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jj6364

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how does a person not know who they are? Posted: 2/11/2009 7:10:46 AM
I agree with imsophie, and Socratic Method, I too was in a 20 + union with a man, and before I knew it I was single again. Sitting there wondering what do I like? What do I want! It takes awhile to find yourself again. Be patient, give her room, and if you can, help her discover herself again.

jj6364

Joined: 7/15/2008

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At what point............. Posted: 2/5/2009 7:49:01 AM
How old are the kids? Seems like there should be some way, an afternoon date ? I'm not sure about where you live but they have a mothers day out in some areas. A church where a mother can drop there kids off for the afternoon to shop etc. , also a casino has a child care facility sometimes where they can play while you gamble, or other things LOL. They are checked in and no one but you can take them out of there. Any close friends that could watch them, Grandparents? Just a few thoughts. I also have been where you are in this relationship, and it got to the point that I didn't care whether I saw him or not. Took a long time believe me, but on mine it was that neither of us could get schedules to match up. I worked second shift he worked weekends and days! Sometimes you have to say enough is enough, I need more!

jj6364

Joined: 7/15/2008

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What kid habits will you never outgrow? Posted: 1/30/2009 8:43:02 AM
Oreo's have to be scraped off so I can enjoy the chocolate cookie part. I have to eat my veggies first so I can really enjoy my meat (wasn't allowed to leave the table till veggies was gone). I had a sick blanket(for 18 years) till my ex used it to bury our dog in, said it was tattered, WTF? Tickle my face with my hair when I'm reading. Hiking in the woods with my dog. making footprints in fresh snow. Going barefoot in the grass in the spring before the ground warms up. Mushroom hunting in the spring is like an extra hard Easter egg hunt lol!!! Making a day at the amusement park is necessary once a year!

jj6364

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Is it OK to say that I still love my ex? Posted: 1/10/2009 7:29:51 AM
I completely understand and agree with you. I dated this one guy for a bit and was accused of still loving my ex, Our kids don't like his girlfriend and when I'm at work he will sometimes come over and hang out with the kids in my house. He thought it was uncalled for that I shouldn't allow this. They like to play music together and to move a drum set, amps and guitars etc... just for an hour of play is ridicules. Not to mention he lives an hour away from us. I told him I will always hold a special spot in my heart for him. Not as a lover or or a partner, but as a friend and the father of my children. Needless to say that relationship ended very quickly. Some people don't get that you can divorce and still be friends.

jj6364

Joined: 7/15/2008

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poker after dark and my brother, the ass Posted: 1/10/2009 6:16:44 AM
Yes it hurts, and if your parents are gone can be very hard to accept. My siblings and I had went our separate ways until the death of both our parents. Some how that has begun to bring us together after 20 some years. We still aren't your model family lol but we work on things that can make our relationship better. You might try accepting him for who he is first then talk to him about how you feel. Just like any relationship communication is key. Just having that history sometimes makes it hard to forgive and accept the person for who they really are. Just like anyone you can't change them but you can accept them.

jj6364

Joined: 7/15/2008

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I think it is easier to be alone.... Posted: 1/5/2009 9:53:08 AM
I also have decided to take down my profile for a bit. Been down about two months now, not sure if I'll put it back up, but for now I'm learning about me again and that is just fine for now!

jj6364

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Racism in Dating Posted: 1/4/2009 7:45:57 AM
Caramelontop, sorry that can't be done the big fish will put anyone out of the pond for that.

jj6364

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Racism in Dating Posted: 1/3/2009 7:23:52 PM
It always kills me when I hear someone say they are dating outside their race. ?! Aren't we all Human Race ? I'm sorry you got those comments. Too bad we aren't all educated.

jj6364

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Language Barrier Posted: 1/3/2009 7:07:30 PM
I think your making too much of this personally. I have found that people that have English as there second language have a lot to offer. If you can get by their accent and really begin to talk to them about their culture you might find they have a certain way to look at life that you have never thought about. I personally have learned great many things from my friends from different lands. Some have been able to open my eyes to things I never thought about. Its only words, and if you really like the guy you can communicate in many ways besides words lol. I say open your horizons, try something new, you might be surprised what you learn about yourself and others.

