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 Author Thread: Do women differ in how they select a mate?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Do women differ in how they select a mate?
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:24:12 AM
of course some factor in higher then others. Much of this depends on where the person is in their life, if for example you are a successful professional the chances of accepting lets say someone who works a minimum wage position is decreased. it may be said that the job does not make the man but it does speak to different values within the person such as drive, aspirations and in some ways intellect. Also normally social circles do not always overlap - so yes it happens. just as some men may see a beautiful woman who is intelligent funny and kind then he finds out she is a stripper and the thought process on her changes.

like attracts like - this is life it doesnt make it wrong it makes people compatible.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Does the Basis on Which Successful Relationships are Built Still Matter To Women
Posted: 11/23/2009 7:22:45 AM
what do you consider successful? long term till death due us part? You need to understand that up till the last 20 years or so many people stayed together because divorce was shameful and you became ostracized from family and friends and social areas as a result, many of those old couples celebrating 70 years together hate each other.

sorry but i dont think people weigh the areas of personality and compatibility any different now then before - the difference is only many men and women are not willing to settle for an unhappy situation.

it still comes down to those that believe looks are the only reason they are not with someone have personal confidence issues - that is for you to work through yourself not for women to justify what we like in people and to prove to you personality matters - this is a given - you wouldnt want to be with a woman you are not attracted to physically so why should they?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Single Mums/Non-single mums. A mind-change???
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:24:14 PM

Im kinda thinking this is why many women get treat badly a few years down the line. because they have chosen a very good looking lad to share their life with, without making much effort to get to know the man deep down inside. So say X amount of years down the line, they have been left as a single mum. They then decide that they just want someone who is DECENT, HONEST and CARING in a man



if this was true then every divorced man or single father would be great looking .. and this is clearly not the case so your theory is inaccurate from the base.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
ok what does this mean?
Posted: 11/1/2009 9:56:11 AM
Could mean you look sad

or could mean that he reads a lot and is aware of a very very old novel called "lostgirl" that is about a women who lived her life to that point for others and has decided that from that point out it is about what she wants, and she needs to make herself happy first. ...

but i highly doubt that he has heard of the novel or ever read it ..

you probably didnt look happy or looked like you were searching for something
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
False profiles
Posted: 10/31/2009 5:55:21 AM

You are the first person not to like my profile.


Wrong.
every message that goes unread/unanswered is someone who doesnt like your profile. (which includes photo, it is a combination of photo, written self view and preformatted information content that we look at)

I read your profile and thought it would have been immature for an 18 year old, for someone your age it is just sad. Really is there really a need to discuss sex that much in a profile? regardless of age?

But of course it is easier to assume female profiles are all fake then to look inward as to what it could be about you that women just dont like isnt it?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
She doesn't wish to be seen in public with me..
Posted: 10/28/2009 6:50:22 PM
I seriously ditto Trinity Three's response

except i think i may have added a hot before the damn ...

One of the first things I always make sure of when seeing a new person is going places with many people and high likelihood of running into someone I or he may know, I dont like the idea of someone being embarrassed to be seen in public with me and wont tolerate it
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
I think he is comited to me. I am right?
Posted: 10/27/2009 7:13:12 PM
her profile shows Caucasian from the united kingdom - so your assumption of second language is based on what?

regardless of sentence structure even Helen Keller and Stevie Wonder can see she is in a committed relationship

save the superhero act of coming to the OPs rescue for a case you can actually build.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Confidently approaching
Posted: 10/27/2009 5:26:44 AM
If your changing colleges you have the perfect excuse ... "Hi, I just transfered here, do you know anyplace near campus to get good (insert fav food here)" or anything about the surrounding areas the activities the night life the culture .. anything

use the new status to your advantage!
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
I think he is comited to me. I am right?
Posted: 10/27/2009 5:19:35 AM
hmmm .. .lets see here .. you are seeing someone for 6 months spend every weekend with him and pretty much are partially cohabiting with him you speak everyday on the phone .. and you want to know if you're getting serious?

