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TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 58 (view)

Differences in what men and women look for.... Posted: 3/21/2009 10:10:08 AM
OP I believe you have a point. But keep in mind, this list will change fdaily. At time SEX may not be the priority based on some other important thing going on in arelationship. Hopefully they balance out. I like chatiing more than the other things. While I do enjoy them, it is stil NOT always my priority. Cleaning the house is not a real thought for me. generally I keep a fairly clean home. Obviously, if company is coming I step it up a knotch, haha. Each day she is with me satisfy that thought. No need to wonder about tomorrow. I do not wnather wondering If I will be ther efor her, so it is fair that I do not leave her with any concerns along that line. Companionship was mentioned above and that IMHHO covers all six "desires" you mentioned. I do not put a lot of stock in "chemistry" because it is so misleading. You see a sexy man/woman and think they can "deliver" and find out they can't. Or you put more stock into looks more than other ATTRIBUTES. As soon as the "looks" are gone, or the sex is not as good today as yesterday, then what is chemistry called.....??? Just my .02 cents worth. Mattlock

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 26 (view)

WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF......... ?? Posted: 3/15/2009 6:08:30 AM
I'd know how good I was, hahaha. If she lets one loose, that tells me my skills still work. Hell, I have been know to make them rip off more than once. It is indicative of how great a "CONSUMER I AM". I usually bring a bib anyways, hahahahaha

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 67 (view)

Are most guys only into one night stands? Posted: 3/15/2009 6:03:01 AM
Great post. And teh reply about communications is spot on. I have met a few ladies in my travels as well. One thing I found out wa sthatIF you really listen to a woman you can tell wht type of relationship you will get. A very close and sexy lady spoke to me about why do men try by the third date to have sex. I told her it was not the call of all men. especially me since, I am really into dating and NOt into sex for the sake of committment. Sex is great WITH committmen but not FOR committement. We ll the first date went fine. The second wasbetter. I was a true gentleman. The third date was better and we expressed what we wanted in a relationship. Even the fact I was NOT looking long term but would not shut out the possibility went over well. But guess what, even though I made no move for sex, she did. I ain't no punk but nor am I a prude. I asked the questions all men should ask if sex is asked of them. Are you sure WE want to go this route. Remind her that although she is nice, sexy, and you want to continue with dating, the ORIGINAL undersatnding is still on the table. Sometimes we do get caught up in the moment, but that is no reason to throw caution to the wind. If you two agree it is okay, then go for it. But men, if you see any flags (drunk, mad at something, crying, and so on) pass it up. But again, communications now will make it a hell of a lot easier if later she/he wants to spout the rhetoric that preceed a breakup. Just my .02 cents worth

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 54 (view)

Long first meetings Posted: 3/6/2009 8:38:03 AM
I agree. Usually I set a time limit for the first date. I may NOT tell her nor will I look at the proverbial "clock." But as we appraoch what I deem reasonable, I will start to close out the evening. Often people do not know how to end a 1st Date so they will "put up" with the time. So as a gentleman, I close it out and express whether I'd like to see/her from her again or not. I do however, call ONCE. after that, it is left totally up to the lady to accept another date or not. Nothing more miserable than a MAN asking twice for the same thing, hahaha Thanks

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 90 (view)

What do you bring to the table!! Posted: 3/5/2009 5:35:07 PM
Those are my exact words. I see profiles where women ask that a man be honest, have a sense of humor, and all those other traits. I always read what it is THEY want. Men are the same ladies. When it get down to it, women are looking for Denzell/Tom and men are loooking for Halle/Princess Di. There is NOTHING wrong with that UNTIL those seeking are NOT bringing the same to the table. If you seek a Tom, you better be a Princess Di or Halle. Too often I read profiles and after a few messages, I sense something is amiss. Why NOT call it like it is and let the chips fall where they may. Too man hurt women on line who want to blame the "Next" man for what happened with the "last" man. You want a rich man...be rich. You want a doctor, be a doctor. You want ...well you get my drift. I have seenwomen here who are damaged goods, got tehkids but no support. First off MEN. please stop that. My mom was a single parent as well. So I know the "fun" of doing without. So please do not hate on this but if you seek a man with integrity, please have that. If you seek a man with money...please have that. If you seek a man with honor...please have that. Thanks

