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museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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Why dont we... Live..Like... Posted: 10/2/2007 8:24:05 PM
Because I'm already tap dancing as fast as I can!!!!

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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Ladies: Messages that Illicited Responses Posted: 10/2/2007 8:12:03 PM
Say Hello. Introduce yourself and a little about who you are and why you are writing. Point out a part of her profile that you think there is common ground. Be respectful.

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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A Random Topic Came To Mind Posted: 10/2/2007 7:49:43 PM
The howls of anguish come from having an understanding of past and future. We grieve that past though it is done and gone; we become anxious with expectations for the future. The only thing you can do to not howl and suffer is to enjoy the present, make the best choices you can, and not beat yourself up about it.

museamuse

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Why The Laundry List of Requirements? Posted: 9/29/2007 9:55:14 PM
For the most part, I've dispensed with the laundry list because I've met a lot of guys who have wonderful unique qualities and I would not have had the opportunity to meet them if I had limited myself to a list. That does not mean I accept anyone who writes to me. IT just keeps me open minded. I do think the laundry list is useful if guys learn how to decode them. Here's how: Mostly a list is a loose guideline and ONLY A PORTION OF THE LIST IS ABSOLUTE. Do you see things on that list that qualify you in ANY WAY? If so, point out those items you "qualify" for when you write to a lady. Just having a good, repectable job may be as acceptable as her shoot- for- the- moon list entry for the mealticket who earns six figures. She may be willing to forgive you for not being all the things she has on the list. She just wants you to be in the ballpark. Show her you have some common ground to start from and you are off to a good start. Ladies do not want to connect with guys that are an obvious mismatch. Read between the lines--how does she want to be treated? If it's too hard for you, then find someone else. .

museamuse

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WHOM, HOW or WHEN did you begin your love of cooking? Posted: 9/29/2007 7:01:33 AM
About 20 years ago when I became a vegetarian... I got tired of salad, grilled cheese and potatoes, so I began to explore cooking from other cultures. Indian, Greek, Turkish, Southern, and all different Asian foods. I discovered amazing spices and produce I still enjoy today, even though I gave up the vegetarianism after 15 years.

museamuse

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Breaking the 'bad choices' cycle Posted: 9/26/2007 4:11:11 PM
You've been through the pattern a zillion times. You already know when it's gonna hurt. Stop. You are in charge of your life. Love yourself and choose the thing that makes YOU happy. When you are in the middle of hurling yourself into that bad situation (again), now is a real good time to be selfish.

museamuse

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love and sex - in what order? Posted: 9/25/2007 11:34:44 AM
Love doesn't exist in cyberspace.

museamuse

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Menopause Advise. Posted: 9/24/2007 5:28:24 PM
I refer to it as my inner child playing with matches. Some uncomfortable symptoms and there are power surges that make for some mighty interesting PMSentertainment. FYI boys--there's also an upside for you-- her libido jumps up a notch or two too.

museamuse

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Where did you meet your SO, or ex? Posted: 9/24/2007 10:59:55 AM
We met playing in a community orchestra. He played bass; I play violin. We also are both artists. I was always in his line of sight as he looked to the conductor. On a break I had out my sketch book. He was curious, snooped, and really liked how I thought on paper...and fell for me right there. The rest is 8 years of a mix of joy and frustration and ultimate end to the relationship. (He wouldn't get a job and I got fed up financing his $500 phonebills.)

museamuse

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OMG WTF, It worked and I didn't even try Posted: 9/16/2007 7:27:30 PM
Hmmm. A nice guy who can PRETEND to be a bad boy (and she knows he's pretending). Could be interesting....

museamuse

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Cheap Hotels?? Posted: 8/16/2007 9:17:57 PM
Call the Convention and Visitors Bureau in the towns you plan to overnight in. Ask them to recommend inexpensive hotels. I recently did this on a trip to Salida Colorado. Anything I found on line was $80 per night and up. Through the CVB I found a private mom & pop motor court hotel for $40 a night. It was clean, well kept and safe. You also might want to visit with people who regularly travel cross country on motorcycles. They seem to have a knack for homing in on less expensive digs.

museamuse

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skinny men Posted: 8/3/2007 7:08:30 PM
A skinny guy who is strong can practically levitate (sp?) and coil around me like a serpent. Makes room for some very exotic moves! Yeah!

museamuse

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Judging a “Men in Tights” competition at a Renaissance Faire, what men’s costume would you like? Posted: 8/3/2007 7:03:58 PM
The most "interesting" men-in-tights costume I've ever enjoyed is --a singing executioner--black leather tights, shirtless and a hood.

museamuse

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Do women say yes because he's attractive? Posted: 8/3/2007 6:46:21 PM
The most attractive thing a man can do with me is to really listen and take cues from what I am sharing. I fall hard for guys who pay attention to the details. A blathering guy, handsome or not, is never gonna get on my radar.

