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professora

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Msg: 131 (view)

sugar mommy? Posted: 11/1/2009 6:06:16 PM
I m single almost four years. I am also finding there are some men who hope to find someone to take care of them. Everything is out there....we just have to be vigilent and watchut for these types. Luckily your experiences have been with upfront men.

professora

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hygiene? Posted: 10/18/2009 5:45:48 PM
Clean is sexy. Have been surprised by men who tell me they never bathe before they go to bed....alone or with someone.

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Its a wish list. Posted: 8/5/2009 6:29:27 PM
They arent exactly lying. they are telling you what they want to be. by verbalizing their fantasy, it seems real to them.....and they hope you will buy it too.

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Health issues + definitely! Posted: 8/5/2009 6:26:36 PM
Healthy behaviors are more important to me. If someone has had bad luck and is working with their condition, I will date them. If they refuse or are careless about their health, I wont date them. For example, a great man I met here at POF told me right away that he was recovering from cancer of the colon, was taking his treatments and following medical advice. Without a hesitation I dated him. (other things stopped us from dating) However, i went out with a diabetic who refused to follow healthy protocol for diabetes and I had to stop dating him. I really was crazy about him but diabetes is a slow ugly disease which can mutilate the body (and devastate it ) unless a patient is very mindful of the illness.

professora

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Stalkers? from POF? ONE + then police report Posted: 8/1/2009 7:13:19 PM
I just gave the police the the stalkers last letter. I wonder if his ex wife, dtr and grandchildren like a copy?

professora

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Police report + stalker Posted: 8/1/2009 7:11:19 PM
I made a police report on a 72 yr old stalker. He left a message on my door which is now with the police. While at the police station I called him and asked if he would agree to stop harrassing me. He said yes so the police have not pursued the case. WHAT SURPRISED me is that the police officer, after hearing me nicely ask him to stop said to me " You know what your problem is? You need to be more a *itch".

professora

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Went police today about this Posted: 7/31/2009 7:31:10 PM
..... legal definition of harassment according to Black's Law Dictionary is: "A course of conduct directed at a specific person that causes substantial emotional distress in such person " or "words, gestures, and actions which tend to annoy, alarm and abuse (verbally) another person." I filed a complaint with the police today after returning home last night to find a threatening and disturbing message at my front door . SIGNED and with the stalkers name and phone! SCarey! fellow. We had 2 dates and all was polite but he has emailed and called and NOW THIS. at the end of his drastic letter he added "Do you think we try to date?" (only in a dream......a night mare)

professora

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There is hope at 71 years old Posted: 7/22/2009 9:10:38 PM
Hope....optimism....good for the body and soul. Thanks for the post.

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My mom Posted: 7/22/2009 8:59:49 PM
My heart goes out to Mom. She's lonely. Would she consider group or individual therapy? She is just looking for what most of us want.....someone to want us.

professora

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money a factor?---depends on the earner Posted: 7/19/2009 5:08:34 AM
Money is a factor if the money earner is nice, wholesome, genuine and kind. It's worthless if the earner is a sociopath, a narcissist or has any other destuctive behaviors.

professora

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money?- rough times Posted: 7/19/2009 4:55:02 AM
"through a very rough time financially. Would this bother you?" Rough times tell us alot about a person. Are they a survivor? The saying "When the going gets tough, the tough get going" addresses this scenario. These are difficult times, but I 'd rather see someone who stands tall and meets the "rough times" head on (gets an extra job, returns to work, rents out rooms) than someone who lets it overcome them and they become despondent, hopeless, forlorn (pick any word).....drinks, over eats, etc The fighter, the survivor ....... would inspire me to want to get to know more about them and what makes them like this.

professora

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The lonelies! Posted: 7/18/2009 8:58:01 PM
Great question. Wish I had an adequate answer. I could not find a answer for my self so I went back to school for another degree, joined a gym and go to at least one social event a weekend. I can't truely say this solves the problem but it does seem to soften the discomfort that comes with the lonies.

professora

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»» The Temptation of the Happily Married Man-the chinese say Posted: 6/12/2009 9:47:26 PM
The Chinese say "The wife next door always looks better". PLEASE (....and i am not suggesting you cheat) if you do, confess to your Priest. Father O'Brian would be alot more forgiving.....and you can save your marriage.

