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Me too! Posted: 6/24/2009 2:44:55 AM
You know, I was afraid of that myself. Thank you - I'll tone it down a bit.

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 6:21:04 PM
Thanks for your input. I know there are a lot of head shots, but I think the body shots are so that you can show you are not hefty - not that there's anything wrong with that - and I think you can tell by my face that I'm not. Plus I'm proud at how natural the "work" I've had done on my face looks.....now I'm really kidding! Maybe I'm not showing my "assets" well enough with my body shot. But they are there - just don't want to advertise to the wrong crowd, you know?

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 12:47:29 PM
Thanks again Y!

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 12:25:54 PM
Y - okay, after reading your profile I see that I do indeed respect your opinion and I agreed with the woman who said she was careful not to have liquid in her mouth before opening one of your e-mails. Okay, I have one question.... will YOU write my profile? Make that two questions... About how much did all of those great testimonials set you back?

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 12:12:54 PM
Can someone give me a for instance on the handle/headline thing? I have a brain glitch or something

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 12:08:06 PM
Thanks. I'm a little confused about the handle/headline thing. Will look into it.

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 12:06:43 PM
Well, I think I'm a little old for anyone younger than 46 and from my experience (and level of maturity) guys older than 51 seem somewhat "fatherly" when I've been on dates with them. Still, I guess I could raise the latter age a bit....

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 11:49:38 AM
Okay, I tweaked it a little bit. I'm not sure I can convey my sense of humor effectively. I come off sounding off the wall - which I guess is the kind of sense of humor I have. I'll give it a try. Thanks!

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 10:29:07 AM
Thanks for the input and the little smiley face at the end to soften the blow!

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Will I ever be favorited? Posted: 6/23/2009 9:40:20 AM
I got a chuckle out of it and I don't see why a woman with the same sense of humor wouldn't contact you just for fun. I'm not sure about being made a favorite - not enough material to go back to and read for repeat laughs. That's why I make some profiles favorites. By the way, your likkle gyal is adorable!

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Me too! Posted: 6/23/2009 9:34:09 AM
I have seen some great advice given here. How about my profile? Could one (or many)of you take a look and let me know what you think? Any ideas concerning tag line, description (or lack of), or photos will be much appreciated. Thanks in advance!

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tired of being lonely Posted: 6/23/2009 7:52:34 AM
I'm not lonely, but I don't want to be alone forever. Neither do I want to be with the wrong person again forever either. I've started working on my self-esteem and communication issues because those are what have messed me up in relationships past. I never seem to get what I want in the relationship, so eventually I give it up because I don't want to "change" anyone and so they go on to the next woman and give her everything. Why? Because she probably wouldn't settle for less than she wanted. I don't know, but I spent so many years in a miserable marriage that I won't do that again. You'll find some good advice in these forums and references to some great self-help books. Try to keep yourself busy working on you. I know it's not easy. Keeping communication to a minimum with your ex is a helpful way to get over him (that's if you have kids). If you don't have kids with him, don't communicate with/see him at all.

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please help i dont have a clue what to do Posted: 6/22/2009 9:43:28 AM
See what good advice is on here? Pay attention to it! 1. Oh yeah, she needs to end it with the other guy first, definitely. Don't even consider talking about getting back together until she does. 2. Try to remember why it didn't work out the first time. Sometimes all we can recall are the good things, which were obviously overshadowed by the bad that ended up with one of you calling it quits.

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How do I go on after a devastating breakup? Posted: 6/22/2009 9:23:58 AM
OP, I'm sorry this happened to you, but I would see it as a red flag that she wanted to talk about marriage so early - I know it happens for some people, but being ready for that big of a committment takes a couple of years, realistically, sometimes more. Marriage to someone you hardly know? When I read that kind of thing, I always cringe. Devastating breakups are no fun - I know. Good luck in your future relationships. As for me, I keep reading these things, hoping that someone will post a magical place that we can go to have a wand waved over our heads and hearts and make it all the hurt go away....... Darn, still haven't found it!

