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ranger fan

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Msg: 247 (view)

Can men deal with NOT getting blowjobs? Posted: 10/3/2008 4:01:16 PM
It wouldn't be a big deal to me especially given your past situation. A guy that cares about you would understand in my opinion. I respect your honesty. :)

ranger fan

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Friends first or just friends only? Posted: 9/20/2008 12:00:08 PM
I always think people should be friends first so I dont see that as only friends in any way. With that said I think he probably could have sent you an email update on what was going on in his life and why he was occupied before 3 months had passed. :)

ranger fan

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I lost my Dad... Posted: 9/20/2008 11:55:03 AM
I'm very sorry for your loss. My dad means so much to me that I do not know how I will handle it. I think my dad would do what your dad did and try not to be any burden on the ones he loved. I think his doing that was showing he cared about you all more than himself.

ranger fan

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My ex's 18year old girlfriend is pregnant Posted: 9/7/2008 4:31:38 PM
I never even met her......I swear. :)

ranger fan

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Should I stay with him? Posted: 9/6/2008 10:03:42 AM
For discussion sake not (meant as an attack) I have a few questions for you. :) Doesn't it seem a bit of a double standard that you as a doctor, professional model, entrepreneur expect another person you date to support you and your children financially? Would you like if he expected you to support him and his kids financially? As a doctor I will ask you what is it about that different chromosome that would make him have to be responsible for you financially? I think you have to ask yourself if you want to date him or his wallet?

ranger fan

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Do you remember your first kiss? Posted: 9/4/2008 4:56:50 PM
I remember it. I was very young and she was a really pretty little blond hair blue eyed girl. Its funny because last month I saw a picture of her 30 years later and I NEVER would have recognized her. She wasn't even blond anymore :)

ranger fan

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Should I stay with him? Posted: 9/3/2008 8:28:17 AM
Some of these posts are disappointing for somebody like me that really believes in real love. Why would anyone dump somebody they love because the other person cant support them financially in 2008? What happened to personal responsibility or accountability? Are people seeking real meaningful love or an ATM machine? Do people really want somebody to pay them for their love and companionship? If your relationship is dependent on him paying for your love will you be shocked if he trades you in for a younger less expensive lady 10-15 years down the road?

ranger fan

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My Best Friend and I had a Date with the SAME guy Posted: 9/2/2008 4:54:43 PM
What a crazy experience. Be sure to let us all know how it turns out. I hope it turns out well for everyone in some way. :)

ranger fan

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HOW LONG SHOULD YOU REALLY WAIT..??? Posted: 8/27/2008 12:02:50 PM
I have read of a lot of similar cases where a couple meets online and despite things going well one or both of them continue to visit the site. I think that can only cause problems for the couple and I think honesty is always the best way to go. Tell him how you feel about him and that you really would like to be exclusive in a nice non pressure way. I think some people just keep coming back because they have the grass is always greener on the other side of the street mentality. I wish you the best of luck! I hope you have a very happy ending. :)

ranger fan

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one month into the END, now :help: Posted: 8/25/2008 3:46:28 PM
I had a "Phone Stalker" but you have me beat for sure. There are a lot of strange people online. My advice to everyone(and myself) is to use caution. :)

ranger fan

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Is your new BF/GF still logging onto POF? Posted: 8/23/2008 8:13:50 PM
What a great thread. I think this happens often. I think a previous poster had the best way to handle it for most people. Just talk about it like adults and agree to hide/delete your profiles as long as you are a committed to each other as a couple. If you are not a committed couple and free to date others than you can leave them up. :)

ranger fan

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is there a time limit for getting over a man? Posted: 8/17/2008 8:22:26 AM
I'm really sorry you are down. I hope you feel better soon. Is it possible you are mourning the loss of who you pictured him as and not as who he really is? Do you really want to be with a man that has so little compassion for you that he would lie to you and cheat on you?

