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MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Text message? Posted: 11/25/2009 11:53:44 PM
Could be his service. Sometimes it takes days for me to receive messages. Otherwise, maybe he doesn't check for them often.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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dating other people Posted: 11/25/2009 6:13:18 PM
Is marriage more important than your relationship? What's his stance on living together? All you've mentioned is that you've talked about it (who brought it up is a less important matter). Some people never want to get married. Is that so bad? So you miss out on a few tax benefits plus a potentially harmful divorce. Maybe you should find out if you can stand living together first.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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please review profile!! Posted: 11/25/2009 2:20:44 PM
Looks pretty good. Charming smile I agree with Mr Versatility about adding something along the lines of your aspirations. Possibly replace the joke about inventing making stories into movies with it. And definitely at least one more pic to confirm the presence/absence of a complete left leg :) Other than that, it looks great!

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Should I put up more conservitive pics??? Posted: 11/25/2009 2:09:36 PM
When you visit your profile in edit mode, the typos should show up underlined in red. If you post pics of yourself scantily clad, then that will be the first thing men notice and likely act upon no matter how many times you repeat that you aren't looking for it. Zoey was cute in 2005 indeed. Regardless, adding dog pics to your profile adds little value. Describing yourself as "willing to try anything" translates to "willing to try any sexual position" for many if not most men. People can email you through this service. It would be best to redirect through this service instead of including your yahoo email because doing so will allow you to more easily control abusers. I believe there is a tip section that offers some good pointers about what to put in the "About me" section. It is worth reviewing. If you want to attract more sophisticated courtesans, then you should improve your pictures. Take well-lighted, better detailed pics of yourself (maybe even one where you are dressed professionally) and see if things improve. Good luck :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Dating Daddy's Girl Posted: 11/25/2009 12:21:13 PM
IMO, it's all about the values of the girl, not who her dad is or even whether or not he approves of me. If both partners are happy, then there is little anybody else can to to interject (unless you are part of a radical religion like Muslim/Mormon, in which case, dad could marry you off to someone else).

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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at what age to settle down? Posted: 11/24/2009 9:53:15 PM
All of this is very subjective. Some guys start families before reaching eighteen years of age, others never do. Certain guys wait until they can financially support raising a family while others get the ball rolling in hopes of working out the monetary details later. At any rate, the numbers suggest that people are getting married later now than they did fifty years ago. So marriage is not in your book anymore??? Marriage is indeed "on my book". However, I want to do it right by marrying the right person. Divorce is a terrible process, especially when there are children involved. IMO, anybody who dives into marriage under pressure from seeing their friends happily married (or the idea that their time to marry is nearly over) is making a huge gamble. Besides, would you rather own the status of "married", or find the perfectly compatible partner?

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Need Advice Posted: 11/24/2009 2:01:43 PM
It's not unreasonable to ask him to at least look for a job while he's in school. The economy is a bit rough, so now is a good time to focus on school. Regardless, I worked my entire way through college and it was unforgiving, but possible. He should be capable of accepting some of the responsibility for keeping both of you afloat.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Why are you really on here? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:54:56 PM
Based on what I've read in the forums, I think there are lots of guys on this site who are looking for something long term and serious. Why are you on this site? I use this site (as well as professional, technical, and philosophical forums) to try to add perspective to some of the challenges people face ranging from computer problems to interpersonal matters. More importantly, I use this site to seek others' opinions about big problems in my relationship (when they come up). I have found that some people on here offer valuable, sage advice. Bascially, I'm just tired of meeting guys on here that are only after "a peice". The same thing happens to guys. It sucks. My advice is that you take things slow with the next guy you meet who has potential and suffer the trials of holding out as much as he does. In other words: Don't juggle a quality guy whom you don't sleep with along with a few flings on the side to satisfy your own needs. Identify the guy early on and stick with him even when others try to make moves on you (especially when he's with you). If he doesn't reciprocate, then move on. There are too many quality people out there to waste time on somebody who can't make their mind up :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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How do I know hes real soulmate, even with our differences? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:24:47 PM
How do I know hes real soulmate, even with our differences? IMO, you discover whether a person is your soulmate not by the things you have in common, but by how you reconcile your differences. If you can both compromise or strike deals when there is absolutely no way to agree otherwise, then you have a good thing

