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ShadowKnight59

Joined: 9/18/2005

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My childrens mother has been gone two years Posted: 1/29/2007 9:31:23 PM
James, Been there done that. Had almost the same thing happen. Now after 3+ years I am back in court fighting but according to my lawyer and the guardian ad litum I don't have any worries other than putting up with her. My advice is to make sure you have full legal custody of the kids. Then make sure and if she tries to get back into the kids lives get them a counselor. Believe me they'll need it, mine have. Make sure she comes back slowly and at the kids pace, not hers. But most of all be there for them because they are going to be confused about who she even is. Hang in there, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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antideressants are TOTALLY bad for you health Posted: 12/20/2006 8:43:05 PM
http://www.depression-guide.com/diet-depression.htm Here is a link to some information about diet and depression. Happy Holidays, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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New Years eve with the kids!!!! :) Posted: 12/20/2006 3:26:33 PM
My kids and I do First Night celebration that has a lot of things going on all over town. The kids get to be involved in activities that are age appropriate and we get home in time to watch fireworks on tv before they head off to bed. Not sure if that is just a Montana thing or not. Happy Holidays, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Skinny model ban in Spain..your thoughts Posted: 12/20/2006 3:18:21 PM
I think it should be that models are of a healthy weight and not all 6 foot bean poles. If they are naturally thin then fine but I don't think all models should be thin...that sets girls up for eating disorders. Happy Holidays, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Does anyone else feel lousy after stopping smoking? Posted: 12/20/2006 3:09:13 PM
Lots of water, exercise, sauna, and massage to get the crud out. Takes a while for all the crud to finally get out of your body. I know that was what I had to do when I quit 2 years ago. Hang in there, it does get better. Congrats on quitting for this long. Happy Holidays, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Seeking advice, lifting weights and not smoking Posted: 12/20/2006 3:04:22 PM
Breathing, lots of water, and a sauna to sweat the toxins out faster. That is what I had to do. If you have access to a massage therapist they can do a ice sheet treatment that will draw the crud out as well. Other than that time is the only thing...takes time to get the toxins out of the body. Congrats on quitting. Good Luck, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Weight gain with exercise Posted: 12/20/2006 2:59:06 PM
Wow, well not sure what Dr you are seeing but you must be a scientific anomaly and should be the subject of a research study. I've never heard of anything like this or seen any research on anything resembling this. Perhaps one of the other trainers on here has heard of this. In my experience it doesn't happen this way. To be able to hazard a guess I would have to know how strict you are with your diet, how much cardio you are doing, how often, how many times a day you are eating, etc. Because as you have stated it here it doesn't happen. If you are truly looking to burn fat then try weights and sprints rather than slow long distance cardio along with eating 6 times a day, 500 calories a day less than maintenance. Good luck for the holidays, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Natural ways to beat depression Posted: 12/11/2006 5:09:30 PM
Exercise, sunshine, melatonin, fish oil, and friends Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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How/where do I find the single dads??? Posted: 12/11/2006 12:04:11 PM
Oh we are here, Just most of us don't have all that much time online because we are out there dealing with life and raising kids just like single moms...least those of us with custody anyway. Like my trying to be a good den leader for my sons cub scout den, doing daisies with my daughter, finishing school, doing home work, shopping, playing with kids, etc. The one place you usually won't find most of us at is a bar. Look for the places that are kid friendly. And just because a guy has his kids it doesn't mean mom is just around the corner. She is usually somewhere else with somebody else. Happy Holidays, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Diabetic pre-teen...HELP Posted: 12/11/2006 11:55:50 AM
Hello, I don't have a diabetic in my family but I have a lot of experience with diabetics and I can empathize with you. I am assuming your child is eating lunches and snacks...just different ones that the other children. In many places I know that it can be done by passing off to the other children as a sort of allergy...which in a way it is...an allergy to refined carbohydrates and sugars. In which case I know that there are many children with certain food allergies. Sending the right snacks and lunches from home shouldn't be that big a deal for the school. Other than that I am not quite sure what you mean unless it is dealing with the other children and their teasing. Hope it helps, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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anyone know what to do for low back pain?? Posted: 12/9/2006 4:40:43 PM
Hello, In general most folks allow their core to get out of shape from sitting too much and not enough exercise in general. For low back pain I would recommend strengthening the core muscles first. If your L4-5 is messed up then you need to go slow at it. Start by sitting on a Swiss Ball. They make desk chairs for Swiss Balls as well. Just doing that will begin to strengthen the core. Also posture is a biggie as well as stomach vacumes to strengthen your abdominus transversus (sp?). I would seek a physical therapist and a massage therapist in your area as well. As far as the weights go I would suggest taking it easy till the core is strengthened so you don't completely blow out your back. Hope it helps, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Question for the ladies Posted: 12/9/2006 1:28:17 PM
