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happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

Msg: 17 (view)

On a different note... Posted: 2/13/2009 9:38:52 PM
Stick with your gut feeling- finances are a personal matter that impacts everything on such a bigger level. Keep saving (which you will), keep an open mind, and watch your comfort level. You CAN find happiness and stay true to your philosophy (if you are savvy, even with someone who is not on your level yet $$)! In time you will find someone you will be comfortable with on ALL levels. In other words - if you cant find love and keep your credit rating - you dont want to go there! All the best

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 2/1/2009 7:44:23 PM
39 pages later...the only thing that got me thru the hell was everything ameerra refers to - being able to weather the storm, zen and finally figuring out that "the only power Narcissists can have over us is that which we GIVE them". Hope everyone here who can relate gets a chance to truly heal. We deserve it!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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what was your first car Posted: 1/10/2009 10:07:06 PM
1982 Chrysler LeBaron. It's gone now - the (EX) husband felt a station wagon (WTF!) was better suited to a growing family...THAT car's long gone too! It cost me $3500, FULLY loaded back in 1988 which was also the payout when I smashed it on Christmas day night 1989...I loved it so much I had it all fixed up and drove it for 5 more years. Power windows, power seats, air conditioning - the wagon never had any of that! Soon as I divorced him, I bought myself a Cutlass...

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Store Clerk or Owner Ripoffs Posted: 12/26/2008 11:16:44 PM
ummm.....I am pretty sure stopstarin was KIDDING!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Anyone other single parents or anyone else alone on Christmas day????? Posted: 12/20/2008 9:09:12 PM
bump this back up to the top. a timely topic...

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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it's been bugging me Posted: 12/13/2008 5:59:32 PM
LOL, I figured as much but it still felt good to vent! If spelling is all I have to comment on, then my life is pretty damn good!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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it's been bugging me Posted: 11/29/2008 6:03:34 PM
for months... Markus...please change the spelling in the forum for sex and sexualITY issues. Spelling errors make me flip LOL. All the best, happygal

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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who viewed me list is a lie Posted: 9/8/2008 5:35:33 PM
Hello! You can EASILY check the option to view people without them seeing that you viewed them! There's nothing stealth here. I can see you without you seeing that I saw you. If I saw you without you seeing that I saw you, I am not a creeper - I am just going incognito and if I like you, I'll let you know! But my profile is visible so if you see me feel free to say hi if you like!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 8/21/2008 9:51:40 PM
I cant emphasize how important this thread has been! 3 years after my "emancipation", a dear colleague of mine has run into a similar situation. When she told me the Rx was formally narcissistic personality disorder and I knew what it was, she was shocked because it is quite rare. Not so rare when your POF allies rally round you!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Old Wedding Dress/Tux??? Posted: 8/21/2008 9:39:17 PM
Leanne - wonderful to see you still here- I am rarely here anymore and you are the first to wish me well. Thanks! Hope all is well with you and Capey! I was so happy for you when you had your great news - NEVER thought it would happen to me!!! WOW!!!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Old Wedding Dress/Tux??? Posted: 8/18/2008 2:31:07 PM
I loved the ideas about the christening gown for a grandchild and especially incorporating the lace and beads into a headpiece for a daughter (my kids are still too young for me to be thinking about this stuff however). I do lots of sewing and have made a christening gown for a friend from her wedding dress - it was wonderful. I found my fiance here (YAY POF!!!) and we are getting married next spring. If anyone would like to have the lace/beads from their dress be reincarnated into the dress I am designing for myself for this event, I can promise you that the joy this project is bringing me will lift the curse off your dress and send its parts into a much happier future! I would also be thrilled to incorporate my POF friends into my happy day!!! happygal

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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are women willing to look past a mans flawed teeth. Posted: 6/9/2008 4:51:50 PM
Thank you bbfm11 for your absolutely on the mark opinion. I couldnt agree more. You do not offend me at all and I appreciate your kind words respecting my opinion . I thank you for recognizing that I am a more understanding person than most. I met my fishy here and his teeth arent the best but we have been together for 2 years. He is not complacent about it and neither am I and I think that is the difference here. It is not a question about doing something about it - it is merely a question about when.

