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Joined: 7/19/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

Why do women do this? Posted: 11/25/2008 9:51:35 AM
LoL @ kites70, god you're cute. I agree with Doc and Kites on this one, totally. Women have stopped being passive and waiting for men to make the first move and yes, some just want to prove to themselves that they "can" have you and others (most of us I presume) want to be clear we're interested without giving up the amazing feeling you give us when you return our interest two fold. Hahaha, I'm still smiling at "Sparky" Have a great day everyone!

Joined: 7/19/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Would You Prefer to See Someone on Webcam Before Meeting? Posted: 11/25/2008 9:29:38 AM
Absolutely! I agree with other posts, that clothing is not optional nor do I turn it on with the intention of "showing" anything more than I would meeting you for coffee. It's an easy, relaxed, fun way to have a first meet. In many ways it can make your first meeting much more relaxed because you’re in your own surroundings. Voice and video eliminate the need for a "quick" meet or spending hours fonting back and forth. It's no different than sitting across a table at Starbucks... grab a cup of coffee, turn on your cam, sit back and have a conversation. It only takes a few minutes to know if you've found someone you want to spend more time with. Viva le CAM, LoL.

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sex at first site Posted: 11/21/2008 11:24:07 PM
Post # 61 cmdrfunk... LoL, well. I'm still single, hahaha. Smartass, LoL.

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Picking up/ dropping off disagreement Posted: 11/21/2008 1:33:48 AM
In all fairness, I am the one doing the after school pick-up every week day, I take her to and pay for her sports club, in addition to any other activities she wants to do. I don't see this as a problem, but i don't see why he can't collect her and bring her back on his contact days. He did it for years and this has been a recent change. Having primary physical custody (which it sounds you have) is a gift. These things you mention are all part of parenting and being a primary caregiver. It's never easy dealing with the hidden agendas of an ex but ultimately you do what's best for your child. As a rule of thumb each parent usually does the "pick-up" from the other, sharing the transportation. If you have a court order governing visitation and don’t want to deal with your ex's whims and alterations (can't say I blame you) then don't. You need neither a lawyer nor a judge to enforce the current order. If he doesn't show and pick up on his days and it’s just a matter of transportation and he’s waiting on you, then decide (based on what's best for your child) if your child having time with 'daddy' is important enough [to you] to be the better parent and just do it. You're going to be dealing with parenting issues together for MANY years, until your child is 18... Do you really want to spend energy digging in your heals over 6 miles? I drive 200 miles EVERY WEEK in order for my boys to maintain a relationship with their father. Trust me when I tell you I empathize with you; sometimes it's beyond frustrating dealing with an ex who loves to engage us in power struggles. Good Luck!

Joined: 7/19/2008

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How long do you give someone to make up his mind? Posted: 11/21/2008 12:24:38 AM
I concur with all the previous posts. OP you've been given some very good feedback and I don't think there is one of us reading this who doesn't know just how hard it will be, for you, in the coming months should you decide to let him go. No matter what you do (more so if you decide to keep him in your life) consider professional support or maybe a group, for yourself. You've already been beaten down a bit and my guess is you're doing your fair share of kicking yourself while you’re down. Chin up! Things always work out.

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sex at first site Posted: 11/20/2008 10:38:56 AM
Any man who would sleep with me on the first date, isn't a man I'd care to date long term. Ho-hum.

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Why do women sleep with men who they are not really attracted to? Posted: 11/19/2008 8:04:55 PM
For clarification... I was attracted to him physically. He was all looks and no substance. It was who he was that made him unattractive, which in my mind makes sleeping with him even worse than no physical attraction. I was young and dumb and to date, it was the worst sex of my life. Not that I'm surprised...

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Msg: 114 (view)

Why do women sleep with men who they are not really attracted to? Posted: 11/19/2008 7:53:18 PM
I did; once, in my early 20's. To this day I haven't really understood why. The closest I've concluded is... BRAIN FART Cognitive slippage is a ****! Although, I'm thankful I did it because, having never forgotten my self-disappointment, I've never done it again.

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oral sex and swallowing cum and why they wont do it Posted: 11/19/2008 3:54:26 PM
A man's taste is like his smell. It's one of those triggers that make him completely irresistible, to me. I adore oral but it, like all intimacy, is reserved for the one man who makes me crave his presence, and his taste. I'm curious if the OP is having trouble with his LTR partner not swallowing or women he hooks up with. If these are women the OP is "casually" dating, maybe consider waiting until you're asked to cum in her mouth before taking up residence in her throat...

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Taking a break and do I owe an apology? Posted: 11/19/2008 12:53:51 AM
It's the whole stupid "dog pissing on a tree thing", you were his tree, he started checking out other trees, left his old tree behind, but wait! Now there's another dog pissing on "his" tree! OMG we can't have that! LoL @ that!

