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 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Sea kittens
Posted: 1/15/2009 4:42:25 PM
OMG that makes me happy! Thank you rswindol! That was wonderful
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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smell question
Posted: 1/15/2009 4:39:07 PM
Funny stuff forumstorm.

OP, it could be worse. I knew a guy who always smelled like pee. He was my friend and still a decent guy, albeit a bit strange, but he still always smelled of urine. Maybe your guy has intestinal issues. Careful approaching it, you might offend him or embarrass him.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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what direction should i take this?
Posted: 1/15/2009 4:35:39 PM
Because I feel like being difficult, here is another viewpoint. I have a friend who I flirt with all the time and who will talk about sex with no problem, but when it comes to actually doing anything she says she is a prude. Perhaps your guy can talk a good talk but is afraid to walk the walk and commit.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:26:06 PM
Of course, maybe he should count his blessings that you two are over...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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I Read His Postcard...
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:20:13 PM
Aside from the crime you committed by destroying his mail, which I believe is a felony, you did the human thing in reading it and the right thing in leaving him. It's hard for people to not read something right in front of them. It's human to be curious. If it was meant to be it would have been, but considering his history of cheating I wouldn't count on it. Maybe you should count your blessings that you didn't invest more time in it...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 3 (view)
 
An article: “You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means (Chivalry).”
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:11:31 PM
Enlightening indeed, however, I think you posted this in the wrong forum...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Couple are getting divorced and the husband wants his KIDNEY back
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:01:44 PM
On top of that, it was a gift. If he tries to take it back without her consent it would be theft.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Sea kittens
Posted: 1/13/2009 7:12:21 PM
I saw a video on the military channel about pigeons guiding bombs. I'm not going to try to change birds to be called kittens of the sky. I've never heard about the goldfish training. How did they do it?
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Sea kittens
Posted: 1/13/2009 7:00:05 PM
Read here: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=99249669
Go here: http://www.peta.org/sea_kittens/

Post your opinions here :)



I think this idea is stupid. To me it seems like a waste of time and resources. The only benefit I can think of is that maybe, just maybe, there will be no more need for a fishing license. Perhaps it can all be rolled into the hunting license as part of the small game permit

As far as PETA saying fish are intelligent, when is the last time you saw a goldfish fetch a ball or play dead?

Any thoughts on this? Who actually supports this?
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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How to avoid this next time around?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:44:37 PM
I never dated a psycho either, but my ex dated a psycho and he kept coming around. Does that count? I dated an alcoholic...

OP - next time, be aware of the signs if they come up. If the behavior is odd then say something. I don't like to argue either, but I also don't like to waste time in a relationship going to hell without trying to fix it. In the end, it leads to more pain than is needed. Also, as soon as you start the break up process, limit her access to important documents and anything you want to make sure is not harmed.

If it looks like a fish, and it swims like a fish, it is a sea kitten! Ask PETA...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Can a city man be attracted to a country girl?
Posted: 1/12/2009 10:05:44 PM
Having grown up and spent my life in the suburbs, I prefer the idea of a country girl. They just seem so much more fun and full of life. You seem like a fun person. You should have no trouble finding someone. You may have a bit of trouble finding the CORRECT someone though...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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is this guy really into ME or just misses companionship?
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:00:20 PM
The best you can hope for is to keep your options open and your expectations low with him. Don't wait around for him if something else comes up and don't expect him to wait for you. It sounds like you two just didn't hit it off right. It's a new year, find a new guy :)
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Does he really exist?
Posted: 1/12/2009 8:55:04 PM
Keep faith, your guy will come along. It is tough to find the perfect person.

Ex. I have a friend who just spent a weekend with a guy she really likes and who she finds very attractive. The downside is she isn't interested in his hobby, and he wants her to be a part of it. It's a big problem. She got close to what she was looking for, but he isn't quite it.