Nahh .. I do this with any stranger that asks .. dont you?

how about you pull your head out of your but long enough to:
1) write a coherent sentence
2) look around you and you'll have your own answer

seriously you needed a post to tell you this? really? if you're not smart enough to figure this out then you're not equipped to deal with the situation you're in
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
The eye roll and no response
Posted: 10/26/2009 1:28:59 PM
the question may not be does she love him still but does she still like him.

you can easily love someone but not like them as a person due to whatever is occuring. based on the limited information you provided that seems to be the case, love isnt easy to fall out of, but someone can go from being a great person in our thoughts to a complete douche quite quick.

why is your friend so insecure that he feels the need to ask if he is still loved? does he not trust her or feel his actions are worthy or not being loved? a person can only be asked to reassure so many times before it is just too much
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Do you think everyone needs a vice?
Posted: 10/24/2009 6:15:00 PM
maybe the fresh air is his vice? is he outdoorsy? is he into fitness? not all vices are bad habits - all they truley are is something the person enjoys doing, vices have a bad connotation because some are unhealthy - but in reality that is just not true

dont assume he is too good to be true because the flaw is not glarring obvious - but also dont put a person on a pedestal it is a far fall.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Tough question about honesty...
Posted: 10/24/2009 7:01:12 AM
Holy Deja Vu ... is this groundhogs day on the POF forum? You asked this last evening in the exact same wording.


if it was deleted last night for being redundant - what makes you think today it wont be?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Sooo when is it
Posted: 10/24/2009 3:10:53 AM
In this case I think it is the value on the item that may have caused concern. Cole Haan boots run about $230.00 for the pairs I like anyhow. This type of gift should be reserved for an established relationship that is exclusive. Giving something like this too early on can bring in a level of expectation into a relationship.

I do believe in giving gifts, little momentos of things that cause me to think of someone always thoughtful always meaningful, but the price range is dependent on the status of the relationship because some do feel uncomfortable getting large items
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 21 (view)
 
I'm not a nice guy.
Posted: 10/22/2009 11:33:49 PM
sorry Im not buying your bad boy act. at all. I have in the past dated real bad boys - and there is a reason they are in the past, anyone that self proclaims their image is acting, plain and simple. The true character is not something that needs to be told it is seen in the person and what one considers nice I may consider a real ***hole.

If she thinks youre nice then one of three things are happening
1) youre not nearly as tough as you think you are and she sees through you
or
2) youre being fake to her and this is a disservice to both of you.
or
3) she is stupid as hell and deserves whatever is coming at her

seriously man this is your question? how do you prove youre not nice? really? go sleep with her sister or kick her puppy ... that oughta do it

or worst case perhaps, and I know this is a stretch, maybe she brings out the softer side of you and what she is seeing is the real thing
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Online obsesssion - long dist rela
Posted: 9/3/2009 5:15:29 AM
Situations like this seem to be more and more common now a days. I had a former employee call me for advise a few weeks ago because his wife fell for a guy a few states away that she has never met and said she cant get him out of her head. He asked for advise and there is truly nothing I can say to him because 1) I dont understand the behavior of someone who is in a relationship that allows themselves to get into this position and 2) No one can tell another what to do in matters of the heart.

The only thing I did tell him is that the obvious answer is that his wife was missing something she needed in their relationship, be it attention or even the intial onslaught of compliments and adoration that comes as part of a budding romance or possibly the sence of emotional intimacy that she is getting.

I did ask him if he would ever be able to trust her on the computer alone again, his answer was no, to me this tells him the ultimate answer he is looking for.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 12 (view)
 
does she really want to get to know me?
Posted: 8/15/2009 5:34:02 PM

Beg pardon but I take exception to this conclusion. One could just as easily say he's being attentive and earnest, and asking for opinions in an open forum is certainly not something one would do if they're trying to stalk someone and not get caught... the concept of stalking comes from predatory animals hunting prey, and they are stealth and wish not to be seen.


