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harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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What, Why, and How-come? Posted: 11/22/2009 9:18:00 AM
Plan and Simple..just not his type, your too girly for him. As for what made you to girly, this guy is the only one that can answer that question, but do you really need an answer. Just be happy with you and not change a thing

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Sex versus love Posted: 11/6/2009 11:31:05 PM
You people in fish land crack me up inside and yes even my tickle spot is laughing too cloudhidden I am sorry to read that some post replies are harbouring ill-will, directed at others, in order to fulfill some lost spot in the digestive track. Open up your mind to love you rude posters and you will find your tickle spot

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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What does it mean to fall in love? Posted: 11/6/2009 8:59:39 PM
Re; We are all "needy".....and "whether you have the strength and will....you mention God, so I will assume you believe in God...why not take this up with God and pray for the strength and the will.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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What does it mean to fall in love? Posted: 11/5/2009 5:25:46 PM
Falling in love is easy. Falling in 'true love' is a blessing if you find it. I think falling in love is like a flood of emotions pounching on you. You go through the lust stages and when it calms you are still with the person. Overtime you start to miss that high or feelings of pleasure that the neurotransmitter dopamine exerts. Your crazy actions lessen and BANG. It's like you just awoke from a dream only you are not dreaming. Once you see that you are really in this relationship you want to end it because there is no more excitement involved or hits to your favorite pleasure spots. When you still love that person regardless of the wrongs. No longer caught in keeping track of who did what and when.The two of you both accept each other and all of your differences and do not try and change the other person. This is true love. When you argue, but the fights end. When the love is so strong and alive and everyone notices because the spotlight is always shinning. This is the real deal. When nothing, I mean nothing can tear you apart. Distance and time still have you close by the bond shared. When you are gone away on a business trip, yet you still pause from the crew to make that telly call to say you care; for,without hearing from your lover you would feel bare No,I have never fallen out love, but I have ended relationships because it was not: 'true love'. I have learned from my experience that the real deal has never came my way until recently. I met someone who wanted me to put my needs above his own. Although we are apart, we keep in close contact via emails and telly. He did not want me to go, but knew I had things that needed to be done. Our time apart has only helped us two to grow closer and love more. When it is true, the love withstands anything.... I would not stay in an abusive relationship because it is true love. However, I can understand how people get caught in this trap and do not want to leave. If you are in 'true love' all the good erases the bad. The hurt rubs of with soap and water.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Why some men never want marry? Posted: 11/4/2009 3:28:30 AM
I enjoyed your posting 'nexthyme' Re; "For the guy who says people change, yes they do, and if two people love each other they keep that change within the growth for both partners... Life changes, but loving another doesn't have to be that thing that goes away... However if a person has the mind set that nothing lasts for ever, then they are right..." I totally agree and also think the same way as you. Life change, but loving one another does not. Excellent response back. I really liked your wording as well: "if two people love each they keep that change within the growth for both partners"

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Question? Posted: 11/2/2009 2:52:32 PM
perhaps I did, yet I know the times of log in are not always correct. there has been times when I was nowhere near a computer and I had been told I was seen online.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Question? Posted: 11/1/2009 3:06:29 PM
Yes I am guessing a glich as well as my friends have said I was online a few days ago when I wasn't, unless we have a lepricon re-arranging the times...maybe he is messing with the daylight savings time

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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a single dads shattered heart Posted: 11/1/2009 2:54:33 PM
Hang in there and stick to what you have expressed that you want in your life

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Is it okay to ignore an email from no photo? Posted: 10/30/2009 10:59:36 AM
I think it is your choice how you want to react, no reply or a reply. I myself would at least reply back and say not intrested due to no photo. I will also add that some people are not computer savvy and you may miss out on meeting somone right for you, who has no photo. Good Lucks....