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Hey said call me, if you want and no answer? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:18:56 PM
Don't worry about it. When I first met my girlfriend, I'd only receive one email a week. Also, the first time I called her, no answer! To make matters worse, she had used a different name as an online alias. Only after our first 2 dates, the night before we were going to a party to meet her colleagues, did she tell me her true name. No big deal. I went with the pace, and it worked out. She has turned out to be one of the best girlfriends I've ever had. People do weird stuff early on in relationships depending on what level of comfort they operate at. Just be patient. The ball is indeed in his court.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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How do I ask a man out? Posted: 11/19/2009 9:49:30 AM
Depending on where the person is and how well you know them, it is best to simply make plans to do something as friends. That way, you can gather more intel abou their relationship status without taking on all of the additional pressure of having to put yourself out there. Something nice and casual for a bit of Q and A.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Guys who tell you they've been in intense relationships? Posted: 11/13/2009 11:35:19 AM
An intense relationship is likely a relationship that took off too quickly and, just as quickly, crashed hard. If somebody tells you this happened to them, then it is wise to question their ability to take things slowly. Secondly, what does this mean for me? It means you are in charge of regulating the pace of the relationship, and that you should take it slowly. If he objects, then you can reason that you are not interested in going through the same routine as his last passionate crash (unless you are).

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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WHAT IN THE WORLD IS THIS ABOUT? Posted: 11/13/2009 11:26:56 AM
Do you both tend to steer conversations toward your own interests? Maybe you should split up during parties and form your own audiences if you are both so interesting. There is a difference between a person who captivates a crowd with their story and somebody who forces all conversations to go on tangents in their direction. It is like comparing spectacle to interruption. I don't know either of you and thus can't assess either of your social abilities. If he's suffering conniption fits because fewer people paid attention to him, then he clearly desires all the attention. Does he deserve it? This is your side of the story, however. He may actually be the more interesting person, and you the interruption. You both need to decide what is more important: Your relationship, or the attention of your peers. It sounds like he has already chosen the attention. No big loss. I have found that the most interesting people are interesting by virtue of how they live and what they value, not by how effectively they gather a crowd. If the latter were the case, I'd be together with a magician (aka master of smoke, mirrors, and bedazzling tricks).

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Her Best Friend Posted: 11/13/2009 11:03:49 AM
I might give it a shot. However, if my best friend was rejected by a girl that he still has strong feelings for, then I would avoid her advances for the sake of my best-friendship. If I was also interested in her, then I'd work something out with my best friend before making any moves behind his back.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Sweet Dreams...Question for anyone actually... Posted: 11/13/2009 10:56:04 AM
I haven't noticed. However, I have found that I tend to have wonderful dreams during times when I am under heavy, sleep-deprived pressure at work. It is as though my brain is reconciling for the increased amount of conscious duress.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Why guys are in low maintenance but have big debts? Posted: 11/13/2009 10:51:24 AM
People typically use the term "maintenance" to describe the amount of attention, affection, or spoilage they require. If a guy has huge debt, but does not expect you to help him get out of his situation, then he's not high maintenance. The debt, rather, should be considered baggage should things progress towards marriage or anything that might tie you into his problem.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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you tell me....... Posted: 11/11/2009 10:58:32 AM
It's a matter of boundaries. How far the partner (man OR woman) decides to go outside the relationship, depends on them. Is it wrong to carry on friendships with other people while in a relationship? How about playful teasing? People are social creatures and no matter how loyal a person is, they will likely face temptation while in a relationship. Why some people choose to follow through on the betrayal is some blend of narcissism, inherited values, and simple lack of cognition/consideration of the repercussions. There are a number of convenient workarounds for plain honesty: Piousness, irrationality, denial, etc. Open relationships are not necessarily harmful, but dishonesty is IMHO.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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What Makes You Want More Than Sex From A Woman -? Posted: 11/9/2009 9:18:53 AM
What type of woman makes you want more than just sex from her? The rational type: The kind of woman who is seriously willing to negotiate fairly by making sacrifices on her part for the health of the relationship. Since most criticisms (fitness, diet, wardrobe, attitude, cleanliness, etc.) tend to aim toward the overall improvement of both partners, it makes sense that both participate. I have encountered a few people in general who have expressed an ongoing desire to do their part, but who seem to show up loaded with excuses once it is time to deliver. That's just my standard, and I'm sure it varies on an individual basis (eg. getting a college student to settle down mid-study might be unrealistic).