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Risky behavior at 45+ motorcycles Posted: 6/1/2009 7:28:37 PM
I recently found I also like motorcycles and the risk. Just started riding in 2008. Peppie

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Old broads NOT interested in sex Posted: 6/1/2009 7:26:17 PM
She is simply not interested in sex.....in spite of her sexy attire. I asked my 87 year old aunt when she tired of MEN and she said..... " not til After 80" hope this helps

professora

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Easier or harder to experience heartbreak as we get older Posted: 6/1/2009 7:23:03 PM
The first heart break after a long and successful marriage is very difficult. And, it is natural to find it more difficult to heal with a living loss. With a love that has passed, he will never return but with a person who is a live and well.....there is always that hope.... though it is unrealistic to hope they will wake and see how wonderful you are. Heart break can be made easier if you focus on what we really want. Treat a heart break like a wound....the first day the pain is the worst. By day 2 the pain is severe discomfort but bearable. By the third day.....ah....the sunlight is beginning to look good again. Good luck.

professora

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Why Are Over 45 Men In Love With Motorcycles? Posted: 5/31/2009 12:21:15 PM
is the geriatric / adolescent thing..... i also got caught up in:)

professora

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Is there sex after hysterectomy ? [subject edited] Posted: 5/31/2009 12:19:48 PM
Great question. Ask to speak to a therapist who specializes in this area. Always talk to 2 0r even 3 to be sure you find the one that best suits you. Women successfully go through menopause w/o losing their sexual desires so I am not sure what is going on here. Maybe consult another gyn. Good luck with this. Peppie

professora

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Insomnia- Kava? Posted: 4/20/2009 4:26:13 PM
Insomnia is a problem for many people, especially after the age of 45. Helpful tips or over the counter herbs or medicines: Kava (sometimes called kava kava - liquid i think is best) Melatonin tylenol pm advil pm warm brandy childrens liquid benadryl- you can titrate the amount needed. One teaspoon may be adequate but some people may need more. take and let it rest on the tongue a bit. this may make the absorption better , I am not sure but understand it is helpful. Also the other tips here are good- cool bedroom, no lights, no tv, bananas, turkey, lettuce,popcorn(have tryptophane) If anyone has anymore helpful hints , pl email me on this site. it is not blocked. THANKS

professora

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Met a nice guy who has bad teeth... Posted: 3/21/2009 6:51:26 PM
missing teeth and chipped teeth are difficult to look at...even when the heart is good. I would be happy to pay for proper dentistry but I dont want to offend. Perfection is NOT what I seek. Here is what bothers me: this man would NEVER have taken me out if my teeth were in the condition his are in. He wanted attractive and wanted more perfection than I want. He made THAT very CLEAR.....simply put he was not looking only for a good heart...which i have. Some of the mail sent to me about this has been very helpful. THANKS. My POF mail is open and not blocked so anyone with more suggestions, write me.

professora

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Migranes caused by workouts, diets, or what? Posted: 3/21/2009 6:46:54 PM
as a nurse, I tell patients to be sure they are drinking adequate water or fluid intake. dont get too dry...at least 6-8 glasses of fluids every day. Actually, I hear a certain amount of caffiene is suppose to reduced the headaches. My doc has horrific migraines, and she takes coca cola (with sugar) to help her. Peppie

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Met a nice guy who has bad teeth... Posted: 3/20/2009 3:29:34 PM
I have finally, after 3 years, met someone much like myself...in many ways...but he does not care for his teeth; or not very well. I am dentally challenged and therefore see a dentist every three months. My teeth appreciate it and so does my smile. I am wondering how to approach this man if we get to another level. He is terrific and fit ,otherwise. My email on POF is not blocked, no limitations, feel free to write suggestions. THANKS!

professora

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Thai food- kosher Posted: 3/18/2009 8:24:00 PM
I have a plan B. Thanks for asking. I will use the anchovy if needed. But i hope to learn how to ferment the fish. sounds AWFUL....but I want to try. I am not so Kosher. My kitchen has kosher meat and chicken (easy) but some of the other ingredients do not have the K sign and some Kosher friends desire that.

professora

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Insomnia Posted: 3/16/2009 6:56:13 PM
have you tried warm brandy?

