What I said is true! Don't act like an idiot!

...However, on the forums, there are so many men who argue about money, complian about paying too much for theirs dates, and have asked so many questions about how to ask their dates to share dating bills. IMO, if a man can't afford to pay for his dates, he shouldn't date around or shouldn't complain about women.

Deb1961,

Your last post is your problem. You keep having to tell everyone how confident you are, all the things you can do, and all the stuff you own. All that crap is not impressive. You sound like you're trying too hard to prove something. You sound like your tough as nails! Where's the gentler, softer side of you?

Understand: all that independence talk impresses other WOMEN, not men. In other words, it's what we have been talking about in these current threads. It screams "Look at me! See how independent and strong I am! I am woman! Watch me ROAR! RAAAAAAAHHHH!!!" It doesn't scare men, but the red flags shoot up. Whether it's true or not, it says to us that you are demanding, overbearing, and possibly angry. Then, on top of all that, you blame a lack of dates on men supposedly wanting younger, skinny women. ...

On the other hand, it's amazing how many people have leaped to conclusions based on (I'm assuming) their own issues

That's pretty well the norm here.

taken a little bit of information and extrapolated completely in the wrong direction, offering suggestions to non-existent problems and situations.

That too.
Just read through some of the other threads in this section for confirmation of this.

Don't think anyone is too sad about that ^^^!

so are you telling me where to go and just being polite? i don't have to be told twice thats for sure

i would just need to know where to go

lol so you wish to sit in judgement of whos getting paid too much do you?well id say start at the bankers, and the politicians and the drs and work your way around and thru the mass of ties and 5000 dollar suits.

before you start on nurses,and the people whos sweat and actual labor are the cornerstones of this country
nurses arent there to babysit you, they are there to monitor a whole floor full of sick people.
so you werent treated like a princess. when was the last time a bank manager stopped by your home with a cup of timmies in the morning?
i dont hear tales of how nurses are recieving bonus cheques for millions of dollars every year just because they do the job they are overpaid to do .
if you want to start cutting wages, start at the top
what kind of scabs start cutting the wages of the workers , before they start cutting away the frills of the bosses?if hats the type of society you want, then move to the usa , where the capitalists and profiteers have already set up shop and are already creating the collapseof an entire nation due to their greed

Then why do nurses make so much less than doctors!?! So being in a union doesn't provide equality then? Not gettin' it. Unions create just as much inequality as they dissolve. I don't know any nurses. But I'm willing to bet they're not all wonderful, saintly, angelic, beings. I'll bet there are nurses who really suck at their jobs, who duck and dodge the nasty work, who don't clean things up properly, who are mean to patients, who just really don't give a f'ck. I'll also bet there are fabulous nurses who go above and beyond every day. And because they all get the same pay scale shoved at them the really good ones have to.......

....Now on a sadder note...the thing that amazed me whenever my Husband died...people came up and asked me for stuff...not sentimental...but the expensive tools. I told one who shall remain nameless....What the hell would he want it for...he couldn't use a tool if his life depended on it...this was the day that I buried him. I still haven't ever been asked for memento's of him so they could remember him. Just my Daughter. So even through we might laugh about it...some people are like wild animals whenever it comes to getting something..... and they don't hesitate to ask for it either. After the altercation to the one who shall remain nameless if they asked I ignored them altogether. Someone even asked for the Christmas present back they had given him almost a year earlier....I didn't say a word.....peace

These days its easy for someone, male or female, to have had 2 or more marriages, each of which lasted many years. Its modern life. Who knows what the reasons were? For some reasons, things stopped working, and they made the decision to switch rather than struggle. It may not be your way, but it does not mean that they are defective people in any particular way. If you were not there, you can't really know the details, and divorce is so easy these days, its no wonder people make use of it so readily.

There is nothing wrong with never being married. You have no baggage, so employ that in your search for happiness

After reading several of the previous posts there is not a thing I can add. In my case had I married I would like so many others probably be divorced after 20 to 30 years of marriage. So then I could state "divorced" in my profile and then what?

Far as I am concerned, the only case where a red flag would appear in my mind is someone in this age group that had never had any sort of relationship with the opposite sex. All the rest of the cases except for those currently hooked up are completely equivalent to "single" as far as dating is concerned. People who want to split hairs over this are rather silly, in my view.

"Never mind the fact that those who married and divorced were unable to sustain a commitment. If they were able to make and sustain a comittment then they would not have divorced. "
That's a disturbing lot of assumption and judgment going on there. We have no way of knowing what efforts were made to save a marriage, what difficulties were insurmountable, what situations led to what painful outcomes. "narrow minded" indeed. Unless you've walked the mile...

I'm very good at reading between the lines. I learn less about a person on the phone. But all this aside, in person is the best.