On the other hand, I have some friends who have been together for 3 years and are as happy as they can be with each other. They met unexpectedly and hit it off. This could happen to you :)

Also, keep in mind that in the end looks fade. If you have to choose, go for the personality. It may be harder to do up front but if you are truly looking for long term, personality is the key.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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so he finally calls 2 days after HE SAID HE WOULD
Posted: 1/12/2009 12:28:18 PM
He should have kept his word, but hear him out. I can recall times that things have come up and I have been unable to contact someone for a few days. Mostly it was either my cell phone getting murdered or my phone being dead and me not having a charger handy. He should have apologized for not calling when he said he would. From my perspective, it's not looking good.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Should i wait for him?
Posted: 1/12/2009 12:23:21 PM
One thing that nobody has mentioned is that he could have some psychological issues and the trauma from the whole ordeal has brought them to light. Perhaps he is prone to depression and usually does well at covering it up, but with something like the death of a close relative who is in his age group, it has sparked a psychological wildfire. I know I am being very presumptuous, but I'm trying to give you another perspective. Many previous posts (and for once I have taken the time to read ALL of them) in this thread offer very good advice, but they all depend on variables we are only assuming about him.

As far as waiting on him, I think you need to actually talk to him. Let him know that you are going to be there for him if he needs you and wants you there, but that if he does not then he needs to let you know.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Am I Missing something here????
Posted: 1/12/2009 11:59:01 AM
If he is ignoring you, drop him. Assume he is no longer interested, otherwise he would at least play phone tag and return your calls or send you and e-mail.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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My girlfriend is talking to my ex-wife...
Posted: 1/12/2009 11:44:58 AM
What was the fight about and what is she using against you? That has all the bearing in the world on the situation. Good advice cannot be given without knowing a few more facts.

My parents are divorced, but my dad could confidently use my mom as a reference...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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I am livid, why would he talk to friends like this
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:29:51 AM
I have one female friend I feel more comfortable and open with than my closest male friend. I don't talk to her much, and when I do it's normally not about sexual stuff, but the fact remains that she knows things most others don't. Your boyfriend could be the same way. I'm sure he doesn't realize you feel the way you do and that you feel disrespected. Before you go blowing up on him and ****ing him out, talk to him like an adult. Right now you are pissed, but get over the anger and chill a bit before talking to him, otherwise you might start a fight and turn it into a much bigger issue than it is.

How well does he know these female friends?
Does he have a lot of male friends he talks to often?
Perhaps he is hoping they will drop some ideas of things he could try to spice it up a little...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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girls that are 'one of the guys'
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:21:27 AM
One issue with being 'one of the guys' is if you go out with the guys to meet new people. The first thing a guy thinks when he sees a guy and a girl out together is that they are together. Go out for a ladies night with your female friends or, better, with just one of them. A lot of guys will not approach a woman if she is with a guy or if she is with a large group of girls.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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It just doesnt make sense
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:10:05 AM
Him asking if you were getting tired of him yet could have been him being tired of you and hoping you felt the same way. Also, a lot of guys really don't like confrontation and find it easier to just drop off the face of the earth. It sounds like he isn't ready to be in a relationship with you. Don't wait around, move on. Be glad it didn't happen a year from now.

Another scenario is that he died. You said he was sick, but did not say how sick...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Welcome back to the broken hearts club... =(
Posted: 1/12/2009 9:03:46 AM
It sucks being broken hearted, but talking really does help. Lean on your friends, family, and the NICE people here.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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how do you not put pressure on a man you love to be back with you?
Posted: 1/11/2009 10:27:13 PM
Good point Silent. At first I thought it was just me being tired...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Have a peek at my profile?
Posted: 1/11/2009 10:14:29 PM
What's with all the references to a 'house'? Honestly, I didn't even bother after the first paragraph. It gets props for being unique, but most people don't want to feel like they are buying property.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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how do you not put pressure on a man you love to be back with you?
Posted: 1/11/2009 10:08:03 PM
After being apart for so long there is no guarantee that he still loves you like that. It's a tough situation, because if you pressure him then you risk losing the entire friendship and everything getting weird. Drop some small hints and see what happens. Bring up a conversation about being single and how you feel about that. See what he says about being single.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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I talk to strangers... Do you?
Posted: 1/11/2009 10:00:04 PM
Thank you. Corrections made :) Should I lose that pic of me and my friend altogether? It's a good casual picture of me, and I don't have many of those that I like... since I'm mainly looking for friends here does that one pic matter too much?
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
calling all chimbley sweeps, bandit queens, mariners, and runaways
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:57:04 PM
Your profile says nothing about you. You've told us about everyone in your family except your dog and yourself. It doesn't come across to me as warm and friendly. I'll grant that it was unique and a bit interesting, but it needs to be about you. Save the stories about your family for later.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 1 (view)
 
