message him with a non threatening inviting type message, ask him a question about himself as if you're interested - when he replies - then zap him.

"The point of the article is not to settle for any schmo off the street, but a good guy you like, enjoy the company of, and have realistic expectations of,"

Like what would your reaction be if a guy busted out a latex examination glove (a new one) during foreplay?

Well, I follwed my instincts and left before the obvious (IMO).

I mean how naive can you get. he's screwing others; end of story;

See this is so silly. If you felt like e-mailing twice. Email twice. If she is interested she will not mind. I cannot stand the whole who e-mailed, texted, called last. If I feel like reaching out to someone I just will regardless of who initiated last contact.

ER...she has already stated they don't use condoms, so why would he have them if he wasn't using them with/for her????

My motto is: no love, no sex.

So because they are on the other end of an electronic device, be it computer or telephone, that makes them less than human somehow? Second class so to speak?

Any suggestions on how i can control my sexual urges to wanna **** them soo bad and not end up having sex with them

It was not a challenge. I was simply stating a fact. But thanks.

've been reading the forums for over a year, and I haven't seen a single thread that was started by a woman that speaks well of men, all men.

I've been reading the forums for over a year, and I haven't seen a single thread that was started by a woman that speaks well of men, all men.

I don't own a cell phone for the simple reason that at least 90% of my contact with
friends and family is by email.

I think it's rude to give out your number, then not answer when they call.

Still, I wonder, are you often more introverted when it comes to conversing with people face to face or is it just phones that peeve you? If you're open with people in person (hehe) then... whats wrong? Do you have trouble setting up dates? Do you use your computer more often to email messages or is that annoying to you too?

But to say "It didn't happen" isn't dealing with reality on your part. It DID happen and your own call log is proof of it.

The call waiting thing.. OMIGAWWWD!! Where in the world have manners gone?! I'd disable mine if I knew how (new phone). It's so rude to even have that feature!

Are you telling guys BEFORE they call you about your "phone standards", esp if it deviates from the norm? If not, you can't expect guys to read your mind.

First you admit to not being a phone person, so someone that takes another call over continuing a conversation with you should not be a big deal (since you've explained that you are not a phone person).

You can't have everything go your way. You don't like to stay on the phone...but you don't want people to end calls with you if they get another call...sounds one-sided to me. You want them to be "reasonable" yet you own a phone and you are not being reasonable.

If you never take note of your missed calls how do you know you've received voicemail?

from what you write you sound like you want to be the center of everyone's world that comes into contact with you.

why would some guy your dating leave a voice mail, they called you didn't pick up. call again later.

What does it tell you about the women who apparently love men very much, some of which are apparently on this website, but never write a single line of praise?

I think what the women are saying is fair. If we would not try it then we should not expect them to. I have not worked up the courage to try mine yet. So no expectation.

I don't like these "cry wolf" threads when the other party isn't here to get their side of the story or defend themselves.It takes two to tango...I'm not condoning his behavior.......I'm just sayin....

She should accept her role in what has transpired , she made a prediction which came true.Maybe she was taught a lesson by being stood up.

Some common courtesy practiced amongst all members of our society might result in a much more pleasureable environment

What about COMMITTMENT - "until death do us part." If both people have committed in their heart, mind, and actions to make the relationship a success, there really should be no reason for relational failure.

I have many men writing me and asking me for dates. Real men have no problem with my style.
I see you fighting in the forums with men.
Let's add this up....
Nah, ....sigh.....fighting with women is not my style either.

First, people tend to rush into relationships too quickly and before you know it, you are in bed with them. I know some are OK with casual sex. But the fact of the matter is once you give the ultimate of what you can give another person- yourself, your body, your soul, ask yourself was it just lust? Chances are yes. Once you have crossed that line and given your body you can never go back.

I'm just curious then, if everyone holds on to the same mentality they have at clubs, how are they to expect anything to change online ?

I do NOT assume that she will want to have sex on the first date.

So, I'm not gonna be prepared like THAT! Just not gonna happen.

And to clarify, about garlic and onions. I meant while ON the date!

For example, Artichoke heart and spinach dip, most times has both in it. And I like this dip, especially at Red Robin. So, I'm not going to avoid it. She's just gonna have to deal with. However, she will probably be eating it too. So, things should be fine.

I still respect and admire my ex's a great deal, and if one of them was lucky enough to be loved by one of my girlfriends then I would support them both in their happiness.

Men don't come back for seconds or THIRDS if they know that there is nothing there for them.
Did she cook him something? Did she do something nice for him? Did she promise him a bit of fun? Can we assume (REALLY!) that she did nothing in return? I don't think so.

He just happened to get eased off, thankyou very much, and he is burnt by it. Just like playing Monopoly, he lost and wasn't a very good loser.

wow, amber...
Just remember why you are on POF. You are in the water with the rest of us looking for a man. Straight up. Not going to ice the cake for you.
For a man to read just what you wrote above...whew!

Most people couldn't care less about profile content, its all about the picture.

I would contact someone with "i'm a serial killer looking for my next victim" written in their profile

If a woman doesn't like your looks it won't mean sweet diddly squat what's written in your profile.

Strange how every woman immediately assumes that a younger woman can't possibly love an older man without some other motive