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startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 21 (view)

Guys that want no strings attached Posted: 11/23/2009 9:06:39 PM
maybe that is all he is good for...that is his evaluation of himself and he should know...so accept his opinion of himself and move on...or stay awhile and sample the goods before you move on...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

Are Our Standards Too High & Options to Great ? Posted: 11/23/2009 8:44:11 PM
people are basically all alike...if you want to succeed with people...you must develop a style which works...once you become a trully likable person...you will be able to easily make anyone like you...study your own style, attitude and personality to become your own best self...stay in that mode consistantly and it will become second nature....no one will be able to resist your positive attitude and you will be at peace with yourself....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 58 (view)

why do people feel like they need someone in their life . Posted: 11/20/2009 6:28:35 PM
relationships are more involved than just simple companionship or the nice feeling of being in love..there is a feeling of being owned, of having to answer to someone.....it feels like a job .....this person who now "loves" you thinks he can give advice, put restrictions on you, make demands, find fault....i prefer men who know their place, show respect and allow me my space....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 55 (view)

I have zero experience with older men. Posted: 11/17/2009 7:03:39 PM
i have been with alot of men in their 50's and 60's and the majority have a problem with getting and staying hard....this is not good news for women...trying to make it sound cute or sweet or no big deal is just being in denial....a month of this is okay but it gets old after a while....a woman is going to start looking with longing at younger men...some women don't really like sexual intercourse...they are thrilled i guess...older men with this problem are not as easy to deal with as some believe....they can be just as hard to deal with and usually harder to deal with than a younger man....as my girlfriend is always saying...older guys are grouchy....so just don't be surprised when you are asked to perform miracles in the bedroom...even the most skilled women will find one of these men a challenge...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 32 (view)

When is the time right? Posted: 11/17/2009 7:10:46 AM
this is a risk you take every time you have sex....sex is not glue...have sex because you want to...did you live this long without him...then you will live if you never see him again...in a few days you will forget all about him if he leaves...can you handle such minor disappointments....i am a nurse and one of my patients was blinded in a car accident five years ago...that is a problem...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 53 (view)

The other side of WTF was he thinking? Posted: 11/16/2009 9:08:48 PM
basically what you are trying to say is...why are older women so coy...i agree....a woman should just speak honestly and openly about what she wants....waiting for a fairy tale romance while life just passes you by is so yesterday...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 64 (view)

Would you ever consider being in a relationship with someone who is into BDSM? Posted: 11/12/2009 6:53:03 PM
heck no...people who say maybe they would consider it don't know what this is...get some details before you jump in...i asked a man who suggested this to me...to tell me exactly what he meant...after i heard what he was looking for i decided not to meet him and broke all contact...this is nothing but a demeaning and abusive type of sex ....sick is what it is....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 161 (view)

Have relationships made you bitter? Posted: 11/12/2009 4:44:24 PM
i don't feel the least bit bitter because no one forced me to do what i did or be with the one i was with..i was always free to leave at anytime but i stayed...people should look within and ask themselves what made them make the decisions they made...to grow as a person and learn from each mistake is the wisest way to live your life..

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 110 (view)

Must have car and job=gold digger? Posted: 11/11/2009 6:37:00 PM
men who complain about a female wanting this or that are just jealous and frustrated...they wish they could pick and choose their love interest...they wish they had females saying...please o please i want your body so much...here i'll give you this and this...but alas it isn't like that for men...they find themselves having to offer something...gifts, money or support is what some men offer....others are left just wondering...how do i get what i want hmmmmm.....you men sure do have a rough time of it...poor things....i feel so sorry for you....haha

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 47 (view)

Empty promises Posted: 11/11/2009 5:12:01 PM
if you meet a man who is offering you help, gifts or expensive dates.....and you act excited and interested ...it could happen...sometimes they can't really afford it or whatever, but at least see if you can't get those things from him...he may be serious...or maybe not...if not, o well...move on....if he isn't offering these things...what is he offering...maybe fake feelings, fake love....gifts, money or help are tangible things....you can see them, use them, appreciate them....a promise of a relationship which never materializes is all you get from most guys...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 34 (view)

Empty promises Posted: 11/10/2009 7:51:25 AM
it sounds like you have a hard time asking for things....if someone is saying they want to buy you something..assume they mean it and go from there...don't just wait for them to follow through like a shy little child waiting for your parents to plan everything for you....you need to be much more assertive if you want anything...this big strong protective man you are waiting for may never come along...meanwhile you as a single woman have real concrete needs....you surely can't do everything for yourself..no matter how much you wish that were true...you can try to be independent..but why should you if men are offering their help...open your mouth and ask for what you want...the worst that can happen is they say no...big deal...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 108 (view)