I talk to strangers... Do you?
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:48:53 PM
I've revised my profile but would like some input on what I need to work on. I would also like some input on the pictures on there. Are there any of them I should get rid of? Thanks to everyone who takes the time to help
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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another he didnt call question
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:11:33 PM
Believe it or not, sometimes it's nice to not have to chase all the time. Maybe when you told him he couldn't call on his break you unintentionally sent off a vibe that told him you weren't interested and he was crowding you.

To relate a little story here:

I met a girl and she asked for my number, but did not offer hers. She did not call for over a week and even though I ate at the place she worked at I didn't see her for a week. At the time I was driving a truck for the lumber yard I worked at and I kept getting sent on runs and couldn't take lunch until after 2pm. She got off work every day at or before 2. It turned out that the napkin my number was written on got washed. It was all a lot of inconvenient things that got in the way, but in the end it all worked out. The moral here is... DON'T jump to conclusions.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Left my woman after finding out that she had an affair with another woman....
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:03:55 PM
The issue here is not the fact that she is bi-sexual. The issue is that she cheated. She should have brought up the subject and been honest about it. Trust is a must for relationships.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Back again
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:58:17 PM
If it makes you feel any better, my mom's b/f (they have been together for about 8 years now) has been married 6 or 7 times. I guess you just have to try until you get it right. Keep on looking and you will find what you are seeking. Stay safe on the road (I assume you are a trucker).
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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My fiancee left me and I dunno what to do
Posted: 1/11/2009 4:18:46 PM
When you write her that note, keep it as neutral as possible. The idea behind being on safe ground with the phone call is that the phone call will be the way you contact her. The idea of safe and comfortable ground for both of you should be applied to ANY form of contact. If you call her up and keep it simple but send her a heartfelt note, then you send mixed signals. Make it a simple note along the lines of:

*her name here*

No matter what happens between us, know that you will always be a dear friend to me. I hope you find happiness and peace in your life. If there is anything I can do to help you, let me know.

Love,
*your name here*

It might be a good idea to switch up the *love* with *your friend* or something like that, or maybe (depending upon your beliefs and hers) you could go with *God bless*. Give it some thought, this is just a suggestion.

Your friend,
Mike
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 10 (view)
 
the aftermath of a break-up.
Posted: 1/11/2009 1:59:44 PM
My last relationship was a 9 month long relationship with a woman older than me who had 2 wonderful kids. The hardest part was leaving the kids. I still miss them and the life in them. You kind of remind me of me a few months ago.

You screwed up by assuming you had to pay for everything. In a serious relationship, things should be equal. If you have no money, don't offer to pay. You guys should have discussed finances a lot more. Also, there are plenty of more affordable things to do like go outside and play with the kids or go for a walk. Go feed ducks at a park.

Still being young, you have a lot of growing up left to do. Use the relationship as a learning experience and move on. In our age bracket, it's easy to get bored with a routine. Kids are wonderful, but they make it a little more difficult to be spontaneous and affordable. If you are the active adventurous type, then look for someone who shares that joy. If you go back to watching soaps, then you will be bored again.

