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psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Whats it like being single over 30? Posted: 11/21/2009 9:15:50 AM
I used to be bummed about being single. I spent my whole 20s trying to find a decent women. Didn't happen. Am 30 now, but am finding I don't care so much any more. Like others have said, I can go out and do what I want, my money is my money so no kids or child support. Most women are kinda dumb when it comes to certain things and I'm glad I don't have to deal with that. I never had a long term relationship either so I never had to deal with the typical mindfck mental bullsht women put men through. Well I did but it was all very short term thankfully. If I never find anyone I'm fine with that. I'd rather be 40 and totally single, and have money and freedom than be 40 broken, divorced, paying butt loads of child support and maybe even alimony.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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so annoying..why do people do this? Posted: 11/3/2009 3:22:51 AM
"on again off again" grow up. Those kinds of relationships are for high school kids. either be together or don't

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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looks or profile, what attracks you first? Posted: 11/3/2009 3:21:46 AM
Nothing really attracts me on any womens profile. Sure some are good looking but thats where it stops, not enough for me to initiate anything. They can have a nice profile, and all, but I'll know deep down their probably a selfish self centered flakey fake ass waist of my time.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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how long should a first meeting last and how do you get out of one without being rude? Posted: 11/3/2009 3:15:19 AM
hour tops. once I realize the women is as worthless as a three legged horse I usually make an excuse. So far its been every women off this site. Expected.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Does online dating make your life easier? Posted: 10/29/2009 8:38:19 PM
Makes it easier to meet women who are single for a damn good reason to begin with. I think in person or via friends is the best way if you have the chance. And most women would have a easy time that way. The rest who aren't too serious, but like to think they are. Come here. However if in a rare case you are for real, this site can work for you,(but only for women, as this site seems nearly useless for men)as I am sure a few eligible men have probably already contacted you by now. I do understand women get some pervs, but I don't think its as many as they put on.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Good on Paper..... Posted: 10/29/2009 8:35:03 PM
The women I have met on this site seem genuine, and sweet and great on paper. Inreality, their the same cold, fake **** over and over again. I don't know about men but the women on this site are 99% fake profiles when you look at it from this perspective.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Why does this keep happening to me? Posted: 10/29/2009 8:27:39 PM
Its just how women are man. All the comments about how "its you" you can disregard. Women don't appreciate shit now days. Its not your fault just like its not mine. Their just kinda programs wrong I don't know. And the good ones aren't going to be single. At least not long enough to be single AND looking. Cause as whats well established, women have a easier time finding someone.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 10/29/2009 8:23:21 PM
I used to often feel pretty depressed cause I was single, and never felt like I was gonna find "the one". Its been that way for years with others telling me I will meet her. But I've changed, I don't get depressed about it, I really don't care all that much. I see what women have done to a lot of the men in their 40s or so and I do NOT want to be in those terrible situations that most men are going to be in like it or not. No stupid brawd is worth killing yourself over. Maybe if she lied and cheated on you and gave you hiv and hepatitis then a murder suicide might be understandable, but in no way should someone kill themselves cause some **** made them feel like shit. Its not worth it. Theres better things in life, more rewording, more stable, and more possible, than a relationship with the opposite sex.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Can Anyone Relate to Dating a Woman who is Bi-Polar? Posted: 10/29/2009 5:56:12 AM
I was diagnosed bi-polar once, but it was a misdiagnosis. The time I went to the doctor I was at a huge down in my life, but on top of that he diagnosed me after talking to me no more than 5-10 minutes. I took meds for a couple months but it kinda made me a emotionless zombie. But once things started to pick up, and I read more about it and what not, I realized theres really no way I can be bi-polar. If my mood changes, theres a very good reason for it. I won't have any strings of bad moods for no reason. The time I was diagnosed, I was 24, living in my dads basement, working a crap 7.50 an hour job. was 100lb overweight, had no social skills what so ever. Didn't drive, and didn't have any friends cause I was away to a small town for a couple years where all I did was worked, and sat at home. And wasn't looking towards to any decent of a future, or independence. I think thats all enough to make anyone depressed. But when things got better I kinda knew there wasn't anything wrong with me and the fact I have traits that contradict typical bi-polar behaviors. Like if someones "walking on eggshells" with me, chances are theres a VERY good reason, they did something that pissed me off nuff said. If I am in a bad mood, I don't generally go off on those that have nothing to do with why I am in a bad mood. I might talk about it, rant some, but thats it. Everyone has their ups and downs, mine can be generally minor. I see sometimes even the average person can show more traits of bi-polar than I do. Like say theres someone at work you generally get along with. Then some morning their kinda crappy and they snap at you when you barely did anything wrong. That person is not me, but most people will snap at people that have nothing to do with why their crabby. Now I am 30, work full time go to school nearly full time, live on my own, drive have money saved up, lost 100lbs, etc etc. And I am totally fine. I did have a friend and have went on dates and what not with women who are bi-polar and what not. Well the bi-polar friend has more than just that, he had 2-3 other mental issues as well which made him someone I decided not to hang out with any more. The women would have maybe been ok for friends, but dating makes it a pain in the ass. They can't keep the same emotions and feelings and keep going back and forth on things. Many times being contradictory. One I met here for example, got super jealous over meaningless my space commends made by female friends of mine on myspace(nothing that would make anyone think I was involved with any of them, which I wasn't), saying things like "why are you talking to these girls when we're potential etc etc. going from that to saying she wasn't really interested in a relationship with me and that she tried to tell me that before. But she kept going back and forth so I gave it up. She had BPD, not worth my time. My friend that was bi-polar had symptoms exactly like everyones describing bipolar and some other mental illnesses: Thinking their the best at things. Thinking their always right. Constant mood swings. Suddenly threatening violence for no reason. Occasionally acts on said violent threats. Depression. Getting overly angry over minor things most wouldn't anger over. Lives in a fantasy world etc He thinks he has demons(I mean literally, not demons as in a metaphor ) in his head and has a thing for satanism and other devilish things. I often question why this guy isn't put away some where. But the problem is, many of these people can turn the behaviors off like a switch when people of authority are around. One instant he was literally foaming at the mouth threatening to kill me over something stupid, he had murder in his eyes. Likely we were in public in my car so I stopped at the gas station and called the police. wile he was in the car. Cops show up, talk to him and it was like there was nothing wrong. And the police didn't think anything was really going on and I tried to explain to them this guys behaviors and how it always gets shut off when people of authority show up. So unless someone records these actions(like with a video camera, or voice recorder, actual proof) people like that will never get treated...