Thank you to those with constructive criticisms. It will be a great help. For thsoe who don't know folf is a sport that is at least played here in Montana. Kind of like golf but with a frisbee and targets. While it is true that no one "owes" anyone a reply and I haven't been in a position where I was recieving umpteen e-mails a day, I was raised to give a reply of some sort to a query. As I said it appears that much has changed. Again, Thank You to those who gave constructive criticisms. I shall be sure and run a spell checker on my e-mails before sending them as well. Happy Holidays Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Question for the ladies Posted: 12/8/2006 9:07:24 PM
Thanks CCF, No it isn't a generic e-mail, it is just an example. I always try to personalize the e-mail. And no it wasn't intended to sound that way about the tattoo. I just like tattoos since I have a few myself. Thank you for your input. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Need some a male to tell me the answer Posted: 12/8/2006 8:08:14 PM
Lissa, If he is going to blame you for everythign that is going wrong now then he is a weakling and lost. Sorry your not going to get him to grow up. He either does or doesnt' on his own. If he is abusing you now it will only get worse and could lead to your child being abused as well. My advice is to tell him to take a hike and get a life. Also make sure you hit him for his share of child support. It takes two to tango and jsut because he is using doesnt' remove his obligation to your child. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Question for the ladies Posted: 12/8/2006 8:00:53 PM
Hello, Now it may be that I have been out of the dating game for far too long and somewhere along the way the rules changed. The reason I ask is that each woman I have emailed in my region except one has just outright eleted my e-mails without even the courtesy of a "Thanks but no thanks" response. My question was whether any of the ladies here would look at one of the recent e-mails I sent and critique it for where I am going wrong. "Hey there, Was looking through the profiles of the ladies nearby and coam across yours. You sound like a girl I would like to get to know better. Do you have more tattoos? The ones I saw in your pics look really cool. Who is your favorite Blues musician or group? I like heading down to the Union Club when I get the chance to listen to some good music and dance but most times can't find a decent dance partner. I haven't taken the kids to play folf yet but we do go camping and fishing is planned for this next year now that they are a bit older. Write back, Kevin " Now I was wondering if there is something wrong with what I am writing here? Any help form the ladies would be appreciated. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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I don't get it Posted: 12/8/2006 7:55:07 PM
Ok, maybe I've been out of the dating game for too long but all the woman on here I have written to from Montana but one has done the "Read/deleted" thing without even the courtesy of a "Thanks but no thanks" Has manners gone so far down the tubes that this is what women think is acceptable? Grief, if it is then maybe I am looking in the wrong place and need to look farther afield if women in Montana think this is ok to do. Maybe it is just me but I thought that women in Montana were a cut above the rest of the world but my experiences thus far have proven me wrong. I grew up when men were Men and women were women and both knew what Chivalry and manners were. Have fun folks, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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What time does your kids goes to bed? Posted: 12/7/2006 6:26:40 PM
My kids are 5 and 7 and they are in bed normally between 8 and 8:30 to be up at 6:30 for school. I find that gives them enough sleep to do their best during the day. I fully believe that part of the problem with kids is they don't get enough sleep. Adults too. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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whey protein dehydration? Posted: 12/7/2006 4:52:52 PM
A good rule of thumb is to drink at least .5 ounce water per pound of body weight. With increased activity you need increased fluids also if you drink any caffienated drinks then you need more water as well. Try 16 oz water 30 mins prior exercise and again within 30 mins after. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Justice for the good Fathers!!! Posted: 12/7/2006 4:47:28 PM
Ok, not sure where you live or where all your info is coming from. If it is coming from the locker room lawyers then get a grip. Contact a lawyer in your area specializing in family law and see what your rights really are. Yes, you will have to pay child support but that is only right since it takes two to tango and you had a hand in bringing the child into this world. That is unless it was immaculate conception then I think you're off the hook. If she is doing the drugs and whatnot then you can get custody of the child in most places since it is a form of child endangerment. As I said, contact a lawyer in your area and ask them. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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young kids and tantrums???? Posted: 12/7/2006 2:58:16 PM
What I did when they had their single temper tantrum in a store was to pick them up and haul them out to the car. Once there I explained to them I was disappointed in how they acted and that when they decided they were done we could go back in and finish shopping. they both had one "fit" at home and it got them a time out on their beds of 1 minute per year of age. That ended the temper tantrums because they learned that I was goign to stay calm and not give in to whatever it was they wanted. Biggest thing is to stay calm and not over react to the embaressment you feel. Everyone else has been through it with their kids at one point and the others don't have kids so big whoop about their opinion anyway. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Teething....HELP! Posted: 12/7/2006 2:47:02 PM
I can tell you from past experience with mine the best way to tell if it is an ear infection is to take them to a Dr and get it checked out...especially if the ear looks red or they have a snotty nose. Ear infections in babies isn't something to mess around about since it can lead to them being deaf or having hearing difficulties. As far as the teething thing goes I found that a combination of things including a homeopathic med worked best for my kids. Just don't wait on getting the ears checked out though. They don't always run a fever with an ear infection. Kevin