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He broke his own heart. Posted: 6/22/2009 9:02:34 AM
He should give it a shot. She may be happy with the new guy, she may not. He should be prepared either way. If he really just wants to smooth things over and not leave things on bad terms then he should go for it. If it's going to "kill" him to find out she's moved on, then he should too and not worry about it. If it's true love, wouldn't it be romantic if he learned a lesson and got her back? AWWWW! Just like in the movies! I would only call him a jerk if he hasn't learned a lesson and does the same to her again. I hope not.

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Don't Really Care Posted: 6/22/2009 8:53:29 AM
........No, I don't ever get to that point. If I did, I would have ended my last relationship about five months into it when all the problems started............ Why is it that the problems always start then, when you've already become attached? What did you do about the problems, gentlemaNJIM4ONE? Are you still with that woman? If not, at what point did you call it quits?

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Don't Really Care Posted: 6/22/2009 8:48:36 AM
I wish I could say I don't really care - but I do. I want a decent relationship. I scan these forums a lot when I'm looking; for advice, consolation, a really great pearl of wisdom I can learn from.... like this one: Your previous msg said it. I have to be willing to see what is there in front of me. Until I'm willing to see it for what it is, I may continue self-sabotaging and repeating this same ole dance. However, when I was driving home today and her venomous text came, I wasn't really hurt or shocked. I became desensitized to this type of backlash in recent months. In a way, it's made me stronger. Her insightful reply: Sometimes it feels strong to cut off our feelings, but in healing circles there's a saying that goes, The Only Way Out is Through -- so please don't think going numb is strength. The strength comes from feeling the feelings, facing them, looking at them, understanding them and growning and changing. There are people who spend their whole lives refusing to do this. I am going to remember this. I have a tendency to deny my feelings and try to replace one relationship with another. I have done this my entire relationship life. Then I found a good one that didn't quite work out. I'm trying to do the same with him (replace him quickly and move on), but it's not working. I can't fight the heart-broken feeling. I have to heal first. I understand this for the first time, ever. That's why these forums can be a good thing.

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How do you heal from the broken heart?...seriously! Posted: 6/22/2009 8:28:56 AM
I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. This is what you have to do. Cut off all communication with him. ALL of it. It is sad that your kids got so attached to this man, but he is not their father. You don't have to communicate because he is their biological father and has "rights" to them. Do not answer his calls, or see him and for crying out loud, STOP HAVING SEX WITH HIM!!! I know this is difficult for you - the knowing how much "fun" he is having with the other woman, etc. If that relationship was so great you wouldn't be hearing from him. Stay away from him for 30 days. Take it one day at a time. You need to do it for your sanity. He sounds really controlling anyway and nobody needs that. My ex of 17 years denied me everything; emotions, respect, consideration, almost my education (yep, blamed me for our problems any time I spent extra time studying, working, etc.), but you know what? I kept going with it because I knew I was going to leave him one day - I hope you don't give up your education, it's too important. Now my ex is remarried to a woman he loves and respects. They travel and have goals and dreams together - everything we didn't have. It was killing me at first - why not me, blah, blah, blah.....until I decided no more communication with him, about him, etc. I know I don't want him, I just didn't want to know about him being so happy. Not hearing about him (which is difficult to avoid sometimes because we have a son together) has done me a world of good. Don't have anything to do with him for 30 days. You can do it. Re-evaluate then. He may even try to get you back, but he hasn't changed. He's not in a good relationship. Get yourself in shape to be in one the next time around. It doesn't feel like it, but it will happen. Don't put yourself in a position to be used because that will feel ten thousand times worse. Hope this helped. Good luck.