Whats with the harems? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:09:35 PM
players can be great in bed....homely guys are never good in bed because your heart is not in it..technique can only take them so far...you have to really want that body to have a chance of enjoying the sex...love, devotion etc are different issues...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 101 (view)

Whats with the harems? Posted: 11/9/2009 1:37:33 PM
on the subject of ..players..if a gorgeous guy is offering his delicious body..take it...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

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What do you make of this? Is this BPD? Posted: 11/9/2009 10:17:51 AM
you are living in a nightmare...i have lived in the same nightmare...this relationship is crazy making and draining....you have a life to live....if you leave him he's bound to come back someday...but basically he really isn't worth much...quit thinking about him and look around for someone who will do more for you....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 72 (view)

Whats with the harems? Posted: 11/9/2009 8:56:05 AM
maybe they have too many things going on in their lives and don't feel this is the right time for a relationship...maybe they haven't had enough sexual experiences yet in their life and would like to see what different women are like...maybe they have a long list of desires in a women and you are lacking in one or two qualifications...maybe they lack the ability to fall in love....maybe they like single life....maybe they are too difficult to live with and know it....i could go on and on... but really why would you waste your time wondering...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

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Empty promises Posted: 11/8/2009 8:35:18 PM
very common...guys say that kinda thing all the time...i consider it flirting...i don't think about ..cool if it came true...try to get your drain unstopped or whatever...you deserve their help...don't be so proud...i act interested in what they say..you don't get it because you don't seem interested in their help/gifts....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 50 (view)

Should I get divorced? Posted: 11/8/2009 5:46:35 PM
just think of what your life will be like if you divorce...will your wife be able to handle a job and a child...she needs you more than she knows...this guy she is looking for won't help her...save her from making a big mistake she will regret...all three of you will be miserable...go on a romantic trip, buy her flowers, etc....fight for what you have...hire a maid service...but really get her off facebook...maybe throw the computer in the trash...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 42 (view)

Should I get divorced? Posted: 11/8/2009 4:19:57 PM
because of the child, i feel you should try to make it work...there is no easy way out of this for you...divorce is not going to put your life back to where it was...your wife is not happy..the dirty house, the looking for love elsewhere...these are signs she is dissatisfied with you..before you throw in the towel...see if you can't light a fire in her....it is worth a shot...if you and she could fall in love again...these problems would be solved...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

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Past financial debt torn us apart Posted: 11/8/2009 2:59:25 PM
as of now, you haven't done anything stupid...you are looking, watching, observing...good for you...if you haven't moved in with him, don't...maintain your independence....let him live his life the way he wants to and you live yours...you should not let the emotions of love draw you into a situation you are not comfortable with...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

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Why do hot girls never give a chance to an average looking guy? Posted: 11/7/2009 10:36:33 PM
division77...let's just say...homely...they have a chip on their shoulder...so watch out...in fact, any guy the least bit ordinary is dangerous...if you just stick with all those horrible "players"...you can have fun...without the drama...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 1096 (view)

Who do you ask out? Posted: 11/7/2009 10:18:35 PM
even though average looking guys have a great reputation...they are the nice guys who no one gives a chance to...this is not always the case...you can chat up one these average guys and ending regretting it...they can be very vindictive if it doesn't end up working out...a cute guy has options...he just leaves ..moves on ..no problem...the average looking guy has to throw a few parting shots....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 365 (view)

That's WHY It's Called Sex Appeal Posted: 11/7/2009 9:44:03 PM
it is wrong to allow a man to spend money on you for an extended time if you have no interested in having sex with him...and a woman knows this is wrong whether she admits it or not...this is to me sinful...because you are deceiving someone for your own selfish interests...to fake an innocence of what you are doing is transparent....we women should be better than that....fair is fair...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 43 (view)

He lied about his age...only by two years....should i be concerned? Posted: 11/7/2009 9:30:05 PM
do you only date perfect people ..if so dump him immediately...if you a card-carrying member of the human race..i say keep him around for a while...looking down your nose at men for being human will get you no where in life...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 113 (view)

Impatient in meeting Posted: 11/7/2009 9:17:36 PM
most guys say let's meet tonight...that is because they are browsing, sitting around doing nothing, thinking about sex and women and hey there is no time like the present...i go ahead and go if i am up for it ....sometimes i am too tired...sometimes they say i have tickets for such and such..want to come...you have to think fast...do you want to ...are you really interested...sitting around pondering is a waste of time...how much do you need to know...this isn't rocket science...go check them out...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 422 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/7/2009 7:56:12 PM
once a man reaches a certain age there will be a power shift in his relationship with women because his ability to perform sexually is wanning..that is just a fact that must be faced...if this man is confronted with a sexually vibrant woman who obviously still wants and can have as good a sex life as ever and he cannot offer that...this presents problems...if he is determined to pursue her...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 328 (view)