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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skipping over issues Posted: 11/4/2009 3:10:31 PM
Some people don't negotiate. A colleague of mine is like that. When he and his wife can't agree, they just set the issue aside. It seems to work for them. My situation is much more political. Nearly every weekend brings up a new touchy issue. We argue intensely, then begin so arduous process of working out a solution. If he gets sick when you bring up the issue, then he basically is happy that things are going his way, but unwilling to make the personal sacrifices necessary to make you equally satisfied. Pass him an Alka Seltzer and tell him you are confident he has the strength to work it out. Otherwise, don't put up with any "it was your decision" rhetoric.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Would you call this flirting? Is he interested? Posted: 10/31/2009 4:24:22 PM
It is easier to tease a taken person because, since they're taken, there's not much potential for negative sexual tension. At least there shouldn't be if the person is committed to their relationship. When they are not, the matter becomes complicated quickly. Whatever he decides to do, it would be best if you took things slowly should he decide to break up with his girlfriend. Otherwise, you might be the rebound relationship. Things could take off in a steamy passionate manner, then disappear just as quickly (leaving you suddenly very uncomfortable at work). IMHO, people need time to adjust to being single before hopping into a new relationship. What to do? Keep searching. Don't allow things between you and him to advance beyond the workplace unless he either becomes single and emotionally stable, or his girlfriend is included in the plans.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Sleep over's Posted: 10/25/2009 3:22:46 AM
I don't know why he wants you to live there while he's away. Does he also want you to clean up and cook? Sounds boring to stay at someone's place, and odd that they'd want you to in the first place. Do what you want to do. If he has an awesome place and you have nothing better to do, then go for it. Otherwise, he should understand.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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what should i do? Posted: 10/23/2009 12:13:49 AM
He needs to focus on his education. If he's worth waiting until next summer for then, by all means, hold out. Otherwise, focus on your own education and see what happens.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Why would he ask if he didn't mean it? Posted: 10/22/2009 2:48:24 PM
You have to give a person time to recover from a relationship. Doing so will assure you that they are ready to date again, and that they are not simply on the rebound.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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I'd Like To See You, But... Posted: 10/22/2009 11:27:17 AM
Maybe he got the impression that you wanted to come over, but didn't feel up to it. It could mean anything from deception to honesty. I'd let it go and wait to see what his next move is. If this becomes a pattern, then you need to decide if these excuses work for you. After all, you could have just gone out, no? Do all of your meetings take place in his apartment?

