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Mostly_Angel

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What's your most alluring feature [CLOSED Thread] Posted: 12/6/2008 3:00:36 PM
OK, POF can now detect your most alluring feature ...but they ain't telling what it is. What do you think your most alluring feature is? Check the person above you, did they get theirs right? If not, what is their most alluring feature? Surely, humans have got to be better at this than a computer. I think my most alluring feature is that I'm a bit of a mix. I'm a good girl at heart with a dash of mischief thrown in. Next? NO WORD GAMES or ATTENTION SEEKING THREADS Read the Posted Rules Acceptable Use & Posting Rules and Forum Posting Guidelines Thread Closed

Mostly_Angel

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People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/6/2008 1:52:54 PM
Ummm, try the profile review threads on that one.. OMG, this is too funny. One of the guys that I was to meet did a postpone and no reschedule. He now shows up as somebody that thinks I'm HOT. Ummmm, I kinda thought he was "not that into me" after all. I'm guessing I'm smarter than the computer on this one.

Mostly_Angel

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People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/6/2008 1:15:40 PM
Mostly mismatched on career, education, and intelligence level. I'm not going to comment on the guys that have contacted me other than some good, some not so good. None of them were rude to me, so no need to bash them in a public forum. There is one that sometimes shows up that I'm extremely interested in, but he's always near the bottom. My page changes quite a bit, mostly the same guys but a few that rotate in and out. I'm trying to reverse engineer it. I think it could eventually develop into a good feature, but needs some refining. I'd like to know what POF thinks my "most alluring" quality is.

Mostly_Angel

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A potential partner with Alcohol issues.. is it worth the pain Posted: 11/22/2008 7:58:12 PM
Unless you have been there, you cannot imagine the pain of being involved with any kind of addict. The damage to your self image can take YEARS to heal, hell decades really. It's hard to move forward in your career because the burdens of the relationship drain all your energy. And any children of the relationship will surely suffer and are likely to repeat the same cycle. Is it worth the pain. Easy question, one word answer. NO!

Mostly_Angel

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 11/15/2008 8:28:40 AM
I guess I still put up walls sometimes, I'll do things without thinking that scare off potential matches. Of course, I only do that with people that I'm interested in, way to shoot myself in the foot, huh? I don't even think it's fear any more, it's more like a bad habit I acquired when I didn't want to let anyone in because I needed time to heal. Now that I'm aware of it, I can stop. I'm glad I came across this thread, because that's what gave me the insight I needed.

Mostly_Angel

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 11/9/2008 4:31:13 PM
Never, never settle, just keep fishin'

Mostly_Angel

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 10/30/2008 2:30:53 PM
Thass OK parrothead, cuz we're not lookin' for negative people that don't fathom us anyway. Yeah, I understand what you're saying-some people seem to think there's something wrong w/ya if ya don't NEED to be in a relationship. I think by wanting w/out needing we greatly increase our odds of finding one that works-and I'll take all the help with that I can get lol

Mostly_Angel

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 10/29/2008 8:55:57 PM
Doesn't it feel good to feel better

Mostly_Angel

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 10/29/2008 8:15:01 PM
Going through the cycle is the only way to the other side, it's just not healthy to get stuck or to try to start with someone new before we work out most of our own issues. If we don't at some point take responsibility for the way previous relationships have turned out, we're likely to just keep experiencing the same problems all over again because we are still playing the game of poor little victim. oh, I was soooo good at that game once lol I just don't choose to play anymore.

Mostly_Angel

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 10/29/2008 5:22:11 PM
The lesson I learned was that I was too needy, so I would accept people into my life that really weren't right for me and tried to change them into people that were. The harder lesson was that I wasn't doing them any favors either, they had a right to find someone that loved them just the way they were. So, a lot of my lessons have led back to being OK with who I am alone and not desperately needing to be coupled up. That pretty much explains why I am OK waiting and don't rush into things. I'd like to be in a good relationship again someday, but I don't need that in my life to be happy. I have good friends and family and I can take joy in my life with or without a special man in it.

Mostly_Angel

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Exercise Induced Asthma Posted: 10/29/2008 3:19:15 PM
Lucky thing I always exercise after work! I'm not real energetic in the mornings. Also, I do better outside when it's colder, which makes me wonder if the dust mites aren't more of a trigger than the exercise, anyway I am seeing the doc again in a couple weeks and will have lots to visit with him about! Never a cheap talk, either lol

Mostly_Angel

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 10/26/2008 8:30:54 PM
So true. I would love to find that "right" person, but I'd rather be alone than be with the wrong one. Maybe it's not that we are afraid to let people in, maybe we are just less afraid to be alone?

