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qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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how long should a first meeting last and how do you get out of one without being rude? Posted: 11/3/2009 4:57:57 PM
I never set time limits for dates and I have never been told by woman there would be one. The longest first meet lasted 3 days, the shortest was still at least an hour. If there is no chemistry, I still enjoying talking to the person, other wise I would not have met them to begin with. So, I use that time to brush up on my social, meet, interview, interviewee and witty remarks skills.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Creepy or not creepy? Posted: 9/7/2009 7:25:05 PM
It is hard to explain the car situation, we basically park across from each other in an alley way we share... but after typing alley I could see that being creepy. I will wait to see what other say first, lol.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Creepy or not creepy? Posted: 9/7/2009 7:13:21 PM
Hello ladies! Well, I need some advice here about a girl that lives in the next building from me. We almost never "run" into each other, it seems to be more like a brief encounter from a far... well, all of 20 feet. I will see her on occasion walking her dog or running, but she has a really great butt and is one of those runners that does not stop running. Red light, she runs in place, dog stops to take care of business, she runs in place. So, I figure that would not be the right time or place. Would it be creepy to leave a little note on her car? Nothing crazy, but I figure since we don't run into each other very often any way, there would not be much awkwardness if it blew up. If you vote not creepy, perhaps give some things that might make it creepy. And yes, I was not going to mention her stellar butt, lol.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Female Trekkies Posted: 7/7/2009 4:44:14 PM
Hmmm, the female trekkie. I am seeing visions of a star trek convention.... Not since Cardinal Marco Cé joined the Pope, to give a speech to a group of Nuns, at an event catered by the Amish has there been such a large room filled with such little sexual experience

