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merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Update... Confused post a few days ago... Posted: 4/23/2009 9:48:47 PM
jeeeees.... so she's upset, so what. a lot of men and a lot of women treat others bad. why act defensive by attacking her instead of being supportive if one doesn't feel personally accused? when men tell me they dated some woman that was terrible to them, ifeel compassion for them going thru the experience, i don't start bickering on how dare they talk bad about someone. i understand they are simply expressing just how bad it hurt. i guess if i was such an evil woman myself i might take it personally, and start defending the other party FIRST food for thought

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Speedometer Posted: 4/23/2009 9:17:48 PM
i'd say it is a bit of am-exciting show-off, but i'd be scared to death not excited, ppl driving scares me lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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several kisses Posted: 3/30/2009 4:51:18 PM
seems pleasantly surprised, he doesn't seem to have seen it coming he he he true on kissing, also, chemistry keeps it up... lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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You talkin` to me? Posted: 3/30/2009 4:44:59 PM
when guys do that i just think he wants to make me feel special for him giving me his attention he just doesn't understand how wrong he's going about it, he doesn't see it from the outside like i am. and that he is not mature or not smart enough to understand that it's not what a person looks like, rather how it feels to be with and around them that matters, male or female the same. then i ask myself in what situations am i blind of what's going on in the same way and have others think of me like that. lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Being seperated but no divorce in sight Posted: 3/30/2009 11:59:35 AM
it's called being lazy. am a procrastinator at times. i hate it, but it's been yrs for me n still not final, finally sent him the paperwork last mo... lol just didn't any anyone else to marry/date long term, so i didn't have motivation. it didn't bother me. and isnt it better for taxes?? lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 74 (view)

Being seperated but no divorce in sight Posted: 3/30/2009 11:58:36 AM
it's called being lazy. am a procrastinator at times. i hate it, but it's been yrs for me n still not final, finally sent him the paperwork last mo... lol just didn't any anyone else to marry/date long term, so i didn't have motivation. it didn't bother me. and isnt it better for taxes?? lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 176 (view)

Why does carrying protection on my person at all times make me a whore?! Posted: 3/30/2009 11:36:23 AM
well, i don't know about differences of opinion, but i used to have an entire roll of condoms right under my mattress, under the pillow, that side - god knows that if things get heated, they better be close or i know for myself i see red before my eyes and might not make it to the night stand, too far to reach when ur hormones are raging. i don't trust the nightstand. i used to have a roll of condoms in my car too. i knew, no matter what happens, if i find something irresistible, i can always run to the car and slip few in my purse if am feeling signs of 'danger' i can see, though, why it would make a woman uncertain w u having them in all pockets. they r worried u r looking towards the outside and not to the right where she is - women worry that while u r sexually active w them u r constantly seeking more w others. it's the feelings of uncertainty that gives that makes a woman see that as negative, they are situational negative feelings, not per se. i'd consider keeping them in key spots, for efficiency purposes - if it is a problem w ur dates, why not ease their minds if u can, makes for a better date? just food for thought. i say keep condoms in bed and car, but if u do want them in 15 pockets too, why not, i'm worried about those who dont carry any, not those that do, honestly plus, a man that's so into sex is a good thing, there r plenty asexual men, at least i know this one has a healthy sex drive, that's what would go thru my head... lolol... 'ok, this one would hang in there for 3-4 times for sure, just from the number of condoms everywhere...'... gimme a freak and lemme rip that bottled-upness apart, that's what i pray for... lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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spider bite kickin my ass.... Posted: 3/19/2009 10:56:41 PM
THANK YOU guys for all the valuable advice and info. i will surely do my homework searching for what to be aware of in my area, snakes, bugs etc, and research some spiders. my wound finally got better after i finished my medication, it closed, been a week now, and the scab (or what u call it) is getting smaller. seems i am out of the water, thank god. i am not sure what it was, whether mrsa or spider, but i was on a date and we both got bitten, that's how i knew immediately what it was, he ended up in the VA hospital right away and they told him it was a black widow. i let mine go, i figured i can tough it out, since i don't have insurance, and went it when it blew over, 2 weeks later. but of course am not sure, who cares, it's gone, and i learnt a valuable lesson. bug bite or not, am looking 'em bugs up after this one!!! thank u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Exercise Advice please. Posted: 3/7/2009 11:06:37 AM
Key word there is was. and ok, clear , not white pee. am a foreigner, english is not my 1st language? i was in that shape when i moved to the states, but a year of being homeless + hard core culture shock changed my priorities, so did feeling hunted down like fresh meat. i stopped working out, and wearing make-up for a few years, beauty seemed trivial and problem causing when starting one's life from zero. i had to seek relationships w people who genuinely wanted to help me, vs guys seeking to get laid, and figure out jobs vs gym locations, that's all. that changed my working out routine and diets. i gave up fitness, modeling, and i also stopped finding men w super toned bodies attractive also, people change. now i pole dance for exercise, keeps me in decent shape and feeds the need to doll up and look sexy now and then. just more fun