I Don't Need A Man.., I very Independent..etc etc = RED Flags? Posted: 11/7/2009 7:20:26 PM
i feel it is premature to express your feelings about independence in the profile...however, because men are so hyper-sensitive on the whole subject of...what do you want from me...the women might just tell you up front...yes i do need your help..or no i don't need your help...it is up to the man to decide for himself whether he wants to help financially or not...everyone is entitled to decide for themselves what they want to do...it is an issue that will come up for discussion sooner or later..no one has to help you..and no one has to stay if they would rather go...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

Creepy Posted: 11/6/2009 6:41:36 PM
a lot of guys i have met tell of meeting women and ditching them quick or even lambasting them for not looking like their picture....i try to stay and talk to the man no matter what...but sometimes manners are not appreciated...i have had a few men accuse me of not really liking them and leaving abruptly..even though i am trying to be polite...i have also had guys accuse me being a working girl just because i was being nice to them..men are just rude, uncouth little beasts by nature...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk Posted: 11/6/2009 4:12:39 PM
boston69...i believe you are rambling...any woman who would pay her own way on a date...or be happy with a man offering nothing but a smile..is unclear of her worth...she is offer all in hope of a payday tommorrow...it won't work ...pay as you go is my policy...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 103 (view)

IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/6/2009 2:55:48 PM
bad*monkeyfunker....in your long list of qualities you fail to mention how they treat women...exterior qualities don't always show what is in your heart...a man may appear to you to be a ..good catch...yet may be hell to live with or treat women poorly when no one is watching...it comes under the heading ...be careful what you wish for...these men ..as i have said repeatedly ..may not be as fine and wonderful as you persist in believing...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 412 (view)

Are older men sometimes intimidated by older sexy women? Posted: 11/6/2009 1:17:09 PM
in order to answer this question intelligently, a woman would first have to put herself in the shoes an older man...after years of self pride in his ability to perform admirably. in the sexual arena..he now finds himself, out of work...of course, he would feel a loss of confidence...when he is confronted by an older woman who still wants it...perhaps now more that ever..he feels a sense of...where were you when i needed you....he could try to please you in other areas...gifts, money, dinners, emotional support, loyalty...however...i am sure his sense of loss is profound....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 83 (view)

IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/6/2009 11:39:14 AM
bad*monkeyfunker....we were discussing men in general and their attitudes and actions...not you...you freely admit you are not decent....however, you are under the mistaken believe there is this body of righteous gentlemen who we women should pursue...these men are different....honorable and trustworthy......i say again....show me the proof.....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 62 (view)

IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/6/2009 8:23:23 AM
bad*monkeyfunker..how many men have you dated..in other words, all you know about it is what the men tell you about themselves...i date men...i have experience in this...so if you want to know about men...ask someone who knows...don't believe what they tell you about themselves...that is just what they want people to believe about them...as i said before...men are men...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 56 (view)

IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/6/2009 8:03:12 AM
bad*monkeyfunker...sexual attraction is a major part of the whole scenario....decent men have sexual needs as well...in fact, there is not a real difference between these two broad categories...men and decent men....there are a lot of variables besides...decent and not...in other words, men are men....this label men put on themselves is just a smokescreen...i say..show me the proof you are so decent...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 45 (view)

IS IT TRUE THAT A WOMAN SHOULDN’T PURSUE A MAN? Posted: 11/6/2009 7:09:50 AM
if a female has any kind of sex appeal...she is being pursued plenty...if you want her but you drop the ball..sorry, your tough luck...gee, but it is so hard having to call and all that....well, that's the way it goes...the lady has a gaggle of guys...who are brave enough to call...so go to the back of the line....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

What's the point? Posted: 11/5/2009 7:37:33 PM
i have never found a man who likes the same movies i like...men and women are different politcally usually...food...who cares i eat to live....the dog is not going to be able give you a few things you can get from a man...you are focusing on some minor issues...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 38 (view)

Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk Posted: 11/5/2009 5:06:40 PM
the word equality is meaningless to me...mr boston69...i have never even thought of this word in regards to male/female relations...did you ever hear of ying and yang...i feel it is more to the point...i have no use for equality..the concept is laughable...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 65 (view)

STD/Mutual Testing Questions Posted: 11/5/2009 4:48:09 PM
if a condom is not enough to make you feel safe...celibacy is your other option....people this leery of sexual relations should really consider it seriously....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 62 (view)

STD/Mutual Testing Questions Posted: 11/5/2009 4:24:01 PM
did you ever hear about something called ...a condom...celibacy works too...trying to take control over someone else's health habits is ....frankly, presumptuous...unless you and this man are engaged....it is too premature to dictate to him....you and he could go get a test today and tonight he could have sex with an infected woman....so you take your chances or you protect yourself....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 286 (view)

