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Current girlfriend keep insisting on meeting my ex...Drama Drama Drama!!! Posted: 11/17/2009 11:26:17 AM
Sounds like your current girlfriend wants to make a display of marking her territory in front of your ex. Both of these women are behaving like children and nothing good is going to come of it. The only one here that has any RIGHT to demand to meet anyone would be your ex IF your live-in girlfriend is ever alone with your children. Your current girlfriend has no say and should put a muzzle on it.

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How many people have you met in person?? Posted: 9/5/2009 5:39:09 PM
I've met five people in person in two years. Three were men I went on dates with, two were women I did not date but hung out with :)

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Should I tell my friend how I really feel? Posted: 8/25/2009 6:03:46 PM
Just ask her if she's ever considered you as anything more than a friend. If you don't get the answer you want, leave it at that. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

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What's with the baby pics for women in their 50s Posted: 8/25/2009 6:01:18 PM
I just wonder what message is intended with those sorts of pictures? Well maybe.... "I'm a grandma"? Not everyone is an ageist jerk and some women don't care if YOU don't see them as "youthful" and "sensual" because they love the kids in their lives.

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Tried and true natural health methods/remedies you use? Posted: 8/25/2009 5:54:56 PM
having sex cures headaches.............. Does it? Been so long I don't remember.

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Ex Was still messaging women Posted: 8/25/2009 5:39:15 PM
Well... I'm evil when I think someone is lying to me. About 7 years ago I met a guy on another site. We were supposedly exclusive, but my spidey senses were tingling. We'd be talking on the phone and I could hear him tap tap tap on his computer. Or we'd be IMing and he'd suddenly tune out. I flat out asked him if he was still meeting other women from the site and he said "no". Well... I didn't believe him. I created a nice little Catholic Scuba diver profile, which I knew he wouldn't be able to resist if he was still online, and sent him a smile. Took him exactly 2.5 seconds to send me a note saying he'd like to get to know me better and did I have a photo. (if he could type faster it would have been one second flat) Ugh. Took me ages to get the slime off.

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Anyone playing World of Warcraft??? Posted: 8/25/2009 5:11:01 PM
Level 54 Warlock - Madoran. If I were seriously addicted I'd already be level 80. I play 2-3 times a week for a couple of hours. No worse than staring blindly at a television. Both get boring after awhile.

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fitness Posted: 8/25/2009 5:08:06 PM
I watch IronMan events on TV.

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Tried and true natural health methods/remedies you use? Posted: 8/25/2009 5:06:52 PM
Toothpaste! Regular Colgate has saved me so many times in the last few months! Bug bites that require amputation to stop the itching? Toothpaste! Zit brighter than a stop light? Toothpaste! Painful scar? Toothpaste! I swear to God, it works. My mom was at her office and someone asked her what she had all over her foot... She had just talked to me the night before so she had toothpaste on a mosquitoe bite. BONUS! it dries to a non-sticky paste so it doesn't get all over everything.

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Mistakes Posted: 8/25/2009 5:02:23 PM
I'm still not over my favorite mistake and every time the phone rings and I see his number... I make the mistake of picking up.

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No shows..... Posted: 8/25/2009 4:53:00 PM
I think that people that do this aren't really all that comitted to looking for a relationship unless they're utterly struck by lightning on the first date. The reality is that this is a lot like work sometimes and those that aren't game should take themselves out of it.

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Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites? Posted: 8/25/2009 4:45:48 PM
Cats!!!!!! Good to see you round these parts! Great profile photo! As is mine! lol Awww! You even gave me the photo credit! Doesn't mean we go on many dates though

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Do you ever not repond when they have a ton of favorites? Posted: 8/23/2009 5:02:16 PM
Hmph. I am extremely disapointed! I love to brag about how many people added me as a favorite! It makes me feel important! Wanted! Loved! Fine then. I will just go count them all and post the total in my profile.

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Had a date with a conversation hog Posted: 4/18/2009 5:30:28 PM
Sounds like you handled it perfectly, OP. I've had that happen too, but I clued them in in person. I just didn't respond anymore and when they realized they'd interrupted me -- and asked me to repeat it -- I simply said "Nope. What I had to say wasn't interesting enough to stop you interrupting me the first time around, I'm not going to repeat it. Carry on." Biotchy, yes, but it's one of my biggest peeves.

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what is with camera phone pics of dcks / come on Posted: 4/17/2009 9:05:55 AM
This sexting is illegal. A felony if you are 18 or older. That's a little different. The arrests were for possession of and/or dissemination of child porn. The 15 year old girl that sends a nude shot of herself can be charged with manufacturing and disseminating child porn. The recipient, no matter how old, can be charged with posession. It is not a felony between adults. Cheesball, immature and stupid, but not a crime.

