I have learned that there are a lot--a LOT--of really bitter, nasty-tempered women on this dating site!

If a man can't pick up the phone and call to ask me out THE FIRST TIME or at least to hear my voice before we go out..then he isn't really going to put up enough effort, in my opinion.

Texting is good for after you are dating or at least after the initial contact off of this sight, but I'd prefer a phone call.

Gotta agree with those who said you waited too long. I gave someone my number on Saturday afternoon after we'd been chatting for a few days and things were moving smoothly and seemingly in the right direction. He said he'd call or text me that night ... he didn't email me again after that, and I assumed that's because he was going to be calling me ... I finally got a text from him LAST NIGHT at 9:40pm, "Hey what's up, it's _____, how was your day?" ... mmm, yeah, F-you, buddy.

I didn't give him my number for him to play the 3-day-rule card on me ... I've totally lost interest in him, and my bet is if you waited a day, so did she. Happens quick these days ... sh1t or get off the pot is my thinking. When I give you my number, that means I'd like to hear from you within the day at the longest. Someone who's interested in me is going to call within the hour if he's smart.

I for one say it would! I still feel 16 in my head! Oh well....the only problem with dating younger men, is, that one day, they will want to marry and have children, and us older women, most likely, physically won't be able to, the oven turned off by itself, you know. Plus, we have been through the child-bearing and raising years, and may not even want to do that again even through adoption...tough call...both parties have to face that one head on and see if they both agree.

Simple, if you feel confident in who you are then there is no reason to lie about your age.

I always lie about my age, my income, and anything else that I feel SHOULDN'T matter to you when we are dating. Women lie about everything. The honesty they claim they want is only a one way street if at all. You be honest and she lies her butt off so she gets the upper hand. When in Rome do as the friggin Romans do!

Hear's my question; If all you truly great looking gals out there are looking for all that you state on your profile... then on top of that ,ask that we not want sex, what makes you think we want someone our own age???? If we are all that you want, we can go after someone young...

Secondly, I think most people (again this is MY opinion) on dating sites are just full of it. Very few are serious about finding a long term, stable relationship – many are just looking to either hook up or date around. You can disagree, that’s fine, and I’m not claiming that I am right – I’m just pouring out my opinion based on my experiences. Men will claim they’re looking for an LTR because anything otherwise leads her to believe he’s a player or just looking to get laid. Women will claim they too are looking for an LTR so that don’t appear ‘easy’ or just out for the same thing. Even though the reality is, both are just looking for something superficial.

Even more, you have the people who are constantly looking to trade up – this is probably the most common type of all. They’ll talk to YOU, until someone they think is better looking comes along – then they’ll send you an email now and then to keep you on the hook just in case the one they really want turns them away.

I have had the younger guys tell me the exact same reasons why they like older women....not as much drama as with girls their age.


this is kinda funny to me....considering that most "older" guys like to date younger women cause they dont want to deal with women their age that are bitter and man haters for choosing bad men to have kids with ....

I was 36 last year and dated a 25 year old. She was pretty mature for her age, had her crap together. We eventually fizzled out. One thing I did notice is that she wasnt bitter towards men. She didnt blame men for everything she has went through.

I get lots of younger men interested in me- and those young guys look sooo good. Men my age- I get lots interested in me. But I'm not interested in them. I'm also active, training for a triathlon and really not interested in a man that can't keep up with me. But what I have learned is not to write to the men. They never respond. It's strange. Most on the forums say they'd welcome it- but in the time I've been here, getting a response is rare. So now I just let them write to me. But more importantly, I just don't take this stuff seriously anymore. I am looking for friends, like the forums, men write. And I just coast along. So I think just relaxing about it all usually works. And btw- not many athletic men our age out there. The women are fantastic- it's the men who have let themselves go.

you need to move to california, san diego, there are tons of older men (50-60) who are extremely fit. old surfers who still get up at dawn to catch a wave. i moved here from south carolina and louisiana and i have never seen such fitness minded people in my life. i guess it is the beautiful weather and water and such.

and they are not all looking for youngsters. i am dating someone my age now and have dated a few others in this age bracket.

Phillyphil..you say a 55 year old woman is too old to be chasing a 22 year old..I agree, but what about the many 55 year old men who chase 22 year olds? Do you think they are too old?


delusional, if he thinks he can have a longterm relationship with someone that age. how can two people possibly have enough in common being 3 decades apart in age, to possibly carry a relationship unless their is some agenda or incentive involved.