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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are women willing to look past a mans flawed teeth. Posted: 5/25/2008 4:23:46 PM
OMG! I only read a few responses (in fact I totally skipped pages 2 and 3) and I truly understand everyone's point of view that taking care of one's teeth is vital and that decayed teeth are not attractive etc etc. HOWEVER, that said, I would absolutely NOT make a complete and utter judgement call on someone based on teeth alone! Teeth can be fixed! Finances (and perhaps fear) may dictate WHEN the fixing happens but I would rather date a great guy with lousy teeth than a guy with great teeth and a lousy personality any day!!! In fact, I met a fantastic man here on POF who I have now been with over 2 years (the one with the great personality and the teeth in need of fixing). I shudder to think where I would be today if his teeth was all I looked at! (Many) People with bad teeth deserve some understanding.There are MANY reasons why bad teeth get that way and hygiene isnt the ONLY one. And like I said - they CAN be fixed. What a shame to pass by a person of substance for the sake of how things look. I support everyone's right to have a viewpoint but mine differs. And I am glad it does! Otherwise I would have missed a great opportunity to meet someone really special!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Does blended families come with dating or marriage? Posted: 5/25/2008 9:08:07 AM
Has anyone looked at this guy's other forum posts? Out of curiosity I just did and there is quite a theme going on. Looks like he's using POF for free therapy... NC - the answers you are looking for are already within yourself. Nothing anyone here says is going to sway what you already know. The only person you are arguing with is yourself really, trying to justify your position to everyone else. Best of luck to you.

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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any suggestions on best Ont places to move near or on water Posted: 5/24/2008 9:42:48 PM
I grew up on Lake Huron in the Goderich area - still alot of snow and cold and miserable in the winter. If you want water, temperate and close to all amenities, I might suggest looking around Georgina on Lake Simcoe. It's close to the city but not too close, MUCH less snow, better roads and cheaper gas. p.s. I have a friend with a 2 bedroom house in Jackson's Point for sale LOL. Seriously though, even if you dont want the house - Georgina area is lovely!!!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Does blended families come with dating or marriage? Posted: 4/26/2008 10:32:17 PM
OMG! Get real! If you have been together, and living together that long you should consider yourselves a "real"family! I was with a guy for just as long whose family did not acknowledge my kids as "real" because we lived together but were not married. Long story short - it never ends and we split (read : I finally left after 4+ years) because what it really came down to is that his family was not looking at us as a blended family because HE was projecting us as not a "real" family. After that length of time, if you are still worried about splitting tomorrow and going your separate ways, be a real man and give the lady and her boys a break. Get out of their lives and let them move on with a man who actually believes in FAMILY!@! "Your" lady has no control over her ex or his family and if they are involved with her children or if they are cheap **stards. If you really cared about these boys, I would think you would be supporting your woman! She just wants her (your!) boys to feel cared for!!! It's not about money! It's about acceptance and love. After 6 years, you sound like you have only been dating her a few months...I dont get it!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Ipod and clock radio docking station - help! Posted: 4/3/2008 4:41:51 PM
ok, what is happening is that my daughter sets her ipod nano (newest kind) so that it will play the music on her iPod as an alarm in the morning. if she sets it to go off in a few minutes it works fine, however if it is set to go off after more than five minutes (not to mention hours) it doesnt work. what happens is that after you leave it, it changes from the screen with the music she wants to play, to the charging screen (shows a large battery). After the iPod screen shows the charging page, the alarm will not work. help!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Ipod and clock radio docking station - help! Posted: 4/2/2008 3:46:07 PM
The problem is that after 5 minutes of having docked the Ipod (3rd generation), it goes automatically to the charging screen even if it is fully charged and then it goes into a sleep mode, therefore rendering waking up to the alarm clock with Ipod music completely useless. Ipod email support replied and said "unit needs service". (that the entire e-response - nice...) Well it's brand new and a replacement for a piece of crap 2nd generation that never worked right from day one. In every other way this new one works fine. Does anybody have any suggestions??

