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deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

Msg: 61 (view)

Have you ever waited for a love? Posted: 8/26/2007 11:43:57 AM
This certainly hits home. Friday I took the man I love to the bus stop and he's off to Cali. Same as you, he needs time to heal and resolve some issues. We both love each other and it hasn't been all pretty. All I know that I will wait for him, and I told him that, whether he chooses to come back, only he can make that decision. He did quote a movie line and it goes like this.....er so I hope.........."When two people truly love each other, when do they say enough in enough? NEVER" Guess all I can do is stay true to him in my heart and hope love brings him back to me. If not I have to love him enough to let him go and find whatever it is that isn't here.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 8/20/2007 4:01:12 PM
Yep, feel the same way. Even though I have children, critters and a job, I still feel alone. It's not like I can't get a man, I just want one that has a driver's license and doesn't sit in the bar all day or that is not the same age as my father. I really don't get it, over 6 billion or I suppose more, now, and still is hard to find anyone. The only place around here to socialize is at the local bars, therefore any man I meet I know I shouldn't establish a relationship cause it's doomed from the beginning and who needs the drama? So, yeah, I am waiting for that right man to find me, and hopefully it will be worth the wait.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

Msg: 38 (view)

To Forgive or Not To Forgive,That is The Question? Posted: 3/4/2007 5:48:05 PM
Forgiveness is something everyone has to learn to do. Forgiving yourself or others, whether they deserve it or not. It helps the healing process and makes it easier to move on. A great book that explains this, is Change Your Life, Change Your Mind. I encourage all to read it.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Ever asked a shop assistant out? Posted: 3/4/2007 1:32:37 PM
It wasn't a shop assisstant for me. I went to buy a new car recently and when it came time to go over the paperwork with the finance manager, it was unbelievable. A gorgeous, young, successful man that had a naughty side to him that was out of this world. Having a great night, I was giddy as hell and the flirting started and was so heavy you could cut it with a knife. Anyway, he asked if I was seeing anyone and I told him I had a date that coming weekend, but surely if it didn't work out, I would give him a call. Wouldn't you know, I called and what a blast we had bowling and making out and just amazing fun. So, in a way, I have no suggestions for you, just go with how you feel, don't hold back, you may regret waiting. Have fun and good luck.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Wouldn't It Be Nice. Posted: 2/23/2007 3:41:11 PM
Wouldn't it be nice if people just mean what they say and say what they mean? Actions speak a hell of alot louder than words. Yeah, so there's this guy, that yeah won't return phone calls or anything and I'm to think what he said to me was true? Good thing I can say no. Perhaps that's the problem right there. I said NO> Guess he wasn't worth it in the first place.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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I think I Am Cursed.... Posted: 2/23/2007 3:34:26 PM
If it's any consolation, I am in the same boat. No matter what I have tried, it seems it's all the wrong things, who wrote the rule book anyway? I am just very confused. Let's find the author of "The rules of relationships" and lynch him/her. I don't want to be alone AND lonely all my life.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Giving up!!! Posted: 2/22/2007 5:10:11 PM
My opinion is don't give up, just choose a different strategy. Let them come to you, know when you are being lied to and used and have the balls to pull the weeds from the flower beds. Lord knows, I am no sex object either, but get asked constantly for intimate encounters. I could care less about sex. I as well am here for friendships and stress this to the utmost. I have no intention of jeopardizing any friendships that I have made (which happens all too often when you give into sex). Well, if all else fails. Find a new hobby.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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How do keep yourself from becoming bitter? Posted: 2/21/2007 2:54:57 PM
Yup, definitely pineapple, Hawaiin grown if possible. Although it's a bit more pricey, really worth the results. Um don't let yourself go that far, really, it's a big turnoff. Take a deep breath and move on.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

Msg: 51 (view)

How do keep yourself from becoming bitter? Posted: 2/21/2007 2:45:37 PM
Yup, definitely pineapple, Hawaiin grown if possible. Although it's a bit more pricey, really worth the results. Um don't let yourself go that far, really, it's a big turnoff. Take a deep breath and move on.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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I found the ONE Posted: 2/21/2007 2:40:54 PM
Congratulations, glad you found YOUR ONE. Now, I wait for MY ONE to find me.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Women and competition Posted: 2/19/2007 12:49:30 PM
If I find out he's with someone or not interested, I back off and just prefer to be friends. If I like a guy and not sure of his intentions I remain lurking in the shadows. Afraid to show interest in any guy these days for fear of being labeled possessive, overbearing, etc. This doesn't even answer the question. Ha, just too tired to go on.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