If he is checking when and if she is on line and looking to if his email has been read - yes it comes off as creepy - he does not know this women yet and should not monitor her activity - that is called being a control freak she does not owe an answer just because she is on line


Lostgirl71, your name may say something about your outlook, which I hesitate to judge, but what's fair is fair... your comment exhibits fear, cynicism and is negatively judgmental and sarcastic, with the psuedo psychobabble and as well. Check your own feelings before making such hateful comments. Your comments hint of bitter personal experience and that you're trolling to insult guys in particular.


hello pot my name is kettle - perhaps you need to check yourself if you make assumptions but state others cant... if you were educated completely in literature you would know lostgirl is the name of a rare but very well written novel about a women stating over in life. Good explination you have there but so wrong read post history before you spew ignorance


He made an observation and asked a legitimate question. The only thing he's guilty of is expecting to be treated courteously in a venue that is difficult for beginners to get the hang of. Heck I've done this on and off for years and communication hasn't evolved very much either. It's just not normal... we're not biologically built for this. Typed communication is for ordering parts, issuing invoices, compiling reports, doing surveys, etc.... and it's always a one way street even when two people are interacting... it's not normal, comfortable or as effective as talking in person. I don't think the lad was a bit out of line in any way... you were. I had a lot to say about this because it's precisely your kind of knee-jerk reaction that illustrates this.


a persn on line is not required to follow your own personal rules of ettiquette no matter how many big words you spew your still full of shit. Just because she is on line and didnt answer means nothing. She sent one email to him that level of does she huh does she it does not show attentiveness - it shows desperation if she is interested she will answer if she doesnt she wont - this is not a legitamate question we do not know her nor are we aware of her thought process

take your self important phycho babble elsewhere at then you may have a clue but you are completely out of your league here
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
does she really want to get to know me?
Posted: 8/14/2009 6:32:27 PM

i have seen she has been on since i wrote her and my messages under sent said unread


reread this sentence over and over to yourself until you see how stalkerish you sound ... checking status of your mail and her on line time kind of screams control freak stalker

if she answers shes interested .. if she doesnt she isnt and you lost nothing
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Is sensuality acquired or are you born with it?
Posted: 8/14/2009 1:10:48 PM
I believe you can grow into yourself mentally that allow you to carry yourself in that manner of sensuality. it cannot be taught though it is a state of mind that allows it to seen with the eye because you have comfort in yourself. also that sensuality that you speak of it not based on having the right shade of OPI nail polish and perfect red lips and hairstyle - it is the attitude.. the difference is a women with this attitude can have no makeup on and you probably woulnt even notice if they dont have that attitude they are the earth mothers you speak of ..

