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shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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My girl friend and I have been seeing eachother for 3 months now Posted: 11/11/2009 2:06:09 AM
It will be ok I promise, time heals all wounds...even if it doesn't seem like it, eventually you will be ok. And the first love, well no one forgets that. Like they say, the first cut is the deepest. This will be most disappointing one, because so far its the only one. I can't say it gets easier with time, because you're always going to fall in love with someone and you will always get hurt. I think dating is a brutal world and you have to have thick skin and a good level head and definitely some self confidence to make it through. You'll be ok. HUGS!

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Just wondering how others feel about body art Posted: 8/28/2009 6:52:19 PM
A lot of people are bashing those with body art. And my point about accepting them, or being more open minded, is geared more towards those who are downright rude/mean to people with body art. I'm saying that they shouldn't care if someone has body art or not. Whether or not someone would date a person with body art or not is completely different because that just boils down to attraction. I have never met anyone who has tried to force someone to get a tattoo either, but thats just my personal experience.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Just wondering how others feel about body art Posted: 8/28/2009 2:10:26 PM
I don't understand why people get so heated about other peoples decisions to decorate (or ruin) their bodies. They aren't forcing you to accept it. Everyone has their reasons for getting tattoos/piercings/scarification/ or staying plain. Why isn't it ok for someone to justify their decision to get body modifications simply because they personally like it? Some people have tattoos to signify people dear to them, or major events that have happened to them, others simply enjoy the visual aspect. The biggest difference between people with tattoos and people without tattoos is that those with tattoos don't care if others don't have them. I personally love tattoos and piercings and even scarification, but I've seen some that were horribly done and they looked bad. I've also seen art that just blows my mind, it's amazing. When I'm 70, my skin will sag anyway, so why does it matter? No one looks 'hot' at 70. I think a lot of people should try being a little more open minded.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Shaved Armpits on a man. Posted: 8/25/2009 11:16:08 PM
Wait a minute ... something doesn't add up here. You said your ex used to shave his pits. So how would you ever know he had stinky pit hair? Or are you just under the false assumption that hairy underarms are smelly? I'm guessing the latter. And also, didn't he use deodorant? If so, I know that when I used to use deodorant, my underarms smelled like the deodorant. Wow, someone is anal. How about, he didn't always shave his pit hair, then he started. And since we're no longer together...I don't know if he still does...so 'used to' is the phrase I used. Sorry that it wasn't 'at one point in time' or 'on a few isolated occasions' I understand that it must be difficult to process things that aren't explained to you on a grade school level, but I think everyone else got the picture. I personally don't like hairy pits, obviously you do, thats cool. And, yes, hairy pits can get smelly after a long day of working and sweating, even with deodorant.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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what do you feel is the most UNATTRACTIVE piercing commonly done today? Posted: 8/25/2009 5:30:14 PM
I personally adore piercings, but I think that with any visible piercing, you have to judge it on an individual basis. I'm not a big fan of the septum piercing, but I've seen people who it looked good on. It wouldn't look good on me thats for sure. I have 16 piercings...mostly in my ears and 4 tattoos. Some people like it, some don't. Personally I don't care if the person I date has them or not, or whether or not someone likes them. I do them for me because thats what I like.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Shaved Armpits on a man. Posted: 8/25/2009 5:09:47 PM
My ex used to shave his pits...it was nice because I wouldn't have to snuggle up to him only to find that I was just inches from sticking my nose into his stinky pit hair. But its just personal preferance.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Bi Girls Posted: 8/17/2009 8:00:49 PM
I think a lot of it is done for attention or because 'its cool'. Girls want the attention from guys who are interested in maybe catching some girl on girl action. I'm sure that the real bi girls aren't advertising as much as the bar-bi girls.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Calling All Divorcees Posted: 8/17/2009 7:49:08 PM
Well, it wasn't going to get done unless I filed. He left me alone in a house with all the bills and just separated himself from all responsibility. So, yea, I filed, and paid for the entire thing. Better to get it done and over with than try and get him to help me.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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There's something about polyandry.. Posted: 8/15/2009 5:13:28 AM
You know, I think I could do that. Maybe its just a selfish thought on my part...but I think I would rather enjoy having several men around, taking care of me. It would be great if they were all friends and got along. Plus I have a really high sex drive...so yea, it would be fun for me. Then again, I've been raised in the monogamous mindset, and I think I better stay that way, there's just something about being with one person, and knowing that you're their only one as well.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Digital/usb tablets? Posted: 8/14/2009 11:50:47 PM
Yea, I'm no good at weird rigging...a few extra dollars have come my way...so I have enough to buy a nice one.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Digital/usb tablets? Posted: 8/14/2009 11:18:21 PM
So far it seems wacom is the way to go. Thanks for the advice!