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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What are the chances of ever going on a date from this site? Posted: 7/6/2009 4:59:50 PM
Dude, drop the degree section of your requirement, lol. Most women in that age range you have are just finishing up those higher ed degrees. And good luck finding one with no kids! Granted, out here in Colorado, during the blizzard weeks, 9 months later there is always a baby boom. So, it might be different out there for you.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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What are your messaging ratio's? Posted: 7/6/2009 4:47:41 PM
On this site, 1/10. On another paysite, 8/10... guess where I don't use for meeting women How ever, as a test, I emailed the same email to 30 women, 15 below 30 and 15 above 40. I got 0/15 from the below 30 crowd, and 15/15 from the above 40 crowd. Of course this test was just to see if I would get a response, not a date. Just some social experimenting on my part.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Most comfortable date ever Posted: 5/7/2009 4:54:45 PM
I have had one of those too, granted it last 3 days ( no sex your pervs) and I thought it was great. Not often you can go out with out it feeling like a job interview.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Funny Dating Stories....... :laugh: Posted: 5/1/2009 4:32:07 PM
This was when I was 17, my first attempt at WOWing a woman... We head out of Gunnison going north, up to a little road that will go up into the mountains. We arrive at the place I have chosen to begin my demise. We get out of the car and I lead her to the site, blanket in one hand and a large bundle of fire wood in the other. I spread the blanket out next to the fire pit, and begin to build a camp fire. I walk back to the car and begin to unload all the items. It’s dark now, very dark and the camp fire I left behind has now died out. Unable to see much around me I turn around quickly to go back and try to get the fire going again. I can only describe a sense of sudden gravity taking hold of my body as I tumble to the ground like the dice on a craps table. I could sure understand how the dice might feel when they hit the wall, when my shoulder hit a large rock that was so kind as to cushion my fall. “I’m ok” I shout out, “Are you sure,” Stacy replies. “I think I broke my arm,” I mumble under my breath while I lay in a freaking fire pit that I apparently missed. Covered in ash and dirt and what ever else may have been put in there, I dust myself off, and head back to the camp site. With a bit of a limp from possibly twisting my ankle in my very uncoordinated attempt to leave the car, she asks “Are you sure you’re ok?” “I’m great, just a little tumble, that’s all,” as I lied through my teeth. I get everything unloaded with no more problems and have my sights set on putting the tiki-torch with the anti-bug oil in it up and burning. Flimsy bamboo and a ground that is hard as a rock can make for a very interesting time. I spent a good 15 min. trying to get that stupid thing in the ground, but to no avail I took out the center canister, put it on the ground and lit it there. Time to cook, I live to grill, I am the grill master… so I thought at the time. I must have fiddled with the grill for another 15 min. the same grill that was working not 2 hours earlier has not mystically stopped working. WHAT THE F%^&! I was not expecting this, with all the preparations I made, cooking rice and placing it in a pot to keep warm; this was the one thing I did not think of. I switched gas canisters and nothing. Feeling the test that lie ahead, fate was playing a game with me and I was not going to be out done, so I did what any other guy who went through this much planning would do, I took the metal grill top and put it over the campfire. I PUT IT OVER THE CAMP FIRE! What a great idea, fire cooks, I need to cook and I have a fire its perfect. After playing with the wood a little bit and putting a few ashes on the blanket I was able to set the grill securely over the fire. Throw the steaks on and I’ll be ready to go. The steaks were about 8 inches above the flame, and I thought everything was fine… until the flames started to rise. I’m not talking rising from 8 inches below the steaks to like 4 inches, I’m talking 3 feet above the steaks!! 3 FREAKING FEET ABOVE THE STEAKS!! Apparently the grease and other things on the steaks was a bit of a fire helper and as I watched my steaks getting engulfed by my at one time small romantic fire, now a roaring bonfire, I pondered what to do. The only thing I had was a fork, ya like that a freaking fork. I was not planning on sticking my hand into the seventh ring of hell to get my food, so I thought a fork would be sufficient, nope! As I try to maneuver the flames, in a futile attempt at turning the steaks, I felt a sense of fate breathing down my neck, as if saying ‘you knew you had no business asking this girl out, and now you will pay!” So I burn my fingers a couple of times trying to get at the hockey pucks that were 2 nicely marbled steaks. At the same time I knew that I would have to get that damn grill to work if I had any hope of salvaging this dinner attempt. IT WORKS NOW!! “You piece of crap.” I mumble under my breath making my displeasure with the grill known. I now have to get the steaks, and the grill top off of the roaring bonfire, with nothing more then 2 forks. FORKS!! This sucks, I burn my hand trying to get to the steaks, I use the forks to try and pull a fork lift -quick as possible -don’t burn myself- anymore motion. Nope, a bee flew up by me and I panicked, dropping the grill top on my forearm. And very quickly realizing this all of a sudden flesh frying pain, I play the tough guy, “whoops, I thought that bee was after you,” and on the inside I was thinking “OH MY GOD, WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME?” I put the steaks on a very low heat, so that maybe I would be able to somewhat cook the raw center of these now black, little, rock hard dinner entrees, I still hope to salvage the night. Do you remember the first time you opened a bottle of wine? I do, it was a dark night in the woods, trying to impress some collage girl. It was great, I remember looking at the top and thinking, what’s that thing in the top of the bottle. “What the cork?” Stacy inquires. Cork, what is this cork thing and why did Chuck not say anything about a cork. I HAVE NO CORK SCREW!! I felt like an otter trying to open a freaking clam. I study the bottle carefully and figure I can do this with my steak knife. My right index finger has a nice little scar from the one and only time I ever tried to open a bottle of wine with a steak knife. This was 1 mistake I will learn from… I hope. So I am whittling away at the cork, when I get the notion of just pushing the cork in side the bottle. My bloody hand, my scorched flesh, my broken shoulder all cut up, I put the bottle between my legs and just push… I feel a drop fall ever so gently on my clean hand followed by a light drizzle of white zinfandel falling from the sky. The force of the cork going in to the bottle had a completely unthought of effect, about half the bottle of wine was emptied on my head and clothes. I was covered, and now sticky, and just generally concerned that this date might not turn around. So while I air dry, I start to dish up the now ruined dinner, but surprisingly enough, the rice was still nice and hot, finally a break. Have you ever had one of those nights where really everything you do seems to end up burning you in the end, me too. I open my new bottle of A-1 steak sauce, after all gonna need something to cover the charcoal taste of the steak, I looked away for only a second, but that one second was enough time to dump the entire bottle of steak sauce on my plate. To be honest, the rice and steak sauce was not that bad, but the steak… not even the power of 13 ozs of A-1 could salvage the steak. I looked at Stacy, and she tried to play it off like it was ok, I looked at her and said “Is yours over-cooked also?” There was a look of amusement in her eyes, and she could see that with all the planning, this would go down in the history books as the worst date in history. So we clean up the camp site, and I take her home. I limp out of the car with my body feeling like it may have gone all the way down to hell and came back up just to make the trip at a later date. She gave me a gentle kiss on the cheek, a hug and we parted ways. I remember thinking to myself that was really fun, I really enjoyed her company. Even though we never went out again, I reached my goal of going out on a date that would make a great story. I was able to keep a smile on my face even though everything that could have gone wrong did, all though we had a nice clear night, but I have a feeling that anyone that believes in God, might say he just wanted an clear view of his nightly entertainment.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Is there....... Posted: 4/22/2009 4:36:36 PM
My guess would be "he" was one of those "Unread/Deleted" emails that get over looked. He probably screwed up and put in the subject line "hey" or "hi" and it got lost in the other 35-40 "hey" and "hi" s.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Seeking Advice for Sticky Situation Posted: 3/30/2009 3:59:58 PM
Well, if you do give him another chance, you could always hold out with sex for like 2 months ( if you can hold out yourself) if he sticks around, it is for you, if not, then you will have a good idea about his intentions :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Is it cheating or not??? Posted: 3/20/2009 4:23:26 PM
I have a relationship similar to the "friend" thing at work, and I know she does not call it cheating. We go out to dinner, we go to NBS games. He husband works nights and she gets kind of bored. He does know about me though, and I think that is why it does work out so well. If we were sneaking around, then there is more of a potential for it to become cheating.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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how to create sexual tension in coffee date/. movie theatre Posted: 3/3/2009 3:43:06 PM
You only need one word for this- Tequila. Works every time