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 141 (view)

Water Fasting--who has done it? Posted: 3/7/2009 1:55:00 AM
well, seems it's going around, look what i found: "Singing sensation BEYONCE KNOWLES lived on a diet of water with cayenne pepper to lose weight for her role in movie DREAMGIRLS. The 24-year-old star lost 20 pounds (9 kilograms), to play the super-svelte DEENA JONES, the lead singer of THE DREAMETTES She explains, "At the beginning (of filming), I was my normal weight. I actually gained a little bit, but then I lost 20 lbs when I went from young Deena to old Deena. I wanted it to be something more than just make-up and hair. I wanted to see the change." The star tried to emulate the weight loss actor TOM HANKS endured for his film CAST AWAY. She explains, "I tried to do it Tom Hanks style, and I literally fasted because I had to drop it really fast in the film. "It was a sacrifice. Definitely a sacrifice, and it was difficult on the set. "Everyone was eating cookies and I'm drinking, literally, water and cayenne pepper. But it worked." The singer's mother, TINA, was relieved her daughter put weight back on following the shoot. She adds, "I've actually consciously and purposely gained a little back because I was too thin."

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Exercise Advice please. Posted: 3/7/2009 1:33:20 AM
1. sex. am not joking, if u have a steady partner, sex can be a wonderfully efficient way to kepp ur heart rate pumpin over 45 min and get ur sweat on. not a bad add-on to an exercise routine, the more fun the better 2. 30-40 mi aerobic exercise upon first waking up, before eating while u sleep ur body digests food and when u wake up ur stomach is empty. if upon waking up you do 30-40 min of slow and soft but consistent jogging, ur body draws its energy straight from the fatty cells, since nothing is in ur stomach. u can drink water. i used to just jump up n down pretending i was slowly running over an invisible treadmill, or would jogg around the living room couch, t in a pajama watching music or a tv show. if after 10 min u start to get hot and sweaty, u know it's working. just need to keep ur heart rate over 130 or something, i forgot, but the key is HOW LONG u do it, needs to be over 30 min. that's why it dont matter how fast u run, u have to thinkk LONG , not hard. it's a good morning boost, and releases toxins too, all that sweating, so it's good for u. 3. also, drink a lot of water, 2.5 liters a day, just not more than a glass at once, water overdose can kill u. at the end of the day ur pee should be white, water helps w releasing toxins and breaking down fatty cells too, it helps a lot with weight losss. i did body building for ten years, all natural, but was trainign w pros so i got many inputs, these r the ones that worked the best. one more: 4. protein -carb separation diet. when i added that to my 30 min nmorning jog and water consumption increase, i was in the best shape of my life. besides that i'd work out every muscle twice a week, so i was already on a work out system diet goes like this: -no sugar, coffee, carbonated drinks, minimal salt, nothing fried, boiled and raw foods only -morning till 2pm : carbs only 2pm till bed, ONLY protein. i would eat a lot of hard boiled egg whites w tomatoes, which can be filling and has very lil calories, it's one of the best hunger fillers. 100 grams of rice for lunch, oatmeal in the morning, and half a boiled chicken for dinner it's a 6 day diet, on the 7th day u eat whatever u want, which after being strict for 6 days, shocks your metabolism, so the weight loss doesnt slow down. its a diet professionals do, i personally got it from one of the barbarian brothers, including w the water drinking tip i was in the best shape of my life