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Advice would be great. Posted: 8/14/2009 11:16:38 PM
I wouldn't take her back. It all depends on how much you care about your own happiness and your willingness to put up with her. I had a pretty similar situation with a 'selfish' guy. I wouldn't take him back for all the tea in china, I deserve better in my opinion. And I'm pretty sure you deserve better as well.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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What is it with girls in their 20s Posted: 8/13/2009 8:31:00 AM
I think that its not only 20 something girls that lack sophistication...or class...its also the 20 something boys.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Digital/usb tablets? Posted: 8/12/2009 9:20:53 PM
I'm not an illustrator, I'm more of just a recreational artist, but I do take pride in my work and recently I came across people who said they used usb tablets, and I really like the results. Plus, coloring things in on photoshop=huge pain in my butt. I also hate having to draw things, then scan them, then adjust the contrast...this just seems easier.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Digital/usb tablets? Posted: 8/12/2009 2:26:58 AM
Has anyone used these? I'm really thinking about getting one-a good one, and I want to know thoughts on this. I did a thread search on this and nothing came up...so I hope I'm not repeating. Anyhow, I really admire the way a lot of pieces look that have been achieved with this method. Also, I've heard that photoshop is a good program for use with these...which is good because I'm fairly competent with photoshop. Anyhow, I have about 500 dollars to spend on one of these tablets...but, again, I want it to be something worth getting. Plus, I don't personally know anyone who has one.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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what's your perfect man/woman? Posted: 8/4/2009 5:34:14 AM
6'5" brown hair, dark brown eyes, pale skin...a little chubby. Styles his hair well and has a labret. Funny, sweet and of course an amazing lover. But thats just if I could create my perfect man...I'm wildly attracted to men who don't fit this description at all as well.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Best and worse pick up lines... Posted: 7/31/2009 1:40:33 AM
just hand her a napkin and say "does this smell like a date rape drug to you? Pretty much the same line...but the wording is better. "excuse me (miss, sir) does this rag smell like chloroform to you?"

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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love and weight gain Posted: 7/31/2009 1:22:10 AM
Initeresting...a 90 lb weight lose won't do it...but losing the penis is the final straw Yes, the penis would be the final straw...I need that...

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/31/2009 1:18:08 AM
No, I don't frequently meet gay men..well not ones that I am trying to date. I have quite a few gay friends, so I can usually get a sense if a guy is gay or not...then again...its difficult to always know what people are into.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/30/2009 6:30:12 PM
Thanks! I'm glad someone did.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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love and weight gain Posted: 7/30/2009 6:17:10 PM
Well, when I married my husband, he was 6'2" and about 230lbs, which isn't slender, but not incredible husky by any means. In fact, he had an extremely attractive body in my eyes (i love a little cushion...). Then he joined the service and over the next two years, he wasted away to 140lbs. He looked sickly, eyes hollowed out, sunken cheeks and I would have never felt attraction to him if he was a stranger on the street. But, I loved him just the same because I had already been so in love with his personality. I would have never left him for changing physically...unless he ceased to have a penis O.o But I think thats a call that you can only make when you've been in a situation like that...I'm sure some people could never do it.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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do friends kiss you sleep with you and hug you ? Posted: 7/30/2009 6:05:49 PM
Sleep as in have sex with you? I have plenty of male friends who I am totally comfortable hugging, or kissing on the cheek or even sharing a bed with (not sexually at all). And I think thats a good level of comfortability with my friends because I'm very close with them and I can't tell them anything. As for having sex? I would never dream of doing that with any of my guy friends. Maybe guys who I'm not really close with if I really felt the need to have sex...but that would be quite a stretch for me...