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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Am I crossing the line doing background checks on a suspicious date? Posted: 8/2/2007 9:31:58 PM
Your "spidey sense" has told you what you need to know. Listen to the voice in your gut and take care of yourself.

museamuse

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is it true or bulls**t that life begins at 40? Posted: 7/30/2007 5:08:18 PM
When I was a young woman, I watched the older women in my life as they aged. They consistently got it together when they hit 40, so, I always looked forward to that birthdate. I'm almost 50 now and can honestly say life is MUCH more fun. I'd never want to go back to being who I was in my 20s & 30s-- full of self-doubt, scared of men, and feeling like my life was just a house of cards.

museamuse

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Pranks that endear you Posted: 7/28/2007 8:53:30 PM
I think that playing pranks, as long as they are not intended to humiliate or harm, can be endearing. Who doesn't like to laugh and be playful? I have men friends who like to be pranksters and be entertaining. One guy played a game with me by leaving small tokens by my plate everytime I wasn't looking. I was given a stream of silly items such as a miniture Portugese dictionary, a blinking toy ring, a small plastic horse, et. al. Another friend will always leave an outrageous message when he calls my office. (Turnabout is fair play--I've cornered him a few times back!) I myself have done things such as put plastic ants in a date's napkin, left an Easter basket with beer and a bag of cheese curls made up to look like a rabbit, or make risque Christmas ornaments to hang on his tree. Question: Have you ever played a prank on a girlfriend/boyfriend that was so charming they couldn't help but really like you?

museamuse

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if a guy turned up for a date in a costume, what would you do? Posted: 7/28/2007 8:26:42 PM
It would be okay if the costume actually RELATED to something we have already talked about, something we share in common, or ALREADY have an inside joke about. Otherwise it falls flat and you come off looking like a weirdo and give reason for your date to run away. Give your date some fair warning it is in you to do some out-of-the ordinary stunts. Remember where you are and that you never get a second chance to make a first impression. Stupid is never a good first impression.

museamuse

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What drives you to create art? Posted: 7/19/2007 8:58:40 PM
Making art is a process where I can indulge everything that I am. Uncensored. I don't have to report to anyone, no one gets hurt, and I get to spill my soul in a safe environment. I had a dream once where I was given my own planet. The planet was covered with paper and anything I drew became the reality of that world. Art is empowering. Art gives you permission to love the bits of yourself that nobody else will.

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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If she only had one Condom, a potential relationship could have been saved. Posted: 7/15/2007 6:32:49 PM
Bottom line-- it's none of your business. The two of them need to talk and work it out as to what each person needs in terms of fidelity. It sounds like he has some pre-exisiting ideas about a women's sexuality that ran aground when he actually got to a place where real sexual contact was at hand. A woman having a shoebox full of condoms means NOTHING, other than when she has sex, she takes repsonsibility for her health. Smart cookie. A woman who likes sex is no different than a man who likes sex.

museamuse

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Marriage vs. Living Together - your views and why? Posted: 7/15/2007 2:13:34 PM
After I got engaged, we moved in together for about a year. I had doubts and needed time with him to sort out my issues. Result: I should have trusted my gut instinct from the start. You already know the answer to what it would be like with that person. Playing house doesn't solve anything. Save yourself from a waste of time. Don't just live together waiting for it to feel right to move toward something more permanent. That feeling is not going to happen. He is what he is right now. Living together doesn't change anything.

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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diabetic food Posted: 7/13/2007 10:49:49 AM
Don't let the diabetic thing freak you out. Here's something comforting... YOU CAN EAT ANYTHING YOU LIKE, you just can't eat ALL you like. It's about balanced meals and portion control. I highly recommend a trip to a dietitian to teach you/train you how to take care of your body when it comes to eating and making good food choice for yourself. A meal consists of about 2-3 oz of meat As much vegetable as I want, except for certain ones that are high sugar content 1/2 c dairy 1 fruit equivalent of 1-2 slices of bread (18-30 grams of carbohydrate) use condiments with care; fat will sneak in to other things, so i don't go out of my way to make sure I eat some. So... a meal may be a portion of pot roast with vegetables; my bread = potatoes cooked with the meat; a green salad with a variety of veggies and a balsamic vinegar dressing; dessert may be a sugar-free pudding cup or a frozen juice bar. Or--a flat bread with roast turkey, roasted red pepper and sprouts, mustard, a little mayo; an apple; a small glass of milk Or-- 1/4-1/2 c cooked high fiber pasta; toss with pesto made from mint/garlic/olive oil/walnuts and add shrimp; a samll glass of white wine; green vegetable; mixed citrus fruit salad You'll find the fewer carbs you eat, the less hungry you feel. The more fiber content in your carbs, the more satisfied you will be, and your blood sugars won't hop around as much as they would with more refined carbohydrates.

