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nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 33 (view)

Empty Promises! Posted: 7/6/2009 9:03:20 PM
Sorry to hear that happened to you so fast, Nikko. I have been on here quite a while, and just as the world is diverse, so it is here too. My guess is that either she had something to hide (something she faked) or she didn't feel worthy of you. So save it for the one who is and knows it and don't give up. I have had a few strange experiences on here, and also met some great folks. As for meeting, I think it depends on the person. The first response I ever got (not on this site) online took us 4 yrs to meet and we are still great friends and who knows? I do think it's best if you meet early though, before too many emotions come into play. I wish you much luck here, and assure you there are some great people on here, so keep your chin up, and happy fishing!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 86 (view)

Why does this have to be so difficult? Posted: 5/27/2008 12:58:47 PM
I share your frustration, Johnny. Why can't people just be honest and open with one another? If you can't be honest when you're dating, how in the world are you going to be open when you are in a relationship or married and a tough situation comes along? I just don't understand....the whole thing is tiring and confusing. It should never be that hard.

Nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Love/Fear Posted: 9/23/2007 9:46:20 AM
I would rather be loved, even more than that respected, which is the basis for love anyway. It is a proven fact, though, that we do more to avoid pain (hence fear) than to experience pleasure. So many times fear is a more powerful motivator, but for me, love takes it. I would much rather do something for another because I love them, than do it because I fear the result of not doing it. We should be more aware of the reasons for our actions and we will see that many times we do things out of negative thinking.....we pay our electric bill so we do not have to read by candlelight because it was shut off, we take out the garbage so our mates won't yell instead of doing it because we love our family and home enough to do it. My hope for myself, my family and all the wonderful fishes out there is that we align our actions with loving affirmations and make fear virtually non-existant. Only then can we live in peace.

Nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 98 (view)

do most people still look for the right one or do they just settle instead? Posted: 9/23/2007 9:28:00 AM
I think most people do settle, or get involved too young to know how to make the right choices. I did the latter, once, and learned. I am still learning, but will not settle for less than a true physical, spiritual and mental connection with another human being. I think there is more than one to choose from, that's why taking it slow and letting things develop naturally is the best way to find a mate for life.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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For Peet's sake, I need a really good coffee right now..... Posted: 9/7/2007 6:06:07 AM
Thanks, Montreal Guy for the news. I really didn't know this info, but am glad I know now, and am able to enjoy the fruits of his labours at whim.....tipping my coffee cup to a man named Peet......glad I will be able to have a cup of cappucino with him when I reach eternity........

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 2/21/2007 2:53:56 PM
Metaphysicalman, saw this one and couldn't resist......First of all, I do think Intelligence IS a curse in relationships, although I love an intelligent man, and may go so far as to say it is a must with me, as I am intelligent and need mental stimulation. I am a rare breed, though. Now for the questions.........I have noticed a disproportionate number of smart cookies on this site and have wondered about that for quite some time. As far as women being turned on by intelligent men, I think they are more inclined to be turned on by a physically muscular body, and those men who work their minds more than their bodies are not going to get as many ladies.....sorry. Are intellectuals egocentric? I think there are some that are, but there are many who are not, especially those into metaphysics, except for the fact that they are always looking for that perfect state of being. Are intellectuals manipulative and controlling? I think in subtle ways, we are, and as you mentioned, usually to a relationship's demise. If only we could break free of the intellecual barrier and enjoy a relationship for it's illogical and fun nature, and refrain from too many expectations, we would probably have more success in relationships. Do we have unrealistic projections and expectations? I think we sometimes do. Intellectuals seem to categorize things and try to make things follow some logical order, and when that doesn't happen, we assume all is lost and even sometimes we create the demise ourselves, if unknowingly. Are many intellectuals doomed to be forever frustrated, isolated and alone? Sadly, I think many are. There are different types of intelligence, though. I have noticed in my family that the oldest and youngest have the most book smarts, but the middle two seems to have more common sense. I cannot explain that, but what can we do to change? I would have to say get to know ourselves intimately first, and know what our innate weaknesses are. Then strive to work on those. If we have no common sense, find friends that do and have them help us develop that in ourselves. When we have done that, we can then maybe find a partner that can tolerate us...lol. I always look of course at someone who catches my eye, but immediately see if they also catch my mind. If not, I look elsewhere. I believe that only one who can catch my mind and eye will also win my heart. Say what you will, this is just my humble opinion. Good thread, though OP!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 98 (view)