Mostly_Angel

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Sister Dating a Jerk Posted: 10/26/2008 7:22:21 PM
Yes, I have friends and family members that have done similar things. You can tell her the truth and love her to pieces, but you can't force her to change the situation that she's in.

Mostly_Angel

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Jealous wives and girlfriends. Don`t understand it. Posted: 10/26/2008 5:42:08 PM
What I don't get is this-what do they think their husbands have to offer a single woman? They're not available for any committed relationship and, c'mon, it's not like sex is that hard to find if that's all you're looking for...why would a single person WANT to be with someone else's spouse? I realize it happens, but I think it's a bad deal for the single person...

Mostly_Angel

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Why are we still so affraid to let people in? Posted: 10/26/2008 5:16:25 PM
Hmmm, I don't know that I'm afraid, but I'm cautious about getting too close to people too soon. And it seems like nobody wants to stick around until I'm comfortable getting closer. Which is OK. I've come to the conclusion that it's best to have modest expectations. If we meet and have a nice coffee together, that's good. If a friendship develops, wonderful It would be nice if one of those friendships eventually turned into more, but I'm not holding my breath or wasting my life worrying about it. Sometimes I feel like a slow cooked meal in a fast food world. But, that's OK. I've made some great friends on my journey and I'm enjoying the trip. I wouldn't describe most of the men I've met as jaded, some are more compatible with me then others, but that's just the way the world works. I can't speak for the women you may be meeting...

Mostly_Angel

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Sticky Tape Theory of Relationships -- Ignore It at You're Peril. Posted: 10/25/2008 9:38:05 PM
Actually, I think people get less sticky when they don't learn from previous relationships, don't take the time to look at what really caused the relationship to fail and what they can change about themselves to make the next one happier. IMO, too many people rush from relationship to relationship w/out taking the time to heal and get to know themselves.

Mostly_Angel

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Go from a couch potato to a 5k runner. Posted: 10/25/2008 6:29:55 PM
I think I'll try this program, nice to read all the motivating comments here. I used to jog about 15 miles a week but have been struggling to get going again over the last 2 or 3 years. I tend to overdo, get injured, give up. So this nice and easy approach should help! Lately I'm struggling with exercise induced asthma, so I like the short time frame and low intensity to start. Hopefully, I will breathe easier when the pounds start coming off. I've got my strength training going well again and really need to get the cardio pumped up. And jogging is what I enjoy, so I want to find a way to make it work for me! What a bunch of encouraging people on this thread-thanks.

Mostly_Angel

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What could you do to make your NEXT relationship better that the last one? Posted: 10/24/2008 5:22:17 PM
It's be nice to have the lasting friendship and the romance w/the same person. Doesn't seem like that oughta be so blasted hard!

Mostly_Angel

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Do I IM you? Posted: 10/23/2008 8:21:59 PM
Maybe she IMs about as often as I do...yeah, sure, you can add me to your IM, the last time I used it though was probably a year ago...

Mostly_Angel

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Silences - Comfortable or Awkward? Posted: 10/20/2008 8:09:23 PM
If I'm comfortable with the person, silence is golden. A chance to collect your thoughts and just enjoy being together. I don't like constant chatter!

Mostly_Angel

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Can friends turn into something more? Posted: 10/19/2008 4:56:27 PM
Why not just talk with him and clear the air? Maybe he is interested and doesn't know how you feel. Maybe not, but the only way to really know is to discuss it with him.

Mostly_Angel

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A few questions Posted: 10/19/2008 4:52:05 PM
I agree with whitewaterrogue-the profile isn't coherent. Education is a great thing, take the time to write a profile that shows your intellect. Different people have different opinions as to whether or not good manners require one to reply to unsolicited email. I usually do, but I would be put off by your comments on the subject.

Mostly_Angel

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What could you do to make your NEXT relationship better that the last one? Posted: 10/19/2008 3:49:04 PM
I can accept the person as they are, or not, and forget about trying to fix them. I can take responsibility for my own feelings. I can communicate about issues and not try to avoid confrontation by burying my own feelings. I can remain clear-eyed and refuse to ignore "red flags" that someone may not be the right person for me. I've actually been doing these things for the last few years now and have had some great friendships as a result. Haven't meant "the one" yet, but I sure am enjoying the search.