ranger fan

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Male makeovers Posted: 8/16/2008 4:45:00 PM
LOL I went shopping with my mom and step dad for his clothes. He didnt want to even go but we twisted his arm. It was funny because my mom decided all his shirts and pants. He would try them on and she would say yay or nay. He didnt even care. :)

ranger fan

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He Offered me $50,000!!!!! Posted: 6/7/2007 12:19:20 PM
LOL some lady tried to sell her virginity on ebay. The rate was no where near as high as 50k. I think the OP is just enjoying pumping her own tires pretending the guy was legit. Thats ok we all need a compliment here and there. :)

ranger fan

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He Offered me $50,000!!!!! Posted: 6/6/2007 4:38:23 PM
Changing your number is good Protecting your kids is great But I cant see how you do not realize the $50,000 was all bs. Are you building your own ego by pretending the guy was legit? He could go in any strip club and get a young stripper to marry him for $5,000 not $50,000 if all he is seeking is a "tax write off". I would think a guy that inherited 2.7 million would have more creative tax accountants than that, lol.

ranger fan

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He Offered me $50,000!!!!! Posted: 6/6/2007 12:19:29 PM
You cant actually believe that this guy is serious. Anyone who has $50k to throw around knows a lot better tax breaks out there than marrying for one. He must think you are very gullible. Call him on it. Tell him to give you a certified cashiers check for $50k. You will never see it. Its just a guy playing games

ranger fan

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Has anyone ever dated a person with ADD? Posted: 5/22/2007 6:18:56 AM
I have a friend that seems pretty cool but she definitely has severe ADD. I'm wondering how hard it is to date her. She has had 2 short marriages and I wonder if the (undiagnosed until recently) ADD helped make them so short. Any words of wisdom?

ranger fan

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I got cheated on because I wasn't rich and famous!! Posted: 5/21/2007 7:27:03 AM
Could be worse. I knew a girl that slept with Screech one night. He stayed at her cheap hotel and asked her to take him to Jack in the Box while checking in. After coming back with the food he made his move. I guess some women want to be touched by fame to think they are a "somebody" but Screech? Thats as low on the totem pole as you can go.

ranger fan

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Question from a recent dumpee Posted: 5/20/2007 2:19:35 PM
Sly Stallone broke up with Janice****rson via a fax like 10-15 years ago. That was huge news back then. Nowadays text, email, fax is all the same in my eyes. It used to be breaking up over the phone was a no no. Now that seems much more personal. I do not really see any difference. A break up is a break up in my eyes.

ranger fan

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why do women say there looking fro good guys but are not Posted: 5/7/2007 9:09:35 AM
From what Ive seen many "like a challange". LOL some often say something else but actions speak louder than words. :)

ranger fan

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Whats Wrong With Me?!?!?!?! Posted: 3/17/2007 9:09:32 AM
Nothing is wrong with you. Online dating is hard. Many people with great pictures get bad responses or no responses. I think all you can do if you are really interested in online dating is make the best positive profile you can and get the best most up to date pictures you can. Try not to take it personally. I just come here for the forums now because online dating is very hard. That said I'm sure many people that are determined do succeed at it. :)

ranger fan

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Dealing With A Man Who Needs Space Posted: 3/15/2007 2:38:02 PM
I once told my ex I need 5 days without any phone calls. She freaked out but lived threw it. She called like 3 times in those 5 days. We had only been together for 6 months at that time but I had a lot of work stress at that point and needed time alone from the world not just her. We stayed together 3 more years. It was never about dumping her. Sometime people say they need space because that is all they are seeking. Just a chance to breath. It doesnt mean he doesnt still want to be with her. relationships are like water in your hand. Cup the water gently and it stays in your hand. squeeze your hand close and the water finds a way out

ranger fan

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Dealing With A Man Who Needs Space Posted: 3/14/2007 2:11:23 PM
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Most men and women need some space occasionally. No reason to jump to major conclusions.

ranger fan

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hillary clinton for president. Posted: 3/1/2007 1:05:13 PM
She literally scares me. I'm not in to politics at all but she seems to be bordering on evil. I think all she seeks in life is power and money. The ends always seem to destify the means for her. I'd take Obama, or Giuliani well before Hillary as president

ranger fan

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Am I wrong in taking regenge after 18 years? Posted: 2/25/2007 7:05:38 AM
I wont tell you get over it. I wont tell you revenge is wrong. Who is to say where vengence ends and revenge begins. What I will tell you is that you would be wrong to do so. Your anger to your ex husband is justified BUT what have his kids ever done to you? Do you want to hurt innocent people deeply? If so how are you any better than your ex husband?