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Wedding for a first date? Posted: 10/28/2009 8:04:06 PM
Ya know when I read the subject I got screwed for a minute thinking it was gonna be about how two peoples first date they were gonna get married! LMAO I hope I'm not the only one who was like wtf before reading..... Myself? I would avoid it. Unless it was a case where I knew the other person a wile and decided to date. Weddings and the idea of it all can cause two people who just met with the idea of getting to know each other some drama right away. Partly due to other wedding guess observing you two together with the assumption you actually are already a long term couple. And the fact since it is a wedding, might lead to conversations during the wedding itself that shouldn't happen until your dating for maybe a couple weeks at least, like what you want in the future etc.... But also what if this first date seems to go sour right away? Could lead to very, and I mean VERY akward moments, and since its a gathering of mutual friends and relatives, you can't just leave. And if one of you does, you'll have to deal with everyone else asking where did he/she go? They'll assume you're a couple, but then you'll be stuck telling others it was your first date and it didn't work out.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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would you stay with a girl who still talk to all of her ex's Posted: 10/28/2009 7:53:56 PM
The best explanation about this topic I can give: Ya know, exes and their involvement with your current life, and also dating someone whos still friends with an ex can be a touchy subject that is best treated on a case by case basis. What I mean by that is some people are friends with exes but that can vary from person to person. I am friends with a couple exes, well more so one, and a couple others I will talk to on occasion and have more of just a plain ol friendship with. What I mean by case by case is, not every ex will be the same situation. It all depends. The ex, before you went out, were you friends with them before for a period of time? How long were you with the ex? Any permanent(or longer term/semi-permanent) situations with the ex(kids etc?) Were they Married? Two peas in a pod?(as in, all their current friends and family are so used to seeing them TOGETHER that one of them with someone else would cause weirdness) What caused the break up? Was it mutual? is the ex single or not? Do they still act like their attracted to each other? Just a small example but every situation is different. I have a plain friendship with a couple exes myself, well more so one of them. BUt theres no drama what so ever, there sure was when we broke up, big time. But this was over 5 years ago and theres no permanent things between us, no kids, nothing money related etc etc. I even tell her how braindead and illogical most of the women I've dated lately have been and its like talking to one of the guys. But a ex is a ex for a reason. I would be more paranoid of a "new guy friend" popping up with someone I'm dating than a ex unless the ex is a obvious threat.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Is different taste in music enough for you to kill the second date? Posted: 10/28/2009 1:10:30 PM
I generally don't care what a women listens to as long as its not a lot of rap, I don't like it plus a lot of people these days tend to have a lot of friends that share their interest in music, and with rap, theres a risk they might have some "questionable" friends that you can't trust or can't stand being around for obvious reasons. And no it has nothing to do with race. But I don't care to be around those "gangsta, pants half way off grabbing their nuts walking like they just got f**ked in the ass thug types"