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Women in groups, how to approach 1 Posted: 4/16/2009 2:18:40 PM
when is it safe to approach and what is the best way to do it. When it is dark approach with stealth from downwind.

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Come and see the show! Posted: 4/16/2009 2:01:00 PM
Aww... how cute is this...

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ok am i a wierdo or what ladies!!! Posted: 4/16/2009 1:43:55 PM
This coming from the woman riding a horse in the ocean! lol seriously! Why, thank you for visiting my profile. I can't say I have returned the favour, but I'm not the one posting to ask if I'm weird - you are. I already know I'm weird, I don't need public validation of my opinion.

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Females are confusing Posted: 4/16/2009 1:39:05 PM
I just don't understand why ALL women do this to me. They want to have sex but no relationship. Isn't this where we are all supposed to oooh and ahhhh and say "Golly gee, he must rock in the sack!" Or maybe "Gosh, OP, how big IS it?" and then collectively giggle and bat our eyes and hope we can have a piece too? If you don't like it, don't dip the wick, OP. Buy her a dildo and tell her to leave poor little you alone.

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ok am i a wierdo or what ladies!!! Posted: 4/16/2009 1:34:22 PM
That attitude makes you all the more appealing and sexy! Pretty certain that was his goal in posting his "question". "Look at meeeeee! Look at meeeeee! I'm a NICE guy!!!" Blarg.

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Very Excited ... Until The First Date Posted: 4/16/2009 1:23:21 PM
It's easy to lose interest within 30 minutes. It's easy to lose interest in 5 minutes. You are NOT everyone's flavour so just learn to live with it. Quit over thinking it was my point. The more your wheels are turning as your gauging your dating performance, the less likely that you are going to fully engage your date. And the thing about leaping to apologize if you "even think" you've said something to offend her... Dear God, you would come off as an over anxious puppy and be annoying as hell. Maybe quit trying quite so hard.

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Pet peeve that ruined the outing Posted: 4/16/2009 10:46:04 AM
Constantly being interrupted mid-sentence. If my lips are moving, shut up and listen. You'll get your turn. If I bore you too much to be allowed to finish what I am saying, eff off.

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How long did it take you to stop looking at profiles/message ppl and just go forums? Posted: 4/16/2009 10:08:26 AM
two nightmare POF dances Oooo... I couldn't bring myself to go to any of those...

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Very Excited ... Until The First Date Posted: 4/16/2009 9:55:48 AM
Actually the more he posts the more sad I am finding the OP. If I even suspect that she feels offended at anything I say I apologise immediately. Nothing will annoy me faster than being treated with kid gloves. My impression is that he EXPECTS the woman to be impressed with him and if that's the vibe he's giving off, she's going to feel it. OP is overthinking every aspect of the date and probably forgetting to just BE present. I always ask the girl I'm dating about her life, what she did today, what her parents do for a living, her goals Maybe it was because of the restaurant? They make you go up to the counter to get your order ... do you think she expected me to get hers for her? To not eat mine until she got hers? To not leave her at the table to get mine? Maybe I was thinner than she expected me to be. Maybe I was more reserved. Maybe my hands weren't in the right position. It was my body language, wasn't it? OH MY GOD!!! LIGHTEN THE HELL UP!!! YOU ARE NOT EVERYONE'S FLAVOUR AND IT'S JUST A DATE!!!

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Changing Pictures Daily Posted: 4/16/2009 9:46:58 AM
We do it to fake you out so you click on us again.

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dirty place- nice guy Posted: 4/15/2009 8:32:16 PM
place hadn't been cleaned in months, and the guy said it was perfectly fine. You actually said something about this? I'll tidy up when someone is coming over, but if their timing is off and it hasn't had the bi-monthly onceover, I don't give a rats a$$. I will tell them to leave their shoes on and "excuse the mess". If they are concerned for their health, they can take their fragile little selves elsewhere. Susie Homemaker I aint and never aspired to be.

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Changing Pictures Daily Posted: 4/15/2009 7:44:21 PM
If you've been fishing a well populated spot and are catching nothing -- time to change bait. Everybody knows that!

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Lifestyles or Hobbies getting in the way? Posted: 4/15/2009 4:58:04 PM
Some people DO become fanatics, almost like a religious zealot, about their activities. Whether it's playing hockey, skiing back country, running marathons or ... dare I say... Serial Dating... Sometimes, if there is no balance or a willingness to try new things, it becomes a problem. If the rest of someone's days, weeks and months revolve around a specific activity and they plan the rest of their life AROUND it, I see it as a bit of a problem. I can compromise and don't mind someone having interests that are not 100% in sync with mine. However, I can't deal with constant "no I can't because I have to do ____ ." just doesn't work for me. Balance and compromise and a willingness to share and try new things is important as well as having a variety of common interests.