Shadowknight59

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Custody Advice please!!! Posted: 9/11/2006 2:38:47 PM
Shyeyes, The best advice I can give you on this is to get your attorney to see about getting a guardian ad liteum for your child. Also it wouldn't hurt to make sure and have copies of his criminal records as well as any videos on file with your attorney to be used in court. Once a guardian ad lituem is appointed then make sure they have copies of every thing. I realize that you may have done this by now...hope so at least. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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The plight of single fathers..... Posted: 7/26/2006 9:35:21 PM
Just have a question here. Why does it have to be single dads vs. single moms: who gets the shorter end of the stick? I think it is great for anyone who raises their kids no matter what their circumstances whether they are male or female. Sure there are advantages and disadvantages for both genders. Who cares? Is it really that big a deal? What is important is how you are caring for your children, not whether or not you have it worse than a single parent of the opposite gender. I figure that my kids are great filters. They filter out all the unwanted prospects. Does that mean I date less? You bet! Does that mean I have less money to spend since I have to pay for a sitter if I go out alone? Yes. Is that any different than what happens to a single mom? No. Have I been discriminated against for housing because of being a single parent? Yes...just like many single moms have been. I don't know about you all but I am hoping to find someone to share life with. Not to comiserate about how life sucks as a single parent. Have a nice day everyone. Kudos to All single parents. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Do women date single dad's who live with there kids Posted: 7/23/2006 12:46:33 PM
Women will date men who have custody of their children just as men will date women that have custody of their children. When both have custody, there tends to be a better understanding of each persons priorities , which makes it better at times....We cannot blame others for their choice whether they want to date people that have children or not. We cannot allow ourselves to fall into a line of thinking that sets blame for our lonliness at our childrens feet. I think you hit the nail on the head Wizard. It isn't our kids fault one way or the other. Each person has the right to make their own decisions on who they will or won't date. I also agree with NoStrings...I won't date a woman if I can't get along with her kids or if my kids don't get along with her and hers. That is a set up for failure no matter how much you want it to work. I already know that in most cases Location has a big thing to do with how many possiblities you have. I live in Montana...more cows than people equates to fewer possibilities. Most people wiht kids aren't going to uproot them and move to be with someone else. So the factors on whether or not someone will date you...while it does include the children...doesn't revolve around that fact alone. I find that working on myself first to be the most helpful as well as getting out and about. Hey it is summertime and public pools are great places to meet others. Besides the kids love it and you can have an absolute blast. I would much prefer to see a single mom out having fun with her kids and enjoying life than one who is all about the bars and "hooking up". Make it a Great Day! Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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The Best Thing About Being A Parent? Posted: 7/23/2006 12:05:27 PM
Here are a few things in no certain order. #1 The hugs and kisses "just because I love you Daddy" #2 Watching them laugh and giggle as we play #3 Having them cuddled up against me as we read bedtime stories #4 Bedtime kisses, hugs, and I Love You's #5 the daycare routines that each of them has to saying "see you later Daddy" I could go on and on but each day is a joy. Yes we get stressed and have our bad days like anyone else. But hugs, kisses, and I Love You makes things so much better. I really don't know how anyone can go through a day without a smile on their face. My kids just make my life feel so much better. Make it a Great Day! Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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losing weight,anyone? Posted: 7/23/2006 11:10:03 AM
Glad to hear everyone has been doing so good. I have been busy with summer and many other things going on. Yes, true fat loss is a lifestyle decision. That is the only way to lose the fat and keep it off. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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shakes...smoothies...whats good? Posted: 7/23/2006 11:00:08 AM
Well I have a smoothie recipe e-book if your interested. Contact me and I can send you a copy. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Questions RE: Gym Memberships Posted: 7/23/2006 10:58:30 AM
A good thing to do to get the most of a gym membership is join with a friend or partner. That way you both motivate each other to keep going. Also look for gyms that have activities that you like to do already or have classes you would like to try. Often the local YMCA is a good alternative. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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losing weight,anyone? Posted: 5/9/2006 7:55:19 PM
Akanke, There are a couple problems there...it is true that the body does make proteins...the problem is that to make those proteins the body needs the amino acids that it gets from the breakdown of proteins that you have ingested. So the physiologist didn't out right lie to you but apparently didn't give you the whole story. I can direct you to a number of scientific articles where this ahs been tested. kayaking is good exercise. it'll burn some callories for you that is for sure. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Child Support for Non-bio, Non-adopted Child Posted: 5/6/2006 5:41:57 PM