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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I haven't met any of his friends Posted: 10/22/2009 11:15:26 AM
1) it's too soon for that Who says? I don't think I've ever had a serious girlfriend who didn't meet my family (at least vicariously) within 2 months. If it is too soon for family, then is it also too soon for friends? 2) both of our families are about an hour away My girlfriend's family is overseas. Regardless, we learned a few things about eachother in the first few weeks of dating, even before things got serious.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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I haven't met any of his friends Posted: 10/22/2009 9:43:30 AM
Have you met any of his family members? Does he talk about his friends much? There could be any number of reasons why he hasn't introduced you to them. Maybe he is trying to transition away from a less-sophisticated crowd. Otherwise, he may be trying to hide something from you that all his friends know about. If he's reluctant to discuss his friends whatsoever, then it's probably the latter. How can I figure out which is true? You are going to have to put your foot down. If he isn't hiding anything, then he should be okay with providing a reasonable explanation.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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im in love with a guy should i tell him Posted: 10/22/2009 9:29:54 AM
You can tell him whatever you want to at this point because it probably won't make a difference. what do i do to get him to forgive me and listen to what i have to say? He'll most likely listen. Forgiveness is another matter. Your best chance is not to tell him, but to show in your actions that you can change (if you have any intention whatsoever in doing so). A good start would be to go back to school if you haven't done so already.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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losing your phone. Posted: 10/16/2009 12:03:31 PM
Usually the messages are hosted by the service, not the phone. You should be able to retrieve an outside number you can dial to access your voice mail. This question would be best answered by your service provider. Otherwise, if there is no way to salvage the messages, maybe he'll pay you another visit. Or you could go back to the place where you met and see if he's there. Good luck!

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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DWI - he was dishonest Posted: 10/16/2009 11:54:54 AM
DWIs are very common, and easy to nab if you are the type who occasionally drinks during a meal or frequents a bar. You'd be surprised by how many people have them. Depending on where you live, it can be easy to overstep the legal limit with a minimal amount of drinks. He was being honest and upfront with you. It was you who used the technicality as a reason to not let things develop further. IMO, A DWI does not imply poor character nor does it disqualify a person from dating eligibility. Usually, it means the person was caught at the wrong place at the wrong time, and they must pay the price for it. It sounds like he was making good on his mistake, so why the second trial?

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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no pic...send one ..no response Posted: 10/16/2009 11:17:43 AM
This type of thing can happen to people with pics who have engaged in meaningful conversations. It is a good rule of thumb to keep options open until a definite relationship has been formed. As such, you may meet the right guy moments before he consummates a relationship with a lady he has progressed further with. It's not dishonesty that causes him to disappear. Rather, it's the fact that he's spending his time kindling the new relationship :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Skinny- athletic Vs. Average- chubby Posted: 10/14/2009 11:49:13 AM
Rhetoric is easily misconstrued in text form. Maybe he took your "Don't be shy" as a serious accusation, or perhaps he was teasing you in his reply. He could have been testing you personality to see if you'd react harshly, deliver a cleverly pointed reply, or run away. How is the aggressive approach working out for you? IMO, men appreciate having to work somewhat to get the girl (not too easy or too difficult, but work nonetheless).

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Eating and kissing. Posted: 10/14/2009 11:37:54 AM
I don't find it disgusting at all. Granted, I've kissed people while eating -when somebody still has food tucked away in their mouth. Not french kissing, mind you - just a peck :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Sex in a Relationship. What do you think? Posted: 10/14/2009 11:35:46 AM
I don't believe sex is the ultimate, deep show of love, affection, respect, deep feelings and emotions you show towards one another. Sexual desire and activity tend to degrade over the long term, and, IMO, personality reigns supreme. I would rather have infrequent sex with somebody who consistently expressed their love, affection, etc. through amorous gestures and actions than have regular sex with somebody who did not. Furthermore, negotiating all of the steps up-front strikes me as awkward. I am thinking my first kiss with somebody might be less surprising if all of the details were arranged in advance. I can't speak for all guys here, but my sexual desires change over time. To plan ahead for each change might consume more time than making changes on-the-fly. Also, I have had partners show me things I never knew I would enjoy as much as I do. That said, I think the advantage of advanced discussion about sex is that it might heighten arousal - like watching a porno together before doing it.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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what is this guys intentions Posted: 10/14/2009 1:02:46 AM
I agree with the other responses. Por curiosidad: You profile says you are not single/not looking. Is this guy your boyfriend?

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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independence? Posted: 10/14/2009 12:57:53 AM
Independence is a pretty flexible term. Maybe he likes women who are financially independent so he get tell them to buy him things. Are you telling him to do anything your way? A solid relationship requires compromise and negotiation. Otherwise, who cares what he likes?

