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Ex-girlfriend asked me out for dinner Posted: 3/8/2009 5:52:30 PM
before you go ... you might want to take a minute and figure out what it is that is holding you back. this seems like something that would be kinda easy and obvious...it's just dinner. most people would just go. and yet - something is making you hesitate. that "something" is probably worth identifying before you go. is it fear or is it one of those "too good to be true" things where you might be holding yourself back because you just are not sure something this awesome could be within your reach? sometimes we hold back because we feel like it shouldn't be so easy. don't miss the chance to pursue something wonderful because you are worrying about nothing... ;) i think it is worth taking a minute to figure out why you are having to think this over before you rsvp. whatever you do - go s.....l......o.....w.... purposely slow it all down rather than rushing after chemistry - also, make sure you are not just hooking up for the purpose of eliminating of lonliness. love requires a real friendship (not like i know this for sure, but i've read about it ;)) you ARE in a post-divorce place right now where you might need to ensure you are not being attracted to the exact same type of person you just divorced. sometimes the familiar can feel really, really good - but it doesn't necessarily mean it is the best thing for us. report back to us. ;) i hate it when i don't get to find out how it all turns out...

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Child support issue has gone through Posted: 1/9/2009 7:45:32 PM
very dramatic post for someone that hates drama. i'm just saying... you are allowing yourself to get sucked in and wrapped up in his drama - you do have the choice to not allow him to impact you. i am unclear on how, after 3 years of being a single parent, you have not established a way to support your child without his assistance. the other poster made a good point - you might need to downgrade your lifestyle...there are a myriad of ways that he could avoid having the state collect monies from him. getting the state involved doesn't mean he is going to start sending you a check... you handle this by reminding yourself that you can handle this - doing smart things to ensure you are safe and your children have the things they need.

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Caylee Anthony taken back into custody tonight Posted: 8/31/2008 6:10:00 PM
it might have been interesting had they let Casey be released to the crowd of protestors outside her home i think that is a brilliant idea. at least with the confirmation of her murder, the grandparents will be forced to pull their heads out... i am just worried casey will plead insanity or something. with the whole fake babysitter story, i worried she had some kind of split personality thing going on.

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Good Girl or Bad??? Posted: 8/30/2008 8:54:07 PM
lots of very good girls have a little bit of a naughty side.... the fact that she is posting on multiple sites might just mean there are several sides to her personality -not that she is hiding anything. some men find a girl with a little bit of a kinky streak very appealing... it doesn't mean she is a promoting a double standard. actually... it sounds like that might be what you are seeking. since you have been on the alternative site poking around - she might be a good match for you!

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Decisions Posted: 8/30/2008 8:45:48 PM
write options on little notes of paper. fold them into small squares. draw them out of a hat. surprise...this is where we are eating dinner. this is how i was able not to strangle an ex-boyfriend who was unable to make a decision if there was more than one option. it sort of made things fun. plus we couldn't blame each other if the dinner or activity / movie choice wasn't good. it became luck of the draw.

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What are your joys of parenting? Posted: 8/30/2008 8:15:41 PM
i love waking up to hear a little voice singing down the hall in her room. even if it is an annoying hannah montana song... love watching her walk up the sidewalk to her school when i drop her off - so proud of how she is growing up - amused at how giant her backpack is. i totally enjoy hearing about "sam g." - the boy in her class that gave her an eskimo kiss at recess. i like finding little notes and drawings on my coffee table after she is already in bed. painting little fingernails is fun, so is cherry lip gloss and bubble gum bath gel. plus, my fridge always has the best artwork - and i always have an excuse to have ice cream in the house. being a mom balances me - tamed the wild side of my personality, put my priorities in the proper order and made me eternally grateful for the opportunity to begin again.

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How do I handle this? Posted: 8/3/2008 6:44:45 PM
they don't exactly. i can't help but think about the other parties involved. oh yeah... because i have been there. and it sucks...big time. there is another woman involved here...god knows she's already got issues if her man can't perform well...don't do this to another girl...the implications for your karma are just not good at all. why would you risk it all for a guy that can't come to the party and have fun? be an adult and end a relationship before you go fix some guy that has ED issues. at the very least, ... find a single boy that can do it RIGHT. think younger...

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How do I handle this? Posted: 8/3/2008 6:12:20 PM
so confused on why...if this is the "one thing" that is missing from your otherwise blissful marriage... why are you wasting your time on someone that can't provide it REALLY effectively? dang, i'd sure make sure if that was the "one thing' on my list...i'd have it in good working order...before i betrayed my vows and stuff...might just be me. i would have checked that out though... i'd think, the last thing you want when having an affair is more work. also - not attacking your morals but do you have an exit strategy for this situation? not judging you ... i just always wonder how things like this end without a big drama.... if you spend too much time getting his issues solved, it might be hard not to get really emotionally attached. very curious to hear more...

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Home Nudity? Posted: 8/2/2008 12:24:59 PM
i agree with "so many women" - hanging out around the house naked is weird and i know alot of guys that do that... it feels skeevy and i always worry there will be a fire or someone at the door. why do men do that? i think it is way sexier to keep things covered up until the big reveal ...keeping a higher value on the stuff under the clothes - i think if you get used to seeing someone's nakedness all the time, it makes it just like commonplace or something. i want it to be a big special deal for someone to see me naked - smile.

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Dating as full time job Posted: 8/2/2008 12:11:46 PM
I don't think I want to date someone that makes it their "job" to find a date. That sounds creepy and sort of needy or something. I think dating is just one part of your life and I would hope I'd meet someone that had a very full life before I got there. There is a desperate quality to someone that spends too much time on the search. That said, I think that author is kind of smart to capitalize on a trend...

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