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Live, Laugh, Love... is this some sort of profile default? Posted: 2/4/2009 6:45:46 PM
I think the title says it all, lol. Seems like every other profile has that as the headline, and I was just curious if it is already populated when you start a profile? Then again, maybe it is just a colorado thing, who knows, lol.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Involved with a woman who is recently separated Posted: 12/8/2008 11:29:23 AM
Gregger34- I have been in your exact place, I will could have sworn it was me retelling this story. I met a woman on Match dot com and this woman had been separated for about a year from her husband. He was so mean to her over the 6 months we were together. We would have these :little moments" as I reffered to them, just an intense feeling, never felt it before. I had not met the kids until 5 months after we started going out, and the only reason I did meet them was because we had planned a trip to Mexico, so we thought it would be a good time to meet. They knew about me, just never met. A week after we got back from Mexico, the day after Easter, I got an email. From the conversation the night before I knew it was over. The tone in her voice had changed, and I just knew it was over. Everyone said to me, "run, she is not ready." "she is not thinking clearly, the divorce has not hit her yet." I said, "no, this is different, we have feelings for each other." I tried to do a lot of stuff for her, make her feel special and loved. They were right, the divorce had not hit her yet. When she saw the paper work, she realized it was not just the end of a life with someone, it was the end, or a death of a dream. When many get married, it is with the intent on staying that way for ever. When that dreams dies, it will hit hard, and not when you want it to. And if you have never experience a divorce first hand, then you will never truly understand what she is going through. You have close friends or family members, but if you yourself have never done it, you will never get it. I will never invest emotionally like that again, I have learned my lesson. I went in with the best of intentions, but in the end, it was her who ended it. It was her who finally realized she was not ready for anything. She needed time to rediscover herself, what it is she truly likes. So if this goes south Gregger, be prepared for sever depression, because I can already tell you have invested in this heavily.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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cant understand how to get that 2nd date Posted: 11/20/2008 1:11:38 PM
There are supposed to be second dates!? Is anyone getting these so called "second dates?" As long as someone does not say "there's always tomorrow"... Gee really? I see the stores closing, the sun goin down... you means there's more?

