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Ever date someone with BPD? (Borderline Personality Disorder)
Posted: 8/20/2008 6:57:34 PM | I am getting divorced from my wife who suffers from bpd that is genetic and runs though most of her family. We had been married for 9 months when she left. I really don't know where to start describing my five years with her. The were the best and worst years of my life. Her Mother, 2 brothers, aunt, cousin, grandmother on her mother's side have all been diagnosed for bpd. All except one brother refuse any type of proactive measure to regulate and control the disorder. She is 20 years old and has been raised in an environment that allowed and almost encouraged the wide range of emotions, attitudes, and rage that isa associated with bpd. Now my wife refused to get any medical check up and would get pissed at the mere mention of her having bpd except when she "crashes" and goes back into the sweet girl mood that made me fall in love with her. However by the next morning anything that she promised to do about it was long forgotten.
The thing with my wife at least was that she was caught in a catch 22. She had grown up with so my hatred for the way bpd made her family act and the pain it caused her. So instead of accepting it when it began to become obvious that she had it also and fight to control it she did the exact opposite. She has allowed it to ruin her life because if she admitted she had it she would become "one" of them and that would make her a bad person and weak in her eyes. So she just acts like she is not affected by it. The best thing that ever happened to me was when she left. I new that it had worn on me emotionally and that she had begun to change who I was as a person. In the two and a half months my family says I have that spark in my eye again and am once again happy. Stupid me stayed with her because she had an amazing body and a lot of memories of when she was not all over the emotional map.
Some of the things she has done"
Ran off with a 35 year old guy (she is 20) to make me mad .
Divorced and the told me" I am going to regret this but I want make you as depressed and pissed as I am"
Cut herself numerous times to feel better
Left her family and me to become a meth whore
Crashed her car into a tree with me riding along because she wanted to get hurt and maybe get a new car.
Thrown knives at her mom
constantly tells her family that she wishes they would all die and leave her slone
constantly quits jobs because everybody is talking about her ( in 5 years she ahs had about two dozens job)
Currently she calls and tells me she is trying to get pregnant so maybe her kid will be the first person to love her
Crashed a lawn tractor into the her dad's house because nobody understands her (And she wonders why... What the tractor had to do with her being confusing to everybody I will never know)
She is capable of anything. I have talked to a shrink trying to get advice on how to deal with her and ways of getting her to see that see needs to make an attempt and control this. He thought with my description and the descriptions that her family gave that bpd might be the least of her issues. | | | |
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