Mostly_Angel

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Do you feel uncomfortable with a man that is separated Posted: 10/19/2008 11:04:49 AM
I agree w/Dare. I choose not to date separated or newly divorced men. Besides, I did once when I was younger and wound up testifying at the divorce hearing. That was so NOT a good time...

Mostly_Angel

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/17/2008 7:03:39 PM
There are several other reasons people don't want to post their pics. One that comes to mind is they don't want their spouse's single friends to find their pic posted on a dating site...Come to think of it, I did meet someone without a pic one time. Wanna guess how that one turned out? I just remembered why I always follow that rule now! And I'm not feeling a bit shallow about it. Oh, and I consider my job as respectable as anybody else's. Doesn't stop me from putting up a picture.

Mostly_Angel

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/17/2008 4:05:49 PM
Safety issues: I leave a pic of the person I'm meeting in my car/with a friend with a copy of profile information, phone number, etc. - just in case. If you're not recognizable from your pic, forget it. You have already deceived me and I am not interested in meeting you! I already know all I need to know about you, thank you very much. That even applies if you post a pic of Mr. Ugliness and turn out to look like a movie star, although I suspect the reverse is more likely to happen in real life. It's one thing to put your best foot forward, it's another thing to post 10 -20 year old photos.

Mostly_Angel

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Going from Hi to bed?????? Posted: 10/14/2008 2:31:00 PM
The only thing nugget I can offer up is that, if a woman posts a profile on a dating site, she has taken away one HUGE line of defense she can use on the street, which is that she is somehow taken by someone. Isn't that what the line "Just here for the forums" is used for?

Mostly_Angel

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Going from Hi to bed?????? Posted: 10/12/2008 9:30:02 PM
OP, I don't think it's normal and not all the guys I have met online have been like that. Be true to yourself, be safe when you meet, and hopefully you will meet someone that you will be able to relax, get to know and have some fun with. Sometimes you have to meet a few frogs before you find your prince...

Mostly_Angel

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Going from Hi to bed?????? Posted: 10/12/2008 7:58:07 PM
I think that we have to respond with our true feelings and interpretations of what our faith requires of us. I'm definitely a believer that we are saved by faith not by works and as we are led by the Spirit we are free of the law. Not everybody agrees with me, but that doesn't given them the right to judge my true and honest belief. Christians are individuals. Christ is supposed to have set us free from the rule of law. Aren't Amish and Catholics Christians? I don't think the question raised by lovinvixen is the same question raised by the OP>

Mostly_Angel

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 10/12/2008 3:11:27 PM
fc66-a small portion of my faith in the public education system is now restored. I do think it's sad that many make it to college without learning basic spelling and grammatical skills though...

Mostly_Angel

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Does anyone else feel like you get punished or treated badly based on what an ex did? Posted: 10/11/2008 4:41:17 PM
Honestly, I think posting no liars, cheaters, players, etc. in your profile is a GREAT way to attract these same people. It's like admitting that you don't trust your own ability to screen them out and take of yourself. Why on earth would a person trust people that display these behaviors not to contact them just because they said "no players" in their profile?

Mostly_Angel

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/10/2008 2:59:05 PM
I'm sure that's true, I just haven't met any of the women. Honestly, if I can't recognize you from the pics you've posted I'd just as soon not meet. I think it's really deceptive to post 10-20 year old pictures and not 'fess up to it. Especially if you include something in your profile about looking young for your age...not a good way to start off w/somebody. Of course, if you're just online to see how many emails you can snag I suppose it doesn't much matter whose picture you post on your profile or how old it is...

Mostly_Angel

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/10/2008 4:40:01 AM
The ones that say they look younger than their can post OLD pictures too!

Mostly_Angel

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Why is a great person like you single? Posted: 10/8/2008 8:10:00 PM
You are soooo much nicer than I am...

Mostly_Angel

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How has the economic downturn affected you, if at all? Posted: 10/8/2008 6:38:23 PM
I think I'm going to buy stock in companies that make, distribute and sell antidepressants and alcohol lol

Mostly_Angel

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Why is a great person like you single? Posted: 10/8/2008 3:28:31 PM
Here's what I wanna say: Cuz I'm luvin it! Why's a loser like you married? Fair enough question, isn't it lol

Mostly_Angel

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Not attracted Posted: 10/7/2008 8:22:21 PM
Let's make nice and not fight. I'm Mensa-qualified and I prefer men with the same high intelligence. It's something I want to share with my partner. In the same way, people that are physically fit usually prefer to date someone as fit as themselves. I'm overweight and I spend a lot of time at the gym to get healthy and lose the excess because that's my choice. I can't say that any of the really fit people at any of the gyms I've been too have ever tried to make me feel inferior. Actually, once they realized that I was going to stick around and work on my health, many of them were really helpful with tips and encouragement. Some of the "wannabe" fit folks could get their noses in the air a bit, but that is their issue not mine.