Thumb Area Party???? Posted: 11/25/2006 8:07:02 AM
I made it, and oh yeah, it was a great time! We HAVE to do it again real soon! I agree the HAC was a great choice.......love to shoot pool, but was a little too caught up with the fishes for that this time, but next time........... The people were all interesting, Michael is wonderful and Ripley and I are old friends that lost touch.......was great to see you again and now we can keep in touch! So, to all you who didn't make it, you really missed out! Better make it out for the next one, I am sure we'll be doing this again...........

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 68 (view)

Guys who profess too much too soon Posted: 11/5/2006 10:41:26 AM
I feel for you, same thing happened to me recently, but well, I still gotta believe....we are friends and staying that way and the proof will be in the pudding, so to speak, as he knows where I live, my phone number, and we'll see if he cares to use the info for anything productive. If not, no explanation is necessary, he just is no longer interested, but if so, I now know not to believe whatever I hear, but their actions, so I count myself a little wiser for the experience, if not better at the dating experience. Time will tell.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Will the pain ever go away? Posted: 11/4/2006 4:59:14 PM
Jy, I feel for you, as I have been going through something similar. For me, getting at the truth is the key, so I suggest that you get down to the bottom of the matter. Who? What? Why? Again, why? There must be a reson for all this and my aim is always to get to the bottom of things. Be sure you are not the father of the kids and really talk to her and get some answers. This may not change anything, but can give you some peace of mind. If something is meant to be, it will be, but the damage is done and you are now wiser and trust and belief in love will be harder coming in the future. Use that to your advantage. I have already told my special someone that it would take a lot of hoop jumping before I believe in all that I love you stuff next time. The proof is in the pudding......if someone wants to be with you or talk to you, they will find the time and make the effort. If not, no words are needed. Actions always speak louder than words. The pain will ease and maybe even go away, but the scars will remain. Don't ever be worried about being ready, when the real thing finds you, you will already be ready, and will not have to look for it. Keep your head up, and things will get better, just concentrate on the good things for now.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Warning Rant Contained herein Posted: 11/1/2006 12:19:29 PM
Well said, Fireknight! I must agree with what you have said. Great thread!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 68 (view)

Can't see the forest for the trees Posted: 8/10/2006 8:57:24 PM
Nvrgiveup, I just want to say, you and your fellow seem to be both wonderful people. He is a dedicated father, and you are quite an understanding lady. Perhaps you can help him see the error of his ways.....we all do things for reasons not understood to others at times, but we all sometimes need enouragement to be the best we can be. Sounds like you may be willing to be that encouragement. Very few folks are willing to deal with the less than perfect scenario to get to the good that can come of it and hats off to you gal! Best of luck to you both, I hope one day to be as lucky as he seems to be.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Are you attracted to younger or older than yourself? Posted: 4/2/2006 8:05:27 AM
Mainly younger-at my age would like someone to keep me young! I am talking to one now who is older, though, but he does take care of himself. For me, that is the key. As long as they take care of themselves, it really doesn't matter.

Nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Why do most good looking women always have issues? Posted: 3/15/2006 7:16:54 PM
Everyone has issues. I am no beauty queen, but I am decent and still have issues that no one wants to deal with. So here I am still fishin. Doesn't seem right. If I can deal with them why can't you stand behind me and just be there?

Nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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What do you girls think about guys with guns? Posted: 3/14/2006 3:09:51 PM
A guy with a gun? Heck no, I'd pass. A bow? Sure, just don't put that pic on your profile. Guns a definite turnoff for me.

Nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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When in a relationship, do you like being marked as territory? Posted: 3/14/2006 1:54:34 PM
I'm with Sammysalt. What a nutcase! My cats don't mark me and I wouldn't let you either! Actually they do, but by rubbing faces. That is as far as I would tolerate.

Nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Has anyone made a point of dating tall women? Posted: 3/14/2006 8:44:01 AM
Seems like it's all about personal preferences. Only a couple have sought out taller women. For me, I am pretty tall (5'9"-5'10) and I have no preference when it comes to height. I would date a man considerably shorter than me. Does seem like the messages I get are from primarily taller gents, though. I do have other preferences, however. To each his own.

Nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink?? Posted: 3/14/2006 8:19:45 AM
Wesley, don't let a couple of alcoholics ruin your perspective. Seems like you are attracted to the wrong type of women? A lot of us do not prefer the alcoholic type of drink, and I am one of them. I can have one or two in a social situation, but prefer not to. Maybe also these women do not feel comfortable enough with themselves without that alcohol boost? Seems like you need a confident woman, but one confident enough to let you take the reins, at least when ordering dinner A good looker like you should not have any trouble finding one who doesn't drink-at least to excess. Keep your head up, she is out there, and never settle!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 51 (view)

Applause for Forums.. Posted: 1/20/2006 4:38:08 PM
Ain't it cool, indeed, comolaflor! While I should be on messenger at this moment connecting with someone I recently ran into on here, here I am browsing the forums! I have found so much......from serious problems that I could give a positive intervention or word in, to questions about relationships, to strange happenings, you can find it all on here! Many posts have been thought provoking to me and I always feel free to voice my opinion. These are the most pervasive, invasive, persuasive, inquisitve and fun forums I have found yet! I am definitely hooked! Love ya all, keep on posting! Better go check out my messenger......see you all soon!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Did a parent emotion abuse effect your ability to date? Posted: 1/20/2006 3:08:40 PM
Tammy Jean, you took the first step, that of recognizing that you were undeserving of the type of treatment you received, and speaking it. I appreciate that you did that and to answer your question, it can, it has and still does in my experience, but I won't let it get the best of me. To me, the number one part of healing is acceptance, first you of yourself, and then understanding and acceptance of others toward you. You are a special person with a unique purpose and your focus needs to be on that- finding and accomplishing your purpose in life. As you date, remember that and let me tell you this... The one man who can accept my reasoning and decisions and support them wholeheartedly and be supportive will be the man who wins my heart. I pray that you find many friends who can support you in your endeavors, as there are many wonderful people on this site. This is a new year and a new day and as good a time as any for new beginnings. Do not let the past determine your future. It is in your hands now.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 179 (view)

Would you marry someone just because they are rich ? Posted: 1/16/2006 6:00:55 PM
I would NOT or could NOT marry someone just because they were rich. Even if I married a rich man, there would have to be a connection in all levels and I would still work (I would skip the overtime though...lol). Can't ever see it happening. I did date a rich man once and his money just intimitaded me. And for the record, garry, I am not trolling for the bigger, better fish, nor am I on here because I am not getting laid either. I am here to find the one perfect fish for me. I may find him here or elsewhere, but I am on a mission.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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How Can I Tell When a Man is Serious About Me? Posted: 1/16/2006 4:11:07 PM
Thanks, NWSailer, for some insight on how "the other half" thinks! I hope all you ladies out there read his post....a good honest answer.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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What happened to an actual date Posted: 1/5/2006 6:54:06 PM
What happened to an actual date? Nothing in my book. I actually prefer doing the coffee or cappucino thing for a "meet date". I have found it both comfortable and preferable. I am not opposed to having a traditional date, even for a meet date, but always talk it over with the date and we usually decide on coffee. And every time, it ends up being more than coffee. Maybe a light appetizer, a lunch, or just coffee and a walk in the park or sitting by the river and talking. Whatever it starts with, it usually ends up nicely and even if we are not a perfect match, usually come out of it with a good memory in one way or the other. Besides, then you know where you stand. If you hear "Wanna go do something?", you know there is some chemistry there and they would like to continue the date and know more about you. That is a plus in my book. No matter what kind of date it is, as long as it is mutually decided on and comfortable for both, it will probably be enjoyable for both parties.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 71 (view)