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Goodbye? Posted: 6/20/2009 7:44:05 AM
It's time to say goodbye when something is missing in the relationship and the two of you cannot communicate constructively enough to make a lasting change. Is the thing missing in that case lack of real love? Maybe. If two people are meant to be together, they could probably learn to communicate in some way to keep the relationship alive. The one left: Cry a lot, wallow for a couple of days, then start trying to rebuild yourself. Get back out there, either dating again or by joining a group for support and sharing common interests. The one leaving: Same as above. But only cry and wallow if you had to leave for a reason, but still actually love the person. If you left for a reason and the reason was that you couldn't stand the sight of the person any longer - throw a party!!! To move on requires introspection, self-improvement in the areas you feel you failed in and approaching the next relationship with the knowledge that you know what you want from it and won't let it continue another day if you see a pattern of behavior that made you end the other relationships you were in. Don't waste either your or the other person's precious time. Life is too long (ha - you thought I was going to say short!) when enduring constant broken heartedness or staying with the wrong person.

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If You Love Someone and You Make Them Angry Posted: 6/20/2009 6:52:42 AM
Well, in his defense, he feels that he was not represented fairly in my first post and called me on it. I was becoming insecure about not seeing him more often and started to second guess the relationship. I gave him many reasons to feel I was flaking out because of my insecurity. He said I should have mentioned that he was very patient with me (he was)..... and that he canceled plans with his kids to see me as well (that is a point that my "jury" is still out on, however, but it's over, so why quibble?) Also, he has had his share of crazies in his dating/married life (haven't we all) and I suppose he is overly sensitive to what he perceives as yet another one. But I'm not one of the dating nuts - really! I am looking for a solid, stable, effective communication-able partner. I want to feel that whomever I am with wants to be with me and is not just hanging around until someone better comes along, which is what I was starting to feel - whether my perception was off (he said it was) or not, I don't know. Remind me why we want to be in a relationships again? Why we continue to put ourselves through this?

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so I could use some advice... Posted: 6/20/2009 6:40:06 AM
These forums can be so helpful at times. I'm going through a similar situation myself and believe me, I know what you are feeling. I've never been lonely either and I've been in many relationships. I met a man on this site and finally realized what had been missing all my dating (and even married) life. We had a bit longer relationship that you and yours did and all I can offer by way of consolation is that - and I'm not really speaking from any kind of experience because it just ended and I don't know if I'll ever find love like that again - is that at least now you know what you want in a companion. Maybe you never knew what you were looking for all these years and now you can go forward and look with that in mind. I kind of agree that maybe she wasn't 100% over her ex-husband - again I can't speak from experience and how she is feeling because I was 100% over mine many years before I even left. You could check in with her from time to time, but don't see her in a friendship situation for your own sanity's sake. Just casually give her a call every couple of months to show that you care if you get the vibe that she likes hearing from you. I feel bad for you, I really do. I have the same hole in my life now and it does hurt like hell. I wish you good luck and love.

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If You Love Someone and You Make Them Angry Posted: 6/20/2009 5:54:50 AM
Thank you everyone - I really didn't expect so many replies! I have apologized and he accepted it, I think. Unfortunately it wasn't meant to be, but I'll always think of him fondly and hope he thinks of me the same.

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If You Love Someone and You Make Them Angry Posted: 6/19/2009 8:32:36 PM
How do you assure them that you didn't mean to? I love someone whom I met on this site very much and with one of my posts which he saw on here, I offended him. A relationship between us is not possible anymore because we want very different things from life, but I don' t want him to hate me. How can I make things right (we can't be friends because my jealously would consume me) between us? What would be acceptable besides an e-mail apology?

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When should you not ask for what you want in a relationship? Posted: 6/16/2009 2:01:42 PM
Okay, so you've used that line, didn't want to commit, then frantically tried to get the woman back when she said it wasn't working for her? I don't understand that behavior either. Why wouldn't you/he just stay away the first time? I'm not out to change anyone, I was just going to let it go when I felt it wasn't working for me after the six month mark.