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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What makes a player ? Posted: 10/27/2009 3:14:07 AM
I see far too much of the "he is this he is that" What about she? Women are worse then us men when it comes to being a player. Women these days are naturally players and do player type things but make up excuses to justify it. "I'm young and should date around" "I'm just experimenting" "I shouldn't tie myself down to one guy just yet" "Hey I'm single why not?" etc etc But if a guy says any of these? Hell breaks loose but its ok if a women says it.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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what do men consider overweight? Posted: 10/25/2009 3:47:04 PM
I haven't read the whole long ass thread, but what everyone should NOT do is expect to try to reach to a "average" bmi level. BMI is a horrible way to judge your weight, the worst there is and in my eyes has no merrit. Everyone I've seen who actually falls into normal would appear to be more underweight, or just really skinny, and those who look to be average all into overweight most of the time. I am 6'2 215 I can't remember what my bmi is, but apparently I'm suppose to loose around 40lb. The thought of me loosing 40 pounds doesn't sound very healthy...

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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WTF. Posted: 10/25/2009 7:32:11 AM
Guys go through that kinda bullsh*t more often than not. People like that probably have some sort of mental issue, unless you did something wrong, which you'd know if you did. I don't care what others think on this, but if you honestly don't know what you did wrong for them to loose interest, you're either a idiot, or you didn't really do anything wrong regardless of others opinions, sure theres two people involved but sometimes one person just ends up a wack job that doesn't know what they want.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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distance preference for contacting members Posted: 10/24/2009 3:51:12 PM
Yeah it sucks, I myself prefer within 10-15 miles for reasons like cowboy posted. traffic can be horrible when you think about rush hour. but it always depends upon which direction which road. Like you can meet two people one is south west from you about 20 miles the other is north east about 30, and the 30 mile drive can take less cause its away from said city not towards in the middle of crappy traffic.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Should I put this in my profile? Posted: 10/24/2009 3:44:06 PM
Well I'm not surprised knowing all the threads I've read with how most fo you forum posters are. I simply ask a question and I got you losers running all over my previous threads. Was that necessary? No, it was not. Sure I might say extreme things sometimes, but lets pretend I was female, and the gender in question was male. You all would be singing a very different tune. You women would be agreeing with everything I say and the douchebag above me would just be telling me how not all men are the same without trying to flame my post. When it comes to what topics this forum of morons often post totally different responses to topics depending on the gender. Its pathetic. Even some of the men, like Mr Ugly up there, will be pussified and attack other men for just posting the truth, as well as the fact women don't want to own up with their behaviors in recent times. The cheating quote above is a fact, women do generally get hit on more than men, and have more opportunities to cheat, anyone with two or more brain cells knows that, get real. Judging by the fact some of you went and read my history, may I ask, How much time do you spend in this forum? How many people do you do this to? It sounds like you just have too much time on your hands to be researching peoples posts whenever you want to respond to a posting.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Should I put this in my profile? Posted: 10/24/2009 12:42:50 PM
Ok I have "prefer not to say" for if I want children or not. I don't personally want my own children cause of the financial and legal issues that arise. And this day in age I'd say far too many men end up in the child support situation. Many times to the fault of their ex and not their own since women these days are more likely to end a relation on their own faults than years ago. However, I am more open to someone who has one or two(max) cause I can enjoy children in my life without having the financial burden if the women screws up or whatever. Granted yes if they leave I wouldn't have rights cause the kids not mine and what not, the attachment but I'm not really getting into that. Would my selection(prefer not to say) be appropriate? Should I mention it in my profile? I'm not looking for anyone to say "You'll meet the right one who will stay forever yadda yadda" well without any mistakes by men women often leave relationships for reasons a man cannot control, and I'm just playing it safe. Some women might not like my opinions, but thats the reality of it this day in age and if they can't understand the logic behind it their not for me. I'm sorry if this is the wrong forum, I wasn't sure. But for once, flag Nazis, take a chill pill and relax.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Late career starters Posted: 10/21/2009 1:24:19 PM
