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Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Cheating- can you forgive? Posted: 11/19/2008 4:50:59 PM
Depending on the extent of the situation, I probably would be able to forgive (eventually), but I definitely wouldn't be able to forget. This is a 'no second chances' situation. Cheating destroys any level of trust you have between you and your partner. You'll always be left wondering about the possibility that they'll cheat again... it'll make you insecure and question the strength of your bond, and no relationship is worth that amount of stress.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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They say breakfast is the most important meal of the day... do you agree... what did you have today? Posted: 11/3/2008 4:52:28 PM
I not much of a morning person, so I usually end up running late for work/school which causes me to skip breakfast (which I know isn't good). But when I do have time, I usually just have a hard-boiled egg with toast or make myself a nice strawberry-mango smoothie (w/ yogurt, milk, fruits, honey and protein powder).

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Does anyone think that reality T.V. is killing T.V. all together? Posted: 11/1/2008 8:56:21 PM
I would have to agree that reality TV has become a big player in the downfall of television. Shows like Survivor and Real World which were largely responsible for the "reality TV" genre going mainstream in this day and age, has been greatly saturated over recent years. I mean, do we really need ten different versions of the same reality show (e.g. America's Next Top Model vs. Glam God vs. Stylista vs. Make Me a Model... or The Bachelor vs. Flavor of Love vs. Tila Tequila vs. Rock of Love etc)? These "reality" shows aren't even real any more... the majority of them are heavily scripted/directed for the sole purpose of getting ratings by all the fictional drama that ensues. It's voyeuristic in a sense and quite ridiculous. Although I do admit to watching a few reality shows (e.g. The Amazing Race), I hate flipping the channels and not seeing as many authentically scripted television shows with real actors. Reality TV is definitely catering to the youth market and the production value is much lower than its counterparts, which is why I think the presence of shows like these are rising.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Remakes... Posted: 10/27/2008 8:13:22 PM
For sure I have to go with Whitney Houston's version of "I Will Always Love You" over the Dolly Parton original. Donna Summer's "McArthur Park" over Richard Harris' original. "Tainted Love" by Soft Cell over Gloria Jones' version. I love the latest remake of "She's Like The Wind" by Lumidee and Tony Sunshine. It's a toss up between The Fugees and Roberta Flack's "Killing Me Softly" though...

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Do you believe there is the one for you out there? Posted: 10/25/2008 8:09:24 PM
I would deem myself a believer in the notion that there is someone out there for everyone. Alas, these things take time (it feels like I've been waiting for eons ) and a knowledge that you most likely have to go through a bunch of 'bad apples' before you find the one that's good for you. Pain is often part of the process, but it's only by experiencing the bad that you can really appreciate the good when it comes along. Be patient and try not to stress out about finding 'the one' too much... they'll come along when you least expect it.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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What adds flavor to Chicken & Rice? Posted: 10/18/2008 9:30:36 PM
For plain rice I usually just add a bouillon cube (vegetable flavour), add some frozen peas/carrot mix, and some Club House seasoning (mixture of dried veggies, garlic and salt). Adding some diced tomatoes also does the trick as well. Depending on the type of chicken I'm making, I usually make rice & peas: Just add a can of kidney beans or pigeon peas to the boiling water, along with some coconut milk, garlic, salt and onions. Comes out delicious!

chee-tara

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Favourite Quotations Posted: 10/18/2008 4:05:54 PM
"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall." - Confucius "Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination, full of Hope" - Maya Angelou "Live as if your were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever." - Mahatma Gandhi

