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staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Any tips for first date? Posted: 5/7/2009 10:10:18 AM
Just be yourself. Dont try to impress... just talk, laugh, and have a good time... dont force anything. let it come naturally. if youre shy, then be the shy person, dont force yourself to be someone youre not.

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Cant get over him!!! Posted: 5/7/2009 10:09:03 AM
If you really did love him, it can take a long time to get over him, i dated someone last feb and I still miss him and cry saying I want him back... sometimes you never really get over the person, even if you get closure, and you will always love them... the best way to see if youre ready to move on and such is go on a date with someone you're really into. if you feel uncomfortable kissing and holding hands and such, youre not ready.... huggles it will be ok... a breakup because of cheating is tough to go through, and its not easy, but eventually the pain fades..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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How do u know when your a couple Posted: 5/7/2009 10:06:30 AM
sit down and have a talk... it may be cheesey, but its better to see what you both want. if you wait to be introduced as the boyfriend/girlfriend, it may not be for a while and that person may believe you are dating before you think you are, have the talk.. ask her if she wants to be "your girl".... I would rather be safe than sorry.

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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What do women prefer?Please and response is welcome :) Posted: 5/7/2009 10:01:54 AM
be you. dress how you always do... but don't wear the worst pair of jeans and such... dress you in a casual way, but make sure youre just "cleaned up". shaved or trimmed facial hair depending if you have any*, clean hair, clean smelling... etc..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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manic depressive-what are they like-is it safe to associate with them -would u Posted: 5/7/2009 9:59:58 AM
Most manic-depressive people are fine.. I am, i am not on any meds, but i manage it well ......and the only time you need to worry is if you see signs of aggresion towards you. If that person raises their voice to you for no reason, or gets overly jealous, you should prob. see other people. Agression is prob the worst part of it, and if someone cant control their agression or are not on meds to tame it if they are agressive, its best not to date them...

Lady*Stacers

Joined: 7/25/2008

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could someone read over my profile? Posted: 5/5/2009 7:25:56 PM
you say "i love" a lot.. its seems like your repeating.. and it gets boring... maybe spice it up a little by saying: I am eceltic i dont know if i spelled that right or not, but i think you can see what i mean when it comes to music, & appreciate art in general. in my home I own lots of art, mostly oil paintings... I impress that speical someone by my talents in the kitchen, as well as sharing with them the beer and wine that i make homemade, while always try to be romantic, caring and honest. I know how to treat a woman and make her happy and fill her life with laughter. I am a bigger guy, after serving in iraq i put on a few pounds **leave out the part about the drugs and nerves, i understand that youre being honest and such, and i havenervous problems too, but it may come off as you're a druggie..lol XD what do you think?? I took a writting course this semister and it helps....lol

Lady*Stacers

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Should I change my profile (again)? Posted: 5/5/2009 7:15:24 PM
I like it =) with the lists you make it look a lot shorter then it would be if you typed that all out =)

Lady*Stacers

Joined: 7/25/2008

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please review my profile Posted: 5/5/2009 7:00:59 PM
whoa... ok first of all,.. saying you want a woman to bear you children or someone who has small children should date you makes you sound like a CREEPER aka a creepy guy* and you dont want to talk about that on the first date... you can say you want children, but dont say THAT. ... its just.. that would make me delete and block you for sure if i read that... dont focus so much on that.... talk more about yourself.... and not about what you want, you make yourself sound so negative..

Lady*Stacers

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Is something wrong with my profile? I am attracting the wrong guys. Posted: 5/5/2009 6:25:21 PM
=) just being honest... youre beauitufl for your age and that picture wasnt doing you jutice..

Lady*Stacers

Joined: 7/25/2008

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So is this right? Posted: 5/5/2009 6:21:10 PM
i actually think that youre primary picture right now is not the best one of you.. i personally lke the one of you holding the carebear dolls.. it shows your kinda quirky... lol XD stacey

Lady*Stacers

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My very long profile: Am I rambling? Posted: 5/5/2009 6:19:07 PM
wow thats just TOO long i didnt even wanna read it all.. and i would cut down on the "dont contact me" list as well.. i know its what you want, but youre coming of too picky and in my personal opinion i would look at that, think youre too hard to please/ you are really being a stickler...and go to the next profile..

