Borderlines (mostly) don't cheat because of sex.....they want to be accepted....and what better way to be accepted than with sex. If the BPD is feeling the least bit rejected by their SO.....and this could literally consist of a missed telephone call.....they will frantically look for acceptance somewhere else. If the BPD doesn't build up a tolerance for their perception of "rejection".....chances are, they will keep cheating.

For some reason, as I read your profile, I get the feeling that you want to dissapear into the wall. You're somehow defiant and apologetic all at the same time.

I hope you have good taste like me and love the Cubs and NC State

. Anyway ladies, don't worry about what you put on your profile, we don't even read them.
Everybody seems to have the same interests and I have nothing in common with any woman on this site. But you know what? If I am interested in her for an unfathomable variety of undefinable and intangible reasons, I will interest myself in her interests. People lie, of course they lie. They lie to themselves. It's the human condition. Small lies are the lubricant of social discourse. People are vulnerable to lies on the net because you don't have any body language. You lose about ninety percent of the message.

And whether it was a real picture of him, or a "stolen from the net" picture

miss joules-a bit of a contradictory statement-

in one phrase you state you believe people put their expectations TOO HIGH
you owe it to yourself to raise the bar...my expectations will remain high and i will be patient in the "process"

then you state...what makes you think you'll find your soulmate in a few months?...
realistically anyone who has HIGH standards is not going to "think" it will only take a few months to find someone special....we know it will be a lengthy process...