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When should you not ask for what you want in a relationship? Posted: 6/16/2009 1:32:44 PM
As you all read this, please understand that I blame myself for screwing up, but I don't want this to happen to me in another relationship, so if someone would be so kind as to tell me exactly where I went wrong, I would appreciate it. I met a guy on this site who in his profile stated that he lived one day at a time. After six months I found out how true this was, but I had fallen madly in love with him, as he had so many other great qualities I have never experienced with anyone else in my 30+ years of dating, LTRs, or even marriage. I just wanted to simply BE with him - it didn't matter what we were doing. It's just that, I never knew when we would be together. He truly does live one day at a time. He explained that he lives by the philosophy that "we may not be here tomorrow." I told him at that point that I needed some plans once in awhile. He said I knew how he was when I met him and that was it. I tried breaking it off. After several days he seemed frantic to get back together and I of course was too, so just being grateful to have each other back, the same pattern of no concrete plans to see each other ensued. Three months later, the situation had gotten worse. Now we would have plans, but something else would come up (for instance, the promise from his kids that they would come visit) and boom, plans cancelled for us. Then the kids coming would fall through and he would be free; unfortunately I had made other arrangements. I told him I needed to know that when we have plans that they are kept; that I feel dismissed, ignored and disappointed every time I feel "blown off." He told me in so many words that the choice between me and his kids would be a "real easy" one, if that is what I was asking of him. Does it sound like I was asking that of him? Should I have kept my mouth shut knowing how he is, or stopped dating him from the beginning? What mistakes did I make? I'm hurting like hell, but somehow feel I did the right thing by breaking up for good this time.

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Broke up w/TRUE NARCISSIST - Do I tell his ex what he is? Posted: 6/16/2009 1:00:13 PM
I have a question about the narcissist. Can a person with these tendencies actually change if they meet someone they respect? Do they only display this behavior with who they consider the weak in the herd? Sorry about the off track question - this post got me thinking about this type of person.

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Bad Dates Resulting in Picked Noses Posted: 6/16/2009 12:31:49 PM
When I'm not interested, I insist on paying for my share of the date, then if he calls again, say I didn't think we were a good match. I'm not good at being rude, even if my date is.

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confused broken heart need serious advice Posted: 6/16/2009 10:33:04 AM
Yes, what RR said, only she said it better. Sorry if I sounded condescending and "preachy." Again, good luck and if you promise Shannon that you will change - DO IT!!! Sorry, the preachy thing again.

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why is it Posted: 6/16/2009 10:26:08 AM
It's so hard out here. I hate it. And I just ended a relationship myself with a guy I met 9 months ago right here on POF, who is probably wondering what is wrong with me because I was and still am madly in love with him, but I was the one who was the doormat and always have been with guys and, finally, I realized that I just can't accept that behavior any longer. I am tired of being taken for granted, put way down on the priority list, made to pay for others' bad treatment of the guy, etc. But I digress. I would like to advise you to change your profile. Stop repeating how much you have been hurt (you may be attracting a sick, cruel type of female, even on a subconscious level). List more things you are interested in doing and what you are looking for simply and sincerely, but don't keep mentioning that you have been hurt all the time. You are a cute, friendly looking guy and you sound like you have a lot to offer, but you come off as desperate in your profile. Keep being nice, keep being you, but do what you can to up that confidence level. I'm working on that myself now and am giving it one month before I get on here and try again. Good luck and love to you!

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confused broken heart need serious advice Posted: 6/16/2009 9:59:09 AM
This is easy. Your insecurity is ruining this relationship. The best thing you can do if you really want to salvage this is to offer to seek counseling for yourself and then do it! If a girl kept picking fights with you, wouldn't talk about it and broke up with you every time, think of the emotional toll it would take on you and who needs that? You want to have a healthy, happy relationship. You sound like you want that with Shannon, but are just terrified of being hurt or made a fool of. You owe her the consideration of trusting her unless and until she proves unworthy of it (and not just in your mind - real proof). Stop sabotaging this thing - it sounds like it could be great! Good luck and I wish I could solve my own relationship problems so easily. Maybe if you find my advice helpful you could give my problems a shot. I could use a guy's advice.