I'm 30 and just started college not long after my 30th bday. About 10 years later than I should have but thats not long, I think I have more of a mindset for it now than when I was younger.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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How hard is it for men to not cheat? Posted: 10/21/2009 3:13:42 AM
Funny. If a guy would have posted this about women it would have been bombarded with flag nazis. and would have been attacked. Lame. MOst guys don't cheat. You are probably going after the obvious type of guy who does. Alot of women do, and their idiots for it. They want a hot guy with this this and that super confident yadda yadda, then they wine and complain when they get cheated on. Also women cheat more, they get hit on, and offered it more often, thus do it more. Plus far to many have the lac of logic and commitment and just plain don't care. Of all the people I've known personally only one or two male friends or people I've known have cheated. For the women? probably 75% of them have in some way drifted, usually physically. But sometimes just emotionally. Its just more common in this generation. back in the day of our parents and grandparents it might have been guys who cheated more, I don't know, but times have changed, and people need to realize that when it comes to not just this topic but many other topics as far as relationships are concerned.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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leaving someone that has a kid thats not yours?? Posted: 10/20/2009 1:15:16 PM
And some people why I don't really want to get married or have kids. Until laws change. Too many advantages for women in divorce. And since many(well most) divorces are at the fault of the women(especially in cases where the guy did nothing wrong) "loosing feelings" or "falling for someone else" whatever. I think the best thing for a guy to do is stay single in that respect, have a girlfriend, life partner whatever, just don't ever legally marry. Many may think their women wouldn't do it(screw them over financially, and maybe even cheat), but what they don't know is most would. Until both the laws, and women change, I will never get married or have children.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Would you guys date a woman with an intellectual disability Posted: 10/19/2009 3:16:16 AM
lol I would prefer not to date something whos intellectually disabled, unfortunately it seems most women are now days. I don't know wtf is wrong with em, especially ones I meet on this site.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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would you date a guy who doesn't believe in education-content with his job Posted: 10/18/2009 8:06:03 PM
Well. Well, what kinda degreeds did his friends get? A lot of people go to college and take up something they didn't research at all to begin with. Like a lot of art degrees great past time, but a waist of money to go to school for unless you are already doing well financially, and are doing it for fun. Ive known a lot of people who go in for something music related. And usually don't end up making much. I've heard an associates in business doesn't mean much. All depends, you have to research before you get yourself into a degree that you can't use after the fact. So maybe his friends just made bad choices and went to college to learn something that they might like but doesn't necessarily mean a job.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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How old is too old to still be living with your parents? Would you date someone that still did? Posted: 10/17/2009 7:09:51 AM
Forums001, like I pointed out before on here women tend to be very ignorant of circumstances compared to men. And I don't see this changing anytime soon. They try to justify their ignorance but it doesn't work with me, and nothing they say will make any sense anyway. I don't live at home, I live by myself, but theres always the possibility in todays economy that I could end up having to move back into my dads, it doesn't seem likely, but its always possible. Many are saying "out by 20". thats just ignorant, big time. 90% of 20 year olds don't have the kind of job with an income to support themselves fully. Most jobs that would hire a inexperienced 20 year old are too stingy to pay them a livable wage(depending on the area, anything under $12 a hour, isn't liveable)so living on their own isn't possible. And at that are or any age, roommates are always a bad idea, and are more trouble than what their worth.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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I told her i can't just be a friend... but she didnt wanna hear that.. help Posted: 10/16/2009 3:17:44 AM
Shes full of sh&t. You were probably weren't a big enough jacka$$ to be able to keep her around. That line I've heard myself is bull, sometimes women, mostly the really dumb ones, will make up stupid excuses as such and think of something just to ditch the guy their with, and thats all she could come up with. I wouldn't be suprised if she already had another guy lined up./