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Rate my profile, please? Posted: 11/12/2008 1:02:23 PM
Karin, I think your profile tells it like it is with little fluff, I personally seek out those types of profiles so I can get a better idea of who the woman is with little or no suprises. I think you do a good job of telling us who you are. I would change up the pics a bit, while you look great in your main pic, it is false advertising ( short hair now). But heck, If I fit into you age range I would have emailed you long ago, if for no other reason then to say hi!

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Question about time... Posted: 11/12/2008 9:38:33 AM
Wow, not one question that was actually asked as a question was answered, lol, good stuff, moving on.... The last 2 would wake up around 5:30-6 and send me a morning txt message. Txt me all day, it would be back and forth. We would see each other about 1 time a week, some weeks maybe 2, never more then 3. But while they are home watching tv they would txt me telling me about what they are watching. During the Pres. debates and the SNL stuff it was 30 min of non-stop txting... and I am a slow txter. Ladies, I am not looking for the reasons we broke up, whats done is done and I have moved on. The post is about patterns of women who are too busy, who have so many friends, family, work stuff, and how they approach dating. Stay on topic here, there are very specific questions I am curious about. If it is a pattern, why would you not free up time with your life before you start to date? After a while, do you ever think about that 1 great guy that got away because you had no time and let him go? Would you ever call him down the road to see if he might still be interested?

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Question about time... Posted: 11/11/2008 2:22:21 PM
Let me rephrase it, the 3 women have an average of 1-6 months with guys in general.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Question about time... Posted: 11/11/2008 2:12:08 PM
I would like to know why women choose to go out with a guy for a month or three months only to push them away when they realize they have no time. The last three women I have dated have all told me the same thing, they will start to see a guy, it will last anywhere from 1-6 months and they kick the guy to the curb. I don't think most guys complain too much about the amount of time a woman will give him, at least I have not, yet the woman seem to assume that I or the other guys have been unhappy. If it is a pattern, why would you not free up time with your life before you start to date? After a while, do you ever think about that 1 great guy that got away because you had no time and let him go? Would you ever call him down the road to see if he might still be interested? So for you busy ladies who might have some insight, any time you can give me will be greatly appreciated :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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How many guys respond to ads with Hang Out as woman's status Posted: 11/11/2008 1:57:59 PM
I do not include those profiles in my search, so I never see them to begin with. The ones I have read on occasion seem to want many men, and I am just not after that kind of girl. Call me crazy

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Here's an interesting thing that happened recently Posted: 11/11/2008 1:16:53 PM
Has anyone actually read the post? She is not saying she did not have the money. She is not saying a woman should not have to pay. She is saying she was annoyed at the fact that the guy TOLD her she was going to pay. He said, I will come get you, take you where ever you want to go, and then, after they sit down, and by the way, you are getting this bill. His actions indicate he is going to pay, IMO. If I tell a woman I am going to take her where ever she wants, I am indicating it is a treat by me. I think she has every right to be annoyed, now should she kick him to the curb over it? Seems like a bit much, however in my experiences if something like this is a reason to get rid of someone, there are probably other factors contributing to it, this would just be the final straw.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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How do I come across in my profile? Posted: 11/10/2008 8:58:12 AM
Your profile looks great, how ever I would never find it in a search, you are looking for friends/ email. I do not search for those types of profile, and many other great guys do not either. That would be the only thing from me writing to you :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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I need opinions. Posted: 11/3/2008 11:22:09 AM
"Don't fall in love with me, I'm not that guy. I'm a batchelor and like doing what I wanna do when I wanna do it. I don't have time for a girlfriend. I'm gonna hurt you. I asked him I think that is about as honest as it gets. Certainly not a game, just wants to have fun with you.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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How do you let a guy down gently..without punching him??? Posted: 10/31/2008 2:03:19 PM
I think you should "stage" something where he sees you "with" another guy. If he is so thick headed that he can not hear you, then let him see something.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Guys, what is wrong with my profile, besides no picture? Posted: 10/30/2008 3:15:53 PM
You mention religion 4 times in your profile. I would click away based on that alone. Religion might be important to you, but even religious men might see that and scream bible thumper!!