ranger fan

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First dates.........always the guys responsibility??? Posted: 1/22/2007 11:54:09 AM
I think the situation you descriped is similar to this joke. A comic once said women always want equal rights until it comes time to pay the check on a date. That made me laugh by the way. :) I think the situation you described is similar to this joke.

ranger fan

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Help! I'm INTO my financial advisor...don't know what to do????? Posted: 1/15/2007 9:17:42 PM
Anegima you are a very pretty lady. Dont let people on a messageboard influence you. If you like who you have been dating thats great. If not go for the other guy. The worst that will happen is he will say he is taken or gay. These forums are filled with negativity. Dont let their pessimism drag you down.

ranger fan

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Help! I'm INTO my financial advisor...don't know what to do????? Posted: 1/14/2007 10:21:38 AM
If you are in to him and afraid to say so directly just ask his secretary if he is single in a flirty way. She will run to him soon and tell him. That way he will know and if he wants to ask you out he will find a way. :)

ranger fan

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Can Physical Attraction Grow? Posted: 1/14/2007 9:59:03 AM
It definitely can. I remember learning that lesson when I was 18. A girl I worked with seemed so obnoxious and conceited. I wasnt attracted to her at all physically but later when we became friends I started see her in a more attractive way physically as well. :)

ranger fan

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Feeling empty..throwing the towel Posted: 1/14/2007 7:10:03 AM
This is a great thread. It shows how damaging cheating and lying can be. This guy was playing nasty games and basically devstated this nice girl at least temporarily. when will guys and women realize ho much they hurt good people when they play games with their hearts. I can not stand cheateers of any gender because I see how much lasting damage they cause for so many people. To the original poster I'm very sorry for what you have gone threw. It is tottaly unfair and you have ever right to feel what you are feeling. I would guess 85% of men cheat/lie and like 65% of women cheat/lie. I just hope you find a good honest man soon that can heal the pain in your heart you now feel. I really respect all your honesty.

ranger fan

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Help! I'm INTO my financial advisor...don't know what to do????? Posted: 1/11/2007 8:21:29 PM
Ive worked in financial securities for 16 years. We are not doctors nor lawyers. Occasionally we will date clients. Its not the best way to go but not against some major ethics either. It may be against some firms rules but Ive never seen that rule. But if he works for himself or if its not against his firms rules I bet he goes for it. I'd rather risk losing a client than losing Ms Right. :)

ranger fan

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Help! I'm INTO my financial advisor...don't know what to do????? Posted: 1/11/2007 2:46:30 PM
Also how much you have invested doesnt really matter. I treated all my clients the same unless they were very hot ladies. Then I smiled more. LOL :)

ranger fan

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Help! I'm INTO my financial advisor...don't know what to do????? Posted: 1/11/2007 2:44:05 PM
Since this is my industry I love the story. Yes brokers/CFA take their clients out to lunch often. Its deductable so why not. :) My suggestion to you is dont waste his time or yours beating around the bush. Just ask him if he is involved with anyone. If he says no you are in. If he says yes say something like too bad I had a friend I figured you might like.

ranger fan

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Men don't like TALL women Posted: 1/10/2007 12:48:45 PM
It is not an issue for most guys. I think women of all heights can be very attractive. :)

ranger fan

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why do girtls always say they just wanna be friends Posted: 11/28/2006 3:30:33 PM
Whitman you will find a lady no matter what. Sometimes it just takes time. You just have to be willling to give what you seek. what I mean is if you wnat a kind girl than be a kind guy. If you want a girl in good shape then be in good shape yourself. If you wnt an honest girl than make sure you are honest as well. That doesnt mean its easy. Good ladies and good guys are rare but I'm sure you will find one. I know very hot girls that ask me why guys always want to just be friends so you are not alone. We have all faced that line.

ranger fan

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why do girtls always say they just wanna be friends Posted: 11/28/2006 3:03:18 PM
Dont sweat it buddy. Even the hottest girls in the world get rejected sometimes. All you can do is be the best you and keep trying. Get yourself in great shape, dress nicely, then put yourself out there. Sooner rather than later a girl will be approaching you and then you might be inclined to use the "just friends" line.