museamuse

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R.I.P.......but then what? Posted: 6/5/2007 9:18:18 PM
If you get in trouble, you would be surprised who will step up to help you. Friends, co-workers and neighbors will all keep an eye out for you when there is no family around. Social services also able to help. I learned this when I had a fire and was homeless for several weeks. I had no family in the area and was on my own. In my devastation, my neighbors and the red cross got me through. The experience makes me less fearful of the future.

museamuse

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The classical music conductor Posted: 6/5/2007 8:48:48 PM
You can bypass the need for a conductor when you have a small ensemble where everyone can hear all the parts and everyone can hear where entrances are. But when there are many players involved, that's when chaos ensues. One half of the orchestra may be a beat off from the other half. It's sort of like walking with one foot on the curb and one foot in the gutter. A conductor holds it all together. There's a lot of information being communicated to every instrumentalist on the stage. She's not up there just flapping her arms.

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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drawing : mixing materials (?) Posted: 5/30/2007 7:26:17 PM
When pencil and charcoal get boring, I pull out a vintage box of photo retouch grays. Somewhere between drawing and painting--still tonal, but borders on color, and of course, it's a liquid medium. I've also experimented with drawing using gesso in a pastry tube--white on white dimentional lines are nifty. Or--play Roarshock Test (spelling?) and drop ink on a page and blow it around with a straw. Then go back into it with color or black and white pencils. See what appears. Sometimes I will glue a dimentional object (such as a plastic cameo or watch gears) to a piece of paper and draw a composition around it.

museamuse

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Do You Put Up Walls? Posted: 5/30/2007 7:05:57 PM
Walls can protect your insides from the bad stuff, but they also protect you from the good stuff. You have to take some risks. Jump in and take a chance on getting what you are looking for. Ya can't win if ya don't play!

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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How does living through the sex role changes of the last 30 years affect your dating? Posted: 5/29/2007 4:07:19 PM
Being a lady or a gentleman never goes out of style. In my youthful independence, I never expected a man's help nor appreciated gentlemanly gestures. It took me 30 years to figure out that thoses things were not intended as oppressive acts of a male agenda, but as kind gifts out of respect and gestures of caring. Gosh I missed out. I REALLY appreciate it now.

museamuse

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Best songs for strength and for mourning/pain Posted: 5/27/2007 5:12:14 PM
CD 1: "Longer Than" by Dan Fogelberg CD2: "I'm Still Standing" by Elton John

museamuse

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I would agree.... Posted: 5/19/2007 9:53:37 AM
Heavy men have a more difficult time "coupling." Sex with them hasn't been as satisfying as with a more slender person.

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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Has your taste in men/women changed? Posted: 3/31/2007 8:52:01 PM
I'm attracted to men who have similar characteristics of the men in my life with whom I've had good experiences. Likewise, I am put off by men who remind me of men with whom I've had bad experiences. How Pavlovian is that!!???

museamuse

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For the Ladies, thank for taking all the crap!! Posted: 3/31/2007 8:40:49 PM
I've been sexually chatted up by some very explicit guys. Eew. But the worst, most abusive, and shocking was a by an American soldier who made a lot of hostile assumptions about me just because I am a democrat! Yeow! I've never been treated so badly.

museamuse

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artistic/creative people and relationships Posted: 3/29/2007 7:14:15 PM
I'm an artist and a musician, and a writer, and a cook, and a gardener. I breathe creativity. I prefer people who are intuitive and have done some exploration of the inner soul and the outer world and given some thought to one's existence. I've met creative men with art degrees that are complete oafs, and I've met IT guys without a lick of art background who have an awesome sense of aesthetics. Given that choice, I'd rather have the IT guy.

museamuse

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Do you lose respect for music/artists if their work is used to sell....? Posted: 3/7/2007 7:16:22 PM
I'm all for an artist profiting as much as possible from his or her work. That notion of living the life of a starving artist for some romantic ideal or that the work becomes valuable after the artist dies is sooo un-American.

museamuse

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Have you ever fallen BACK in Love? Posted: 3/6/2007 5:52:28 PM
What I once believed was love turned out to be different degrees of infatuation. It took me years to figure that out. Infatuation is a very 2-dimentional experience by comparison. When the real thing comes along, it's really big. I don't think the spark ever totally goes out unless it's squashed out of you, or somebody else comes along who lights your fire.