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Setting up for failure... Posted: 10/24/2008 10:15:30 AM
I will also add, that sometimes, it just gets hard to really stay positive. I have had people tell me, " STOP being so positive and let me be pissed!" It is very mentally draining to try and be the light, the support for everyone else, then we seem to run out of fuel for ourselves.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Men keep offering me close friendships - what's up with that? Posted: 10/23/2008 4:23:10 PM
Some say I am too adventurous... truth be told, I am just a recovering sedentary workaholic like almost everyone in this town; It is possible the men feel you don't have enough time on your hands to add a romantic aspect to it. I had been dating women who are always out doing something, always with friends, and many do not give me the impression they have a lot of room to squeeze me in. They might be offering you friendship to keep you close for when you do slow down.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Setting up for failure... Posted: 10/23/2008 11:29:44 AM
This is not so much of a question as more of a discussion topic; Now we have all been hurt from past relationships, and for many it has made it very hard to really open up to people we meet due to the fear of getting hurt yet again. Have you ever started to see someone, and you start to expect that other person to do the disappearing act, or give you the honest " I don't think this is gonna work" email. You wake up and say, today is the day this person will realize I am not good enough, or what ever fear you might have. When we do this do you feel it is setting our self up for a failure? An example of mine, I had started to see a woman, who was only willing to see me 2 times a week, Tuesday and Friday. After 2 weeks of dating her, I was always thinking, today is the day. Everyday she did not do it I was shocked. I am still here, so it did end, and it ended around the night I thought it might. So are all of us broken hearted people self destructing these relationships, or have we just gained a 6th sense?

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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What would you think ? Posted: 10/22/2008 12:07:39 PM
They said that in the spirit of helping a person who is wondering what to do in a sticky situation. Did you read the OP? Instead of sterotyping women, why not help a fellow human being? I sure did offer advice, I said to call him, did you only read the last line of the post? And that was 3 women, that said don't call, wait it out for him to call you. So it was an observation about women 3 in particular who are propagating these games that 90% of the people here say they are tired of.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Updated my profile Posted: 10/21/2008 2:01:17 PM
Its not that it gives the wrong idea, but you did bring it up. As a guy, once a woman says something... then guys see it as an open topic now. You might get an email saying, great butt! I would walk behind you everywhere we went! Crap like that.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Updated my profile Posted: 10/21/2008 1:48:35 PM
I am attractive, 5'7", 180, curvy and carry my weight well. The things men like the most about me are my legs and butt. You you be offended if my first email referred any of the above? If so it should be gone :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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So, im being honest and all that... Posted: 10/21/2008 1:46:44 PM
Erm, where to start?? Ok, well lets start with a dancing banana - I'm looking for a lovely girl, thats all! I'll give anyone a chance, and i'll speak to anyone, so please dont be shy and send a message! Im not all that outgoing, but im sure that would change ;) I really want to drive across europe at some point, hopefully next year. Fancy coming? I think a girl should be treated right and how she wants to be treated, if you love a person so much you'll do everything you can to make them happy! You should always be upfront & honest, and be her bestest best friend (at the very least!) Thats about it for now! Ask me anything! First Date Whatever the girl wanted to do, i really dont mind. Ideally something a bit different from the norm! New pics, tell about your interests, you left that whole section blank! Tell them how you would treat them right or remove it. I have a few examples in my profile. Come up with a good first date idea, you have already told all the women who look at you they have to make the choice. Women want you to make the effort for them, so make it something good!

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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What would you think ? Posted: 10/21/2008 12:31:00 PM
So much for women who do not play games! The top 3 said make him do it, ball is in his court. What if this guy is thinking the same thing about you? He is trying to get a feel of your interest in him by waiting... For the love of God don't wait around, just contact him, at least then you will know for sure if he is interested, but don't play the game!