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 140 (view)

Water Fasting--who has done it? Posted: 3/7/2009 1:06:05 AM
well, it depends which water diet, the ones that only mean an increase in water consuption are called water diets too. seems from what the OP is saying she means a water-only diet i've tried both, but water only i couldnt handle more than a few days. not sure whether i am anemic or it is the diabetic tendencies in the family, but at first attempt, i didn't make it past one day on the water-only diet, i nearly passed out. for some reason, if i get really hungry i'll feel dizzy and have been known to faint. i was obsessed w my body being perfect, so i didn't care about health risks or not, i would have tried again anyway, but i didn't manage to. best i lasted was for 3 days once, then i tried the broth only diet, but was drinking too much milk, wasnt losing anything... lol this was years ago when i was hard core into fitness. one water diet i kept for 6 mo was an eat-healthy-n-increase-water one, the best i ever di, and that was the best i ever looked. i started a 6 day/week crash diet w separating carbs from protein and eating carbs morning till 2pm, only protein after, and i would drink 3 liters of water a day. basically the idea is, on such a water diet, to drink until u pee white, helps w detoxifying and breaking down fatty cells. gotta be careful not too drink too much water at once, it can kill you. on the 7th day i'd eat all i had craved that week. was great for morale because i had a reward system, i only had to last 6 days. due to the 7th day overeating, my metabolism never would get a chance to get used to one pace, so on the 8th day i'd look the skinniest of alll week, due to the metabolic shock no coffee, nothing fried, no sugars, minimal salt, only boiled and raw food. i ate a lot of boiled chicken for dinner and hard boiled egg whites w tomatoes for late lunches and such i felt energized and looked skinny as a rail. never been skinnier. it cleared my skin, i think the water helped a lot. but it was the most character building and efficient diet ever, and had a vacation from it every week, which was great, since i got a sweet tooth lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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spider bite kickin my ass.... Posted: 3/7/2009 12:30:30 AM
i don't know what's with the USA and demonic spiders on a rampage. i lived in romania for 30 years almost, no european i ever met got taken down by a spider bite, but seems to be common in the states? i was delusionally unaware, and a black widow has been keeping me w open holes in my leg for almost ten days now, not to speak the couple weeks i looked at the weird sight letting it get out of hand i didn't know what it was, i mean i saw ttwo lil sets of double teeth marks, but wasn't sure, until it got me in the ER three days in a row w ivs every 12hrs, antibiotics, and open disgusting looking wounds, pumped w morphine . am i the only one that didn't know about spider bites, is it just an american thing, or am i just unaware of its commonality??? i tried to go to work first time tonight, a week after my ER drama, and i had to come home early,t it looks almost as bad as last friday, i started feeling really sick again, and the wound reopened too, i am just freaked out because i just can't believe i still have a hole in my leg after all that medication and time?????? what the heck??? how long this gonna take?????is it is normal, do they all take this long, anybody know? why can't i work still? is that normal to still feel sick? sorry if i sound like a cry baby, am just taken by surprise in how poorly i seem to be able to handle a simple friggin bug bite, it can't be normal?