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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finding friendship difficult Posted: 10/28/2009 2:24:48 PM
Just be honest with YOURSELF. You are saying: "it is too difficult for you to be near him with your feelings for him," so do what you think needs to be done to help yourself heal.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Nanaimo walk #6 pictures Posted: 10/28/2009 2:13:34 PM
great turn out boys and girls

harmonyharvest

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Another four-letter word: LOVE Posted: 10/17/2009 12:34:26 PM
Well put Serenity Sam

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Another four-letter word: LOVE Posted: 10/17/2009 8:53:36 AM
I have heard of lots of ended relationships because of the way people treat a relationship yes. I do not know why people think they need to throw all the years of work, that they put into their relationship out the door. Often I have heard it was because they were not in love anymore. I do not understand how one can grow in and out of love. I have never been able to love someone and then not love them anymore. I have met a wonderful man. We are alike in many ways, yet still have our differences. Right now we are friends because of distance and the timing is not right. We both need more time before ready to enter into a relationship. Although friends we did fall in love, which makes the time apart difficult. I believe that patience and time grows more love and a stonger one too. When you meet the right person for you, take the time to get to know that person. Love is a very special thing. If you think things are progressing too fast, slow down. If it is love, your partner or the person you would like to be together with will understand and respect your decision. I know how I feel about the man I met and I also know that we started off too fast. I knew this at the time and since I was leaving allowed my feelings to be shown. Now that we are apart it is even harder. We talk on the telly as much as possible. Learning more and more about ourselves and each other has been incrediable. One of the things we talk about is LOVE and how people we know have just ended their relationship because trying was too difficult and letting go of their relationship appeared easier to them. Love is not easy, it is a challenge. Many times the love may not seem like it is there anymore. At such times, that much more effort is needed to be put into the relationship. If you found someone and it is love, do not give up on them. Not Ever! The greatest gift of life is love and love really does conquer all your battles in life too. Thanks Hunk I think with love people need to clarify words that can lead to misunderstanding. Do not be afraid to speak about your feelings, or be afraid, but do anyways, and when you feel like a snowblower has just blown you over, then never give up. As long as the lines of communication stay open, then the relationship will go through some tough times, but everything will mend itself out. I mean real itself back in ;)

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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At what age do you Just Give Up? Posted: 10/16/2009 8:03:49 PM
I am not giving up. I have met someone and neither one of us is ready for a relationship so we are waiting. He is 43 and I am 30. The guy I met has one child and wants more. Age is not a factor. If you care for one another than this is all that matters. Sure there are more risks as one gets older, this does not mean I am going to give up all hope. I don't think anyone should just give up if they want a family. Life is too short to stress or sweat out the small stuff--really, if you want a family it will come.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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If you all could so kind.. Posted: 8/25/2009 7:51:27 PM
get rid of the bleeped out parts...and include a small piece on what type of christian you are. For example..what values you hold.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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cant seem to post replys in forums Posted: 8/25/2009 10:15:18 AM
It was under ask a girl, but there are 21 posts. Does this mean it is locked for good and no more people can post? Or is it a waiting period? thank you

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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cant seem to post replys in forums Posted: 8/25/2009 9:48:44 AM
well all be damned, it worked here so I am so puzzled

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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cant seem to post replys in forums Posted: 8/25/2009 9:47:19 AM
Below is the title of the subject I cannot post on forum topic page. I am trying it out to see if it is just that page and if it works here can someone tell me why it won't there, as nothing shows up saying the forum is blocked or anything. Have any of you girls made an abstinence commitment? Considering that I just made this commitment I am not a good candidate for answering this question. I do believe that it is easier said then done. Re; "especially about how people that make these vows are often sadly unprepared and do break those commitments." If someone does want to stick to their guns, then a plan is generally needed. I believe that it is rare for someone to just plant the idea in their head and keep this promise. Also, after making such a strong conviction, it is more likely that it will fail without thinking about how you will follow through.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Fine tuning? Posted: 8/24/2009 10:01:30 AM
I do not think any of the photos are good ones for your profile. I find the pictures do not show you enough. Your profile sounds find to me, you explain who you are and that is a good introduction.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Timetable for a relationship. Posted: 8/24/2009 8:16:12 AM
As it was already pointed out "go with the gut feelings". And just because someone has you on there favorite list does not necessarily mean much. Re; "I only date one person at a time, because it allows me to really focus my energy and either eliminate them or move on to the next step." She does not sound like a match to you based on the above

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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How many is too many? Posted: 8/23/2009 6:31:38 PM
NightHawk2005 RE; I'd need to know what the circumstances were and decide on that basis. And then you wrote: As long as it was only with someone she truly loved, I could be forgiving. I get the sense that even if it was NOT with someone that she truly loved, but had a valid explanation, that you would give a lady forgiveness; as you first typed that you would need to know the circumstances. If it was with someone she truly loved you would be forgiving? And what exactly does she need to be forgiving to you for? If she shares the same beliefs as you, is it not God that would be forgiving of her? I could see how her past may possibly affect you, but to be forgiving to you, when having sex with another was done before she even met you. I don't get that one. I have had sexual partners in my past and now I am waiting until marriage. However, I would not need my fiance to be able to forgive me. What I did was in my past and would not require forgiveness from my partner. Please explain why your partner would need to be forgiven to you?