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Wedding??? Posted: 3/28/2008 8:33:23 PM
You are young and on a dating site, presumably looking for some advice. My advice - 3 months is WAY too soon to be thinking this way. Give it a year and if it still feels right then it may be going somewhere. If it doesnt feel right, you learned something along the way and you've lost nothing but gained experience. Anyone worth waiting for will honour your desire to go gradually. Be very concerned if you feel pressured for any reason! It feels great to feel that desired but that's a feeling you want to LAST!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Dating Thoughts? Posted: 3/21/2008 9:33:36 AM
I just wanted to bump this thread to the top again because it has so much value. A few months old, but it's 1 page full of wisdom that I think more people should have the opportunity to view. Happy Easter everybody!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Who Ever Thought Fishing was this much fun????? Posted: 2/16/2008 7:51:20 PM
My fav pof moments are always reading the mod threads! Already voted as so stupid they are about to disappear, it is fun to have a peek before they meet their demise!! Good fun for an "I'm bored" evening, almost as good as AFV

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Dating Thoughts? Posted: 12/21/2007 8:04:59 PM
I, too, agree that our society is extremely disposable now. With internet dating, many people appear to be in a continual process of "trading up". It can be very depressing and lacks that feeling of valuing something (relationship or material posession) because you worked at it and earned it. That said, internet dating has the potential to open up a vast opportunity for social networking for people who, for whatever reason, have a hard time meeting people. (like for shift workers, single parents, people in small communities, shy people - you get the idea). I think the key is in how we approach it. Obviously, lots of people dont know what they want, are players etc, etc. We all have met people like that. However, it has been my experience that if you approach this opportunity sincerely, open heartedly and smartly (and with a few grains of salt and a sense of humour) you can meet some equally genuine ad terrific people. You may not find "the one" (or maybe you might) but you will find the process much less bleak! I had some truly miserable experiences but also met some people that I really enjoyed meeting even though they were not a "match". And what do you know? I ended up finding MY fishy!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Anyone other single parents or anyone else alone on Christmas day????? Posted: 12/3/2007 6:36:46 PM
I dont even know at this point what time I get the kids back on Christmas day this year but I do know that it will be a wonderful time when they do get back and we are together. It's my turn for New Year's eve and I am planning to make that really special for them. I have had several Christmases where I didnt have the kids on the actual eve/day at all. It's not about what's on the calendar but what's in your heart.

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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How in the world do you break it off to someone that has gotten a little too attached way to fast? Posted: 12/3/2007 5:31:05 PM
Jeez people, quit bashing the guy for asking a question! Dumping someone is hard at the best of times and right before Christmas is tough. DB - it will hurt her regardless, but way more the longer you put it off. You're right, you dont need to lie. BUT, do you really need to find someone? Maybe you need some time to clear your head, settle the divorce and heal a little. Then you will be ready for the real thing.... All the best

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Anyone other single parents or anyone else alone on Christmas day????? Posted: 12/3/2007 5:25:36 PM
single and depressed at Christmas - I did this thread the year I joined too! I think we have all experienced this and the holidays are a tough time for sure! I have to tell you though, I made some great friends with the people who replied to my lonely little thread (back in the POF days before we could vote to delete threads on a whim). I wish you all the best, Bart and hope you can find some peaceful moments (notice I didnt say happy, although those moments will find you too soon enough) during the holiday season. happygal

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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44 DAY LIQUER Posted: 12/3/2007 3:44:00 PM
This is my idea of a great recipe forum! And I thought I had to be able to cook to venture in here! LMAO