Thsi must be why all the Canadian guys are afraid of getting into much of a relationship with a woman who has kids. I am sure it would put the brakes on here in the States too. Hope you can get ti worked out. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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losing weight,anyone? Posted: 5/3/2006 7:06:46 PM
Well you can get some of the efa from flaxseed oil. Perhaps try Udo's Choice oil. It is a mixture oil that has a complete mix of efa. you didn't say if you were ova lacto vegan or not. If you are great. If not then you will need to try gettign your proteins as a mix of things to get a complete amoutn of aminos. For the protein...for a person who weighs 100 pounds that would be 100 grams of protein. Yes, most nutritionists, trainers, dieticians are going to try to get you to eat some form of meat. You might look into the vegan form of whey protein. I am not sure what it is or how it tastes but increasing the protein intake will help with discarding fat. Have fun at the spinning class. I am pretty sure it wore you out if it was your first one. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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losing weight,anyone? Posted: 5/3/2006 8:01:09 AM
Welcome aboard. Yes...doing some form of weight training is needful to help build muscle which is more metabolically costly and therefore helps you to burn the calories more effeciently and for longer periods than cardio alone will. As far as your diet goes it is best to eat 5-6 small meals a day with some form of protein at each meal. Cut the refined carbs. Make sure to get your efa's (I recommend fish oil). And if you are doing an ova-lacto vegetarian diet it should be ok. Increased protein intake is a good thing. Depends on your goals but .5-1 grams of protein per pound is a good start. Also drinking .5-.8 ounces per pound of fluids like water, juice, milk will help immensely. Some people report good results with green tea as well. Not so sure about the wheat grass since we aren't hebivores. I have heard it is supposed to be good for you but I have yet to see any sorrt of scientific documentation. Good luck. Sounds like everyone is having great results. 1-2 pound weight loss per week is the best because then the weight loss is mostly fat rather than muscle. And that is the goal after all isn't it? To discard fat and keep the muscle? Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Size 3-4 or SIZE 10-12 Posted: 5/3/2006 7:49:42 AM
Depends on what country you are looking at. It is better to go by a pinch test to determine body fat levels than going by a scale or BMI. Both of them are good to a point but they really aren't all that accurate since a person with low body fat could weigh more but wear a smaaler size than one carrying more fat and the same body weight. Americans on average are becoming fatter and therefore the average is going up. Persoanlly I don't want to be average. Why be average? Because then you are just like everyone else. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Advice Posted: 5/1/2006 4:52:12 PM
I would say that there are many who haven't grown up yet and they are going to make comments no matter what kind of pictures you put up. There are others, men and women, who seem to have an aversion to skin so you will get commments there as well. Sometimes you just have to block them out and figure they aren't worth your time. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Becoming An Old Maid! Posted: 5/1/2006 4:30:17 PM
No...being in Montreal just makes you too far away...lol Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Do you consider yourself a gentleman? Posted: 5/1/2006 4:29:03 PM
Well I think that is something that others determine of us through our actions. I would like to think I am but that is a designation that only otehrs can give rather than a mantle that one would take upon themselves. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Becoming An Old Maid! Posted: 5/1/2006 3:50:24 PM
Well I am too far away and apparently too old for you lorimac. That is a lot of peole to not be able to find some one in. Maybe it is a case of too many choices? I defintely have the other problem. No one would show up here...lol. Been trying to get one set up since just after I joined and there arent any takers. Maybe Montana women aren't really looking for anyone which would be my guess based on the absolute lack of responses to my initial e-mails. If that is the case I am probably screwed and will end up being whatever the male equivalent of an "Old Maid" is. Least I have my kids and won't end up with a bunch of cats...lol. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Becoming An Old Maid! Posted: 4/30/2006 2:44:20 PM
Wow...must be a lot of POFers up there. Perhaps the problem id the guys you are looking at? Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Age Old Question. new twist!! Posted: 4/30/2006 10:20:46 AM
Well you are right on one aspect all2h, your thinking is flawed...lol. I am older than you and my kids are 4 and 6. I keep up with them just fine. To OP, who knows. Different strokes for different folks I figure. Each one is different and unique. Good luck in your search though. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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should prostitution be legal? Posted: 4/30/2006 10:12:47 AM
Actually it should be legal. That way it could be regulated and there would be less STD transmission. But then when the congressman is taking bribes from organized crime which makes big bucks on it I highly doubt it ever will be.