Love,Quality of life and who pays Posted: 11/5/2009 8:06:36 AM
i vote that grandmabooboo and teenwolf get together...they sound to me like the perfect match....you two kids have fun...you see ,, teenwolf,, i told you there was someone out there for you....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 92 (view)

Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/5/2009 7:33:57 AM
britt...please don't twist yourself into a prezel trying to please these men...they still won't be satisfied....you have so much going for you...that is the big secret they don't want you to know....once you lose track of that simple fact...you lose...keep your goals...and don't give up....there are good men out there....good luck...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

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Why to worry about when to give sex? Posted: 11/4/2009 8:28:38 PM
i really hate to burst your bubble again, girls but...he probably was not going to fall madly in love with you even if you waited until 2012....my mother used to like the expression....you can't squeeze blood out of a turnip...do men really fall in love...i suppose....deeply, for how long, how often....face it, men are limited....therefore, i decide what to do sexually based on what i want...not on how men might view me....their opinion of me is meaningless....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 61 (view)

Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/4/2009 5:49:27 PM
britt...there a lot of men who are basically good for nothing....if you are looking for a husband...you are going to have to look high and low for a man who is offering anything of any value..if your goal is to get married and have a family...don't waste your time wondering about the men who are not offering you anything but a good time...don't even give them a second thought...they aren't worth your time...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

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Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk Posted: 11/4/2009 5:20:36 PM
good for you...hang on to your wallet...the world is not going to change because you demand it...but hey there is someone for everyone..there may be a woman out there for you...happy just for the company...have a great life...there are women who will go dutch treat...never ask for a dime...she out there just waiting for you to come along...offering nothing but a smile....have fun....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

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Gold Diggers, or someone of that ilk Posted: 11/4/2009 3:58:31 PM
isn't it nice of you to want to look out for all these poor men...they have to pay for dates, sometimes it even leads to taking care of a whole family ...all on their little bitty paycheck...isn't it great there are women like you out there...willing to accept what....dutch treat, pulling your own weight, asking for basically nothing....get a hold of yourself...you have value in a relationship with a man...their propaganda is not really working with many women....no one i know...that is why they are so bitter..they will always have to pay...sorry guys...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 260 (view)

Love,Quality of life and who pays Posted: 11/4/2009 3:14:28 PM
it must be tough being a man...paying for dates...wow, that must suck...maybe in your next life you will come back a woman....we women have it made....gee, i wonder... how did it turn out this way...do you men not have a clue....or are you just playing dumb...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 238 (view)

Love,Quality of life and who pays Posted: 11/4/2009 8:26:34 AM
the name calling i am referring to is...gold digger...i am sure you have heard the word a few times.....as i said...if a woman wants and needs your help and you don't want to give it...simply be on your way....

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 236 (view)

Love,Quality of life and who pays Posted: 11/4/2009 8:09:10 AM
if you met a woman who you were very attracted to, who was a good person but struggling ..would you help...if you wanted to dated her ...to see her...but her mind was on her bills....what would you do...perhaps...you should just pass her by...because maybe what you are offering her ...she can't use right now..perhaps for her it is crunch time...so be on your way and find that strong, self sufficient female partner who can pull her own weight...there really is no need for name calling, bitterness and anger...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 86 (view)

Confused & upset - Why do men do this? Posted: 11/3/2009 9:16:29 PM
you just need to hang loose and not take everything so serious...you met a nice guy and had a good time...let it go...you are going to met a lot of guys...do they all have to be ..the love of your life...relax and have fun with it...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 48 (view)

HOW CAN YOU BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE WITHOUT CAUSING THAT PERSON PAIN? Posted: 10/30/2009 11:04:03 PM
i don't want to ruin my reputation on pof ...but i have never used the steven king method of breaking up on someone...i merely answered in a hypothetical way...the reason is...why pray tell is everyone on here so deadpan...is it because the very thought of losing a love drive you bonkers...i mean do you have no choices, no prospects...is someone breaking up with you an actual problem...do you cling to everyone you meet for dear life...did you ever think maybe that is the reason he left...allow people to breathe...give them their space...suffocation is uncomfortable...

startle

Joined: 7/22/2008

Msg: 57 (view)

are we all here because we hate the opposite sex??? Posted: 10/30/2009 10:31:36 PM
i love men and they love me...here is why i am not married...i don't want to hear the tv blarring golf 24/7.....i don't want to hear ...hurry up when i am getting ready..and yes it does take me two hours to get ready...i don't want a man around who lives for food,,must eat several times a day...because i end up getting fat...those are my main beefs...single life is heaven...so why should i change...men love that i am so easy to get along with..and if i was married i would have to give up my pleasant,, peaceful existence...

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