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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how do u handle being a virgin past 25 Posted: 8/23/2009 5:06:35 PM
Thanks for sharing NightHawk2005 you rock

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Whats the funniest thing you have read on peoples profiles? Posted: 8/7/2009 11:53:50 PM
"what is wrong with all the women on here" "I swear people are just here for the pictures"

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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the comprehensive works of a ramberling mind Posted: 8/3/2009 3:00:33 PM
Keep on with your doodles and it will develop into more then small pieces of writing

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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the comprehensive works of a ramberling mind Posted: 8/3/2009 2:06:26 PM
I think what you wrote is very deep. As well, I wonder why you do not write poetry as I believe you would be good at it. Are you lost in life? What inspired you to write and share this? take care

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Would you date me ? Posted: 8/3/2009 1:57:48 PM
I would be turned off by the fact that you smoke, however if I met you and liked you then would deal with the fact that your a smoker on occassion. I do not get the occassional smoker bit, why you smoke occassionally? Plus as a former post said, I would be cautious about you being separated and ask you to expand on this. I do not like the idea of dating someone that is separated and would hang out as friends until a divorce was final. A suggestion would be to expand a little on your profile about being separated and let readers know that you are not looking to get back together with your wife.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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What do girls mean by wanting to Hang out? Posted: 7/28/2009 3:41:56 PM
My take is they are not actively seeking for someone, but would like to find a mate in the future.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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What goes on between the ears? Posted: 7/27/2009 7:22:41 PM
I feel refreshed and alive. Like I have been reborn once I come out of my negative train of thought

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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feeling pressured to have sex.. Posted: 7/27/2009 4:42:09 PM
sounds like you need to respect yourself enough to not type things like: "its hard not to have sex with someone when they talk about it and ask you all the time even though you say you wanted to wait" I would move on if a guy did not respect my wishes. Obviously if all he wanted was a piece of tail, then he could find it elsewhere.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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ladies and asian men??? Posted: 7/24/2009 5:00:59 PM
I would have to say Asian men are highly attractive to me. Tell him to come visit Further, I would not date someone just because they are Asian. I have found people in generally to have a lot of similarities; even when we think that we are so different. I went to Asia and thought I would suffer from "culture shock" However, even though my surroundings were different I adapted well and quickly. I found people are people; and just like anyplace the ones I met helped to keep me comfortable and happy. If you know what you want then you will attract this. There is the culture difference that can make it tough or have some people chose not to date based on this fact. I have an Asian friend that said he would not date someone unless they had the same background because he does not want to have to work at all the culture differences and barriers. I think that if two people are in love, then the race, nor the cultures differences will make a difference, providing both are willing to work at it. I could never picture myself saying...."Sorry, I really like you but your not Caucasian. Plus, the fact that you are catholic so I could never date you".

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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do women honestly believe guys who just want to hang out? Posted: 7/15/2009 5:02:25 PM
Yes, I do believe that some people are just looking to hang out. I do not just believe this but have met a few individuals that have proven this to be true. Although this is a dating site, not everyone is on here to date. People are all at different stages in their lives and seeking what it is that will fulfill their current needs. I have been to many meet and greets organized by other POF members on this site. The walks and bowling nights have been the best for me so far, as this gives people a chance to socialize and meet new faces without any strings attached. Sure, some are thinking more or wanting more....but if someone says that they are looking for friends, then I do not try my magic wand and change the scence.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Personal Favourite Quotes I Like Posted: 6/29/2009 1:43:25 AM
ABOUT ME: Try not to judge, life is a challenge for all of us, be yourself! If this isn't good enough for your friends, then you need to trade yours in for some new ones. If you can't be yourself, then who are you anyways? M.W.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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PHOTOS --- 05-16-2009 --- CENTRAL OHIO - Family Fun Day Barn Party with Bonfire - Baltimore OH Posted: 6/29/2009 1:30:59 AM
nice job camera crew ;) check out another pof event all the way from Canada: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12500968.aspx