Msg: 51 (view)

Beauty in the Posted: 2/16/2007 12:53:36 PM
I have been told I have a horrible sense of humor when it comes to physical and personality in choosing someone to date. I find something special in everyone and focus on that and incorporate all other features along with it.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Dating more than one person!? Posted: 2/16/2007 12:50:09 PM
Guess I'll know if I'm dating more than one person if anyone ever asks me to date. In the meantime, I just find hanging out and building friendships much easier on the soul. Less expectations if things don't work out.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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fish heaven... Posted: 2/16/2007 12:48:11 PM
This one time, I had a platypus, a malaysian tapir and ...........oh so many. Miss them all. Dearly.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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i hate being alone Posted: 2/12/2007 12:57:45 PM
Jenny, first of all, being alone is very painful. But being with someone and lonely is worse. Take this time to smell the roses, reflect on your life and discover you. Is that your child? If so, a child's love is the most pure and innocent and unconditional. I am going through the same thing, trust me, I know it hurts. Let love find you and take your time when it does, no need to rush into things. Chin up girl, good luck.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

Msg: 188 (view)

so what is it that men really want????? Posted: 2/10/2007 3:39:15 PM
When you figure it out, let me know, ok? Thanks

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Could you resist ? Posted: 2/10/2007 3:36:14 PM
Definitely have to trust whomever you are with and respect their privacy. If there is any doubt in your mind, then you have no business being there.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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the real thing Posted: 2/10/2007 9:31:37 AM
Yes, Steve, puncuation is a must. If you talk the way you write, people may tend to get confused. I only mean this in a positive way. Another thing, are you looking for a man or a woman, your profile is not clear. You're a good looking lad, and perhaps you have some good things going for you. Let someone special find you. Don't try so hard. Good luck.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Are there any subtle ways to let a guy know you like him? Posted: 2/5/2007 7:43:21 AM
I am in a situation myself. Do you tell him you like him and chance it scaring him away? Or do you play it cool and drift apart? This is a guy I just started hanging out with, and I think there are subtle hints from him that he likes me, but not sure if it's beyond friendship. I dare say not. I am totally not in his social class or what I believe physically he is looking for. Oh the confusion of it. Yeah, don't want to let him get away, but don't want to send him running with his hands flailing. I would approach him and initiate friendship, and see where it goes from there. The rest I can't help you with. Good luck.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Ladies: guy kissing you or asking to kiss you? Posted: 2/3/2007 3:39:24 PM
I must respond...........Recently I went to hang out with someone I met from POF. When it was time for me to leave, he leaned over in the car and kissed me, I must say I was totally caught off guard. Needless to say, he kissed me twice more and I just was dumbfounded. The next time we went out, kissind was subtle at first then throughout the night was more passionate and holy wow. I cannot explain how kissing "him" made me feel. I am not one to initiate this sort of thing. He didn't ask, he just went for it. I have no complaints. "Thank you" you know who you are if you are reading this, and look forward to many more. Intoxicating

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Love disappeared over night. Posted: 2/2/2007 4:23:13 PM
Totally agree that love can't disappear overnight. Have had similar situations, where a relationship that was going well, ended. Just like that. No warning, no explanation, nothing. Been hurt alot, and am really opening my eyes and being more aware of the things going on around me, quite the learning experience. Hang in there, but move on. Don't take it with you to the next relationship.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Pitbulls Banned!!! Posted: 1/20/2007 12:00:30 PM
Truly, ppl need to get educated on this breed, ban the idiots not the dogs. I own two myself and they are the sweetest tempered dogs I know, raised right they would be for anyone. And ANY dog can attack another dog or human without warning. EDUCATE YOURSELVES. I am saying no more.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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How do I make a relationship last??? Posted: 1/11/2007 7:10:56 AM
I say slow down and be patient. TAke it in the day, and don't stress about the future. Be patient, don't drill him or overwhelm him, be yourself. Be happy with what you have now. If it's not broke don't fix it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am going through a time myself with a man I adore. I also have screwed things up with past relationships and am trying to learn a new approach. This seems to work for me, perhaps you will find something that works for you. Good luck.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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what speaks louder... words or actions?? Posted: 1/11/2007 7:03:29 AM
Yup, definitely this one is so obvious. As a matter of fact it happened to be brought up the other day between an ex of mine and myself, and he totally disagreed, that's why he's my ex. Need I say more?