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Need some advice about lazy, going nowhere girlfriend Posted: 10/15/2009 6:05:40 PM
My point exactly Jewlsey. Too many men get fooled into the wrong relationship and situations, and end up in situations like you(and I earlier) mentioned. I'm doing my best to never end up in that situation, and if it means I never end up with anyone I am 100% ok with that. I'd rather be 40, single, no kids, with all my finances taken care of and doing well, and not have to pay any extra "bills"(in which case child support, I can understand, to a degree, but once a kids past the daycare stage $400+ is more than the kid needs a month, and alimony is 100% bullsh*t no matter how you look at it or the situation.)Then be a divorced father of 2-3+ paying shild support and alimony barely scraping by in a small apt with roomates, and thats if I'm lucky.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Need some advice about lazy, going nowhere girlfriend Posted: 10/15/2009 3:36:31 PM
Helen is probably right, everyone I know who has taken a accuplacer for college, which I'm guessing has some stuff similar to a GED would have, and without studying I passed everything but math. But then again I hate math, algebra sucks, and isn't going to be used by me at all after, ok i'll shut up now or i'll rant about something that has nothing to do with this topic. Anyway yeah man, I went out with a 23 year olf for a short time about a year ago, she lived with her mom, said she wanted a job, but has problems listening to others in any way shape or form, has a few mental issues as many do. And had no sense of ever doing better. I had to sit there and try to think of a way to break it off nicely. She was a nice girl no doubt about it. But she also wanted a few kids, and be the stay at home mom type, no thanks, I'd rather be shot in the nuts with a bb gun. Thats just asking to have your life ruined right there. All in all I'd say ditch her, cause what will happen if you do all the work old fashoned like? Have a couple kids and what not? Then you divorce(most likely cause of her actions) Her with out a job ever = alimony and kids? child support, own a house? she gets it. Youd be screwed.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Someone sent me a complaint about my location preferances Posted: 10/12/2009 3:10:17 AM
Yeah exactly I didn't think I was being too picky with location. For me even a hour would be too much, but I guess it depends on how much they wanna drive and how busy they are as well.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Someone sent me a complaint about my location preferances Posted: 10/11/2009 7:42:41 PM
OK I have "within 75 miles" clicked But also in my profile I mentioned a preference to live within the twincities. Maybe its just me, maybe other people who work full time and go to school 3/4 can chim in. But in my opinion it would be very difficult to establish a relationship with someone further away then your general local area. The person in question lives approx 2 hours away. Not only distance, but the fact, I'm not trying to generalize, but my experience with women is they can be very flakey, fake etc. So it would be a lot harder on me trying to establish anything with someone 2 hours away when they might pull the "I'm not ready", "I'm breaking it off cause of "insert lame fake hypocritical reason here" or just general commitment issues of some sort. Granted my opinion here has more to do with being a busy person with school and work, and distance being a issue. Than the over all behaviors of women I meet, but those behaviors are bad enough when they live down the street, much worse if their in another state. Opinions?