jj6364

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Middle-Age Complacency Posted: 1/1/2009 7:33:18 PM
Yes, I too have experienced this. Sometimes so much you can almost expect what your gonna do on the date. Even so much as to the day they will call and what day the date will be when you see their name pop up on the phone. But sometimes this is because of schedules, it would be nice to mix things up once in a while. Maybe just be a kid again and do something crazy, go sledding or throw some soap into a fountain and watch the bubbles appear. I think that we are so mature we forget the simple things, things that are fun and really are inexpensive entertainment. People are so use to having to impress other people they forget to be themselves. Now if I could find someone to learn to sky dive with life would be grand !

jj6364

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so where are you people that leave a person confused? Posted: 12/29/2008 9:51:55 AM
CassaGo I believe you may have the answer there. Sometimes we are so self centered we don't see things. I think also we might have some deep problems we are hiding from sometimes and they may surface during a relationship and need to deal with them. Unknowing how to go about telling the one your with the details, they just disappear. I just learn to say well that's another one that I don't have to worry about. You can't get too upset about it. Obviously if they were into you the way you thought they would still be around. Don't sweat the small stuff! Bait your hook and throw it out again.

jj6364

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Body Issues? Posted: 12/19/2008 12:15:12 AM
Well I didn't have twins, they were 15 months apart, felt like I was pregnant for three years! Yes, I also have the battle scars of being pregnant, over stretched skin, stretch marks, gravity has made its toll also lol!!! There are times that I'm insecure about how I look also. But you have to remember, more than likely the person you are with has flaws also, haven't seen a perfect person yet!!! At my age, if they can't deal with real people and their flaws, I say, see ya later! and good luck finding that air brushed model !

jj6364

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nip touching -what are you thinking??? Posted: 12/4/2008 7:04:03 AM
Dated a guy once and thats how I would get him to leave where ever we were at. Slight rub to his nips and we would be out of there, no words had to pass lol!!! But unless they are my bf or someone of that nature fwb etc.... nipple touching is not done. The last thing I would want is some guy coming up to me and reaching over to touch mine. Only special people are allowed that privilege!!!

jj6364

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Slight problem can it be avoided? Posted: 11/30/2008 11:02:57 AM
This was a problem I had when I was 18 ! Had broken up with a guy and he stalked me for months after wards. I could not shake this guy, and when I went on a date with someone, he would follow us and try to scare the shit out of any guy that tried to get near me. Try and fight etc... The only way is time. Had no stalker laws back then but, I think if I was her I would check into that, and get a restraining order. I have never liked drama, and she might be the same just may be a crazy idiot she dated and now can't get away, communication with her would be best find out details about this!!!

jj6364

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why so reluctant to get on top? Posted: 11/29/2008 7:41:35 AM
While I was with the ex, he had a problem of not being able to keep an erection while I was on top. So that kinda got in my brain that it was my fault. Once I got over that, and worked on my moves, lol, Ride em cowgirl!!!

jj6364

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holidays Posted: 11/24/2008 12:27:45 AM
I was like so many on here! For years my only dream was to go away on vacation when the holidays arrived, or have a nice quiet dinner alone. Was tired of being pulled this way or that, His family at this time my family at that time then his extended family at this time!!! Two thanksgiving dinners, 4 days of Christmas, New Years Eve, his fathers birthday New Years Day, then our anniversary the next day!! By the time this was over I was already dreading the next year. Well I guess I got my wish! Divorced, have no In laws to go to now, both my parents have passed on, brother and sister have their own things going, kids with there dad. It's just me and the tv, and it sucks!!! But op if it was me I'd stay home this year give them another year to get things together between them. But only after you try to get mom to come share your x-mas at your house first.Family and friends is what x-mas is about!Good luck to you!

jj6364

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Not In too looks Posted: 11/19/2008 8:30:50 AM
You just need to look for that profile that says I'm looking for the man that will bring me a dead animal to skin and dress. The one that leaves me to go to the bar and hang with his buddy's and leaves me the kids to take care of. The man of my dreams will always make me feel as though his opinion is the law and mine means nothing. You need to re-think your profile.