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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The heart and the head! Posted: 1/6/2007 10:10:35 AM
Always trust your head before your heart, somewhere in the bible is says your heart is the most dangerous and treacherous of all. I will post it later.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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OK, here's one for you Posted: 1/4/2007 2:46:36 PM
Ok, here's one for you. I myself LOVE LOVE LOVE to be held in public, in the privacy of my own home and in bed. Your girl is a freak. That's all I can add to this situation.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat? Posted: 1/1/2007 8:13:44 PM
Um stupid questions like this shouldn't even be posted, but let's respond. Quit for YOU, nobody else. Duh. Enough said.

deadgirllivin

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Favorites List????? Posted: 1/1/2007 8:10:48 PM
Exactly, I have over 100 people on my favorites and maybe talked to 5. What really is the point? Looks bad for the person like me to have that many guys, it's a turn off for other men reading your profile and then making some smart ass comment about how many people have you on their list. I guess they don't realize, YOU are on THEIR list, They are not on YOURS. Well anyway, no control over people who find something about you they like and want to show it somehow and hide behind a pic, never speak up and at least say hello.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Kissing on New Years Eve: Can it lead to anything serious? Posted: 12/30/2006 5:20:24 PM
Kissing on New Year's don't mean shit. I was kissed two years ago on New Year's, by a wonderful man. Well, we talked for weeks after and even got together, and it went it nowhere. Last year I was promised a New Year's kiss raincheck and was stood up. REally, you people ask the most retarded questions on these forums. So, don't get pissed when I say this.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

Msg: 59 (view)

Thinking of a deceased lover/boy/girlfriend Posted: 12/30/2006 3:50:38 PM
Oh, hell yes, he is in my thoughts daily. I will never forget. I am going to get a tattoo to memorialize our love. He was murdered and burned to death in a car accident. Just remember, you can't change what has happened. Keep the good healthy thoughts alive, and move on. Nothing wrong with him being in your thoughts.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Can you have amazing chemistry with someone you have never met? Posted: 12/26/2006 1:58:41 PM
Oh God,yes this is utterly and completely true. I have met two awesome guys who I have had magnificent chemistry with through IM and phone conversation. Unbelievable.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

Msg: 189 (view)