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Broken Up With For The Strangest Reasons Posted: 10/9/2009 1:15:47 PM
Yeah exactly, you're better off without her. Like myself. Theres certain things that are a turn off to women that I don't have, but might reject a women based on those turn offs. For example. Like mentioned many times how women are demanding of what they want. Even if I reach all those demands(you know what I mean) its still a turn off for me. Cause many of them are financial, and with how the economy is, I might not always have a car, own place, job, be able to pay all my bills on time, no debt, etc etc. For example Must be over 6'0 Must not live with parents. Must have a car. Must have a job. Well I'm 6'2, Live alone, drive and can get another car is something goes seriously wrong, and I have a job that pays more than just enough to get by, its entry level factory work, but I'm never broke. However, (aside from height obviously) these things can change, regardless if I have control over them or not. In this economy I could end up loosing my job, thus not being able to own a car if mine breaks down, and with no money, back to my dads I go. And I'll have no control over this. However the wome in question is living in a fantasy worlds, and shouldn't expect THAT much from you.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Contemplating lifetime estrangement from parents? advice Posted: 10/2/2009 1:01:26 PM
My situation is a bit different, well, not totally but sorta. None of it really bothers me though. But I never had a relationship with my mother really. When I was a kid she was sorta around sometimes, but I was raised by my grandparents. My dad wasn't around cause well, I don't know exactly but according to him, she didn't want him to ever see me, and the whole time he assumed he couldn't and moved on, I don't know. But my mother was more like a distant relative that would show up once in a blue moom usually with some kinda drama as to why she is "back in town". My mother is a very screwed up person. She has no care for anyone but herself. Six kids, and I was the last one to see her, 8 years ago. lol She never cared about any of us and even has grand kids shes never met and never will. Shes always ran off out of state to Southdakorta or whereever. Like I said it doesn't matter to me or bother me at all, but the idea someone would leave their kids behind like that, that many kids,is pretty screwed u. I did sort of have a relatiionship with her back in 01 when I wanted to move closer back to where my friends were i Minneapolis so moving in with her was my only option. Her and her ex got into a fight so we had to move out. She lied about bills the whole tie I lived there, used me for money. Then when we got kicked out, she lied about her paycheck going to her ex and him cashing it at the liquor store so I ended up paying for everything. PLus I was buying her car from her, and before the title was switched she ran off with it, and I couldn't afford a lawyer. So she owes me around $3000 for the car plus a crap loan of money I spent on still after we got kicked out. I don't expect to see it. I also have no relationship with my half siblings, mostly cause of her actions but we're all adults now, mostly mid-late 20s, too late for that, plus their family is their fathers fam not their mothers. (well my cousin is being foolish too, you know how girls go for the bad guys? well this is 100 times worse, even dumber than many of the women I've met and dated) Some people think my "women issues" stems from that, on the contrary, I was raise by my grandmother and my aunt was around a lot, and still have a good relationship with both. My dating issues has come from women I've actually met, all of them having princess superficial selfish personalitys all to common now days.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

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Do you ever just accept giving up? Posted: 9/29/2009 3:15:43 AM
In essence, aside from the emotional/physical stuff. Men are better off single for so many reasons. You're lucky you don't have kids with any of them so then you would be screwed so you can look at the bright side of things. I'm younger(30) but I feel the same way. A lot of women in this forum are immature, and say a lot of dumb illogical bull sh**, so don't be surprised if they flag this post or ramble on about how everything's your fault and try to point out "red flags" that shouldn't even be red flags. I say work on your career, go back to school if you have to, you're not too old for that, I just went back this year and wow some of my classmates look more like their ready to retire in the next five years lol But seeing posts like yours at your age makes me think "do women change with age"? Or do they always screw with our heads? I don't know. Some may say I'm not too old yet myself, I know I'm 30, but reading these forums is probably screwing with me quite a bit, plus my current dating statistics, definitely made me think "why should I bother?" I mean if the women I've seen attack my posts on here ,if that is a accurate description of how they think, than I shall say "no thanks!"