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 7 (view)

Dees Dances Posted: 10/28/2008 7:51:35 PM
I have gone there and it is a nice place to chat and dance. A few of my male friends liked it as well. They travel to Masonic Lodge, Trolley Sq, Culture Center, Salt lake Community Center, Wheeler Farm, and down in Linden (Noah's). It starts at 0930 until 12:30. R.

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 230 (view)

Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 10/3/2008 8:58:39 AM
I don't care for them myself. I think if a woman wants to and the hygene, and other areas are handled go for it. But to me, It is NOT one of my favorite "to dos." I am sensitive to the fact a lot of ladies do notwant todo it, so I put it up front, it is off the table. Then if she wants to (over time) we can discuss it but my relationship with her will NOT be based on sex or the need to "show" how much she cares. My .2 cents worth Kntrlme

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 11 (view)

Grooming Posted: 3/24/2007 3:12:57 PM
You are daying guys not men

TSOmattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 36 (view)

Ex wants to stay friends and do everything as before, what is she saying? Posted: 2/22/2007 7:36:11 PM
Truer words have seldon been spoke. If she wants to be that friend she has to be that friend. No cutting corners getting and not giving. You got to play your position to be in the game. F.

TSOmattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 35 (view)

Ex wants to stay friends and do everything as before, what is she saying? Posted: 2/22/2007 7:33:55 PM
That may be true but she is into herself. Cut the cord of she will not do what friends do. There is no such thing as a free ride Cash, grass or As_ No body rides for free. F.

TSOmattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 34 (view)

Ex wants to stay friends and do everything as before, what is she saying? Posted: 2/22/2007 7:32:11 PM
Sure you can be friends. wait til you tell her she is to split the bills as friends do. She'll either not want to do those things or come on board. I thinks it's great to be friends after lovers, If you did it right in the beginning you were friends first. So no issue with stepping abck a few, But remember, friends carry their weight as well. F.

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 23 (view)

TSOMattlock here. Posted: 11/21/2005 6:32:05 PM
Just wanted to say hi and introduce myself. just moved here from CO. like this site. see some real people here. hope it remains that way. searching for dates right now until I get my feet settled into the dos don'ts and wills and won'ts, smile

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 383 (view)

Class action against Yahoo Personals and Match.com for fraud Posted: 11/21/2005 6:21:20 PM
I tend to agree. My brother and I used to just have profiles but not paying. i got many winks and messages. it seemed when i joined the winks stoppd and so did the new profile matches. what we did was i joined Match and he did not. Everytime a new match came up he wrote them using my email. it worked for him. then I stopped and he became a paying memeber. I got lucky but his new matches again dried up. We tried this three times and got lucky then. most of the non luckt times I had to join to send a pic and the people never ever wrote back. I cheated again and used my brother's log on. i had better chats and email until I actually became a paid memeber.

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

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At what point do you say there won't be a second date? Posted: 10/11/2005 5:15:46 PM
It is different for a man than awoman. Men should at least offer to return the lady back to where he picked her up. After that, make no promises for a second date. Women should let the man know she wishes leave. hopefully he will be that gentleman and just take her home. a man will know if she is not interested but she can still say "at the curb" thanks but no thanks in a gentle way. TSOMattlock

TSOMattlock

Joined: 9/16/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

Just a fun guy looking for fun things to do in Utah Posted: 10/1/2005 7:19:33 AM
Withh all this free forum why oh why are there no seriously fun people here more often. Parties, outings, meets, dinner, and stuff like that in mature safe settings should always be the call of the day. People interested in seeting up public meetings dances, parties, etc. should meet here and discuss

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