museamuse

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When do you get roses? Posted: 3/6/2007 5:39:33 PM
A single rose on a first date is charming. Flowers impress me and you have my attention. If you really, really like me, drive the message home with flowers.

museamuse

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How people age differently Posted: 3/6/2007 3:50:10 PM
I think we all look younger nowadays than people from previous generations. We live longer too. Our forebearers would suffer more physical pain and distress to their bodies because they didn't have the products we have today. I think having more skin-protecting cosmetics, over-the-counter pain relievers, tooth-whiteners and other beautifying products have done a great job of improving the looks of the lot of us.

museamuse

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Scented Massage Oils Posted: 2/26/2007 5:57:04 PM
Ask your lady what she likes! Go pick out some scents you both like.

museamuse

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Scented Massage Oils Posted: 2/26/2007 5:56:56 PM
And don't use anything with eucalyptus in it. It will make your tongue go numb!

museamuse

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Whats the nicest thing a guy can do for you Posted: 2/26/2007 5:51:53 PM
Touch me. Ask questions to find out about who I am. Be a gentleman. Shave before you come back to bed to wake me up with your gentle kisses.

museamuse

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Long hair on older women Posted: 2/26/2007 5:47:25 PM
I've had very short hair in my life. It was convenient, but men had no interest in me. I've grown it out and I feel much more feminine and attractive. There are also more male eyes paying attention.

museamuse

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Survey of success rate Posted: 2/26/2007 5:30:52 PM
Online dating has been very, very good to me. 1 guy I spent a year with; another guy 6 months; several turned into very good long-term friendships. And I've had abundant opportunities to get to know new people in a safe environment.

museamuse

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No wedding band => not married ? Posted: 2/26/2007 4:53:02 PM
Rings are worn when it is appropriate. I've known guys who would not wear wedding rings because they are an occupational danger. Electricians and folks who work on electrical lines and equipment don't wear a lot af metal in case they get zapped. Some machinists don't because they don't want to get caught in equipment and tear off a finger.

museamuse

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Question for the Chefs on meat Posted: 2/19/2007 8:53:14 PM
BBQ has a long tradition of taking less expensive cuts of meat and turning them into something special. If you want something that tastes good and won't turn into shoe leather on you, here are a few tricks: sear or parboil prior to bbqing to remove unwanted fat and keeps the meat moist; if you cook them in a conventional oven, use lower heat and very long cooking time; use foil to keep in moisture; bast about every 15 minutes of cooking time.

museamuse

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Is cooking a thing of the past for women? Posted: 2/10/2007 8:10:13 AM
I'll cook if somebody does the clean-up!

museamuse

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lemon and dill salmon Posted: 2/5/2007 8:42:03 PM
Another spin-- salmon 1/2 cup cream 1 bay leaf 6-12 whole peppercorns 2 lemons sliced and covering filet wrap in foil and bake. YUM!

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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No women want controlling men? Posted: 1/27/2007 2:34:23 PM
I spend my work day being in charge and am required to keep in control of a whole bunch of projects. The rest of the time, I have to be in control of my home, social life, health, wealth and everything else --because there is nobody else to help me carry the load. Part of the joys of being a responsible adult--you have responsibilities. That "control muscle" is flexed all the time and it gets tiring. The last thing I need on top of all the things I HAVE to control, is to be in charge of some guy and be his personal secretary and social chairman. Sometimes there is no one sexier than a take-charge guy that allows me take a break from juggling my life. I so totally want to be the girl and yield to him.

museamuse

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What would you say is the number one reason a women would reject a guy for? Posted: 1/16/2007 9:22:06 PM
If a guy gives me signals that he's physically or emotionally abusive, I shut it down fast. Signals to me are: Put-downs/unconstructive criticism That he's a pissed-off time-bomb That he jumps to conclusions and gets into a total rage over something he "thought" I meant An attitude of low regard for women

museamuse

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How do you meet a woman if you work too much? Posted: 12/9/2006 6:40:31 AM
You need to decide what your priorities are. Having a person in your life isn't just a "hobby." What level of relationship do you want to pursue? Just a female buddy to hang out with on your day off, or something that could lead to a long term committment? Whatever your decide, be clear about your intentions and don't lead a person on if your first love is going to be your work.

museamuse

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How do we feel about Michael Richards? Posted: 11/21/2006 6:35:12 PM
I think the whole thing smells of propaganda to sell Seinfield DVDs. I think the whole series of events is an orchestrated sham by somebody's publicist.

museamuse

Joined: 9/14/2005

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Do you need approval? Posted: 11/21/2006 6:28:17 PM
I make my own decisions. But you ARE known by the company you keep. Trusted friends and family may see some things in your date that you can sometimes be blind to.

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