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 3/5/2009 11:25:21 PM
i went down to 18 once, was refreshing. if one is legal, i dont care bout age... lolol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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I like to watch her face when I'm going so deep it hurts Posted: 3/5/2009 11:08:44 PM
that sounds sexy he he he zz gettiiin hotttttttttttt lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Why sabotage what was turning into something great? Posted: 3/5/2009 9:09:48 PM
i dunno, am torn on this... i think she is just the type of personality that needs and seeks a sense of acceptance to feel totally safe goes this way - some people have had mostly negative assessment of past romance, and developed, mostly early childhood, feelings of abandontment they learn love is conditional and they r bound to get something wrong, since we r only human, which will cause the one they care about to leave sooner or later, and they are terrorized the ticking clock and have fatalistic expectations it is a vicious circle and it is depressing... from guilty feelings to feeling disgusted by urself, by ur past, by past lovers/parents leaving, who knows what else, leaves one in a state of panic. it takes a lot of balls to work thru ur fears when u meet someone w potential, because it is scary, so u move from cold feet to freaking out, then get depressed over how u feeling then u say heck w it, too high anxiety. i was proud of myself for sticking thru, i knew it was a process that was best dealt w sooner than later and only way was thru she is just a scarity cat w limited life experience and guilt trips out of a limited worldview, she will find the right man for her one day, honestly though, i think she got overwhelmed, and she had poor communication skills, and was poorly managing the situation ive been on dates, after difficult relationships, w good prospects, that were such high anxiety because i was afraid i was gonna lose cool of my emotions and self control, that i ended up throwing up and w serious stomach cramps out of stress. gave myself pats on the back for stickin it thru each time he he he. so i can understands the inner workings of a scarity cat. we r all messed up, no one is perfect, just matter of dealable with for u or not. seems not. you should not take it personally, i am curious how she took it?? the break-up?

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Dated for 4 months and she says she was never attracted Posted: 3/5/2009 8:49:31 PM
it happens. just means it was not the right one, that's all, both men and women will try dating someone they r ok w but not excited about, see if it changes. most times it doesnt get better high intensity dates arent any more predictable either, so i try not to prejudge. but after the first 1-2 dates u know, 4 mo is way too long and puynishment for both sorry u going thru that, love, half ass daters r the most disheartening

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 3/5/2009 8:44:03 PM
of course. i dont see ppl as goood or bad rather good-for-me or bad-for-me

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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I like to watch her face when I'm going so deep it hurts Posted: 3/5/2009 6:59:49 PM
lol that's funny i dont think size matters, for me not at least, but passion does. the best sex i had wasnt with the 'biggest', but it was w the one i had most intensely passionate chemistry with at that time. chemistry is what reallymakes a difference in my humble opinion as for pain... no big deal.. some people get off being sexually submissive or sexually aggressive or a bit of roughness, some get off religious induced abstinence or making money. everyone has a different set of preferences when it comes to what makes them feel good. whatever rocks one's boat is fine with me, be it what may. as one post said to me being a good lover is also being able to get off on seeing the other's pleasure. however i never backed down from sticking my nails and teeth into anyone and sure knows i feel more relieved when i know a man can take a lil bit of pain, i kinda like it. it gives such high intensity to the moment. on either side it can increase passion, that's no big deal. and it's not the ones that wanna screw you till it hurts am worried about, am worried about those that don't, healthy animalistic sexual impulses are a good thing, just think when they are gone.... lol

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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I have a question regarding Airline Pilots and dating Posted: 3/5/2009 6:31:01 PM
people have negative ideas about everything, includidng god, jesus, buddha and so on. the right ones love us how we are, and the wrong ones are never satisfied and fish for flaws on anything and anyone. generalizations are never more than just that - generalizations and i know one thing abouts MOST people : most of us are misunderstood anyways

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Men are more Shallow than Women?? Posted: 1/13/2009 12:04:28 PM
i just see we all choose what we choose until we choose differently. usually that comes w experience. that has a tendency of showing u what matters and what not physical shape matters less, but it is undeniable that the most efficient in hooking people up against their better judgment, is good ol' chemistry. basically, one can be bad for u , and often time one cannot resist the chemistry if it's there, and no amount of good deeds can overcome a lack of sexual attraction. and chemistry is irrational.. u can't predict it, u can't fake it, it just sizzles when it does. i see so many people worried about screwing higher numbers, and attracting more. that all just leads to a lot of bad sex. i think genuine and naturally flowing connections w searing sexual tension are easy to spot when we find them. it's like a satiating dinner eating gourmet food, vs an in-n-out burger that's bound to give u stomach cramps. now u might eat one of u r starving, am first to admit however, who the heck cares what people do, we are all entitled to mess w whoever we want, nobody's business to tell us otherwise or complain.

