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aceman97022

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What is he really trying to tell me? Posted: 3/4/2009 1:13:25 PM
Q: "Is he saying lets just remain friends w/ benefits or what? " A: YuP! (Hard to back pedal the 'promiscuous' part now that the deed has been done).

aceman97022

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Do all Men Want a thins or small waisted girl? Posted: 3/3/2009 10:46:20 AM
With so many people in the world, chances are that somewhere whatever you are looking for- there is someone out there looking someone just like you! So, how do you find em? Where do they keep the guys you're into? Thin / athletic guys prolly go to the gym. Get a gym membership, chances are if you are near enough of us (Men), one of us will be interested. Guys with regular gym memberships are usually in shape and go often. You can always aproach one with a simple,'can you show me how to use this machine... and that one... and...' (so you're saying you wanna be Mrs. Sprat) GooD LucK

aceman97022

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New at this whole thing... Posted: 3/3/2009 10:33:22 AM
Who knows? Maybe he wasn't that into you and thought saying that would spare your feelings. Maybe he is pining for his ex, but she as moved on and he is just lonesome and looking for someone to rebound with. Maybe he has no idea what he is doing. Does it really matter? Just move on, there's 'plenty of fish'. Don't get hung up on him.

aceman97022

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Visitation Posted: 3/3/2009 10:07:43 AM
Your child is 7 months old? I could understand scheduling issues or rather the child's needs for a regular schedule more if she were an older child. Your ex has a night job and likes to sleep in the mornings, which is when you'd like him to watch her, though he does watch her when you ae in school- Maybe you are confusing visitation with childcare or babysitter needs. If you have court appointed child support, you should have a case worker to make a schedule instead. Basically as a impartial mediator whose unbiased.

aceman97022

Joined: 10/8/2005

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Would you donate an organ? Posted: 3/3/2009 9:53:10 AM
i would do just about anything to get a day off!

aceman97022

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Why do the men have IM and not answer them? Posted: 2/11/2009 2:36:02 PM
i usually have this site in the background with like 5 other web pages- so it appears to someone seeing an IM available icon i am not even looking at that page. also, i use an aircard for internet on my laptop resulting in poor IM connection. TECH SUPPORT!! lol just regular message your tergeted beau if he doesn't answer the IM. he might be in the restroom, making a motion in front of the jury or transplanting a heart.

aceman97022

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why he keeps on txt messaging but doesn't call? Posted: 2/11/2009 2:24:10 PM
maybe he is busy. maybe he is thirteen. maybe he is at work. maybe he is married. maybe he is avoiding a long awkward conversation. maybe he is texting only during commercial breaks. maybe he is hard of hearing. WHAT? i said maybe he is hard of hearing. i would ask him directly.

aceman97022

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Divorce questions in Oregon Posted: 2/10/2009 11:19:35 AM
My son's mom has him every other friday evening to sunday evening- basically 4 days a month and i have him the rest of the time. but i think it's case by case. if you can come to some agreement parent to parent i think the state usually will honor that unless they have a child's welfare issue.

aceman97022

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When you get Phone No. From Girl in how many days you should contact? Posted: 2/3/2009 3:47:25 PM
Q: When you meet the girl anywhere and you exchange phone# in how many days you should call that girl? A: I would one day and call her that next evening at a reasonable hour. Q: If girl takes your phone# and doesn't call you then what you should think? A: She was really not interested 90%, or may have a bad number / lost number 10%. Q: If you call the girl and keep your phone# on her message and if she doesn't call then what to think? A: Same answer as last question except ratio is now 95% not interested and 5% technical problems.

aceman97022

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Obama Posted: 1/23/2009 10:45:00 PM
I usually take the conservative on most issues. But I like Obama. I like Obama and not because of color of his skin. Not because of his height, weight, or what he orders for breakfast. I like that he wants to shake it up in Washington. I like that he is for getting our troops out of Iraq at some point rather than never. The 'change' Obama brings as far as race is clear in one respect, a lot more americans voted this go around. chance? maybe. but when the 'new' voter's demographics were primarily minorities and the younger voters o get that old Hulk Hogan song in my head... 'I am a real Amerrrrrican'. I don't know for sure what other people are thinking, but I bet alot of people other than Wasps are saying 'ABOUT TIME'. PS- I also like that if I buy an Obama 20 ounce coffee mug (with coffee) at Seven Eleven with two omelet tostidas I only have to pay $1.99.