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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What kind of love is this? Posted: 10/15/2008 4:22:48 PM
You definitely need to get a straight answer from him. You said you 'gathered from the little things he's said' that he's not sleeping with anyone else but you, but have you two actually had the conversation of exclusivity and stated that neither of you would sleep with anyone else while you're "together"? The only person who knows the exact way he loves you is him. Sure it could be just a comfort thing that he enjoys spending time with you and loves you 'as a friend', but he could also just be afraid of committing himself to you officially for risk of losing you from his life (or just not see you in that light at all). You two need to put all your cards on the table and let each other know how you feel and where you see this relationship heading, or someone's going to wind up hurt. Usually the people who play the 'friends with benefits' card just want an excuse to be safe in the "relationship" (e.g. can it really be called cheating if you guys see other people or sleep around? Does jealously rear it's ugly head when either of you talk to someone of the opposite sex?). If you two are exhibiting all the signs of being an actual couple (with the exception of the 'boyfriend/girlfriend' label), you need to ask yourself why that is, and what's making him choose to view you as just a friend, rather than as a girlfriend (esp. if you two are sleeping together). It's almost as if they want to have their cake and eat it too... Bottom line: Be honest with each other about your feelings and there shouldn't be any misconceptions.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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saving money at the grocery store Posted: 10/15/2008 3:50:33 PM
* Never grocery shop when you're hungry. I've made this mistake several times and wound up purchasing food I didn't really need, but wanted because I was craving it at the time. * Shop in bulk when you can. Buy large portions/family packs of items such as meat, chicken, rice or flour. It'll cost you less in the long-run, and if properly wrapped the meat stays for up to 6 months in the freezer after you portion it up. Be careful not to over-purchase though--some food (like fresh fruit and veggies) can go stale pretty quickly. * Keep your eye on the aisles: There's usually product coupons on promotional stands inside major grocery stores. The last one I got even had a recipe booklet attached and coupons saving up to $10 on merchandise. There's also sites that you can sign up with in order to have coupons mailed promptly to you (here in Canada there's save.ca). * Review grocery store flyers for sale items. They're usually delivered the day before the sale starts, so you'll have time to make a proper list and see which store has the better deal. * Don't be afraid to do some work. Instead of buying that package of boneless, skinless chicken breasts that's already pre-packaged and cut into strips, get the bone-in chicken breast and de-bone it and slice it yourself. Sure it'll take some extra time, but it'll save you some cash. * Opt to purchase the no-name or store brand of a certain product most of the time. Sure, sometimes there are obvious differences in terms of quality, but this isn't always the case with some items (like flour, dried pasta or frozen veggies). * Try your best to cook from scratch. It may be hard at times, esp. if you don't have a lot of extra time on your hands, but buying all those pre-made dinners (e.g. Skillet Sensations, TV Dinners). It'll cost you a lot less, and you can make more dinners out of the basic staples you've bought.

Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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The one thing you miss most when you are single Posted: 10/7/2008 8:15:05 PM
Love: Just having someone in your life that cares about you (and vise-versa) in the romantic sense, and the emotional bond that shared and blossomed through intimacy is quite the feeling to live without.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Curse of the Reappearing Ex Posted: 10/7/2008 6:47:46 PM
You need to forget about this guy. He made you feel like crap and has been playing games, so he doesn't even need to be on the back burner. People can treat others carelessly sometimes, and don't seem to feel the need to be empathetic at all to the person they are with. Get him out of your mind completely. Once you do that, you can focus on things that make you happy... then hopefully someone deserving can come into your life. I know this may be difficult since you devoted a large chunk of your time to him, but you can do better. There are plenty of fish in the sea (pun intended).

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Call Me Posted: 10/7/2008 6:35:56 PM
That does seem odd... why would someone you never had any contact with feel safe with just handing out their cell number? Esp. in this day and age? Makes you wonder how many other girls he's given his digits to on first contact. I had some guy "in real life" randomly come up to me, hold out his cell phone and said, "Gimme ya number". Regretfully I had to decline...

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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What to do with strawberries Posted: 10/7/2008 6:21:51 PM
You can always freeze them and just use them frozen in a blender with some yogurt/milk and make some strawberry smoothies. Or make some chocolate fondue and pair it with them... mmm... chocolate-covered strawberries!

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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The 'go to' piece of clothing Posted: 10/5/2008 12:34:52 PM
It all depends on where I'm going for the first date (I would like it to be as casual as possible though, that way I'll have an excuse to go shopping later on if we hit it off :D ). A nice pair of well-fitted, dark denim jeans never seems to go wrong, since I can always dress it up, or dress it down depending on the top I'm wearing.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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What is the difference maker for you with profiles? Posted: 10/1/2008 9:25:29 PM
A great profile (meaning proper formatting, excellent spelling & grammar, witty and brings out good aspects of his personality) is definitely a winner in my books over looks. To know that they spent the time and took care to write a good profile (amidst the tendency to use text-speak, slang and be sloppy with the keyboard) says a lot. To be completely honest though, having looks and a great profile wouldn't hurt . Looks is ultimately just the icing on the cake, though. Those short, cookie-cutter profiles don't really do it for me (even if it had a hot pic attached). Geez... all this talk about baked goods is making me feel rather famished...