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Very Excited ... Until The First Date Posted: 4/15/2009 4:27:38 PM
There IS something about chemistry. I watched a program recently where women were told to sniff five different shirts from five different men and then choose the one that repelled them most strongly... Result? Five out of Five chose their own brother's shirt as the one with a scent they would be least attracted to. No one told them that their brother's shirts would be part of the experiment. They just had to rank them with the sniff test and automatically ranked their sibling's as least attractive. We are constantly putting out signals, often masked by the gallons of chemicals in our hair, our pits, our necks... But sometimes, those pheromones actually do get through and there is NOT a match... OR there is a very strong attraction. It can't be discounted. The theory is that it developed to keep us instinctually from inbreeding. Speaking from personal experience, there have been times when I've been confused by my complete lack of interest or lack of control OVER my interest. This documentary helped me understand it better. You can consider yourself the most scintillating conversationalist in the universe, OP, but all your giggles and babble won't do a lick of good if she's not into what you're body is delivering without your ever being aware.

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How do you label your current lack-of-partner status? Posted: 4/15/2009 4:17:48 PM
How do you label your current lack-of-partner status? There is a bar code on my a$$ right under my "Best Before" date.

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How long did it take you to stop looking at profiles/message ppl and just go forums? Posted: 4/15/2009 4:12:44 PM
About 5 minutes for me to stop looking as well since, like me, many of those showing up are "The Usual Suspects" from this and other dating sites. Now I only look at the pretty pictures.

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what is with camera phone pics of dcks / come on Posted: 4/15/2009 4:07:27 PM
Guys are generally more stimulated by visuals and so they assume women are too. Many would love a boob or a crotch shot from you, it would keep them going for WEEKS... They just don't get that sex for most women starts in the mind, not with a photo of some guy pulling his pud.

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Why is it?? Posted: 4/15/2009 4:04:41 PM
Separated men come in a couple of breeds (speaking from talking online experience)....One is the guy who adored his wife and she broke his heart, she was his everything (issues issues)....then there is the guy who is done with his wife and can't wait to get some new pus sy and doesn't want anything serious just yet.....then there is the guy who has this on again off again relationship with the wife, and they can't just let it be done once and for all. I know someone EXACTLY like this and he is trolling the site mostly because his WIFE is as well. He goes out and gets laid, tells them he's not looking for anything serious, that it's not going to go anywhere, and then the next day his supposed ex is over for the evening. The two of them are playing a game of "one upmanship" and it's disgusting.

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what is she thinking Posted: 4/15/2009 3:59:51 PM
When you're the friend, hopeful for a romance to develop, you will always find yourself alone on the special nights. Especially if her boyfriend is threatened by her relationship - which he obviously is if she hasn't mentioned movie nights. I'd start preparing myself to be eating popcorn alone in the near future if I were you. It's not going to happen. You're filler. Sorry, but been there, done that.

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Ok ladies...can you help me on this one? Posted: 4/15/2009 3:56:22 PM
She sounds like a real prize.

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Are there any people left that date one at a time? Posted: 4/8/2009 7:19:04 PM
I am a beautiful, intelligent woman and I have a lot ot offer. No need to scream for attention I have all of it I want.. I have the choice to make as I have several people intersted in me. DO YOU? I can be selctive this way. Since I am not dating anyone exclusively at this time and dont date more than one man at a time I suppose there is nothing about this that screams for any attention. You have to seriously be one of the most ignorant people I have ever met teralee65, could you kindly just email whoever you're talking to or at LEAST include a quote from the post you're responding to? This style of yours is not only annoying but it makes you look about three short of a six pack. Just hitting post reply doesn't tell any of the rest of us who the hell you're talking to and multi posts as you have at 'em are pretty newb. Great to hear that you have several people interested in you.

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Anything left here Part 2 Posted: 4/8/2009 2:51:16 PM
Huh? What's this about? Is the OP circumventing the 21 post limit by dragging on a topic that's already been done and died? Is that why I have no idea what he's talking about?

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Self {RESPECT} where did it go? Posted: 4/8/2009 2:47:06 PM
Bit of a double standard. As has been pointed out you ARE laying on your bed taking a picture of yourself attempting to look sexy in your profile, OP so... You're cutting the same bait they are.