aceman97022

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I am LEAVING because Posted: 1/23/2009 10:28:22 PM
that is too bad. i assume the staff for this site, being a free site is probably quite limited. I would think they would consider this as a serious issue but would probably have to investigate it first before just taking your word for it. I would suggest to be patient and give them a chance, but you sound as though you already have your mind made up. good luck.

aceman97022

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Do people actually meet on this site??? Posted: 1/21/2009 4:04:41 PM
i would like to comment on Mc's comment '...Typically I have come to notice that the ones that generally have no problems meeting are the ones (men AND women) are the average to good looking ones. ...' i am a below average looker, with horrible social skills, and we they look even closer beyond the grimy exterior, they will find an uglier grimier interior. These set backs have not slowed me down one bit (i was gonna say ioda, but not sure if that is correct spelling and am too lazy to look it up). There are some cool features, ie the people who haven't rcv'd an email, that will help you pick someone to talk to. this is cyber space so you have to message them. I only msg ppl that have viewed me. that is my lead in. but since 2005 i found a date whenever i wanted one; i quit this site for 3 years when i was married; and though i haven't made a date since i came back- i have enough ppl i have been talking to to get a date when i am ready. sum up 'GO FOR IT!' don't wait for someone to msg you, msg them- then don't bother them anymore, you stalker, til they msg you back.

aceman97022

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Do people actually meet on this site??? Posted: 1/21/2009 3:41:40 PM
yes they do, i went all the way with the girl i met here. dating, marriage and divorce. ALL THE WAY! (and 3 years later- ding, end of the line 'no date for you!'

aceman97022

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Living with someone you have feelings for as just roomates. Posted: 1/21/2009 11:15:33 AM
Pro: You save on electric bill due to cold showers.

aceman97022

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THE ILLUSORY SELF (please read) Posted: 1/20/2009 4:12:03 PM
'I' is very very important, so I am in total disagreement! without 'I' how would we know which Back to the Future to watch first.... and then second and so on? and we would sound so stupid. for example at a store: Clerk: How may me help you? Customer: Um.. yeah... do you have any really large garbage bags, a shovel, some lime and a roll or two of duct tape? Clerk: Me not sure, but Me find out. Me here to help. Customer: Nevermind, you're a dumbass, I am going to Lowe's!

aceman97022

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To all those out there going through a rough time or a full on downward spiral.... Posted: 1/20/2009 4:04:37 PM
very good, i like it alot.

aceman97022

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sent mail Posted: 1/19/2009 1:17:22 PM
i doubt it.

aceman97267

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What the hell is he thinking Posted: 1/17/2009 4:49:18 PM
sorry, i got losted somewhere in my 30th or 31st minute of trying to decipher this. i would really like to voice opinion as soon as i have sorted it all out..... .... day 431- have given up on reading/ must await book on tape.... ah Morgan Freeman.... 'so along came these boneheads, oh yes, solid bone, like granite- i remember a time when i was a lad...'

aceman97267

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ladies our you getting the respect you deserve Posted: 1/17/2009 4:32:20 PM
this appears to be a look at me, i am better than the next guy post. i am going to go make an avoid me, i am FAR FAR worse than any other guy post! (they will be drawn to it like moths to a flame with my proper use of words like 'are vs. our') as far as sexual words, sexual adjectives, sexual adverbs, use of a female pro-noun or lack there of- is always going to get 'the wrong' attention. the risque-ess-er of it will just pile on more attention!

aceman97022

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what direction should i take this? Posted: 1/15/2009 4:29:14 PM
i agree with #2 post. once you have met. PoF should no longer be where you guys are chatting. Maybe if you are both on PoF after meeting you are both 'still looking'

aceman97022

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Celebrating Birthdays Posted: 1/15/2009 1:32:41 PM
it just had better not fall on Monday Night Football, nor any of the Fight Nights, nor Poker Night with the guys... .... what? sorry, hun, espn is covering something that night too! Unless you have told me crystal clearly when your birthday is and precisely what you want, you'll prolly be utterly disappointed. i think most guys are like me and we have NO FRIGGIN IDEA what we are doing! a birthday date, gift, even the friggin card at only six months... too much? too little? too domestic?, too defined relationshippy?, OMG possibilities: perfume Q: you think i stink? clothes Q: you think i am fat / a stick?, jewelry Q: how would you like to be plated?