Why are older women not into younger guys??? Posted: 12/26/2006 7:40:37 AM
I myself LOVE younger men. Men my age and older just give me the willies. I find men within the 10 years younger range are quite ready for a relationship, I have been enjoying dating them, I am not ready for a commitment or I would have snagged a few already. I have also dated as young as 23, some are mature and know how to treat a woman. I have been asked out by 19 yo's and perhaps, yes, that is pushing it. Take some time and don't look for women too much older than you at this point. Have fun and be patient.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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RE: Goodbye Posted: 12/22/2006 12:50:46 PM
I as well, believe I have found the man I have been looking for. Proceed with caution or go head on. Which will I choose? I believe it's too late, my head and my heart have already made that decision. This is only because he gives me everything I need without asking, and I in return appreciate and reciprocate those things. I could go on, but so all out there without hope, have patience, whether you are looking or waiting to be found. Whether it is online dating or passing on the street, there is one out there for you if it's meant to be. Have God watch over you, he has a plan greater than you can imagine. Good luck, best wishes and Godspeed to all.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Differences In Personalities Of Nonphoto Profile People.... Posted: 12/21/2006 7:57:33 AM
I can relate to this. We, all base our judgement of people first on their looks. WEll, I am talking to someone at this time, from POF, whom I haven't seen, and he is a very intelligent, nonegotistical, pronounced individual. If I ever do "meet" him, I believe I would be blown away. Just his personality is tremendous. I am involved with someone at this time and our meeting would only be in friendship.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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could you love and not be loved in return? Posted: 12/17/2006 6:25:24 PM
Well, I have something to say to this one. I myself am experiencing the same thing. My "boyfriend" poured on the attention and affection from the start, GREAT. Recently, he doesn't have the desire to communicate or show affection in any way. It's hard to let it go, but this is one I will have to learn from and move on. Just know that it's not you that is failing. It is the one who chooses not to participate who is losing out. Don't blame yourself, but don't stay in a relationship where you are the only one making an effort and it gets overlooked.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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wish I could go back and change things S Posted: 12/12/2006 6:13:13 PM
I have dealt with the same situation. Trust me, you have to let go of the past and focus on the now. Too much time is wasted dwelling on the woulda, shoulda, coulda and what if. You will find yourself irritated, depressed and angry focusing on the hurts and unforgiving thoughts of the past. Don't believe you are going to be hurt, rejected or unloved or fearful of the future because you believe the awful past is doomed to repeat itself. Be happy in the present. There is no value in hanging onto unforgiving thoughts and hurtful past, then you can let go. There is no value in being preoccupied with a fearful future. Put all your energies into extending love in the present. You have a choice whether to to to continue to hold on or let go. You will see changes. I myself have to learn this as well. I cannot love or be loved if I am to drag the past around every new encounter or person I meet. It takes too much negative energy and distorts focus on the here and now. Good luck.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Ever wonder if you are the one at fault for your broken heart? Posted: 10/7/2006 12:20:48 PM
Well, this is a great one to respond to. I know I have never had luck with men from the get go. After my first divorce, I met the man of my dreams, but twice I screwed it up and tried to make it right a third. Needless to say, I will never have the chance to tell him how much I love him, he burned to death two years ago and now I know, my heart will never heal from shame. I would never be this miserable if I would have realized what a great love it was. Now I try to find a man and it is a horrible let down. The what if's and should have's just won't make it right. I can only hope that my fault of a broken heart, will someday be mended .

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Taking Back What You Gave Away!!!! Posted: 8/8/2006 12:58:11 PM
Oh how I can relate. I could add to this, but will just empathize. Really knowing how hard it is to surrender yourself to God and not to another man. There are too many of us (men and women), in this world, and the world is vicious. Love shouldn't hurt this bad.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Are you hopeful or hopeless? Posted: 8/2/2006 12:22:13 PM
I say straddling the fence on this one. I thought I had met the man of my dreams, until he dumped me over a misunderstanding concerning his dog. Next, there are many other guys out there who say they are interested and want to start a relationship, but never follow through. Some don't want game players, but play games themselves. So, I don't know how much longer I will stay on this site or any. I don't seem to be getting far anywhere.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Why can't I get a date Posted: 7/11/2006 3:55:24 PM
Updating this one as well, everday I get several responses, they are just from men with no photos, bald, fat, toothless hillbillies. Others are just sexual encounters. Yeah, I get swamped, but to find just one that I am even remotely interested in is the clincher.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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well i found my MR. Right Posted: 7/11/2006 3:53:16 PM
This needs to be updated, got totally F**Ked so I am on the prowl again.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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well i found my MR. Right Posted: 4/3/2006 6:25:51 AM
Well Sweetreat63, I guess I am jumping on the band wagon here. I am deleting my account today, because I believe my search has ended. Good luck to you and everyone else who is also searching out there.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Where all the Cowgirls Posted: 3/14/2006 7:16:47 AM
Well I don't know how to 2-step or electric slide, don't wear boots all the time nor do I "sport" a hat (let alone a pink one). I do ride and train horses, would love to get involved in more equine activities such as shooting from horseback, rodeos and jousting perhaps. Is this cowgirl or should I say horsegirl enough? I would settle just for finding a guy to ride with and enjoy himself.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Why can't I get a date Posted: 3/4/2006 4:56:07 PM
Hey, don't feel bad. I don't get too many responses either. Whether it's online or in real life. I have tried several things to improve or to appeal to all . But, yes, keep the faith, as I do, and the right one will find you.

shockdmunkey2002

Joined: 9/22/2005

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Gathering - Madison - February 25th Posted: 2/14/2006 10:40:51 AM
Ice fishing anyone? It seems a bit too chilly for bare hunting I figure, so count me in. I will be at the Dry Bean. Watch out, I may have a fish story to tell when I get home.

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