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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microsoft powerpoint Posted: 11/26/2007 4:47:54 PM
I am learning how to use the program and have a "for dummies" book assisting me here BUT... all want to know is - is it possble to make each slide be a different picture that comes in clear and bright but then fades out (but not all the way )so I can have the type come on and show up clearly over top? ...cant find that in the book but I have figured out the rest. Thanks!!!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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~ How to get Pregnant!! ~ Posted: 11/8/2007 7:17:50 PM
Leanne, I am so sorry for your loss. for both of you!! I was very saddened to read yor last post. I know it can never replace the hopes and joys of a child together but you and capeey created an angel together My thoughts and prayers are with you both. happygal

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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TRUE CONFESSIONS - only if you are brave enough Posted: 10/24/2007 7:30:21 PM
ok NDLT^^ your place is the officially designated safe place! thanks for the tip!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Is there such a thing as... Posted: 10/18/2007 7:24:37 PM
I totally believe there is such a thing, having gone through it myself. All I can say is that I will never again tell a smoker they should just quit! I can now understand the physical reactions they have to endure, not the SAME obviously, just the general principle of it all. I just went back to eating sugar! Anyways, there are lots of books about this topic at your local library - go have a look.

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Who admits to using drugs? Posted: 10/15/2007 6:33:38 PM
It really bugs me when people say they dont do drugs even when it's obvious they do. So ya - I have to agree, very few will admit they do. Oral sex apparently isnt sex and pot isnt a drug... WHATEVER! No wonder some people cant even get a date if they cant be honest with themselves.

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Need advice Posted: 10/15/2007 6:29:02 PM
I totally agree with everything uglybetty said. Great minds think alike...lots of other women likely think the same way.

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Why do we all need to know how big is your.... Posted: 10/15/2007 3:31:11 PM
"Not really interested in your litte head at the moment....whats the one on top think about (insert probing question)?" priceless comeback!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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~ How to get Pregnant!! ~ Posted: 10/12/2007 3:08:38 PM
All my best wishes, Leanne! That's wonderful news!!! I just knew I'd be reading that in this thread sooner or later Take good care of yourself! happygal

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Dating someone in early recovery from alcoholism Posted: 10/10/2007 7:56:33 PM
I was of the understanding that people in the early stage of recovery are discouraged by AA from getting into romantic relationships since they need to be focussing on their own wellness. Not a great idea to replace alcohol with what could turn out to be another 'all consuming' thing before they are standing strongly on their own two feet. Somebody please correct me if I am wrong... JMO, let him be strongly on his own 2 feet. If he is the right guy, he must take care of his sobriety first, and he will. Be nothing more than friends and allow him to do this.

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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What Do you think abotut a girls night out Posted: 10/3/2007 8:00:08 PM
I think you might not be getting the replies you want because your title is a little unclear. I'd love to tell you what I think of a girls night out LOL but you are more specifically looking to organize a girls night out in your area. Cool but I am too far away to join you. Good luck

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Are you passionate about your work or is it just a job to you? Posted: 10/1/2007 3:10:09 PM
I just LOVE my job. I am very lucky to say it found ME rather than the other way around, and at a time when I was at a huge personal crossroads and took a leap. It restored my faith in "the bigger picture" and I'm not sure who truly benefits more - the children with special needs I work with every day, or myself!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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I FOUND HIM Posted: 9/19/2007 7:48:21 PM
I highly recommend a book called "Zen and the art of falling in love" by Brenda Shoshanna. Have a look at it when you can - it's an easy read and was life altering for me! Maybe it will do the same for you

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Just curious??? Posted: 9/11/2007 3:36:21 PM
springwater I dont really mind bad spellers lol. After all there are many wonderful people who cant spell. Every now and then though I do ponder that taking the time to proof read might also show that the person does take the time/effort to attend to the little details that make a good first impression. And now and then I enjoy replying to old whiny threads just for the entertainment value! plus I was making a jab at the goof above me who tried to suggest that all women are stupid...that comment made him look like a dumbass hahahaha