Your friend needs to take a look at herself - love herself as is and be confident - sexy is not a look it is a state of mind ..
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is she interested
Posted: 8/14/2009 10:02:30 AM
Hold on let me grab my magic eight ball to determine if she is interested....

~~~shake shake shake ~~`

it says ... "Reply Hazy Concentrate and ask again later"

Hmmm even the eight ball wants to know how the hell would it know the answer to her inner most personal thoughts that you would think asking us is a better idea then asking her.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
UniSex Picture
Posted: 8/14/2009 9:32:28 AM
I will make the assumption that it was thought to be male because either

1) the jeans were baggy and shapeless and did not allow you to see the shape beneath that is unquestionably female as well as she wore a larger shirt and the hair was short

or

2) the clothing was form fitting and the build of the person is one that you associate with men and do not find appealing?

if the second case is true, any recovery you make would be a false perception of attraction would it not? You can only be honest in what you see. It does not make it fact just your view and opinion.

Unless she is stating she is offended let it go, if she is still bringing it up you need to state why you thought it was a guy.

Not all clothing allows a person to see the shape of a women beneath them especially from behind it isnt an insult to a person at all just possibly an eye opener that perhaps those clothing choices arent best suited for the body type.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Smart Chemistry
Posted: 8/13/2009 6:14:35 PM
I still disagree with your assessment.

first you are only thinking in black and white in terms of the traits you mentioned not the fact that the human eye can also distinguish 500 shades of gray. Define intelligence? I can program a database to do anything I want but I cant rebuild a car. which person is smarter? the answer in intellect comes in many forms and can not be looked at as an either or.

You look at the positive traits as being affiliated with the "nice guy" only and all negative sides with the men you associate with "sexy son"

with varying degrees of each of your attributes there is no smart chemistry there is only compatibility. chemistry is the attraction based on many factors but it is a calculated formula on paper a lot of people can seem to be fit with each other but in actuality they are not.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 15 (view)
 
What do girls like to talk about most...
Posted: 8/12/2009 10:42:03 PM
Hey now cowboy you just made women sound like brainless twits. I swear if i was on a first date with a guy and he talked of shoes or fashion I would leave after giving him directions to the nearest mall.

You talk about things that interest YOU .. the normal appropriate flow of conversation will lead to her sharing details the whole tit for tat process (( and no that doesnt mean show her your tattoo and she shows you boob))

If conversation is pre rehearsed or determined what topics to cover you will never be able to hold a true conversation. Just talk as if she is a friend - talk about what your passionate about and youll get her to open up about hers.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Smart Chemistry
Posted: 8/12/2009 10:29:14 PM
I think you are confusing chemistry and compatibility .. they are not the same and shouldnt be viewed as such
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
How would this affect you?
Posted: 8/12/2009 3:02:27 AM


Buddy, buddy, buddy... worry about getting a girl first before you kick her to the curb.



That makes no sense at all. If I date a girl, only to find that she must have sex in the relationship and can't wait until marriage, that is a colossal waste of both my time and her time.

There are certain things that we all have that make someone else incompatible with you. For instance, you might reject all men who are Muslims out of principle. I reject all women who will be unable to accept my moral standards for myself, because I know they are incompatible with me, so I'm going to kick them to the curb without wasting my time on them.


Actually no the colossal waste of time is the process you would use to get to know someone prior to dating them. You should already know if morally your values are similar prior to dating her. If you dont know this already and get to the point of kicking to the curb you are not putting the correct value on finding a partner. Her answer made complete sence.

My answer to if I would wait is completely irrelevant since I am well above the target audience you have for this question so my view on this topic is completely tainted.

stay strong with what you believe, pick wisely and ensure up front that you share common values.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
What am I doing wrong?
Posted: 8/11/2009 11:22:18 PM
the point is you can only move fast if someone is moving at the same speed as you. If you move fast and they are going slow your going to find when you look over at them no one is there they are still four paces behind.

Unless you are spending every waking moment in conversation and with this person 10 days is not long enough to know them to love them - you may feel you could love them but actual love only occurs when you know the full person if they arent moving at the same speed you are you arent meeting the real person
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why did women...
Posted: 8/11/2009 11:15:02 PM
then she is a shitty friend who is arrogant and feels that her high expectations and princess complex is what all women hold. again she is a bad friend who said that - and probably looking back and thinking of this person she most likely had little positive to say about anyone other then herself.