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Ever been nervous while kissing a girl? Why? Posted: 10/14/2009 12:53:43 AM
Was it cold outside? Does he drink lots of coffee? Had he been working out at the gym? Maybe he's taking painkillers. Early onset Parkinson's? Uneven ground? Some people are shaky in general. I guess you'll have to ask.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Is it a good thing to be up front? Posted: 10/12/2009 7:00:17 PM
I like being up front, saying the things most people are too shy to ask. You might like it, but how do other people react to it? It may be courtesy, not shyness, that keeps others from diving straight into the pointed questions. I have always been turned off by women who announced early on that they liked me. It takes time to get to know a person, and announcing too soon that you like them implies that you simply want a boyfriend, any boyfriend, not them. Dating is a game of cat-and-mouse in many ways, and putting yourself out there directly is like jumping into the cat's mouth. Furthermore, if both parties are interested, then there is no need for proclamations or contracts - it happens naturally. For the sake of mystery, show some restraint :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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What should a girl wear on a first date? Posted: 10/12/2009 6:47:33 PM
If you are going to do something casual, then wear your favorite casual attire (assuming you don't love stained oversized sweat pants with high tops and a tie-dyed denim jacket). Men are just as forgiving as women when it comes to the fashion faux pas. If he disapproves but likes you anyways, then he'll take you shopping at a later time :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Is it weird not to be attracted to your own race? Posted: 10/12/2009 6:36:52 PM
I am guessing there are not many phylogenetic taxonomists here to answer your question :) Stick with the program. I wouldn't, however, rule out somebody right off the bat because of their race. It all comes down to personality in the long haul. is odd that other races dont share the sameaffinity to me as i have for them? It's not odd, it's untrue. There are always exceptions, and just because you've had bad luck with one particular race doesn't mean that entire race is not attracted to you.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Why do men cheat? Posted: 10/12/2009 6:21:47 PM
Some people fail to recognize a good relationship when the have it. Others tied themselves into a bad one, and made that realization after the fact. Serious resolve and commitment are required when people find themselves surrounded by temptation. A person in a strong relationship faces heavy pressure to cheat because they don't wear the mask that comes with having to figure out the prospective partner and because they are, generally, happy. Add to the complication the fact that alcohol is so readily available everywhere. Men and women cheat. There are worse things that could happen. Be happy your parents didn't marry you off at the age of thirteen to some polygamous old man. Core values have their thresholds. A man who might allow you to treat him badly or hold out on sex with him might accept it for a few days, but keep in up for months on end, and he just might stray. You could just as easily lose him to temptation by giving him too much freedom. This is B.S. I just dont get why lie about it, let the girl make the choice for herself if she wants to be with a married man. Agreed. If one is unhappy why not just get divorced? Frowned upon by most religions. If one walks away each time they are unhappy, they'll never find a lasting relationship. It's a tricky challenge to determine when to stick it out, and when to bail (especially to do so while hurdling life's random obstacles).

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Are my pictures uninteresting? Posted: 10/12/2009 5:50:39 PM
Some of the things you say are a tad berating of men. I know you only asked for pic reviews, but I felt compelled to read. A little bit too much focus on men who don't read and deal-breakers. Some of the pics are boring, some are nice. It can take lots of pics to glean a few good ones so, by all means, take lots. It would help to have a friend/colleague take pics of you doing things you regularly do or enjoy doing. Get creative with it, and it will certainly work out. As the other poster suggested, a full body pic would also help. There is nothing wrong with Canada IMHO, but geography/suburb does determine your options :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Why is it such a stigma to be an older bachelor? Posted: 9/30/2009 11:24:15 AM
I am not sure if this question applies to any particular age group. Women like a challenge. If a guy comes on too strong, he risks coming off as desperate. On the other hand, if he plays hard to get, he may drive her a little crazy, but at least he keeps her attention :) It is definitely NOT easy to find a compatible partner. Some women want an average guy, others want somebody unique. Religion and financial status are pretty solid roadblocks as well. Despite the empirical impression that women always put down bachelors, there are always exceptions. The irony is that once you find that rare exception, the others usually change their impression from noticing all of the bad things about you to noticing your finer qualities. By then, it is too late (unless you steep low enough to sacrifice what you have going for you in order to give them a second chance).