jj6364

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a perfect partner???? Posted: 11/18/2008 9:56:54 PM
I agree with Doc! That is how it was with my ex! I knew the day I met him he was the one. Though it was only really good for the first 19 years, we had another 2 after that. I'm happy to say that I have experienced real love, not lust, infatuation, or a starry eyed romance !!! Nothing in this big world would ever let me settle for less!

jj6364

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Dressing too young Posted: 11/18/2008 8:07:32 AM
So we reach a certain age and we are suppose to wear nothing but the pants with the elastic waist, the Wal-mart flowered shirt. Who is gonna police the young with the fat hanging out their tight jeans, or the shirt with the boobs with the nipples barely covered? Or some young guy with his drawers showing cuz his pants are sagging to his knees? What you wear is a self expression of who you are!!! Thank goodness I live in a free country!!! I might not like what you wear either but I'm not gonna say anything unless you ask me. So to the OP turn your head to a much pleasanter view if you don't like what you see!!

JJ6364

Joined: 7/15/2008

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should i tell Posted: 11/14/2008 7:20:48 AM
You need not feel ashamed of being depressed, sometimes life is almost more than we can take!! With time and help though, it can make you a much stronger person! While going through my depression time, I found that dating took my mind off my troubles. I did reveal with the guy I was going out with that life had been a bit tough at the time and with a bit of run down of what I was dealing with in my life, light over view, he was more accepting. Just remember, that with the wrong partner, you could be throwing yourself into greater problems. Just my own experience!

JJ6364

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The Modern Day Knight in Shinning Armor aka known as Prince Charming! Posted: 11/13/2008 7:00:14 AM
Bengalblue I was thinking the same thing!! Besides whats life without a few dreams!!

JJ6364

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cell phone/guest etiquette Posted: 11/11/2008 10:18:06 AM
I usually make a point to turn mine on vibrate in front of my date and explain that I only have it in case the kids burn the house down, and any other call can wait till later. I expect the same curiosity from my date unless they are on call from work. Anything else, I would consider rude on there part!

JJ6364

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people's names... Posted: 11/11/2008 8:19:03 AM
I have no problem dating anyone with brother or fathers name but I have trouble dating someone with the same name as me. I don't use my real name only the nickname associated with it. I can't stand my real name makes me feel like ugly and old!!! Not only did my mother give me a horrible name, with a different spelling , Geraldean no middle name to boot!!!! So I refuse to date a guy named Jerry, just cant see myself saying " Jerry your my everything. Jeri

JJ6364

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Kansas City and surrounding areas ~ Friday, Dec 5th 2008 ~ 8:00pm ~ FunkyTown Posted: 11/10/2008 8:01:57 AM
Well I always have to work on Friday nights, but I'm gonna try and make this one. Will be showing up late, but wanted to make at least one. No promises but gonna try.

JJ6364

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Cleaning up previous messes before entering a new relationship... Posted: 11/4/2008 10:19:36 PM
I don't usually don't get agitated reading these forums but this one really got me!Why stop at wanting her to change to her maiden name, Heck change both names then no one will know her . Besides how would you know unless she told you or you knew her before? For a hundred and fifty you can change your name to anything! So the new rifle I bought him the xmas before we parted need to be sold and the compound miter saw that was his birthday gift he uses every day to make a living needs to be sold? Along with the leather tool belt that with out he can't do his job? JMO but I think your a bit wacky ! I can see baggage like being insecure because your ex did things now your worried about your new guy doing the same to you etc.... Yes that is baggage !! Now you say your plate is clean ?!? I think you need to do some searching on your plate. Seems you have some edges that need another wiping!! First off if you think that a few trinkets that have been saved from previous relationship is disrespectful of your future SO then I think the future SO has some baggage!!! The name thing, I think that shows your insecurity!! Not our irresponsibility !! So before you start throwing out your plate is clean and seeing how dirty our plate is, may I suggest you look at yours again, both sides now, because your pond slim just went to the back side of your plate!