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Concerning makin love.. Posted: 3/16/2009 6:49:06 PM
It 's probably an individual situation. For adventure, people have to be tight...well involved and caring for each other. If its casual, i cant imagine people being too creative. I speak to a lot of people in my travels, and those in committed realtionships seem to have the best intimacy and with the most adventure.

professora

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Thai food- kosher Posted: 3/16/2009 6:41:21 PM
THANKS. the anchovy might do it. depth i flavor though is problem. is there are recipe for fermenting the fish? i know it would take a long time but the supply lasts forever.

professora

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Thai food- kosher Posted: 3/16/2009 2:06:16 PM
Does anyone know how to recreate the "fish soy" flavor? The fish soy sold in stores does not have the kosher ou or K sign so I have been asked to learn how to make it or substitute a flavor. Any suggestions appreciated?

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Turned 50 and it's different (shallow thread) Posted: 3/13/2009 7:53:38 PM
Just wait til you turn 62---then it really gets interesting.... The dating seems to increase....have no idea why

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womens expectations - a Carpenter is over the top? Posted: 3/13/2009 7:50:13 PM
I keep hoping to meet a great carpenter...ok...so not so great will do too. LOVE street smarts/blue collar.

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Men over sixty - seem to like women in their own age bracket. Posted: 3/2/2009 6:35:18 PM
Appreciate all the comments to my post. This age is incredibly interesting!

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Men over sixty - seem to like women in their own age bracket. Posted: 2/22/2009 4:19:13 PM
I have had the most interesting last 6 months. I am 62 and find that many men in my age bracket seem to finally prefer women more or less their same age? Is anyone else finding this true?

professora

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Do hearts harden with age? Posted: 2/17/2009 9:34:01 PM
Its not a hardened heart. Lets face it.... we have less time so it makes sense to move on promptly.

professora

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can be a normal response with aging Posted: 2/14/2009 10:26:59 PM
This is not unusual. Look this up on the internet, but most important ----go to a urologist for advice. Also be aware that there is a condition known as retrograde ejaculation: Ejaculation in which seminal fluid is discharged in the wrong direction, traveling up towards the bladder instead of outside the body through the urethra."

professora

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Is there a nutritionist in the house? WT Watchers Posted: 2/14/2009 10:17:50 PM
I have been a WW for forty two years. cant find a better support group for wt control. i am one of their success stories. Weight this morning--- 123 lbs. I am 5' 2 - 5'3" tall. once i was in control, i also recieved FREE for life membership as long as my wt remains w/in the goal weight. good luck. any nutritional effort is good....WW or any other.

professora

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Personal Hygiene/First Impressions _ brownlady1953 Posted: 2/13/2009 7:47:16 PM
"Yes, the MAJORITY of men that I have met for coffee have had terrible hygiene...but it's okay, because I never saw or talked to them again" Love your comments. they have a way of making me feel "i'm okay". Men have a fit when the subject of hygiene comes up. BUT i dont get it, do they really think someone will date them? It might be some women too....but I only date the men...lol Have the men had similar experiences?

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Hygiene and intimacy (sexual) Posted: 2/13/2009 7:42:27 PM
"Ok here's how to fix that problem..Make bathing part of your fore play!" The fellow in the scenario that I wrote about wont bathe (he's divorced after 20 yrs). forget forplay, he is simply not going to bathe. he bathes , he said, only in the morning. if he cant find a woman to sleep with him dirty, he 's not going there :)

professora

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Do I need to know this? Posted: 2/13/2009 7:37:53 PM
interesting who we meet. just chalk this up in the "interesting column". humm..... YOU'RE not weird