aceman97022

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Double standards Posted: 1/15/2009 1:11:57 PM
Before you can lead in with 'double standard' we have to decide what is standard. is the standard that moms care more, do more and put themselves before their children more? we are generally speaking of course. i think kids really need their moms. they need their dads too, but i think dads are a distant 2nd. legally, a person is a person and in a perfect world it should not matter the gender of the parent. but it's not a perfect world, is it? in a perfect world i would think the custodial parent, all things being equal, should be the one with other kids. siblings should stay together. as far as my opinion- this is a perfect forum for me today: i am a single dad with a 9 yr old son. he has been sick for the last two days. i cleaned up the messes, gave him medicine, checked his temperature, told him i loved him and he was gonna be okay; everything i can think of. he has been miserable for the last two nights. though he has been sick during the day too, his days are far less miserable in his daycare. the two day care providers (both women) are much much better at making him feel better than i am. and i am really trying. women just have that special ability to nuture. maybe it is a cultural thing (we start out with gender specific education as soon as they put the blue or pink baby bonnett on in the hospital), i don't know, but it works. though i am a single dad, and could not imagine my life without my son, if all things are equal, i would always keep kids with their mom over the dad.

aceman97022

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who recovers faster after a breakup men or women? Posted: 1/13/2009 1:01:47 PM
OpInIoN ALeRT!! I think who ever broke up the relationship is most likely to get over it first and move on. Unless they immediately regret it and wanna take it back! Damn you voicemail break up, Damn you!!

aceman97022

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Bluegrass Festival Posted: 1/12/2009 4:14:26 PM
I think they sell that Psychograss around the corner of the Venue in small baggies. Glaucoma, kaw kaw, Glaucoma!

aceman97022

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Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE? Posted: 1/12/2009 3:54:17 PM
Don't hate the psychos, hate the psycho-therapists! Psychos have some advantages: They are committed (in more ways than one) If you are ever out real late at night and wonder what time it is, just turn to the one bush 100 yards off behind you to the right with the binoculars glimmering and tap your wrist twice indicating the time and they will contact you immediately with the regional time and the time in five other major cities. You can save money when talking to them on your cell phone since all their calls will be incoming on your end. They are such good listeners. While you're sleeping they will put all that you told them in their journal. You don't have too worry about your pictures with Psychos. They have already made a picture out of you from parts out of old newspapers and magazines. Talk about an open relationship! You can date any other guy you want (once, then they disappear, strangely)... and the Psycho will still LoVe YoU!

aceman97022

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The before the first date rules on communicating Posted: 1/12/2009 12:57:12 PM
Original Poster, I apologize on the behalf of all that have replied that have attacked, or were at the very least too aggressive on this forum. In my experience, there is always a couple of comments that are always attacking the original poster regardless of the subject or what they said. (Just how some ppl get their kicks). As far as the guy calling so many times before the date- that is a good thing for you that you found out the portion of his behavior before it went any further. It's cool to get different peoples takes, opinions, on subjects- but try to ignore any that are simply trying to get a rise out of you. ;)

aceman97022

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and then the fight started Posted: 1/10/2009 9:29:58 AM
I think I have seen your wife's profile on here, 'married but unhappy', just kidding! very funny jokes! but do not be surprised if the husband bashing jokes come out in retaliation.

aceman97022

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Emails Posted: 1/10/2009 9:25:02 AM
not in my experience. easy copy and paste. i don't do it alot but it has worked for me. HoweveR, if you are using VistA, please note VistA is horrible!

aceman97022

Joined: 10/8/2005

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What do you do? Posted: 1/10/2009 9:22:13 AM
Give a person enough rope and they will hang themselves. It hurts for someone to tell lies about you, but lies always have a way of exposing themselves. I would ignore it.

