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procolharem

Joined: 8/29/2008

Msg: 18 (view)

Here's my situation Posted: 11/23/2009 12:48:05 PM
When she came to his apartment he didn't sleep with her then. He is a massage therapist and was with a client at the time. It was just seeing her and her being so upset about the breakup still that bothered him. Um...he slept with her. He's LYING in a big way to you sweetie. He said he didn't want her to be hurt, and him getting back with me would devastate her. But it was OK to hurt YOU?????

procolharem

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Here's my situation Posted: 11/23/2009 12:37:09 PM
^^ EXCEPT that they tried for two months then HE went back to his girlfriend again. OP...REally...It's time to let it go. Then 2 weeks ago, little did I know that his girlfriend came to see him at his apartment. I didn't know that he had seen her, and then he called me to tell me he wasn't coming home again (it was the 4th night in a row) and I was a little upset because he had told me he would.

procolharem

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Here's my situation Posted: 11/23/2009 12:14:50 PM
Oh sweetie...PLease don't go back to him again. How many chances are too many. You already gave him another chance. Please re-read this: Then 2 weeks ago, little did I know that his girlfriend came to see him at his apartment. I didn't know that he had seen her, and then he called me to tell me he wasn't coming home again (it was the 4th night in a row) and I was a little upset because he had told me he would. I asked him to please come home. This got him very upset, thinking I was trying to control him and that combined with the upset of seeing his gf again, well, he blew up at me and moved out. I begged him that night to not make a decision in anger, and even the next day I told him I wanted him to stay. He said no. That's all the information you really need. Enough already... YOU tried...HE did not.

procolharem

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Msg: 18 (view)

Should I date the friend?? Posted: 11/23/2009 11:26:37 AM
I am I just being naive?? Doesn't matter...you're not listening anyway.

procolharem

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Should I date the friend?? Posted: 11/23/2009 11:13:20 AM
Yes OP. There's no future with the bouncer or his friend. Unless you just want to be a fvck buddy to him and all his friends then you're good to go.

procolharem

Joined: 8/29/2008

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What is with guys? Posted: 11/23/2009 8:56:21 AM
Thread search OP. Awww...you get stuck on a date with a bald man? Poor kid. Please also search: Why do guys wear shades Why do guys take pics with their cars Why do guys take pics fishing Why do guys take pics with bikes Why do guys not have pics? The answer is because we can.

procolharem

Joined: 8/29/2008

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Would you cheat on SO for alot of money? Posted: 11/23/2009 8:48:06 AM
Check her bank account dude.

procolharem

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wanting to date a tranny anybody have some good advive for me? Posted: 11/23/2009 8:43:56 AM
Check out the "Ask a Tranny" forum. It's located somewhere in between the "Ask a Guy" and "Ask a Girl" forums. Ps: why was this given new life after 5 years?

procolharem

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Msg: 40 (view)

Men and self esteem Posted: 11/20/2009 12:01:27 PM
Most people (particularily other women) would look at those types of woman as having HUGE self-esteem issues for loving an overweight, bumbling, un-selfsufficient man. I can here the many fora women now: Listens "Throw him to the curb.. where's your self esteem, why are you being his doormat?" Or admire the women for loving them despite that. I never said they weren't loving husbands. I never said they didn't deserve the love of a good woman. I just find it odd that you think that just because the guys are not models or handsome that it indicates that the woman have self esteem issues. WTF. If ANYTHING it means that these women are confident enough in themselves NOT to feel the need to ONLY be with someone as handsome or "pretty" as they are.

procolharem

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Is this a sure fire way to get rid of someone? Posted: 11/20/2009 11:13:16 AM
^^^Yup...I recall that thread or just a case of double deja vu?

procolharem

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Men and self esteem Posted: 11/20/2009 11:06:33 AM
^^^Well, true, but in those cases the husband is a bumbling fool while the wife is the strong one keeping the family together and fixing all of her husbands stupid mistakes. I suppose it depends on your point of view.

procolharem

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Men and self esteem Posted: 11/20/2009 8:52:57 AM
^^^I don't see how this affects a childs self esteem. I'm glad my children are learning about those things since they do have friends in school with two mommies or two daddies. Has not impacted their self esteem one iota. Anyway OP, Men do. Not all, but then not all women do. six-pack abs great hair money They could take a nice bite out of a guys self esteem I do applaud the Dove commercials!

procolharem

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tell my heart to let go Posted: 11/20/2009 8:44:59 AM
It's not in your heart...it's in your head. Just know there that you did the right thing for you.