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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George Foreman knows his stuff. Posted: 10/1/2008 8:33:21 PM
I was thinking about getting the Foreman Grill but I opted to get the Hamilton Beach Indoor Grill instead (basically the same thing, but I got this one on sale... ). I love the fact that it it has removable plates (plus a flat one for making things like pancakes), so it's easy to clean up. I usually use it for things like grilling chicken breast, skewers, or steak. Best of all, it's makes dinner quick and easy.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Inventions you'd like to see! Posted: 9/29/2008 5:14:44 PM
A food replicator. Of course that would take the joy out of cooking all those fancy meals, but sometimes it's too much of a hassle.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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why do people cheat? Posted: 9/29/2008 4:41:51 PM
Sometimes I don't understand why people cheat either. If you're unhappy in your current relationship then leave. What's the point in sneaking around and risking hurting your partner? And usually the reason for cheating is a lot more than just sex... obviously there has to be deeper issues in the relationship that would cause a person to become unfaithful and lie to someone that they claim to care about. That is why honest communication is so important. One excuse that really irks me is, "It just happened"... that's such a cop-out line. Cheating is never an "accident". There has to be something in a person mind that clicks and let them know, hey, what I'm thinking about doing isn't right. To go through with cheating is the coward's way out and just prove that they're not willing enough to either work on the relationship to make it better for them, or lay it to rest by admitting openly to their S.O. that there's something wrong with it and that it needs to end. It all comes down to honesty, trust and respect. If a couple was always honest with one another about themselves and their feelings and truly loved each other, there would be no reason to cheat. In regards to the OP's friend who's boyfriend wasn't giving her what she wanted, the simple solution is leave the relationship officially and find someone who does, instead of sneaking around and risking further disaster.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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I have a friend who says people on dating sites have something to hide... Posted: 9/29/2008 4:08:32 PM
Just as many people in the 'real world' have something to hide, as people who favour online dating. It's not like there's two different types of people who choose to use a dating site as a means of meeting new people vs. those who do it the traditional way. It's just another avenue (probably even more effective than outside of the net, b/c of the sheer number of people involved, and less of a hassle) to search for a potential mate.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Heroes premiere: did anyone watch it? Posted: 9/23/2008 9:31:55 PM
I watched it (one of my favourite shows)! It was definitely worth the wait after it's super-long hiatus since last season was cut short by the writer's strike. Although I enjoyed the episode, I found I was left with a lot for questions than I had from last season's finale. At least this will make for a good season. Best part was when Matt thought he could hear the turtle's thoughts. :D

chee-tara

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Guacamole recipes? Posted: 9/23/2008 4:31:35 PM
Here's the recipe I usually use when I make guacamole at home: 3 ripe avocados (peeled, pitted and diced) 2 tablespoons lemon juice 1 clove garlic (crushed) 1 small roma tomato OR 1/2 regular tomato (chopped) 1/4 (about 3 tablespoons) of a sweet onion (finely chopped) salt and pepper to taste a few drops hot sauce (optional) 1 tablespoon chopped cilantro (optional) 1. Place the diced avocados into a medium mixing bowl. Add the lemon juice and garlic and mash the mixture with a fork or potato masher. 2. Add the chopped onion and tomato. If you want a smoother guacamole, you can choose to blend the tomato before adding it to the avocado mixture. 3. Continue mashing the mixture, adding some salt, pepper, cilantro and hot sauce until the desired taste and consistency is reached. 4. If desired, cover with plastic wrap and chill for about 45 minutes before eating.

chee-tara

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for the ladies....can you TRULY say money ain't a factor? Posted: 9/23/2008 4:20:32 PM
There's a lot of factors involved when it comes to money and relationships. I know that I can support myself (as well as my shopping habits ), without having to rely on any man. Sure it would be nice if someone splurged on me every once in a while, but just because a guy has a lot of money, doesn't mean that I'd choose him automatically over someone who's working minimum wage. As long as a man is responsible with money, ambitious and driven to better himself and his career in the future, and doesn't expect me to support him financially 100% (since he should be able to support himself), I'm good. Of course once things like marriage, starting a family, or buying a place together comes to the table, money does take on a greater role in the relationship. It would be optimal if both parties contributed equally (not always financially speaking) for the sake of the family and relationship as a whole, otherwise some other problems (stress, guilt, feeling used) might occur.

Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Birthday e-card websites that don't spam you? Posted: 9/22/2008 4:04:10 PM
Hallmark (hallmark.com) has some really nice greeting cards (still and animated), and there's no spamming. All you have to do is log in, and they even have a nice database where you can keep track of all your friend's info, and then send out ecards on the specific dates automatically.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Dumped mid date!! Posted: 9/22/2008 2:54:53 PM
You totally did the right thing by leaving, then by telling him off afterwards. Personally I wouldn't give him another chance. It was extremely rude of him to leave you at the table by yourself, while you're supposed to be on a 'date', and go chatting off with some other girl (regardless of it was a guy or girl, it was still not proper etiquette... he should have at least introduce you, even if it was brief). If he was truly a "nice" guy, he wouldn't have done that to begin with.

chee-tara

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If you're single and not dating, what's your reason? Posted: 9/22/2008 2:47:35 PM
As ironic as it may seem for me to be both single and not dating and on a dating site, I think it's because I'm holding out for Mr. Right, instead of Mr. Right Now. It's too often that it seems like men are only after one thing, so I guess I'm taking a passive approach so I can steer clear of it do avoid the drama. When it comes down to it though, it's hard for me to find a decent guy that I'd be willing to date, and have it fit into my busy work/school schedule.

chee-tara

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How do you approach a woman to engage in conversation without her thinking you are a creep? Posted: 9/21/2008 3:23:58 PM
Posted by Robsia: It's also important how you handle rejection. A gentleman will, on being rejected, smile genuinely and wish the lady a good evening. If her behaviour is less than courteous, that does not mean yours should not be. Excellent advice. Too often men show their true colours and end up being extremely rude to women, even if the rejection was a 'polite' one. It's always important to go about these approaches with little to no expectations, at least that way you'll be in for a pleasant surprise if you do come out of it with a number... and on the other hand had nothing to lose if it didn't go the way that you wanted.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Why do women think..... Posted: 9/21/2008 3:09:31 PM
There's nothing wrong with a man falling deep in love with a woman. Both men and women can fall in love with an equal intensity. It's just that society sees it that it's only females that should be emotional creatures, so when men do show all the aspects of being in love, for some women it's hard not to question it or see it as sincere.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Photoshop BKG removal Posted: 9/18/2008 7:24:49 PM
You can also use the pen tool to trace the image you want to extract more precisely. When you have the selection area you want add a layer mask (much better to use than the eraser tool, because you can always backtrack easily if you make mistakes, since the original image will always be there). Then you can touch up any areas with the brush tool with minimal hardness on the mask layer.

Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Exercises you like vs. Exercises you dis-like Posted: 9/18/2008 3:59:19 PM
Likes: Sit-ups, lunges, squats, push-ups, jump rope (not too many though ) Dislikes: Sprawls, pull-ups, burpees

Chee-tara

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Single and getting too used to it? Posted: 9/18/2008 3:47:45 PM
For years I was very used to being single (and I'm talking about no dating whatsoever). I'm a very independent person and I was comfortable with it for the most part, but even though I had my friends there were still instances where I felt the pang of loneliness seep to the surface every now and then. For some people, I think that the longer you're single, the more trouble you'll have dealing with you're own loneliness, your own fear of rejection, and your own inadequacies as why you haven't found a mate. You start to second guess yourself, and thus be less open when you do find someone who has the potential to make you really happy. As freeing as the single status is, it's given me time to search myself and realize that I'm going to have to take some chances, forget about all the fairy tales, acknowledge that I need a certain type of love in order to be truly happy, otherwise I'm going to end up a spinster for the rest of my life.

Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Dating for a year but I've never been to his/her place. Posted: 9/18/2008 3:06:33 PM
If you've been seeing someone for the better part of a year and you've never been to his place and he always makes excuses, then there's definitely something he's not telling you about. The most obvious reason for me would be that he's living with someone of the opposite sex... at least that was the case in my similar situation. Whenever I would drop him off or pick him up he always wanted it to be at the intersection. Trust that women's intuition of yours. If you don't get a straight answer, then he clearly doesn't care about you enough to tell you the truth.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Long profiles Posted: 9/17/2008 9:51:34 PM
Long profiles are perfectly fine for me, just as long as they are properly formatted (paragraph spacing is soooo important). I usually skim them if they're really long, then if anything catches my eye I'll re-read the whole thing. Long profiles are 1000x better than those "U want 2 know jus ask" short ones...