Mostly_Angel

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/5/2008 11:39:16 AM
Are you curious why they have not posted a pic?

Mostly_Angel

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/5/2008 8:26:07 AM
I would be concerned about the theft of my wonderful identity if I gave out my DL because they can find so much information with it. You can search criminal history in Iowa by name and I always do so. I'm also aware that people can give out false names, or DLs for that matter. I don't dispute that it's a good idea to get one. I really was just inquiring to see how this was working for people and perhaps change the way that I approach things. I've had pretty good success with the criteria/rules I have established, but always open to new ways to protect myself.

Mostly_Angel

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/5/2008 7:15:40 AM
I can see that having their DL number would be a great idea, but I'd be leery of giving mine out. Curious what responses people have had to that request?

Mostly_Angel

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What should every guy know about you and why? Posted: 10/4/2008 5:06:08 PM
Every guy should know that just because I am chasing one perfectly good dream as hard as I can when you meet me doesn't mean I won't be chasing another (better!) dream sometime down the road. I 'm so goal driven that some men get confused when I go after something new. My girlfriends seem to get it-it's not about the destination it's about the journey and about always giving your best as you travel down this road.

Mostly_Angel

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Fat friends Posted: 10/4/2008 8:12:55 AM
I agree with a lot of what you said-but sugar is not a food group. White flour is not a food group. Personally, I find it very difficult to eat sugary, refined carbs in small amounts-so I very rarely eat this type of food. I do eat: meat, whole wheat bread, fruits, veggies, cheese and other dairy. I don't feel this is unhealthy and it's easier for me to follow than WW was. I even found that the smell of some of the unhealthy foods that would tempt me when I was trying to eat them in moderation leaves me feeling slightly nauseous.

Mostly_Angel

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 10/4/2008 8:05:40 AM
You mean posting no players or liars on my profile is not enough to protect me!!???! I'm shocked. Well, maybe not so much.

Mostly_Angel

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Opinions please Posted: 10/4/2008 8:00:14 AM
Thanks mcguffin. I'm working on my fitness and weight now, so I'll plan on posting some AWESOME pics when that's done. I guess the whole hold the camera at arm's length and shoot thing just ain't gonna do it.

Mostly_Angel

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Fat friends Posted: 9/30/2008 9:14:40 PM
Did you talk to the doc that prescribed the medicine? Maybe he can change your medication. Otherwise, just follow good nutrition and exercise habits as well as your health will allow.

Mostly_Angel

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How has the economic downturn affected you, if at all? Posted: 9/29/2008 3:30:25 PM
It's starting to affect my outlook on life. I'm naturally optimistic, almost a Pollyanna, really. Even I can't seem to maintain that outlook when I lose more in my retirement account in a day then I earn in a month. And I'm not by any means set for retirement. Hope the economy comes back...

Mostly_Angel

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Opinions please Posted: 9/28/2008 7:53:49 PM
Thanks for clarifying that. Sometimes the multiple choice questions are the hardest part of the profile

Mostly_Angel

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If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 9/28/2008 5:17:27 PM
Actually, if someone claims to have a graduate level education, is native to the US, but can't seem to spell or put a sentence together using correct grammar, I assume they've posted a bogus profile.

Mostly_Angel

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Msg: 918 (view)

If someone emails you with misspelled words and bad grammar, do you respond? Posted: 9/28/2008 1:05:58 PM
I will respond, but unless I see something in their profile that really intrigues me I will let them know that I don't feel we have much in common. I place a high value on education and I'm looking for someone that feels the same way.

Mostly_Angel

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Fat friends Posted: 9/28/2008 10:21:14 AM
I never thought about tracking protein, seems like I track everything else lol I think I'm OK though, I eat some meat and quite a bit of fish. I make a point to have a protein shake about 1/2 hour after I get home when I do my heavy weights/low rep workouts. For me, I really need to concentrate on building a strong, lean body and feeding it correctly. The numbers on the scale just don't motivate me anymore. Pretty cool when you start feeling the muscle, isn't it?

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