ShadowKnight59

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do men without kids date woman who have them? Posted: 4/30/2006 10:10:22 AM
Probably more often than what happens when the situation is reversed. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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why do women freak out when you have kids but they dont understand it when she has kids Posted: 4/30/2006 10:09:20 AM
Short answer? Who knows. Some women say they will date single dads and supposedly prefer to date single dads but as of yet I have seen zero proof of it. Of course now the difference could be when we have full custody of our kids and have them 24/7/365. They may feel that means we don't have time for them and their kids. Good luck. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Who watches your child so you can actually go on a date? Posted: 4/30/2006 9:55:22 AM
To the OP. Personally I have to hire a baby sitter or meet during the dy when they are in headstart/school. I don't have any family within 100 miles. The kids mother is long gone and over 1000 miles away. Your post is hard to read since it is all jammed together like that. Fot babysitters I have hired teachers from the kids daycare/headstart. But that gets expensive quick. I haven't had anyone meet me at the gym yet where I have daycare as well as there is a drop in daycare here in town as well. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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do men actually exist that date women with kids?? Posted: 4/30/2006 9:46:06 AM
I have found that a lot of men where I live don't want an "instant family" they want one of their own. They are willing to let a perfectally good woman go for that reason. I don't know maybe it's only me who gets that. I find this funny from a woman who has in her profile....does not want kids...looking to hang out. Can you say "double standard"? Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Do single dads have a chance with girls without kids? Posted: 4/30/2006 8:59:56 AM
In my experience it has been that most women talk a good game but lack follow through. Least here in the States. Could be different in Canada. I have yet to be contacted or even replied to by any woman with a possible romantic interest or one that was even close enough that we could perhaps meet and do something. Good luck to you though. Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Native American Interpretation Of Religion Posted: 4/29/2006 7:58:27 AM
First thing to understand is that each tribal group had their own version of worldview or religion. Lumping them all together is asking for trouble. Secondly, the particular traditions aren't some thing you are going to learn from a book. In fact most of the real tribal spiritual leaders of those tribes where someone has books out on will tell you that most of what is in the books is hogwash and they refuse to speak about the authors themselves. Which is a sign of their contempt. Most of them follow the rule about "if you don't have somethign good to say about a person then don't say anything" way of thinking. Third, if you want to truely learn something like this go prove yourself and see if one will accept you as an apprentice. There are some teachers out there. As they say....when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Make it a great day, Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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Myers-Briggs Personality type...if you know it? Posted: 4/27/2006 1:46:57 PM