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 59 (view)

What gym behavior annoys you the most? Posted: 9/26/2009 10:20:17 PM
For locker rooms, the setup for the lockers at LA fitness's in my area seem to be pretty bad. So its very annoying when naked dudes are in the locker room cause the locker area gets crowded easily and they should honestly know better and have some decency to at least have undergarments on. I never run around naked in the locker room and noone else needs to either, I take my stuff with me to shower, others can to, no excuses. Some people are just so disgusting they should never be seen naked by others. And should respect the men in the locker rooms who don't want to see your 400lb hairy old ass naked right next to their locker when they need to get into it. People who spend too much time on one machine/take long breaks in between reps and just sit there/leave their towel on the machine or bench and leave for 5 minutes disregarding the fact others may need to use it. That PISSES ME OFF!! Theres no reason anyone needs to waist so much time on one machine/bench, its annoying and disrespectful to all others at the gym. Both of these are huge pet peeves

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 66 (view)

What are your messaging ratio's? Posted: 9/26/2009 9:49:29 PM
Ive sent probably about 4-6 initial emails and received around 30-40 or so, and have been on here I think about a year and 1-2 months I think. And yes I am a guy. But this doesn't mean I've been successful on here. Most women play games, even if their the one who contacts you first. As far as the few I did send first I think only 2 replied. Maybe 3. Hard to remember cause I so rarely send out first emails. And out of the 30-40 I've got only maybe 20 I've replied to; the rest where unattractive, obviously much older than they say(I'm 30, I may look younger but if your around my age but look 10-20 years older, no thanks!), etc.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 16 (view)

Ready-made family. Posted: 9/26/2009 4:17:29 AM
I've only sorta dated a couple women with a kid. both situations were different though. One had a baby, the other a toddler. The one with a baby couldn't get a baby sitter usually the one with the toddler lived with her parents and they would watch him. But both relationships were very short. But it all depends on if they have easy access to a babysitter. If not the relationship would be very difficult and will end either by them or you. Myself, I am 30, I will date someone with a kid or two, but I do have my own ideals. No more than 2, no more than one father. and must be able to have a life away from the kids, and also understand that I will probably not want to have my own kids. I don't mind kids, and could be a cool step dad but I don't really want my own for legal(child support, custody battles etc, this day in age, its gonna happen to most guys) reasons.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Why Me? Posted: 9/26/2009 4:04:30 AM
Women do ****ed up things regardless how you treat them, or how the relationship is going. Dump her worthless ass.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 2 (view)

Well go for it Posted: 9/24/2009 1:21:02 PM
Oh and for the most part, those life changes are done(aside from finishing up college, just started over the summer.)

psychoholoic

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Msg: 1 (view)

Well go for it Posted: 9/24/2009 1:19:50 PM
And judge my profile. According to some women(very ignorant ones) who were looking at my profile. To them, being a college student at 30(granted most of my fellow students are 25+ as well) who decided to make life changes to lose some weight, and do better for myself. They viewed it as "red flags" I have no plans to change that aspect of my profile, if a women is seriously that braindead I don't want her anyway. But aside from that, go a head and tell me what you think. I will point out ignorant comments.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 20 (view)

Is taking a break from dating a good idea when you are frustrated/fatigued? Posted: 9/24/2009 1:10:35 PM
I'm thinking about taking a good 5-10 year break from dating. I'm 30 and not into too much older women, but when I'm 40 I'm hoping the women near my age grow up more by then.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Number of males postint broken hearts threads Posted: 9/23/2009 2:26:34 PM
lol You should see whenever I start a topic about women behaviors and thought patterns. It eventually gets deleted for whatever reason(though a women making the same post wouldn't hmmm) But anyway they all lash out at me, totally ignoring any points I make. They don't even try to argue them, their argument is always the same but its weak. "Oh your so negative!" No, just my post making my point across is. Or they make up really pathetic red flags about my profile, one actually managed to try to pull of loosing weight, starting college at 30, and having my shit together as being red flags. If those are red flags I'd hate to see her opinion of a bad boy is. Point being, when I make a topic, I always get attacked but those same women always fit the generalizations to a T. Theres a reason why theres a lot of pissed off men on these forums. And its not the men that are the problem.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 44 (view)

women want? Posted: 9/23/2009 2:24:07 AM
Theres a reason why theres so many nice guy and generalization posts. Theres a problem with women in the dating world, and women need to work on changing themselves. Nuff said. And at 22 noone should be expected to be able to financially support a wife and kid at that age. Not too often one can.

