He sort of brags about how he can make a woman cry with in 10 mins of getting her clothes off.

I am so grateful that my b/f is such a great guy.

How he felt about me became apparent when I heard through people I know, just how he spoke of me. He had no respect. I was humiliated

lmao so you had my cast offs then?

Considering that statistically, 40-ish people became sexually active at around 17, just 1 partner per year makes 23 by age 40. Discounting a few for long term relationships but putting them back for being in between and dating around, that still makes 23 seem reasonable. In fact this seems low for someone who's 40 and never married, and good looking or otherwise desirable.

Personally, I think that the most dysfunctional people are those with the hangups that make this sort of topic such a big deal.

also "strumpet", and "trollop" have a certain cachet or 'ring' to them..

This is why I have refused every offer made to me to tape sexual activity, or send illicit pics.

That might be true for you mate, but not me. I wouldn't want a woman who had even 1/10th the partners I've had.

fear of not being able to satisfy someone with a varied sexual past or more experience

Its the best but after you have had two, going back to one is like eating cereal without the milk.

Why is he willing to be friends with benefits but not in a relationship with me? I mean, besides for obvious reasons?

I think you might mean small pox.

No guy in the world would want their girlfriend to think that of them.

and vote against minorities...now that came off as a cheap shot ....

I'm sure there IS a sleazy side to swinging, but its no more sleazy than the singles bars, where men try to get girls drink and take advantage of them, and barfly girls have a different 'boyfriend' every night.

Just like there are nice singles meets, where people casually drink, meet others talk and maybe click with someone, the same is true for swingers.

So stop painting EVERY swinger to be like the sleazy ones you knew. Its more about the company of friends you keep, rather than whether or not you're a swinger.

Its a good thing I believe that 92% of all statistics quoted on forums are made up, because WOW does that sound fake.

Yes, having lots of sex puts you are more risk for STDs, but I'm sure the STD rates are the same between swingers and singles.

Why oh Why do people feel the need to blab this stuff?

I just think you are full of shit sorry just something about your profile

no it isnt that i just havent found out yet. She has no reason not to tell me. And if you were really a swinger you would understand what that truely means.

most people even the ones who are open swingers keep names and details private ...

She probably told you so that you couldn't find out later, and then be disgusted.

yes I am sure some women would hate it,

As a woman, I'd find it cool that the guy I was with once loved someone that much,

The guys that run trains on a girl are always the type of guys that get off on degrading a woman.

A woman who allows it is mentally unstable and has serious self-respect issues. A woman who enjoys it is simply undesirable to a decent man.

Methinks a lot here who are up in arms about this are because they're reminded of some crazy thing they did and it's hitting close to home.

Beyond that what's the big deal?

They've just had so many previous better or wilder experiences to compare it too....

I would know (as much as ANYONE knows) whether the guy is married or single before I sleep with him.

So why did the OP ask our views?

(however futile) that they will meet a good guy who wants something deeper and more meaningful than just the physical connection

I think because you've done it (more than once according to your post) explains why you don't want your girlfriend to be friends with their exes. I can see that. But not everyone cheats on their partner.

assine output and insert your respective sex organs into themsleves.

Over the years I've had sex with several Ex girlfriends who were in relationships and none of their partners has ever known...
I think I understand a bit more now where you're coming from and why you don't want to be in contact with your girlfriend's exes.

Sue the manufacturer of the condom

Now what...? What are your options....? What if the other person has AIDs or Herpes, or Hepatitis?

Or there haven't been enough of the answers needed to make to a point!

And they're also NOT the sort of men that would make comments in poor taste to whoever I was dating about things we used to do in private.

My concern would be more along the lines of anything he may have picked up from them.

Guys who have already ****ed you are laughing their asses off when we meet some guy who is in love with you.

Cheating lies in actions and deception.

I just havent told her everything about the past.

Among other common lies, we have the silent lie -- the deception which one conveys by simply keeping still and concealing the truth. Many obstinate truth-mongers indulge in this dissipation, imagining that if they speak no lie, they lie not at all.