aceman97022

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The before the first date rules on communicating Posted: 1/10/2009 9:00:19 AM
are you sure this was to be a date- not an audit? He sounds like a creditor. looks up Pragmatic prag·mat·ic [prag máttik] adjective 1. concerned with practical results: more concerned with practical results than with theories and principles 2. philosophy relating to philosophical pragmatism: relating to or characteristic of philosophical pragmatism 3. linguistics relating to pragmatics: relating or belonging to pragmatics 4. learning lessons from history: relating to or analyzing the events of history with emphasis on the lessons that can be learned from them 5. politics political: relating to affairs of state (formal) NOPE, you NOT being too [prag máttik] I think the guy is on here due to lack of confidence. His confidence issues caused him to kill any possibility of going out with you. Hopefully, for his sake, he has learned something and will be less 'stalker-like' in the future.

aceman97022

Joined: 10/8/2005

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I need a guy perception in this please.... Posted: 1/10/2009 8:38:23 AM
Julia, you nailed it right there in your last paragraph! He is playing a game. When he made plans with you and then didn't show up- your date was the runner up! He had made plans with someone else and you were his contigency plan. *I suggest that you look back on all those emails you got and make sure they were personalized to you. Make sure he isn't copy and pasting the same thing to everyone. I am sorry, you deserve better, everyone does, but to me- it seems as though he is trying to get several booty calls from the site. I hope I am wrong, and do not want to offend. I don't really think this site targets the opposite sex for 'friends only'.

aceman97022

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How do you know a guy is into you? Posted: 1/10/2009 8:30:26 AM
You can tell a guy is into you when he starts to introduce you to the people in his life. Phone calls, emails, the words 'i love you', dinner dates and movies are not as reliable. When he asks you to meet his family, friends (real friends-not bar friends) and mechanic THEN.... he is into you like the water and high fructose corn syrup are in my cool blue gatorade! (there's alot)

aceman97022

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do guys mean it when they say i love you? Posted: 1/9/2009 4:14:53 PM
the definite, complete and most reliable answer (drum roll): M a Y B E i like the Army of Darkness quote: It was smart, S-smart!

aceman97022

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Getting even or holding a grudge... which would you do? Posted: 1/9/2009 3:52:51 PM
the best revenge is living well. when you do something hurtful back, you have become the same as them. down the road you would regret it and would not be able to take it back. turn the other cheek, but keep both eyes open. i agree with helen 1967

aceman97022

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No guys respond to my emails............. Posted: 1/9/2009 3:39:44 PM
well, i took a look, i viewed and read your profile. You seem attractive and together. You seem nice on there. only thing i would re-consider is on the bottom where it says: Male Age between 25 and 40 Live in United States Live within 75 miles. Must not be looking for Other Relationship Must not be looking for Friendship Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter Must not be looking for Activity Partner Must not be married you may reconsider the Friendship or Activity partner even though your profile is geared to a long term relationship. (because friendship and activities could lead to a LTR). don't be afraid to seek out a guy, even just to say hello. good luck ;)

aceman97022

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EX Gf wants all the photographs....what do I do? Posted: 1/9/2009 3:30:30 PM
that's simple... make copies of what you wanna keep, and give her all she wants... and if we are talking dirty pictures, destroy em!

aceman97022

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Why I never meet anyone without a picture.... Posted: 1/9/2009 3:26:30 PM
If you were blind, you may have met the love of your life... maybe with a nose job the guy's look could have improved... Burger King is a fast food joint, but i think it is still classified as a restuarant. It's not like he said he drove a Rolls and showed up in a Pinto. I know, it is what it is, but I kind of feel bad for that guy, flipping burgers, getting fries out of the fryer, teary eyed, grabbing a toy for the mighty kids meal wondering if you didn't show up at all, or if youhad and bailed due to his big nose or lousy job. it is hard to work in those big glasses full of tears. Chinless guy, if you're out there- DON'T GIVE UP! someone will love you, maybe not this lady, but someone! Keep flipping them burgers and thank god you still have a job. Someone will see you have a kind soul... they'll hear your voice at the drive thru or in the lobby when you yell out 'NUMBER 33!'.... number 33, man, number 33.... .... so sad.... i feel bad now... (there has gotta be an otherwise cute lady out there with a huge chin and the kissing would be perfect)

aceman97022

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Do women in Oregon ever mail first Posted: 1/9/2009 12:18:11 PM
Yes they do. I don't have exact percentages but in my experiences most of the women I have chatted with here contacted me first. And, there is nothing special about me nor my profile. Just got to give it some time, let em brouse. Imagine women shopping for shoes. They can go in for one pair and be there for hours. HOURS! really! and we men- we are almost as important as shoes.