psychoholoic

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Msg: 13 (view)

Can you lose the ability to love and care for someone? Posted: 9/20/2009 7:40:00 PM
Yeah sounds like you're depressed but not in the sad/down/etc sense. If you get what I mean, but theres definitely something you need to see someone about. I hope you were at least nice about the break up, cause that kinda break up guys go through a lot where nothing can really be explained because his behavior had nothing to do with it. I think your issue might be more common than you think.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 3 (view)

Number of males postint broken hearts threads Posted: 9/20/2009 11:46:31 AM
No.. we don't suck, its the exact opposite, read my posts, lol. Theres mroe men in here cause more men get hurt by women than vice versa. I've known and had a lot of friends and acquaintances from both genders. And I can tell ya women behave much worse....And are less likely to commit for the real long haul. Despite what the media likes to say.

psychoholoic

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Msg: 40 (view)

Divorced women Posted: 9/20/2009 5:53:43 AM
Ha whatever. No my post prove I know how women are, not immature at the slightest. I will mentioned facts and yes often people whine and flag, but none of them including yourself ever prove me wrong. Like those morons who flagged my post, there is no forum for guys who ask other guys questions yet it gets flagged cause thats what I did. Yet another moron flagged as well. Obviously theres a lot of ignorance going on around here and the owners of the site need to stop letting anyone and everyone have the power to delete posts cause its getting out of hand.

psychoholoic

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Msg: 38 (view)

Divorced women Posted: 9/20/2009 5:39:00 AM
haha damn you're ignorant. Shut the hell up/ Where did I say I was 35? Get your head out of your a. Cna you read? Can you think? I HAVE SEEN WHAT OTHER GUYS GO THROUGH!!! Jeez you don't have to experience something first had to know a thing or two about it. Get your head straight and stop being ignorant. Did you hardly even read my posts or are you just some stupid ct who can't think straight and attack someone whos opinions(which are the same as most guys, and some women even...) are different then yours?

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 42 (view)

you deserve better= bullshit... Convince me otherwise Posted: 9/20/2009 5:20:31 AM
When a women says "you deserve better" SHE might actually think shes using it as an excuse but from what I've found out, its actually true, you do deserve better than her cause shes probably too screwed up or superficial for anyone.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 36 (view)

Divorced women Posted: 9/20/2009 5:18:28 AM
Heh moron MAYBE I know and have seen a lot of the crap guys go through? Idiot. People can see other peoples experiences and every divorce I've seen guys get the worse end. Theres a reason why I don't want to get married cause franky women these days aren't worth getting married to cause they can't commit long term for s**t.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 40 (view)

I'm just really pissed off Posted: 9/20/2009 5:06:28 AM
Shes the typical young female, illogical, and to put it bluntly, f***ing stupid.

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 5 (view)

Thought I could do this alone. Learnt that you can't. Posted: 9/20/2009 4:47:47 AM
I would worry about making sure your kids are ok, but it sounds like only one of them is actually legally yours. So if you can afford it, get a lawyer and fight for custody cause you probably are the better parent, and you know how ignorant the law is with custody its almost automatically granted to the women. So make sure you don't get stuck with the child support cause most of it goes to the mothers wishes not the child. Women often lose their feelings for men for reasons noone can figure out(part of the illogical inner workings of women)and sometimes even cheat. I've heard stories like yours many times. Wile your young, do what you need to do for your kids and maybe enroll in college and try to further yourself for them? And worry about women later, their not worth dealing with sometimes when their in their 20s seems they all share the same "brain".

psychoholoic

Joined: 8/7/2008

Msg: 33 (view)

Divorced women Posted: 9/20/2009 4:36:02 AM
ha TV the media, its always about women getting hurt and men cheating. Even if most often than not women cheat and the men get hurt. The reality? Women cause more divorces than men, and most marriages end cause of the actions of the women. What about guys and the crap we go through in divorces? What women go through pails in comparison to the much worse situation men go through, the courts have always been against the man, even if the women is 100% fault with the divorce.

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