Lady*Stacers

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So... what is wrong with my profile? Seriously? Posted: 5/5/2009 6:08:44 PM
the pictures, take one in your natural state when youre having fun, and dont have your hair the same way in all youre pictures.... profile.. its fine =)

Lady*Stacers

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Can someone look at my profile? i just changed a lot.. Posted: 5/5/2009 6:05:38 PM
no i have some freckles.. and i have roseca. so i have really rosy cheeks and have to glob makeup on them all the time to cover it XD lol cause i hate when people say wow youre really burnt.. it makes me want to crawl into a hole.. lol

Lady*Stacers

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Is something wrong with my profile? I am attracting the wrong guys. Posted: 5/5/2009 6:03:27 PM
the friends thing... and you need to delete that main picture,...not to be mean, but you lok really shiny, and the shine is making you look like you have huge bags, which from youre other pictures, i can def tel you dont, and its making you look MUCH older then you are.... other then that... everything looks good.... maybe dont justify the "were seperated but not divorced, that can turn people away... you're getting the divorce so just say youre in the process of divorce, the seperated but not divorced yet seems like you may get back with your ex..

Lady*Stacers

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Opinions? Please Posted: 5/5/2009 6:00:24 PM
I think its fine as is... cept the last picture kind of looks like you're snarling at people? lol just saying... but it may be just that those girls werent your type, i have been on POF for a while points to date and i havent found the right person yet, I met a few people, however, they just wanted to be bed buddies. keep trying!! youll find someone =) Stacey

Lady*Stacers

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Can someone look at my profile? i just changed a lot.. Posted: 5/5/2009 5:56:02 PM
thanks =) i really tried to put me into it.. someone said that the "ren faires" was creepy.. and spelled wrong, but thats how they spelled faire in the "ye olde" days...lol XD anyways I deleted some because it was a bit lengthy but thats for saying its fine as is =) Stacey p.s. good luck =)

Lady*Stacers

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Would love some constructive criticism Posted: 5/5/2009 5:53:59 PM
what with the random "si" at the end? lol um... its very.... idk.. it didnt draw me in.... maybe add some smiley or something to break up the sentences? it seems like one big sentence.lol stacey

Lady*Stacers

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Comments please. Posted: 5/5/2009 5:50:46 PM
Youre not really daying anything baout yourself, you're just writting down song lyrics, it doesnt really say anything about you.. What hobbies do you have besides quoting lyrics? activities you do? etc... not to sound mean or anything, but its ather "blah" i wont reply toanyone who doesnt write less then 3 sentences all together... its like they dont care, and they are just typing random things,... its like you dont want to meet anyone ro draw anyone in... add a little SPICE =) Stacey

Lady*Stacers

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Can someone look at my profile? i just changed a lot.. Posted: 5/5/2009 5:43:33 PM
A.) I changed my username, it was staceythecuddlebug, now its ladystacers, B.) deleted and edited the main profile a lot, it was really long, C.)my headline, does it draw people in? D.) I hate taking pictures of myself, because rarely do i like them, and if i do take them, they are in black and white, what should i do to improve them?? E.) ran my profile through spell check, can't spell to save my life... see if I missed anything, and I started to capitalize and use proper english ugh*I would rather not capitalize, I just like typing and not worrying about spell check or anything, but whatever. good updates? yay? nay? thanks stacey

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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he'll sleep with you, but won't kiss you Posted: 5/4/2009 11:25:31 PM
no easy way to say this, or no gentle way either hes using her for sex, and thats all he wants. she fell for a jerk.... if she keeps sleeping with him shes going to get herself more heartache and its going to be harder and harder to pull away,.... tell her forget him

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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GIRLS AND TATTOOS Posted: 5/4/2009 11:20:27 PM
you just arent meeting the right people.;... o have 4 and love them all.. some people asociate tattoos with gangs and bad company.. they are sterotyping you without knowing you. screw em..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Dating a philanderer. Posted: 5/4/2009 11:19:02 PM
this is not a healthy relationship and is prob making ur self esteem worse. leave him and never look back... you could do so much better =) hes like cheating on you with your consent, and thats not cool. you're not ok with this situation otherwise you wouldnt be thinking about it.... tell him bye, and never look back, only look ahead.. =)

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Trainer Trouble Posted: 5/4/2009 10:55:18 PM
I would say no. if he is hitting on you, then either lose him as a trainer,... or tell him no flat out and tell him ur only intersetd on a prof. level