So I tell my roommate that I met my boyfriend online.. Posted: 1/5/2006 6:23:02 PM
I am always honest and the first time I mentioned a date, my coworkers asked me where I met him and I said online, they weren't too keen with the idea. Now, though they are always asking me if I have a second date or if the date is still on, or whatever and I find that they still ask how I met the guy and the answer is still the same...online. They shake their heads and some mention the safety of the internet thing, but mainly they get a kick out of it and I think they never expect anything real to come out of it, but I don't invest my time and efforts in anything I do not expect to get anything out of. I have made some good friends on here and had a few nice dates too. And when I announce I am exclusive with one, or more than that, that will be my way of having "the last laugh". And I fully expect it to happen too. FYI: Most times you get what you expect and that is why so many on here do not seem to find what they are looking for- they have talked themselves right out of it. But that is for another thread. I am gaining respect for the online dating decision. And I wouldn't care if I didn't, I come with the same expectations no matter what others think.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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How do you know if he/she might be The One? Posted: 1/1/2006 8:42:46 PM
Geminiguy, you hit the nail on the head! Nice post and I am with you on this one. Really no way to tell until it lasts.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Are pets as important as people? Posted: 1/1/2006 8:31:46 PM
Poorgie, I am the eternal optimist. I save em all! By the way, now the kids are grown, so I wake them up, and make sure they each grab a cat on their way out! And I am in there until every last one is out too!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Are pets as important as people? Posted: 1/1/2006 7:02:15 PM
Why do we love animals so much? Simple, because they do not put conditions to acceptance. So you oversleep and they get their breakfast 3 hours late.....Do they take it out on you? Yell? Holler? Belittle you? Complain? Well maybe nudge you or meow a bit, but never anything else and they always love you no matter what. They have unconditional love and totally depend on us. They are the innocents of this world, along with children and they matter as much as kids. Do some people care more about their pets than spouse or kids? I'll bet a lot there are, but there shouldn't be. We should work with our spouse and kids to love the pets the way they should be loved and taken care of. Can you love a pet too much? I am not sure you can love anything too much, if it is the right kind of love. Never heard of such a thing as too much love. Ever. Pets are emotional creatures, and love us most when we need it. When was the last time anyone did that for you? My cats are as important to me as my two kids. They are like kids to me, and give me much in return for my love, which is more than I can say for kids these days. I love my children very much, but love my cats just as much.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Are there Real Women who want to Meet Real Men! Posted: 12/31/2005 4:44:11 PM
I'm with you, ksue!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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What are your relationship resolutions for 2006? Posted: 12/31/2005 4:31:16 PM
I am with Ferrari Driver and Setiri on this one. In 2006 I want to find THE ONE! And be a better parent, better friend, and better person, one whom THE ONE wants to be with! If he would just show up........better go check my messages......is that the doorbell?....lol. Maybe I already know him......hmm. Good luck and Happy New Year everyone! Cheers!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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SIGNS you tend to be attracted to Posted: 12/28/2005 12:44:44 PM
Hmmm. Let's see. My fave sign? It would have to be OPEN. Come to think of it, like that sort of personality too. As far as astrology signs? I am a Leo, but seems like I am very attracted to Pisceans and Libras.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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How did you come up with your screen name? Posted: 12/28/2005 12:03:23 PM
Being a female leo and loving "The Lion King" thought it ok to use the female lioness's name, also was a screenname on ICQ.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Ok maybe I am confused Posted: 12/28/2005 11:09:38 AM
I'm with Bandito on this one. Seems like she is the one confused as to what she wants. She says only friends, but acts like she wants more than friends. The only way past this one is through communication. Tell her she is sending mixed signals and see if you both can get through the confusion together. If not, time to move on as you are probably further along in relationship thinking than she is. If you both can get through the confusion together, maybe success is just around the corner. Either way, at least you both will know where each other stand and if nothing else, chalk it up to experience.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Curious...How did you get here. Posted: 12/26/2005 11:04:54 PM
I was out with some girlfriends from work and they were bragging about how great the site was. I was on another paying site at the time and completely bored with it. I came home and joined on here and am now in love with the forums as much as I am with the adventure of it all. I have met a few wonderful men on here and believe I have made some good friendships and who knows? Maybe one of them will turn out to be more? I have since deleted my profile on the other site and am enjoying myself thoroughly here on pof.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 58 (view)

Guys with no fully automatic weapons. Do we have a chance? Posted: 12/26/2005 10:05:31 PM
You asked for it, laverboy, you got it. I can't speak for all women, as they broke the mold when they made me...lol. But to answer your questions...what do I think of guys that don't own any firearms or automatic weapons? I think they are self-assured, although I am not so sure in this case....lol. I don't own any, but don't need them, and neither does anyone I date. I wouldn't date anyone with them. In fact, I once asked them to choose and here I am so you know the gun won out. If you got a bow, we could do some target practice, though- love a challenge! Does the lack of firearms emasculate a man? Heck no! A real man to me will not need a RPG. Might be cool to look at, but to use? NOT! Not a turn on to me. Just something more to stress out about. BTW, I am running windows ME still, just a step up from you and have no TV in the living room or my room. The kids have em. You all can laugh now and laverboy, you can just relax. You are still cool in my book. Did you get a second date with that gorgeous blonde? Gotta know.