*IMPORTANT* Think of the kids. They DO NOT need a person coming and going from their life. Either be there or don't, but don't come and go. If you have any doubts, do not pursue. The kids have been hurt once, don't do it again.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Do you guys look to see when a girl was logged in last?
Posted: 1/11/2009 1:47:58 PM
I don't look. I don't care. Honestly, if you have to keep tabs on a person to feel secure, you don't need to be with them. Also, a lot of people are just here for the forums. Furthermore, whose to say they aren't on here just to see when the last time you got on was? Assuming gets you in trouble, it's better to just ask.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 33 (view)
 
pleaseeee help
Posted: 1/11/2009 1:33:02 PM
OP - You are an attractive girl who plays fps games. That's an interesting combination. Lots of decent guys will love that about you. Go find yourself a decent guy. The boy you are with now is confused and did not ave a revelation about his life overnight. You are being played. Get out and run like hell. I'm normally all for working things out, but he is manipulating you. He has the signs of not wanting to commit. He is confused on what he wants, but only wants to be with you - BS. He can't be confused and know what he wants at the same time. What he wants is to keep his options open. What he is confused on is how to tell you that and keep you as an option. For your own good, get out of the situation now. Canada is a beautiful place full of nice people, go find yourself someone worthy.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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New to Houston
Posted: 1/11/2009 1:06:55 PM
Finally, somebody than can respond to a simple post. Maybe there is hope. lol.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 22 (view)
 
People IMing for sex
Posted: 1/11/2009 1:05:39 PM
It sucks that a few people are out there ruining the thing for all of us. I tend to be a night owl and stay up late because I'm not ready to sleep. At the same time, I'm always looking for a decent conversation. It doesn't help when everyone is afraid to accept an IM because they assume it's another sex beggar.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Contact me, Write me, Hit me up.....
Posted: 1/11/2009 11:48:00 AM
OP - It's not just the guys. I'm moving to Houston, Texas soon and out of 20+ messages to people just asking for advice on where to go in Houston to hang out most ladies don't bother to respond. I think I have gotten 5 responses. These are the same people who say they are 'friendly' and 'easy to talk to'. It's like fishing for a trophy fish, you have to keep trying and throw back a lot of crap. It takes a lot of patience.

Also, next time you get a halfway decent message from a guy that you aren't interested in, give him the courtesy of at least acknowledging his existence.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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My fiancee left me and I dunno what to do
Posted: 1/11/2009 11:32:09 AM
You learned to be alone before and you can learn to be alone again, but think about what you are feeling. Are you feeling alone because you aren't used to waking up alone, or are you feeling alone because you honestly love her?

Call her once to see if she is doing ok, but don't call her to ask her to come back. Don't even talk about getting back together unless she brings it up. It was her choice to leave, so it must be her choice to come back. She doesn't need pressure right now.

You want her to be happy, and that is wonderful. As a person who loves her, that is what you should want for her. It's admirable to keep from contacting her because you don't want to hurt her and because if it's meant to be it will be. At the same time, sometimes if it's meant to be you still have to go after it and put forth the effort. I can't say it's meant to be for me to win the lottery if I don't play the lottery...
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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When a man won't share his feelings, how do you tell he's into you?
Posted: 1/11/2009 1:01:51 AM
To some of the people above me, the OP never mentioned sex so don't assume it.

OP - If you are happy then continue on, if you are not then move on. If you don't feel like you are being used then you are getting enough satisfaction out of the relationship to not be miserable. Ask yourself what you want and what you expect and then ask yourself if he can provide that. If he does not meet the requirements, find someone who will. Nobody says you can't keep him as a friend, or even as a fling between relation ships. Just realize that he may not be the right man for you.

On the flip side of that, I have a friend who blew a guy off throughout high school and dated a ton of other guys after dating him. They are now happily married. Anything is possible with people.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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What shoud i do when i care for this guy
Posted: 1/11/2009 12:38:34 AM
If he is hardly returning your calls, don't waste your time. If he cares about you then he would call you more often (unless you are calling 10 times a day) How often do the two of you talk? Also, how well do you know each other? Is this 'love' or 'I'll tell you I love you so I can hopefully get in your pants'? I would write it off as a friendship only type deal and move on.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 4 (view)
 