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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help please need advice badly Posted: 10/20/2008 3:30:14 PM
Ya, you need to leave, get the kids and the dog and head out! If he is this bad now, Imagine how much worse it will be in the future. And to boot, if your daughter was in this situation, what would you hope she would do? Well, what ever you decide will teach her what she should do. Will you let your daughter grow up thinking marriage is supposed to be a loveless situation, or will she learn that IT IS OK TO LOOK OUT FOR YOURSELF and family and do whats right? I sure hope she learns to stand, there are enough poeople out there who think marriage is a loveless void, lets not add any more.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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untrue profiles Posted: 10/15/2008 4:46:13 PM
*Give me the Carmen Electra strip tease workout any day!* When can I bring this by? And would a camera be aloowed? Ok, seriously :) Here is the best example : Men see the color BLUE Women see the color Light blue, dark blue, navy blue, sky blue ect Men see a new born as tiny and unemployed Women see a gift from God Men see a 1960s Cheville and think, " I would give me left nut for that car" Woman see a 1960s Cheville and think " does that have auto windows?" Why is a picture worth a thousand words? Because everyone sees something different...

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Paid Dating Sites a Scam? Posted: 10/15/2008 4:35:32 PM
I have been on match for about 3 years now, a paying member, and I don't think it is a scam. I would say that there are people who post profiles who are scammers, but not the site or the hosts of the site in paticular. I will say from match, I have been fortunate enough to have a 5/10 return email avaerage, I have met many beautiful women that I have no business meeting. As far as the free sites, I have only met a handful. I do not believe that a good chunk of the women, at least on this site in my city / state take it seriously enough to make it worth my while. If I want to meet a woman, I would choose match, if I want to have fun on the forums, I choose here. also note, I have deleted 10,000 profiles from match, it maxes out here. That is all of the ones I have contacted with no response or women who have not been active in 3 weeks, I love that tool. I might go a bit over board when it comes to this online thing, but it has paid off for me. You will get out what you put in anywhere you go.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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untrue profiles Posted: 10/15/2008 4:15:47 PM
I would say that a good chunk of those profiles you say are untrue are probably true, in their eyes. I like to think I am an active guy... but if you take someone who is always on the go, never sitting at home to watch a movie or catch the news, I might look like I have lied when my idea of active is walking around the park for 6 miles and biking around 20 miles and home in time to catch smallville. Or If I think that I eat healthy, and run into a vegan, they will think I am not healthy at all. You have to look at it from the perspective of the person you are with, not only your own.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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What flirting experience did you have today? Posted: 10/10/2008 3:07:07 PM
I told a knock - knock joke to a woman over the phone :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Do you believe there is the one for you out there? Posted: 10/8/2008 12:20:36 PM
I personally wonder if the "one" for me is still alive! How many millions of people die in a single day? With my luck, she has checked out, lol. But on a serious note, you have to break a few eggs to make the omlette! Hang in there :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Has anyone here gone on 100 online dates? Posted: 9/22/2008 10:43:19 AM
I have gone on at least 80... but I stopped counting. Mostly from match though,. not from this site. I have also been doing this for close to 3 years, so I would hope I would get my monies worth! And with that, I think I might want to rethink my "guys should pay theory" LOL.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

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Can anyone offer some input on this? Posted: 9/22/2008 10:20:16 AM
The site is for singles... the emotionally unavailable singles. You will see that happen a lot more then you will want to. But, you will also see the ones that will only want to email for 2 months, then talk on the phone. you will find the ones that want to check your back ground and blood work. You will find the ones who posted 10 year old pics, show up and have an extra 100 lbs in the butt. You will also find the ones who give you the phone number after the 2nd email, others who want to meet the same day you start to email. You might even run into a few that want to have sex upon 5 min of meeting you... The problem with all the fish in the sea... too many species, very hard to find the trophy fish your looking for :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 32 (view)

Will I see her again? Posted: 9/4/2008 1:45:12 PM
Well, I did see her again! We went out for about 5 months, but when my job changed hours for the worse, and with her schooling, we had decided it was better to not see each other any more. We are still friends, txt, email, but we are no longer together. We would take her kids out to dinner, I would drive down to get her and bring her up to my house so she would not have to drive. They say timing is everything... well, it certainly has its place :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 26 (view)

little luck on this site Posted: 9/4/2008 12:24:51 PM
-Change user name, As a guy, I would avoid ANY woman that had anything like that as a name -Don't go into detail that you work at Wal-Mart as a stock boy -your min pic is ok now, lose the rest -don't write pity threads while looking for a date... you know girls who look at your profile -can see these threads you write... right?