nala1

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Why do some people attract things they don't like? Posted: 12/26/2005 9:18:08 PM
There can be several reasons for this. 1. I agree with diggy diggy in that there are many of life lessons to be learned and maybe we have to learn them again and again before they sink in. 2. Many of the qualities you dislike about others are the very qualities you dislike and try to subdue in yourself. Others can't help but notice- maybe they are flocking to you because it seems you have licked it and they want to know how you did it, or they sense some little bit of it in you and want to give you more? 3. "Flockers" can smell fear a mile away. Maybe they sense you are a bit afraid of them? Become more like them when in their presence and maybe you will bore them and they will depart. 4. Opposites attract.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Commitment, is it a date and a ring. Posted: 12/26/2005 9:06:37 PM
Love those power thoughts! Commitment is definitely a personal choice, you decide you are committed to that person. As you said, charlie, the trouble is when the other person is not committed, but that is made known by communication ( of all kinds) and one should see the flags. Wish I knew then what I know now.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Has anyone's holiday turned tragic? Posted: 12/26/2005 8:18:07 PM
So sorry to hear of your loss, Brazen, and being an animal lover, feel your loss. You are doing what I think is the best thing for you to do, remember her fondly. I am sure she gave you much and you can keep her memory alive with those fond memories. Always keep those stories in your heart, and maybe even write them as a tribute to her. Maybe it will ease your pain a little.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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How can you predict sexual compatibility? Posted: 12/26/2005 7:52:32 PM
I agree with lilkitten and big smile. First you must have compatibility on a mental and emotional level. If that is strong enough and mutual, you will both be open to sexual advances and it should be pleasurable. Also, that kiss does tell a lot. If it does something for you, ask if it does something for the other party. If the answer is yes, I would say you have a good shot at sexual compatibility, but the rest has to be there first. Sometimes, though, there is no predicting.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

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Would you date a man without central air conditioning? Posted: 12/26/2005 7:29:56 PM
You bet I would. I bought a house a year ago without air either. Oh well. But only one date has ever been there, and only once. I think it does not matter, and about what it says about the man? Well to me says he is responsible with his finances- you can always add air in a couple of rooms if need be, but no need for central air. Don't have to be "hot" for me, just warm enough to warm my hands and feet when we snuggle You do look good, though.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 47 (view)

favorite Christmas song? Posted: 12/26/2005 7:23:14 PM
I forgot one, it's new. Better days, by the Goo goo dolls. It's awesome, but may be more of a New Years tune than a Christmas one, but oh well, awesome anyhow.

nala1

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A guy who is intelligent but don't know how to express his feelings. Posted: 12/25/2005 3:12:59 AM
Heart and hero, my heart goes out to you for trying to help your friend. My son was once diagnosed with social anxiety disorder and I believe he still has it. It is treatable with medication (may or may not help a lot), but maybe a counseling clinic can see he gets a trial of something for it. Worth a shot. Or a psychologist or a psychiatrist can prescribe something for it to help with the shyness. Does not mean crazy, just socially shy and can be helped with medication, counseling, and supportive friends like yourself. I also believe that it can improve in time, but slower than others. Hope this helps.

nala1

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Is there a good reason not to date someone who is bipolar? Posted: 12/21/2005 3:32:39 PM
You are very welcome, Benjamin, and I meant every word. I hope all is going well for you and all in the thread. Have a wonderful Christmas everyone!

nala1

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Msg: 132 (view)

Is there a good reason not to date someone who is bipolar? Posted: 12/21/2005 3:14:46 PM
Okay, blue, I still don't get exactly what it was that made you angry, but if you have read my posts, then you know that I have lived it and do indeed have to deal with its effects every day. I am sorry if something angered you, but I do not post do have that effect, I only try to be supportive. Let me say this...most bi-polar people are very interesting, very intelligent and super creative. All in all they are great people to know, except for those who refuse to accept it and deny any problem at all, but mostly they are as wonderful as anyone, and more exciting to be around than most. They have their ups and downs as anyone does, just to more of an extreme. It's time to put away angry feelings and get into the holiday spirit! Have a wonderful Christmas!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 118 (view)