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Why ??? Posted: 9/28/2009 12:01:42 PM
Unless either of you are in the process of narrowing the 120 mile gap between you, I wouldn't recommend dating somebody so far away. It is possible, but complicated. I knew a girl from Seattle who was together with a guy from NY who'd fly over to see him nearly every weekend - not sure how that relationship worked out. Will your finances and schedule accommodate such a relationship? How about his? Just because he drives for work does not mean he'll be okay with more driving to see you. My gf and I lived 20 miles apart for a year, and it made things difficult. I didn't mind the drive, but my home succumbed to much neglect after several months of abandoning it each weekend. If either of your careers will allow you to eventually relocate, then there might be hope for you and this guy. The distance factor impedes convenience, but it can also act as a barrier that causes you to take things slowly (which is good). I am not sure why your friend's migraine caused you to avoid the dinner date. What's the connection here?

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Is he interested....((Catch up!)) Posted: 9/28/2009 11:45:14 AM
Maybe he doesn't like texting. Despite today's technology delivering the ability to send messages instantly to anybody practically anywhere, people naturally accept challenges. If you are texting him too frequently, you might be coming off as needy or too chatty. You did the right thing by slowing down the pace. No matter how interested you are in the guy, it always pays to take things slowly. Otherwise, he'll lose interest. Good luck :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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How do you deal with it? Posted: 9/24/2009 5:26:34 PM
It really depends on what the dealbreaker is. If you did something that freaked him out, then he probably won't feel much pain or remorse - only personal regret for getting so close to you in the first place. Some people pull the "You're not interesting to me" stunt as a means to attract you more to them. If you continue to hear from this guy, then this may be what's happening. It could be that he wants to pursue somebody harder to get while keeping you on the bench in case he fails (not excusable, but it happens). He won't forget about you, but it is best that he moves on so he doesn't end up stringing you along with confusion. He might be a great guy, but considering what has already happened, you two probably wouldn't make a healthy couple. Hopefully the next one will be more consistent :)

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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extreme crazy Posted: 9/18/2009 9:53:53 AM
Good crazy: Adventurous, creative in ways of expressing affection. Bad crazy: Hazardously abusive in ways of expressing disappointment.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Why do you do this???? Posted: 9/18/2009 9:43:13 AM
Successfully creating a bond with a lady is no trivial matter. After trying the nice guy approach and getting rejected, some guys experiment with various levels of lewdness. Furthermore, guys revert to sexual proposals once they've decided they are not interested in anything more than sex with you. The deal breaker could be any number of things. Rather than get offended or ponder the rationale, why not return the insult by arranging to have sex with him immediately, suggesting some far away hotel to meet up at, then standing him up?

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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Just wondering what he was thinking Posted: 9/8/2009 1:36:14 PM
It is usually the most difficult to tell people you really love how much you love them. Otherwise, it's really simple if you are the type who loves their friends, loves their customer service representative, loves every morning, etc. I'm not sure what his problem is. You are going to have to ask him or move on to find a guy who is more open with affection/feelings.

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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I would marry you but,? Posted: 9/8/2009 1:07:09 PM
You won't get married until 5 years from now when your children have all passed 18. Got it. What is his reason for not wanting to marry you? What are the 'complications'?

MrPlatonic

Joined: 8/25/2008

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What does marriage mean to a man? Posted: 9/8/2009 1:03:58 PM
He is an alcoholic, which eventually causes unhappiness in itself. The marriage probably has little to do with it. He'd probably be happy with marriage, but I wonder if his fiance is happy with him.

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