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/30/2009 5:55:17 PM
Well, you didn't do much research on me obviously. And I can't have visible piercings at work, so I didn't look different than your average girl. The weight thing...that could very well be true. But as for the BAMF thing...it IS a joke, by a comedian and it is written on my profile and one guy (who got the joke) commented on it, then another poster asked what it was, so I told her. Anyhow, the post served its purpose, I got some oustide insight on the situation. It's difficult to always take this advice from your friends because it could be that they're telling you what you want to hear, or they are actually being honest. And what is being wasted? Humor.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/30/2009 5:41:48 PM
Yes, because I act so incredibly badass...humor...anyone? anyone? I suppose you're right...it is wasted.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/30/2009 5:21:23 PM
Perhaps, but he had his eyes glued to me every time I was around him or even across the room. I don't know what kind of nice guys stare lol. Anyhow, I wouldn't have noticed it but several coworkers pointed it out to me.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/30/2009 3:21:50 PM
I hardly think he's gay...but then again you never know about a person. It's just so frustrating. He's a completely different type of person than I am in the way his mind works. And of course, hes like majorly good looking (to me) and very intelligent. And who doesn't like someone who occasionally talks to them in spanish...even if you have no idea what he's saying. Another avenue I haven't really thought about was that he obviously knows I like him, and now, as friends, he thinks its funny to watch me come totally undone. Very possible since he has quite the sense of humor.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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smokers and non smokers can they get on Posted: 7/30/2009 3:53:40 AM
I don't smoke, but I would date a smoker as long as they weren't constantly chain smoking, or blowing their smoke in my face. Actually I was married to a smoker, but he was very respectful and wouldn't smoke inside our home or vehicles.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Asking for STD test results Posted: 7/30/2009 3:47:20 AM
Dang, OP, that's very close to home...I live 2 counties south! I would ask away. I do ask...I most certainly don't want to be catchin the croth rot.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Did you keep your wedding photos? Posted: 7/30/2009 2:40:56 AM
I actually don't have wedding photos...but I do have a scrapbook of a lot of pictures of us together. I keep it. We don't have any kids together, but it was a really big part of my life and at one point, he was everything I ever wanted. I still have them...but I think they're in my storage unit...

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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25 year old male virgin Posted: 7/30/2009 2:24:29 AM
This thread actually makes me want to bash my head into a wall. You want casual sex, but not a one night stand, but not a relationship. You're not all that attractive, but you're 'average', yet you are seeking an attractive girl. You don't even think you will like sex, but maybe you will. I actually think you have no idea what you want. Its honestly not that hard to get laid, but I think you're in no emotional position to have intimate human contact. This whole thread has been a train wreck. You're so confused...and thats why no one wants to sleep with you...confusion and whining.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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why the prettier the woman, the worse she is in bed or giving head? Posted: 7/30/2009 1:20:35 AM
I think this whole thread is absolutely ridiculous...on too many levels to even begin to analyze.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/29/2009 7:07:35 PM
Well, I thought before that it was because we were co workers. He is a manager...just wasn't mine. But now that I don't work there anymore, I wonder if I should give him a call.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Attraction and Reality Posted: 7/29/2009 2:25:47 PM
I've never dated a guy who was my physically perfact date, but there have been plenty of men that I have found wildly attractive because of the person that they were. I think it IS harder on a dating site. No matter how amazing someones profile is...you still can't really get a feel for them until you meet them and you won't want to meet them unless you find them attractive, right? So its purely a visual decision. But in person, I have met a lot of guys who are not immediately attractive to me until we get to know each other, then, they ended up being someone that I absolutely adored.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/29/2009 1:57:53 PM
Its a joke. but it stands for Bad As s Mother F***er.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Do u believe in love at first sight??? Posted: 7/29/2009 1:51:24 PM
I do believe in love at first sight. When I met my husband, I just had a weird feeling about him. Before he even spoke to me, I knew that there was something about him. And to date, I've never loved anyone as much as I loved him...even though we're now divorced.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/29/2009 1:37:28 PM
Yea, I am a professional BAMF