JJ6364

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30 min. drive too far? Posted: 11/3/2008 9:04:28 AM
Well since I drive about 35 min. to work every day and shopping is the same sometimes further, depending on the item to be purchased, I didn't know if I had become numb to the distance or if things had just changed, due to gas prices. Must look deeper must be profile. Thanks for input.

JJ6364

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30 min. drive too far? Posted: 11/3/2008 7:56:00 AM
Well thanks for the response. I know I have other things, like smoking against me, but was just curious how much the distance made made in the decision. Thanks for your input.

JJ6364

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30 min. drive too far? Posted: 11/3/2008 7:33:45 AM
Due to circumstances I can't change, I'm living 30 min. outside a major metropolitan area. I understand gas prices have had a major influence in this. But would that be a deal breaker for you. If she was willing to drive to meet you for a date, would that make a difference? Would you ever think about a LTR?

JJ6364

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Opinions on this behavior? Posted: 10/29/2008 10:46:24 PM
I have experienced this but the guy I dated had served in the military. Went through times of depression and also had trouble sleeping, the dreams, his re accounts of the wars he fought in.... all would come rushing back because of one thing that reminded him of what had happened. He would up and disappear on me for days sometimes weeks at a time. No call, nothing just gone. Sometimes we don't know about a persons past, they learn to cover it very well. If your his true friend you will be there even if he doesn't tell you. You should be able to tell if its a gal in his life, just think about it. There is always signs of another female. If you find you don't think its that, next time he around dig deep in his brain, maybe go in through the back door to get your info. You never know what you might find out. Just a thought.

JJ6364

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The six-month dating period before kids are introduced. Some queries. Posted: 10/28/2008 7:45:09 AM
I was gonna let this one go till I just read OP's last post. Yes I wait till I know it is a TRUE relationship. But there is no time line, I just want my kids to know that when they meet someone its because their mom has a connection with this person. Their dad does not always take them on his time, because his girlfriend comes first. Which has cost me some problems with them understanding that this will not be the case if I get a boyfriend. It took a year and a half before I could get it through to them this was not gonna happen if I got a boyfriend. Then it was them over hearing me talk to my sister about some guy wanting me to just leave the boys for a week on their own so we could go some where. Me telling her my kids came first and for him not to let the door hit him in the ass!!! Funny what finally gets through to them. If I waited till he decided to take the kids it could be weeks between dates, hard to make a relationship on that kind of time frame. Then when he does take them it's only for the day, back by 7:30 or so, they need there time together. (what ever) So yes I keep my dates away from my kids till I know they are the one that I am going to spend time with for a long while. Besides, my kids are 14 &15 both boys, last thing I want is for my kids to think I'm a slut. They know I go on dates they know the guys name, I don't hide that part of it, we even discuss where we went, and what we did well to a point lol. I usually only date one guy at a time. Not to mention with gas prices the way they are, the dating pool for us people out in bumf**k nowhere has dropped. So many times I will meet my date at a given spot to save gas & time. Well this is my take on this thread. Peace!

JJ6364

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Strange Kids Question Posted: 10/27/2008 9:42:51 PM
No this is not normal and I would say your not making too much out of it. He should be in his own bed! He needs to be told and enforced to stay in his own bed. My suggestion might be that his mom needs to explain to him that younger children is allowed to sleep with parents but once you reach a certain age its time to sleep in your own bed! If by chance he has a bad dream etc... mom will come to his room and stay with him till he goes back to sleep but will not be sleeping with him. It will be a hard habit to break, I never allowed my kids to sleep with me except when they were younger, after a bad dream or during a storm, by the time they were age 4 they stayed in there own bed. Good luck this is going to be a challenge for you I am afraid.

JJ6364

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who works nights??? Posted: 10/27/2008 9:33:38 AM
I work the mid shift. Yeck!! To late getting off to really make any of the normal parties. Was wondering if they had like a breakfast club or some type of thing for us night owls lol. Might be interested in some type of day get together. But not to early for me, got kids to get off to school.

JJ6364

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Does a person having anxiety or depression keep you from replying? Posted: 10/26/2008 9:28:46 AM
I would not jump at the chance to be in a relationship with some one with either , or both , my ex developed anxiety during the last of our marriage. Over ten years of it. He changed in the relationship because of it, and let it dictate how he lived his life. I tried to adjust, but it became to a point where he was living for the meds he got for the anxiety, instead of trying to combat it with therapy etc... He has it under control now and he is a different person. Still takes the meds but only when he really needs them.