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women - glut on the market?-NO WAY! Posted: 2/12/2009 9:04:45 PM
"Someone mentioned to me recently that older men (45+) are in prime position to "pick and choose" This must change at 60 because dating has NEVER been better for me. Maybe the pickins' get better with age? As a young woman, no one ever looked at me. One thing...... I made up my mind 3 years ago that singlism would NOT get the better of me....... & on this subject I have read more literature than a research scientist and have NO intention of giving up. I take good care of my teeth, skin, and hair....and maybe this helps too. If anyone wants some literature to read, helpful stuff, email me :) Peppie

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Should men color the gray Posted: 2/10/2009 8:20:14 PM
personally I prefer the gray. the colors dont look natural. Of course, who am i to say since I color my hair. men have been the reason for this. I love the gray , white, or best of all bald. really like bald.....very sexy.

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Hygiene and intimacy (sexual)- Brownlady1953 Posted: 2/10/2009 3:26:36 PM
You wrote: "Gross......absolutely gross....I am the "Hygiene Nazi".......I have gotten up and walked out on dates whose hygiene wasn't up to par! And if I were married to someone with poor hygiene, it would be GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE! " BLESS YOU, BLESS YOU ...AND MORE. .... i was feeling a little out of sorts. My male friend in the above scenario said I should put "Clean freak" in my profile as he considers my standards off the chart! He knows I 'm a nurse, what does he expect?

professora

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Hygiene and intimacy (sexual) Posted: 2/9/2009 1:51:47 PM
MY QUESTION IS: How many people would not tolerate an unbathed partner in their bed? A male friend and I were discussing hygiene and sexual intimacy. He told me that he and his wife of 20 years, bath in the morning and NOT at night.....before going to bed. I asked if they were sexual and he said "of course, including oral sex". A full day usually includes physical activities, and using the commode. IS WHAT HE TOLD ME STANDARD? Please comment. This sounds horrible to me.

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DEAR ABBY Posted: 2/3/2009 6:15:06 PM
i suggest you read books about dating. its like anything else. takes practice. look up sheri argov- author. great books

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Use it or lose it, what's your opinion? Posted: 2/2/2009 6:43:02 PM
yes---both lose. men and woman. it need sto be used. imagine not using one arm for an extended period. the muscles would atrophy. same thing....no different.

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Age and Honesty Posted: 2/2/2009 6:41:24 PM
of course it is deception. Once a liar....always a liar. Just move on....

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WHAT IS THIS SPARK PEOPLE ARE SEARCHING FOR? Posted: 2/2/2009 6:40:21 PM
Just be yourself. Maybe this guy is not the right fellow. many people are out there....

professora

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Positive influences Posted: 1/29/2009 7:20:08 PM
what doesnt bring us down, makes us stronger.

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Positive influences Posted: 1/29/2009 7:18:43 PM
OP - Great post. Positive is the only way to live. Optimism feels good. But everyone has down days. I like your spirit , i.e. the prayer of st. Francis of Assisi and the serenty prayer. Rarely do i feel down but I carry the 23 psalm with me....just in case. :) I did have a bad spell when a relationship of 11 1/2 yrs ended. That was tough. I read the 23 psalm often , searched the Internet for inspiration, read books about loss, forced myself to do things, stayed active, ate right, attended religious services. Hope this is helpful. Peppie

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What should we be looking for? Posted: 1/29/2009 7:10:35 PM
absolutely agree... what we wanted at 20 or 30 is not what we want or need now. Hard work takes it toll and its later than we wish...I started motorcycle lessons.

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Age and Honestythe-- Is actual number really that important Posted: 1/28/2009 8:45:58 PM
"How about cause of the irrelevant age restrictions placed on womens mail settings? Is actual number really that important ?" Age is not the issue. LYING is. Deception on one level is always a pretty good gage of deception on other levels. HOW can be build trust when the foundation has no credibility? Would you go to a doctor for surgery knowing he lies? How about a nurse who is going to administer medications......trust her / him knowing they lie?

professora

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what will you take or not take into the next... Posted: 1/28/2009 8:32:33 PM
what i have learned is: what ever occurs in the first 6 months of a relationship, pretty much defines what the relationship will be like for the next many years....or however long the relationship endures.

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