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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In need of answers Posted: 1/13/2009 11:54:19 AM
i like it when a guy says friendship, means it wont be one of those desperate-to-be-in-love first meetings. it also means he has good standards. saying hang out only, that can be interpreted either as causal dating or very cautious. but that matters less, what the rest of the profile is like and what he says in his email is what matters

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 63 (view)

Sex Toys... (....for men!) Posted: 1/13/2009 11:03:15 AM
u just need friends that are more freaky, that's all. sex toys rock, and women like them, so nothing wrong w a man having them.

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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How can girls know by just looking if I'm single Posted: 1/13/2009 10:49:41 AM
If I walk through that same room and have a girlfriend ( not there ) I might get 10 girls glancing and smiling . If I walk through that room with a girl doesnt even have to be my girlfriend and they look at you like your the last man on earth . Why am I scum of the earth alone and then like a sex god when there is a woman near me ? i think you contradict yourself with those two statements, seems to me women get annoyed if you DO have a girl with you, not when you DONT? i would think the difference is your level of confidence and how you carry yourself, as to explanation why you draw in more looks i mean logically speaking, if the only diff is u having a gf, but she's not present, then it MUST be your attitude. maybe u feel more confident, and that shows, a more relaxed attitude versus desperate to grab anything to get laid. as for why women get annoyed if you have a woman w u, it's because they assume it's your girl, and if you disrespect her by looking around while u r w her, then they assume that's the kind of guy u r, and will do that to them too, had they happen to be ur date somewhere. those guys piss me off too, they have such short attention span they can't even make good lays, just a waste of time

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

My new girlfriend downplays the guys in her life. Help? Posted: 1/13/2009 10:30:46 AM
steve, babes, this one seems catch 22. i believe that she IS flirting, maybe she's used to having so many guys around, it gets a routine, and since she does have trust issues and has been hurt in the past, i would say most likely it's her safety net - basically, no matter how outstanding a guy is, am not sure at this point i can give up all the options, and throw all my eggs in one basket. i know , for myself, every time i did it was crash-n-burn. experience shows that even the greatest guy , the one that says he wants to marry or move in w you tomorrow, can and might flip out over night and disappear. or cheat on you. we've all seen the unexpected and unimaginable happen, and we wanna keep just one tiny lil opening for ourselves for reassurance that if sht hits the fan out of the blue, you got somewhere to run and not sink w the ship. i know it's not the perfect thing to do, but we do as we can. time will either bring her fully by ur side, or trip her out completely. or frustrate u to the point of no return. am guessing it's a new rel, yes? plu, w u being gone, she's probably even more scared, so i think you have two choices w this one - a. u tolerate and let her work thru her issues and u work thru urs (seems both of u r gun shy w rels at this point, i see u in the same place) b. u let her go i'd suggest talking about an open relationship. that way, if anything happens, you will know about it. i know it's hard to conceive, but really what other honest option do u have, besides breaking up? i dated a guy for a while that was military, and when he told me he's leaving for iraq, i had two thoughts: 1. he might die and then try to get over that madafackin pain 2. he might as well find some exotic beauty while he's there, and gbye me, waiting for nothing i think she's the kind of woman that needs definite commitment and a future together in order to fully let her guard down. i dont think she's cheating, but i do think she's flirting as a way to guard herself from too much pain if u bail out of the rel, and i do believe she's keeping secrets. but i DONT think she's cheating. i'd give her time, if this keeps up when u return, i'd let it be. meantime, my advice is give one another freedom while u r gone. stuff like that makes people appreciate what they have, or run away. guess you'll know

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 70 (view)

I like you so much I can't sleep with you... Posted: 1/4/2009 2:38:38 AM
this thread is like an absurd kafka novel first of all, whom the f*** says she didnt use condom or safe sex? omg, people really love to split dumb hairs ok, all u people are obviously PERFECT, since u r biatchin so much. i know, i know, we can't have any flaws!!!