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How does someone say they love you and miss you, three weeks later starts seeing someone else? Posted: 6/15/2009 11:47:30 AM
I may have missed why your relationship ended, but that could have something to do with what's happening. For instance, is it over because of a problem that couldn't be worked out? This past weekend I ended a nine month relationship with a guy I met on here whom I had fallen wildly in love with, but he just could never make plans with me and keep them. I feel like my oxygen supply has been cut off, but I couldn't go on never knowing when I was going to see him and feeling like I was not very high on his priority list. I ended it in order to salvage my self-esteem and it's killing me, but I will go on and keep looking and, yes, probably before three weeks have passed - if only to keep my mind off of him. The meetup.com advice is good. You should definitely check it out. I belong to several of the groups, but haven't been participating because I was dating who I thought was the perfect guy.....

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Single Parents and Kids - The Maize at Temple Hall Farms Fall Get-Together in Leesburg, Virginia Oct 19th Posted: 10/3/2008 9:47:41 AM
I thought this sounded like fun and a great way to meet other single parents/grandparents and do things with the kids. Details about the venue to follow. If this is successful, let's get together on a regular basis! Date: October 19, 2008 Time of Event Start: 2:00 p.m. Name of Venue: Temple Hall Farms Address of Venue: 15789 Temple Hall Ln City/Town: Leesburg, Virginia 20176 Our corn maize opens on weekends beginning September 26th and closes on November 2nd. The hours are as follows: Fridays 4-10 PM, Saturdays 10 AM - 10 PM and Sundays 10 AM - 6 PM. Fall Festival of Fun and The MAiZE Every year Temple Hall Farm creates a giant cornfield MAiZE. Thousands of visitors "get lost" in the MAiZE as they try to find their way out. After going through the MAiZE visitors can go to the pick your own pumpkin patch, go shoot the corn cannon, ride on the cow train, bounce on the cow belly bounce, or take a hay ride. Adults (ages 12 and older) - per person $10.00 Kids (ages 3 - 11) - per person $8.00 Kids 2 and under FREE Senior Citizens (55 years or older) - per person $8.00 Includes admission to the Maize and Barnyard Fun Activities (Pony riders must weigh less than 100 lbs.) except the Horse Drawn Wagon Rides. Saturdays and Sundays, 10 A. M. to 6 P.M. GROUP RATES - MAIZE & BARNYARD FUN ACTIVITIES (15 or more people) - per person Ages 3 - 11 $6.00 Ages 12 and older $8.00 Senior Citizens (55 years and older) $6.00 Directions: From Washington Beltway I-495 Tysons Corner Take Route 7 or Route 267 (toll Road) west to Leesburg At Leesburg take Route 15 North toward Frederick MD. Go 5 miles. Turn Right on Route 661 (Limestone School Road), Go 3/4 mile to Park entrance on left. From Frederick and Point of Rocks, Maryland Take Route 15 South past Lucketts to a Left on Route 661 (Limestone School Rd.) Go 3/4 mile to park entrance on left. From Maryland via White's Ferry. At Route 15 turn right and go 1 mile to Right on Route 661 (Limestone School Rd) Go 3/4 mile to Park entrance on left. This Year Pumpkins will be available every weekend! NOTE: Absolutely NO PETS allowed on Temple Hall Farm Regional Park grounds.