procolharem

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Best way to turn a guy down? Posted: 11/20/2009 4:07:21 AM
OP...I like that answer. If you do a thread search you will find a number of them where women will complain that men NEED to carefully craft an initial message geared towards the person of interest’s profile. We need to READ it...We need to take time and write a great first contact message. If we do that, then it seems only fair to at least get a reply back no? You show much more maturity and kindness than some of your older counterparts. Your reply is direct, but sweet.

procolharem

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The first meeting Posted: 11/19/2009 12:07:04 PM
Wow...what a very odd set of rules. Go cheap Don't talk Get her drunk Um...yeah...sounds like fun.

procolharem

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Msg: 28 (view)

Is it worthwhile to date here? Posted: 11/19/2009 11:58:46 AM
Sure it is. If you can get past all of the bitterness and hostility.

procolharem

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Sex on a First Date - Does it Kill a Potential Relationship? Posted: 11/19/2009 10:35:01 AM
Shrug, But I'd sure like to find out!!!

procolharem

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Do ANY Men Read Profiles (First or at all?) Posted: 11/19/2009 7:17:51 AM
^^^ACK!!! STOP THE MADNESS!!!! Not ALL men do that.

procolharem

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Do ANY Men Read Profiles (First or at all?) Posted: 11/19/2009 4:16:45 AM
Eh...some profiles are just WAY TOO LONG. I don't need to read every single detail of a persons life. Every single like or dislike or expectation. I'd rather talk about things in person, but I recall an earlier thread of yours, nappy. Do men who find you appealing really need to know how you prefer to wear your hair? It's also not a gender issue. I get messages often and sometimes it's not until a week later that they notice I'm separated and break contact. I'm very clear about my status. I'm just sayin'

procolharem

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Would you message someone if you knew they weren't going to respond? Posted: 11/18/2009 5:19:17 AM
Sure I have and no, they did not reply back, but who cares.

procolharem

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Honesty in Dating Posted: 11/17/2009 12:20:27 PM
Only tell if asked. Casual dating implies dating others. Exclusivity implies...well...exclusivity. How old are you? Additionally, if you knew that someone you were dating was dating others would that prevent you from wanting more with them? It's entirely up to those involved.

procolharem

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Why would a guy you had fun with turn off? Posted: 11/17/2009 12:15:07 PM
the guy said I was moving too fast but he wanted to have sex. You're nothing more than a vagina to him. It is your call...he'll keep telling you he likes you and wants a relationship as long as there's hope you'll sleep with him.

procolharem

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Breaking a Date...By Text Message Posted: 11/17/2009 12:06:29 PM
What's the difference between that and a phone call? Lots of times people don't bother to show without informing the other. At least he tried...

procolharem

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dumped on facebook Posted: 11/17/2009 11:56:44 AM
I have a friend who tried to break up with his girlfriend three times. Each time she cried hysterically and he was guilted into trying to work things out. Eventually he had to write a letter. A woman's tears are very powerful and can bring a grown man down in seconds. Sometimes letters or texting are the best avenue.

procolharem

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I have zero experience with older men. Posted: 11/17/2009 11:44:24 AM
Hmm...it's not just an AGE thing. It's also an attraction thing. If I'm not attracted to her mentally, emotionally and sexually, a bottle of Viagra won't help. But there are women who...just the thought of them gets me ready in seconds. Until you reach that point with this guy OP, it's all just wasted energy and over thinking something that may not even be an issue.

procolharem

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Just Curious Posted: 11/17/2009 11:35:38 AM
A woman can approach me ANY TIME. I love it. Did I mention ANY TIME? Like NOW...or even later. I don't care. Men have had to crawl away and die hundreds of times OP. Guess what? WE LIVED!

procolharem

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My best friend is gay Posted: 11/17/2009 9:03:46 AM
Um...why does it matter?

procolharem

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I have zero experience with older men. Posted: 11/17/2009 8:59:10 AM
Hmmm...I read the OP twice, but still I'm not quite certain what the issue is.

procolharem

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Is it a lie if a guy says he is scared? Posted: 11/16/2009 11:48:36 AM
^^^Agreed...Geeez. I think that guy you're seeing should bolt asap. YIKES!

procolharem

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What are guys thinking? Posted: 11/16/2009 9:32:02 AM
Sometimes those things just need to breathe a little you know?

procolharem

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Is dating a 22 year old virgin male OK? Posted: 11/16/2009 9:07:14 AM
Don't mention it until after you've had sex. There won't be a NEED to mention it after sex since he'll no longer be a virgin. Besides, if her really is one it'll be obvious. OR this is a feeble attempt to find women to de-virgin him? I mean...men have used this ploy before right???