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Do most people still turn their noses up at the idea of meeting someone online ? Posted: 9/17/2008 9:34:22 PM
Initially I thought most of the people I knew believed that there was a stigma attached to resorting to online dating to find a mate. But when the topic did come up, I realized that I wasn't the only person in my circle of friends that had a profile up at one time or another. Come to think of it, I've met a good chunk of my close friends (both male and female) from the internet. So personally, it doesn't shame me to say that I met someone 'online' (except of course I'm telling my mother who still doesn't know how to send an email ... I just tell her I met them at 'school' ) There's a bigger pool to draw from when it comes to online dating, vs. meeting people in traditional social settings. And for some, they're more comfortable doing it that way. Some people are still afraid to come right out and say they met their S.O. on a dating site, even though social networking has almost become mainstream. Ultimately, as the years go on people are leading more busy lives, and an online dating service is perhaps the most practical way to initiate contact with a potential love interest.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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any ideas to spice up oatmeal? Posted: 9/16/2008 9:12:33 PM
I add brown sugar, cinnamon and sometimes diced apples to my oatmeal in the morning (with milk of course). Or I just do it the other way around (sliced apples, then crumble a mixture of Quaker Oats, butter, cinnamon and brown sugar on top), bake it in the oven and make a tasty dessert!

Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Whats the best way to approach a girl in a club or bar? Posted: 9/16/2008 6:05:46 PM
Eye contact is very important... at least that way you can gauge whether they might be remotely interested or not (e.g. if she returns your gaze more than once). A simple smile and hello is always good for starters. You can ask how her night is going or something simple like that to ease up the pressure on both parties. A drink sometimes work, but some girls are wary of that these days. Plus you need to know that buying a girl a drink does not automatically make talking to you a requirement. Be patient and assess the situation before purchasing. Don't try to immediately pull her away from her girlfriends (if she's with a bunch of them), or you'll suffer the wrath of the 'mother hen'. If anything try to interact with them all at first and be polite. If you're dancing in a club and a reggae song comes on, don't think that the best way to initiate contact with a girl is to sneak up behind her and start grindin' (esp. if you're... really ahem aroused )... plus she would have no idea what you look like.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Photoshop question Posted: 9/14/2008 3:25:47 PM
It's difficult to get high-resolution or increase pixel count seamlessly from an image that has been scanned in with a low-resolution. What you can try to do is resample the image and have Photoshop try to fill in the missing pieces of pixel info by editing properties in the Image Size menu. IMAGE > IMAGE SIZE > increase the resolution (under 'document size') to 300px/inch for example, make sure the 'resample image' checkbox is ticked off, and under the drop down menu select 'Bicubic Smoother'. Then you can fool around with filter settings to make it sharper if need be. Hope that helps!

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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Strange foods you have eaten, and did you like them? Posted: 9/13/2008 6:10:03 PM
Alligator - I wanted to try something new at the local grill house. Came seasoned and grilled on a skewer with a side of Cajun sauce... quite tasty!

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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how many trekkies hate enterprise? Posted: 9/11/2008 7:36:43 PM
I didn't like it at all. Watched a couple episodes, but I never really got into it like I did with the other series (perhaps it was that damn theme song... ). I think they tried too hard (and perhaps too quickly after DS9) when they came up with the idea of having a prequel to the original series, even though they tried their best to compensate for all the multi-coloured, blinking jelly beans... TNG will always be my fav. :)

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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First Date Pet Peeves Posted: 9/11/2008 7:25:52 PM
- Being rude to wait staff - Having his cell phone on 'ringer' and answering it during the date (or texting) - Trying to cop a feel of my 'danger zones' - Asking too many sexual questions - Smoking like a chimney - Bad hygiene/dressed like a bum - Evasive when asked questions about himself

chee-tara

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what makes you lose respect for your partner? Posted: 9/11/2008 7:03:53 PM
The number one thing that makes me lose respect for a partner is dishonesty--lying about anything is a big no-no in my books (if there's a lack of trust in the relationship, you're better off without one). Lack of empathy, selfishness, close-mindedness, rudeness, and a complete lack of ambition are also on my list.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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How did you learn to cook? Posted: 9/10/2008 6:55:18 PM
I learned to cook from my mom... at least for all of the family/cultural meals. My first 'official' attempt at cooking was when I was about 7... tried to cook rice, but didn't know that it expanded so much after boiling so I ended up with twice as much. Everything else I learned on my own. I love watching The Food Network (Iron Chef, Jamie Oliver, Rachel Ray, Nigella), so I pick up a lot of recipes from those types of shows. I own so many cookbooks that I'm running out of space on my bookshelf, but trying out different recipes, tweaking them and making them my own has always been something that I like to do.