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Here's my two cents Posted: 9/11/2008 12:28:35 PM
I was on here trying to get some ideas/advice myself and came across your request. I think your profile looks nice - straight and to the point - and your picture is good. More pictures might be an idea, maybe a full body shot if possible (I know those are hard to get without explaining to someone why you want them to take that picture of you) Some questions for you: Are you actively contacting women or waiting for them to contact you? How long have you been on this site? Along with your profile, when you reply to someone who contacts you, or when you make initial contact, make sure you put a little "personality" into it. The only thing I would even criticize about your profile and that is only because you ask, is that it reads like an ad, and that's fine, but use something to grab attention in one-on-one correspondence - show 'em your essence (no, I can't believe I used that word either) Hope this helps - good luck - and feel free to critique my profile too!

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Trying to figure this guy out... Posted: 9/3/2008 11:47:50 AM
I'm with you hating the online dating thing - if a guy really does care and there is nothing suspicious about him, he will call more than email. I've gone out with a few guys I've met online and the ones who have something to hide, hide behind their computer. If after the first date he doesn't switch exclusively to telephone calls for important issues (an e-mail during the day just to say hi, maybe flirt a little is okay), there's something wrong, believe it. When have you ever known a guy who is interested in you to hang back and email you both to death? He doesn't - he wants to see you and talk to you no matter how busy he is. I know what you're going through - I went through exactly this myself - and I wish the right one for you next time.

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Virginia Single Parents? Posted: 8/28/2008 9:51:08 AM
Oh my - how are you making it with 5 kids and that poor excuse for a man and father? Do you have family to help, at least? I am wondering if anyone lives close to Leesburg and would like to form a meet regularly face-to-face support group where we can get together like one guy on here suggested, visit with each other, and let our kids hang out together. I am getting so tired of trying to relate to people on the computer. I work on one all day, don't want to be stuck on it at night, because that is time I would rather spend with my 13 year old son, and some day I would like to meet a special someone for some old fashioned physical contact - the computer isn't very cuddly, but it feels like that is what the world is coming to sometimes. What do you say? Anybody out there interested? If so, click on my profile and answer me there so I can see it pop up on my e-mail, please!

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anyone in the Leesburg area? Posted: 8/28/2008 9:14:12 AM
I live in Leesburg. Shenanigans/Spanky's is still open, but Johnson's Beef House closed - I think a lot of people were shocked at that because it was supposed to be a landmark or something. Leesburg is not even the same as it was when I moved there in 1999. Housing goes up overnight. I hate it. Can't wait to move on one day.

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Don't have any luck on here meeting someone? Posted: 8/28/2008 9:07:44 AM
Hi - I'm not having a lot of luck on here either - probably because I DO have my picture posted - hahaha! Anyway, I don't think you're doing anything wrong, it's just that people like to see pictures and may be too lazy to request one via e-mail, etc. I see where you offer to send a picture if requested. Have you tried contacting the guys first? They might be looking, bypassing you because there is no picture, but if they don't require you to have a picture in order to contact them, you would at least get their attention! Good luck to you. I know it's tough.

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Unbelievable Posted: 8/25/2008 1:54:47 PM
I think I dated this guy...just kidding, but damn close. Mine was 50 years old - they never stop playing games I guess. I saw him for two months and became quite attached because he was so sweet and we had a lot in common, but I didn't quite trust him, because.....after our first date, I went on-line to thank him for the great time (one of the things he said was that if I was interested in him he needed it spelled out because he wasn't good at reading signs) and to let him know that I would like to see him again. I found that he was already on-line, so I waited to see if he would contact me, but he never did. He resurfaced later, we went out a second time and I checked after that date - there he was, on-line again, but not to contact me. I didn't say why, but let him know the next time he contacted me that I just felt something wasn't right. He actually got offended and TOLD ME OFF for not giving him a fair chance!!!! Long story short, then he gave me some crap I wanted to hear and fell for because I was attracted to him (stupid, yes) and two months later, after sleeping with me, he of course disappeared. I take full responsibility for being such an idiot, but it didn't hurt any less. I don't agree with men being on-line to meet women friends (and vice-versa) if they are in the beginning or in the middle of, a relationship - what the hell is that all about? There is nothing innocent about it, I don't care what anyone says. Let this be the end of it before you get hurt even worse. Try to take things one day at a time - fight the urge to call, see, apologize to, yell at, offer friendship to, etc. him. Just do your own disappearing act and try to keep distracted with anything you can. It took me about a month to stop feeling stupid, used, cheap and miserable over my whole thing. I wish you luck and happiness in future relationships and I'm sorry you are going through this hell. It'll get better. If nothing else you've learned what to look for next time and it won't happen again.