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 735 (view)

would you date a stripper? Posted: 8/28/2008 2:56:26 PM
I would not, just because I went to school with a few and they had bad drug habits and poor money management. Of course this was my experience with them, she was a great friend though... when she was not asking me for money.

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

HOW LONG SHOULD YOU REALLY WAIT..??? Posted: 8/27/2008 3:20:16 PM
A recent study showed that as humans we should be able to get over any terrible tragedy in 10 weeks. Death of a spouse, child, divorce, anything... 10 weeks. Now, everyone deals with it differently, a therapist will tell a divorced person that 1 year from final paper signing. All this really tells us is that it is not a one size fits all type of situation. Matters of the heart are different for everyone, there is no right or wrong answer for you or for him. All you can do is be patient and wait for what ever good thing was meant to be for you. If you believe in fate, then this is how it was supposed to go... All you can do is learn, and apply the knowledge to the future And a little P.S., I hope Jenn that you did not think I meant you were bashing the guy, I was really talking about everyone else that said he was just using you. Having been in your situation, I know that is not true, sometimes trimming just sucks!

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

HOW LONG SHOULD YOU REALLY WAIT..??? Posted: 8/27/2008 1:46:28 PM
jenn_33 that is a pretty bad place to be. I had been dating a girl who told me about the 1 that got away, because he was not ready at the time either. She basically told me that when he was ready and made the call, she would go to him. So when I heard that, I took the choice to not invest much emotionally into the relationship. While this might be a great guy you have, make sure that if you move on, you do in fact move on. You might mess up something really good with another guy if your still waiting and hoping he will come back. I don't think it is fair to bash the guy over this. Some people deal with pain in different ways. You could scare the hell out of him, the way you make him feel, and he remembers what happened the last time he felt that way. Move on, but only when you feel ready to do so, don't rush it. "You can't hurry Love, you just have to wait, trust in the good times no matter how long it takes."

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

What do you think is the hardest part of dating? Posted: 8/26/2008 4:57:02 PM
For me, the hardest part of dating is having the same first conversation. After a while, you have said the same thing over and over again, and it can be hard to be excited to tell it. Any one with half a brain can tell when someone is not very excited about what they are talking about, and that can create the glass half empty vibe that people are not usually attracted to. I will say that being a guy, we have this impression that most woman will get 100 emails a day from other guys, now maybe some do, some don't. But as a guy, thinking we are going to be just another email that gets the ole unread/deleted status can make us try too hard at times. We want to stick out, after all we have 5ooo other guys we have to look better then. So for all you ladies out there, don't be afraid to write a guy, we figure you will never even read our message :)

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 9 (view)

To be or not to be... Posted: 8/18/2008 1:39:57 PM
Its not that you have to, but if a guy goes out with 10 women and 7 of them do it that way, he might just plan on all of them doing it that way. If thats the case, then you can blame that on your woman sisters... do you think us guys are smart enough to come up with that idea all on our own?

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 1 (view)

Ever notice.... Posted: 8/15/2008 2:29:25 PM
Have you ever noticed, when you go to the mall to buy clothes, and when in the pants section... they put the pants in order of size. Starting on the top with the shorter pants working down to the bottom and the taller sizes.... Are you with me here? The short guys need a stepping stool to get to the pants, and the tall guys have to get on all fours to find the tall ones!

qu1nn

Joined: 7/16/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

first date dinner: siting in front or next to each other? Posted: 8/14/2008 6:34:02 PM
I must be crazy! I ALWAYS sit next to the woman on a date, 1st date or 10th date. For every one who says you can't talk, what about being in a crowded place, I sure can't hear a word she is saying. I do not find it difficult to talk, and oddly enough, I can still look her in the eye. Its not awkward, its not uncomfortable, unless you make it that way... but what the hell do I know, I'm still single, lol. Oh wait, so are the ones who voted the other way...

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