Chee-tara

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How would sudden wealth change your dating style. Posted: 9/9/2008 8:35:44 PM
If I had a bank account the size of Bill Gates' my dating life would probably remain the way it is (not very active ). I would probably have more opportunity to meet potential 'mates' since I'd now how the time and money to entertain myself as I wish (not that I'd be ritzing it all up at red carpets, cliquey golf clubs and VIP lounges ), but as for a change in dating style or practices? Not much change I estimate. If anything I would become more wary of who I choose to spend my time with, wonder if they'd be hanging out with me for me or the money. But if I were to meet someone for the first time that I would be interested in, I'm not going to come right out and say, "Just to be honest with you, I have oodles of money. Do you want to go out Friday night?" I would rather not flaunt that information until it actually comes up in a serious conversation further on down the line (or if he ends up seeing my multi-million dollar mansion).

Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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is sending flowers too old fashioned? Posted: 9/9/2008 8:12:45 PM
I don't see it as old-fashioned... and if it is, then more men need to be doing it. :P I love the idea of receiving flower(s) if I'm in some type of relationship, probably because the gesture is unexpected in this day and age. Having the door held open for me is also nice, but I won't complain if I have to do it myself.

Chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

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what oil to use for deep fryers? Posted: 9/9/2008 8:01:46 PM
I heard canola oil is one of the healthiest to use when cooking (low in saturated fat and has lots of good omega-3). I mainly use extra-virgin olive oil when I'm sautéing or stir-frying on the stove-top, but when I'm making use of my deep fryer (e.g. for potato wedges or chicken wings), I opt for canola oil. Canola oil has a higher smoke point than it's counterparts (e.g. olive oil). Plus it's less expensive. You also need to be careful not to overcrowd the basket when you're deep-frying b/c that will have a negative effect on the food (won't cook as evenly), and safely discard after use.

chee-tara

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Msg: 95 (view)

Where has all the romance gone?? Posted: 8/29/2008 10:31:21 PM
We live in a technologically-driven world where everything is fast-paced... 'relationships' as it seems have become no different. It's sad really when it looks like all the steps have been removed from introduction to copulation, but then again times change. People want different things (and quickly). I for one think romance is a plus in any potential relationship, and it should work both ways. It's "the little things" that really should count for something, and everything should move at a decent speed. :)

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

Msg: 73 (view)

Do you ever get use to being single? Posted: 8/29/2008 10:19:39 PM
I think I've gotten used to being single, but the real question is whether one can be happy and single. There are pros and cons to both sides... sure the freedom of not being attached to anyone, the low chances of getting your feelings hurt, or avoiding a potentially disastrous relationship may be alluring to an extent. But on the other hand, if one is single for a long time and 'get used to it', their solitary state may get the best of them and loneliness will take effect. And if you're walking around town with a melancholy demeanor because of your single status, potential mates might not see you in the positive light that's really there and one might end up losing out on something good. It's very difficult to feel that you're missing something in your life, and sometimes the search for the 'perfect mate' may seem to be more trouble than it's worth and you end up giving up and succumbing to your own emotions. It can be hard to break free, but the key is to be comfortable with yourself first and foremost. I know for me the more time I'm single the more time it gives me to understand what I might be doing (or not doing) wrong in terms of getting attached.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

Msg: 24 (view)

Corn cobs Posted: 8/28/2008 9:15:19 PM
Lemon-pepper seasoning does wonders to corn on the cob when you don't have any butter. Mmm... now I'm craving some.

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

Msg: 117 (view)

Would a man being a chef put you off dating him? Posted: 8/28/2008 6:52:11 PM
I'd have no problems at all dating a chef. I'm always up for trying different types of food, plus I love to cook myself. It would be great to have some friendly competition in the kitchen!

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

Msg: 60 (view)

What's your favorite secret ingredient? Posted: 8/25/2008 9:58:23 PM
Ground fresh chili paste or red pepper flakes. I like things spicy...

chee-tara

Joined: 7/18/2008

Msg: 23 (view)

like a guy who can dance? Posted: 8/24/2008 6:44:45 PM
It's definitely a plus for me if a guy knows how to dance. At the very least he should have a good sense of rhythm and hopefully he can keep up with me.

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