Is there a good reason not to date someone who is bipolar? Posted: 12/13/2005 9:29:37 PM
Hey blue, didn't post to offend anyone. Was there something I said that really got you going? I probably know more bipolar people than you do- besides family I have many of them that are friends as well. And most (except for the ones that are totally irresponsible about taking their meds and hurt family) are as normal as anyone out there and no one would notice. What I was getting at in my last post is that a bi-polar man that is responsible will not mind if you are sensitive to his ups and downs. I was not judging anyone based on a disease- it is all about attitude and the positives win with me. Along with the original thread, there is no good reason not to date someone who is bi-polar, but there is a reason not to date someone with a bad attitude towards it or anything else!

nala1

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Msg: 59 (view)

Happy Beginnings Posted: 12/11/2005 9:30:43 AM
Anchorless, I am glad to hear everything worked out so far for you two. Sounds like a good situation to me- good luck and keep us posted! Happy endings to you!

nala1

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Msg: 116 (view)

Is there a good reason not to date someone who is bipolar? Posted: 12/11/2005 9:22:50 AM
Who's that girl, I think that is exactly what a responsible bipolar guy would want you to do- notice and understand his cycling and help be supportive and ask if he has taken meds today. In that case you would be a great date for a bipolar guy! That is if you were to find one out there and decide to date them.

nala1

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She's too pretty for me Posted: 12/11/2005 9:09:33 AM
Opticalnoise, just gotta tell you this one thing. I have been a people watcher all my life and I can't begin to count the number of couples I have seen where the average or goofy looking guy was with a knockout gal! I do think that there is more than physical attraction going on in relationships and if your personality is more beautiful than your appearance (you do have a nice pic and I wouldn't be too worried if I were you) than you have it well in hand. When you are on a date always put your best foot forward and if you get another few dates, than there is obviously something they love about you and if you look at least average, you have a good chance at landing ms. perfect for you. If she is a knockout, be thankful, ok? Have a greatful heart and appreciate the gift. Just look at it that way, instead of thinking all the negative stuff. Just something to think about.

nala1

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Msg: 48 (view)

What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 12/10/2005 10:52:54 PM
True love, here is a point for your friend. Suicide over a broken heart? Suicide over anything? It should never happen. Every life has a purpose and everyone a reason for being on this planet. Every thing we do affects the lives of others. If you take that away, the life you were meant to be beneficial to in this world may not survive if you take away the chance of your influence. It may be a family member, friend, or someone you may even have not met yet, but you are here for a reason, and never should take the place of God or fate and try to take control of your own destiny. Hope some of these tips do the trick- good luck with your friend, and I pray you are successful.

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 89 (view)

Why are there so many single Leo's? Posted: 12/10/2005 10:13:53 PM
Hey Kevin, I have a science degree, but I also know there are more things that can be proved scientifically going on than plain old science in the universe. Ever heard of metaphysics? There is nothing new under the sun, said King Solomon, and that goes for the knowledge of the universe as well. There is a scientific tangent between the planetary shifts and the earth and universe. Just so you know- guess it's that Leo scientific mind at work again! By the way, if you do not believe in moon phases having an effect on personality, you have never worked in an emergency room! Ask anyone who has, they will tell you they believe!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 113 (view)

Is there a good reason not to date someone who is bipolar? Posted: 12/10/2005 10:08:08 PM
Rob, good to hear that you have sought treatment and it seems to be working for you. I am sure the two of you can work out almost anything with your positive attitude! Good luck and thanks for your input!

nala1

Joined: 10/6/2005

Msg: 21 (view)

If No Spark on first date, is that a No GO sign? Posted: 12/10/2005 10:03:14 PM
Always good to see your posts, laverboy! Personally, I have never gotten past date #3, so I would have to say if I get to date #4, and there is a spark by then, then it's a go for sure. There is sometimes no spark at first, but as some have already said, people can grow on you and even an average looking person to you can become wonderfully attractive as you explore their personalities. If it is there right away, so much the better, but if not at least give it another chance or two, then if it is not there, politely excuse yourself from the relationship and get out your fishing gear again.

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