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confused Posted: 11/18/2008 11:29:10 PM
LoL. Am I allowed to just shake my head in amazement? I'm not too shy; I just have no freaking clue how to respond to that. And that's amazing in itself, LoL.

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When you REALLY love a woman...... Posted: 11/18/2008 11:13:14 PM
Someone once sent me the definition of love... Love is the state of being and/or feeling when you know that you need another person in order to be whole and happy. When he loves me it's in his touch, in his eyes when he looks at me, his smile, and his kiss. Actions feel good, words are fluff, the meaning is in the immeasurable.

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Taking a break and do I owe an apology? Posted: 11/18/2008 10:55:07 PM
I have to concur with all the previous posts. He's an idiot in more ways than just one. IMO, he should apologize to you for assuming he had a leg to stand on.

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I always get hurt in the end... Posted: 11/18/2008 11:32:29 AM
I doubt there is anyone who will read your post and not be reminded of a time when they felt the same. Everything we live through in our lifetime molds who we are and how we approach life, love, and the pursuit of happiness. The journey is what counts, even if it sucks ATM, not the destination. You're your best friend so pamper her and remind her she's worth it!

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Favorites List????? Posted: 11/17/2008 10:24:12 PM
LoL @ this. This subject is quickly becoming one of my top peeves. I delete myself from all who add me to favorites. I find it too impersonal for such a statement. I want to be just one man's favorite and really have no need or desire for that to be publically or otherwise announced. Color me quirky.

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Have you ever been glad a relationship ended later Posted: 11/17/2008 10:19:03 PM
Absolutely! Yes! Oui! Ja! Si! Sim! да!

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Msg: 327 (view)

What are your pet peeves...... Posted: 11/17/2008 12:23:12 PM
1) Being interrupted then being asked "What?" 2) Kicking the back of my seat at the movies 3) Talking when you should STFU (ex: Trying to talk to me or ask me something when I'm ON THE PHONE) 4) Licking your fingers instead of using a napkin (ew) 5) Asking what you want [to do] and hearing "I don't care"! Oh, and of course, people who add me to their favorites list without introducing themselves... hell, strike that. People who add me to their favorites list AT ALL. I am not here to be put on a "list" LoL. Sheesh.

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Msg: 279 (view)

What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single??? Posted: 11/16/2008 1:02:48 PM
At the risk of losing my "woman card", I believe the answer lies with the same reality as the men of our youth. When a relationship is giving you everything you need and want, WITHOUT marriage, why get married? Marriage adds things to a relationship that are, for the most part, superfluous to sharing lives, love, and romance. Is it possible that the women you're involving yourself with are looking for everything you bring to the table and nothing that is added by marriage? If the "whole package" that marriage entails is what you need to make the relationship feel complete, then I'd suggest learning more about how your potential partner feels about the things that define a marriage and be sure those are on her list of wants and needs. You're likely everything they're looking for and want in a partner without the shared finances et al.; and in that case you're dating women who don't share your same set of core needs. Just MO, good luck!

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Msg: 64 (view)

Smart, beautiful, women over 45; foolish choices - what we do for love. Posted: 11/16/2008 12:25:40 PM
I can't speak for the rest of you but I have been unable, even at the ripe age of 46, to master the art of choosing who I fall in love with. There is no logic, reason, or roadmap I've found to follow. It's that illusive chemistry and connection that's always getting in the way of my left brain. For me, I've spent so many years being logical, practical, and "safe"; about love...that has taught me I just can't control one single thing about love. Maybe that's why it's so scary for control freaks to take that leap (of faith). Life is nothing if you always live it safe for it's the giant eff-up's that make us real and unconditional love so sweet.

Joined: 7/19/2008

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like a dog chasing a car. Posted: 11/16/2008 12:13:23 PM
I've never experienced this situation so I'm hesitant to offer any insight but I think my lack of exposure in this area has less to do with luck and more to do with taking my time when it comes to knowing someone. Physical attraction is important but intimacy and lovemaking aren't between two bodies it's between two people (no, I'm not going so far as to say souls) and when you love the “person” , there’s very little on the outside that can be a deal breaker. I haven't always been so wise as to wait for my emotional buy-in before lusting for the skin on skin and it is VERY possible to be highly "functioning" during foreplay , right up until all the clothes are off, and you're all of a sudden confronted with a physical shortcoming that you just CANT move beyond. It isn't ALWAYS the men as an earlier poster commented and SD isn't exclusively a man's issue. Put in the situation above, I can easily go from green to red in a matter of seconds and no matter how good my imagination, it's still unrecoverable. Get to know your lover slowly, and never try and fool your best friend (yourself).

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