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/29/2009 1:28:12 PM
I don't know, its kind of a pointless waste of thought at this point. But I guess the fact that I'm still so hung up on him is why I wonder. It actually took a lot guts to even bring it up to him. I usually don't have such problems approaching men...thats why I like him so much, he actually makes me giddy/nervouse/excited.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Of Women and Condiments Posted: 7/29/2009 1:03:27 PM
Ok, this goes with your whole theory...I hate mustard, but then again, I don't like ketchup, mayo, salad dressing or relish either.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Maybe I'm crazy...but he still stares... Posted: 7/29/2009 12:59:55 PM
So, this is a long story, I will try my best to make it short. I used to work with this guy that I found extremely attractive. We always talked at work, and every time he saw me, he smiled...even if he was just walking by. Even other people at work and friends started noticing that he would stare at me when I wasn't looking. This went on for several months. My manager even told me that he had asked for her opinion on me. By this point, I was incredibly crazy about him, we would spend our lunch hours chatting it up in the break room a lot. So one day, I decided to ask him out, I mean, it was killing me! All he did was smile and tell me that 'he wasn't that kind of guy'. Rejected, I just asked if we were cool as friends and walked away. I spent a lot of time wondering what he meant by 'not that kind of guy' gay? doesnt date? doesnt date coworkers? just plain not into me? After that, things were a bit odd between us...for about a month, then it was back to him staring/me staring, both of us with big goofy grins on our faces when we talked, spending lunch together. I didn't queation it though, I just tried my hardest not to like him like that. Then I quit my job. And I didn't see him for about to months...until yesterday. Same goofy grin on his face when he noticed me. I went over to him and we talked for about fifteen minutes before I had to leave. But as I walked away, I told him that it was nice seeing him, and he replied back for me to come by again (I was at my old work place). Then I told him that I probably wouldnt see him again ever (I'm moving an hour and a half away for college this fall and have no need to visit a crappy harware store). He hugged me and told me that I should still come back and see everyone. All I can do is say WTF at the whole situation. I mean one minute I think hes just not into me, than he does things that really make me wonder. Am I just crazy?

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Are sideburns still in?? Posted: 7/29/2009 12:32:12 PM
I like sideburns on some men...some not so much. Have your own style...if you like them...go for it!

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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The Five Minute Date Posted: 7/29/2009 12:26:20 PM
Yea, I would have left....but probably could have waited it out until my beer was gone. :)

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Any women willing to admit having had great sex with a married man? Posted: 7/29/2009 12:14:14 PM
Yes, I have slept with a married man...I was his wife...giggle

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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good body or face? Posted: 7/27/2009 5:38:32 PM
Face. I care about the body, but its not the main thing for me. A guy has got to have great eyes for me to be attracted.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Why do women use me for sex??? Posted: 7/25/2009 3:16:36 AM
Ha Ha, thanks guys for the laughs!

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Leagues do not exist Posted: 7/25/2009 3:14:00 AM
This is kind of a tough one. I would say that you always have a chance with anyone you want, but I also think that looks alone don't define 'leagues'. I find it difficult to even attempt a relationship with someone that isn't on my same intelligence level. I know it sounds a bit harsh, but I just wouldn't be happy if someone was way over my head all the time, or if I was over someone elses head. I think thats an important factor as well. But as long as you click mentally, I don't think looks play much into it past mutual attraction. Then again, this is just my sleep-deprived rambling at 5 am.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Strong Willed Women Posted: 7/19/2009 7:06:13 AM
This is funny becasue a guy I recently dated broke it off becuase I wasn't 'mousy' enough. I don't think I'm a nag or a b i t c h, but I do have my own thoughts and opinions on things and I will share them. Personally, I like when I can talk to a guy about something that we may not agree on (not argue) I like to see someone elses point of view. Most guys that I date like the fact that I don't just agree with them for the sake of trying to be easy-going.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 7/19/2009 3:07:17 AM
The thing I dislike most is when someones grammar or spelling is so bad that I can't understand the point that they're trying to get across. Or when people don't use the correct form of a word. i.e. there, their, they're, to, too, two, and the one that bothers me the most...your, you're. I know that I have plenty of typos and errors, but atleast I do make an effort. I would expect the same out of anyone I wanted to date.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Commit to a pot smoker? Posted: 7/18/2009 11:23:33 PM
I don't put up with drugs period.

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Any bbw hypocrites? Posted: 7/12/2009 3:19:04 PM
I think that being alone is so much better than being in a bad relationship. Yes, I would like to be with someone, but not someone that isn't going to make me happy...or someone that I can't make happy!

shadowette

Joined: 8/24/2008

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Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX? Posted: 7/5/2009 1:20:20 AM
My ex had a HUGE penis..is that good? lol

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