ENFJ Extroverted Intuitive Feeling Judging Strength of the preferences % 33 44 6 22 The Portrait of the Teacher Idealist (eNFj) The Idealists called Teachers are abstract in their thought and speech, cooperative in their style of achieving goals, and directive and extraverted in their interpersonal relations. Learning in the young has to be beckoned forth, teased out from its hiding place, or, as suggested by the word "education," it has to be "educed." by an individual with educative capabilities. Such a one is the eNFj, thus rightly called the educative mentor or Teacher for short. The Teacher is especially capable of educing or calling forth those inner potentials each learner possesses. Even as children the Teachers may attract a gathering of other children ready to follow their lead in play or work. And they lead without seeming to do so. Teachers expect the very best of those around them, and this expectation, usually expressed as enthusiastic encouragement, motivates action in others and the desire to live up to their expectations. Teachers have the charming characteristic of taking for granted that their expectations will be met, their implicit commands obeyed, never doubting that people will want to do what they suggest. And, more often than not, people do, because this type has extraordinary charisma. The Teachers are found in no more than 2 or 3 percent of the population. They like to have things settled and arranged. They prefer to plan both work and social engagements ahead of time and tend to be absolutely reliable in honoring these commitments. At the same time, Teachers are very much at home in complex situations which require the juggling of much data with little pre-planning. An experienced Teacher group leader can dream up, effortlessly, and almost endlessly, activities for groups to engage in, and stimulating roles for members of the group to play. In some Teachers, inspired by the responsiveness of their students or followers, this can amount to genius which other types find hard to emulate. Such ability to preside without planning reminds us somewhat of an Provider, but the latter acts more as a master of ceremonies than as a leader of groups. Providers are natural hosts and hostesses, making sure that each guest is well looked after at social gatherings, or that the right things are expressed on traditional occasions, such as weddings, funerals, graduations, and the like. In much the same way, Teachers value harmonious human relations about all else, can handle people with charm and concern, and are usually popular wherever they are. But Teachers are not so much social as educational leaders, interested primarily in the personal growth and development of others, and less in attending to their social needs.

ShadowKnight59

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Why do all my BF's cheat??? Posted: 4/27/2006 1:28:03 PM
Not all of us are. But then I am sure that it is possible that you may not have a wide enouhg range of experience to see that yet. Just rest assured that not all men cheat. One thing you might want to look at is what was the same about the two guys? Kevin

ShadowKnight59

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WHY WOMEN DON'T RESPOND: A REBUTTAL Posted: 4/27/2006 1:25:24 PM
Hey, maybe that is a new way to get responses? Might have to give it a try I don't know. But as someone said there are plenty of women on here that have the same kind of profile. Maybe that is why I dont' get responses...I have too much in my profile Kevin

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What will it take to win custody? Posted: 4/27/2006 8:00:17 AM
Well it sounds to me as if it was a clear case of abandonement. If you can prove that she has not had contact with your daughter since she left and if you can prove even some of what you said then you shouldn't have any problems unless you get a screwy judge. The courts will try to do the joint custody with you having legal and physical custody and her having visitation first I am sure...but depending on how much you can document and the judge you might get it all and her having supervised visitation or no visitation. As far as her being able to take your daughter and split town...well legally she can't do that. Especially not since you have filed for custody. Least that is how it is here. the cops would just go get her and bring her back as well as bring your daughter back to you. Hang in there dude. It can get rough but if you hang in there it can work out. Kevin

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