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 108 (view)

Waiting for Marriage for SEX... Posted: 1/4/2009 12:33:48 AM
to each his own, am too much into sex to wait for god, jesus or ever after I WANT IT HERE N NOW after all, isnt that what we have skin and bodies for

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Am I Over-Looking Mr. Right For Me? Posted: 1/3/2009 2:19:04 AM
RULE OF ONLINE DATING NUMBER ONE: DONT DEVELOP FEELINGS FOR A MAN YOU HAVEN'T MET IN PERSON trust me, many years ago, when i was much younger and way more ignorant about life, i got engaged to one, i was in romania. total disaster. i also had several dates w high expectations. none worked out, out of dozens maybe w two or three the chemistry sustained in person no matter how much u think u know and like the person, chemistry is IRATIONAL, u CANNOT predict it

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 119 (view)

Body type preference Posted: 1/3/2009 2:15:07 AM
me, being a pretty robust frame, i prefer a man bigger and heavier than me, for the very frank reason that i like a good squishin :)) so yeah, i like 'em meaty, built like a soldier best, if real soldier even better... lolol... - military boys tend to freak out less when confronted w an eccentric crazy woman but i do and have dated all kinds... tall, short, slim, fat, pretty, not so pretty, i look at the whole package and looks isn't my priority, i want a good man first of all, hopefully cute too :)

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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Woman with children only? Posted: 1/3/2009 1:48:22 AM
just seems to me u find ways to shoot urself in da foot. i mean really? kids no kids, go on a date, chemistry is unpredictable and sometimes u dont realize what u want and need TILL YOU FIND IT so stop putting urself in tiny and tight lil boxes, babes

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

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what would you do? Posted: 1/3/2009 1:45:36 AM
i am bisexual and LOVE bisexual men - they have less hang ups, plus a lot of straight guys are too homophobic. i like to be aggressive sexually myself, so i do love a man that can take it. plus, i am a voyeur, and would totally watch some guy suck my man's tool of destruction, i used to go to swinger parties to watch stuff like that, so babes, u r so mild, u got NOTHING to worry about it means u need to find the right woman, one that has the same type of open mindedness and beliefs, that's all

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 20 (view)

What does it mean when a girl buys you flowers??? Posted: 1/3/2009 1:41:37 AM
i like getting my man lil gifts, but never flowers

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

I did it - the electronic disappearing act - guilty! Have you ever? Posted: 1/3/2009 1:40:09 AM
i do it all the time - i meet too many people and get overwhelmed. then i just drop them all, too much work to sort thru and too many to remember. at which point i tell myself am good w pets.. lol i've also done it after seriously toxic dates, takes me off market for a while.

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 300 (view)

The Toilet seat thing!!! Posted: 1/3/2009 1:38:00 AM
1. in feng shui the seat needs to be down as they believe that's how the energy gets drained out of the house. 2. small animals drown in toilet, ive seen big cats die that way when i was in school. 3. it's considerate and shows mannerism.

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 59 (view)

scary date Posted: 1/3/2009 1:36:20 AM
ive had plenty scary dates, had several date rape attempts, some succeeded. i've had stalkers too. that's how u learn to tell good guys from sociopaths, baby doll. hang in there and BE CAREFUL no first meetings unless out for cofee at noon. TRUST ME on that one

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 44 (view)

Okay..for the women Posted: 1/3/2009 1:33:33 AM
guys do it more than girls most guys will **** anything that walks, looks like its walking , and some, even anything that USED TO walk women will go on a date without having initial mind blowing chemistry, because they learnt this amazing truth - sometimes chemistry is fast, sometimes it takes time and builds slowly both good

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 108 (view)

Learning why some people just choose to NOT answer!! Posted: 1/3/2009 1:31:38 AM
what else do u need to know than him being a control freak w psychotic tendencies GOOD JOB FOR FINDING OUT EARLY!

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 49 (view)