JJ6364

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after the love has gone Posted: 10/26/2008 9:05:26 AM
HUMMM!!! You say kids are involved !!!!! Then NO!!! Whats gonna happen if you two deiced to hook back up and it doesn't work. All because a fleeting moment you have forgotten why in the first place,you split up. Most usually all the same reasons are still there you have just forgot over time why. The kids usually, in most cases would love to see nothing more than there mom and dad get back together! But how destructive would this be to them if you tried and it didn't work. Is this going to effect them in their adult life more than what just a divorce has? I would say keep it just as friends. Later after the kids are grown gone, and you still want to try less people will be effected directly. I would bet though that she is just in a point in her life that she feels like she needs you and the kids (lonely) . Once she is with someone she will not be needing you as much.

jj6364

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Women going to bars alone Posted: 10/20/2008 10:12:25 PM
I always thought it was taboo, but about a month or so ago I figured what the hell, sure didn't want to spend another weekend doing nothing lol. So I went.I had a really good time was a bit nervous at first, but after a couple drinks, and a few chats with bartender, and other patrons, I relaxed and had a good time. I say go, if nothing else just for the ability to say you did it. Nothing worse than saying I wish I woulda!!!

jj6364

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is a woman says you can do anything you want to me what does she mean? Posted: 10/20/2008 9:27:35 PM
With out the rest of the conversation that led up to that it's hard to say but I would guess it would mean you could have any position or desire you wanted with her. No matter how freaky or off the wall you might think it was she was ready to please you. So if you didn't take advantage your loss!!

jj6364

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Worst fashion error of your life. Posted: 10/14/2008 11:22:26 PM
my favorite in the 70's was elephant bells where the pants were split and additional fabric was inserted so when you walked you had like two feet of bell bottom swinging , also had the smock top to go with. In the 80's I did all the usual big hair, scrunch socks etc.. But my best friend had a White Snake jean jacket I would have killed for !!!!

jj6364

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I wanna get to know you... Posted: 10/14/2008 6:35:02 AM
Well not a believer in stats! My marriage went like this ..... met/dated 3 months lived together 7 years married for 13 years divorced Not sure that I will ever get married again!! Seems people work harder on the relationship when there isn't a paper holding you together. Once the paper was signed it seemed like all respect for the other person diminished. Became property, not a joint union. He will have to be a very special person for me to marry again!

jj6364

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Do you believe there is the one for you out there? Posted: 10/13/2008 12:03:35 AM
I always wondered if I have already found my one, now he's gone will I ever find another one ?

jj6364

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Have you ever walked away due to FEAR of commitment? Posted: 10/12/2008 11:56:35 PM
No actually I'm the one standing there shaking my head lol. Wondering why I can never find the one that wants to make a commitment. Yes you feel rejected, and after a couple times you wonder if there is a reason why this keeps happening to you. My take of it is, this is not your match and your match is yet to come!!! So hold on to your sanity and try try again.

jj6364

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Why is it that Stuff is so important to a realtionship? Posted: 10/12/2008 11:28:10 PM
Well I've had my "stuff" sneared at by men before, they don't like it they can always by me new "stuff". Not gonna stop them lol!!! No payments, no worries of the kids destroying it, they have already done that LOL!!! When they are gone, or its broke then I will replace it until then it may be a bit tattered, a bit thread barren, or stained, but its paid for, I have other things to spend my money on.

jj6364

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Why do men want to finger your behind? Posted: 10/11/2008 11:15:29 AM
I use to be an "thats an exit door only" type gal. But I must say a very patient man changed my ideas!!! If you haven't experienced it, its needs to be put on your to do list. Relax, find a patient experienced man, relax, did I say relax, and enjoy!!! But remember, the only way to enjoy is RELAX!!! Guaranteed no other act will send you as far over the edge than this lol!!