you have been told repeatedly in threads for at least the last 8 months that I have paid attention that you are an attractive man, you're intelligent, when not on a women bashing rant you're compassionate to others. You are motivated to excel in all areas.. Im sorry but I am not seeing a down side to a person here other then letting baggage hold you down.

On the flip side lets say a women told you that you were (cute, hot, handsome, beautiful .. whatever adjective you want to add) would you hold onto that statement as firmly as one statement made by what sounds like a self centered person?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What am I doing wrong?
Posted: 8/11/2009 11:09:24 PM
you met her a week and a half ago and you love her??? you sound like you cling to fast and make yourself far to available. You cant possibly love someone within a week and a half. and a week and a half is hardly time to truely treat someone good emotionally physically and mentally. if you are - you are acting as the first response said - as a door mat
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Why did women...
Posted: 8/11/2009 11:05:54 PM
Im sorry Im confused then I was answering your first question about women as in plural contacting you once you removed that information from your profile?

I am not saying that experience doesnt taint us in expectations and views. I know it does, as mine has tainted me as well. The difference though is if you truely want someone to like you for you, you cant dismiss some for actions of others. each person should be viewed as a blank slate and given a chance. Some will prove your thoughts right some wont.

as far as flipping the roles your making an assumption that all women take the "let them come to me" role. We dont some do intiate and also get rejected

and as for your friend that said that either he is arrogant and thinks he is gods gift and everyone else is worthless or he is a shitty friend to think that way about you. I cannot think of one of my friends that doesnt ask me why I am alone and why guys dont see what I have to offer. this is both male and female friends. a true friend sees all the good and bad and knows how good you are to begin with. I think that friend was being an ass - maybe he finds you as a threat?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
I have two questions
Posted: 8/11/2009 10:50:56 PM
sorry I dont buy it, the way you are in a friendship and the way you are in a relationship is not the same - there are differences BIG differences - she knew you as a friend not as a boyfriend
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Why did women...
Posted: 8/11/2009 10:48:39 PM
No offence meant by this but if I was looking at your profile saw you post in forums your posting history and how you speak of women would cause me to not contact you. In some ways you have tainted views of all women based on some and that is a hard thing to deal with when you want to show someone you re not the same.

SOME women will only want the money .. but it isnt all - and be happy those types arent contacting you if you want substance and not flash.

btw.. i thought you posted recently you werent interested in dating anymore you were going to concentrate on your education and self improvement? if that is still the case who cares if people arent contacting you?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What's the best first date??
Posted: 8/11/2009 10:44:40 PM
this is completely dependent on the person your with. For me it would be a trip to art galleries or live music or even lazer tag and paintball followed by messy foods you have to eat with your hands (you learn a lot more about a person if you remove the chance of false manners and see how they are when trying not to be a slob)

Movies no way - walks in park? umm no who the hell wants to be on a missing persons poster? Mini golf - hell yeah that is fun
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
I have two questions
Posted: 8/11/2009 10:40:12 PM
1) she was in love with the idea of you not you. When you spend that much time and attention on anything it is impossible to live up to the mental image of you that the other person has made. The expectations are too high and no way to ever truly be who or what they have dreamed you would be. The issue is her sence of delusion not your sence of self

2) morbid curiosity if the best pic a person has is normally choosen for a profile pic what the hell could the rest look like ..
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
What if a guy believes in love right a way?
Posted: 8/6/2009 9:16:43 PM
How much time in 1-2 weeks are you spending with this person actually communicating with them?

Love to me doesnt develop until the polite fakeness of first meeting is gone and you see the real person and their flaws - that doesnt normally occur in the "thou shalt not fart" stage of meeting.

Love occurs based on communication openly and honestly and not just basic what do you do how many siblings do you have.

I think in 1-2 weeks you can love being with the person and wish to express that - but I dont think you can fall in love with that person that fast unless you are talking 24x7 contact with nothing but communication and even then I still feel it is the idea of them you may love and not them.

and yes ladies are glad there are men who want to settle down and not date a million people - but going overboard too fast looks from this side as desperation and that you are settling for a pulse but not looking at the actual heart ...
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Ladies!! Can a man be too neat?
Posted: 7/14/2009 11:11:25 AM
YES can be. my ex had this thing that he had to hang every shirt by color with the front of the shirts hanging in the same direction .. He would freak if clothes stayed in the dryer after the cycle was complete And insisted PRIOR to eating dinner the kitchen had to be clean. among so many other things Not bad IF he did all of these thing, he didnt I had to. So his OCD turned into my spare time.