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Pickton Denied Appeal Posted: 6/26/2009 1:39:50 PM
thanks "ms fartsalot" for your posting--this is so true, sadly one who is not the main instigator, or not the only one often takes the heat; we need to remember this too when justice arrives.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Pickton Denied Appeal Posted: 6/25/2009 11:43:02 PM
I would say an eye for an eye...I had a cousin that lost her life to this brutal ordeal. I never did get to meet her and its too bad that now I will have to wait until heaven. I don't like the idea of death penalty but at the same time I don't like the idea of someone this twisted walking the jail halls, or any halls for that matter.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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How Many is TOO Many??? Posted: 6/25/2009 10:53:25 PM
So long as you can afford it, no amount is too many. Although I have allergies so a house-full would be too much for me. However, if I loved my man and he had a full-house, I'd keep both him and the cats; as I am fortunate enough that I may get irritated from their fur, but not suffocate

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Have any idea's? Posted: 6/25/2009 9:27:26 PM
I think your profile is well written and you dont need any tips...

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Is too much Honesty a Good Thing? Posted: 6/20/2009 10:17:21 AM
I am told by my friends that I am too honest. I do not like to sugarcoat either. I tell it like it is. If someone asks my opinion on something I spill it. My sisters love it because if they ask how they look in a certain outfit or ask me anything, they know I will be honest. Sometimes brutally honest, which hurts some peoples feelings. I dont want to hurt others feelings, but I do not want to pretend that I like something when I dont either.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Do girls really want a nice guy? Posted: 6/20/2009 10:10:07 AM
Everyone is different my dear, wish you luck. Not everyone likes the homeboy or rastafarian or prep ect...you need only do what feels right BYW--Glad you not a ganster anymore, good choice!

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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is it fair...? Posted: 6/19/2009 6:33:02 PM
Not intrested in getting serious with anyone does not mean that this person is avoiding searching profiles. How do you know this or other people are still looking? It must bother you if you are aware of this. Just bluntly ask if there was anything you did that was a turn-off and let them know you are seeking honest feedback. I say, move on and dont fret the little things////someone for you could be lurking around the corner darling!

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Got a 2nd date tomorrow night Posted: 6/19/2009 6:10:10 PM
Congrats and thanks for the update...one tidbit just because you do not feel those sparks, so to speak, does not mean much. you do not always have to feel sparks and can still have feelings. and we all experience things differently and not always the same, so dont fret the small stuff. hang in there and go with what feels right-listen to your heart.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Advice needed Posted: 6/19/2009 5:52:03 PM
I do not see anything wrong with your profile, aside from the child in the picture may take some people back and have them search on....the write up is fine, good, and respectable with humour

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Relationships or a relatedness? Posted: 6/15/2009 8:32:22 PM
In 2009' I am not seeking a relationship with a partner by my side, but if this is what came to be and I was content, then this being said; I would not fight what felt correct. I believe that a relationship that will work well is one where the two of us are best friends, caring, and open to new ideas. I think that time alone is healthy, but too much time apart is not. I like what you had to say about a life partner who naturally wants to be with only only you. This is a dream in my mind, but not an impossible dream. I like and agree with your comment above.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Could really use a woman's perspective. Posted: 6/11/2009 2:42:21 PM
Patience my dear patience...I think you did a nice job on profile

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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I'm new to internet dating Posted: 6/11/2009 2:40:27 PM
I think the same, if your going to post pics...find some better ones. The write up seems fine, good luck

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Why men suck at detecting if women are interested Posted: 6/11/2009 2:23:38 PM
9 out of 10 times of your experiences that is.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Not really getting my profile looked at does anything need changing? Posted: 6/11/2009 1:23:30 PM
I think, put some spaces into your writing. Tough to read. Also, if your not already looking apply for job.

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Why men suck at detecting if women are interested Posted: 6/11/2009 1:16:11 PM
thoughts that come to my mind is that I am really bad at letting people know that I am not interested because I naturally have a flirtatious personality. If someone wants to know if I am into them, I like it if they ask me point blank instead of trying to guess how I may feel. And if I was interested I would let the guy know, not necessarily right away though. Likely I would wait a bit first and see if I still felt the same way over time. Thus, eliminating any lust factors that could be present

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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Got a 2nd date tomorrow night Posted: 6/11/2009 1:06:48 PM
Awww, so cute and sweet "good lucks" and do let me know how it went

harmonyharvest

Joined: 7/28/2008

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NANAIMO JUNE 7th WALK AT BOWEN PARK PICTURES Posted: 6/10/2009 4:10:41 PM
we all so damn gorgeous

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