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Main Pic - 20 years younger? Posted: 9/10/2007 7:13:26 PM
I think Leanne has a really interesting point. Ya it's a dating site and ya, preference would be a current photo, but it can be very interesting to think the situation through with Leanne's alternate thought process. OMG seriously, are we all so stuck in the box that we cant get out of the pond????? Leanne's thought process found her her fishy, I think along similar lines and found MY fishy...what's to lose????

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Just curious??? Posted: 9/10/2007 7:01:05 PM
or maybe the theory is that women like guys that either know how to spell or at least take the time to use spell check...

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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norton antivirus help Posted: 8/20/2007 7:06:58 PM
^^^^^ holy CRAP! like I am going to take the time to read all that, sorry but no... and all the links you posted are likely to get this whole thread deleted, then it helps no one...

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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norton antivirus help Posted: 8/10/2007 10:01:33 PM
Besides, what difference does it make WHEN this was posted??? It's still valid if someone is having problems....... I am so glad this thread continues to help others, thats why old threads live on!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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squirrels in my bedroom ceiling...HELP! Posted: 8/3/2007 8:38:16 PM
thank you all you posters for a great laugh! I may not get those damn squirrels out with any POF help but at least it's funny trying!!! p.s. I used google after I posted here, not nearly as entertaining but much more useful! happy long weekend everyone (Canadians anyhow!!! )

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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squirrels in my bedroom ceiling...HELP! Posted: 8/1/2007 7:56:43 PM
My bedroom is on the main floor with no second story above it (but a sloped roof) and sharing a common wall with the garage. I have been hearing the pitter patter of little feet running over heard at night and sure enough, when I pulled the vent cover off today it was very clear that they are nesting up INSIDE my ceiling. This vent cover is small and on the side of house so I have no direct access to the area and no way to see how bad the damage actually is but there is insulation all over the place where there shouldn't be any. Does anybody have any tips on what I can do before they chew the hell out of the insulation and styrofoam venting that circulates the air in this space? I hope they dont start chewing on the electrical wires! I know that I need to block any access they are getting through the eaves of the garage but how do I get them out of there first???

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 7/25/2007 7:55:22 PM
OMG His favourite thing to tell me was "I'm just trying to help you be a better person." Thats EXACTLY what my ex said to me!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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norton antivirus help Posted: 7/19/2007 8:28:38 PM
Wow, blast from the past seeing this pop up! But for anyone who cares, I dumped the norton not long after this post, went with Avira (free) and have had no problems whatsoever for over a year. If only I had known how truly awful Norton was, I never would have EVER used it. AND now my computer runs a million times faster!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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Plentyoffish Relationship Assessment. Posted: 7/6/2007 8:16:36 PM
LOVED this test! Bang on accurate for me. I do agree with other posters that I had a few quirks but they all fell on the "positives" side of the scale and reading those positives, I was quite in agreement that these items were captured because they represent who I am!!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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MIDLAND'S 1ST EVER... PATIO PRIZE PARTY @ SHA-NA-NA'S JUNE 2nd 2007 !!!! Posted: 5/27/2007 8:50:37 PM
Have a fantastic time everybody!!! MWK, sorry I cant be there at Midland's 1st bash!!! I would love to weeble my way home from that, LOL, but I found my fishy on POF and I'll be over in his zone next weekend. Next bash he'll be a 'local' too so make sure you plan another!!!!

happygal_28

Joined: 9/25/2005

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what is going on??? Posted: 5/24/2007 7:53:22 PM
Dont expect a tech support phone call! In fact by posting your phone number you have set yourself up to be a) deleted or b)phoned by every freak on the planet claiming to be POF tech support. Good luck to you my friend...

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