What you described to me is normal behavior I dont think that is excessive at all.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
A couple of questions
Posted: 7/13/2009 9:44:29 AM
Interesting choice of questions there. Why dont you just say what your really thinking, since all your questions have a slant of sex to them, what your really saying is it has been a while since I got laid and how do I tell this new chick I want it bad, but I am doubting my abilities

Getting back on the horse after a bad experience normally involves walking up to the horse, ensuring that the horse is friendly and getting used to each others company first it doesnt mean strap on the saddle and ride ...

Btw .. just so you know, the older you get the more you will find that if your not ALSO willing to go shopping with her you sure as hell wont be going for a ride,........... just saying.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Signed Away My Life
Posted: 7/2/2009 2:58:22 AM
I have a very good friend who is a musician and he uses this term often, but for him it is the privacy he lost by agreeing to a record contract and the amount of pressure he has as well as limited control. The friends name is unimportant but I have known him for years and years and years and he is doing very well in the music business but to him his dream come true came at the cost of signing his life away.

So to me hearing that phrase will always be associated with something like that, losing control over the life choices made and living for something and someone else.


How did I react first time he said it? I asked for clarrification got it tried to just be there when things became overwhelming for him

How do I react now? Well after years and that he has fullfilled his contract requirements and really doesnt need to work I get a bit pissy when he says it telling him it is now his choice to remain he doesnt need the finicial security anylonger he long since had that - at this point he choose to give up the control in his life and I am much more harsh and less understanding now.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Are half-naked girls here REALLY looking for a relationship?
Posted: 6/30/2009 11:00:00 PM
coming from a man with "hang out" as looking for a ton of perfer not to say and emoticons as about me .. You dont have to say it is about it - it is written ALL over your profile

So you got rejected suck it up and get over it ...

IF you had a real profile perhaps you could actually have a point in what you wrote but you dont your here for a piece of asz and got shut down.. so deal with it - she wants someone but she doesnt want YOU
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Are half-naked girls here REALLY looking for a relationship?
Posted: 6/30/2009 10:03:57 PM
awww did somebody get their wee little feelings hurt getting shot down today?

Put on your big boy pants and only worry about yourself ok big boy?

btw before you say "I never said this was about me" understand there is only one way you would know the response that you would get if comments such as those are made ... so get over yourself ..
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Height
Posted: 6/30/2009 7:49:52 PM
Ok after about ten threads from YOU about this girl - I think you need to cut your loses since you are way too insecure over this one person. No matter what this relationship is failed from the get go since you are over thinking this too much. You are far too hung up on if your good enough or tall enough instead of trusting if you tell her the truth and listen to her you will find she already likes you.

Stop thinking and meet the girl already - youre blowing it without even trying
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Why do people ignore emails?
Posted: 6/30/2009 3:24:39 PM
responding with non interest is just polite huh? Yeah sorry I dont buy that at all ..

Here is what it comes down to, IF we are interested the email is welcome if not your looked at like a telemarketer soliciting something we just dont want. I dont pick up the phone and call Sprint back and tell them I am happy with my long distance company and my cell phone is superb without them so I wont be writing back someone offering something I do not want. NO ONE likes to be compared to an intrusive telemarketer but that truly is what it is .. you are offering something (yourself) to another whom you do not know if they are interested. IF they are they welcome the call or email and like what you offer. IF they arent interested they do what society as a whole has taught us to do.. IGNORE

This is not a personality flaw at all - it is a product of the environment we live in - We have answering machines, and voice mail, and delete buttons and block buttons - the technological advances of society have taught everyone how to ignore any unwanted advertisement... Hell I can fast forward through commercials on my TV to0 .. because I dont want what they are selling.

It may be rude in your eyes to view people in this manner - but it is life. Not everyone will behave as you deem fit. The earlier you accept this and understand you can only act as you wish others will the happier you will be.



Oh and For the Record if disinterest is shown with read delete as stated then the message is recieved - so based on your own words communication of a negative manner is already occuring .. so with this being said - it is being done for me - it is better then letting it go unread is it not?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 8 (view)
 
What does it mean when a girl looks at you a lot?
Posted: 6/29/2009 10:57:00 PM
Ok so in your situation your together doing homework and she SHOULD be looking at her book but is instead looking at you. In this case as long as you dont move your lips when you read or read out loud or do any strange humming or anything, then she is looking at you with interest.