jj6364

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You've lost that loving feeling. Posted: 10/10/2008 6:34:15 AM
Went through this with my ex. In my case I was depressed about the relationship but just didn't realize that was the case. The relationship was not what I wanted but I loved the idea behind it and tried like hell to make it work. My suggestion is to sit down do some soul searching and try to figure out why your depressed. Might even try the ole list of positive verses negative . Should I stay or should I go. If it was me and I was not happy, I think it is time to move on. If your not happy now, whats it gonna be next year or five years down the road. But thats jmo!!

jj6364

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How to approach racial differences with a inquisitive toddler Posted: 10/8/2008 11:26:10 PM
My kids were never really questioning about this, they had been around all types of people very young. My mom baby sit my kids while I worked and always talked to them about disabilities and differences in people, and no matter what our differences was we were all the same. How did I know all this? Because when I was young my mom would make a point to talk to me about these same issues. But I was about 3 and Easter was coming and I had been pestering her about a chocolate bunny I wanted. I had not been around African American people so I had no idea, well to my moms surprise right as this man walks up beside us I start whining about wanting a BIG chocolate bunny, just like that BIG chocolate man. My mom wanted to crawl under something I'm sure. Mom simply put it that its just another difference, but just like the boy with polo, we are all the same !!! The man was very amused and talked to me for a bit about skin color and even let me touch his skin and Afro (1968). Just keep it simple, they will understand.

jj6364

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Question about shapes and sizes... Posted: 10/8/2008 8:48:31 AM
If there is a will there is a way!!! If for some reason there is a problem that causes a position not to be used there must be two others that will work just as well. Just need to be creative. If your really into a person it doesn't matter, well it shouldn't any way.

jj6364

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What flirting experience did you have today? Posted: 10/7/2008 11:24:27 PM
The manager at wally world that did a double take and ran into the check out counter when I smiled at him. The gorgeous guy at work that I always get into a deep visual, we had a gathering in a small office and we stood across the room from each other, its almost as though we are reading each others minds, wow thats scary!!! couldn't look at him the rest of the day!!!

jj6364

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What just happened Posted: 10/6/2008 7:33:13 AM
Well I hate to say this but right after my divorce I dated a guy like this. Get out now lol!!! Not gonna say he's not on the up and up but I doubt it! He chased till I said I would be exclusive then I hardly saw him. He would always bring up getting married and how HE wanted the wedding to be. Would go weeks between dates, always had an excuse for why we couldn't be together, and then he would make me feel guilty if I went out on my own. Saying I was picking up guys etc.... I hung in there for a year and a half, listening to the lies, but how often can one have surgery he had 3, two deaths in the family, and supposedly had a job at one point being undercover with the police. LOL I read this now and think what a gullible dumb ass I was!!! Just keep your eyes open I guess. Don't let the mind games blur your vision.

jj6364

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Children - the double standard Posted: 10/2/2008 8:20:15 AM
I have to agree !!! Kids first, bf,gf second. My kids are teenagers but I see how it rips their heart out when my ex puts his girlfriend first (almost every weekend)!!!! I try to keep my personal life at a distance to them and only let the special men intertwine in our life. The same goes for the guy I date, his family must come first!!! To me this shows how a long term relationship could be a maker or a breaker!! If they don't understand this then they are selfish and not needed in OUR life . Its not just me its Us!!!

jj6364

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Simple things you remember about someone special - past or present Posted: 9/30/2008 7:30:53 AM
The little tingle I get as I lightly touch his face while he nods off. The great smile with those great dimples just melts me. and to look into those eyes, I could get lost for a real long time!

jj6364

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Is meeting your true love destiny or personal choice ? Posted: 9/27/2008 9:53:28 AM
I believe in destiny. Each person we meet has a way of changing the way we look at things. People have a way of entering in your life for a reason, usually its a life lesson that you need to learn. Sometimes its for a change in the direction your path is going. The one thing I have learned is that you always learn something for the people you encounter in your life!!! You may not realize it at the time but on down the road a bit you see what the reason was. Weather it is a friend or a person at a store they will touch your life in some way, the key is you have to open your eyes and really see it. Rarely will it slap you in the face, well thats how I see it, right or wrong thats my view!

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