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Guy asked me to call him after a date? Posted: 5/3/2009 9:25:02 PM
He prob wants to get to know you better... i would be jumping for joy... you had a great time, and he prob did as well... and i have never scheduled a 2nd date while on my first... i think its a normal response... he prob gave you the option so because he really liked you and wanted you to control how fast you guys went..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Guys who remove their pics later Posted: 5/3/2009 9:22:46 PM
it could be just coincience... or you could be right.. it could be a lot of things... asking them is the only sure way to get set in the right direction.... ya know? other than that idk what to say..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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really shy guy here needs help!! Posted: 5/3/2009 9:20:05 PM
well its really hard to approach someone if your shy... start off little, then go bigger... " ask her questions about her life... be like "hey _________ youve been working here but i never really got a chance to know you my names ___________ if you didnt know.... " and just smile and work youre way up... ask her how her day went and what she does for fun.. or you could take the plunge and be like "hey __________ listen me and some of the people who work here were thinking about going to _______ to eat after work.. wanna come?"... and talk to her there... 2nd one would prb be better.. most likely it will make her more comfortable.

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Hanging with the marrieds (or couples) Posted: 5/3/2009 9:14:32 PM
i tend to feel like the 3rd wheel and normally leave... but if there are other people there who dont have anyone either, i dont feel left out... i prefer not to put myself in those situations..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Her Xes keeps coming up...in our convos Posted: 5/3/2009 9:11:34 PM
shes prob not over him totally yet... she prob shouldnt be trying to date anyone now if shes still doing what you say shes doing... did you seriously sit down and have this conversation with her? if not, do so...

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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reschedule a 1st date ? Posted: 5/3/2009 9:07:32 PM
legit reason= you should give him another chance... he did give you some notice, it wasnt last minute, so..... it could go either way.. if something drastic came up or somehting... i would say give him another chance since the plans have been made for 2 weeks, but if its a crappy reason, ... i wouldnt give it another go..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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Should I meet this guy ? Posted: 5/3/2009 8:59:48 PM
i would say no., it sounds like he is hiding something... or someone..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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four wheels Posted: 5/3/2009 8:40:40 PM
yeah i def agree... put it in your profile.. if they cant accept it, they werent worth your time =)

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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What do you say in a message to get guys to message you back? Posted: 5/3/2009 8:25:30 PM
thanks ill start trying these tips =) i hope it works... XD good luck to all of you as well.... but if u have any more, keep them on coming..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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How do you date a shy guy? Posted: 5/3/2009 8:24:20 PM
not a lost cause, give him time. hes just not comfortable with you yet... and prob doesnt want to mess up anything with you, and is trying so hard to not do something stupid that hes actually making it awkward for you.... When i feel shy around a guy, i normally dont go out with him until night and lay under the stars... the dark maks me kind of feel like i wont say something stupid and ill say everything...it works for me, maybe it will work for you guys... try it... =) If he cant see you "all the way" just can see your outline and doesnt feel pressured or anything, and he feels comfy with you, and feels like youre just talking over the phone, it will prob. losen him up a little... then again he may just need more time with you in person... its hard to say, but dont give up on him! hes trying... i am sure it comes down to he doesnt want to blow the best thing that ever happened to him =) good luck!! i am sure it will work out..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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What do you say in a message to get guys to message you back? Posted: 5/3/2009 8:15:45 PM
Well i really try, its hard for me to talk... I am really shy at first and i have no idea what to say half the time.. i have the confidence, just cant find him.... i know i am beautiful, thats not my problem i just have no idea what to say... so i should specifically state all the things we share in common? such as les say we both like affection, say hey i see that you love affection, me too... its one of my favorite past times...???? idk XD see i am horrible at this..

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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What do you say in a message to get guys to message you back? Posted: 5/3/2009 8:05:22 PM
thanks guys =) a sample message i would be is like" Hey whats up? you seemed really cool and we share a lot of the same interests and this sounds like every other generic message youd ever hear so yeah XD lol anyways, Il try to be different and stand out as best as I can....." etc... sound bad??

staceythecuddlebug

Joined: 7/25/2008

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What do you say in a message to get guys to message you back? Posted: 5/3/2009 7:55:12 PM
question: what do you say in mesages to get guys to reply back? I tried everything. i tlak baout myself and my hobbies and ask what they like, see things in their profiles that we share as interests and comment,.... I have no idea what I do wrong, but its annoying.... I am only me, I can not be someone different, and i try to portray myself as me as best as I can in a stupid message, and I know guys like me, and want me, its just I cant find the right one.... Please help.. Stacey

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