I like you so much I can't sleep with you... Posted: 1/3/2009 1:24:21 AM
She said something more along the lines of how sex between us would be meaningful and that level of intimacy scared her. i totally get her. and you are NOT listening to what she is saying. i am for this girl. she is telling u 'this is who i am, good and bad, and i'm telling u how confused and scared i am to be w u BECAUSE YOU MATTER' so what if she had sex w some dude, u guys weren't even sleeping together, WTF??? u know how much balls it takes to be open like that? definitely way more than lying??? u got an honest woman that wanted u to understand the first man she trusted totally done her wrong, after she had saved herself all those damn years (silly thing to do). OF COURSE she's gonna be freaked out to be that open again, but SHE STUCK THRU, she didn't chicken out, did she? that's showing balls twice. u, instead, got ur lil feelings hurt and YOU bailed out. go figure i mean i understand how that would be hard to comprehend, but really SHE DIDNT HAVE TO TELL YOU, BUT SHE DID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! am not saying she's perfect, she seems seriously messed up, but she could be the love of ur life and ubailed out at the first sign of trouble, while she is at least trying to sort herself out and hang in there. i guess she believed u wewre worth it, but u didn't think she was worth much past her closed vagina. am sorry to say, if that's the most imp thing to u, then u have serious problems urself. she wasnt even your woman yet???? and yes, ive done stuff like that before, not same , but nonetheless - if i really like a man i will be more careful and all, but if i am just horny i could have a one night stand. however, if i am on a date w a man i REALLY REALLY like, i will think twice, because i'd want to build up a lil more sexual tension and make it more special, u know, fantasize about it and deny myself instant gratification, so when i DO have sex w him, it's out of this world. and that includes knowing each other from enough dates where it would be special, regardless of how long it could last. and w her being so closeted, i can just imagine having good sex w u, how that would have transformed her. that's like finding a diamond in the rough and throwing it out cause it's not shinny and polished enough for u. KELLEY baby, am with you on this one. that woman deserves a man that has a bit more self esteem, and not the one attached to his genitals

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 54 (view)

Why do women? Posted: 1/3/2009 1:11:02 AM
now that one i dont get either

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 11 (view)

First meeting someone from Online Posted: 1/3/2009 1:10:30 AM
9 time out of 10 when u meet 'mr fantastic' in person, u r not even attracted to him. take this from me, ive been doing online dating for almost ten years so just think he could be one of those guys u would not kiss if your life depended on it, because chances are, that's how it's gonna be. it will help.

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 30 (view)

second chances Posted: 1/3/2009 1:07:19 AM
why not just meet him, u might not even have any chemistry when u meet, or u might have a mindblowing revelation either way, i say meet him

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 74 (view)

what is the strangest thing you have encountered on POF? Posted: 1/3/2009 1:06:06 AM
i met a dude i chatted w for a while, like maybe a year, he says, i dont know, didnt pay attention he spiked my drink (or something?) w PCP and waited for me INSIDE my apartment when i got back home at 2am. i got lucky, the drug only gave me bad digestive problems, didnt take me out i call that close brush w serious trouble

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 221 (view)

Why Women Hate Men ?????? Posted: 1/3/2009 1:04:16 AM
the same reasons why men hate women we all been thru enough bad stuff to build resentment we need to work thru

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 4 (view)

true or false: the most beautiful people are sometimes the lonliest people Posted: 1/3/2009 1:01:41 AM
people get lonely, period. it doesnt matter status or money or beauty. those come w their pros and cons ive seen about as many beautiful as not-beautiful people desperately lonely

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 70 (view)