What to do when an ex gets back in touch with you.
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:54:07 PM
That's a tough situation. By happy at the moment do you mean happy being single, or do you mean happy with each other? All you can do is to hang out with each other and see how it feels. I recently hung out with an ex I have been friends with for a long time and we kissed (neither of us know why, just a caught up in the moment thing) and at first I thought it felt natural, but then I thought about it and realized it just felt familiar. Actions like that bring back strong emotions from the past, but they may just be ghosts. Feel each other out, because in that amount of time you could both have changed a lot.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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You all know what is to be done.
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:32:24 PM
Well said Anxious Angel. Many people find it easier to do things when they have affirmation from others. It helps to make them feel like they aren't so alone. A lot of people need that. It's human to want to be accepted by others. We are pack animals.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Just needed someone to Listen...
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:19:29 PM
I'm going to repeat these people because repetition helps things sink in.

Do what you like to do and have fun with your life. The best place to meet someone is a place you enjoy going, because if they are there then they probably enjoy it too. That gives instant common ground.

Don't worry about being lonely forever, you're still young. There is plenty of time for all of us.

Congrats on the weight loss and feeling good about yourself :) That is an achievement to be proud of.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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What do i dooo?
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:14:00 PM
You start by posting in a single forum :)
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 2 (view)
 
What Do I Do?
Posted: 1/10/2009 11:00:17 PM
Trust is something that has to be earned. It can't be forced.

- Most of your relationships in life will fail, but you have to keep trying if you ever want to get it right.
- Everyone judges, but some people are able to look past a lot of things and still try.
- I'm still friends with 2 of my exes, and on decent terms with most of the others. By friends I mean I have no issues hanging out with them. What was there is over, but that is no reason to throw away everything. Good friends come in all sexes and sizes.
-In time you will open up to him. You have to move at a pace you are comfortable with. If you rush it, you risk putting more out there than you should, getting hurt again, and being even less trusting. If you let it come naturally, then everything will come in time.

What I'm saying is that you need to talk to him, but you need to do it on grounds that you are comfortable with. If he is the guy for you then he will understand and be willing to listen as you are willing to talk. Also, if there are things that you do need to talk about, find some random person in a chat room, who is willing to listen, and talk to them. Sometimes it is easier to talk to a stranger who doesn't care and who you will never see because you don't care what they think.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 13 (view)
 
I need a guy perception in this please....
Posted: 1/10/2009 10:45:18 PM
OP - Did he ask you out or did he ask you to hang out? If he asked you out and canceled, he is probably playing games or doesn't know what he wants. If he asked you to hang out it could be a misunderstanding and it could be that he really does just want to be friends. I feel confidant in saying that because right now I'm just looking for friends. Not everyone is in a good position to be in a serious relationship here. Check out his page, what does it say he is looking for?
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Why doesn't he respond?
Posted: 1/10/2009 10:34:50 PM
OP - Explain it to him like you explained it to us. If he is any type of decent and worthy then he will understand. Accidents happen, people forget, misunderstandings occur. It's life. All you can do is explain and move on.

Best of luck :)
Mike
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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=)
Posted: 1/7/2009 3:41:02 PM
I'm Mike. I currently live in Georgia and I am moving to the Houston area by the end of the month. I'm looking to make some friends to hang out with and people to talk to.
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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New to Houston
Posted: 1/7/2009 2:25:49 PM
By the end of the month I am moving to the Houston area. I'm looking for people from the area to hang out with or to give me ideas for fun things to do in the area. I've never been, so it's a whole new experience for me. I guess the best way to make this a legit thread would be to ask "What is your favorite thing to do in the Houston area?"
 mlindeborg
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Did I do the right thing?
Posted: 10/3/2008 3:21:30 PM
If you ever want to be taken seriously and listened to when you are ready to talk about something, then you need to be willing to listen to others first. It sounds like you acted upon emotion rather than giving it some thought. In my opinion, you overstepped when you told him that he means nothing to you because he wouldn't answer you right then. That is like saying "Everything we have been through doesn't matter and I have lost all feelings for you because you won't answer this one question." If you want closure, hear him out. If you want to keep wondering then never speak again.
 
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