procolharem

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She doesn't know about his other dating profile Posted: 11/14/2009 4:55:00 PM
^^^ Um...recall that YOU messaged ME first and you're messages were not nice. I explained my rationale. You asked for opinions, but did not like mine. You only liked those which agreed with yours and were hostile to those in disagreement. I think your posts here speak volumes about you as a person. Buit please continue to call me more names in private messages. I've not blocked you and will defend my opinion.

procolharem

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She doesn't know about his other dating profile Posted: 11/14/2009 8:47:14 AM
^^^^That's just honesty. You may not want to hear it and don't agree with it, but it's not mean spirited. It's blunt, but it's true.

procolharem

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Are there women/men who wait as long as 6 mos. before sex? Posted: 11/12/2009 9:58:59 AM
I've been waiting almost 8 years. I can do 6 months standing on my freakin' head!

procolharem

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She doesn't know about his other dating profile Posted: 11/12/2009 9:28:49 AM
but I'll save that for another post. Yes, I'm sure there'll be more to come. Obsession does not die slowly.

procolharem

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Cinderella..But.wheres my prince Posted: 11/12/2009 9:19:41 AM
Well...Since we don't know you, all we have to go on is what you wrote. [In regards to me saying that I am an independent woman and don't need a man to validate me what wrong with that? I never said wrong. I said it was harsh. Some men are honestly not drawn to the "I don't need a man" mentality. That has NOTHING to do with being confident. It just feels angry and if that comes across on a date, well then there won't be a second one.

procolharem

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38 and thinking its too late Posted: 11/12/2009 9:06:26 AM
My thoughts are that you need to STOP YOUR WHINING!

procolharem

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She doesn't know about his other dating profile Posted: 11/12/2009 9:02:50 AM
Hmmm...The more posts I read by the OP, the more I think she's not being completely honest with us. Well THAT and her eagerness to only agree with WWTW. There's a certain bitterness that is there, but not obvious right now. Leave them alone OP.

procolharem

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Cinderella..But.wheres my prince Posted: 11/12/2009 8:57:40 AM
I am an independant, self sufficient person. I do not need a man to validate me. Hmmm...sounds a bit harsh. Also, you're no princess and the men are not princes. Maybe that's part of the issue?

procolharem

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Sending RL Guys to Online Profile Posted: 11/12/2009 4:49:45 AM
Um...My impression would be that the person was too freakin' lazy or not interested enough to hold a conversation. "You're nice, but I don't want to talk to you so please read my online profile instead" WTF? Really? WTF?

procolharem

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i wanna know what you think of this?? Posted: 11/11/2009 8:33:48 AM
^^^Agreed I'd certainly not waste another minute with her.

procolharem

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Confront or Ignore Posted: 11/11/2009 8:29:58 AM
Geeez OP! LET IT FREAKIN' GO! What's the point? Why do you care? You're acting like a freakin' lunatic.

procolharem

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Msg: 18 (view)

Chemistry/Attraction Posted: 11/9/2009 12:51:00 PM
Not all chemistry is immediate. Some can be. Other reactions require time, a catalyst, and maybe some heat. The vast majority of my relationships took time to develop that chemistry. The one "instant chemistry" relationship I had was very hot and intense, but burned out after a month.

procolharem

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if they say you're down to earth Posted: 11/6/2009 8:58:59 AM
Why do people feel the need to over think EVERYTHING??? Would you have preferred...You're one sexy B*tch!

procolharem

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is it wrong to want revenge?? Posted: 11/4/2009 9:12:10 AM
SO I broke up with my boyfriend about 6 weeks ago after I found out he was cheating on me... And apparently you immediately joined POF. I'm guessing you were all "that hurt" anyway, except for a bruised ego perhaps.. Revenge is pointless.

procolharem

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Lost in Translation Posted: 10/26/2009 9:20:37 AM
If you have any way of contacting her again you need to take that opportunity to explain. Don't stalk, but don't give up right now either.

procolharem

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If the Bee Gee's can't figure it out, there's no hope! Posted: 10/22/2009 9:23:19 AM
Sometimes goodbye is a second chance.

procolharem

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What places have you broke up with a guy? Posted: 10/22/2009 9:20:37 AM
I'm not a girl, but about 30 years ago my girlfriend broke up with me right after we made love. I was lying in her bed panting. She sat up, said "I can't do this anymore" I said "Are you sure, because in anoth 5 or 10 minutes I'll..." Then she interupted me with "We're over."

procolharem

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When to reveal this information Posted: 10/22/2009 9:15:54 AM
Damage is done. A quick thread search about you will reveal this information.

procolharem

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im in love with a guy should i tell him Posted: 10/22/2009 9:14:02 AM
I'm sure he knows how much you love him. I mean nothing says I love you like sleeping with someone else while he was away.

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