in the ashtrays. I had a hard time dealing with that. I agree with the Diva though, and if the little things are enough to make some one exit stage left, usually the big things weren't suitable either. Unless, one of the two people has OCD.

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Favorite Quotes Posted: 6/3/2007 8:57:13 AM
A quote that has stayed with me is: "In the name of the best within you, do not sacrifice this world to those who are its worst. In the name of the values that keep you alive, do not let you vision of man be distorted by the ugly, the cowardly, the mindless in those who have never achieved their title. Do not lose your knowledge that man's proper estate is an upright posture, an intransigent mind and a step that travels unlimited roads. Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check the road and the nature of your battles. The world you desired can be won, it exists, it is real, it is possible, and can be yours." ~ Ayn Rand

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For time/love or money/security ???? Posted: 6/2/2007 9:01:47 PM
I don't think the question is too complex. I don't think the question matters... as long as he is a good person and is good company when I am with him, it wouldn't matter.

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Recently discovered that my long term boyfriend has lots of penpals. Posted: 6/2/2007 6:34:13 AM
I am just wondering what else there is about him you don't know.

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Anyone find themselves using their ex’s expressions? Posted: 5/31/2007 6:36:28 PM
Vancer is right. Our minds are giant sponges. I used to work in an elementary school, and I would over hear the children using my phrases. Such as telling each other to chop, chop. That is what I would tell them when I wanted them to hurry. I think everyone uses phrases that they have picked up from other people, hence the term catch phrase. One I overheard years ago that I still use: Oxygen thief.

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jesus jokes Posted: 5/30/2007 9:30:50 PM
^^^^^ Yes, and he will join you. The M&M comment will get him, a go straight to hell card. Can you spell sacrilegious? lolol.

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knowing it will work.... Posted: 5/30/2007 8:14:56 AM
No, I have not felt this way in years, ever since I learned, that sometimes love does not conquer all. I believe there is an instant attraction between people but not instant love.

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I am confused what is the diffrence between a best friend and a boyfriend Posted: 5/28/2007 6:26:24 PM
Hiway-man pretty much summed it up.

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Not a HOAX question Posted: 5/28/2007 6:50:08 AM
Never thought about killing myself, but killing him... that thought crossed my mind. Not only did he affect my credit score in a negative way, he went so far as to burn my clothes because I would not come home. I literally started out with the clothes on my back. It DOES get better. Keep plugging!

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Detergent in a fountain? Posted: 5/27/2007 9:09:19 PM
I think you should just go buy a Lawrence Welk type bubble machine.

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Gender roles and expectations in the future Posted: 5/27/2007 8:11:38 AM
Is this like the movie, I Robot?

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You Might Be Older Than Dirt.........IF......... Posted: 5/26/2007 5:28:32 PM
You might be older than dirt... if ... you fart dust.

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marriage looks like a drag Posted: 5/26/2007 5:22:15 PM
Then don't get married.... no one is twisting your arm. Also, I didn't have a spouse to watch the children grow up with me, I got to that all by myself. I don't live vicariously through my children either but I am proud of them. This thread is what people need to quit listening to.

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Understand humanity before you try co-exist with one. Posted: 5/26/2007 11:07:24 AM
Reading the orginal post, I have to say, on the anger level, we are not equal, you are angrier than I am. Seriously, people are not equal. Each person is completely different and we are NOT virtually the same. We all bring different qualities to the table. However, we can experience the same things. Although, that is not even a definate. The only equality we can experience in this lifetime is to hopefully have the same rights and freedoms as each other.

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Do you have a secret that...........? Posted: 5/25/2007 7:08:49 PM
No, and at any time if I ever felt I couldn't share my intimate details with my significant other or spouse, the relationship would end.

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Something I will never understand.... Posted: 5/25/2007 7:04:30 PM
People can only walk on you, if you lie down. Stand your ground. It is a big deal. Breaking your heart, for whatever reason is a big deal... it should not be down played. You may never know why, it is the ex syndrome. A lot of people are very sick with it. It's a disease and it mutates torturing every heart in its path. Quit worrying about it and as badchook said," toss this one to the heap.... NEXT! lol."

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Are you a 1 or a 1plus? Posted: 5/25/2007 8:15:58 AM
Using a phrase from Green eyez post: I have found the comfortable middle ground. I like doing things by myself and I like doing things with my friends. I am thankful for the support system of family and friends in my life, but I am perfectly satisfied doing things alone too. Actually, I prefer the company of myself to the company some people I know provide, (like my ex husband).

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What is the Funniest or Worst Thing that happened on a First Date? Posted: 5/24/2007 4:05:06 PM
When I met my ex husband, I was only 18 and living at home with my parents. I couldn't go home after having a few drinks, so he took me home and I slept on his couch. The next morning he gave me a pair of his pants to wear, as the night before I had been wearing a mini dress and ridiculously high heels. As he was walking me to my car, his parents pulled in the driveway. He introduced me to them and his Dad stuck his hand out to shake mine and when I reciprocated, his pants fell down around my ankles. It was a hilarious to find out later, that after I left, his Dad did tell him good job. Seriously, all these years later, they still love me.

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Crazy Mean Baby Posted: 5/23/2007 5:12:20 PM
Sorry, all of her other costumes tricked me or maybe it is just because I have boys, I automatically assume all babies are boys She is adorable!! I wonder if her parents would be offended?

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Lets Get Racial! Posted: 5/23/2007 5:00:25 PM
Why does it have to get racial? Those are some pretty preposterous comments, and if someone had the nerve to ask me a question like that, I would have to tell them that it is really isn't any of their business. I would also tell them, I prefer to not hear them talk to me at all.

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Crazy Mean Baby Posted: 5/23/2007 4:35:30 PM
Thanks, I did check it out. That is pretty funny, I have tears rolling down my cheeks. However, I think the page, I am better than your kids on the best page in the universe will always be my favorite. The hate mail on there is pretty funny too. The best page in the universe is the funniest ever, but crazy mean baby is pretty good, thanks for sharing, I hadn't heard of him.

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