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Thanks! Posted: 8/22/2008 8:30:17 AM
I will definitely look into that, and watch out for any future events you organize.

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Hi, I'm Terri Posted: 8/21/2008 11:07:59 AM
Hello All!!! from the Cedar Creek Lake area. Sorta east/north Texas I reckon. Looking for the special some that I can't seem to find around her. Basicly what I've learned is: 1) I have a job 2) I have a house 3) I have a ride 4) I have my teeth 5) never been in the pen' 6) don't do drugs 7) don't have illegitimate kids I'm not supporting 8) don't own a harley I'm what's known as a loser. I keep looking anyway I wish you luck! And you sound great - those women out there are the losers - booo! Don't give up, someone who will appreciate you is out there!

wishimay

Joined: 7/24/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

LUCK? in dating? Posted: 8/21/2008 9:56:15 AM
Don't have a function in your area? PLAN ONE You can not only start an adventure for yourself, but for others - and it doesn't have to be about finding "the one" - surprises come in places that you least expect it. Denise - I would love to do this. I know what you mean about planning/organizing an event and having no one show/participate. I once tried to form a Parents Without Partners in my area - had a lot of "members" post their face, but no one would come to the gatherings..... How often and where do you do speed dating and is it for people over 40 (I'm 48 - does my age group go for this?) What kinds of events get the most turnout and where would I post a function on this site so that it would be very visible? Thank you for your postings - they're great!

wishimay

Joined: 7/24/2008

Msg: 229 (view)

Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 8/20/2008 10:26:51 AM
Hi - I'm probably doing this wrong, I didn't mean to reply to any one post specifically, just wanted to join the crowd - My name is Terri, I'm 48 years old, am divorced and live in Leesburg, Virginia - originally from Baltimore, Maryland. I would love to meet people and form a support group that gets together for fun on a regular basis, fairly close to home. It would be great to include the kids once in awhile as well. Anybody out there from around here and interested?

wishimay

Joined: 7/24/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

You're Right Posted: 8/20/2008 10:06:54 AM
Match.com sucks. First of all I want to say you are a cutie, so I can't understand why you don't get responses based on your looks alone. Your profile might need a little work 'cause it kind of has that Eeyore sound (not a lot, just a little - and I invite you to look at my profile and feel free to critique mine as well). Also, what is your approach when you send someone an e-mail? I'm also having trouble meeting someone. I usually choose a guy (I'm looking for someone between the ages of 45 and 51), not out of my league, just average, find something in common, mention that and say that I would like to chat and get to know more about him. I then see later that he has viewed me, but not responded. Ouch!

wishimay

Joined: 7/24/2008

Msg: 15 (view)

Don't have any luck on here meeting someone? Posted: 8/20/2008 9:50:55 AM
Wow, C.F. - what you are going through really stinks! It has to hurt, and I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. Something similar happened to me (although not quite to that degree), but I did get attached to a real crazy person. I'm still not sure what happened and I was devastated. All I can say is take it one day at a time. Every day for a month I had the inclination to get back in touch with him, tell him off, ask for an explanation, but I kept putting it off for one more day and looked for little distractions. Now I go several days without thinking about him at all. I do wish that for you as well. What do you mean about having an overhaul with help? I am glad to have found this forum - I was feeling like the lone ranger, beginning to wonder what is wrong with me (my looks, my profile), because I get views, but no contacts, and the e-mails I send are never replied to. I could use some advice and I would love to attend some POF activities.

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