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 Author Thread: Can I recover a can we slow things down? situation?
 tadmac3
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 70 (view)
 
Can I recover a can we slow things down? situation?
Posted: 9/22/2008 5:50:27 PM
this has been an interesting post not very often where the opinions are so divided by gender. All the run away cause things arent going the way yu want guys NICE. Its been my experience that passion and attraction are based in fantasies, both yours and hers. She had time away from reality while she was on vacation and you filled some fantasy that she had. This is not a bad thing, there is attraction or you would not have seen her again and again. Now reality has set back in and she has to find space for you, again not a bad thing.
Remember too much of anything good or bad is just that too much, the most coveted , valuable things in our life are those that are just out of reach. Suspense, the thrill of the chase! Excitement is that available where you were at?
Be confident enough in who you are to give her the gift of your absense, distance promotes fondness. And go back to what was working when you first met . two steps forward and one step back. It sounds like it may be too late but who knows add that sense of wonder and spontanious event that the every day all the time attention can never fill. most of all be confident in who you are and what you have to offer! laughter and joy to offset all the stress she will love you for it . Good luck
 tadmac3
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 110 (view)
 
Disabilities and dating....
Posted: 9/17/2008 6:15:41 AM
awesome post I just logged in a appriciate alot of the commentary. My own experience is that up until age 39 I was a"normal" So Cal guy. Active, hip in my own mind, buisness owner etc, etc.. I would not date a disabled woman it did not fit my image, this is very embarassing at this point. I have been blessed with the challange of a form of RA called ankloysing spondilitis my spine is attempting to grow into one piece. It has been the greatest turning point in my life. Intially when the doc said that wheelchair was a forgone conclusion I attempted suicide via the bottle didnt work.
Then reached a point where decisions had to be made, discovered that the greatest disability most people have is in the upper 18" of thier body! LOL If your friend is comfortable enough with who he is that you forget "what " he is you have a winner.
Romance and love desire and that hot driving passion that we feel are products of our mind and fantasy. Confident happy the ability to make your partner laugh and feel special they are all products of the mind. I only have to remind myself of the hollow insecure person that I was to realise that if someone is uncomfortable with me, its not me its where thier at and thats ok everyone can grow up if they give themselves a chance. So ask yourself the same questions as you would with a normy does he make you feel special, does your heart beat faster, is it his eyes that you see in the face of your fantasys. try it better to have loved and lost than never... I love a post that makes you think thank you for your time and good fishing V
 tadmac3
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 62 (view)
 
How bad is to ask someone out by email?
Posted: 9/9/2008 5:11:07 PM
hey PL dude, sounds to me like you have talked yourself past your doubts, which really is what this seems to be about , is with me anyways . If you were able to generate any attraction when you met her before its a done deal. I have been told by my Lady friends that most men fall into 3 catagories HELL yes wont matter how you ask, Maybe be yourself and go for it, or Hell no again wont matter how you ask. So ask. Read a couple of hundred of profiles how many women are looking for a "real" man someone who doesnt need to stage every interaction, and Humour honesty etc.
E mail her be honest heck I would be inclined to tell her exactly how you came to this point some of these posts are just unbelivable funny . Just remember if she is a confident attractive women she gets approached all the time by guys who are more worried about how they will come off or want her attention. Boring Be special be confident be different from the crowd and go for it Good Fishing V
 tadmac3
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Second opinion, please
Posted: 8/31/2008 5:54:33 AM
this is just part of the process I have found that even if there is some chemistry I personally will have days that I just dont want to connect that day. Or you remind her of an evil ex, or the reasoning is endless. The fact of the matter is you have done alot of the right things to get to where you were, so take a step back. Give her the gift of your absence, let her remember why she enjoyed your conversations in the first place.
Remember the most attractive shiny objects are often the ones that are just out of reach, and to much of a good thing often leads to stomache aches or worse. LOL And if she has decided that it wont click remember the name of this site and go fishing! If you are constantly growing your circle of contacts you will always have someone to spend time with. And to the gentlemen who says all women on this site.... NO two woman are the same , if you are getting the same results every time perhaps you should address the common denominator that would be your approach . One last thing give it a couple of months and then ask her where it went flat and then dont do it again always learn have a great day folks
 tadmac3
Joined: 7/16/2008
Msg: 99 (view)
 
YOU'RE JUST GOING AFTER THE PRETTY ONES
Posted: 8/14/2008 7:26:10 PM
Oh my gosh, just caught the last of this post dude quit being awussy, when you meet a woman do you look her in the eyes and let her know that you can rock her world? beautiful women are approached everyday everyway how are you different? she can have her choice of good looking men how are you different. be confident and give them something different. make them laugh make em wonder let them know you know passion, hot emotional passion friendship is for friends passion is for lovers whooooooo wheeeeee. guys like you leave more for me LOL you CAN be lovers and friends but its gotta be a potential lover first not the other way around you dont grow attraction just friendship but keep it up youll figure it out
 
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