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Privacy? why would you ask that after two dates? Posted: 4/8/2009 2:29:52 PM
I don't know that he's married. When my ex husband and I started dating I wanted it kept quiet too. No one knew for quite awhile. My reasons were that I was very well known in my home city because of my career and volunteer work in the media. I was tired of being the topic of discussion and hearing twisted gossip that was usually WAY off. I just wanted to keep something to myself for awhile and not have the entire community dissecting us as a couple until I had made the decision myself. That way, if things didn't work out, no one had to even know that we'd tried each other on. Was kind of funny how we were "outed" after about 2 months. At the pub with a bunch of our mutual friends someone noticed us holding hands under the table and made a lot of noise to alert everyone else. Since we were outed anyway, we kissed in passing as I was returning to the table and he was leaving... Everyone started applauding. We were an odd couple and no one saw it coming. So while I understand how it can come off as suspicious, sometimes it's just a case of wanting something to yourself so that you can see how it goes instead of constantly explaining why this one or that one didn't work out.

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Get that dog off the bed! Posted: 4/8/2009 2:10:20 PM
They all get a bath at least once a week and are indoor dogs. What do they use... A litter box? Need a big one to hold the dump of a 40lb dog.

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I think Im in love.... Posted: 4/8/2009 1:43:23 PM
You're crushing on him, that's all. Crushes are great! I want a new crush! The last one I had was on a guy that was utterly hilarious, smart, gorgeous... and married. I could only crush from a distance but I sure know the feeling. It's a crush. It won't be so overwhelming for long.

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When my man won't give up his women friends...... Posted: 4/8/2009 1:28:28 PM
My ex had a similar situation. We split up and went our separate ways and about a year later we had enough distance and time to be able to be friends. He was seeing someone and our exchanges were kept to occasional emails and very infrequent phone calls. She didn't mind him being friends with all of the others he'd dated, including a couple he was seeing at the same time as me (reason for the split) but she could not handle him being friends with me. She was so obsessed about it, that I became a HUGE issue in their relationship even when I was no where near in the picture. Months and months would go by without he and I communicating at all but she'd stalk me here in the forums and report back to him if she thought anything I posted related back to him. (I never name names so it's impossible for her to tell) I found out later that she was SO insecure that on one Christmas morning when he got a text message from someone saying "Happy Birthday Baby Jesus", she had a fit because she thought I'd sent it and that he just wasn't admiting it. (If she knew me at all she'd know I'd never text something like that). So, they didn't open presents for three days and their first anniversary was spent apart. I had no idea about any of this. I hadn't spoken to him in months, and didn't talk to him for many months afterward. SHE kept me in their relationship. He and I were just friends but she made it an issue to such a huge extent that they are now recently separated and both here at good ol' POF. What an unbelievable waste.

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Relationships out of friendships? Posted: 4/8/2009 12:55:39 PM
Once. Then I married him and realized we should never have been more than just friends. My second biggest boo boo to date.

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Could you resist ? Posted: 4/8/2009 12:53:40 PM
I think I just scrolled thru four pages of liars!!

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are women in North america REALLY like this?! Posted: 4/8/2009 11:55:04 AM
ok here is my story: Everyone's got a story. Some of us just put on our big kid panties and deal with it. Others have to make a public fool of themselves.

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are women in North america REALLY like this?! Posted: 4/8/2009 11:43:40 AM
mrcaring1, would you like to tell us all again how unlucky you have been? No, no, please do. I don't think any of us got it yet. North American women suck, right? Was that it? Did you just cream your jeans at the opportunity to finally have a forum to bash women? Please, post again. Your insight is invaluable and could change the face of North America! We didn't KNOW we were so horrible. Help us to be the fairy princesses you dream of! Please! Actually, no. Fvck it. If you think a foreign bride is your answer, do us all a favour and go get one. Just quit whining.

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are women in North america REALLY like this?! Posted: 4/8/2009 11:29:38 AM
Posting weblinks is against the forum rules, OP. Didn't watch it, don't know. I'm sure that all women are just like the one in the video. We're all alike. Everyone knows that.

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Get that dog off the bed! Posted: 4/8/2009 11:27:24 AM
Them crawling all over, pooping all over. I was a weird kid. I really needed a laugh today and that post just did it.

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Msg: 123 (view)

Are there any people left that date one at a time? Posted: 4/8/2009 11:20:07 AM
He may do what ever he pleases and have his man time or work what ever is required but when i am with my guy I want to know that he is devoted to me and pays attention to me solely in our relationship What? Are you posting in the right thread? This is about dating one person at a time... Not attention from your partner.

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Msg: 49 (view)

Dumped after a second date....WTH? Posted: 4/8/2009 11:15:42 AM
The only reason someone would tell another person about other dates they have lined up is because they want to look more desirable. Gaming sucks, OP, and it doesn't sound like you're very good at it. Guess you figured that out by now. By the way, is that the first time you've only made it to date #2? I mean... seriously... Did you think he owed you because you told him you ditched someone for him?

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