ranger fan

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Is he settling for me? Posted: 11/22/2006 7:22:22 AM
I think you are the best person to make that decision. People on forums are very quick to judge people they do not know. You need to talk to him and make the decision. I still have about 50 pictures my ex girlfriend gave me and around 50 cards. They are all in a shoe box in my kitchen closet. I dont ever look at them but I would not throw them out either. Its just like a scrap book of my life. Even though I keep the mementos it does not mean i would want her back.

ranger fan

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Stock Market Boom: This only means rich people are paying more for stock. What about jobs? GDP? Posted: 10/19/2006 3:03:39 PM
No offense dude but your understanding of the finacial markets is scary, lol. :) Rich people are not the only ones that own stocks. I would say 80% of working America owns stocks via their retirement plans and or mutual funds.

ranger fan

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Can a Heart Be Broken if you've only known each other for 3 days? Posted: 10/16/2006 7:36:08 AM
I dont think there is a time table for when you can have a broken heart but I would think the less time invested the less time it should remain broken. Just my opinion. I'm often wrong. :)

ranger fan

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Have you ever bumped in to somebody you did not want to see or be friends with Posted: 10/11/2006 7:27:06 PM
Kind of hard to tell somebody they are trashy, and a drunk without offending them, lol. :)

ranger fan

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Have you ever bumped in to somebody you did not want to see or be friends with Posted: 10/11/2006 2:17:43 PM
Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it. The person I'm speaking about is somebody i dont want to hurt, or insult in any way but I really just dont want to talk to or hang out with either.

ranger fan

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Have you ever bumped in to somebody you did not want to see or be friends with Posted: 10/11/2006 1:41:39 PM
Yesterday at the grocery store I caught somebody out of the corner of my eye that I just didnt want to hang around with in the last 2 years. I came home and my yahoo messnger had a bunch of messages saying they saw me, they saw my car, where have I been, lets hang out this weekend, and a phone number to call. I dont want to hang around with the person nor call the person but I feel weird about it. I dont want to insult anyone but how do you get out of a situation like this with no hard feelings? Thanks in advance

ranger fan

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Give Me Space Posted: 10/10/2006 4:55:15 PM
Give her the space. Some people dont like to hang out all the time or even talk all the time. Even if Miss Right walked in my door I would only want to spend a few days a week together. If you like her so much then try to understand her time frame.

ranger fan

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got my heartbroken by online cheater Posted: 10/9/2006 1:30:36 PM
All kidding aside the internet has made cheating 80% easier and probably 90% more likely for some people. :(

ranger fan

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got my heartbroken by online cheater Posted: 10/9/2006 1:16:07 PM
I cant speak for others but I usually rotate them out after they turn 21. Isnt that when they hit their prime? LOL (I'm just joking folks). :)

ranger fan

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got my heartbroken by online cheater Posted: 10/8/2006 2:39:42 PM
"I approached him on this,he said it was nothing,just innocent chat and flirting," Thats what all the perverts caught in those Dateline NBC Stings say. LOL I'm sorry about your heart. I never cheat. It is just so cruel. :(

ranger fan

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Why do older men think younger women are GOLD DIGGERS Posted: 10/7/2006 6:27:25 PM
You may be thinking too much about it. Most guys I know love younger women. I think your tastes will work perfectly with about 75% of men. :)

ranger fan

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Eddy Curry comes in to camp in good shape! Lets go Knicks! Posted: 10/2/2006 8:07:35 AM
Sorry guys but my NY Knicks will be kicking butt and taking names this year. Isiah is coach and Eddy is in shape. Watch out world here we come! The NY Knicks are back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

ranger fan

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Sexy Pics Paradox Posted: 9/29/2006 12:26:57 PM
Baker 900 while I usually do not agree with your threads I always find them interesting and funny. Here you are speaking about womens pics being too sexy (I knwo you did not start the thread) and a month ago you were speaking about women in Houston being too fat if my bad memory is correct for once. :) Dude dont ever change. You make life interesting. :)

ranger fan

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Sexy Pics Paradox Posted: 9/28/2006 12:26:56 PM
I think women and men for that matter should post whatever pics they like a long as they are allowed by the rules. Why are so many people critical of other peoples pictures? If you do not like them then dont click on their profile. When I hear people complain about a ladies pics being too sexy I laugh and think show me them, lol. All kidding aside often it sounds like sour grapes sometimes from jealous men that the lady blew off.

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