If lets say your checking out at a grocery store and the cashier looks at you or a waitress or something like that - it means nothing. But if the women SHOULD be doing something else and you not doing anything odd and you catch us looking and we hold your guaze for a moment before looking away - it normally means we like what we see - (unless of course her lip is curled up into a snarl of disgust)
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What does it mean when a girl looks at you a lot?
Posted: 6/29/2009 10:43:01 PM
Not enough info to answer. What are you and she doing when she makes eye contact? Does she look at others in the same manner? where is this eye contact occuring?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Am I ugly or something?
Posted: 6/29/2009 10:41:41 PM
youre kidding right? Normally when people ask this they are average looking people with bad photos ...

so why are you asking this OP? You own a mirror and know damn well youre not average looking. SO what got in your paw to cause you to ask this question because I have a feeling you dont even think this could be a possibility
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
have you told a guy when you met him
Posted: 6/29/2009 6:51:44 PM
I have said it before .. but then the guys profile said he was 5'10 meaning same height as me .. if that was true I shouldnt be able to see the top of his head while wearing flats.

So the real reason was - he lied .. but being at max 5'5" didnt help him either.

Now if the guy says he is 5'8 or above and is - I wouldn't say too short if not interested I would say the truth.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Would a Female Out There Please Explain This?
Posted: 6/29/2009 4:01:13 PM
Out of Curiosity OP, how long do you spend surfing other mens profiles? I mean you of course did look around and validate before you made an assumption right?
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Why are all my dates talking about themselves so much?
Posted: 6/29/2009 6:05:07 AM
You know there is a belief that if something happens once it is the person your with, twice it could be a bad coincidence but after that if it continues to happen the common denominator is you. Perhaps maybe your not as interesting as you think you are?

This isnt meant to be rude but maybe your conversation skills are lacking or you dont speak up enough about you so they are just filing the silence? Or maybe you pick the girls who are all flash and no substance, either way sometimes we need to look into ourselves to see the mistakes we are making and change that. It could be in the choice of partners or it could be in the way we present ourselves and our own conversation.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Piercing, when should I bring it up?
Posted: 6/29/2009 5:21:09 AM
the issue isnt having the piercing or if most women will reject you for it, I think most once they get to know you will accept almost anything if they truly like you.

The issue is that bringing up a genital piercing is an automatic lead into a sexual discussion. I mean if you weren't pierced you wouldn't talk about your penis in your profile or in the first message would you? Bringing it up in a hesitant manner to someone whom may not be accustomed to one is almost a warning like they should be afraid of it. If you embrace your piercing and like it dont bring it up at all, it shouldnt be a defining factor.

Again because of the location of it, bringing it up is an automatic sexual conversation and doing so on your profile, first message, or online chat would be a turn of, for me at least.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Piercings, Yes or No?
Posted: 6/28/2009 1:33:53 AM
ever see the movie "The sweetest thing"? that scene where the girl still has her tonsils so it causes a major "catch" ... that in and of itself would trigger me to think twice about ALL aspects of piercings .. Some of them I can say Been there done that .. and the deal is that big to risk the other portions of it ..

the side by side tongue piercings you have (venom bites) to me arent as big of a deal as the other facial ones you have.
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Do you ever read celebrity tabloids just for fun?
Posted: 6/27/2009 11:14:32 PM
I read weekly word news to keep up on the habits of bat boy.. he is my dream man just waiting until he turns 18 and its on!!

Celb rags hell no - no desire nor do I give a flying f&*k what they are up to.

As for Michael Jackson - Yes he was an exceptional entertainer and changed the face of music.. but the media has pissed on him for years - I find it hypocritical that now they are respectful, NOW when he cannot hear it - when he can not see the appreciation

I hope when I die, those that hate me are adamant and verbal on it as they are in life - I dont want kind words to go unheard
 lostgirl71
Joined: 8/16/2008
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is it shallow to judge someone based on their music preference?
Posted: 6/27/2009 10:18:12 PM
what is funny is I am reading this as I back up my iTunes library .. My library would make you think it belongs to 12 different people there is Disco, Country, Hair Bands, Hard Core Rock, Pop, Oldies, Classic Rock, and yes even Indie rock.. the only thing lacking is Rap or Techno ..

I perfer no Rap but I dont think it defines a person just makes for annoying car rides. Unless the person is into the music to the point that they adopt the clothing language and attitude portrayed in it - it isnt a big deal. When the attitude of the musical taste is portrayed that is when I know I am not comptible with certain people based on their music taste, so I know what your saying. But not everyone fits into that mold.


Brittany Spears, Cher and Celine Dion


Crap - yes I have them too - but if they are on Shuffle with Hatebreed, SlipKnot, Crue, Socail Distortion and PapaRoach do they still count?
 
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