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Should I? Posted: 7/2/2009 4:46:03 PM
No child should be subjected to an environment filled with drugs and alcohol abuse. Listen to your attorney and when you go to court, your attorney will bring this up to the judge, and it will be the judges discretion. Typically, without having any proof, the judge may still allow the father certain rights. I would suggest supervised visits. This is what my ex husband has (also an addict), but he has not been involved in over 6 years. When going to court all those years ago, it had been about a year into it, with no contact, and the judge slammed him hard. (he was not at the hearing. surprise.) Good luck to you.

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Single mum or single woman? Posted: 10/17/2008 9:46:44 AM
You should never lower your standards for anyone or anything! No exeptions!

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How do I talk to me kids about why their dad doesn't see them? Posted: 10/15/2008 11:46:23 AM
I would let them address it. You didnt mention why he stopped seeing them. If you dont know why, tell them the truth, that you arent sure. Never lie to your children, however, at such a young impressionable age, you have to be careful to not taint them and end up mixing up YOUR feelings into it. (that is if theres bad blood with it all). My daughter is 6, and has not seen her father since I left him when she was 3 months old. Because shes school age, topics and events come up, and she sees her friends with dads around. He attempts to call when he feels he needs an ego boost, but even THAT lately, has been heart wrenching for him, because the last 4x he has called, she has not wanted to talk to him. She has told him innocently enough, that she sent a fathers day gift to my dad because he was there and the "father" wasnt. I have tried super hard to keep my feelings on the backburner around her. I think Ive done pretty well, although I have my own feelings about it. You cant talk sense with an alcoholic and pothead. But nonetheless, its best to be open, and if they do ask complex questions, best to put it as simple and kidlike as possible.

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Baby Teeth Posted: 10/15/2008 11:37:01 AM
LOL!!! Ive been wondering what to do with them myself. My daughter just turned 6, and she has lost a total of 8!! She lost her first one on the day of her 5th bday. It seems she started loosing early, but then again, so did I. I had braces when I was in the 6th grade for a year. So far, I have kept all of them in a plastic bag in my room, but I dont know how long I can save them all..lol. Her first one is being put in her baby scrapbook though.

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What to Think... The Ex has a sleepover boyfriend Posted: 10/15/2008 11:28:17 AM
Okay judgmental crowd here. You put your story out there. Dont be shocked that the responses are not what you are looking for, or WANT to hear.

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What to Think... The Ex has a sleepover boyfriend Posted: 10/15/2008 11:25:35 AM
the kids have met a woman I've been seeing. But only for an outing to go bowling. My ex on the other hand is bringing the kids on outings with her boyfriend and his kids Why should you have a problem with her doing the same thing you are doing? As for the sleepover part. That is none of your business. Yes, she has your kids, but, they are hers too, and while I dont condone the spending night part, that is really something you have no control over. The whole sleep over part has long been an issue with both parties, and IMO, is nothing more than a scare tactic to be used in court just because the other party feels "betrayed". Unless you know that the children are in immediate danger and the boyfriend has criminal or drug issues, this is something that is going to be a fight unless you just accept she has moved on with her life as well as you.

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