There isn't anything between the lines most of the time. Sometimes its hard to even write the lines. If you are good at reading between the lines, it must be you are good at inventing whatever you want the situation to be... Very subjective, presumptous, and not reliable at all. I'd imagine you are wrong a lot...

and I'm sure you've heard of the grocery store and it sounds silly but it's true. The same way they can suss out whether you're single, married or have children is by what they see in the cart

If someone has been on here for a couple of years or more, it obviously isn't working for them, so motivation to update pictures is probably not there. Let's face it, it should not take more than a month or so to find a new partner, so I would suspect that either they have already done so, or are not looking, or are just not looking on this site.

There's really no need to update my pic cuz I ain't looking for 'fresh game.

Alright! Who wants to host a POF overnighter in Atlanta? Any takers?

Where the guys and the Wild Things are is definitely northern Alberta or anywhere near the Yellowhead highway and north.

Also what my friend told me. Alberta or North.

...and no man will ever want a woman over 50, its been proven, as for sex...........we may never have it again...(its been proven!!!)........ AARRRRRGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!

What I would be looking for is stability. How do people in our age range deal with the uncertainly of a break up? Would you want to be lets say for example 57, be in an LTR for 6 years and then at 63 have it end and do what, start over again? This is Ok when in your 20's and 30's but 50's and 60's? Do people in our age ranges actually enter into LTR and make successes of them? It almost seems to me that time has run out. I see the men and women pushing 60 that are now single after 30 years of marriage. If I knew we were all going to live to be 150 I would not be writing this. Sometimes this whole thing seem surreal.

If this is directed at me........My Humble apologizes.....honestly
Much Peace.......

Just have to point this out a little bit.......can't help it now my brain is screaming for release.....

seriously, if I wanted his snide remarks and rude dating advice, I'd have asked. I asked a question last night, and he and a few others decided to make fun of me instead of answering the question and he persists today.

The World Revolves Around Me and Don't You Ever Think It Doesn't Peopler

Was not this thread appropriately titled...........

Great,,,
I was already queasy from the world revolving around me,,,
now the damned table is spinning too?

-feeling sick-

Dutchies are square donuts, filled with apples, cinnamon and raisins.

Every day I think this is my last day .

My favorite person on POF always thumps me when I start getting out of line on the forums .

I get a lot of belly laughs off here

IMO unless you have thoughts of suicide or thoughts of doing harm to others, I don't think anyone else 'needs therapy'. They just have to give themselves permission to be human. Therapy has been invented as a quick fix in our instant cure culture. We don't need anti-depressants and we don't need to 'pay money' to see someone 'when it's convenient to them' in order to feel better about ourselves. What I learned at times during my lowest lows, is that I felt my worst in the middle of the night when a therapist would 'read me the riot act' if I woke them with my garden variety neurotic thoughts. That being said, I thought to myself, if I could get through a lonely night without them, then I could absolutely get through my day without them too. You just have to learn to BELIEVE YOU CAN.

If you are a childless person, how interested are you in connecting with a family type person, even if their kids are all grown up? Even when kids are grown and gone, it appears to me that they stay on your mind and you are always devoting some level of personal energy, thought and emotion towards them, whereas a childless person would not have that characteristic.

I wonder about these forums, how many times a woman who is complaining she can't find a man, by waiting to be found by him, had that man come along and see her in the act of complaining, and decided she was a complainer and kept looking, when if she had been showcasing some more appealing aspect of her character he might have been interested.

if the man's introductory note is a nasty, vulgar or repugnant one, he will not get a reply.

I can't tell you how many times (when working the night shift) I'd come home and get online here on POF ... just wanted to relax and settle down before heading to bed ... and would just be minding my own business when the IM screen would pop up with some nekid man flopping his penis around ... asking me if I'm interested in getting together

Shouldnt it be the other way around, a man says hello and you respond if you like his profile, why are we asking for effort from someone that we might not like to start with?

And to think I was going to ask Halftimedad to immigrate to the states and marry me. *sigh*

Will I lie about that ? Also no.

Listening to a radio program the other day about the boom in false I.D. for underage kids to "proove" they're 21 so they can get served alcohol.

Got to wondering if there's an untapped market for the providers of false I.D. for us olde folks who wanna "proove" we're younger.

I'm 65 and often get told I only look 40 or 50 something but ladies I'm attracted to in their 40s won't date me because I'm "too old." Well, some ladies that age do date me and I'm most grateful.

Still tempting to get a false I.D. that show's I'm like 52 or something to show the ladies in their 40s who ask how old I am....

You'd think the false I.D. providers would be marketing up at our age too??

Yes yes yes I know its not honest...but it sure is tempting....

And there have been some posts that weren't meant to be helpful....they were just plain mean. How can that be constructive, or positive? It sometimes appears, to me, that there is this jump on the bandwagon attack mode that happens on-line in the forum format. Not just here on POF, but in other forum sites I see this happen often. If I were a man, it would be a huge turn-off for me (and the same goes for the women too). Just sayin'.

Sometimes, in the interest of being honest, we can go too far and honesty becomes hurtful.