DATE RAPE Posted: 12/18/2008 6:13:32 PM
should have could have would have much good does it now, ey? anybody that's been date raped is already saying all those things to themselves. we all think we are smarter than that, but it happens. i had a close brush w it twice in the past 6 mo, both stalking material guys i should have known. last one was this sat nite. met guy around the corner from my street, at dry cleaners, talked w him 1-2 years, never got to really date. well, sat nite, figuring it's holiday season and i should have some fun, had few drinks w him. not experienced enough w drinking, had a few too many in too short period of time, got a bit too incapacitated. stupid? for sure. even more stupid to think that talking to him for a year, or him coming off as decent and really into me meant i was ok. he took me home, at my insistence, but when i got home it hit me a bit more, and even though i opposed to him dragging me back out and too his car, he did it anyways. next thing i remember was throwing up w the car door open. next thing after that, his apartment and me in a g string in his bed. ( he later told me he took my 'clothes off and put me to bed, because i had gone to sleep w all my clothes on') i said 'i dont want to have sex, dont have sex w me like this', he didnt care, got on top of me, next thing i remember was him coming in me. that was my first moment of lucidity. i said 'did u just come in me???'. the M F had the audacity to tell me ' it was something we wanted to do'. i ran to the bathroom, got in the tub and turned the water on, crying. i got lucky that i DID have a lucid moment, due to crisis, what if i hadn't remembered? he had my clothes, my bags, i didnt know where i was, i was still way too drunk, my phone was nowhere. i figured i better be nice, if i act too crazy, i might end up worse. plus, him acting like it was all in my head, and my hazy memory at the time, i didnt know what to do, i toweled off and passed out sleeping in his bed. he took me home the next morning, i only slept couple hrs to sober up a bit, i was extremely sick and shaking all day, he was acting like we were in a relationship or something i was gonna put it out to being dumb and take it like a man, whats done is done, no one told me to be that fing stupid and not know my alcohol limits however, its been 4 days and he still calls me all the time, not picking up anymore. for 2-3 days i did, had to let it out, vent that rage at him, called him all kind of names, he still calls and leaves me messages flipping between admitting (in text messages) that he raped me, to saying he loves me, to demanding i have his camera (' do u have my camera, did u take it by accident, i wanted to take pics last nite, i forgot?'), to saying i will never be the same after him etc etc friggin psycho. already got morning after pill, been to doctor's office, would have gone to police, but my car died thanksgiving and i couldn't even get there yet, at least to make a report. i should have been more careful, since about 6 mo ago i met a guy from here who i had lunch few times and ended up spiking my drink w pcp, found him IN MY APARTMENT at 2am when i came home. i got lucky, the drug just gave me very bad digestive problems, my body rejected it. funny thing is i tried to warn women on his page, but i couldn't because i was not a guy and living within x amount of miles from them. stupid when u think about it, no? date rape is NOT a joke, and it is a serious life& death risk. i feel lucky none of these ended up w me dead or beaten up bad, cannot f*ing wait for next year, 2008 sure SUCKED!!!!!!!!!

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 64 (view)

Women licking a guy below his balls... Posted: 11/29/2008 6:37:19 PM
cut or uncut both great. mental note to experiment more w mentioned spot. as for giving vs getting. i dont think men understand that when a woman has sex w u she ALREADY is giving a lot. like the diff between hosting a party and going to one - she is a host here, allowing u access INSIDE her body. that takes a lot of opening and trust, i mean there isnt anything more intimate than that? so for a man it's more an external experience, while for a woman more internal. we have diff needs and approaches to sex, but think on the entire picture to understand women, and also cultural taboos they might be attached to. sucking a guy's d*ck can be a social stigma and the epitome of being used, so they r reluctant

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 60 (view)

Women licking a guy below his balls... Posted: 11/29/2008 6:11:53 PM
a man has to be a freak to be good in bed. dont even worry bout it, thats nothing. i did way worse things to any willing lover i had, diversity makes sex great and always exciting. men without homophobic issues r so much better lays.

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 489 (view)

Starting to get turned off with shaved women Posted: 11/29/2008 6:04:26 PM
women are very receptive to the intimacy needs of their partners. my whole life when i had bfs, i kept the style according to their tastes, its common sense in a couple, we do things to drive one another crazy, no? might be good to express ur desires to the women u date rather than complain like a teenager and blame women. open ur mouth and choose ur partners according to ur needs and preferences, and let the rest of the world have its preferences. i personally dont like a bush because i like oral sex too much. hair gets in the way. it also feels cleaner, plus i like to see and watch whats goin on, and am not giving those up to pubic bushes. just [personal preferences. i know girls that have bushes, i touched a few, but hair gets stuck in ur throat, man, breaks the mood, that's all but by all means, bush on, love, more power to u. just let me and my trimmed/shaven pubes in peace. my motto - if u ain't hittin it, u got no say in it

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 780 (view)

Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 11/29/2008 5:57:06 PM
not all men like bjs. u can find one that feels n thinks like u, cupcakes, dont worry about the rest of the world n their opinions

merestes

Joined: 7/15/2008

Msg: 167 (view)

Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men? Posted: 11/29/2008 5:54:36 PM
are u telling me u r dating a total sex freak and u r complaining about it? hun, send her to me, i'll take her off ur hands, no problem :) ever occurred to u she might open u up to n teach u some new things every man should know?

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