aceman97022

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picture updates Posted: 1/9/2009 12:11:54 PM
You can prolly ask anyone anything you want. And they can respond or not respond however they want. If they are interested in you one would think that a recent photo would not be too much to ask for. However, to ask for a recent photo with today's paper with date easily displayed may be a problem.

aceman97022

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Bluegrass Festival Posted: 1/9/2009 11:27:23 AM
All the hipsters in rip city go to Buffalo Exchange! and Kbodley- my mistake- i thought Bluegrass Festival was a waterfront open air thing- i may have it confused with one of the spring flings. i reserve the right to be dumb.

aceman97022

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Would you let someone you met on POF read all your messages to other people? Posted: 1/9/2009 6:52:01 AM
er.... StoP da BuS!!! NO! That is NOT their business! I propose that is kind of like getting married at 36 and your new spouse wanting to read cards and letters from a girlfriend you had at 21.... ...almost a 'how dare you have ever considered anyone but me before ya knew me' CautioN: the fact that this person has even asked for this means that she (assumed pronoun) may have boundary issues.

aceman97022

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Does anyone else here pay attention to the backgrounds of the profile pics? Posted: 1/8/2009 4:53:55 PM
the background is what i look for first. i saw one with a girl where she had taken a self portrait looking down on herself. over her left shoulder clearly in the toilet there was something resembling a babe ruth bar floating.

aceman97022

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Should I send a sencond email Posted: 1/8/2009 4:43:41 PM
she is awaiting that second email- she knows you're not seriously interested until you have sent 10 unanswered emails! show her you and you alone are committed to what the two of you might later have! jk- no, don't send a second email unless she responds.

aceman97022

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Bachelor food Posted: 1/8/2009 4:32:08 PM
i like tuna with rice and a taco seasoning packet- upon occassion of no other food in house, the kid and i have also had mustard sandwhichs. or a can of tuna in a swanson's mac n cheese. how about polish saugage wrapped in two tortillas or two pieces of crust less bread amounting into a poor man weiner wrap. (that's right, i said weiner wrap) if you get the salisbury steaks and tater tots, mush up the tater tots into make shift mashed potatoes and use gravy from salisbury steaks. anything with a can of corn added is a cassarole. i have trained my son to eat sandwhichs made out of anything and at em over the sink as to not dirty up the dishes. i hope i have helped.

aceman97022

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Bluegrass Festival Posted: 1/8/2009 3:37:24 PM
Portland almost always schedules waterfront activities poorly. I cannot remember a single rose festival where it wasn't sunny and clear two weeks after! but bluegrass festival, wear raingear, bring ID and hit the Beer tenT, all will be well! ;)

aceman97022

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Your Favorite Music Lyrics Posted: 1/8/2009 3:22:42 PM
SnooP DoGG 'Wheels on the Bus' remix circuit Da FuTuRe 'Da whizzles on Buzzle go- rouzzle rouzzle' 'rouzzle rouzzle' 'rouzzle rouzzle' 'Da whizzles on Buzzle go- rouzzle rouzzle' 'Erruzzle in da Mornuzzle' NoW PaY Me- bag o green would be fine!

aceman97022

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Bluegrass Festival Posted: 1/8/2009 3:10:17 PM
sandals or barefeet are required i think. work boots are okay too- or with recent weather hip waders

aceman97022

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What does it mean? Posted: 1/8/2009 2:49:50 PM
W a R N i N G- O P i N i O N O N L Y maybe he wants you and is afraid to get shot down. OR maybe he wants you and is afraid whether you two hook up or not- if it is presented, it would change the dynamitc of your current relationship. i think he wants you.

aceman97022

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Would you have sex with someone for the first time if they were wearing dirty underwear? Posted: 1/8/2009 2:28:01 PM
there is an old saying 'you shouldn't air another's dirty laundry' and in this case the saying should be taken literally.

aceman97022

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Texting Posted: 1/8/2009 1:32:34 PM
getting a text is cool, reading a text is cool, responding in text- not so cool little phone with little phone buttons meet big hands with ten big thumbs

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